COPING WITH THE LOSS
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- čas přidán 29. 08. 2024
- Hello, everyone!
Firstly, I just want to say sorry for awful sound quality! The wind was bad yesterday.
Secondly, again thank you all for your continued support for both myself and Dan's family. You are awesome!
Lots of love,
Becca
#dontgiveindontgiveup
Don't Give In! Don't Give Up!
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You can find out loads about cancer, my journey and the things that have caused me issues on the link below to my blog.
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Who Am I!
Name: PeeWeeToms (Dan Thomas)
Age: 32
Home: England!
Diagnosis: Pleomorphic Sarcomatoid Carcinoma's (peeweetoms.com...)
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He was so happy being able to call you his wife. God bless you, sweet girl.
Yes, the smile on her face when she called him her husband made me think of the look of joy in his eyes whenever he’d call her “my wife.” They were truly gifts in each others’ lives.
Oh yes...he was so happy when he posted secret time...that they just got married. I knew it was going to be a short marriage...but certainly everything to him...😞😞😟
We love you as much as we love him. Be strong
Very true, she made him happy xx
Couldn't think of the right words, but your words were the exact words. I agree with you
what's so great about being strong? no one has to be strong. we can be weak and twisted and suffering when we lose a loved one.
@@willettej7988 I know what you mean but I think when people say that they just mean stay strong for yourself, don't completely unravel, don't let it make you sick and eat away at your life because your loved one who passed would not want that for you BUT you are correct in that it's ok to be weak and fall apart at moments 😟💔
I understand all of that, but her husband just died. She shows no signs of falling apart. Give her time. And I still believe that it is perfectly fine to be weak and fall apart when you lose someone. If I lost a child or my husband of 37 years, I wouldn’t be strong. I would be an emotional wreck. And that would be just fine.
From the shy quiet beautiful red headed girl in the background of Dans videos to an articulate confident heartfelt speaker...its a privilege to hear what you have to say and clear why Dan loved you so much. Much love and best wishes from Dublin.
Makes you wonder why she came across so cold in videos when Dan was alive...really makes you think!!
JoJo 33 she’s full of beans now and made her own channel
I don't think Becca was ever shy, quiet or cold. She was just not trying to steal Dan's limelight. Dan's videos were very personal and to have tried to make Dan's videos more about herself would have made her come across as pushy and arrogant. Personally I don't think Becca could have been any more supportive of Dan and what he was going through, and this "new and improved" version of Becca is simply a natural progression of a devoted wife who wants to carry on her late husband's amazing work.
Why was she so cold and unlikable while Dan was alive? In the car, she'd give him dirty looks and sit as far away from him as possible. In their wedding photos, she barely looked him in the face, always glancing to the side, or looking at her shoes. And where did she come from? She appeared out of nowhere, and relinquished whatever life she had, in an instant. She claims that they met when Dan sat next to her at Starbucks and started chatting away. She said that Dan didn't mention his cancer diagnosis during that meeting. Does that sound like Dan? -- If she was 'planted' to play a role in Dan's life, and she made him happy, that's what matters most. But her personality took a wild turn after he died. You'd think the real Becca would have disappeared into obscurity.
@@JoJo-jk4jmAbsolutely! Just doesn't add up.
Today I read the words of a mother (Anna Davis from the small folk) that has lost her boy of 3 years some months ago. She wrote: "I could only be grateful when I realised I would rather have known you for a moment than never at all. I would rather endure this inexplicable pain of outliving you than to never have seen your face or spoken your name. I would rather be yours, and you be mine, regardless. Regardless of the sorrow, the sleepless nights, and the years I will walk this earth, carrying you in my heart". That touched me deeply as it helped me see the pain of loss from a different perspective. Bless you.
lovethineownself that's beautiful
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Oh my goodness, I wasn’t expecting to cry but that really caught me off guard ❤️❤️❤️
lovethineownself...How deeply & profoundly moving...I don't think I'll ever forget Anna's heartfelt words & emotions...
Dan would be so proud of u becca, and so are we xx
Jasmine Kumari he is proud of her :)
The day the doctors told me there was nothing more that they can do for my mother, I totally broke down.
I ran out of the room, sat in a stair well and cried my eyes out. Seeing her suffer for 15 straight weeks in a hospital broke me as a person. It was gut wrenching and heart wrenching, it totally threw my life into chaos.
And then 5 years later seeing nearly the same thing happen to my father, words cannot explain how you feel. And how to feel knowing that your parents are going through so much pain. You just sit there beside them every day all day and all night, trying to help them, trying to make them feel happy. Trying not to cry in front of them because you don't want to upset them anymore than what they are feeling.
After my father passed away, my life went downhill, started drinking heavily, got busted for drink driving. I was a mess. But getting caught by the police was the best thing for me, I deserved it. Lost my license for over a year.
I have now managed to get control of my life.
It has been 4 years since my father passed and 9 years since my mother passed. It has gotten easier to deal with. But you do have those moments where you put yourself back in that same position, where you were sitting next to them.
But the only thing that makes any sense of it, like you mentioned is that they no longer need to feel the pain.
I just try and remember all the good times, and hoped that they could see that I tried my best for them. I just hope that at that time they could see that their little boy had grown into a decent, caring and giving man while I looked after them.
Thank you for sharing your story..
Don't forget to love yourself.
Take care,
Mick..
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I’m certain that they were both deeply proud of the person you are. Their love for you was the unconditional and eternal love a parent has for their child. It doesn’t disappear. It was real. And still is. ☺️ Continue living your life with compassion, love and kindness....for them. They would be so proud
I totally get you x
Thank you for sharing that. I know none of it was easy to write let alone go through and experience with your parents. I just wanted to say thank you.
God speed and i hope life has been and continues to be good to you.
Lost my mother beginning of the year had to be waken up by my pops saying she was dying was very just traumatic for me that very night was just the worst and to get the news that her heart stopped I just couldn't believe it the worst day of my life till this day.
I was more sad watching him suffer and deteroriate more than I am sad now because I know he is not in pain anymore.. Bless your heart Bex. Xx
THE NILOTIC EMPRESS-Couldn't have said it better. Thanks for the comment! Linda(momto3rs)
Dan loved the sea.
I had over a year to prepare for my partner's passing. ..we had every day together after the terminal diagnosis. .. but no matter what I was not prepared for the loss....I am a nurse , I worked in palliative care... but I still feel the loss almost 4 years on....and I still smile when I see a white feather in the garden...I send you love... x
Sorry for your loss 🏴
What a lovely video. My god, he would be so proud of you.
Tabitha 1499 he is proud of her :)
Dan was gone too soon but never forgotten.
#NeverGiveInNeverGiveUp
Because of him I quit tobacco products and changed my life routine
BradPwnsU=Nice job!! I'm sure Dan had MANY individuals who changed unhealthy life habits, and even their way of just thinking and behaving...because of "PeeWeeToms".!
Hey Brad. So great to hear. Stay strong bro!
did he smoke ?
Congrats bro
@@Munching And so do you 😁
Becca - this was beautiful. Not only because its so raw and from the heart, but because we know you didn't like the camera , and yet here you are, sharing your journey from where Dan left off, just like he did. If that doesnt show and speak the volumes of your love for him - to carry on his legacy so beautifully in honor of your husband, then i honestly dont know what would. Sending you peace and love. Hey Dan, where ever your gracious soul is now, how cool is your wife ? and how legendary are she and your family ? bet your beaming with pride xx
Beautifully said.
@@lordhawhaw8982 that's all good, nobody asked you too. Especially not her. Your a troll and Dan taught us go be bigger than people like you, so have a great day.
@@lordhawhaw8982 Your cruel post has been reported to CZcams. Other than taking that action, I will not to make a further comment about this because it only encourages negative, attention seeking, immature and hateful people to continue negative communication, except to say that I hope everyone will report this extremely cruel comment to CZcams.
LORD HAW HAW is a troll who goes to cancer videos and posts horrible things to get attention. You see his comments on other videos too. Reporting a comment only makes it disappear from your feed and it won't be removed unless he violates the TOS. The best thing is to ignore it.
Well said ❤️
Becca it's normall to feel like that. Will it take time to heal. Take each day as it comes. Lots hugs
You're talking to her from above and that's just rude and inappropriate. Why do you people even like this comment?
@@Cymanytb Wtf? You must have some problems mate.
What is your problem angry man I am not taking to her from above. This message is very appropriate at this stage. You should not be hire if you looking for problems.
Time is the only healer.... Just have to bite your teeth and get 9n with it until it feels bearable to live your life
My husband is 50 and dying off cancer you are all an inspiration to me and remind me that there is a life for me when hes gone xx
I'm so sorry !! :( How are things now?
How are you?🙏💕
God Bless you
update? god bless
@@s58xeno of there's no update then... 😔
So many people grieving this loss together. I appreciate this vlog. It almost feels therapeutic. I hope it is for you too Becca.
It's easy to see why Dan chose Becca. Beauty, humor, and an enormous heart.
Yes, she seems like a wonderful woman.
For Sure!
For someone to stand beside him through it and after it all, truly shows her love and dedication to him and it is something I find absolutely lovely
Dan isn't in the video but why
@@tigercat418he passed
From California...
from a mother of four sons...
from a person who thinks of suicide everyday...
I honestly am ashamed and grateful at the same time... because of Dan...
Thank you, Dan, for you. For your beauty, for the incredible gift you've given. Words will never be enough to say...
thank you for the gift of you. I won't give up. I won't give in. I promise.
Thank you for sharing this most personal part of your life.
Beautiful message.
When my wife died in 2006 from Cervical Cancer at the age of 31, it really hit our children and I really hard. I found it really difficult to cope with things, and when I do see a Robin in my garden, to me it feels like that it's my wife saying everything will work out for me. I find that as a real comfort and it helps me to cope. So I know how you feel about the lose of a loved one. Keep your chin up!
Sorry for your loss.. 31 isn’t long enough. Fuck cancer
Blessings and prayers, I hope you and your children are healing from your grief ❤️🙏❤️
I'm sorry for your loss
Beautiful message. Keep the feather throughout your life.
Denise T You can have things like that feather set in a clear resin, and make a pendant or brooch out of it ❤️
I don’t even know how you are able to stand up and get out of bed. Dan is definitely sending you all strength ❤️ heartbroken for you all. Keep moving and keep pushing through. Dan is at peace now ❤️ and he will never leave you xxxxxxx
Becca... your heart is huge and thank you for letting us inside. Big hugs. Venting is healthy and it's a privilege to be one of thousands of shoulders to lean on. Bless.
I hope you never think that we all just write our well wishes down and then go on as if it's business as usual. Of course we all have to put one foot in front of the other during the day, but last night I went out to dinner and I broke down in the middle of my meal for having talked about him leaving this Earth. I cannot imagine what it must be like for you, Becca. I worry for Papa Toms and PeeWee moms as well. I so appreciate that you have kept us posted with this message. Please don't stop! I really did love the guy... It was impossible not to love him; he was magic even for us people on the other side of the phone screen. Love you Becca.💝
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You have spoken ... No words. Perfectly my feelings...maybe thoudands others but for me..I can't imagine...but I will keep seeing his lapel pin on his wedding day...and I will laugh and cry my a...off in his honor.❤
I did the exact same thing, before Dan died. I was at lunch with a friend, and told him a little about Dan. I started crying. He has touched so very many people.
Beautiful words bless you ❤❤❤
Amen! ❤
God bless you becca, I was so proud of your husband, and I’m so proud of you too sweetheart ? Please keep making these little videos, I like to know how you are doing. Much love to you and the family. Love Jen xxxx🙏🏻🙋🏻❤️xxxx
Dan was sooooo thrilled to call you his wife. It really was beautiful to see the change on his face and in his manner when he talked about being married to you. I think that eased more of his pain than you can imagine. To be that happy so close to the end of his days was a true blessing. I know I can't be right there to give you a hug and talk to you but we are real people on line and we do care about you and Dan's family and how you are getting on. Please feel free to shed some of the burden of your loss with us. We are here for you and we really do wish you the best. Hugs from me to you.
I wish I could hug you right now. ❤️ you’re amazing Becca! We love you!
If doing this helps, we’re still all here for you. Whenever you want to share how you’re feeling or anything we’re listening xx.
He loved you, we love you. He needed you by his side, and you couldn’t have done anymore. So glad he found you. My heart goes out to you, much love xxx
My mom passed 3 years ago from cancer. I still feel the exact same way you do. Angry, sad etc. It gets easier to cope with but it doesn't go away. You'll cry less, but you'll think about him everyday. I wish you and your family the best. Bless you.
twes619 😢
Stay strong buddy.
I agree with you...my dad passed away 2 years ago from cancer and i feel the same...plus,i couldn’t be there with him in his last moments and couldn’t be in his funeral either...
My grandma passed 2 months ago, she was like a mother, she was... just the best human beign ever. Seeing her dead was heartbreaking. Cant forget that view
My mom passed away 4 months ago to from cancer I was alright at first but then when sometime passed and the shock goes down and you start to realize that life will never be the same I feel like it gets harder I still can’t sleep at night sometimes and when I do I have a lot of dreams about her not good dreams tho... but praise God he also helped me a lot throu this journey
You are beautiful inside and out, Becca and we love you as much as we love Dan ♥️
My mom passed away 7 years ago from cancer. I couldn't watch her die. I know it's horrible but I couldn't go see her. Losing her was my greatest fear my entire life. I started following Dan because I thought it might bring me some closure or absolution. I know it's crazy but we humans do crazy things. I'm sorry Dan is gone. I'm sorry my Mom is gone. But watching Dan has made me understand why she didn't fight. It helped me see things more clearly. I gained understanding. I may never get absolution but I think understanding is more important.💖✌️
Beth Roesch my mom died of cancer too and I couldn’t watch her, she was in battle with cancer since I was 6 years old, I an 25 now. Only time I saw her was during weekends and last day before she died. When she died I didn’t want to go to hospital to see her body either.
It's good that you didn't want to see your mother die. I saw my father the second he passed away, when he stopped breathing, when his eyes were losing the gaze. That happened 7 months ago and I remember that as if had been yesterday. I wish I wouldn't be in that moment and that's why I tell you that the fact that you weren't in that moment is the best thing you could have done.
It's ok your mum understands xxx
Beth Roesch don’t feel bad about that with your mom. I totally understand. My mom fell in her home and was paralyzed from the fall. My dad went crazy and made really bad choices for her care, even with me there! Eventually I had to leave knowing my mom would die, and did about a week later. I couldn’t watch her go either. It’s the most painful thing to do and I’ve watched people die. I just couldn’t watch my mom go.
@@nunyas thank you for sharing this with me. I thought I was the only one. I really did. My dad died when I was a kid and losing my mom became the greatest fear in my world. I was in my 40s when she got sick and died and when I found out she was dying, it was like my mind just ran away. I could not accept that my greatest fear was becoming my reality. Thank you so much. I don't feel like such a coward or freak or whatever I am 💖✌️
I kno exactly how you feel, Becca. I found Dan when I lost my sister to cancer. I took care of her and was with her when she passed. The meds were the only thing that kept her ok.
I just wanted to say I understand.
That spot sure is a special and beautiful one. Wish I could visit it.
Beautiful words Cheri ❤ I'm so sorry for the loss of your sister xxx
Stay strong, Cheri!
Cheri I know how you feel Cheri as I was there with my sister; amd my mum and dad and also as a nurse , Dan was and alway will be on amazing man, and his gorgeous wife and family ; ❤️❤️
my uncle died to cancer last month...
BluMac sorry for your loss xx
We love you Becca, thank you for the updates! Stay strong💜
You can definitely see the pain in & under her eyes.... I carry my sadness there too. I can't hide it. Sending so much love from Kentucky
Thank you for sharing Becca! Bless you and Dan’s family❤️
Becca, Dan was so happy and proud to be your Husband. I think he felt he'd won the lottery when you married him. I think he was right. So glad we've all gotten to meet and know you. You are held in our hearts.
Yes. Well said, Sue.O. Dan would be super proud of you, Becca. x
Sue O......well said...really really well said.
you are right on the money...
Deepest condolences to you johan! You have suffered so much, but hope that you will find some peace and comfort for your broken heart. Sending you much love and big hugs from Australia. xxx
I'm sorry for your loss. I found Dan's channel about 5 months ago and followed his journey. He gave the world so much, and the love you have for him is obvious. Take care.
I'm so glad you got to call him "husband" and he seemed so proud to call you "wife." Thank you for your thoughts.
Much love Bec your doing amazing hun. You and Dans family etc are thought of and love and strength is sent to you all xx he would be so proud of you all xxx
I'm sorry for your lost😔 it's very hard trying to cope with loosing someone you loved. My sister died from cervical cancer on December 25, 2017, I took care and help her since she was told she had Cancer, it was hard seen her in so much pain and as you say, when she was send to hospice care even though we knew what was coming, it was hard to accept that an amazing person, mother, daughter, sister wasn't going to be with us anymore. But the only thing that takes away my sadness a little bit is that now she is in a better place, no pain. Watching Dan's videos reminded me of her. I admire him, a brave young man, sorrounded by wonderful people and also giving the greatest example that no matter what your going through, stay positive, Don't give in! Don't give up!!! Hugs and kisses to you and Dan's Family from Puerto Rico
So sorry becks ...u were his happy place till the end...hugs from the states.
Your never alone..I promise
Becca... I love seeing your beautiful face... I see so much of Dan's spirit has been instilled in you and hes a part of you now. Its wierd but seeing you gives me a part of him back .. I am sure alot of us can say that even tho Dan had no idea who we are or anything about our own lives, he made a huge massive impact on us. I may not have met Dan or known him face to face. However .. I miss him ... he inspired me and changed me in ways Ill never be able to describe. Thank you so much Becca for saying hello .. you are in my thoughts. Big hugs and prayers to all. Xox love and light ...
Thanks Becca, you are pretty amazing woman!! You brought so much joy to Dan being his wife, whenever he looked at you , he grinned from ear to ear. I am glad he showed you to value the life that you have, to find beauty and meaning in every day you live. It has been 5 years now since I lost my son who was 30, you never get over the loss, you just learn to live with it every day, I know my son is with me and his son who I am raising. People might think that I am crazy, but I just know and feel his presence, like your feather dropping from the sky I also have things like this happening to me and it lets me know that he is saying, I'm ok mum xx. Love and best wishes always winging their way to you from New Zealand XX
This was beautiful. I agree that he is close..much love to you.
Such a lovely walk, lovely memories yet so many emotions. Sending you all the positivity and healing thoughts in the world ♥ xxxx
Sending you so much love ❤️
Yes on the white feather ! My sister's husband passed away from lung cancer last year. When ever she talks to him , a red cardinal comes and sits on her patio next to her! There is no doubt in my mind...that love transcends....ALL.💕
There isn't a day that goes by that I don't remember his determination, his eagerness to fight, his will to live out weighed everything he was going through. Such a string person to vlog through all his pain. Dan we all will never forget you. Thank you for everything you've given and I really mean that! For me you've given so many words of encouragement and in your own battle you've shown strength and determination. Which gives us so much to remember you by. Becca I thank you and applaud you for having the strength to vlog in his absence going through what you're personally going through. Through you're own pain you're being incredibly strong which I'm sure your husband is greatly appreciative. I'll continue to keep you all in my prayers especially tomorrow and look forward to the video of the funeral as I won't be able to make it. Not well enough to travel but I do thank you for allowing us all to be there whether in spirit or in person!
See ya later, ta-ta, bye-bye 👋🏾
Just over 5 months ago my husband passed away unexpectedly in an accident at home. My heart shattered like a dropped crystal dish. I was lucky in that I had more time with him than you had with Dan. I wish it wasn't so. I truly wish you two had at least a year or more. My emotions continue to go up and down as you said, but I fear the excruciating sadness will never truly be gone. Even now, I'm getting better at hiding it. I hope your heart heals in due time, dear Becca. You are a lovely soul.
Homesteading Ways Sending my love to you, stranger. I’m so sorry. Heal, don’t hide 💝
Sending you all the love and comfort you need. I lost my brother to cancer 5 months ago, and sometimes I feel like I'm never going to be able to think or talk about him without breaking down. Grief is a very hard thing to go through, or even understand. Love from Australia xox
Sorry for your loss. Don’t hide how you really feel. Expressing your emotions helps heal you and people are there to help. It’s ok to grieve and normal. Don’t feel you have to hide it.
Homesteading Ways I’m can’t imagine your loss, but please don’t feel like you have to hide your pain. Let it out to others or I feel you will suffer more than needed. 💕
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I lost my beloved wife almost 5 months ago. She was 43 and fought for 1,5 years against a really rare Insulinom. We spent over 28 years together and I still don't have any clue how to get on. I feel sooo much with you. Keep going!
I'm so very sorry for your loss.
Please know, that along the way you will begin to once more see and hear the beauty of life.
You take babysteps, one foot in front of the other, and please accept those days, when you just don't want to get out of bed.
Be kind to yourself, and like you wrote: Keep going!🦋
Hugs to you
@@piaogilvie8463 Thank you for your warm words. Boy, it's 5 years now. And I am still there. Unbelieveable. I had to smile at one word you wrote: Babysteps. My wife always used to say that whe nwe had to work on whatever big task or tried to solve a problem. And it's true and the best adviece to give. Well, here I am. Still heartbroken and some times a bit desperate, but I'm here. Again, thank you!
We love you, Becca, and grieve with you, though we haven’t met. Much love always. ❤️🙏❤️🇨🇦
Don’t give in, don’t give up ❤️
Never give in, never give up.
Ooh BECCA, OUR HEART'S GO OUT TO YOU WITH LOVE & SUPPORT. YOU ARE TRULY AN AMAZING BEAUTIFUL YOUNG LADY BECCA xx.
You never have to apologize for the videos. You've been an amazing wife to Dan and thank you for continuing his legacy #dontgiveindontgiveup
I feel your pain. The funeral will be hard for you and everyone. It hurt me like hell at my mother's funeral. I miss her terribly and find it so frustrating that I cant show her or talk to her. You just learn to live with it but for me it doesn't get any easier
Lee, I am sorry for your loss. I also just lost my mother on August 30. The pain and emptiness I feel is unbearable at times. Seeing what Dan went through helps to put things into perspective at times, yet it can't erase the pain of my own loss. I wish you, myself, and everyone grieving an immense loss much strength as we take things one day at a time. It's all we can do.
Sending love and support to you, Becca. My partner passed in 2012 from complications from breast cancer. Following Dan's journey for all the months has helped me in my own healing process even 6 years later. As a young widower I now understand it is a lifetime journey of healing, and I have a much better understanding of what my partner was going through internally. Dan tried to prepared you for what was to come and he was so incredibly fortunate to have you and your love and support. I send you strength and peace and hope from many miles away and hope that you are able to continue to find comfort and support in the multitude of love and kindness that surrounds you and your and Dan's family. Peace & Love
Even with these uploads I still expect him to jump in and go ta taa. And it's such a weird realisation that that is never going to happen again but still I keep expecting it or wondering about it. Much strength to you and his family friends and other people here!
Yeah, for a spit second I forget he's gone, see the new video and fill with excitement. And then the realisation dawns on me :(.
Thank you for being here with us and for us, and letting us have a little space in your life too.
Feel for you so much lovely lady. Lost my husband to esophageal cancer coming up for 2 years ago. All you can do is ride the emotion. People used to say to me, time heals. I used to think, yeah, the pain is awful but I never want to 'get over it', he's too much of an important person to me, the loss is too great. Yeah, it does get easier but he will always be a part of me. With regards to the feather, I think that's awesome. On our son's birthday, 9 months after Brian died, I was vacuuming up and spotted one of Brian's blood testing strips (he was type one diabetic) on the floor in front of me. I'd vacuumed and cleaned so many times before and thought I'd got rid of all his medication stuff. I believe it was him saying happy birthday. :)
You have the most beautiful voice and way of speaking ❤️
She does. Beautiful inside and out.
I forth this :)
This literally came up on my recommended today. I don’t know you but your courage through all the pain is admirable. Honestly, I was sat here like, “he’s an absolute soldier!” And this beautiful spirit doesn’t deserve this heartache of losing the one she loves. I hope you are as happy as you can be now and the memories have turned your pain and despair into happiness. Much love and keep your head high!
Dans spirit will live on through you and his family
Exactly not much more can be said
These videos always make me cry. But i can't stop watching them. I'm so sorry Becca i wish i could help you!!! 😢 😢
Me to
Me too
Me to...💕
I can see why Dan loved you Becca. You are a good person....
Becca, you've a wonderful presence on camera. Dan is watching this and SO PROUD of you. Not only is Dan proud of you, but we are too. Thank you for keeping this going, for however long you feel you want to do so. People feel a connection to Dan through you and this channel. Thank you for posting. We're all here for as long as you want us to be. 🇬🇧 Xx
donnalady1982 it’s true! She has a wonderful presence on camera! Like Dan!
donnalady1982 ”Dan is watching you” Well I hope he would. But hes dead. He doesnt watch anything anymore, ever. Which Im sorry for but still. I dont think lies like this help us. Rest in Peace Dan.
@@theplanespotterguy whatever dude.. you don't have to always be factual to express empathy to another person. This is the way I chose to express how I feel and I'd like it if you could respect that. Please don't reply.
Aviation Enthusiast At the age of 37 and having experienced psychics since I was 15, I can categorically say you are wrong.
donnalady1982 I have to reply :)
I get that this might help her. But I just wanted to check If you actually believed what you were saying.
I appreciate people like you at least try to help her.
That is a wonderful quality to have, despite some of us not subscribing to all of it.
Becca you’re beautiful and well spoken. I see the pain in your eyes and my heart breaks for you. Hugs princess Dan is with you always.
Lovely, lovely young woman. Stay strong and enjoy life as much as you can. With Dan in your heart and mind. Thinking of you all. *hugs and love*
Be thinking of you all tomorrow god bless you all xxxxx
Dan's life was a blessing.
God bless you, you are in my prayers xxx 🙏
I think about him every day :( He was a real enrichment to our world. Stayed positive till the end. Never gave up.
Rest in peace
Hi Becca, I can only imagine how hard it must be for you to vlog knowing you weren’t a fan of it. To me that just shows your commitment to Dan to keep his legacy alive. You guys shared more love in your short time together than a lot of couples do in a lifetime. Hold on to those precious memories. And above all stay strong as a family. Much love to you, Ben, Matt, & Momma & Papa Toms. Such lovely people. I am so blessed to have been able to follow Dan on his journey for the last 6mo. He will never know just how much he truly changed my life and put things into perspective for me. Love, Terri from Texas
Thank you for this. I needed it. You are a star that shines bright for him and I just can’t imagine the feelings you are dealing with. My mother is started chemo Monday and today was a tough day at the doctors. Coming across this video made me smile. Blessings to you!!!!!
That was a pleasant video.
Thank you for making it!
yes i enjoyed it to! it was so peaceful and comforting and sooo relatable in the same but different kind of ways :)
Those were amazing words Becca. Dan would be so proud of you. God bless you and your family on Monday. 💜
He was an Amazing Soul,and he will continue to Live through You and the family.I know he continues to help me,Live your Life.🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I miss his vlogs, I think he was an amazing man with a real gift for showing us how to live even facing our own death. We are all strong for you Becca and for Dan’s family too. 💕
That was heartfelt and REAL. Thank you.
Becca you're wonderful, you're so well spoken, when my uncle passed away from cancer in March ever since small white feathers have floated into our garden, it never happened before and I hold onto the belief that he's sending them to me as a sign. Hold onto what makes you feel comforted!
Beca there is not a day that I do not keep you above all in my prayers, you have him the light in his eyes and the smile on his face. You will get through this but it will be hard. Keep strong and remember it's not only Dan who has left amazing memories but you also. Be kind to yourself, laugh and don't feel guilty cherish the times you spent with Dan and live life for him.
That was Beautiful! My mom came to my home for her first visit after my father passed and as we were talking outside in my backyard a big beautiful white feather dropped down from the sky right between us! Just one! We felt the same way you do.You are right even though you know the end is near it doesn’t make it easier. My father passed of cancer a few years ago. Never doubt Dan’s love and peace is surrounding you! No more pain and wanting you to live your best life! Dan was and is a bright and beautiful light that we so badly need in this dark world. He brought together people of all ages from across the world to share in his journey! What an amazing human being! Much love and respect to you and the family! Thank you for continuing to share your journey! 💖
Well said.
Beautiful words 💕
Beautiful video ❤️❤️❤️🙌🏻 thankyou ❤️❤️❤️
You’re all a credit handling it all with such grace. Hope you all get through it
I know the grieving process all too well. Lost my mother in 2008 after a lengthy illness. I will admit it never completely stops, it never goes away. It just becomes part of you, it adds to the description of who you are. You learn to embrace it as just part of who you are, your life experience. And yes, it becomes easier to smile when you remember the person you love who is no longer here. You can think of them without feeling crushing sorrow. The joy of having known and loved them returns, it rises above the grief. Becca, you're an amazing woman and you have so many people out here that you've never met that are in your corner. Thank you for being you, for being there for Dan. I hope your journey back to being ok is swift. Hugs!
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Wonderful video, such a brave, amazing girl. Dan was proud of you, proud to call you his wife. Stay strong, Becca, lots of love to you and Dans family.
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Am so sorry Becca for Dan's passing. We love you beautiful lady and thanks for sharing your feelings with us. Beautuful lightung in the background 😊
Wow...I'm completely blown away..she is absolutely amazing and incredible
I agree. She seems so sweet! I can see why he loved her.
Thank you for checking in. I wish you two had more time together. I know you made the most of the time you did have, though. I hope sweet Polly is doing well. Love from Ohio.
You are so sweet...Dan is somewhere right now with a great big grin on his face after hearing that. We all love you both.
Your so strong Becca , thank you for sharing & keeping Dan’s moments alive ~ much much love from Florida
She's not "strong", she is cold
Lots of love being sent your way Becky. 💕
We are deeply sorry for your loss. Im sure he is just around the corner always guiding you. You have a genuine and beautiful heart, no wonder dan really loves you ❤️ i pray you heal from the loss. Stay strong. And we all love you too
Becca you are never alone. Sending you hugs.
I hope so, too, Becca. I have my own little moments about Dan. I imagine he'll always be with you in one form or another. I got to know Dan through his first video. He was such a goof, but SO impressive that I subscribed. I never subscribe to people...just people with products. But Dan was quick to reply to my comment so I was hooked. I never really thought he'd go...and still have trouble thinking it's real. I cannot imagine life for you all now. Just know that those of is who followed him really do care about you. You were a special Angel sent to him as his beauty was leaving this world. I believe that. I have to believe that.
Stay well, lovely Becca. You are loved. 🌹🍁🍂🍃⚘
His leaving still hits so hard, doesn't it?
Be comforted Becca that we support you!! It will take time to adjust to the loss of your beloved Dan! We are there for you!!
Thank you for sharing this with us Becky. I’m so happy Dan had you by his side. He was so happy on your wedding day. You both just gleamed with joy. I wish you every happiness. May God be with you and the family. 💕❤️🙏🏻
RIP my lovely Sunshine ❤⚘👐. We miss you so much Dan 😢😢😢 fly high 👐👐👐
I’m sitting here, just after midnight after randomly being suggested one of his videos.
I think of all the people I love, and if they were to be gone one day because of cancer. I’m a big ol mean, grumpy Marine veteran, and I’m just wiping away tears like I haven’t in ages. Dan seemed to have really been one of a kind, and his story is so incredibly... raw. And touching.
This poor girl, and his poor family. Their heartbreak is something I’m glad to not have felt, and pray I never experience. Warms my heart to see his story has touched so many people and encourages them to lead better and more fulfilled lives.
Cancer is a cruel bitch. I hope one day we see a cure for such a vile thing that can kill even the most exceptional, strong, and good people in the world. Rest In Peace Dan.
When Dan posted his last video in hospice, I broke down crying..praying that somehow a miracle would still happen so you guys could spend some more time together. When I heard of his passing, I was devastated. My husband had to console me. I felt like I knew Dan. He was always so open and friendly to everyone who reached out to him. Even when he wasn't feeling well, he never took a day for granted. Dan will always be a huge inspiration for me to never give up. I don't have cancer, but I do have a debilitating disease called crps. When I wanted to give up, Dan always reminded me that if he could go through something so hard with a smile on his face, then I should too. RIP DAN!! Ta ta...until we meet again!
Christy In The Carolina's that video is when i wrote my goodbye to him because i could see where it was going in the coming days. Im so happy he did that video to show us all it was time to go and telling us he was in to much pain and stuff knowingly saying goodbye without actually saying it outloud. His family and wife will bring us all the same feelings in time i feel.
I am in tears,Dan sent U that Feather Becky 2 Let U Know He was Right By Ur Side,May U Continue 2 See More Signs From Dan🙏🏾🙏🏾