I believe I've heard that John Lennon was an INFP Now I'm remembering this quote of his.... "When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down 'happy'. They told me I didn't understand the assignment, and I told them they didn't understand life."
damn i’ve never even heard that quote before (i’m an INFP)...& that’s literally my answer when people ask me that question. i just say i wanna be happy.
@@JD-kj2ck Maybe they assumed it meant you "weren't" happy...rather than "happiness is your priority". People see and hear through their own "lenses"...which often means we may be speaking to each other, but the true meaning gets distorted before it ever lands. For me, it meant (and still means) my priority has more to do with the "quality" of how I'm living my life than it has to do with the "substance and/or contents" of it.
Imagine is apparently based on the stuff in Yoko's book Grapefruit. People say online she is INFP. Two INFPs together? Hmm. Not sure about that. Also not sure if the people typing John Lennon were aware that Imagine was based on Yoko's work. In year 8 one of our written get-to-know-you questions was "What is your most treasured possession?" or something like that. And I wrote "Happiness". I don't have absolute favourite things. I can't figure out if that is an INFP or INFJ response and it wasn't about careers either. I relate a lot to descriptions of both types but relate to the separate INFJ functions far more.
hell yeah.....im an INFJ, and ive been with my INFP wife for 18 years, and still seething with passion and desire for her. No other woman can even come close. ❤❤❤❤😍😍😍😍
I'm an INFJ and appreciate your passion and energy. I admire you for speaking from your truth. Our domination culture has a lot invested in infantilization of the masses, leading us to believe we are incapable of hearing truth. Yes, it's a lot to absorb, but I see your willingness to tell us the hard stuff as a rare kind of love. You've helped me a lot to understand where and how I get stuck and given me the encouragement I need to start doing some things differently. Thank you!
My very best friend is an INFP. He is so kind, thoughtful, and brilliant. He makes me feel so comfortable and we always talk for hours about any and everything. Our friendship spans from the 9th grade to the present. I am now 28 years old. I am so fortunate to have him as a companion. I help him to realize and open up about his feelings and he is so nonjudgmental when I need to express myself. We are also both quirky and appreciate each other's weirdness. Great friends those INFPs. 🙂 (INFJ)
I'm confused. I thought Joseph said that INFPs are always judging other people. But your INFP friend is non-judgmental. Which is it? Because I'm supposedly an INFP and I honestly don't see myself as judgemental.
TheBittenBullet I’m an INFP. I’d say it depends. Would you judge someone if you knew they had hurt someone? Domestic abuse? Beating their children? Bullying and harassing others without remorse? Then yes, I would judge. I would also have some sort of understanding, because it’s never fun to be so angry, it hurts. Nonetheless, that sort of violence is horrible and I feel for the victims more than I do for the perpetrators. For others, who go through hardships, who are hurting, who are frustrated or angry, but are also able to have a capacity to understand they may be causing others hurt, then yes, they receive all the love and compassion I can give. For people I’m close to, it’s the same. I think it’s about the persons ability to feel remorse more than anything. It shows their human side and it’s hard not to give them your love.
The Bitten Bullet I’ve been listening for a while now and by that, I mean I’ve re-listened to many of the lectures too. Chase appears to me to be talking mostly using a framework and fills in with his understanding as he goes along, (I think he bullet points). As a result, the information that brings a particular type together for a listener is spread across different lectures. I’d say it’s a part of the charm. So, if you listen to the ‘Who are the INFP’ lecture he says that INFPs are ALWAYS judging everyone but that they will never admit it, or if they do it’s pretty unusual. I would, from my experience of having the honour of watching one very carefully over a number of years, would say that this is true - they will probably never admit that they do this, and possibly not even to themselves, (coz perhaps it’s immoral to always be judging everyone, right?) But just because they are judging you internally, and possibly at an even deeper level than that of their own conscious thoughts, doesn’t mean that they come across as continually judging you. As, (again in my experience and as far as I can tell), they tend to rationalise things that could could be issues because they trust you and you will not be judged harshly, ergo, will appear not to have been judged at all - and this decision occurs reflex fast - without even a flinch. However, if they stop trusting you, even temporarily - ha, ha... well, just try it and see what happens! At least, as I said before, this is how it appears to me.
@@michellewei9139 I'm enfp and didn't get my license until 21 and didn't move out of house with family until 24 I have been told I seem introverted sometimes but enfp are kind of both introverted and extraverted I guess
I’m an INFJ with an INFP best friend.I thought your INFJ and INFP was fantastic!! Yes there was negative thing about the two types but NO ONE IS PERFECT!! No one type is better than the other and no one type is without flaws. Deal. With. It.
"Did you know the INFJ is more P than J?" "Did you know the INFJ is actually more T than F?" THIS right here, is why I mistyped as an INTP on the 16personalities test. I always felt that something wasn't sitting right, but spending time in the INTP forums across the internet and INTPs in real life made me realize I was NOT one of them. For a while I thought I was an ENTP because I knew my Fe was not inferior, but the rest of the personality didn't sit with me well. The entire time felt like I was constantly trying to convince myself I was using Ne and Ti in conjunction. Then I started spending time around an INTJ, and realized very quickly how lead Ni and Ne differ. Yeah, I use Ni, and after reading and listening more about how the functions truly work in their respective positions in the stack.. I finally get it. Even better, now that I have made the base understanding in myself, it's MUCH easier to understand other types. How the hell could I use invalid type knowledge that I misused on myself to type others? Trying that is absolutely ridiculous.
This is why I have to be patient with INFJs and INFPs more than any other type. Just read the comments on the Who are the infjs or who are the infps. All the hate... all those mistypes :(
For the same reason I spent many years thinking I am an INTJ (with just this weird emotionality, interest in metaphysics and secret fantasies of becoming a therapist). Then I came upon the Kearsey's temperaments book and realised I am an Idealist!
"INFJs assume their partner to be cheating on them all the time" Me: **flashbacks to a wonderful relationship that I broke bcuz I assume my partner liking someone else just bcuz they talked to that other person more than me that one time in a party** Me: shit.
Boy, you really did have a passionate, deeply impacting relationship with that INFJ. The concern about our insecurity, our vulnerability to corruption and alienation through hypocrisy is so palpably personal. It comes through subtly, yet surely in evvvvery conversation you have about INFJ's. You're lucky to have had an INFJ who imprinted on your conscience forever. It seeps through in almost all the videos I've seen of you. I truly appreciate your unfiltered, genuine feedback for us folks. Sending you good vibes and a huuuuge INFJ hug! :)
I'm not done with the video yet, but I already love this. As an INFJ, I've seen how hanging around certain people greatly affects my own thoughts and behavior. I've experienced this "corruption" many many times. I currently have an INFP friend, and I feel like they genuinely do ground my principles. It's hard to explain. Even without them saying anything, it's clear that they're a very good person with relatively stable moral standards. Being around this somehow brings out the best in me as a friend and as a person in general. This relationship of an INFJ being the reality check and the INFP being the moral backbone is so accurate.
I'm INFP. It's true. I can remember many feeings and thoughts from my two years old. When I look at the old pictures I can even describe what I think and feel at that moment.
Definitely see this dynamic between me (INFJ) and my best friend (INFP) especially in this particular moment of my life. The advice mitigating on INFJ “corruption” was especially helpful. I usually mirror anyone I’m talking so they don’t hate me, think I’m lame, bully me, etc but my INFP friend is always there to remind that “Hey, this is who you are. Why are you copying these bad influences when you’re nothing like them”. Great video!
hai, i feel that when you talk about INFP being lazy, or staying in their comfort zone too long, this is essential loading time for the INFP. besides very difficult to get them out of it, often not advised, when an INFP comes out by themselves, they reach ultimate flowstate! but true, sometimes we can dwell for too long.. sorry..
46:49 I'm crying. I'm an INFP who is constantly dropping things / knocking over drinks / running into things etc. It's such a thing that every day when I drop something in front of my boyfriend he says "there's your daily drop". Often I have more than one daily drop . :(
For the first 6 months I was convinced I was an INFP after testing INFP several times and, even after looking into MBTI and the cognitive functions a fair bit. But I think it was after one of your previous videos were I realised I was utterly wrong and I have no idea how I could have thought I was an INFP because now I can see I am an INFJ. So thank you for allowing me to realise! I think it may be because the INFJ is not a natural planner or organiser all the time so those INFJ's that value flexibility and dont plan their shit are probably testing as an INFP which I believe is a weakness of the MBTI test.
i like to organise things but not rlly doing it lol i just follow my heart after that... but depends.. if its important and i rlly want to achieve it... i'll be srs, if not... yea... . . . ehe
I experienced the same thing! I thought I was an INFP for ages until I realized I'm actually a socionics INFP LOL. I'm not good with organizing my surroundings, but when my surroundings are organized, my mind becomes clearer. I guess that's since my first extroverted function is a judging function?
You're so right about the INFP and their ahem laziness. If I don't FEEL like going to school I'll skip school. It caused so much problems to the point where I had to transfer schools so I could graduate. I had to learn that having feelings are nice but they can't affect my work ethic. So I've been seeing counseling to help with more discipline. You criticizing the INFP did make me uncomfortable but as you said we need to be pushed out of our comfort zone. So I bucked up, tried to put my "I'm offended :0" feelings away, and listened to your words :)
Lol! Until you said it, I didn’t think of it that way, I hated going to school on Monday’s so I’d play sick and after a bit, I bluntly admitted to my mom that I lied and was just skipping school and we would have a battle of wills to see who would give in🤣
You are so damn blunt af, I didn’t like it for the first half cause you seemed like a huge whiner lol, but this lecture was awesome. My mind was blowing up and you helped me understand me and why I am the way that I am on a deep level. I’m an INFJ to the core and it sucks when you say I’m always going to be so critical of myself, but I’m still going to keep working hard to build my confidence and do the things I need to do to be less in that mindset. Thank you! :) ...PS, I laughed SO hard when you talked about the wispy voice LOL I swear I hate that about me and have become aware of why I do it and when I do it, and I am trying to stop! It’s so bad lol 😂
I have an INFP adult student and he never gets offended when I have to rell him off. He always comes up with an anecdotal example of what I just said. However, he does not like to be uncomfortable so I have to be extra careful when the technique gets difficult. We also joke about his never ending string of excuses. And like you said he is the most loyal student I have ever had. Also he is HUGE at reading and taking in the arts, history etc. A walking encyclopedia. His vocation is in creating plans as a contractor for Boeing.
Omg, daily basis I get consistently told how obnoxiously loud I am, but truthfully I just don't register the decibels of my own voice. It's just excitement usually gets to be in charge of my throat before I can acknowledge that I even own a throat under my control
INFP here with INFJ best friend. I can personally attest that this friendship is everything. So copacetic! It's such a good balance of personality. I advise her, she advises me. We share our visions of a better world and we come to conclusions in such a way that we've termed it mindgasms. We're actually working on a book that'll hopefully be able to spark a change in social structures! :)
lol....so much of what you say in this video is just confirming my INFP "status".....I'm crackin up about the idea that INFPs don't exist to make other people comfortable. That is so true....It's almost a "motto" of mine...and I've said this to my sister more than once....that I don't "entertain"....I may invite people over, but I don't feel responsible for entertaining them....I expect it to be an enjoyable experience just to hang out....and if anyone needs anything, they're free to make themselves comfortable.
Holy shit. I never invite people over because I get so anxious about my private space, how they are feeling. I can deal with one guest, but in easter I had 2 guests over for a couple of days, and I got very pressed with the lack of structure they put out, if they were feeling bad that I needed my private space, ect. I always tend to compromise whenever I have mulitiple guests over. Very stressful. I might be an infj.... Or what?
@@Cinderella-mc8kf Have you never entertained guests in your house? I would assume they mean, offering them a drink, or some food that THEY would like, or asking what music THEY would like to listen to, or a TV show or movie that THEY would want to watch, or just making sure they are having a good time and an enjoyable time in your presence. Also, trying to lighten the mood up in conversation so THEY are feeling comfortable and enjoying their visit, or talking about topics that THEY are interested in. Is the temperature of the house at a comfortable level? Maybe they want to check out a new computer game so I'll give them reign of my PC (even though I hate people using my computer) to be able to experience it. I aim to please. As an INFJ myself, these are the things which go through my mind when I would have people around at my place, those examples above are what I think they mean when they talk about "entertain".
@@L3onOfKings i wasn't like that as a child i actually didn't invite people over and when i did I'd be very anxious and uncomfortable and sometimes unintentionally rude, my mother is very private and doesn't like to invite people over and she's also very intimidating and our relationship was abusive and toxic as a kid ,so that's why i didn't really entertain anyone as a kid, i thought about what would happen if i do anything to the point where i was numb and just taking orders from her, now i care so much about people's comfort more than mine sometimes, i don't know what would that make me considering that i didn't behave like myself most of my life.
You have easily become my favourite person. I hope one day you achieve this goal of raising this self awareness and awareness of others of sorts around the world. Or rather, I know you will.
I Love your sarcasm and bluntness because underneath all of it is compassion for the human race as a whole. Some might be offended by your presentation but I am inspired by the nature of your truth! This was very helpful.
I agree with absolutely everything... except for INFPs not having style. My style is my favorite thing about myself and I get constant compliments regarding it haha
You value that so it is important for you. I'm an INFP too, when we value something, it becomes our identity, but then if we don't we just really don't care that much. Byproduct of Fi i guess.
@@talkingtoawall5123 not just INFP to be honest, anyone with Fi or Ti high in the stack would kinda be the same, when we find a thing or activity that we as an individual love, we'll go full throttle to become better at it. On the other hand, we can be so indifference to thing that we don't care about. That's why it's also important to think what each of us value, is it detrimental to our growth as a person, or is it helpful? And then update our value once in a while.
Is it common for an INFJ to have great fashion sense but "dress down" in a weird false humility- like "Oh, the expensive clothes are so superfluous. I can't bring myself to spend money on myself-- But I SO WANT TO!" Or depending on the people around, sometimes I feel like wearing the things I like make them feel inferior. So I am always scoping out the crowd before I go somewhere to avoid that...
I went to my 20th high school reunion, and while all my friends were remembering everyone and every detail of school life 20 years in the past, I knew nobody, remembered nobody and knew nothing. I felt so lonely that day, sitting in stark contrast to them. I knew nobody would even begin to understand..... Thanks for explaining this is the work of Si Demon....
Great video, I like the fact that you don't hold back on the negative sides of each type unlike other videos iv'e seen on YT or websites that paint this overly positive picture of each type just to make people feel good about themselves but actually don't offer anything constructive or even to an extent truthful. You got yourself a new sub! :)
For myself: 12:29-13:04 Infps are more of a decision making function (recommend) 13:19-17:29 Perceiving functions of infj Deep dive Both types are philosophical, affilative, 17:30-19:40 Infp the background types 19:43- Se inferior 20:10- 22:19 Movement vs control,self values, interpretation 27:40 Fates and futres 32:18- Why infjs doorslam (recommend) 35:22 -36:20 Infj ego and infp ex (recommend) 36:50-37:59 Recommend for me) 49:20-50:13 Nemises depraved, depravity idk 52:12-56:00 Verify ti 56:00-57:33- (recommend)
I'm an INFJ, and a HUGE fan of your lectures! Your ability to accurately, and without sugarcoating, pinpoint the traits and common actions of different types...it continues to blow my mind! Anyone who can't come to the point of being able to recognize and admit their weaknesses, are either delusional or [as you pointed out] mistyped. I am OBSESSED with your knowledge on people and why they are and why they do...keep it coming! - Looking forward to taking your personality assessment.
If an Enneagram 4 INFP becomes highly insecure and starts to devalue themself, they might compensate for this insecurity by acting like an Enneagram 2 person and become overly generous.
@@tlhogid663 If an Enneagram 4 person is being very generous, they might be in an unhealthy state of mind. If an Enneagram 4 person is in a healthy state of mind, they might become angry all of the sudden. This is very confusing to people.
@@japanesereadingandwriting 😄 I must be healthy cos lately all I do is avoid people so that I do not have to expose them to my utter annoyance at their past behaviour! I simply channel all my energy into my work. Seriously though - I was worried for a while that I am becoming a mean/cantankerous person. Now I know that I failed to set boundaries in the past so people thought they could walk all over me. I am simply curing myself of the disease to please.
SO you commented that some INFPs can be voluminous with their speech and some will be more silent until there’s something that affects them, or I’d add they feel passionately about something. This is great because it describes one of the differences between me and my son. We are both INFPs. My son can be so voluminous in his speech, even when he was young he loved using big words. In college, he took speech as a minor (art was his major) and of course he loves to wax philosophical and when he’s passionate, he talk circles around anyone, sometimes just baffleing them with BS! LOL. Me on the other hand, am the more quite reflective one, at least until I get passionate about something or I’m standing up for my values. One on one and in small groups I can get excited and gregarious about something, but the bigger the group, the quieter I get. My son, has become the go to person at work to give speeches and he can ad lib like nobody’s business. If he wasn’t such an awesome artist, he would have loved to pursue acting. Or even psychology or philosophy. I love studying psychology and theology.
Delivery IS important. This is a fundemental lesson all human beings need to learn. Especially teachers. A good teacher is always learning. And learning how to speak to be heard by anyone is the hallmark of a good teacher and a mature person. So stop berating and belittling people who are serving as powerful tools for YOU to learn.
As an INFP who often goes into her ENFJ shadow, which I consider my “host mode,” I now know why I am so bad at making people feel comfortable. But I try so hard!
Yep infp here. Definitely agree with ti demon. I have exploded in friends faces (after which we stopped talking) with a long long list of why I'm sick of them.
I am such an infj. My uncle tried teaching me how to drive however I got major performance anxiety as a teenager so I couldn't learn because I had drove the car into a ditch while he was teaching me. I watched others drive for approximately 1 year and when I knew for sure I could drive, I bought my car and off I went. Yes the best way I learn is through observation, hands-on... and I prefer teaching myself things. I got bored in class frequently because I just wanted the syllabus given to me while I went about my way to learn.....learning is joyful to me especially when I figure out the why behind it
38:48 - 2018 has become my year of fighting that exact cycle and it’s all because of important lectures like these. Your videos, especially as related to the INFP, are continually providing me with the resources I need to better myself. I hope sooo much that other hypersensitive INFPs fight through the knee-jerk reaction to your criticism and come to understand the importance of taking off our “rose-colored glasses” before so much time has passed with little to nothing accomplished. I’m turning the tides in my life now and nothing feels better than knowing you’re capable of REAL change without the constant need of validation/discipline from those around you. Thank you C.S. Joseph!
I'm an INFJ and my sister is an INFP. Literally everything in this video is so spot on, save for just one thing. My sister is absolutely not the one who has to step in and warn me about consequences, its the complete reverse. She will have these ADHD hyper fits and let her emotions completely take her over without thinking of consequences whatsoever (for example she'll get her feelings hurt and try to run away from home or something), and I'm the sister who usually has to step in and tell her she's being illogical, and try to make her think of the consequences. On another note, INFJs being more T than F is a good point, used to think I was ENTP and INTJ for years, and got typed INTP by sooo many people online. I often feel like my Ti child hurts me in a lot of ways though and I often wish I were a Te/Fi user. I get EXTREMELY insecure and hype fixate on my appearance on a regular basis (Se inferior), and when people try to comfort me about my insecurities (by sugar coating, giving me online statistics, giving me solutions or products that I know won't work), I just instantly cut straight thru all their bullshit despite how little I want to. I feel like living a lie can be helpful sometimes, but I just can't do that as a Ti child, Te trickster, my bullshit alarm would just go on hyperalert and throw the rose colored glasses right off.
(INFP here, as proven once again by your test 😉) I disagree with the slow driving point, at least in my case; what I despise the most is 'Sunday drivers' kind of approach. I love sporty driving, being in the flow of it, going confidently, treating speed limits 'more like guidelines'. But at the same time being smart and responsible about it, leaving a margin for error, thinking ahead and always staying alert. Also being polite towards everybody on and off the road.
INFP: Yeah my fashion sense is definitely learned (although i don't like copying look for look i like to switch shit up and base it on what I like personally). I feel like with television, film, social media it's pretty easy for me to gain a certain mastery over trends and making nice outfits. Although, in elementary school I mostly just wanted to wear t-shirts and jeans/shorts, much to the chagrin of my ISFJ mother (obsessed w appearances). Ik in high school I was widely considered to be pretty fashionable. But, then I got to college and stopped caring about what others thought about how I looked (especially when it got cold bc sweatpants are the most comfortable in the winter) and now I'm kind of a mixture of my childhood self and my adolescent self when it comes to fashion.
I totally enjoyed this lecture. It gave me a clearer understanding of who I am, and you confirmed who I am... an INFJ. Thank you for the reality check on insecurity. When I got married, I was super insecure, I am less insecure now. Anyway, I would accuse my wife of cheating on me, which was not a good thing, so I am learning to trust her. On another note, you are the first person who referred to Jesus as an INFJ. I have been to many sights and they asked the question, What famous persons do you know as an INFJs ?, I always reply, ''Jesus'', no comment would be sent on it. Yes! Jesus is the greatest INFJ the world had ever seen and I love Him.
I swear I relate so well to most of the things you’ve said about both of these types. I’m so helplessly confused. I have stupid hands and run into doors all the time - but I’m always almost telepathically getting things for others before they even know they want it. I talk in the low, quiet voice; but I’m also lazy as hell. I’m surrounded by shitty family, but I know I’m active and organized when I’m healthy. Lost
Brandon Fisher I related so much to your comment, and while it took a long time to type myself (possibly nurture influence), I typed myself Infp, after believing for years I was Infj. Based on your comment, you seem more Infp, but I suggest using the type grid over using my observation, I’m no expert. The thing that helped the most was being brutally honest about myself and really listening to feedback from others, no matter how hard it is to hear it. Hope that helps!
Ren WannaBe The main question I asked was: Am I really what I think I am? What do I hear other people say about me, even when it’s hard for me to admit to myself? I started to pay attention to what people were really saying, when they weren’t trying to make me feel good. Weirdly, criticism was more helpful in pinning down my type, even though it is not something I’ve historically taken very well, as I try so hard with people. People kept complaining about me keeping to myself, being a “stranger” and not initiating enough with them. They were looking for me to be someone I wasn’t. I initiate, because it’s what they ask of me, but it takes me outside my comfort zone. I also spent a lot of time trying to make other people comfortable; I have no poker face and it made people uncomfortable, so I plastered on a stupid smile, because it’s what people kept telling me to do. I rarely do anything I want, mostly I do what I feel obliged to do. I’m a terrible people pleaser, meaning I almost always ask permission. I am accused of being too sensitive, and I definitely can be. I am always getting myself into scrapes, bruises and spills, no matter how careful I am. I’ve been stupid zoned for not paying attention to the most basic actions. I struggle with being comfortable vs. dressing well. People always seem to think I need help or ask me if I’m lost. From those observations, I determined I was responding and affiliative with higher Si and lower Se. All my life, people have complained about how slow I am and how long it takes me to do anything, so I knew I couldn’t be movement, I had to be control. For a while I was stuck between Isfj and Infp, since all feedback pointed to those 2 types. I admit, it took a while to narrow it down to Infp. It all came down to noticing other people’s reactions during conversations. When I am at ease, I will introduce abstraction into conversations, but if I know it will baffle people, I make an effort to remain concrete. I don’t think I would have to do that if I were Isfj, therefore I concluded I was Infp. For me, a lot of it had to do with what took extra effort vs. what took no effort. I hope this helps, my answers are not always as direct as many would like.
"Our brains are literally computers" As a CS student, I highly appreciate this. Offtopic, but computers are, in essence, modeled after the human brain.
I started watching all his videos on 1,5 or even 2x speed, it works, actually when i have just a part on normal, i am thinking howw can anyone speak so slow, but to be fair i speak super slow as well. It is the informative curse hihii
Very insightful lecture. You are clearly well versed in MBTI. After watching this I have no doubt I am an INFJ. Also, your point regarding storing memories in people and objects is so true! I am guilty of door slamming due to painful memories, though I never realized that was my reasoning. I also store lots of memories in photographs and writing because I am very forgetful. I'd just like to add, my mom is an ENTP and it is a great type for an INFJ to have as a parent. She gives me the confidence and reality checks that I desperately need.
Haha. 76 comments in one day. INFP/Js are probably the most you tubers out there. Thanks for mentioning quantum physics. Much appreciated. As an INFP I wish I could find an INFJ friend. I do need reality checks and can be lazy.
Thanks for another excellent lecture! I found it very informative and I know my INFP friend I recommended it to did as well. I always find it interesting when you talk about how INFJs are the most prone to having weird, rare health issues and then surviving and recovering as well as humanly possible due to willpower. I had exactly that experience when I had a heart attack due to badly blocked arteries at 36 with perfect cholesterol, blood pressure, and other typical warning signs. I was overweight, but the kind of overweight that would give you a heart attack in your mid-60s rather than mid-30s. Anyways, after having a heart attack for over 10 hours before surgery because my symptoms presented as back pain rather than chest pain, I was told that the odds of me having survived that long without treatment were like 1 in 100. While there was permanent damage as there always is with that sort of thing, I bounced back almost immediately and now three years later am in excellent health and able to work out heavily at the gym 5 days a week or more. The stuff you said about the Fi critic and forcing morals on others really hit home for me too as I know that is the worst aspect of my personality both for myself and in dealing with others sometimes. Also, on the Te Trickster/math thing, I remember when I took the SATs many years ago, I was recovering from mono and I forgot to take my calculator with me. I still managed to pull down a 770/800 on the math portion doing it mostly in my head so I definitely appreciated your views there. I hadn't realized that was a common INFJ thing.
One of the very misleading questions at those tests is: do you prefer truth or someone else’s feelings, as INFJ you’d answer truth (hello Ti child) but no, you supposed to reply: feelings, because you have Fe parent, otherwise you’re not lNFJ 🤢🤮
Your videos help me dive into characters for auditions SO much easier! It’s so nice to have a broader understanding of the cognitive functions by watching your channel.
I am a Clinical Psychologist with 30 years of experience dealing with people. I was branded a INFJ quite sometime ago. I never really accepted that evaluation because placing 'labels' on people puts them into a box. It limits their potentiality and personal growth. At worse, it can destroy a individual's self determination and freedom. However, the Myers Briggs Personally Test is interesting but somewhat incomplete. I have never encountered a 'classical' INFJ before. Why? Because certain characteristics of this personality type have many subgroups some of which overlap other MBTI personality types. That being said I will describe the characteristics of how a 'orthodox' INFJ thinks, behaves and responds in strict accordance with the MBTI Personalty Test. Be forewarned, I find some INFJ 'stereotypes' rather funny. And will approach such in a humorous fashion. INFJ's posess a wonderfully sense irony and will immediately recognize the silly 'stereotypes' others have attrubuted to them.....So let's start breaking some myths about the INFJ Personalty Type When a INFJ gives you the dreaded 'Death Stair' they are not attempting to understand you. They are wondering if you're carrying a gun. Killing INFJ's is a pleasurable experience. Why? Because everyone hates a smart ass. INFJ's frequently experience 'Sensory Overload' issues. They love Forests, Parks and Woodland areas to recharge their batteries. Why? Because trees don't talk! A squirrel cannot complain it has 'Daddy Issues'. Pine trees do not suffer from 'gender identity' problems. And I have never seen a bunny rabbit strung out Crack Cocaine. Solitude is bliss. Never say to a INFJ, 'I do not understand', They will run away screaming or jump infront of a bus. No one understands them. INFJ's sometimes don't even understand themselves. INFJ's feel uncomfortable being around large groups of people. However, once you get them talking, they never shut up. Why do a INFJ 'Door Slam' people? Because it's called a Coping Mechanism. They dislike being emotionally hurt. There is nothing strange about this behavior. Some people become alcoholics others pill poppers. INFJ's will just run away and pretend you never existed. INFJ's have the psychic ability to absorb people's emotions. No. This is phenomen is called 'Transference'. If you continuously talk about your problems, a INFJ will unconsciously adopt some aspects of your emotional state. However, INFJ's posess strong identities which prevents them from going completely insane. INFJ's are the most honest, compassionate and sensative people on Earth. Not really. Mother Nature just screwed them up genetically. They're brains are hard wired to respond during crisis situations. A 'diehard' INFJ will instinctively sacrifice their life attempting to save yours. No questions asked. Why? I have no freaking idea. I didn't invent the rules. Ask God. I'm sure She knows. INFJ's think differently than others. Yes. They think outside the box. They live outside the box. They have never actually seen the box. What does it look like? Does it contain groceries? INFJ types are occasionally arrogant, cold towards others and aloof. This is actually true. Being omnipotent has its drawbacks. INFJ's have a difficult time sugar-coating the truth. Being overtly honest is their trademark. If they sense someone cannot handle the truth, they will lie to protect that person's emotions. INFJ's are stubborn yet will openly admit to errors in judgment or making mistakes. INFJ's think too deeply. They want to solve everyone's problems. They get frustrated when people ask for advice - then completely ignore their recommendations! They do not understand why everyone keeps making the same mistakes over and over again. Eventually, a INFJ will simply give up. The phrase 'People need to learn things the hard way' was invented by a INFJ. So was the 'unfriend' button on Facebook. INFJ's do not respect authority because they have developed their own Moral, Ethical, Spiritual and Cognative belief systems. Mature (older) INFJ's care very little about how people perceive them and less about the impressions they make upon others. INFJ's enjoy approval and acceptance (like everyone else) but infrequently compromise their princepals to simply fit in. Do not mistake a INFJ's confidence as egocentrismn. There is a difference. INFJ's are frequently interpreted as posessing a Narcissist Personalty Disorder. This stereotype is absolutely false. A Narcissist loves adoration and attention. The typical INFJ cares more about others than themselves, sometime to their own detriment. INFJ's dislike themselves. They feel alone within the world and misunderstood. Being a INFJ a curse. Consequently, a small minority INFJ's often experience psychological Depression, Alienation Issues and Avoident Behavior problems. The phrase 'You are your own worst enemy' accurately describes a INFJ's perception of themselves. The most admirable personality traits of the INFJ are (1) INFJ's are compassionate which makes them a easy targets for emotional exploitation and abuse. Never play 'Guilt Games' with a INFJ. They already persecute themselves (subconsciously) for being different. (2) They don't have the ability to forgive themselves for past mistakes, A INFJ's unforgiving 'Guilt Complex' is an integral part of their personality. INFJ's have occasionally been known to slowly kill themselves over time, believing they deserve such suffering. 'Hell on Earth' is their punishment and they willing accept it....sometimes. Not always. (3) Once you secure the trust of a INFJ, everything about them suddenly becomes clear. The stereotypes vanish. These are people you want within your life. They have incredible insight into human nature and will identify your weaknesses and lift you up from darkness. Seeing the world through a INFJ eyes is the greatest gift they can offer. It would be impossible to understand a MBTI typology without stating the negative traits of a specific personality group. The 'Dark Side' of a INFJ is rather frightening. Never test their 'Authenticity' or personal dignity. Do not play games with a INFJ. They have limitations like everyone else. A INFJ can determine your intentions or plans within minutes. Literally. This Hyperobservient behavior is quite unique. Avoid getting into heated arguments with a INFJ unless you are prepared to be intellectually, emotionally or psychologically castrated. They have cognitive resources almost beyond understanding. A vindictive INFJ will never stop until they destroy your life (this has nothing to do with physical murder). Such behavior is almost Psychopathic in nature (hence the concern INFJ's may be catorgized as possessing a Psychological Disorder rather than a Personality Dysfunction). Fortunately, INFJ's are not prone to violent behavior. They give up easily, This is where the 'Door Slam' or simply walking away from an argument comes from. Once they reveal their true inner nature, you will begin to understand why only 1% of the world's population are INFJ's. They are so dam charming. INFJ's dislike small talk, idle conversations, superficial people and hypocrites. Life is too short talking to such individuals (but they understand its occasionally necessary to be socially accepted) INFJ's are not spontaneous. They just pretend to be spontaneous. Their minds are always attempting to 'connect the dots....even when there are no dots! When the Zombie Apocalypse occurs, a INFJ will be eaten screaming, "I told you so... I told you so!" Imagine your on the Titanic. It's 1912. You see a Iceberg coming. Your jumping around and telling everyone the ship is about to sink. People just laugh and finish their Champagne. Welcome to the wonderful world of a INFJ. Avoid getting into deep conversations with a INFJ. They are walking encyclopedias. They will jump from topic to topic then back again to support a idea or theory. Male INFJ's are 'scattered brained' in the worst way possible. But there is method to such madness. The are searching for the correct answer to a specific problem. And 95% of the time they will discover it... or have a complete nervous breakdown trying. Occasionally, you will notice a INFJ acting mysteriously, doing unusual things or just behaving weird. Get used to this behavior. It has absolutely nothing to do with you. The INFJ is just going through a 'stage' or experimenting with something that interests them. Like building a Thermonuclear Bomb or discovering a cure for Herpes. Never tell a INFJ they have a 'Old Soul'. They are absolutely terrified of being reincarnated again. INFJ's are aware that neither Heaven or Hell wants them. Why? Because God doesn't need the extra competition on who should run Heaven (Him or a INFJ) and Satan can't deal with a INFJ pestering him for all eternity....that would be considered cruel and unusual punishment. Aliens will never abduct a INFJ. There are some things too bizarre even for Extraterrestrials. INFJ's have a difficult time forming a thought or idea into words. Yes. Someday a INFJ will develop Telekinesis and scare the hell out of everyone. Stop laughing, it's going to happen. So next time you accidentally encounter a INFJ, break all COVID 'Social Distancing' issues and hug them. INFJ's are a endangered species. Literally. Whatever purpose they were created for has already been accomplished. There represent only 1% of 7.7 billion people on planet Earth according to MBTI statistics. In my opinion, this Myers Briggs Personality represents the noblest aspects of humanity....Intelligent, Wise, Caring, Virtuous, Observent, Altruistic and Protective. Dispight their faults (which everyone has, no one is perfect) INFJ's are genuine. You get exactly what you see meeting these people. No convert agenda, deeply empathic intellectuals who sincerely care about you. They have a excellent sense of humor also (wink).
Beyond terrified of being reincarnated, knowing full well I'm unwanted by heaven or hell, or ET's, I'm fairly certain there's no reason to think a zombie would be interested either!
To say that this mini - thesis was funny , is an understatement ! I relate to many of these descriptions. It's interesting to hear an honest description of how my cognitive style is viewed by others. I have never been one to take myself too seriously....
I really admire how you really spit real-deal wisdom regarding INFJs and INFPs (especially INFJs imo), even when you previously mentioned some bad experiences you had with INFJs, sometimes even with really close ones... I feel as if you still believe in INFJs and the best they can bring out to the world regardless of the painful past... as an INFJ (or someone who thinks he's an INFJ haha), I really respect the tough love method you're adopting because I can tell your intentions come from a pure place in that regards. Thank you, really, for this video, it's so stacked with an incredible amount of knowledge!
I am an INFP who is still in the earlier stages of the pathway to finding herself, and frankly, I have never felt lonelier. The people that make me feel the most understood are the INFJ’s, i don’t ever feel the need to explain myself to them, they have a knack for just knowing. I appreciate them so much for it, because although I know that I cannot expect others to read my mind and that I am responsible for communicating effectively with others, it’s sometimes nice to seek refuge in NFJ types. A quote by my favourite INFJ author that I believe rings true to all that I feel from within: “I wanted only to try to live in accord with the promptings which came from my true self. Why was that so very difficult?” - Hermann Hesse. The emotions that I experience such difficulty to express, he articulated into a short, but surely, moving phrase. I feel a strong affinity with INFJ’s moreso than ENFJ’s. I gravitate naturally towards them, and they seem to walk differently from others or have a certain twinkle in their eyes that makes me wonder if they know something the rest of us don’t. They are so charming.
I see that your love for your infj son really shines through when you’re talking to us. Thanks dude- your videos are literally changing the course of my life. (recovering guilt tripped alienating perfectionist with a rare autoimmune disease) 😃
Same here actually. I think it has to do with Si being comfortable and the ability to channel in my dream world whilst driving. Driving fast to songs that make me feel something has become a form of escape for me.
I’ve been devouring as many of your videos as I can lately. It’s overstimulating and I love it. I’ve had this interesting phenomenon where I would meet people, have a conversation with them, and I would have a harder time remembering their face... But I would see that they are wearing an interesting object or article of clothing. Or maybe I would just see them on the street. I would see them again at the end of the day, or later in the night, and I would see the face but not too much would register. Then I would see the object, and I would immediately remember my interaction with the person and then remember who they were - simply because of their item. I’ve always wondered why I would remember objects more than people’s faces, and you have finally given me an answer. Thank you so much. You are amazing. I will continue to absorb your content.
I had a similar problem for many years as an INFJ who was mistyped as INFP. I'll share with you something that helped me know for *sure* I was an INFJ and not INFP. Sometimes it's the shadow functions and unconscious functions that reveal the truth. In your last argument/issue with someone, how did you feel? Did you feel that you were emotionally 'right' and frustrated that the other person couldn't see your point of view or did you feel more confused/panicked that you may have been wrong in your assessment and go to others for validation and advice? This exercise is especially useful if it was a matter of the heart/feelings. Which resonates more?
Can’t believe it took me 1 & 1/2 years to accept it but I’ve come to the conclusion and I’m an INFP and not an INFJ. Damn someone throw me a coming-of-age celebration for typology.
C.S. Joseph it’s really funny because I’ve watched this lecture twice now and the first time I was like “....wait there’s a possibility I might not be an INFJ”, had an existential crisis over the summer and re-watched this, deciding I am, indeed, an INFP :p
Wow. This helps so much. It answered so many questions that made me wonder if I’m really an infj. You confirmed that I really am without doubt. Thank you.
thank god for this. i was in your discord chat arguing about how only because you got a score on the tests doesn't mean that it is accurate since they determine your type based on the dichotomies. but you can't do it cause i'm an infj special snowflake! if u take that label away me from you will be punished!
I absolutely made the mistake of being too understanding and slowly found myself becoming a doormat and/or verbal punching bag. It was very hard for me to reach the point where I simply couldn’t take it anymore. When I did I began my own path to self-healing using your videos, others, articles, the latest studies, etc it was only then that I began to believe in myself again. And the long marriage I had stubbornly remained in, suddenly became far less scary than before. I can’t claim to be fully ’on the other side’ but for the first time in quite awhile I can finally breath. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with others. They have absolutely played a role in the getting me this far along. Please know how very grateful I am, even if it’s tough love. For some we need it. Only then I was able to get myself out of my comfort zone and set fire to my life.
Cool that you're making a free test. I see a few other youtubers offering consulting services for absurd amounts and it's like, yeah... I think I'll just study this on my own. People like Tesla are always more respectable than people like Edison. I understand the need for money, but it stinks how much knowledge has been essentially commoditized.
I’m pretty sure I’m an INFP but I absolutely love and know how to make people feel comfortable. Also complimenting people and just seeing how they light up... one of the best feelings ever lol. The guilt thing is also pretty recognisable for me and the small voice. I guess it’s just a model and it’s not as black and white in reality
I am in the same exact boat as you. I think it may have something to do with our ENFJ unconscious. I’m just spitballing here, but maybe we’re in our shadow when we feel those things. It is so confusing to me.
Hmm...I agree with everything you said except that INFPs cannot make other people comfortable. I was in a relationship with an INFJ for 7 years and from him I have learned how to do that for people. Kind of like how you said an INFP can learn fashion, I have learned how to make others comfortable. My two cents! Side note...with an INFJ now and he often says, "I just want to make sure you are comfortable." So it is funny when I ask him if he is comfortable. Because he looks at me like I am crazy to ask him that. To him he is like, "If you are happy then I am happy."
Thank you for commenting. I was a little scared at first! It is easy to be critical from behind a keyboard! It is my personal opinion, however, that you, perhaps by objectively listening to your tone of voice and word choices, would choose to soften your presentations some. They will be much more effectively received.
I agree the close-mindedness air is off putting! Doesn’t matter how great the message is if no one wants to listen! I had to just come to the comments to get a summary of the video!
As an INFJ... your other videos hurt. They hurt to the core. Thank you for your honest words. Even though they words were brutal, it was the most eye opening event I've ever experienced. No one has ever got me to reflect on myself the way you did. You're awesome. An asshole, but awesome
I've had a hard time figuring out who I am and have had ever since I remember. Now I might be starting to figure it out thanks to you and Jordan B Peterson. Thought I was an INTP, then an INFP and now an INFJ. It's the mirror you talked about that makes me confused, I believe. Now is my time to further improve myself and thus others. Thank you for the lecture, have a good day.
Thanks for the video, Chase! I'm an INFP, and my wife is an INFJ. Unfortunately she is absolutely confident that her personality type changes all the time, so she's unwilling to watch any videos or read any literature on the topics. She's 44 (as am I) and can't drive, calls herself a mirror, is pretty fashionable, has a terrible memory, and always thinks she's sick. I can't stand her, and have left her 3 times, but due to my lousy financial situations with lost jobs and what not, I've come back. Like a marriage of convenience. I'm planning my final escape, but in the meantime I'm trying to learn as much as I can about both of us so that I can make the next few months palatable.
In terms of the tests: I’m an INFJ, who originally tested as an ENTJ. I tested that way because I answered the questions with the ideal answers to me at the time rather than who I actually was.
"because you have some bunch of losers in your life that you're valuing for some reason which you probably shouldn't and you need to get those losers out of your life.." I DO highly appreciate this!
Sorry to comment before I watch the video, but: I got into Jung/MBTI stuff 5 years ago just before I met my now INFJ wife (I'm an INFP male) and the knowledge of our differing types has helped us better understand ourselves and our differing personal needs throughout the years. But I feel like the content you've made in the last couple of months has helped my relationship just as much as (if not, more than) all the years of studying Jungian types before. Keep up the amazing work and I can't wait to take a walk and listen to this.
This is so helpful thank you! When I saw that you typed Frank James as INFP that made me doubt if I'm INFJ. Nope I'm still INFJ, I always look after everyone at parties when they are feeling awkward. I love clothes and am amazing at putting myself together. And that feeling of being a bad person is accurate. I love your brutal accurate criticism. Not many people are capable of that. Respect ✌😌
INFJ here with ISTJ daughter. I would try to teach her ways to do math 'easily' in your head, come up with sales tax, quick adding, multiplication etc. My poor child would try so hard but would always want paper and pencil and she had to SEE it. I will say she is a wiz at math on paper and now I know why.
I am definitely guilty of the door slam, it’s my last resort. I also now understand why I feel pain when there’s any physical separation in any treasured relationship of mine - it’s as if the other person is now dead in my world if I don’t see or talk to them for a while. Thank you Chase
Love it! As an INFJ, so much resonated. Except for the whisper voice. ha And I totally agree with allowing people the space to think ‘in their heads’-I’m a teacher and see so much bullshit done at school that has nothing to do with real learning. Your son has an excellent advocate. :)
It’s not about INFP being technically more “J” than INFJ. Having Fi first means you are bringing structure to your inner world, while Ni is not. INFJ structures the outer world with Fe. While INFP outer thoughts are much more free flowing with Ne. The J and the P are about what judging functions are internal/external and if they show up first, before an external perceiving function. Hope that made sense. You are not wrong, the tests are not that accurate, but the J/P dichotomy is a little more nuanced than that. I see a lot of people who are more knowledgeable in MBTI being like, “oh, Ti FI first means INFP/INTP are actually judging” and it’s not that simple.
Yes but that changes the letters depending on if the person is initiating or responding on top of that. Are you sure you are not complicating it too much?
INFJ here got INFP result 3 times from MBTI test and I watched all the videos about INFP, Somehow I don't feel that related to INFP much until I started to type myself with your grid and like a magic happened. It turned out I'm an INFJ. Then I started to watch all of your videos about and INFJ and it's like finally I get to understand all of my behaviors and what you mentioned was soooooooo related to me in the past. Literally almost everything. Thank you so much Mr. Joseph. You dope!! 🥰
I am pretty sure that I am an INFP however I really related to distancing myself from people that are a bad influence. I have done that in the past several times. I felt guilty about it but also knew it was the right thing to do. This video made me doubt for a moment whether I am an INFP and not rather an INFJ but then I realise that I am more of an Fi user than an Fe user. EDIT: Got typed with the type grid as an INTJ.
I am at awe! I feel loved by you because you tell me the truth without mincing words. And as an INFJ I had a very difficult time in math because while taking an algebra exam, I knew the answer but could not show my work. The teacher thought I cheated because there was no way, he said, to get the correct answer without implying several formulas. My self esteem was destroyed and I never took another math class. I began to think I coincidentally guessed the correct answer. Thank you for setting me straight! I am now 52 and just learning about myself. And I believe God is blessing me with an INFP who is offering me what no one has ever been able to give me, and that is loyalty. But like you said, I cannot alienate those whose goals and aspirations are not to acquire wisdom and integrity just because they are mine. I need to lead by example without expectation or without the need to expect people to follow a certain particular way of arriving where we all need to be. As long as at the end the math problem is solved, that’s what matters!!!! I love you and I respect you, and I will keep you as a most valuable tool for sharpening my sword. Please don’t ever stop what you are doing. We INFJ’s need you.
I thought for 2 years I was infp. But it didn't feel right. That's when I looked up what type might look like infp. I did see the INFJ but like you said I was ignorant to the letters. So I never even gave it a look. I related with Isfp more than infp, and so on. But yeah I wasted many years, obsessed over it. Thank you, now I'm crying, damnit. I can't express everything you have done for me with the information you are bringing to the table/world. I have much respect for you. Again, thank you for taking the initiative to do this.
INFP here - I've only seen a few of your videos so far, but what I've seen I can tell you really care about helping people and your lectures are really thorough. And I'm not put out by the blunt communication style, in fact sometimes I prefer that kind of communication style and can be quite blunt myself when fired up about something. I just want to say that we honestly aren't nearly as selfish, lazy or depraved as most perceive us as. I'm not saying we're perfect by any means, and we do tend to get stuck in analysis paralysis and don't always know how to take action. But there are so many factors influencing our behavior that don't have to do with anything moral. I don't want to get into an over-explaining session here and I can't prove to you or anyone in a comment what our motivations are... but I know in my life people have been way way too harsh and condemning of me when I wasn't doing anything wrong. And I was raised in an abusive environment where I was actually severely emotionally abused with accusations of being selfish, lazy, and evil (yes from early childhood one of my parents would scream at me I was evil) when I was a very good kid... to the point that at work I have completely burned myself out from working way too hard, being over disciplined, and constantly living in fear of getting fired. There is a lot of misunderstanding and I do wish to see these traits not be associated with our personality type because at least for me, it's been severely damaging.
This video is a great explanation of the INFJ vs INFP. I also watched the virtue and vice of INFJs as well. It was extremely touching! You mentioned some things in both videos that I as an INFJ am still a bit confused about: use Ti to bring truth and constructive criticism, don’t put high morals onto others, cutting the “losers”, and be with those who have high morals (ENFPs & INFPs). I’ve used Ti to bring truth to people but isn’t that the same as putting my high morals onto them/correcting their behaviors? I’ve also had many ENFPs manipulate and hurt me deeply, influencing me in very negative ways. I’ve confronted them (perhaps with my Ti?) but they never seem to change. They just kept running me over and justified their actions. In that case, I did cut the “losers” out but then again you mentioned ENFPs have high morals. *scratching head They just seem to contradict one another. I wish there was a video made to explain these explanations more clearer!
Confirmation bias may have played a large part in my own mistyping. Every single online test I ever took had typed me Infj. Not accessing any knowledge beyond the usual mbti sites, I thought, “I guess this is who I am.” But the information just seemed fluffy, like a daily newspaper astrology reading, almost anyone could relate to some of it. I thought, “there’s got to be more to this”. After watching a bunch of videos, that still didn’t answer any questions, this channel appeared as a suggestion. It was unlike any other, giving a real life insight into types, not just scratching the surface, but going right to the heart of things. My first attempt at using the type grid, I typed Istj. I knew I was some sort of responding affiliative, but that’s all I really knew. My one hiccup, all along, has been thinking I am direct, when actually, I am informative. I also originally thought I was systematic, because of how much I prefer to order and organize and categorize, filing and listing, etc. But, as I kept watching and learning, I noticed many people didn’t get my communication style, because I am by default, abstract, and I have to expend some energy to remain concrete in my communication. So, I reverted back to thinking I was Infj. What really kept bugging me, however, was how much-in my past life, and even now-I have heard I do things on my time. I don’t naturally move quickly, I am like a turtle, progressing, but slowly. I also don’t tend to respond immediately. I like to think first. And minimalist answers are sometimes all people get, which is one of the reasons I thought I was direct. The more I really paid attention to the observations and criticisms of others, I realized I saw myself much differently than they did. I realized I’m not a movement type, I’m a control type. Eventually, I narrowed myself down to everything I knew for sure: responding, affiliative, abstract, control. The only type who can be all four of these, primarily, is Infp. Informative post over, congratulations if you made it through to the end :)
Im an INFJ and I need to thank you. I thought I was mistyped until you said INFJ's have 50% of being mistyped, as an INFP. Moreover I really appreciate your advises and the way you cite biblical references. Have a good day! PS:After taking your test, I don't even know who I'm anymore
so true about infp fashion sense. i find i always have an ideal look, but it ends up coming together strangely or slightly off 😭 it used to frustrate me how physical beauty and aesthetics seemed to come so naturally to others but i had to struggle and meticulously plan outfits and looks in advance
To put your lecture in a metaphor, this was a mental workout. My brain-muscle was torn down to the point that it hurt. However, it was the best workout I could of had (something I needed) the burn feels do good! Thank you CS, this was DOPE👍
I knew that the soul was metaphysical. Glad to know that I’m not alone. I consistently test an infj, however recently tested as infp. But can be hyper sensitive to criticism. Definitely shut the door, but forgive so can reopen it. Known as a truth teller but see into the future and often make predictions that come true. Will listen to this brilliant presentation again. No, I know my partner is faithful, a trusting sort. My infp can absolutely destroy, I know exactly where to hit. It takes years and years but it will destroy when overly provoked. You are brilliant. Thanks for sharing.
Great video.. I more fascinated by not so much the content, but by all the INFJs praising and adoring you. Not that your content isn't tremendously informative, on the contrary, I'm just surprised how many INFJs are so vocal about it. Instead, they should be sitting back and studying YOU in how your INFJ mentor tore you to pieces and built you in a way that all INFJs can Identity with you. The same way a dj has to work the room and play to every emotion, is the same way an INFJ walks into a room and mimics personality types. If a thoroughbred INFJ walks into a room, senses an ENTP/J like you around, and begins whispering during conversation, just know that we will be peeking out the corner of our eyes waiting for you. Keep the lessons coming because all in all, an INFJ made you.
I don't know why I normally hate someone yelling stuff but your angry attitude is so cute. It was pretty informative. Thank you. I actually trying to understand because I wrote an Infj character. Your presentation really gave me an idea for a fight they will have. Not only just that but I really started to think about my flaws. I am pretty sure I am an INFP. I feel like I managed to find little solutions to my laziness mainly because of my loved ones who make me uncomfortable all the time. *cough* NFJ parent. I would say I have a tendency to don't make friends until actually knowing an awful lot of things about them first. I don't want to ruin the chance of friendship so I don't tell people that I don't see them as real friends. This makes me seem like a disloyal person. I am just loyal to my real friends. I would die for them because I really think they are really good people and deserve a lot more. I lie. I think this is my major problem as an INFP and I used to lie so smoothly because I have lied to my NFJ parent constantly. I wouldn't say I lied about important things but even the small lies make me uncomfortable about myself because I always know they are all lies. So I try to not talk about the problems now that I know I will lie to which results in having secrets. Kinda makes me alone. I am trying to fix that by just trusting myself and my friends. This pandemic really hit at the wrong time. I know about the Ti demon. I lived it once. It didn't get physical because my morals are really strong about sheer violence but I would say I hit the weak spots of their ego so badly that the person I am angry with started to cry which stopped my Ti demon. I fixed my mistake in a way but I was really scared of myself. Most of the time I don't seem like an angry person because I don't really get angry for small stuff others get angry for so people think I am a really calm person. Well, that is just the exterior. I have a lot of sympathy for those who make mistakes but when someone makes something terribly wrong in my ideals I endure a grudge for it which results in bursting someday. I am trying to burst into segments these days. It is really hard but I plan every time I feel angry. Thinks like drawing a leaf to my hand to remember Demon Ti fiasco. So in a way, I use totems for my short memory. It actually works more then I thought. I feel like learning about this method of understanding makes me a better person. I still have a lot of flaws and I sprinkled a bit of my Te in this long ass comment but I feel happy so yeah! Thank you again.
I believe I've heard that John Lennon was an INFP
Now I'm remembering this quote of his....
"When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down 'happy'. They told me I didn't understand the assignment, and I told them they didn't understand life."
damn i’ve never even heard that quote before (i’m an INFP)...& that’s literally my answer when people ask me that question. i just say i wanna be happy.
@@JD-kj2ck I think I remember saying that to my ISTJ father when I was a teen ..and of course he didn't "get it"
MaCoeur every time i would say it people would they’d always say “that’s sad” but i’ve never understood why they would say that?
@@JD-kj2ck Maybe they assumed it meant you "weren't" happy...rather than "happiness is your priority".
People see and hear through their own "lenses"...which often means we may be speaking to each other, but the true meaning gets distorted before it ever lands.
For me, it meant (and still means) my priority has more to do with the "quality" of how I'm living my life than it has to do with the "substance and/or contents" of it.
Imagine is apparently based on the stuff in Yoko's book Grapefruit. People say online she is INFP. Two INFPs together? Hmm. Not sure about that.
Also not sure if the people typing John Lennon were aware that Imagine was based on Yoko's work.
In year 8 one of our written get-to-know-you questions was "What is your most treasured possession?" or something like that. And I wrote "Happiness". I don't have absolute favourite things.
I can't figure out if that is an INFP or INFJ response and it wasn't about careers either. I relate a lot to descriptions of both types but relate to the separate INFJ functions far more.
hell yeah.....im an INFJ, and ive been with my INFP wife for 18 years, and still seething with passion and desire for her. No other woman can even come close. ❤❤❤❤😍😍😍😍
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So.. the real content begins at 19:35 ish
20 square meters independence god, thank you. I almost quit watching
Lol thank you
Thank you
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@@user-ho1jq4wq4v it's for people who don't want to know why the infj is actually more of a p type than j
I'm an INFJ and appreciate your passion and energy. I admire you for speaking from your truth. Our domination culture has a lot invested in infantilization of the masses, leading us to believe we are incapable of hearing truth. Yes, it's a lot to absorb, but I see your willingness to tell us the hard stuff as a rare kind of love.
You've helped me a lot to understand where and how I get stuck and given me the encouragement I need to start doing some things differently. Thank you!
Awesome, you are most welcome.
"INFP's are really great at labeling things properly". I love that statement.
My very best friend is an INFP. He is so kind, thoughtful, and brilliant. He makes me feel so comfortable and we always talk for hours about any and everything. Our friendship spans from the 9th grade to the present. I am now 28 years old. I am so fortunate to have him as a companion. I help him to realize and open up about his feelings and he is so nonjudgmental when I need to express myself. We are also both quirky and appreciate each other's weirdness. Great friends those INFPs. 🙂 (INFJ)
I'm confused. I thought Joseph said that INFPs are always judging other people. But your INFP friend is non-judgmental. Which is it? Because I'm supposedly an INFP and I honestly don't see myself as judgemental.
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I’m an INFP. I’d say it depends.
Would you judge someone if you knew they had hurt someone? Domestic abuse? Beating their children? Bullying and harassing others without remorse? Then yes, I would judge. I would also have some sort of understanding, because it’s never fun to be so angry, it hurts. Nonetheless, that sort of violence is horrible and I feel for the victims more than I do for the perpetrators.
For others, who go through hardships, who are hurting, who are frustrated or angry, but are also able to have a capacity to understand they may be causing others hurt, then yes, they receive all the love and compassion I can give. For people I’m close to, it’s the same.
I think it’s about the persons ability to feel remorse more than anything. It shows their human side and it’s hard not to give them your love.
Same here. I'm an INFJ and my bf is an INFP. We've been diehard bf's for about 13 years now. She's my rock and sister soulmate.
The Bitten Bullet I’ve been listening for a while now and by that, I mean I’ve re-listened to many of the lectures too.
Chase appears to me to be talking mostly using a framework and fills in with his understanding as he goes along, (I think he bullet points). As a result, the information that brings a particular type together for a listener is spread across different lectures. I’d say it’s a part of the charm.
So, if you listen to the ‘Who are the INFP’ lecture he says that INFPs are ALWAYS judging everyone but that they will never admit it, or if they do it’s pretty unusual. I would, from my experience of having the honour of watching one very carefully over a number of years, would say that this is true - they will probably never admit that they do this, and possibly not even to themselves, (coz perhaps it’s immoral to always be judging everyone, right?) But just because they are judging you internally, and possibly at an even deeper level than that of their own conscious thoughts, doesn’t mean that they come across as continually judging you. As, (again in my experience and as far as I can tell), they tend to rationalise things that could could be issues because they trust you and you will not be judged harshly, ergo, will appear not to have been judged at all - and this decision occurs reflex fast - without even a flinch. However, if they stop trusting you, even temporarily - ha, ha... well, just try it and see what happens!
At least, as I said before, this is how it appears to me.
I like ISFJs personally, but I don’t actively type people I meet and friends.
If I had a nickel for every time that someone tells me to speak up I’ll have a thousand dollars
I love it when you yell at me
d r e a m w a v e
Stop.
Just fucking stop.
i can tell youre an infp exclusively by your screen name and icon 😂😂😂
@@sibestfunction4400 what? only infp are able to appreciate aesthetics?
@@ezzy2254 youd be happy to see the aesthetic blog i ran during my infp demon teenage phase 😂😂😂
@@michellewei9139 I'm enfp and didn't get my license until 21 and didn't move out of house with family until 24 I have been told I seem introverted sometimes but enfp are kind of both introverted and extraverted I guess
I’m an INFJ with an INFP best friend.I thought your INFJ and INFP was fantastic!! Yes there was negative thing about the two types but NO ONE IS PERFECT!! No one type is better than the other and no one type is without flaws. Deal. With. It.
Well said!
I agree with the INFJ video. I'm INFJ and introduced my INTP husband to your channel for a better understanding of types. Thanks for your videos!
you are most welcome
My sister is an infp and we have a great relationship!
"Did you know the INFJ is more P than J?"
"Did you know the INFJ is actually more T than F?"
THIS right here, is why I mistyped as an INTP on the 16personalities test. I always felt that something wasn't sitting right, but spending time in the INTP forums across the internet and INTPs in real life made me realize I was NOT one of them. For a while I thought I was an ENTP because I knew my Fe was not inferior, but the rest of the personality didn't sit with me well. The entire time felt like I was constantly trying to convince myself I was using Ne and Ti in conjunction. Then I started spending time around an INTJ, and realized very quickly how lead Ni and Ne differ. Yeah, I use Ni, and after reading and listening more about how the functions truly work in their respective positions in the stack.. I finally get it. Even better, now that I have made the base understanding in myself, it's MUCH easier to understand other types. How the hell could I use invalid type knowledge that I misused on myself to type others? Trying that is absolutely ridiculous.
This is why I have to be patient with INFJs and INFPs more than any other type. Just read the comments on the Who are the infjs or who are the infps. All the hate... all those mistypes :(
C.S. Joseph I did, it's surprisingly easy to tell the difference
For the same reason I spent many years thinking I am an INTJ (with just this weird emotionality, interest in metaphysics and secret fantasies of becoming a therapist). Then I came upon the Kearsey's temperaments book and realised I am an Idealist!
Sounds like something I ought to read
Exact same problem dude, word for word
"INFJs assume their partner to be cheating on them all the time"
Me: **flashbacks to a wonderful relationship that I broke bcuz I assume my partner liking someone else just bcuz they talked to that other person more than me that one time in a party**
Me: shit.
Woah
So I liked this guy and
he 3 yrs ago liked this girl in highscool and I assumed that he still liked her when He tried to talk to me but I...eh ..
Boy, you really did have a passionate, deeply impacting relationship with that INFJ. The concern about our insecurity, our vulnerability to corruption and alienation through hypocrisy is so palpably personal. It comes through subtly, yet surely in evvvvery conversation you have about INFJ's. You're lucky to have had an INFJ who imprinted on your conscience forever. It seeps through in almost all the videos I've seen of you. I truly appreciate your unfiltered, genuine feedback for us folks. Sending you good vibes and a huuuuge INFJ hug! :)
I'm not done with the video yet, but I already love this. As an INFJ, I've seen how hanging around certain people greatly affects my own thoughts and behavior. I've experienced this "corruption" many many times. I currently have an INFP friend, and I feel like they genuinely do ground my principles. It's hard to explain. Even without them saying anything, it's clear that they're a very good person with relatively stable moral standards. Being around this somehow brings out the best in me as a friend and as a person in general. This relationship of an INFJ being the reality check and the INFP being the moral backbone is so accurate.
I'm INFP. It's true. I can remember many feeings and thoughts from my two years old. When I look at the old pictures I can even describe what I think and feel at that moment.
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@@cherrymarriedindiscord1404 why are you married on discord?
I’m an Entj and I have a few of those memories as well
Definitely see this dynamic between me (INFJ) and my best friend (INFP) especially in this particular moment of my life. The advice mitigating on INFJ “corruption” was especially helpful. I usually mirror anyone I’m talking so they don’t hate me, think I’m lame, bully me, etc but my INFP friend is always there to remind that “Hey, this is who you are. Why are you copying these bad influences when you’re nothing like them”. Great video!
Oh dammit.. I always did this, mirroring other person.. And my friend always said "dude, please stop"
Oh I see that makes so much sense. My INFP friends always told me the same thing too
hai, i feel that when you talk about INFP being lazy, or staying in their comfort zone too long, this is essential loading time for the INFP. besides very difficult to get them out of it, often not advised, when an INFP comes out by themselves, they reach ultimate flowstate! but true, sometimes we can dwell for too long.. sorry..
46:49 I'm crying. I'm an INFP who is constantly dropping things / knocking over drinks / running into things etc. It's such a thing that every day when I drop something in front of my boyfriend he says "there's your daily drop". Often I have more than one daily drop . :(
Your daily drop 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You’re awesome.
For the first 6 months I was convinced I was an INFP after testing INFP several times and, even after looking into MBTI and the cognitive functions a fair bit. But I think it was after one of your previous videos were I realised I was utterly wrong and I have no idea how I could have thought I was an INFP because now I can see I am an INFJ. So thank you for allowing me to realise!
I think it may be because the INFJ is not a natural planner or organiser all the time so those INFJ's that value flexibility and dont plan their shit are probably testing as an INFP which I believe is a weakness of the MBTI test.
Damn commented that second bit before watching the video
nice lol, well said
i like to organise things but not rlly doing it lol i just follow my heart after that... but depends.. if its important and i rlly want to achieve it... i'll be srs, if not... yea... . . . ehe
I experienced the same thing! I thought I was an INFP for ages until I realized I'm actually a socionics INFP LOL.
I'm not good with organizing my surroundings, but when my surroundings are organized, my mind becomes clearer. I guess that's since my first extroverted function is a judging function?
You're so right about the INFP and their ahem laziness. If I don't FEEL like going to school I'll skip school. It caused so much problems to the point where I had to transfer schools so I could graduate. I had to learn that having feelings are nice but they can't affect my work ethic. So I've been seeing counseling to help with more discipline.
You criticizing the INFP did make me uncomfortable but as you said we need to be pushed out of our comfort zone. So I bucked up, tried to put my "I'm offended :0" feelings away, and listened to your words :)
work ethic = self discipline, get more! :)
Lol! Until you said it, I didn’t think of it that way, I hated going to school on Monday’s so I’d play sick and after a bit, I bluntly admitted to my mom that I lied and was just skipping school and we would have a battle of wills to see who would give in🤣
You are so damn blunt af, I didn’t like it for the first half cause you seemed like a huge whiner lol, but this lecture was awesome. My mind was blowing up and you helped me understand me and why I am the way that I am on a deep level. I’m an INFJ to the core and it sucks when you say I’m always going to be so critical of myself, but I’m still going to keep working hard to build my confidence and do the things I need to do to be less in that mindset. Thank you! :) ...PS, I laughed SO hard when you talked about the wispy voice LOL I swear I hate that about me and have become aware of why I do it and when I do it, and I am trying to stop! It’s so bad lol 😂
I have an INFP adult student and he never gets offended when I have to rell him off. He always comes up with an anecdotal example of what I just said. However, he does not like to be uncomfortable so I have to be extra careful when the technique gets difficult. We also joke about his never ending string of excuses. And like you said he is the most loyal student I have ever had. Also he is HUGE at reading and taking in the arts, history etc. A walking encyclopedia. His vocation is in creating plans as a contractor for Boeing.
Okay, but in my defense my voice sounds louder to me than it might actually be. I just don't want to sound like I'm yelling haha.
The Specific Ocean funny to me too
Same! Lol
Omg, daily basis I get consistently told how obnoxiously loud I am, but truthfully I just don't register the decibels of my own voice. It's just excitement usually gets to be in charge of my throat before I can acknowledge that I even own a throat under my control
INFP here with INFJ best friend. I can personally attest that this friendship is everything. So copacetic! It's such a good balance of personality. I advise her, she advises me. We share our visions of a better world and we come to conclusions in such a way that we've termed it mindgasms. We're actually working on a book that'll hopefully be able to spark a change in social structures! :)
Awesome! INFPs are like the best writers in academia, so working with them just makes it better.
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This was is inspiring to read:)
lol....so much of what you say in this video is just confirming my INFP "status".....I'm crackin up about the idea that INFPs don't exist to make other people comfortable. That is so true....It's almost a "motto" of mine...and I've said this to my sister more than once....that I don't "entertain"....I may invite people over, but I don't feel responsible for entertaining them....I expect it to be an enjoyable experience just to hang out....and if anyone needs anything, they're free to make themselves comfortable.
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What the hell? Im the opposite. I’m totally questioning my INFP status after this video.
Holy shit. I never invite people over because I get so anxious about my private space, how they are feeling. I can deal with one guest, but in easter I had 2 guests over for a couple of days, and I got very pressed with the lack of structure they put out, if they were feeling bad that I needed my private space, ect.
I always tend to compromise whenever I have mulitiple guests over.
Very stressful.
I might be an infj....
Or what?
What do.you.mean by entertain? Example please 🙂
@@Cinderella-mc8kf Have you never entertained guests in your house? I would assume they mean, offering them a drink, or some food that THEY would like, or asking what music THEY would like to listen to, or a TV show or movie that THEY would want to watch, or just making sure they are having a good time and an enjoyable time in your presence. Also, trying to lighten the mood up in conversation so THEY are feeling comfortable and enjoying their visit, or talking about topics that THEY are interested in. Is the temperature of the house at a comfortable level? Maybe they want to check out a new computer game so I'll give them reign of my PC (even though I hate people using my computer) to be able to experience it. I aim to please.
As an INFJ myself, these are the things which go through my mind when I would have people around at my place, those examples above are what I think they mean when they talk about "entertain".
@@L3onOfKings i wasn't like that as a child i actually didn't invite people over and when i did I'd be very anxious and uncomfortable and sometimes unintentionally rude, my mother is very private and doesn't like to invite people over and she's also very intimidating and our relationship was abusive and toxic as a kid ,so that's why i didn't really entertain anyone as a kid, i thought about what would happen if i do anything to the point where i was numb and just taking orders from her, now i care so much about people's comfort more than mine sometimes, i don't know what would that make me considering that i didn't behave like myself most of my life.
You have easily become my favourite person. I hope one day you achieve this goal of raising this self awareness and awareness of others of sorts around the world. Or rather, I know you will.
Much appreciated. It is why I draw breath.
funny, Vuzro, I could have written just the same! I dont have to, bc you did.
I Love your sarcasm and bluntness because underneath all of it is compassion for the human race as a whole. Some might be offended by your presentation but I am inspired by the nature of your truth!
This was very helpful.
I am glad someone is.
I agree with absolutely everything... except for INFPs not having style. My style is my favorite thing about myself and I get constant compliments regarding it haha
You value that so it is important for you. I'm an INFP too, when we value something, it becomes our identity, but then if we don't we just really don't care that much. Byproduct of Fi i guess.
You might be a 4 or 3 on the enneagram
Then there is the ENFP fashion disaster known as Ralph Furley on threes company
@@renwannabe3237 ahh so as an infp basically we become naturally good at it if we put our heart & soul into it?
@@talkingtoawall5123 not just INFP to be honest, anyone with Fi or Ti high in the stack would kinda be the same, when we find a thing or activity that we as an individual love, we'll go full throttle to become better at it. On the other hand, we can be so indifference to thing that we don't care about. That's why it's also important to think what each of us value, is it detrimental to our growth as a person, or is it helpful? And then update our value once in a while.
Is it common for an INFJ to have great fashion sense but "dress down" in a weird false humility- like "Oh, the expensive clothes are so superfluous. I can't bring myself to spend money on myself-- But I SO WANT TO!"
Or depending on the people around, sometimes I feel like wearing the things I like make them feel inferior. So I am always scoping out the crowd before I go somewhere to avoid that...
I went to my 20th high school reunion, and while all my friends were remembering everyone and every detail of school life 20 years in the past, I knew nobody, remembered nobody and knew nothing. I felt so lonely that day, sitting in stark contrast to them. I knew nobody would even begin to understand..... Thanks for explaining this is the work of Si Demon....
You are most welcome, as usual :)
Thanks, that helps me understand better.
Nostalgic When Other's Cherish More Present Persuits
Great video, I like the fact that you don't hold back on the negative sides of each type unlike other videos iv'e seen on YT or websites that paint this overly positive picture of each type just to make people feel good about themselves but actually don't offer anything constructive or even to an extent truthful. You got yourself a new sub! :)
Much appreciated sir.
For myself:
12:29-13:04
Infps are more of a decision making
function (recommend)
13:19-17:29
Perceiving functions of infj
Deep dive
Both types are philosophical, affilative,
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Infp the background types
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Se inferior
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22:19
Movement vs control,self values, interpretation
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Fates and futres
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Why infjs doorslam (recommend)
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Infj ego and infp ex (recommend)
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Recommend for me)
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Nemises depraved, depravity idk
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Verify ti
56:00-57:33- (recommend)
I'm an INFJ, and a HUGE fan of your lectures! Your ability to accurately, and without sugarcoating, pinpoint the traits and common actions of different types...it continues to blow my mind! Anyone who can't come to the point of being able to recognize and admit their weaknesses, are either delusional or [as you pointed out] mistyped. I am OBSESSED with your knowledge on people and why they are and why they do...keep it coming! - Looking forward to taking your personality assessment.
Me being a financially savvy infp, it’s so satisfying to hear you talk about our knack for finances since infps has this broke reputation
If an Enneagram 4 INFP becomes highly insecure and starts to devalue themself, they might compensate for this insecurity by acting like an Enneagram 2 person and become overly generous.
@@japanesereadingandwritingyes, I have been like this before. I am INFP 4w3
@@tlhogid663 If an Enneagram 4 person is being very generous, they might be in an unhealthy state of mind. If an Enneagram 4 person is in a healthy state of mind, they might become angry all of the sudden. This is very confusing to people.
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I must be healthy cos lately all I do is avoid people so that I do not have to expose them to my utter annoyance at their past behaviour! I simply channel all my energy into my work.
Seriously though - I was worried for a while that I am becoming a mean/cantankerous person. Now I know that I failed to set boundaries in the past so people thought they could walk all over me.
I am simply curing myself of the disease to please.
SO you commented that some INFPs can be voluminous with their speech and some will be more silent until there’s something that affects them, or I’d add they feel passionately about something. This is great because it describes one of the differences between me and my son. We are both INFPs. My son can be so voluminous in his speech, even when he was young he loved using big words. In college, he took speech as a minor (art was his major) and of course he loves to wax philosophical and when he’s passionate, he talk circles around anyone, sometimes just baffleing them with BS! LOL. Me on the other hand, am the more quite reflective one, at least until I get passionate about something or I’m standing up for my values. One on one and in small groups I can get excited and gregarious about something, but the bigger the group, the quieter I get. My son, has become the go to person at work to give speeches and he can ad lib like nobody’s business. If he wasn’t such an awesome artist, he would have loved to pursue acting. Or even psychology or philosophy. I love studying psychology and theology.
Delivery IS important. This is a fundemental lesson all human beings need to learn. Especially teachers. A good teacher is always learning. And learning how to speak to be heard by anyone is the hallmark of a good teacher and a mature person. So stop berating and belittling people who are serving as powerful tools for YOU to learn.
Right on! He needs to be mindful of this.
Curly Cate nah cold truth pls
Agreed. I like his ideas and extensive knowledge...but...delivery is, for many people, as important as the actual message.
As an INFP who often goes into her ENFJ shadow, which I consider my “host mode,” I now know why I am so bad at making people feel comfortable. But I try so hard!
Hahaha awe! I kinda feel like this too sometimes 😅 at least we can sense the uncomfortableness!
Yep infp here. Definitely agree with ti demon. I have exploded in friends faces (after which we stopped talking) with a long long list of why I'm sick of them.
I am such an infj. My uncle tried teaching me how to drive however I got major performance anxiety as a teenager so I couldn't learn because I had drove the car into a ditch while he was teaching me. I watched others drive for approximately 1 year and when I knew for sure I could drive, I bought my car and off I went. Yes the best way I learn is through observation, hands-on... and I prefer teaching myself things. I got bored in class frequently because I just wanted the syllabus given to me while I went about my way to learn.....learning is joyful to me especially when I figure out the why behind it
Why is this video more like 'compatibility' rather than differences? Like INTJ vs ISTJ was spot on!
38:48 - 2018 has become my year of fighting that exact cycle and it’s all because of important lectures like these. Your videos, especially as related to the INFP, are continually providing me with the resources I need to better myself. I hope sooo much that other hypersensitive INFPs fight through the knee-jerk reaction to your criticism and come to understand the importance of taking off our “rose-colored glasses” before so much time has passed with little to nothing accomplished. I’m turning the tides in my life now and nothing feels better than knowing you’re capable of REAL change without the constant need of validation/discipline from those around you. Thank you C.S. Joseph!
you are most welcome sir.
Iam hypersensitive INFP with strong Fi Ne
I'm an INFJ and my sister is an INFP. Literally everything in this video is so spot on, save for just one thing. My sister is absolutely not the one who has to step in and warn me about consequences, its the complete reverse. She will have these ADHD hyper fits and let her emotions completely take her over without thinking of consequences whatsoever (for example she'll get her feelings hurt and try to run away from home or something), and I'm the sister who usually has to step in and tell her she's being illogical, and try to make her think of the consequences.
On another note, INFJs being more T than F is a good point, used to think I was ENTP and INTJ for years, and got typed INTP by sooo many people online. I often feel like my Ti child hurts me in a lot of ways though and I often wish I were a Te/Fi user. I get EXTREMELY insecure and hype fixate on my appearance on a regular basis (Se inferior), and when people try to comfort me about my insecurities (by sugar coating, giving me online statistics, giving me solutions or products that I know won't work), I just instantly cut straight thru all their bullshit despite how little I want to. I feel like living a lie can be helpful sometimes, but I just can't do that as a Ti child, Te trickster, my bullshit alarm would just go on hyperalert and throw the rose colored glasses right off.
I am an INFP .. and i can remember my first birthday... I am 22yo now
You're such a blessing to all who will listen... Congrats on 4k subs, and here's to many more!! I'm grateful for your hellfire!
Much appreciated ;)
(INFP here, as proven once again by your test 😉) I disagree with the slow driving point, at least in my case; what I despise the most is 'Sunday drivers' kind of approach. I love sporty driving, being in the flow of it, going confidently, treating speed limits 'more like guidelines'. But at the same time being smart and responsible about it, leaving a margin for error, thinking ahead and always staying alert. Also being polite towards everybody on and off the road.
INFP: Yeah my fashion sense is definitely learned (although i don't like copying look for look i like to switch shit up and base it on what I like personally). I feel like with television, film, social media it's pretty easy for me to gain a certain mastery over trends and making nice outfits. Although, in elementary school I mostly just wanted to wear t-shirts and jeans/shorts, much to the chagrin of my ISFJ mother (obsessed w appearances). Ik in high school I was widely considered to be pretty fashionable. But, then I got to college and stopped caring about what others thought about how I looked (especially when it got cold bc sweatpants are the most comfortable in the winter) and now I'm kind of a mixture of my childhood self and my adolescent self when it comes to fashion.
I totally enjoyed this lecture. It gave me a clearer understanding of who I am, and you confirmed who I am... an INFJ. Thank you for the reality check on insecurity. When I got married, I was super insecure, I am less insecure now. Anyway, I would accuse my wife of cheating on me, which was not a good thing, so I am learning to trust her. On another note, you are the first person who referred to Jesus as an INFJ. I have been to many sights and they asked the question, What famous persons do you know as an INFJs ?, I always reply, ''Jesus'', no comment would be sent on it. Yes! Jesus is the greatest INFJ the world had ever seen and I love Him.
I swear I relate so well to most of the things you’ve said about both of these types. I’m so helplessly confused.
I have stupid hands and run into doors all the time - but I’m always almost telepathically getting things for others before they even know they want it.
I talk in the low, quiet voice; but I’m also lazy as hell.
I’m surrounded by shitty family, but I know I’m active and organized when I’m healthy.
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Brandon Fisher I related so much to your comment, and while it took a long time to type myself (possibly nurture influence), I typed myself Infp, after believing for years I was Infj. Based on your comment, you seem more Infp, but I suggest using the type grid over using my observation, I’m no expert. The thing that helped the most was being brutally honest about myself and really listening to feedback from others, no matter how hard it is to hear it. Hope that helps!
@@Leneah99 what questions did you asked others to better understand yourself?
Ren WannaBe The main question I asked was: Am I really what I think I am? What do I hear other people say about me, even when it’s hard for me to admit to myself? I started to pay attention to what people were really saying, when they weren’t trying to make me feel good. Weirdly, criticism was more helpful in pinning down my type, even though it is not something I’ve historically taken very well, as I try so hard with people. People kept complaining about me keeping to myself, being a “stranger” and not initiating enough with them. They were looking for me to be someone I wasn’t. I initiate, because it’s what they ask of me, but it takes me outside my comfort zone. I also spent a lot of time trying to make other people comfortable; I have no poker face and it made people uncomfortable, so I plastered on a stupid smile, because it’s what people kept telling me to do. I rarely do anything I want, mostly I do what I feel obliged to do. I’m a terrible people pleaser, meaning I almost always ask permission. I am accused of being too sensitive, and I definitely can be. I am always getting myself into scrapes, bruises and spills, no matter how careful I am. I’ve been stupid zoned for not paying attention to the most basic actions. I struggle with being comfortable vs. dressing well. People always seem to think I need help or ask me if I’m lost. From those observations, I determined I was responding and affiliative with higher Si and lower Se. All my life, people have complained about how slow I am and how long it takes me to do anything, so I knew I couldn’t be movement, I had to be control. For a while I was stuck between Isfj and Infp, since all feedback pointed to those 2 types. I admit, it took a while to narrow it down to Infp. It all came down to noticing other people’s reactions during conversations. When I am at ease, I will introduce abstraction into conversations, but if I know it will baffle people, I make an effort to remain concrete. I don’t think I would have to do that if I were Isfj, therefore I concluded I was Infp. For me, a lot of it had to do with what took extra effort vs. what took no effort. I hope this helps, my answers are not always as direct as many would like.
"Our brains are literally computers" As a CS student, I highly appreciate this. Offtopic, but computers are, in essence, modeled after the human brain.
Holy crap 1.5 hours lol
strawberryloli I know right but I’m loving it
I started watching all his videos on 1,5 or even 2x speed, it works, actually when i have just a part on normal, i am thinking howw can anyone speak so slow, but to be fair i speak super slow as well. It is the informative curse hihii
Very insightful lecture. You are clearly well versed in MBTI. After watching this I have no doubt I am an INFJ. Also, your point regarding storing memories in people and objects is so true! I am guilty of door slamming due to painful memories, though I never realized that was my reasoning. I also store lots of memories in photographs and writing because I am very forgetful. I'd just like to add, my mom is an ENTP and it is a great type for an INFJ to have as a parent. She gives me the confidence and reality checks that I desperately need.
Haha. 76 comments in one day. INFP/Js are probably the most you tubers out there. Thanks for mentioning quantum physics.
Much appreciated.
As an INFP I wish I could find an INFJ friend. I do need reality checks and can be lazy.
meetup.com bro, go to politics and philsophy groups, INFjs are all over those.
C.S. Joseph thanks man. I'll check it out.
You're in luck. I'm an INFJ. 🙂
@big heart u shut up and delete that name big heart
If you would have that name u will not say someone shut up ;-;
Thanks for another excellent lecture! I found it very informative and I know my INFP friend I recommended it to did as well. I always find it interesting when you talk about how INFJs are the most prone to having weird, rare health issues and then surviving and recovering as well as humanly possible due to willpower. I had exactly that experience when I had a heart attack due to badly blocked arteries at 36 with perfect cholesterol, blood pressure, and other typical warning signs. I was overweight, but the kind of overweight that would give you a heart attack in your mid-60s rather than mid-30s. Anyways, after having a heart attack for over 10 hours before surgery because my symptoms presented as back pain rather than chest pain, I was told that the odds of me having survived that long without treatment were like 1 in 100. While there was permanent damage as there always is with that sort of thing, I bounced back almost immediately and now three years later am in excellent health and able to work out heavily at the gym 5 days a week or more. The stuff you said about the Fi critic and forcing morals on others really hit home for me too as I know that is the worst aspect of my personality both for myself and in dealing with others sometimes. Also, on the Te Trickster/math thing, I remember when I took the SATs many years ago, I was recovering from mono and I forgot to take my calculator with me. I still managed to pull down a 770/800 on the math portion doing it mostly in my head so I definitely appreciated your views there. I hadn't realized that was a common INFJ thing.
Awesome, you are most welcome.
One of the very misleading questions at those tests is: do you prefer truth or someone else’s feelings, as INFJ you’d answer truth (hello Ti child) but no, you supposed to reply: feelings, because you have Fe parent, otherwise you’re not lNFJ 🤢🤮
Omg me
Ikr, I gave truth but I also know that I'll hide the truth considering someone's feeling
Your videos help me dive into characters for auditions SO much easier! It’s so nice to have a broader understanding of the cognitive functions by watching your channel.
I am a Clinical Psychologist with 30 years of experience dealing with people. I was branded a INFJ quite sometime ago. I never really accepted that evaluation because placing 'labels' on people puts them into a box. It limits their potentiality and personal growth. At worse, it can destroy a individual's self determination and freedom. However, the Myers Briggs Personally Test is interesting but somewhat incomplete. I have never encountered a 'classical' INFJ before. Why? Because certain characteristics of this personality type have many subgroups some of which overlap other MBTI personality types. That being said I will describe the characteristics of how a 'orthodox' INFJ thinks, behaves and responds in strict accordance with the MBTI Personalty Test. Be forewarned, I find some INFJ 'stereotypes' rather funny. And will approach such in a humorous fashion. INFJ's posess a wonderfully sense irony and will immediately recognize the silly 'stereotypes' others have attrubuted to them.....So let's start breaking some myths about the INFJ Personalty Type
When a INFJ gives you the dreaded 'Death Stair' they are not attempting to understand you. They are wondering if you're carrying a gun. Killing INFJ's is a pleasurable experience. Why? Because everyone hates a smart ass.
INFJ's frequently experience 'Sensory Overload' issues. They love Forests, Parks and Woodland areas to recharge their batteries. Why? Because trees don't talk! A squirrel cannot complain it has 'Daddy Issues'. Pine trees do not suffer from 'gender identity' problems. And I have never seen a bunny rabbit strung out Crack Cocaine. Solitude is bliss.
Never say to a INFJ, 'I do not understand', They will run away screaming or jump infront of a bus. No one understands them. INFJ's sometimes don't even understand themselves.
INFJ's feel uncomfortable being around large groups of people. However, once you get them talking, they never shut up.
Why do a INFJ 'Door Slam' people? Because it's called a Coping Mechanism. They dislike being emotionally hurt. There is nothing strange about this behavior. Some people become alcoholics others pill poppers. INFJ's will just run away and pretend you never existed.
INFJ's have the psychic ability to absorb people's emotions. No. This is phenomen is called 'Transference'. If you continuously talk about your problems, a INFJ will unconsciously adopt some aspects of your emotional state. However, INFJ's posess strong identities which prevents them from going completely insane.
INFJ's are the most honest, compassionate and sensative people on Earth. Not really. Mother Nature just screwed them up genetically. They're brains are hard wired to respond during crisis situations. A 'diehard' INFJ will instinctively sacrifice their life attempting to save yours. No questions asked. Why? I have no freaking idea. I didn't invent the rules. Ask God. I'm sure She knows.
INFJ's think differently than others. Yes. They think outside the box. They live outside the box. They have never actually seen the box. What does it look like? Does it contain groceries?
INFJ types are occasionally arrogant, cold towards others and aloof. This is actually true. Being omnipotent has its drawbacks. INFJ's have a difficult time sugar-coating the truth. Being overtly honest is their trademark. If they sense someone cannot handle the truth, they will lie to protect that person's emotions.
INFJ's are stubborn yet will openly admit to errors in judgment or making mistakes.
INFJ's think too deeply. They want to solve everyone's problems. They get frustrated when people ask for advice - then completely ignore their recommendations! They do not understand why everyone keeps making the same mistakes over and over again. Eventually, a INFJ will simply give up. The phrase 'People need to learn things the hard way' was invented by a INFJ. So was the 'unfriend' button on Facebook.
INFJ's do not respect authority because they have developed their own Moral, Ethical, Spiritual and Cognative belief systems. Mature (older) INFJ's care very little about how people perceive them and less about the impressions they make upon others. INFJ's enjoy approval and acceptance (like everyone else) but infrequently compromise their princepals to simply fit in.
Do not mistake a INFJ's confidence as egocentrismn. There is a difference.
INFJ's are frequently interpreted as posessing a Narcissist Personalty Disorder. This stereotype is absolutely false. A Narcissist loves adoration and attention. The typical INFJ cares more about others than themselves, sometime to their own detriment.
INFJ's dislike themselves. They feel alone within the world and misunderstood. Being a INFJ a curse. Consequently, a small minority INFJ's often experience psychological Depression, Alienation Issues and Avoident Behavior problems. The phrase 'You are your own worst enemy' accurately describes a INFJ's perception of themselves.
The most admirable personality traits of the INFJ are (1) INFJ's are compassionate which makes them a easy targets for emotional exploitation and abuse. Never play 'Guilt Games' with a INFJ. They already persecute themselves (subconsciously) for being different. (2) They don't have the ability to forgive themselves for past mistakes, A INFJ's unforgiving 'Guilt Complex' is an integral part of their personality. INFJ's have occasionally been known to slowly kill themselves over time, believing they deserve such suffering. 'Hell on Earth' is their punishment and they willing accept it....sometimes. Not always. (3) Once you secure the trust of a INFJ, everything about them suddenly becomes clear. The stereotypes vanish. These are people you want within your life. They have incredible insight into human nature and will identify your weaknesses and lift you up from darkness. Seeing the world through a INFJ eyes is the greatest gift they can offer.
It would be impossible to understand a MBTI typology without stating the negative traits of a specific personality group.
The 'Dark Side' of a INFJ is rather frightening. Never test their 'Authenticity' or personal dignity. Do not play games with a INFJ. They have limitations like everyone else. A INFJ can determine your intentions or plans within minutes. Literally. This Hyperobservient behavior is quite unique. Avoid getting into heated arguments with a INFJ unless you are prepared to be intellectually, emotionally or psychologically castrated. They have cognitive resources almost beyond understanding. A vindictive INFJ will never stop until they destroy your life (this has nothing to do with physical murder). Such behavior is almost Psychopathic in nature (hence the concern INFJ's may be catorgized as possessing a Psychological Disorder rather than a Personality Dysfunction). Fortunately, INFJ's are not prone to violent behavior. They give up easily, This is where the 'Door Slam' or simply walking away from an argument comes from. Once they reveal their true inner nature, you will begin to understand why only 1% of the world's population are INFJ's. They are so dam charming.
INFJ's dislike small talk, idle conversations, superficial people and hypocrites. Life is too short talking to such individuals (but they understand its occasionally necessary to be socially accepted)
INFJ's are not spontaneous. They just pretend to be spontaneous. Their minds are always attempting to 'connect the dots....even when there are no dots!
When the Zombie Apocalypse occurs, a INFJ will be eaten screaming, "I told you so... I told you so!"
Imagine your on the Titanic. It's 1912. You see a Iceberg coming. Your jumping around and telling everyone the ship is about to sink. People just laugh and finish their Champagne. Welcome to the wonderful world of a INFJ.
Avoid getting into deep conversations with a INFJ. They are walking encyclopedias. They will jump from topic to topic then back again to support a idea or theory. Male INFJ's are 'scattered brained' in the worst way possible. But there is method to such madness. The are searching for the correct answer to a specific problem. And 95% of the time they will discover it... or have a complete nervous breakdown trying.
Occasionally, you will notice a INFJ acting mysteriously, doing unusual things or just behaving weird. Get used to this behavior. It has absolutely nothing to do with you. The INFJ is just going through a 'stage' or experimenting with something that interests them. Like building a Thermonuclear Bomb or discovering a cure for Herpes.
Never tell a INFJ they have a 'Old Soul'. They are absolutely terrified of being reincarnated again. INFJ's are aware that neither Heaven or Hell wants them. Why? Because God doesn't need the extra competition on who should run Heaven (Him or a INFJ) and Satan can't deal with a INFJ pestering him for all eternity....that would be considered cruel and unusual punishment.
Aliens will never abduct a INFJ. There are some things too bizarre even for Extraterrestrials.
INFJ's have a difficult time forming a thought or idea into words. Yes. Someday a INFJ will develop Telekinesis and scare the hell out of everyone. Stop laughing, it's going to happen.
So next time you accidentally encounter a INFJ, break all COVID 'Social Distancing' issues and hug them. INFJ's are a endangered species. Literally. Whatever purpose they were created for has already been accomplished. There represent only 1% of 7.7 billion people on planet Earth according to MBTI statistics. In my opinion, this Myers Briggs Personality represents the noblest aspects of humanity....Intelligent, Wise, Caring, Virtuous, Observent, Altruistic and Protective. Dispight their faults (which everyone has, no one is perfect) INFJ's are genuine. You get exactly what you see meeting these people. No convert agenda, deeply empathic intellectuals who sincerely care about you. They have a excellent sense of humor also (wink).
wow that was long but thanks
Beyond terrified of being reincarnated, knowing full well I'm unwanted by heaven or hell, or ET's, I'm fairly certain there's no reason to think a zombie would be interested either!
Working on the telekinesis part!🧙🏽♂️
To say that this mini - thesis was funny , is an understatement !
I relate to many of these descriptions. It's interesting to hear an honest description of how my cognitive style is viewed by others. I have never been one to take myself too seriously....
How Do INFJs Compare To INTPs? This is a request for the next video. You do a great job with these and they are very popular just like you!
ill see to it
I really admire how you really spit real-deal wisdom regarding INFJs and INFPs (especially INFJs imo), even when you previously mentioned some bad experiences you had with INFJs, sometimes even with really close ones... I feel as if you still believe in INFJs and the best they can bring out to the world regardless of the painful past... as an INFJ (or someone who thinks he's an INFJ haha), I really respect the tough love method you're adopting because I can tell your intentions come from a pure place in that regards. Thank you, really, for this video, it's so stacked with an incredible amount of knowledge!
I am an INFP who is still in the earlier stages of the pathway to finding herself, and frankly, I have never felt lonelier.
The people that make me feel the most understood are the INFJ’s, i don’t ever feel the need to explain myself to them, they have a knack for just knowing. I appreciate them so much for it, because although I know that I cannot expect others to read my mind and that I am responsible for communicating effectively with others, it’s sometimes nice to seek refuge in NFJ types.
A quote by my favourite INFJ author that I believe rings true to all that I feel from within: “I wanted only to try to live in accord with the promptings which came from my true self. Why was that so very difficult?” - Hermann Hesse. The emotions that I experience such difficulty to express, he articulated into a short, but surely, moving phrase. I feel a strong affinity with INFJ’s moreso than ENFJ’s. I gravitate naturally towards them, and they seem to walk differently from others or have a certain twinkle in their eyes that makes me wonder if they know something the rest of us don’t. They are so charming.
I see that your love for your infj son really shines through when you’re talking to us. Thanks dude- your videos are literally changing the course of my life. (recovering guilt tripped alienating perfectionist with a rare autoimmune disease) 😃
You are most welcome
The description of yourself (recovering guilt................) ...that is me. :)
I'm an INFP, and I drive FAST and exploit distance given in front of me for maneuvering and braking.
Once Si child gets comfortable on the road and in a hurry, there is nothing stopping it.
Same here actually. I think it has to do with Si being comfortable and the ability to channel in my dream world whilst driving. Driving fast to songs that make me feel something has become a form of escape for me.
Always Nice To Hear An Authentic Users Truth
I am an INFJ (thought I am INFP before I listen to your videos) and I can drive 10 hours without brake to get home as fast as possible! :-)
@@lululou3135 I am NOT driving that long.
I’ve been devouring as many of your videos as I can lately. It’s overstimulating and I love it.
I’ve had this interesting phenomenon where I would meet people, have a conversation with them, and I would have a harder time remembering their face... But I would see that they are wearing an interesting object or article of clothing. Or maybe I would just see them on the street.
I would see them again at the end of the day, or later in the night, and I would see the face but not too much would register. Then I would see the object, and I would immediately remember my interaction with the person and then remember who they were - simply because of their item.
I’ve always wondered why I would remember objects more than people’s faces, and you have finally given me an answer.
Thank you so much. You are amazing. I will continue to absorb your content.
I love how cohesive their relationship is and how well they fit with each other.
I am an INFJ but I have SO many traits of both! I'm so confused!!
Me too. I have no idea.
Which traits? I'm curious.
I had a similar problem for many years as an INFJ who was mistyped as INFP. I'll share with you something that helped me know for *sure* I was an INFJ and not INFP. Sometimes it's the shadow functions and unconscious functions that reveal the truth.
In your last argument/issue with someone, how did you feel? Did you feel that you were emotionally 'right' and frustrated that the other person couldn't see your point of view or did you feel more confused/panicked that you may have been wrong in your assessment and go to others for validation and advice? This exercise is especially useful if it was a matter of the heart/feelings. Which resonates more?
Manders Rae
I’m guessing INFPs connect more with the first bit and the INFJs with the second?
@@a.r.8954 so which is which?
My therapist identified me as INFJ and it took me years to realize he was right. I think this type is great at people, just not at ourselves.
Can’t believe it took me 1 & 1/2 years to accept it but I’ve come to the conclusion and I’m an INFP and not an INFJ. Damn someone throw me a coming-of-age celebration for typology.
This is why this lecture exists
C.S. Joseph it’s really funny because I’ve watched this lecture twice now and the first time I was like “....wait there’s a possibility I might not be an INFJ”, had an existential crisis over the summer and re-watched this, deciding I am, indeed, an INFP :p
Wow. This helps so much. It answered so many questions that made me wonder if I’m really an infj. You confirmed that I really am without doubt. Thank you.
thank god for this. i was in your discord chat arguing about how only because you got a score on the tests doesn't mean that it is accurate since they determine your type based on the dichotomies. but you can't do it cause i'm an infj special snowflake! if u take that label away me from you will be punished!
well said haha.
I absolutely made the mistake of being too understanding and slowly found myself becoming a doormat and/or verbal punching bag. It was very hard for me to reach the point where I simply couldn’t take it anymore. When I did I began my own path to self-healing using your videos, others, articles, the latest studies, etc it was only then that I began to believe in myself again. And the long marriage I had stubbornly remained in, suddenly became far less scary than before. I can’t claim to be fully ’on the other side’ but for the first time in quite awhile I can finally breath. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with others. They have absolutely played a role in the getting me this far along. Please know how very grateful I am, even if it’s tough love. For some we need it.
Only then I was able to get myself out of my comfort zone and set fire to my life.
Cool that you're making a free test. I see a few other youtubers offering consulting services for absurd amounts and it's like, yeah... I think I'll just study this on my own. People like Tesla are always more respectable than people like Edison. I understand the need for money, but it stinks how much knowledge has been essentially commoditized.
this is why I studied Gary Vaynerchuck, an ENFP who is very charitable.
This video convinced me that I am an INFP but then I took the test provided by you and it says INFJ...
You must recognize whether you are an Fi person or an Fe person.
I’m pretty sure I’m an INFP but I absolutely love and know how to make people feel comfortable. Also complimenting people and just seeing how they light up... one of the best feelings ever lol. The guilt thing is also pretty recognisable for me and the small voice. I guess it’s just a model and it’s not as black and white in reality
I am in the same exact boat as you. I think it may have something to do with our ENFJ unconscious. I’m just spitballing here, but maybe we’re in our shadow when we feel those things. It is so confusing to me.
Hmm...I agree with everything you said except that INFPs cannot make other people comfortable. I was in a relationship with an INFJ for 7 years and from him I have learned how to do that for people. Kind of like how you said an INFP can learn fashion, I have learned how to make others comfortable. My two cents!
Side note...with an INFJ now and he often says, "I just want to make sure you are comfortable." So it is funny when I ask him if he is comfortable. Because he looks at me like I am crazy to ask him that. To him he is like, "If you are happy then I am happy."
Xavier Guillaume
Aw:)
Thank you for commenting. I was a little scared at first! It is easy to be critical from behind a keyboard! It is my personal opinion, however, that you, perhaps by objectively listening to your tone of voice and word choices, would choose to soften your presentations some. They will be much more effectively received.
No thanks. I do not change myself for anyone.
I agree the close-mindedness air is off putting! Doesn’t matter how great the message is if no one wants to listen! I had to just come to the comments to get a summary of the video!
As an INFJ... your other videos hurt. They hurt to the core. Thank you for your honest words. Even though they words were brutal, it was the most eye opening event I've ever experienced. No one has ever got me to reflect on myself the way you did. You're awesome. An asshole, but awesome
I've had a hard time figuring out who I am and have had ever since I remember. Now I might be starting to figure it out thanks to you and Jordan B Peterson. Thought I was an INTP, then an INFP and now an INFJ. It's the mirror you talked about that makes me confused, I believe. Now is my time to further improve myself and thus others. Thank you for the lecture, have a good day.
you are most welcome
Thanks for the video, Chase! I'm an INFP, and my wife is an INFJ. Unfortunately she is absolutely confident that her personality type changes all the time, so she's unwilling to watch any videos or read any literature on the topics. She's 44 (as am I) and can't drive, calls herself a mirror, is pretty fashionable, has a terrible memory, and always thinks she's sick.
I can't stand her, and have left her 3 times, but due to my lousy financial situations with lost jobs and what not, I've come back. Like a marriage of convenience. I'm planning my final escape, but in the meantime I'm trying to learn as much as I can about both of us so that I can make the next few months palatable.
In terms of the tests: I’m an INFJ, who originally tested as an ENTJ. I tested that way because I answered the questions with the ideal answers to me at the time rather than who I actually was.
"because you have some bunch of losers in your life that you're valuing for some reason which you probably shouldn't and you need to get those losers out of your life.." I DO highly appreciate this!
Sorry to comment before I watch the video, but: I got into Jung/MBTI stuff 5 years ago just before I met my now INFJ wife (I'm an INFP male) and the knowledge of our differing types has helped us better understand ourselves and our differing personal needs throughout the years. But I feel like the content you've made in the last couple of months has helped my relationship just as much as (if not, more than) all the years of studying Jungian types before. Keep up the amazing work and I can't wait to take a walk and listen to this.
This is so helpful thank you!
When I saw that you typed Frank James as INFP that made me doubt if I'm INFJ. Nope I'm still INFJ, I always look after everyone at parties when they are feeling awkward. I love clothes and am amazing at putting myself together. And that feeling of being a bad person is accurate. I love your brutal accurate criticism. Not many people are capable of that. Respect ✌😌
INFJ here with ISTJ daughter. I would try to teach her ways to do math 'easily' in your head, come up with sales tax, quick adding, multiplication etc. My poor child would try so hard but would always want paper and pencil and she had to SEE it.
I will say she is a wiz at math on paper and now I know why.
I am definitely guilty of the door slam, it’s my last resort. I also now understand why I feel pain when there’s any physical separation in any treasured relationship of mine - it’s as if the other person is now dead in my world if I don’t see or talk to them for a while. Thank you Chase
damnit I'm still an INFJ
Love it! As an INFJ, so much resonated. Except for the whisper voice. ha
And I totally agree with allowing people the space to think ‘in their heads’-I’m a teacher and see so much bullshit done at school that has nothing to do with real learning. Your son has an excellent advocate. :)
It’s not about INFP being technically more “J” than INFJ. Having Fi first means you are bringing structure to your inner world, while Ni is not. INFJ structures the outer world with Fe. While INFP outer thoughts are much more free flowing with Ne. The J and the P are about what judging functions are internal/external and if they show up first, before an external perceiving function. Hope that made sense. You are not wrong, the tests are not that accurate, but the J/P dichotomy is a little more nuanced than that. I see a lot of people who are more knowledgeable in MBTI being like, “oh, Ti FI first means INFP/INTP are actually judging” and it’s not that simple.
Basically, we all judge and we all perceive so it’s about if the judging is extroverted or introverted.
Yes but that changes the letters depending on if the person is initiating or responding on top of that. Are you sure you are not complicating it too much?
Yes. I don't judge people atleast not consciously.
INFJ here got INFP result 3 times from MBTI test and I watched all the videos about INFP, Somehow I don't feel that related to INFP much until I started to type myself with your grid and like a magic happened.
It turned out I'm an INFJ. Then I started to watch all of your videos about and INFJ and it's like finally I get to understand all of my behaviors and what you mentioned was soooooooo related to me in the past. Literally almost everything.
Thank you so much Mr. Joseph. You dope!! 🥰
you are most welcome
I am pretty sure that I am an INFP however I really related to distancing myself from people that are a bad influence. I have done that in the past several times. I felt guilty about it but also knew it was the right thing to do. This video made me doubt for a moment whether I am an INFP and not rather an INFJ but then I realise that I am more of an Fi user than an Fe user.
EDIT: Got typed with the type grid as an INTJ.
I am at awe! I feel loved by you because you tell me the truth without mincing words. And as an INFJ I had a very difficult time in math because while taking an algebra exam, I knew the answer but could not show my work. The teacher thought I cheated because there was no way, he said, to get the correct answer without implying several formulas. My self esteem was destroyed and I never took another math class. I began to think I coincidentally guessed the correct answer. Thank you for setting me straight! I am now 52 and just learning about myself. And I believe God is blessing me with an INFP who is offering me what no one has ever been able to give me, and that is loyalty. But like you said, I cannot alienate those whose goals and aspirations are not to acquire wisdom and integrity just because they are mine. I need to lead by example without expectation or without the need to expect people to follow a certain particular way of arriving where we all need to be. As long as at the end the math problem is solved, that’s what matters!!!! I love you and I respect you, and I will keep you as a most valuable tool for sharpening my sword. Please don’t ever stop what you are doing. We INFJ’s need you.
I am to Nagato as you are to Naruto.
I thought for 2 years I was infp. But it didn't feel right. That's when I looked up what type might look like infp. I did see the INFJ but like you said I was ignorant to the letters. So I never even gave it a look. I related with Isfp more than infp, and so on. But yeah I wasted many years, obsessed over it. Thank you, now I'm crying, damnit. I can't express everything you have done for me with the information you are bringing to the table/world. I have much respect for you. Again, thank you for taking the initiative to do this.
As usual, you are most welcome.
INFP here - I've only seen a few of your videos so far, but what I've seen I can tell you really care about helping people and your lectures are really thorough. And I'm not put out by the blunt communication style, in fact sometimes I prefer that kind of communication style and can be quite blunt myself when fired up about something.
I just want to say that we honestly aren't nearly as selfish, lazy or depraved as most perceive us as. I'm not saying we're perfect by any means, and we do tend to get stuck in analysis paralysis and don't always know how to take action. But there are so many factors influencing our behavior that don't have to do with anything moral. I don't want to get into an over-explaining session here and I can't prove to you or anyone in a comment what our motivations are... but I know in my life people have been way way too harsh and condemning of me when I wasn't doing anything wrong. And I was raised in an abusive environment where I was actually severely emotionally abused with accusations of being selfish, lazy, and evil (yes from early childhood one of my parents would scream at me I was evil) when I was a very good kid... to the point that at work I have completely burned myself out from working way too hard, being over disciplined, and constantly living in fear of getting fired. There is a lot of misunderstanding and I do wish to see these traits not be associated with our personality type because at least for me, it's been severely damaging.
This video is a great explanation of the INFJ vs INFP. I also watched the virtue and vice of INFJs as well. It was extremely touching!
You mentioned some things in both videos that I as an INFJ am still a bit confused about: use Ti to bring truth and constructive criticism, don’t put high morals onto others, cutting the “losers”, and be with those who have high morals (ENFPs & INFPs).
I’ve used Ti to bring truth to people but isn’t that the same as putting my high morals onto them/correcting their behaviors? I’ve also had many ENFPs manipulate and hurt me deeply, influencing me in very negative ways. I’ve confronted them (perhaps with my Ti?) but they never seem to change. They just kept running me over and justified their actions. In that case, I did cut the “losers” out but then again you mentioned ENFPs have high morals. *scratching head
They just seem to contradict one another. I wish there was a video made to explain these explanations more clearer!
Season 14, the golden pairs have a lot more about this. But they are private Patreon lectures.
Confirmation bias may have played a large part in my own mistyping. Every single online test I ever took had typed me Infj. Not accessing any knowledge beyond the usual mbti sites, I thought, “I guess this is who I am.” But the information just seemed fluffy, like a daily newspaper astrology reading, almost anyone could relate to some of it. I thought, “there’s got to be more to this”. After watching a bunch of videos, that still didn’t answer any questions, this channel appeared as a suggestion. It was unlike any other, giving a real life insight into types, not just scratching the surface, but going right to the heart of things. My first attempt at using the type grid, I typed Istj. I knew I was some sort of responding affiliative, but that’s all I really knew. My one hiccup, all along, has been thinking I am direct, when actually, I am informative. I also originally thought I was systematic, because of how much I prefer to order and organize and categorize, filing and listing, etc. But, as I kept watching and learning, I noticed many people didn’t get my communication style, because I am by default, abstract, and I have to expend some energy to remain concrete in my communication. So, I reverted back to thinking I was Infj. What really kept bugging me, however, was how much-in my past life, and even now-I have heard I do things on my time. I don’t naturally move quickly, I am like a turtle, progressing, but slowly. I also don’t tend to respond immediately. I like to think first. And minimalist answers are sometimes all people get, which is one of the reasons I thought I was direct. The more I really paid attention to the observations and criticisms of others, I realized I saw myself much differently than they did. I realized I’m not a movement type, I’m a control type. Eventually, I narrowed myself down to everything I knew for sure: responding, affiliative, abstract, control. The only type who can be all four of these, primarily, is Infp. Informative post over, congratulations if you made it through to the end :)
i cant help but chuckle when he said alright we are almost done...& i look & see more than 30 mins left...but each minute was well worth it
Im an INFJ and I need to thank you. I thought I was mistyped until you said INFJ's have 50% of being mistyped, as an INFP. Moreover I really appreciate your advises and the way you cite biblical references. Have a good day!
PS:After taking your test, I don't even know who I'm anymore
Love, love, love your lecture. I was patiently waiting for this one; so worth the wait! Thank you!
so true about infp fashion sense. i find i always have an ideal look, but it ends up coming together strangely or slightly off 😭 it used to frustrate me how physical beauty and aesthetics seemed to come so naturally to others but i had to struggle and meticulously plan outfits and looks in advance
To put your lecture in a metaphor, this was a mental workout. My brain-muscle was torn down to the point that it hurt. However, it was the best workout I could of had (something I needed) the burn feels do good! Thank you CS, this was DOPE👍
you are most welcome.
I knew that the soul was metaphysical. Glad to know that I’m not alone. I consistently test an infj, however recently tested as infp. But can be hyper sensitive to criticism. Definitely shut the door, but forgive so can reopen it. Known as a truth teller but see into the future and often make predictions that come true. Will listen to this brilliant presentation again. No, I know my partner is faithful, a trusting sort.
My infp can absolutely destroy, I know exactly where to hit. It takes years and years but it will destroy when overly provoked.
You are brilliant. Thanks for sharing.
Great video.. I more fascinated by not so much the content, but by all the INFJs praising and adoring you. Not that your content isn't tremendously informative, on the contrary, I'm just surprised how many INFJs are so vocal about it. Instead, they should be sitting back and studying YOU in how your INFJ mentor tore you to pieces and built you in a way that all INFJs can Identity with you. The same way a dj has to work the room and play to every emotion, is the same way an INFJ walks into a room and mimics personality types. If a thoroughbred INFJ walks into a room, senses an ENTP/J like you around, and begins whispering during conversation, just know that we will be peeking out the corner of our eyes waiting for you. Keep the lessons coming because all in all, an INFJ made you.
I do not disagree.
C.S. Joseph next time your in vegas, it would be cool to chat and pick your brains
I don't know why I normally hate someone yelling stuff but your angry attitude is so cute. It was pretty informative. Thank you. I actually trying to understand because I wrote an Infj character. Your presentation really gave me an idea for a fight they will have. Not only just that but I really started to think about my flaws.
I am pretty sure I am an INFP. I feel like I managed to find little solutions to my laziness mainly because of my loved ones who make me uncomfortable all the time. *cough* NFJ parent.
I would say I have a tendency to don't make friends until actually knowing an awful lot of things about them first. I don't want to ruin the chance of friendship so I don't tell people that I don't see them as real friends. This makes me seem like a disloyal person. I am just loyal to my real friends. I would die for them because I really think they are really good people and deserve a lot more.
I lie. I think this is my major problem as an INFP and I used to lie so smoothly because I have lied to my NFJ parent constantly. I wouldn't say I lied about important things but even the small lies make me uncomfortable about myself because I always know they are all lies. So I try to not talk about the problems now that I know I will lie to which results in having secrets. Kinda makes me alone. I am trying to fix that by just trusting myself and my friends. This pandemic really hit at the wrong time.
I know about the Ti demon. I lived it once. It didn't get physical because my morals are really strong about sheer violence but I would say I hit the weak spots of their ego so badly that the person I am angry with started to cry which stopped my Ti demon. I fixed my mistake in a way but I was really scared of myself. Most of the time I don't seem like an angry person because I don't really get angry for small stuff others get angry for so people think I am a really calm person. Well, that is just the exterior. I have a lot of sympathy for those who make mistakes but when someone makes something terribly wrong in my ideals I endure a grudge for it which results in bursting someday.
I am trying to burst into segments these days.
It is really hard but I plan every time I feel angry. Thinks like drawing a leaf to my hand to remember Demon Ti fiasco. So in a way, I use totems for my short memory. It actually works more then I thought.
I feel like learning about this method of understanding makes me a better person. I still have a lot of flaws and I sprinkled a bit of my Te in this long ass comment but I feel happy so yeah!
Thank you again.