Speaking as someone with personal experience I find it’s better for mom to talk for the younger children but once they reach 13 the child if they are comfortable should talk for themselves
i feel like they should do both and later ask the child bc the mom might be able to explain the reality of the situation better but at the same time, the daughter will still be getting a voice
That is the big problem, people with ADHD have difficulties answering these types of questions and people with absolutely no knowledge of ADHD just looks upon the sitution as if the kid didn´t have a problem and now because the mother doesn't have any other option but help the kid by talking "for" the kid she is contolling and a bad mother. This makes me soooooo sad and mad.
As someone with ADHD, these karens trigger the hell outta me. I used to go to a doctor and feel horrible when I was put on the spot making me feel like I did something wrong. Horrible
Yeah me too, I’m now going to a therapy and he said to not listen to the voice in my head😑 HOW THE HECK AM I NOT SUPPOSED to listen to the VOICE IN MY HEAD! If I’m the only one that goes through this and no one understands even my parents got lost in my mind
Retal Saman hey!!!! I hope your doing well.sorry but if I may ask it’s ok not to answer but my 6 year old is adhd, most likely add and autism.he hears voices he smashes he’s head.now he’s not embarrassed to tell me cause the house has got calmer he actually says he hears screaming and words.how would you describe.i mean.....I have others around that have adhd but no one speaks of the voices it would be interesting to get a Insight 🙂❤️❤️❤️
My daughter has ADHD and I always let her answer the doctors questions. If she doesn't know what to say she looks up at me then thats when I answer for her.
Children should know that it’s ok to speak their minds. Most kids with adhd habe parents that either pays them very little attention or flat out just abandon them
Same. Ut my 6yo rarely will answer unless its her nuerologist or OT Were working on her answering for herself but she gets too anxious and looks down. Bot an issue when home.
I do the same -as the daughter. I let my mom talk for me and i’ll definitely correct her if she says something untrue. Im really introverted and have difficulty speaking to strangers or even my own family members especially eye contact, my worst nightmare..
Kids know how they feel. My mom was great at letting me speak for myself when doctors would ask “How does she feel?” my mom would say “She can speak for herself”
@Lizzie Swinarski because she has no form of serious conversation with the doctor so the mother will guide her and respond on it you can see that when the doctor is asking her she has delay on some of it because as you see she has mental health issues
@Evyn Ellis Oh I take very literal (because of my disorder), so I cant really determine tones and sarcasm easily. Also its over the internet. Sorry if it upset you.
THATS NOT HOW PSYCHOLOGIST WORK. The patient isn’t even answering her own questions that are being asked which tells that these answers are totally biased.
There are parents like this , they think they know everything about their child so they think they can answer for them , but it’s just plain rude to assume you know everything about someone and what it’s like to be them when your not
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One, i think its scripted and two my mom used to answer questions for me at the doctor’s too. I was shy but I was open with my mom and my mom knows when I truly don’t feel good or when I just need a check up. I haven’t had to answer these kinds of questions but not necessarily in this situation, some kids may not feel comfortable or feel shy speaking to a doctor so parents answer for them. I think its fine if parents do that as long as the parent truly understands and hopefully the kid expresses how they feel so the parent can say it for them. And no, my mom isn’t controlling, like I said I was shy and I was like that with most people I just met or certain people I would even see often. I understand the patient is supposed to answer but in some situations the parent knows or is just trying to get an answer whether that makes them a Karen or not.
@@emilymae2155 ok but no matter how open you are to a parent they simply can’t know everything about how your feeling and they can very easily word what you say to them in a way that throws the doctor completely off what’s happening . The only person that understands the patients experience is the patient them self .
@@sunnirobertson4316 hey if I ask you how to recognize that Plz can you help me bcz I don't think my parents will let me go for a therapist I am having a lot of mood swings And I always talk to myself and you what's the worst part is I don't talk to myself in my native language I don't even think in my native one And one minitue I am crying and them I found myself laughing idk ... how to describe it And I found myself getting angry all the time and regretting later about that plzz 🙏 I know you're not a Dr but as a person Can you tell me that is there a possibility that I could have a mental disorder
•۵Perk Jiman•۵ tell him to stop if it makes you uncomfortable because if you don’t tell him he won’t know it’s making you uncomfortable unless he does know and is doing it on purpose
Even though this is fake, the fact they think that's how it's supposed to go, only shows that children are treated as second rate humans. They're people too. I was a kid with adhd and all the stuff they had me involved in ended up messing up a lot of things for me in my life. People talk as thoughadhd is such a problem but the people who try to control it are the real problem.
ADHD CAN be a real problem for some people. For those individuals, NOT controlling it is somehow better??? If you can manage it's impact on your life then, good for you. If you can't, you need to find a way to "control" it, no?
My mom is just like this Karen. I can never get a proper diagnosis because my mom always answers the questions for me so they never know what I’m feeling
I have not got adhd but dyslexia and dyspraxia and if anyone talked about ,e like that I probable have screamed at them and slapped them even if it fake it is a good training not how to talk to a young person
I’ve got ADHD, raising me was hard because I was wild, and I did fight. Medication wasn’t working, and it just was something I had to deal with until I got into my older teen years. It’s very much still there, but I can now control how I behave when I’m around people better.
I have ADHD and I was described as a “high maintenance” child. I was super disorganized, disruptive, aggressive when I was angry, stubborn, and forgetful.
No cure, but do things that will keep you busy😀i have adhd but it was wayyy worse as a child and finally started to understand to work around my energy when im sitting in one spot or being very impatient
I’ve seen this in real life. It becomes a “knee jerk” response of the parent. Because the child is repeatedly “checking out,” not answering, zoning out, annoyed, shutting down, the parents jump in all the time. If the child didn’t have adhd, she’d be less bored and more inclined to speak. But that’s just stating the obvious.
The problem is that she is a normal healthy child with an overbearing mother and a school system that requires dumbing her down. I know! Conformist tablets!
No. The problem is that she has ADHD. Helicopter mother aside, there is something off about this girl. This girl might end up becoming that type of adult who’s going from one job to another, one relationship to another, chaotic, rude, etc. best the adults do what they can to help her now.
why are they talking about her in front of her. involve her... if she doesn't want to talk it's probably because you approach her as if she's 3 years old.
Sadly it happens all the time. I have a physical disability and growing up doctors never talked to me, always my parents. Out in the community too, everyone talks to the parents/person I am with. As I became an adult, going to new doctors is hard because a lot of questions I still cannot answer. At 38, I advocate the hell out of life, only to be treated less than because I have a disability. I know most people do not do this intentionally, which I am very understanding of, but when you have to self advocate for every little thing, it takes its toll.
Look at her behavior. Various times the doctor re-directed her attention only to be “ignored.” At which point the mother kept interjecting. The child’s behavior is part of the problem, and part of the reason why she’s not being involved the way you think she should be.
@@greg5892 Because you have ADHD. Anyone who doesn't can see the behavior patterns. Yeah the mom is a pain in the butt, but the child's behavior is in keeping with her disorder.
I have a child with autism and ADHD and I always let her answer the questions for herself. She would know best because it’s her mind, not mine. This mom is super annoying trying to answer for her child, especially right in front of her child. She should speak to the DR privately!
It’s like this mom takes pleasure in how “knowledgeable” she is of her daughter’s challenges, having no idea what the problem is when the problem is her.
I have hdhd and when i was acting out they put me on medication and it made me a lot worse and i stopped eating and sleeping aswell as getting depression and anxiety and one day my parents took me off my medication and my teachers told me i was doing fantastically well that day and after my dad found out he was livid ,these supposed 'specialists' gave me the wrong medicine and diagnosed me with adhd in a very mild form and gave me the wrong dosage, so after that i completley stopped taking the medicine anf i have grown soooo much over the years i am doing well in all my subjects but most particularly art and technology studies (buildings and architecture) In the end it isnt a bad things to have hdhd its what makes us human and its not a good idea to worry about labeling yourself as HDHD because why do you have to conform to what a person that doesnt even know you says
ADHD wasn't a 'thing' when I was at school. I just got sent to the headmaster or the library. I spent so much time in the library that I ended up collecting antique books as an adult! They also had me tutoring the younger kids in the end, which was great. I never learned how to remember things without an organiser/notes/lists/phone reminders, as my brain just doesn't work that way. But as difficult as it was, I'm glad I wasn't just medicated as I was forced to learn alternative coping methods that I still use today. Now I can build my own version of a 'school' for kids that are having the same issues. I don't think classroom-based learning works for everyone, or that it even SHOULD work for everyone.
Really do you know the earliest test date’s back to the 1700s. The meds are the reason I can make my beds with ease and really help when you find the right one for you x
It’s like any condition it has always existed and adhd exists it’s very real trust me on that one, and many get diagnoses to be heard and feel seen. Hence me at 14 hiding in the bathroom for being given a detention for forgetting my homework diary and feeling very lost and in tears, and at 10 to be told I wasn’t clever enough when all along it wasn’t about me being thick/dumb but that I had adhd and I needed a different method. Just like cars need different types off petrol and the fuel is very different they aren’t the same x
As someone with ADHD, talking for me is like solving algebra. When I go quiet or look at my grandparents or just start saying "uh.., um-, I dunno" my grandparents will answer the question for me. But for me I don't know how to really express my feelings so I let my grandparents talk
As someone who suffers from ADHD, I hate how the mom keeps answering the questions for her daughter. The daughter is completely capable of answering questions on her own.
I act like that girl though 😕. I do fidget things constantly, I am irritable and I do feel anxious a lot sometimes. but I am never rude like she is and I never would say that to my Mom with that attitude 1:13 and if I did I would also say "Ow" because my Mom would spank me. 😉
Not everyone with ADHD acts exactly the same because of the mix of different types and ways the person express the symptoms , but that doesn’t mean there’s no way of her having ADHD
As a person with ADHD and autism my life is just like this, everything is messy, getting really mad easily, not getting enough sleep.and stuff like that
That "listen to my heart" that Mandy said to the doctor hit ne so hard. May God give this girl happiness, and a myriad of other people who are good in her life
I have ADHD and it is nothing like this. The parent has a classic case of know it all. I have never had a Doctor act like this with me. Simply, get diagnosed by a psychiatrist. Take medication if needed. I am 54 and have never taken meds for my ADHD. I do just fine, just a little faster than people around me. Learn to organize your time and thoughts.
The problem is that the mom answers all her questions and she thinks she knows why her daughter is struggling at school, it was the same for me I was really depressed and my mom answered so fast to the doctor and said yeah he’s fine never had any issues💀
This makes me so fucking angry, the exact same thing happened to me when i was 9. Treated like I was stupid and that something was wrong with me all the time. Let the girl speak and give her a chance. The way her mother stops her from fidgeting makes me so angry, it's so hard to sit still and she's trying her best. I'm 15 at the moment, almost 16 and i'm still being treated like i'm "special" and I got discharged because they "Couldn't help me". Bullshit. Child healthcare and mental health care is terrible and the doctors are jerks who shouldn't be working with kids.
I know that my mom left me at school to learn seventeen years ago before going to see the psychologist, but I don’t have a favorite school! I started seeing the psychologist when I was still in fourth grade after I threw a temper tantrum when my assistant couldn’t let me go upstairs to get my backpack and it stayed at school on the weekend, but I was able to bring it back home with me on a Monday! I spent the rest of my fifth grade year in the special Ed classroom for hitting that annoying black boy that I didn’t like.
As a observe of this video , I clearly see the girl give positive reactions to the doctor's questions. Mother from the other side gives negative reactions to doctor's questions. This make he daughter feel more frustrated and abbandment. BEST WAY TO UNDERSTAND THE BRAIN IS TO UNDERSTAND THE PERSONS EMOTIONS. BE TRULY EMPATHIC WHEN YOU LISTEN. BLINK OF A EYE OR HUG FROM THE HEART CAN MAKE MIRACLES. As a Human don't lable your body parts. Understand it's propose.
i have it but only the Attention deficit part focusing is so hard for me! when i was little i had a little bit of hd part but it didn't show at school. because i had adhd i had an IEP which i would be pulled in a small group in different room then my classroom for tests and quizzes that i also had extra time on, also one part i hate about having this disorder is I still have trouble making friends! according to my mom i can be very socially awkward!
It’s all ADHD today. Even without being physically hyperactive, the brain is hyperactive in a way. It’s like how Asperger’s was put under Autism Spectrum Disorders.
I have ADHD (and asthma) lol and this ain't quite how the visits to the paediatrician/doctor go lol but ok also ppl are saying bout her not being able to talk for herself but some kids ik and me can't quite get the words out so sometimes its better and most the times the parents can explain it better
@@alegriart yh but some people like me have selective mutism and physically can't no matter what so before the appointment i write down things that i wanna share and then my mam reads it or some of my appointments it has take like 5 or 6 times meeting the person then i could probly talk just not much and they are ok about that and sometimes know in advance if i can't talk then i write it and my mam reads it and i will nod yes or no to questions i also use bsl to help but because ik some and not alot then it can be harder
@@alegriart My son has a very difficult time verbalizing because of several different disorders. A parent that supports their child and recognizes their strengths and weaknesses is a parent who accepts their child for who they are. A short doctor's appointment, that the family has been waiting for, is not the place to take time to improve cognitive and social development. We practice before going to appointments, my son knows why we are going to the appointment, we review everything that he feels the need to address and I support him during the appointment so we can all use the time as efficiently as possible. This dramatization is terribly offputting and I don't know about you but I have never sat in a doctor's office in such a configuration. Remember the parent is trying to help their child succeed in life. I would be neglectful if I didn't help my child in the ways he needs help. We are all unique and each of us has a unique way of being in the world. Getting help is one way I can understand how my child experiences the world and in turn I can educate, have fun, and love my child in the way he will understand.
Fortunately, my mom allowed me to answer all questions. I sincerely believe if I had such a mother in this video, I would have screamed outloud, please shut up and allow me to think.
The whole thing is scripted (for teaching purposes). However, the mom answering all the questions for her and the constant talking and jumping from person to person... It's enough to drive anyone crazy. I would have asked the mom to leave the room and just taken a minute to calm the environment and then have a calm conversation with Maddy. Reduce the stimuli and then you'll get A LOT more of her attention
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i just feel so bad for this girl because pepole are pressuring this poor girl and i have adhd and i had it when i was young and sitting between your mom and a doctor being put on the spot making you feel like you did something wrong
I was friends with someone who suffers from ADHD he was hard to teach sometimes when I was at college as he didn’t always pick certain things up straight away
I have depression anxiety and ADHD and it was really hard growing up and it still is. I'm a junior in high school and I don't recall any happy memories. That have lasted long I had to explain to my boyfriend what I was going thru just so he can understand if I act a certain way its. Not my fault
Imagine sitting between 2 Karen's talking smack about you.
ik right
That’s just me in family therapy... (I’ve been to many treatment centers)
M O exactly family therapy is bs
Yess
Lol
let the girl answer her questions
Your right
Speaking as someone with personal experience I find it’s better for mom to talk for the younger children but once they reach 13 the child if they are comfortable should talk for themselves
You're right..
Exactly🙄
i feel like they should do both and later ask the child bc the mom might be able to explain the reality of the situation better but at the same time, the daughter will still be getting a voice
I hate those moms who answer for there kids...
I guess she answered bc she isn’t answering
Yeah because the mom is trying to get the Adderall she never gonna give a single pill to her kid she go and take them all to stay skinny
@@kylietannenbaum530 um lol what?
That is the big problem, people with ADHD have difficulties answering these types of questions and people with absolutely no knowledge of ADHD just looks upon the sitution as if the kid didn´t have a problem and now because the mother doesn't have any other option but help the kid by talking "for" the kid she is contolling and a bad mother. This makes me soooooo sad and mad.
My mum does that to me and I’m 17, I have autism and when I get angry at her for doing that she yells at me and triggers a meltdown-
As someone with ADHD, these karens trigger the hell outta me. I used to go to a doctor and feel horrible when I was put on the spot making me feel like I did something wrong. Horrible
Yeah me too, I’m now going to a therapy and he said to not listen to the voice in my head😑 HOW THE HECK AM I NOT SUPPOSED to listen to the VOICE IN MY HEAD! If I’m the only one that goes through this and no one understands even my parents got lost in my mind
Got any tips?
I have ADHD as well and have had to sit in tons of meetings about it and this happens all of the time I feel you
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Retal Saman hey!!!! I hope your doing well.sorry but if I may ask it’s ok not to answer but my 6 year old is adhd, most likely add and autism.he hears voices he smashes he’s head.now he’s not embarrassed to tell me cause the house has got calmer he actually says he hears screaming and words.how would you describe.i mean.....I have others around that have adhd but no one speaks of the voices it would be interesting to get a Insight 🙂❤️❤️❤️
My daughter has ADHD and I always let her answer the doctors questions. If she doesn't know what to say she looks up at me then thats when I answer for her.
And that is a good mother.
Ty for being a good mom.
Children should know that it’s ok to speak their minds. Most kids with adhd habe parents that either pays them very little attention or flat out just abandon them
Same. Ut my 6yo rarely will answer unless its her nuerologist or OT
Were working on her answering for herself but she gets too anxious and looks down. Bot an issue when home.
I do the same -as the daughter.
I let my mom talk for me and i’ll definitely correct her if she says something untrue. Im really introverted and have difficulty speaking to strangers or even my own family members especially eye contact, my worst nightmare..
Kids know how they feel. My mom was great at letting me speak for myself when doctors would ask “How does she feel?” my mom would say “She can speak for herself”
Same, :)
My mom is the opposite
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Same
My parents are the same. They will input their options/concerns in but mostly they let me talk.
This is so painfully fake 😂
Asanti Das it’s not it happend to me
It's real?....
Leopard _Dreams nah the video’s obviously fake 😂
It’s real my Friend had a asthma attack on the floor
Zara’s stuff I have ADHD is the same symptoms as I have dummy
All those negative things being said about her, she’s gonna think there’s something wrong with her, just listen to the girl to be able understand her.
agree.... they are all shaming her. and teachers shouldnt yell at kids with disabilities. in fact , they shouldnt yell at kids at all
And she didn’t even get to listen to her heart beat :/
They said after they do something at the end
Why are they talking to her like that? And also the mom SHOULD NOT be talking for her!!
@Lizzie Swinarski because she has no form of serious conversation with the doctor so the mother will guide her and respond on it you can see that when the doctor is asking her she has delay on some of it because as you see she has mental health issues
@Evyn Ellis No its not, the kids should be able to tell people what is going on. No one can talk for someones feelings.
@Evyn Ellis Oh I take very literal (because of my disorder), so I cant really determine tones and sarcasm easily. Also its over the internet. Sorry if it upset you.
I think it was because she wasn’t answering the docter
THATS NOT HOW PSYCHOLOGIST WORK.
The patient isn’t even answering her own questions that are being asked which tells that these answers are totally biased.
There are parents like this , they think they know everything about their child so they think they can answer for them , but it’s just plain rude to assume you know everything about someone and what it’s like to be them when your not
Most parents actually act like this at kids appointments
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One, i think its scripted and two my mom used to answer questions for me at the doctor’s too. I was shy but I was open with my mom and my mom knows when I truly don’t feel good or when I just need a check up. I haven’t had to answer these kinds of questions but not necessarily in this situation, some kids may not feel comfortable or feel shy speaking to a doctor so parents answer for them. I think its fine if parents do that as long as the parent truly understands and hopefully the kid expresses how they feel so the parent can say it for them. And no, my mom isn’t controlling, like I said I was shy and I was like that with most people I just met or certain people I would even see often. I understand the patient is supposed to answer but in some situations the parent knows or is just trying to get an answer whether that makes them a Karen or not.
@@emilymae2155 ok but no matter how open you are to a parent they simply can’t know everything about how your feeling and they can very easily word what you say to them in a way that throws the doctor completely off what’s happening . The only person that understands the patients experience is the patient them self .
As someone with ADHD, I feel for this girl. This hits hard…
@yayy it is a disorder that affects your mood and how you think.
@yayy no problem
@@sunnirobertson4316 hey if I ask you how to recognize that
Plz can you help me bcz I don't think my parents will let me go for a therapist I am having a lot of mood swings And I always talk to myself and you what's the worst part is I don't talk to myself in my native language I don't even think in my native one And one minitue I am crying and them I found myself laughing idk ... how to describe it And I found myself getting angry all the time and regretting later about that plzz 🙏 I know you're not a Dr but as a person Can you tell me that is there a possibility that I could have a mental disorder
I have autism and I hate it, tbh I wish I had ADHD instead.
@@user-mv2rq6nk5w well that could be something else.
The mother is the crazy manipulative person
No she is not shut up.
Ik ;-;
Mhm.
This isn't real 😑
@@cayk9444 but if it was, that’s what they were saying
Nobody:
Not even a soul:
Me: looking at the mother touching/ squishing her daughters thigh 🤢
My father does that to me sometimes and it makes me feel uncomfortable
@@ifuckinglove.u213 damn that’s not uh good
@Madison Smith wow
•۵Perk Jiman•۵ tell him to stop if it makes you uncomfortable because if you don’t tell him he won’t know it’s making you uncomfortable unless he does know and is doing it on purpose
@@ifuckinglove.u213 that’s normal.
why does this look scripted and everybody seems like actor
Bc it is I’m pretty sure it ain’t real
Because it is a training video 😂
Cuz it's just that
Maybe because it was scripted? These are xamples
It is
A few years ago in my path to getting diagnosed this is basically how the appointments went. Then my mom wondered why they couldn’t diagnose me
Even though this is fake, the fact they think that's how it's supposed to go, only shows that children are treated as second rate humans. They're people too. I was a kid with adhd and all the stuff they had me involved in ended up messing up a lot of things for me in my life. People talk as thoughadhd is such a problem but the people who try to control it are the real problem.
ADHD CAN be a real problem for some people. For those individuals, NOT controlling it is somehow better??? If you can manage it's impact on your life then, good for you. If you can't, you need to find a way to "control" it, no?
Yeah people always try to fix someone or something...but it will be far more beautiful if our priority becomes caring than curing....
My mom is just like this Karen. I can never get a proper diagnosis because my mom always answers the questions for me so they never know what I’m feeling
I just let it happen because I don’t wanna be there and if I answer the questions we’ll be there longer.
Me too..
Same
That’s so dumb I’m so sorry
This is fake! I’m adhd and I would lose my shit, if I was treated like this. It’s insulting watching these type of things.
I have not got adhd but dyslexia and dyspraxia and if anyone talked about ,e like that I probable have screamed at them and slapped them even if it fake it is a good training not how to talk to a young person
It’s a training video
@@catherineculshaw2089 I can tell
I was one of those kids and doctors DID talk to me like that.
Yeah it’s obviously fake , it’s a training video . And just because you would lose your shit doesn’t mean every kid with ADHD would .
I’ve got ADHD, raising me was hard because I was wild, and I did fight. Medication wasn’t working, and it just was something I had to deal with until I got into my older teen years. It’s very much still there, but I can now control how I behave when I’m around people better.
Can u give me some tips for curing this things how to reduce this problem without going to doctor or having medication🥺😭😭😭 I am suffering
I have ADHD and I was described as a “high maintenance” child. I was super disorganized, disruptive, aggressive when I was angry, stubborn, and forgetful.
@@mahianelin4040 there isn’t a cure for ADHD but you can get treatment.
No cure, but do things that will keep you busy😀i have adhd but it was wayyy worse as a child and finally started to understand to work around my energy when im sitting in one spot or being very impatient
@@mahianelin4040 coke or any caffeine calms me down. It’s a fix. A unhealthy one, but it works
Part of Maddy's problem is that her mother jumps in and speaks for her so Maddy has learned she doesn't need to bother engaging with other people.
I’ve seen this in real life. It becomes a “knee jerk” response of the parent. Because the child is repeatedly “checking out,” not answering, zoning out, annoyed, shutting down, the parents jump in all the time. If the child didn’t have adhd, she’d be less bored and more inclined to speak. But that’s just stating the obvious.
True but would let someone like 8 or 10 talk to doctor
The problem is that she is a normal healthy child with an overbearing mother and a school system that requires dumbing her down. I know! Conformist tablets!
No. The problem is that she has ADHD. Helicopter mother aside, there is something off about this girl. This girl might end up becoming that type of adult who’s going from one job to another, one relationship to another, chaotic, rude, etc. best the adults do what they can to help her now.
@@zoolzool1 The thing that is off is that these are actors and its all been rehearsed.
why are they talking about her in front of her. involve her... if she doesn't want to talk it's probably because you approach her as if she's 3 years old.
Sadly it happens all the time. I have a physical disability and growing up doctors never talked to me, always my parents. Out in the community too, everyone talks to the parents/person I am with. As I became an adult, going to new doctors is hard because a lot of questions I still cannot answer. At 38, I advocate the hell out of life, only to be treated less than because I have a disability. I know most people do not do this intentionally, which I am very understanding of, but when you have to self advocate for every little thing, it takes its toll.
Look at her behavior. Various times the doctor re-directed her attention only to be “ignored.” At which point the mother kept interjecting. The child’s behavior is part of the problem, and part of the reason why she’s not being involved the way you think she should be.
@@zoolzool1 bullshit. It’s all the mom. I’d be over it too
@@greg5892 Because you have ADHD. Anyone who doesn't can see the behavior patterns. Yeah the mom is a pain in the butt, but the child's behavior is in keeping with her disorder.
I have a child with autism and ADHD and I always let her answer the questions for herself. She would know best because it’s her mind, not mine.
This mom is super annoying trying to answer for her child, especially right in front of her child. She should speak to the DR privately!
Every time the mom stops the fidget spinner it fills me with primal rage.
What she said about school- is SOO true 😂😂
I have ADHD and Asthma.oof
Same
Me too
Same it is HARD
I only have ADHD
So do I
Girl: takes a breath before speaking
her mom: ANSWER ME NOW
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I know multiple people with adhd, and with that being said this looks so painfully fake.
Not to mention the karens that are surrounding her.
It’s probably a re-enactment. If you weren’t an idiot you would have picked that up right away.
Wouldn't it be more helpful to see a REAL example of what ADHD looks like for clinical purposes
HIPPA laws
The people have a right to privacy and safe from exploitation. Would you like being filmed in private meetings like this one?
@@SandeepKaur-pz9gp many people are ok with it… if someone not ok with it they they won’t be forced to participate… simple
this angers me the way she is sitting i just can’t-
The way the mom is sitting? I agree, it’s iffy but apparently that’s the healthiest way for humans to sit.. puts zero strain on your tail bone
@@shitpostcentral1802 oh yh true but it’s so fake and they r treating the kid like sh!t its unbearable😂
@@chiaa.e yeah, I agree
The mom should let her talk...
It’s like this mom takes pleasure in how “knowledgeable” she is of her daughter’s challenges, having no idea what the problem is when the problem is her.
I don't have ADHD and those two really were annoying me. Poor child bless her. Maddy you survived 👏 🙌 ❤️
Her fidget spinner, but schools banned them and they help kids with adhd
I have hdhd and when i was acting out they put me on medication and it made me a lot worse and i stopped eating and sleeping aswell as getting depression and anxiety and one day my parents took me off my medication and my teachers told me i was doing fantastically well that day and after my dad found out he was livid ,these supposed 'specialists' gave me the wrong medicine and diagnosed me with adhd in a very mild form and gave me the wrong dosage, so after that i completley stopped taking the medicine anf i have grown soooo much over the years i am doing well in all my subjects but most particularly art and technology studies (buildings and architecture) In the end it isnt a bad things to have hdhd its what makes us human and its not a good idea to worry about labeling yourself as HDHD because why do you have to conform to what a person that doesnt even know you says
The fact that her mother won't let her move and keeps grabbing her hand.
ADHD wasn't a 'thing' when I was at school. I just got sent to the headmaster or the library. I spent so much time in the library that I ended up collecting antique books as an adult! They also had me tutoring the younger kids in the end, which was great. I never learned how to remember things without an organiser/notes/lists/phone reminders, as my brain just doesn't work that way. But as difficult as it was, I'm glad I wasn't just medicated as I was forced to learn alternative coping methods that I still use today. Now I can build my own version of a 'school' for kids that are having the same issues. I don't think classroom-based learning works for everyone, or that it even SHOULD work for everyone.
Really do you know the earliest test date’s back to the 1700s. The meds are the reason I can make my beds with ease and really help when you find the right one for you x
It’s like any condition it has always existed and adhd exists it’s very real trust me on that one, and many get diagnoses to be heard and feel seen. Hence me at 14 hiding in the bathroom for being given a detention for forgetting my homework diary and feeling very lost and in tears, and at 10 to be told I wasn’t clever enough when all along it wasn’t about me being thick/dumb but that I had adhd and I needed a different method. Just like cars need different types off petrol and the fuel is very different they aren’t the same x
Do you know how many times I have done a list or used notes? Millions and yet I still have persistent adhd
It’s not a thing it’s a brain type! It’s not part off it it’s the runner off our system! And should be known as executive dysfunction
That mom looks more of a patient than her daughter.
reminds me of my mother🙃 i try to answer things and my mother has to get involved. “well she’s very this and this”
I'm literally this child but 5 years older
As someone with ADHD, talking for me is like solving algebra. When I go quiet or look at my grandparents or just start saying "uh.., um-, I dunno" my grandparents will answer the question for me. But for me I don't know how to really express my feelings so I let my grandparents talk
KaReN: OH, NO, NO, NO she doesn’t get into fights
Me: *the real life bakugo*
*Mother please stop touching me. Always rubbing my thigh and touching my hair...go away*
As someone who suffers from ADHD, I hate how the mom keeps answering the questions for her daughter. The daughter is completely capable of answering questions on her own.
Exactly
Right. Like she's pissing me off so bad. She doesn't even want to be there. God, I hate those parents.
@@AlexMaitlandOfficial I know like damn bitch!, I love your username btw:))
@@sage_sage1553 tysm! (It's just a backup name for my main)
@@AlexMaitlandOfficial so it's " gay cloud"
This whole thing angers me 🥴
_I have ADHD and we don't act like that girl._
I act like that girl though 😕. I do fidget things constantly, I am irritable and I do feel anxious a lot sometimes.
but I am never rude like she is and I never would say that to my Mom with that attitude 1:13
and if I did I would also say "Ow" because my Mom would spank me. 😉
Not everyone with ADHD acts exactly the same because of the mix of different types and ways the person express the symptoms , but that doesn’t mean there’s no way of her having ADHD
@@Hannah-no8yh True
I act like that tho 💀
As a person with ADHD and autism my life is just like this, everything is messy, getting really mad easily, not getting enough sleep.and stuff like that
Same and top on that is my Generalized Anxiety Disorder. I’m not Glad about GAD
@@nerdgeekcosplay909 Glad to hear I'm not the only one! ^^
Same! I have ADHD and OCD and my life is just like that plus some anxiety as well.
The mom should have just observed from a window, so the child could speak for herself.
It’s a scripted video
The girl would still feel invaded from her mother's staring
@@WiseMfear3 NAW REALLy?
I suffered this many times, I was never listened and my mom was crazy so I couldn't say anything without it being told to my mom.
That "listen to my heart" that Mandy said to the doctor hit ne so hard. May God give this girl happiness, and a myriad of other people who are good in her life
THE MOM IS PISSING ME OFF ALSO THIS IS BRINGING BACK SOME MEMORIESSSSSS AGRGRGGHSRHSGF
They need to get parents out of the room so the kid can answer for themself and really explain what the feel
I enjoy being a security guard i enjoy helping people like this its quite the CHALLENGE FOR ME I DIG IT
THIS IS SO ANNOYING TO WATCH who chose these actors
I have anxiety and panic attacks and flashbacks PTSD because of my past and I have two panic attacks everyday at school
I have ADHD and it is nothing like this. The parent has a classic case of know it all. I have never had a Doctor act like this with me. Simply, get diagnosed by a psychiatrist. Take medication if needed. I am 54 and have never taken meds for my ADHD. I do just fine, just a little faster than people around me. Learn to organize your time and thoughts.
She is so cool.. she is perfectly alright.. i wish I could be very joyful like her..
Watching the mom stop that girl from fidgeting everytime just frustrates me a lot
It ticked me off so much how everyone was so bent on stopping her from playing with her fidget spinner - fidgeting often helps people with ADHD focus.
I thought the Dr. was going to discover it’s the Mom with a mental disorder!
The problem is that the mom answers all her questions and she thinks she knows why her daughter is struggling at school, it was the same for me I was really depressed and my mom answered so fast to the doctor and said yeah he’s fine never had any issues💀
Oh my gosh that's so jarring the doctor is asking her the questions but the mum keeps flipping answering
With all my heart I pray to God she has a beautiful & happy life. if we ever find people like this around us. Lets help and support them.
Amen
The only person needing help is her mom and the person who came up with the title of this video
Why is this giving me The Act vibes
Maddy, u make me cry...and aunt also have a special child like u...thats why, u are also very special...❤
As someone with ADHD and Autism, I can definitely feel the hardships that this girl is having.
Life’s hard
i have autism and i have no friends only youtube/roblox ones
This makes me so fucking angry, the exact same thing happened to me when i was 9. Treated like I was stupid and that something was wrong with me all the time. Let the girl speak and give her a chance. The way her mother stops her from fidgeting makes me so angry, it's so hard to sit still and she's trying her best. I'm 15 at the moment, almost 16 and i'm still being treated like i'm "special" and I got discharged because they "Couldn't help me". Bullshit. Child healthcare and mental health care is terrible and the doctors are jerks who shouldn't be working with kids.
I have adhd,ocd, sensory disorder, depression, and stutter, and the WORST! BIPOLORRRRRRRRR
If the mother would've shut up for 5 seconds, that scene would have been much more productive.
Wonderful. Very enjoyable to watch. Thank u
Karen has ADHD herself and she suffocates the hell outta that sweet child.
I know that my mom left me at school to learn seventeen years ago before going to see the psychologist, but I don’t have a favorite school! I started seeing the psychologist when I was still in fourth grade after I threw a temper tantrum when my assistant couldn’t let me go upstairs to get my backpack and it stayed at school on the weekend, but I was able to bring it back home with me on a Monday! I spent the rest of my fifth grade year in the special Ed classroom for hitting that annoying black boy that I didn’t like.
When I was a kid, I was not present mentally on the conversation, but I pretended I was following all the time
As a observe of this video , I clearly see the girl give positive reactions to the doctor's questions.
Mother from the other side gives negative reactions to doctor's questions. This make he daughter feel more frustrated and abbandment.
BEST WAY TO UNDERSTAND THE BRAIN IS TO UNDERSTAND THE PERSONS EMOTIONS. BE TRULY EMPATHIC WHEN YOU LISTEN.
BLINK OF A EYE OR HUG FROM THE HEART CAN MAKE MIRACLES.
As a Human don't lable your body parts.
Understand it's propose.
i have it but only the Attention deficit part focusing is so hard for me! when i was little i had a little bit of hd part but it didn't show at school. because i had adhd i had an IEP which i would be pulled in a small group in different room then my classroom for tests and quizzes that i also had extra time on, also one part i hate about having this disorder is I still have trouble making friends! according to my mom i can be very socially awkward!
It’s all ADHD today. Even without being physically hyperactive, the brain is hyperactive in a way. It’s like how Asperger’s was put under Autism Spectrum Disorders.
Anyone else notice how overbearing mom seems
shes not a karen shes concerned
as someone with adhd this kinda triggered me tbh. it’s so true how nobody understands how it is
May god bless this cute girl😭🙏🏻🙏🏻
😭❤❤🙏ditto
It's not real ...
I have ADHD (and asthma) lol and this ain't quite how the visits to the paediatrician/doctor go lol but ok also ppl are saying bout her not being able to talk for herself but some kids ik and me can't quite get the words out so sometimes its better and most the times the parents can explain it better
@@alegriart yh but some people like me have selective mutism and physically can't no matter what so before the appointment i write down things that i wanna share and then my mam reads it or some of my appointments it has take like 5 or 6 times meeting the person then i could probly talk just not much and they are ok about that and sometimes know in advance if i can't talk then i write it and my mam reads it and i will nod yes or no to questions i also use bsl to help but because ik some and not alot then it can be harder
@@alegriart My son has a very difficult time verbalizing because of several different disorders. A parent that supports their child and recognizes their strengths and weaknesses is a parent who accepts their child for who they are. A short doctor's appointment, that the family has been waiting for, is not the place to take time to improve cognitive and social development. We practice before going to appointments, my son knows why we are going to the appointment, we review everything that he feels the need to address and I support him during the appointment so we can all use the time as efficiently as possible. This dramatization is terribly offputting and I don't know about you but I have never sat in a doctor's office in such a configuration. Remember the parent is trying to help their child succeed in life. I would be neglectful if I didn't help my child in the ways he needs help. We are all unique and each of us has a unique way of being in the world. Getting help is one way I can understand how my child experiences the world and in turn I can educate, have fun, and love my child in the way he will understand.
@@flyingpotatogamer0336 what’s selective mutism, if I may ask?
As someone with ADHD, i completely understand her
Fortunately, my mom allowed me to answer all questions. I sincerely believe if I had such a mother in this video, I would have screamed outloud, please shut up and allow me to think.
The mom needs to let her answer the questions herself
I feel as this is my mom almost sadly
Anger Management Place & Mental Health Care is Agape Psychological.
As a person with adhd the way her mum as acting is so frustrating cuz my mum used to do the same thing and it makes everything worse
People like this trigger my flight or fight like Let the kid answer-
The whole thing is scripted (for teaching purposes). However, the mom answering all the questions for her and the constant talking and jumping from person to person... It's enough to drive anyone crazy.
I would have asked the mom to leave the room and just taken a minute to calm the environment and then have a calm conversation with Maddy.
Reduce the stimuli and then you'll get A LOT more of her attention
For someone with ADHD and even autism, You Don't Stop The Child From Playing With and Spinning The Fidget Spinner. It Helps Keep Them Distracted From Their High Stimulation!
i just feel so bad for this girl because pepole are pressuring this poor girl and i have adhd and i had it when i was young and sitting between your mom and a doctor being put on the spot making you feel like you did something wrong
Omg let the poor kid play with her fidget spinner!
vaccination,asthma,medication ...never ending story :(
This is exactly how it feels and goes. It’s good acting….
Adults think this determined condition is a problem. 🤦♂️🤦♂️
I was friends with someone who suffers from ADHD he was hard to teach sometimes when I was at college as he didn’t always pick certain things up straight away
Can u ask him some tips for me 🥺
I have depression anxiety and ADHD and it was really hard growing up and it still is. I'm a junior in high school and I don't recall any happy memories. That have lasted long I had to explain to my boyfriend what I was going thru just so he can understand if I act a certain way its. Not my fault
How you act IS your fault. Work on that English. I’m sure it’s not your fault you are illiterate as well.
@@TheBeefSlayer yes, you are right!
@@TheBeefSlayer ??
@@silly2974 yep
@@manglegirl4976 you are excused. In every language.
These people just don’t know how to work with ADHD, you just have to be very patient and do things to keep them engaged
Omg so much touching. I would stand up to breath more