Should You Date or Focus on Yourself?
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Hamza give your video editor payrise. This episode was way better animated than others.
Siema czlowieku
Adonis + Pillar Men Theme from JoJo can NEVER go wrong!
@@excellentu.a.student1617 FAX
He got a new editor and it isnât me đ he made an application on discord about needing a new editor and if you wanted to apply you could edit a video of him with a green screen. He pays the editors very much. Like ÂŁ60 for every minute of the intro and ÂŁ15 a minute for the rest.
This has a better animation than the seven deadly sins
âStay away from those people who try to disparage your ambitions. Small minds will always do that, but great minds will give you a feeling that you can become great too.â - Mark Twain
Yes sir!!
Well said!
Actually im going to put this into action. Very wise of this dude, and I appreciate you for sharing bro, this might make my life a 100 times better
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I actually went through this but backwards. I started dating this girl at 15, we broke up just over 3 years later. During the relationship, around the time i turned 18, i discovered this channel and started really focusing on myself and my own goals, and realized that the relationship was holding me down and i could do better. Its been about 2 months since the breakup but i now weigh less than i have in years and im actually building muscle, and Iâve massively improved my goal setting and mindfulness. So basically, thanks Hamza, i dodged a bullet đ
Same bro thatâs good on you. since Iâve found this channel and been focused on myself Iâve lost the weight I gained from my year relationship and really started to feel better mentally
Honestly same bro I got into my first LTR at 17 and I would text this person 9 hours a day at night so I barely slept, barely studied and barely had time to go to the gym 2 years later I finally decided to take a break from them and focus on myself and I blew up in the gym both physically and in discipline, and I donât procrastinate with my work anymore, essentially breaking up was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Bro you maintained a relationship from 15 for three years ! You deserve a gold star bro
You wouldve "dodged a bullet" if you stopped talking to her from the beginning, but you spent three years with her. So you didnt dodge a bullet
@@itsmuna8155 fair point. Weâll say i stopped biting the bullet đ
I would say if you are going to be dating and working on your game, social skills, and cold approach skills as a young man, it's best to focus on having the right mindset. That mindset would be that any form of dating you are doing right now is PRACTICE. Do NOT make any long term commitments when you haven't developed yourself. But talking to girls and dating is a form of developing yourself. Just remember that it's all PRACTICE.
Yes but the problem almost always when you are dating one person will always get attached which will make it painful and sometimes traumatic to leave it
@@rudrarana526 true. But if your a dominate man leading the whole relationship with your girl. Having her on your time/program etc. itâs much easier to leave when you have to bc you were keeping yourself and her in check by leading the relationship till the end. She on your time you ainât on hers. My girl knows Iâll see it as her loss if we break up. And she loves me more bc of it honestly. This is how relationships between man and women have always been until the fatherless generation thing started a lil ago.
don't treat other human beings like "practice". Build yourself into an adonis, find someone worthy of a serious commitment, and dedicate yourself wholly to them when you have reached your final form. Fornication, for whatever excuse you give, will only lead to pain and regression for both parties.
@@orangedalmatian i wouldn't treat the girl as practice. More the experience have being out with a girl by myself that would be the experience/practice. So next time i might be confident enough to make physical moves on a girl.
@@orangedalmatian foudn the tradcon. honestly think about what your saying. How do you expect to get good at relationships without practice? how do you expect to get good at ANYTHING without experience? 'just become adonis' is not real advice.
I met this girl online who was from the netherlands. I dont rly remember why but i tried to make her my gf and succeeded. I promised her i'd fly to the netherlands last summer in august for her bday. The day i promised her that i set 2 goals. 1. make enough to travel and stay in the Netherlands for 10 days and 2. become as attractive looking as possible. So throughout the whole quarantine i was hustling and working out with the little equipment that i had. Fast forward into august, it was the day we were going to meet but she DMd me saying that she's not sure about this and that she wanted to break up because she felt like it wasn't going to work (looking back at it she was prolly right). So the next day after we broke up i told myself that if im willing to put so much effort for someone i met and fell in love with in the course of 8 months then i'd have to work x10 as hard for my future self. In a way she played a huge role into making me who i am today and i can't thank her enough.
@D. J. lmao nah she was a girl surprisingly
@D. J. lmaoo
âShe was never your girl it was just your turnâ best lyric & quote going describing women
@GAME GOD It can work vice versa but as they say âThese Gardening tools ainât loyalâ â
@@lyricaldetective4310 lol "these gardening tools", i like it and will use it from now on
@GAME GOD Cheers man, Appreciate the feedback/reply đ
Stop being an incel bro, watch Hamzas advice
hmm honestly, I'm a female myself who wants to build myself, while yes, there are such women I'd advice you not to generalize.
I actually discovered this channel after my breakup which happened around a month ago. It's not so necessarily a bad breakup but a mutual one where we both agreed to improve on ourselves or else this relationship could have turned into something worse. I am just starting my mental and physical transformation and I'm optimistic for 2022!
I could've written this haha !
I'm in the exact same situation
After a year close to 2 years now, how does it feel?
Had a female friend that I helped get out of an abusive relationship just for her on the same day get back into a relationship w another dude and start practically ignoring me. Shits messed up but I made a vow to be the person she regrets never getting đȘ Stay hard
@@bobajett1025 Never be friends with a woman, she will never look at you in a sexual way if you accept that. It just make you look low value
But if you find a high value "gem" girl, theres no point in letting her go to "focus on yourself". If she is a high value girl she wouldnt hold you back on your self improvement journey and your goals.
I would say: its better to be single and focus on yourself than to be in an AVERAGE relationship.
But if you find the right girl, that is high value etc. dont let her go
Well, hereâs the catch, you will NEVER know if sheâs the right girl or not. As hamza said, youâll think that sheâs âthe oneâ.. until sheâs not. Iâve been there, for 7 years actually, until she cheated because i got too busy with university exams.
I prefer to focus on myself because for 4 months I ve been forced by the people around me to get into this "having a girlfriend in the teenage years" trend till I almost started vomiting because of the cringeness in those kind of relationships. I am 16. My grandpa has died this morning, i was mentally prepared for it and now I TRULY know that 2022 is going to be my BEST year wince I was born. I know all the wishes i made and all that i will make in 2022 are going to come true. And one of them is the girl I want to be in a relationship with. I don t know her yet, but I believe I will have a healthy and personal relationship with her that won t be cringe like those of my classmates. I am praying for her everyday. I am manifesting meeting her this april and becoming bf and gf in june. đ€ 2021 has been the best and the worst year of my life at the same time, as lifestyle it wasn t the worst (the worsy was 2020 as lifestyle) but it s been the worst as in trying to make progress to get rid of the addictions I had. 2022 is going to be the rewards year , but of course i m still going to find new things, humans evolve every day , humans learn every day. I wish myself the best and I am also praying for y all, for the people who want to get rid of their addictions and who want to become better selves if not , the best selves. HAPPY NEW YEAR !!!!! (Btw I m in Bucharest in Romania, 2022 is just around the corner, as it s said and for those whohave already entered 2022, I say : Keep walking on your path and don t let ANYBODY distract you this year from what you truly want to do when you grow up. And for those who re going to enter 2022 after me, after Romania and The Balkans : Wish for everything you want to come true in 2022 and trust me it s going to come true.)
BLESS Y ALL !!!!!!
Sorry about your grandpa, may he rest in piece.
Brother thank you so much for these wishes, and same to you too. Have the best year out of every Romanian/Roman.
Yes I can relate to "having a girlfriend in teenage years" trend, fell for that. I'm 15.
Take care brother!
RIP â€
Rest in peace for your grandpa, and bro i'm 16 too so i can understand how you feel and i wish you best of luck
@@anishj3140 đđŒThank you
@@kierannmoran Thank you..
Why not both? After school/study period finding a partner becomes a lot harder. It doesn't matter if you succeed or not, because you won't be yet another socially intept guy in his 30s, who never had any dating experience.
Exactly, I just say focus more on yourself and dont let the women get in between you and your goals but have fun with both
Yeah, I think the same.
This is absolute fax
i agree with that there's no problem with hookup the girls and do your things that you love only remember that your goals is on the first place not the girl you actually be with
Its pretty hard to do both since your relationship might get in the way of your growth but if you can manage then why not ( usually you wont be able to manage because college is pain )
Last year I was totally cut up over a girl who wasn't that into me, but who I couldn't stop obsessing over anyway. I decided to stay away from her and quickly got really depressed. The only thing that would make me feel slightly better was working out. So I got a gym membership and started learning how to lift. A year later, I'm hitting the gym 5 days a week and loving it. And in a way it was all thanks to her.
Literally seconds ago I was debating whether I should chase girls or focus on improving my self this year, thanks hamza this feels like the universe is doing me a favor
Why would you consider chasing during these times? Why?
@@KAIZENURAMESHI well I'm 16 (almost 17) and haven't been in a single relationship, I've gone on dates and stuff but never been in a serious relationship and seeing all the people around me with girlfriends it makes me feel a bit sad on the inside so I try my best to pursue a woman but I've come to realise it's not my time yet
@@requiem.5016 what you doin now?
@@requiem.5016 You are like me, im also 17 and follows the same mentality as you, stay strong brother
I was massively overweight when I was in an online relationship for more than a year, we broke up, and after a month of doing nothing but playing games or eating like shit, I chose to change my life right then and there. Ever since I've lost 30+ kg, I have a job, I'm going to the military in 3 days, and I'm feel like my self improvement is only beginning. I can't even begin to tell you how much I've changed physically and mentally ever since (in a positive way). These videos are helping me become the man I want to be
Relationships that dont laste are pointless. Yea you can say you learned a lot from it, but in a long term relationship, where you have your purpose and goals set straight, you can learn as you go on in the relationship and not break it if its unhealthy or something goes wrong. Ask yourself, do you see yourself falling for that girl, and dont lie to yourself.
Thatâs why I never approach women
girls only care about looks
@@whatwouldkealiido4819 lol
Why do you think girls only care about looks? That's simply not what scientific research says
@@Shoegazebasedgenre0. nah personality
I had a mutual break up with my GF back in July. Case of right person, wrong time. Being in my early 20s it was easy to get too comfortable and stop focussing on myself which negative ly affected the relationship. What I learned is that a girlfriend is not the answer to your problems and if you go looking for a relationship to fix those issues they will never truly go away.
I think this stuff hits even harder in your 20s. You're a full fledged single adult without all the stress you faced back in college/school. But while you got the freedom to chose, you keep asking yourself if this is the right choice to make. And this type of question doesn't pop up one time, but mutiple times.
Hamza wishing you a happy new year, thanks for all the help and knowledge you've given us in 2021, hope to learn much more from you in 2022
âThis kid canât be mine he has no swag.â Starting the new year with a laugh, nicely done hamza and sam
100% agree with this video. I was with the right person at the wrong time. She just graduated from university and Iâm still in it. She helped me grow alot as an individual but I cheated and went through tragic heart break. In the process of picking myself back up I managed to land my dream job , expanded into various side hustles , working more on my fitness & health as well as journaling on my spare time.
You cheated and then you got heartbroken?
@@ybpriest we all make mistakes and regret them later no?
@@rumionu8341 nah don't tell me that bs, like your heart is being broken lol. Maybe you are better now, but I have no sympathy for these kind of stories and i think no one should. What you did is terrible and you should keep that to yourself.
@@ybpriest lol. Okay bro, I definitely came here to look for your sympathy.
@@rumionu8341 it's not about me, I am just trying to say that some of these self improvement stories are weird including yours.
You can't be brokenhearted if you broke someone's else heart. It's such a stupid thing to say. And where are these stories going, what is the limit? Will people start commenting that they did some really fucked up shit and then they''ll say "I am on the self-improvement now I am the better person hihi".
dude u hit the nail with that last bit. started dating a girl when i was 18 not knowing WTF i got myself into i knew deep down back then that i wasnt ready but it was the first time i got totally blinded by love we dated for 2 years i got toxic AF because i had a bad self image and started to get anry and jealous more often because of that bad self image when we broke up i was destroyed i hated myself and had my hearthbroken. BUT went to terapy learnd about my self image and how to talk about my emotions started going to the gym started taking some risks with my money and geting better at social skils. to conclude it al breaking up after your first love is really hard but it can be the bes tmotivation ever if you try to lvl up. im now single for almost 1.5 years and feel great i love myself way more and feel like im growing daily wish the same to all you out here.
This is exactly what im going through right now but at an earlier stage, im glad that you are in a much better place right now brother đđŸ
Glad you feel good mentally & spiritually. Did you get angry and jealous at her because of insecurityâs ? Or was she doing something that got you mad ? Now I wouldnât even get mad but before I would. If a girl doesnât behave the way you want them to then itâs best to just walk away and not even deal with the issue. Nobody can change anybody people change themselves.
No i was mostly the problem, i was always insecure and overthinking and creating problems that didnt exist but any issue that i had with her where i didnt agree, it couldve been solved but i just avoided talking about it because it wasnt easy, so basically, i had really fucked up problems from before that revealed itself through this relationship
How do I know that I am not in a good relationshipâŠI have been with this girl for 4 yearsâŠand we broke up for 1 month that month I was the most motivated I have ever beenâŠBUT I was in deep depression I was in SO much pain every single day was crying my eyes out the whole dayâŠI donât want to feel that pain ever again. So Iâm trying to balance the relationship and my personal growth so me and this girl grow together.
I dunno man i feel lost
Same story man! We got this đ„đ
Exactly brah, most guys focus only entirely on women, because all of their bros have girlfriends, thus they feel like they need to fit in and have a GF too. Even tho, their life might be miserable, they are basically blindfolded from all these girls, so they don't see, that their life sucks in reality. Build yourself up first, then date girls, so you can bring something to the table. One quote in a Bible says:
â You shall love your neighbor as yourself.â - Galatians 5:14. This applies also to girls. But most guys hate themselves and their life, so they can't actually give the love back. So don't forget bros, purpose and upgrading your life always comes firstđȘđŻ
Good point, since to be able to love your neighbor like you yourself, you first have to accept who you are and love yourself - not just wanting to help others but actually first helping yourself
Iâm a girl, but I feel like these boys.
Almost all of my friends (who are girls) have gotten boyfriends, so I feel like I have to get one too for the sake of âfitting inâ
had a highschool/college sweetheart from age 15-20. she left me and i was crushed for a long time but i found RP and your channel hamza. ive learned so much that i can retroactively apply to that relationship and understand why everything happened the way it did so much better. ive since starting going to the gym, meditating, journalling, fasting & dieting right everyday and am in the best physical/mental shape ive ever been in. im 22 now and dont expect to be in any kind of relationship for the next 4-5 years, just gonna keep building my empire and investing in my future self. thanks hamza, were all gonna make it đȘ
Iâm totally the guy who got extremely ambitious after i got dumbed lol. I was in a relationship for 2.5 years from my 19th till 21 and was heavy in love. She also was, until some point. After summer holidays with my family i came back and just got dumbed out of nowhere. However, i already started my own business in the last few months of my relationship. Money was always a problem for me when i was with her. After the relationship, my business went x10 in just one month after break up. I also gained like 10 kg bulk over the following year by bodybuilding. I was just sad and angry by getting dumbed and being lonely, but it was the best motivation ever to make something out of myself
Broke up with a girl. Cried in a bathroom for 4 weeks. Wanted to kms. 6 months later I started a 6 figure business at age 16 almost 17. Now on track to becoming wrestling state champion in my school
I literally started all my self improvement journey all because of a breakup
So did 90% of us
Yes, I had a breakup 5 months ago and for the past 2.5 months I have been hitting the gym about 4x per week, already gained 15 lbs. Definitely an improvement in mental health, slight improvement in self image and confidence. I still don't talk to women though. I very rarely see one who's my type anyhow.
I canât say this about everyone, but I noticed that relationships can foster complacency, and complacency is the death of Excellence.
Love how Hamza posts this on New Yearâs Eve. 2022 is the year to grind gents. Monk mode until your body, money, mental, and social skills are levelled up. Broads are only a by product after those bases are covered. Once you know yourself as a man, only then will women want to know you.
Letâs get it brothers
You just donât have it man, look at you. Choose something else you will never be a player and neither will hamza
@@bigdawg9005 whoâs tryna be a player? You sound like a simp bro worry about yourself rather than commenting on what other men are trying to do.
@@bigdawg9005 you watch somebodyâs channel constantly when you hate them bro, think about that
Yo I had a chick that I literally thought I will be with the rest of my life at 18. All of my self improvement fell off. I did alot of rap music and leaded music video productions (that's why she fell at first). And then I completely slacked it off, thus becomimg a Jeffrey, thus I got cheated on while I was conscripted into the Estonian Defence Forces.
Nevertheless, since then I began working on my body and mental health. Still a long way to go, but at this moment I am 20 and I have made wise investments. Made awesome new friends.
If all goes well, I will have the body of Adonis and a bank account I could retire with by the time of May 2022. All thanks to socialising and being in the right place at the right time.
Wish me luck.
And to everyone going through it - embrace the pain. It is temporary. Know your youth will pass - plan it right so you'll be happy in the present given as well as in the long run.
Peace
what investments did you make?
Just discovered this in May 2022 lmao, how's your bank account?
Great video. That was basically me. 19 year old, felt in love. Lost my mind to this girl but never self reflected on my bad habits. Played too much video games, masturbated (and lied to her about it for whole 3 years of our relationship). Never tried to do fun stuff because I thought I have her for granted so I don't need to grow. The only thing that I did right was finish my bachelor degree.
After broke up, it took me about a year to get into good habits and get my life togheter. Got my first, well paid job. Got better diet, started lifting weights, riding bike, trekking in mountains and doing lot of sports. I even started going to singing lessons, which was always one of my dreams. If I have never broke up with her, I would probably still be gaming loser that I was back then. In the end, even while single, I feel better with my life now. I am more self confident and I am not afraid to actually do things that I want.
Stay strong boys.
Started talking with a girl at the age of 15 or something and later ended up dating her for 3-4 years. I thought my case was different from the others and that mine is bound to last as I was madly in love with her. A couple of incidences later, maturity hit me hard and I realized that this relationship was a poison to me (not the girl specifically but I wasn't meant to be in a relationship when I haven't figured out my life yet). Realized I wasted so much time and this year, I took responsibility for everything that has been happening to me instead of blaming it on outside circumstances and my life has drastically change for the better. My advice to all the young kings is to figure out yourself and your life first then think of getting in a relationship if you so desire it.
i dated a girl from 15-20 and i thought my situation was so special as well, after reading so many comments/posts online i realized this kinda heartbreak is something just about every man goes through in some form or another in his lifetime.my friends and i joke about it now, we call it a "rite of passage" đ
@@addy8688 haha we're guilty of thinking ours is the special one but it helped us to grow and be better at life đ
How do I know that I am not in a good relationshipâŠI have been with this girl for 4 yearsâŠand we broke up for 1 month that month I was the most motivated I have ever beenâŠBUT I was in deep depression I was in SO much pain every single day was crying my eyes out the whole dayâŠI donât want to feel that pain ever again. So Iâm trying to balance the relationship and my personal growth so me and this girl grow together.
I also feel that this girl is special and will love me foreverâŠbut man I dunno I feel lost
I literally used to beg & pray to God "dont let this girl be for my character development. I just love this women way too much. I cant bear letting her go" and she did some things and i had to let her go. I would've been miserable but i found ADOOOONISSSSSSSSSS. Now i feel pretty good about myself..... There are hard times but everyday is better one then the day before
Let's all make progress on our journey to become Adonis in 2022, whatever that looks like for you. Were all gonna make it brah đȘ
For sure bro!
Let's make it togheter!
If you think about that, Hamza and IceColdJT became Adonis in the same time: 2020-2021. We are just 1 year later. LET'S DO IT BOOOOOOOYS!!!!!
I met this girl when I was 16 through a mutual friend and we started talking back and forth and eventually ended up dating. I just turned 19 and looking back a lot of my goals and milestones have been either missed or pushed back because of my lack of drive. This year Iâm taking a step back focussing on myself through meditation and accepting the fact that this girl may very well lose feelings for me one day and so I should prioritise my personal growth first. I donât see the point in breaking up completely as itâd only hurt her feelings and itâd also take away the only fun I have now that Iâm basically working full time, studying and trying to start a real estate photography business.
"I donât see the point in breaking up completely as itâd only hurt her feelings and itâd also take away the only fun" what's that bs bro. That's some excuses right there. Purpose requires sacrifices. If you feel like she's slowing you down, you should break it off or pause it for a while. Your partner should be complimentary to your lifestyle.
@@kanisbdg Like I said it depends from relationship to relationship. You wouldn't stop seeing your friends just cos you're trying to grow. I only call her once a week and she's overseas with her family so dates are non-existent. It's like pressing pause without having to deal with the guilt you feel me?
@@kanisbdg update: broke up with her a few days ago
@@Mustafa2219 pain
@@Mustafa2219 how's it now?
Been overthinking about this since few days , now I'm clear , thanks king đââïž,you are really changing lives of teenagers like me đââïžđ
Definitely resulted in a lot of growth. Saw my parents relationship patters play out in my own relationship. 3 year long relationship and break up made me realize I need to feel better about my self before I can make anyone else feel better
Trick question: focus on yourself while she dates you
Felt called out cos that is my exact self improvement story. Shitty codependent relationship with a depressed girl who got me addicted to nicotine and depressed with her. I got evicted and then dumped by her cos I hated her but was too pussy to do it myself. Realised that I had to focus truly on my personal growth and not on women to ever have a chance of having a relationship with a well adjusted girl. Ever since then i've been able to focus more and be more consistent with workouts and my life has completely changed. I was such a bum before. People saw me a few months after that breakup and every single person told me I seemed to have changed so much and it was inspiring to them.
Last Year When I Was 15, I Dated A Girl For 2 Months, Then She Left Me For Someone Else. Split Up With That Guy, Then Came Back To Me For About Month. Then We Split Up Again. Because She Met Another. Left That Person, Then I Found This Channel. And She Is Currently Trying To Contact Me Again, But I'm ignoring Her.
I got back into self improvement after my rough breakup, Iâve been working out way more, Iâm journaling, eating better. Iâm happy that you make these videos to guide me through it.
After a decade inside a bong and multiple suicide attempts, I can say Iâm grateful I got my heart broken. It forced some serious introspection and inspired my book series.
I feel like this advice is a double edged sword. Self improvement takes time. You won't magically become the best version of yourself overnight. I've been busting my balls for the last 10 years while working, hitting the gym and had a dozen of unsuccessful relationships. I'm nearly 30 now and I feel like most women in my age bracket are either too career focused while those in their early 20's would consider me too old. You might find someone who's interested in you but that only works if you really have your shit together and with the way women have these ridiculous standards, I wouldn't hold my breath for a relationship just because I'm a few levels better than 5 or so years ago. Sorry but this isn't a videogame. You won't "level up" to a relationship just because Hamza or other influencers say so. You can do all the right things and still get flaked. Just the way it works.
The editing today is on point.
Have a cookie for your hard work Sam đȘ
My advice is always focus on yourself, but you can still date and focus on yourself.
I dated this girl first year of college and I was about 80kg / 180lbs or so when I first started school and met her and was steady in the gym. I was playing my sport, training and eating really healthy. I wouldnât blame her but she wanted to go out often and eat junk food, expected me to spend all my time with her and by the end of my first year I weighed almost 93kg/205lbs. Luckily Iâm halfway through my second year now and back down to about 84kg after finding your videos. I would say I want to stay out of a relationship until I achieve all my goals in school and athletically for my sport⊠I owe it to you for introducing me to cold showers, meditating, reading more and just staying focused with diet and training.
I'm 16 too rn and yeah sometimes I have googly eyes for someone, but then my brain sort of tells me that it'll be a waste of time to even try to form a relationship with someone, therefore I end up never really making friends with anyone (let alone getting a gf lol). And sometimes I feel like I couldn't pull someone around my age since I don't really have the same tastes with people around my age, and I end up never saying anything to anyone ever, tbh and I've been self aware about this for a while now and realized how unhealthy being a shut-in is since humans are social creatures. I haven't seen my friends in 2 years either which doesn't really help at all either, and they want to hangout but I always end up flaking out due to insecurities and some other things. Life just kinda feels too fast rn especially since I'm still a teen and I should be having fun and doing teen things like hanging out but for some reason I never do. I've realized that being too self-aware can actually be harmful, since if you are always self aware it could end up tripping you up of what you want to do then your brain starts to make up excuses or insecurities. Tip for life: let loose of your self awareness a bit, especially during social events. Basically at the end of the day, thanks Hamza for the advice.
There was this one relationship I was in around 14-15, I donât consider it serious but it was the worst âheartbreakâ ever. Basically it was a relationship lacking sustenance and it was mainly sexual (but no sex happened) cause we would meet ever weekend for âchurch groupâ lol. Overall it was about 4 months but I, being younger and ignorant thought it would last forever and then she broke up w me because her other male friends would try stuff w her and they were also older than me, and I probably couldnât win in a fight against them if it boiled down to it. That was like pre red pill for me.
What did you learn from it?
@@bettermanchannel770 I learned about NoFap, cause I was also battling a porn addiction (yes at ages 14-16). It taught me to focus on myself and see the benefits of delayed gratification through NoFap. And that constantly chasing pleasure changes your brain chemistry by wiring you to always seek it without earning it.
Very interesting story bro, I'm also around your age. About redpill, how did you get into it?
@@9zero187 My next relationship with my recent ex (my previous ex best friend). I swear Iâm not toxic. Anyways, basically similar to steph is cold, my gf (at the time) went off to college and basically got exposed to what itâs like. Itâs like setting a caged animal free in the wild. Lot of stimulation (drugs, parties, new people). And at the time I didnât hold a masculine frame. I was skinny and didnât understand women. And I was telling my boys about it and one put me on to Fitxfearless. And yes, the red pill has accurate information I think it kinda is incomplete cause it only âteachesâ men to prioritize gettin box and not take women seriously even if you like her and actually see her being there long term.
Happy New year Hamza! Glad.
I improved my sleep cycle
Exercise, mediation, breathing exercises. Now worked on social emotional intelligence. But find Hard to accept myself because of day dreaming. And have to work on financial well being
I can relate heavily to this. I was in a relationship from grade 10 - 12 of highschool, couldn't find the motivation to work out, didn't study much, spent absurd amounts of money eating fast food with her and in general doing a lot of nothing. Shortly after graduating highschool, I suffered a concussion as well as a break up within the same couple of weeks, needless to say, I just pitied myself for a while and did nothing, but after around a month, I turned my sadness and shit situation into motivation. I started bouldering 2x - 3x a week, working out 5x a week, just graduated level one of piano and have dedicated far more time towards growing the meaningful connections that are already in my life. This is the best I've ever felt and I can see the changes in both my confidence and appearance. I also went from drinking and smoking semi-frequently to 4 months sober.
Life gets better bros. And remember the harder you work, the luckier you get.
Im with my girl for 2,5 years and im going to be 20yo in 2022. Honestly she is my best friend and I know it will be the special one since the beggining. She doesnt prevent me from pursuing my goals. You just gotta have mindset like gf is addition to your life not YOUR LIFE. Have a great day.
I got out of a very toxic relationship in June, thatâs also when I began watching you Hamza, since then iâve just been developing myself and bettering myself like you have. Thank you!
I've been building myself alone after the most painful breakup I ever had, I felt like I wasn't enough for her, now she's the one who's not enough.
Head up kings
PS: I'm 16y
200% agree. Literally what I learnt. I was 14 and I got into a 7 month relationship because I was curious and appreciated this girl because she liked me so I liked her back. lockdown hits and I watch yt all day, text her dumb ass shit, get behind on school work and super inconsistent with exercising. Few weeks before break up I tell her I'm losing interest and she gets heart broken. I text less and she breaks up. I was gassed, literally shouted out ' YESS' the second she broke up through text. A week after, my mum and friend realise my skin looks clearer and I look happier. No stress, and I focus on school. Now Iam super happy not wanting to date until I'm 20+ at least. I'm 16. Exercising (gym and sport almost everyday), no social media except discord and yt, doing things I love and happy. I now believe girls are super distractions (dating) and you shouldn't have a girl if you're trynna improve yourself. I'm humbly grateful for that relationship and covid which probably shortened the relationship. FORGET DATING IN YOUR TEENS.
Dated a girl 6 months, her female friend was a party girl and liked to go out and do acid and go trip for the whole weekend and she started going with her.
so I moved all her stuff to the front door and moved my friend in and split the rent with him instead.
She came home to find all her belongings packed and waiting at the front door.
Started crying asking what she did wrong lmao
I had already been in the gym but was ready for a cut.
Definitely motivated me to turn up the training volume & diet meticulously. Militantly.
Transformed my physique for sure!
Well done!
Based
Nice job g
Oh wait what , you dated a 6 month old girl ?!đ
Girl here! Met this guy last summer who I developed a crush on and we eventually grew really close as the months went by. It was to the point that our friends would question whether there was anything between us. We never ended up actually dating, since we attend college in different states, but we ended up making out the day before we both left. I quickly realized though, that I had grown a serious attachment to him and became down bad for a long time since he basically stopped contacting me a month into the school year. Anyways, my heart throbbed and it felt like a breakup, but I eventually realized that I needed to be my own person and focus on my own goals rather than feel bad for myself. Iâm so glad that I found this channel, because it has really helped my self improvement journey and I am developing a lot more respect and confidence within myself.
I wish there was a similar channel for guiding women , loved this video â€ïž
Uhm.. You could start one đ
Women have life on recruit difficulty. You only need some poor schmuck to settle and take care of you and you're set. What more guidance do you need?
I got manipulated by my last girl and I didnât realize it because all I cared about was her and not fixing myself. About 2 months after it ended I found the channel and am now taking the long route instead of taking the path of least resistance like I had previously
It's crazy to think back to the person I was before my most recent breakup, the growth fuel we can get from such a vulnerable scenario is immense, and finally choosing to work through all those childhood wounds we'd hidden from the world is game-changing. Keep up the good work mate đ€đ»
Same bro
Found your videos a few weeks ago. Im 26 and I live in HK. Met this girl a few months ago. Started dating her, and it was, word for word, exactly how you described it. My own personal dopamine hit. It felt INCREDIBLE being around her. But time went on, and both of us started acting out (she grew up in a broken household). Made me realize that, even though I still care about her and want the best for her, she doesnt want it for herself. Its been a few weeks since the breakup and I go sooo f*cking motivated to jump back into self-help (journaling, meditiation, working out) and its like I have a new lease for life. I had been through this before, but this was a real wake up call.
me who discovered this channel after a relationship of eight years from school to the end of my degree, needless to say, the break up was a catalyst to a major self-improvement journey. there are bad days when I am paralysed thinking about the past but what I have accomplished until now in about 18 months I am really happy about it. ill still focus on me for now though
All the best my g. đyou will make it.
I've been in a situation where when the relationship with the wrong person ended, I was liberated to work towards the person I wanted to become.
I am grateful for my boi Hamza for uploading another wonderful content.
i have been wondering this question for 2 weeks perfect timing.
Happy new year who everyone who reads this.
Got cheated on a few months ago by my girlfriend of 3 years. Did everything for her. Moved to where she wanted. Got enganged cuz she wanted to get married asap. Didnât matter in the end, because she still decided to fall in love with my best friend. Now Iâm working on myself, and following my goals
Trying to do both rn Monday-Saturday are school lifting getting calories in and basketball Sundays are off days rest spend time w your girl and your family.
3:08 lmao cah Hamza retains, and has balls of steel đœđ
I found Hamza's channel like a week ago and its the best thing ive came across in a while
Im a girl, however your videos go both ways. I respect this, I'm now completely self-focused, and am improving to becoming my own woman who is capable of paying her own bills and shit. While my other girl/boy friends are too focused on dating etc etc, here I am studying and working my ass off and ik its gonna pay off. I'll start relations when I'm mature enough to differentiate men from boys. Thanks again.
Based
even though im 14,i broke up with my girlfriend because now,at this age isnt the time to play around and get distracted.I need to focus and improve myself.
In my opinion, what does play a factor is the type of girl you start getting into a relationship with. I got really lucky and the girl I'm seeing supports my goals and pushes me. If I'm not hitting my goals (CZcams, gym, etc.) she straight up calls me out on it. For example: I'm starting up my bulk again, and yesterday while we were watching a movie, she told me to eat. Dumbass me said "I'm not hungry I can eat later" and she was all "no, you're gunna eat now. You have to eat even if you're not hungry"
Oddly enough, I've gotten deeper into self improvement and have started working harder since meeting her.
With that said, every girl I've ever had any sort of "thing" with in the past has been the exact opposite of this. They didn't really care and treated me like shit.
This is also my first actual relationship in 5 years. 4 of those 5 where on and off self improvement years, which I'm very confident played a factor into finding a non-shitty girl.
Well she is a keeper for the time being
Thatâs uncommon most girls drain your energy
So to have a chick support your goals is pretty lit
Yourself first. Dating is the last thing when you have everything sorted out.
I had a similar experience. At the start of 2021 my relationship of 1 year, which I thought would last forever, ended. Now it's over I see the red flags, like her avoiding mindfulness because she couldn't handle her trauma, how her parents would harm each other and her avoidant attachment style.
When it ended I felt awful, but I started improving myself by exercising, practicing stoicism, reading, meditating. Later that year she came back begging for my affection, and also some other women entered and exited my life. I never felt compelled to actually date them, because I didn't want to settle for a girl who thinks stoicism is stupid, exercise is useless and just wants to take drugs and party. No disrespect to them at all, they were all nice people, but they just don't fit in my current life.
This is actually the first time in my life where I feel comfortable being single. Relationships don't really bring the fulfillment I was looking for, only an empty feeling that I should feel fulfilled, but deep down I wasn't. Fulfillment for me comes after hard work and dedication to my purpose. I feel like dating is a waste of time right now, because I still don't really look like I lift, I'm still not sure what uni course I'm going to do and I want to keep as much time as possible free to invest in myself. Thanks Hamza for the inspiration and motivation, means a lot to me.
Thank you Hamza. Iâm going through a breakup right now and itâs hard but Iâm putting in the work right now. Iâm becoming a man that I will admire and that my future son/daughter will look up to.
At 26 Iâve been two relationships so far, one which lasted for 3 years and the other for 2. Iâve just recently broken up with the second one which is pretty tough, but I can honestly say that Iâve experienced the most growth after coming out of a relationship. Itâs awful when youâre going through the break up process, but once you focus on yourself and build your character up then youâll be grateful that you went through that pain. The best diamonds are made under the greatest pressure.
Around a week ago my gf broke up with me and I realized why she did, it was because I didn't have any self-confidence so right now I'm building myself to be more proud of myself and the work I did to achieve it
3:01 damn that editing đđđđ your editor is so high
my second ex, truly truly hurt me like no other But, The amount of growth is also Insane, I'm glad that I went through those moments because now i'm trying to become better instead of becoming bitter. As far as I'm concerned once you break up with an ex, there is no second chances, Respect yourself.
Coming out of a toxic relationship and focusing on myself imagine, mind set, life style, just everything
Really was the biggest achievement I did and I remember I woke up one day and I was fed up with myself so I suddenly on the same day, went straight to the gym.
Best thing ever. đ€
But yeah youâre right Hamza. When I got in a relationship, I was 16 and yeah it ended up in tragedy and abuse.
Funnily enough, when I broke up from a disastrious relationship, I started growing astronomically. So much that I've grown much more muscle than before, medidating through the cold water and managed to start conversations with random people. Thank you Hamza, thank you me.
Needed this badly to start the year, take my mind on the right path and focus on building a life. Thanks hamza, you're trully an inspiration to make ourselves better as a man. đ€đȘ
I didn't even have a girlfriend. She was a crush that rejected me halfway through the school year. Anger was building up and then I found your channel. Nothing works as well as working out or beating the shit out of a punching bag.
I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years because she was depressed and was dragging me down immensely, but we continued having sex and hanging out sometimes. She just got into a new relationship and this kind of broke my heart.(lmao I know itâs my fault) after that I rediscovered my pre-relationship self. I wanted to be like myself a couple of years ago: Sixpack, the main guy in the friend group, hanging out with beautiful girls everyday, driven and crushing all of my goals. Through years of an empty ballsack and fucking the prettiest girl in town every day I lost my drive and got fat and stuff. Now my goal is to be the same guy as before or even better! Itâs already starting to bear fruits and much of that is thanks to Hamzađ much thanks and I wish us all an even more productive 2022
I donât usually comment but I actually felt the need to this time. I literally found u this morning cuz of nofap and EVERY WORD U HAVE SPOKEN made more sense then the last two years of me finding bs videos. Bro u actually inspire me and I know one day Iâll become the man I need to be because of your advice. Thanks dude
Things I Focus on
1.God
2.myself
3.school
4.my family
5.my friends
Thank you bro. Ever since my ex left my career has kick started and Iâve lost over 60 lbs of fat while building muscle. Iâve started to notice that more attractive girls are showing me attention but emotionally Iâm not ready for anything serious. I will continue to keep working on myself so that I can be the man that my future wife deserves. Much love
So, kinda personal but, I'm now 20 and well through Highschool and my teenage years, I know I'm still young but I've never been in a relationship, ever, something happened with a girl in 8th grade that turned me really anxious and insecure about myself, I've overcome the thoughts and processed those emotions in a healthy way just over 8 to 12 months ago, but I just feel like I'm missing developmental milestones in my life.
Thats literally my situation but im in highschool
Same thing happened to me near the end of high school before covid hit. Now I'm a college freshman
Im 18 and I never dated in high school(im a senior) and I had a traumatic experience with a girl in middle school that turned me into a anxious and antisocial person as well. I remember being a lot more friendly and likeable person when I was younger. Now Iâm trying to build myself back up both mentally and physically. But donât worry dude Iâm in the same place and love will find itâs way to us.
@@dr.woozie7500 Yea thats pretty much me too for the most part. I sure do hope I find love some day because tbh now it feels so unlikely to happen ya know?
@@dr.woozie7500 I pray and hope that true love does find it's way too all of us, from the bottom of my heart I mean that, but I've learned how to be self sufficient and supply the love I need to myself through self love, through going to the gym, accomplishing my goals, setting new ones, until my true love does come along, I'll be working on myself, I feel as though that's the key because I've never been happier
Me and my girlfriend just broke up and she's trying to make me jealous by getting a new guy but all that does, inspires me to become a better version of myself
Around half year ago a girl friendzoned me, I started self improvement, started calisthenics, and started watching hamza. Now I know that working on myself is better than chasing girls
It is bro, donât approach women
@@dark_nightwing_xl2797 you can approach women. Just don't take it too seriously or chase. Be social and meet people. Self improvement doesn't always mean become a social hermit and only go to the gym all the time
@@demetriusean i donât like it bro. Females keep looking at me when I walk by but I find it weird to go up to them.
@@dark_nightwing_xl2797 well don't make it weird. If you at the mall and see a girl walking by, ask for directions and lead the convo from there. Once again, don't take it so seriously. You need to talk to females regardless. You don't want to be socially inept around chicks by the time you built yourself up
@@dark_nightwing_xl2797 Discomfort is one of the biggest contributors to a man's growth. Even if you don't like it, you should still do it and experience it. Otherwise, you'll be way behind
I wanted to be your video editor but I thought I'm not ready. I was damn right, your new editor is an absolute gem.
This is actually a confusing one for me tbh. When I was 19 I got into a relationship that I prioritized more than anything and fell into the typical loop that you talked about. I focused more on the girl that anything else. I was in the relationship for 4 years going on 5. We eventually broke and I began my self improvement journey. Not long after my break up though I got into my current relationship which is a little over a year now, but I've still been trying to focus more on myself I've even been going to gym for 4 months consistently now and I'm basically in the best shape of my life it hasn't been easy though with having to balance working, self improvement, a girlfriend, family and trying to find and rediscover myself after my last break up and I've even pondered breaking up with my girl because of all of this. The thing is though I don't really have much of a reason to besides this and the sad fact that I wanna be selfish and be in the dating and mess around for bit.
Broke up with her about a year ago now, started talking with her again back in November and she left again. I had so much progress and I ruined it all and went back to her when I heard from one of her friends that she missed me. Worse thing Iâve ever done. Now Iâm starting new again and this time I will move on and I will improve myself till I can love myself, thanks for ur videos they help me and other a lot
This video came at the right time. With the new year coming up I was wondering what to focus on because I am currently in my first ever serious relationship and I can tell it's taking a toll on my productivity
4yr relationship - ended in December last couple months been really developing myself and itâs been great
you good? that must be tuff to get over her ; years is crazy
1:35 OMG IS THAT A JOJO REFERENCE
I Broke up with my girl back in January I made a horrible move and moved in with her it was good until it wasnât I didnât see the red flagsâŠI was falling off with life stressing financially mentally and physically and ofc She didnât gaf she ended up looking for her next sucker ..life went left real fast and I no choice but to start over so I moved back to my moms place I was lost for the 1st few months especially stuck drinking,overthinking,beating myself up over mistakes I made in a pointless relationship then one day i took action I went on CZcams looking for something to help the pain go away when I found these self improvements videos itâs like everything changed I went to WORK I learned to focus on me and let go of the pastâŠnow I stay busy I feel better, look better, moved better ,I learned to put that VALUE into myself and my hard workâŠlife has been great ever since The girls that used to play game are literally begging for my attention nowadays crazy how tables turnedâŠbut keep working KINGS stay on your grind and everything will fall into place just be patient đŻ
0:29 is way too accurate
Pathetic
All facts. I got myself right, my money right, my direction in life and my habits, although not where I want them to be quite yet, although I'm still only 19. I find myself with a natural charisma, not being so attached to what might happen. Just texted this girl I've known since we were kids, excited to see where it goes or doesn't go. Thank you for the great content. You've inspired me to take the same mission as you, and I see no possibility of failure. We're all gonna make it
One of my ex just thrown me into the trash and went with her ex. It really hurts and given me such powerful motivation ⥠In that time i thought i was very unlucky but the time taught me that i was so lucky to face that incident
Feel you on that one and i havenât dated ever since that.
Let us know how you're doing now lad
Iâm 18 and this girl and I had been together for around 4 months and planned our lives and futures around each other and I really through the it was gonna work out I thought we were gonna get married and all the whole shabang it a couple weeks ago i found your videos and theyâve helped me dramatically I feel so much more mentally strong Iâm more confident and working out more and journaling havenât started meditating yet but the point is I felt good then we broke up a couple days ago on Christmas it sucks a lot but youâre videos are helping me get through it and heal love you man youâre a big inspiration
A lady doesnât have to be a distraction, if you can find someone who has goals that fit with yours, is supportive, and respectful of everything you are and what you believe, why not accept that blessing
i agree, altough that shit is RARE