I relate to this conversation so much as a 25 year old. I am struggling with being content with what I have achieved so far. I'm always looking for more, and I am not sure when it will feel like it's enough. I usually set career and personal goals for myself and it has gotten to a point where, when I achieve something, I almost don't even celebrate it because I'm looking for the next better thing. It's so difficult. Even with the house thing you just mentioned, I still stay at home for family reasons, but I always overcompare myself to my peers who have apartments and are getting houses, and sometimes it really dents my confidence, I almost feel like I'm not fully an adult who can make my own decisions, when technically I can. Thanks for highlighting this! Now I have a lot to think about.
I just want to say this if I may, I don't know if you have celebrated your milestones. After achieving each goal you have set celebrate it and take time to enjoy that moment, cause jumping from goal to goal will have you searching for the next great moment without realising that at that moment in your life you are in the greatest moment. Exhaust the feeling of one achievement, before moving to the next. Just like u'Sis Nozi said that the house was very exciting at first, but now she wants out, she has surpassed the phase of enjoying that how and now seeks more.
There's a quote that keeps me grounded "You are already living in one of your answered prayers" this conversation makes so much sense. Especially being young and constantly chasing life and what it has in store for you. It's very important to understand that yes you want more, BUT there's a blessing in what you have today.
Powerful reflection there. You just reminded of one of my jobs back in 2010. I had prayed and fasted to get it. Three years into it I felt like I had out grown it, I began to feel miserable there. Until one day, as I was praying for a new job, there was AHA moment. I got reminded of how once upon a time, the current job was a blessing. Why then, was it suddenly becoming to feel like a burden. It was at that moment that I was reminded of the concept of Obedience. Being obedient and trustworthy with the job that God has entrusted me with until the very last second. Until He decides to move me to a bigger responsibility. My attitude changed instantly, I began to to be intentional and cheerful in delivering my duties. My popularity and performance grew at an alarming rate. My love for that job was restored. It was only then that a new job came to my door step, when I least expected it. I moved 5 salary levels upwards. .....
Eish babes the big question is " where does it end". I feel as human beings we always want and want to have more instead of enjoying the "NOW". In appreciating the now that's when God starts preparing us for bigger things .
What an important conversation to have. Definitely something I struggle with. It's not easy to stop reflect, breathe and realize how far you've come. I appreciate this conversation 💜
Wants are unlimited. You satisfy one, another arises. I’m ALWAYS grateful for what I have but I continue to want more without any pressure. Thank you Lord for a healthy me.😅
relatable! For me this one statement wraps it all up: I am not where I would like to be, but thank God, I'm not where I used to be. This allows me to celebrate my house, knowing I own it, outright, even though I'm working towards a house that I plan and dream and envision and build from the ground up.
Beautiful conversation. My thoughts on this is that for most of us, our motivation and drive is largely driven by our backgrounds. The anxiety of not wanting to go back to those places that were full of hardship and challenges keep us wanting more and even when we are at a point that we should be reasonably comfortable, the anxiety of feeling like what if this all goes aways keeps us on our toes. Most of our generation are still first generation university graduate, first generation home owner, car owner etc , so really wealth in the true sense has not yet been a part of our lives that long that we can easily start speaking of being content…yes I am grateful for health, for my kids, food on the table etc, but a lot more needs to happen before that feeling of true contentment becomes a part of the black story. Half of what we say we have is still half the story, a car and a house on loan is still not quite yours so the anxiety of staying on top of all that is a lot. When our kids grow and inherit a fully paid for house and car, then their conversations will be a little different after that.. and when their kids get that plus some money saved then they feel even better and so on♥️.
being content shouldn't hinder pursuit but pursuit should not disturb the state of being content, wanting more and being content are actually independent of each other and the mistake we often make is trying to relate them and that is where we are thrown off balance. Try striving for more without looking down on what you have, there is so much peace in that.
I loved this conversation. It's worth it. My mum passed on in 2020. And my sis moved to UK and everyone was saying atleast I don't need to stress about buying a house anymore. I hated those words coz I want a house of my own. But I realized I got a peaceful environment to plan for my business and career, and shouldn't rush to have things that I'm not financially ready for all in the name of breaking the stigma that "my mum's house is now mine".
Sana I can so relate!!!! Resenting your beautiful home and everything about and around it because it has now suddenly become“not good enough” yo! 😂 la nto is a stealer of joy!
There are things you considered as a blessing and you now feel like they’re an inconvenience - you meed to revaluate. Be careful of wanting more without appreciating what you have.👏🏿Thank you for this SisNozi!♥️
Loved this conversation , dankie sis Nozi. You mentioned the bible and this is how I've come to understand the concept of content from there. Being content is the ability to be grateful for the things God has done ,and joyful for all that He is currently doing but also still being hopeful in the things that he will do. We believe in a God of miracles so it's only natural for us to desire Him to move in miraculous ways for us , so being content doesn't clash with our desire for more nor does it clash with ambition. The problem comes when our desire for more prevents us from seeing God moving in the now. My favorite verse says "It is a gift from God when God gives some people wealth and possessions, the power to enjoy them, the ability to accept their lot in life, and the ability to rejoice in their own hard work" I love how it emphasizes that even with content ,it is Him who can give us that.
Very eye opening conversation, I've gone through the same feelings of resenting the current blessing because of a future desire. Funny enough it's the same story with the house. Then I looked back and realized, those feelings of wanting better were stealing the joy of being in the present. Now I'm busy redesigning the current space trusting that He is faithful who promised. A grateful heart is a magnet for more blessings. Thoughts are very powerful
So power sis, I am content and I got a shock of my life when someone suggests that I am not. That made me shut down and not want to explain myself. Contentment to me is being grateful everyday and recognizing how far God has moved me even in silent battles. Basically what am trying to say is let's not be quick to assume people are not content if they express frustration about a certain area of thier life
House is on the way sis Nozi, I even imagine you and Skhu staying in the Estate opposite Carnival City, your house is bigger and nicer. And I see white Mercedes coming soon as well. Watch and see
I think as human beings we tend to desire more as we grow, being content may also mean you are happy with your life and appreciate, even thou u desire to have more, it wouldn't mess up your gratitude level or state of happiness if what u desire doesn't happen.
We also all have that inner child that we constantly need to feed if we never get an opportunity to silence it. If were raised poor we want to work so much that we don't ever have to make the inner child feel the deprivation anymore or if we were abused anything that even looks like or resemble it even if it's not at a toxic level we run coz we feel the need to protect the inner child. The best place to start is to identify why u have the need to have more and more and also the validation of work to make u feel life is lifing 😁. We are all a work in progress and we do need to reflect on where God has taken us and appreciate His work in us instead of constantly making Him hear how much more He should be doing. I pray u never lose your ambitions but also pray that u find your own healing so it can bring u full contentment 💕
As am listening to you am thinking to myself ooookay, it's good that am not the only person that feels like I do. Ewe am grateful and feel blessed and content with all that I have kodwa am ready for more. Infact I am planning our bigger next venture, ewe ndiyayazi ne Bible ithi zifundise ukwanela yindawo okuyo kodwa no man I am God's favorite I deserve a lot more in this beautiful life. Thank you Nozi💖
for me content mean to be happy with not getting and having all that you want; though you will still continue to work towards achieving all that you desire
For me it's different. When I made my goals, I divided them into short term, medium term and long term and this applies for education, car, a house and other things. So, this essentially means as much as I have achieved all my short term goals and some of the medium term, now I am working on getting my medium term goal education. I know afterwards, I'll get my medium term goal house. After that it means I will not rest until I get my long term goal house, car, etc. This will keep me ambitious enough for a long time coz, girl are my long term goals big! But I will not keep upgrading in between which will keep me basking in contentment enough until my biggest dreams come true. Even now, I regard everything else from this stage as a bonus because I always look at how far I have come. .
Wow🤭 this couldn't have come at a better time than now🥺 growing up I've always been taught to be grateful to an extent that I personally felt like I wasn't allowed to dream big or want greater and better things in life 😖My mom has always reminded me every chance she got that ndizalwa nguye🤔 her exact words were "uyazlibala ba uzalwa ndim", my dad on the other side doesn't believe in a girl child, the only thing that he was fixed on was, and I quote "yi waste ufundisa umntwan oyntombaza bcos uzodidibana nendoda kwesaskolo ugqiba kwakhe nje ufunda umka naloo ndoda bayotya loomali yakho ushiyeke, ulamba uyintlekisa ngoba klk uthengise nemfuyo ubhatala iskolo" sana this broke me, and whenever I wasn't proud of myself it would be my consolation ba "kakade wethu no one believed in me" I've just realised that all my decisions have been based on me proving to my parents that I am worhty, deserving and actually can make something of my life. The only problem is that most of was never about me but to impress them😭 it has gotten to a point where the expectations have become too much and sana I'm depressed and I feel used 🙆♀️ I'm tired of proving myself and now want to live my life in my terms and now I'm constantly thrown with "kibethwa inkomo etsalayo". I've wanted to move out of my family house and have start something in my own name, build a home for my children, but sana mom will remind ukuthi mandithobe iemere kulendawo uThixo andibeke kuyo, klk mna dikhulele etyotyombeni and should be greatful that ngok sihlala kwi 1 bedroom house ye RDP, (which I extendedto a 2 bedroom)🙆♀️ sana kanti where does it stop 😭 hay the got too much and right now the relationship is strained ngoba if ndiyahamba apha ubrother wam ose varsity uzohoywa ngubani ,also bona bazokondliwa ngubani, I know I'm content nhe, but I've made a conscious decision to put myself and my needs first, I'm already 33 and still running my mom's home (only financially phofu ngoba ke they call the shots) I already have kids, a failed marriage and all that is being used against me🤔🤭 hay sana it's a lot 🙆♀️
We learn every day as we grow. Contentment lesson is mostly centered to one's religion and the most misunderstood topic of all times. I've realised that as Christians especially old time Christians, we tend to think that being poor shows how holy we are, which is not true. NO God did not create us to be poor hence HE said 'ask and it shall be given. One thing that I do agree with that you mentioned is that IT'S OK TO BE CONTENT AND STILL WANT MORE. This takes us to the issue of Happiness, I mean you can't be content with poverty or lack of something honestly, you end up aware or unaware asking the giver of it all God why why why njeee. So I believe we aught to be content and still work hard to achieve more if it makes us happy because CONTENTMENT & HAPPINESS goes hand in hand.
Interesting topic❤ for me I’d say I am content with my life and I’ve never thought it means I don’t want more but that it means I am happy with what I have and excited to wake up every day and work on it “perfecting my craft” and everything that comes with it is a bonus
Sana, not to contradict this conversation on contentment. But i'm not content with only hearing from you on CZcams. Sicela iPodcast/a special series dedicated to these conversation (where you can even invite guests and pick their brains on such topics/thoughts). I love it every time you bring us a conversation that picks our brains and forces us to engage with your content even outside YT. Jonga ngoku, ndizobe ndibusy ndibuza abantu the whole day if they are content and what contentment looks like for them. Thank you
Wow Nozi I can really relate to this topic sooo much it's as if you speaking my heart..my friends always say to me hey can you slow down..also I bought my house 2 years back and when ever I say I need a house my friend always says andoneli..you have a house n I really get frustrated that ì even stop sharing what I wana do next cz I feel I'm being misunderstood yes I'm happy I have but just wana have more.i thank God everyday with what I have but I'm still asking for much more ..but hey I struggle to share now cz I feel like people will tell me I'm ungrateful.like I got a better job a month ago I'm already going for interview for other jobs..am I not greatful? Yes I am but I feel like the fact that im called for even better opportunities then I should pursue them.but yes maybe sometimes we need to breath a little..I relate in so many ways thanks
Thank you for this conversation sis Nozie I guess it really starts with daily practice of genuine gratitude & constant reflection & there after opening up yourself to abundance & not fully basing your happiness or attaching it more on big moments. We all living on our answers prayers and while waiting for others to manifest we still remain intentionally grateful & content.
Thank you for the topic. I am very ambitious, I am forever looking for better opportunities & improving my career. Part of it is us subconsciously trying to run away our needy past. I think for me in particular I was traumitised by the inconvenience porvety brought into my life...to a point where getting better & better has become an obsession. The topics you touching on are really helpful
I think being content has to do with gratitude and being at a better place with peace.because we grow daily,our priorities may change from time to time and that opens a room to advance.
Yah ne sis Nozi I really loved this conversation I don't even celebrate my achievements because I always look for something more or better than what I have done......Love u Nozi u always spot ❤
Thanks for this topic Nozi because Im kinda in same predicament as you. I have realised iya depressa the way we go about it. Just last week I was at the car wash and I realised I dont get to celebrate my car soloko ndibawela b a better brand the latest model. But ngalamini after I left car wash I was so grateful for the car and I got to apprciate it. Haike eyendlu I find my self looking at new houses more often than not.
I love your transparency Nozi👌👌 yoooh this is true, we really doubt our blessings by wanting more and not realizing ba sisukaphi kuze sibelapha🥺🥺🥺 Thank you for this topic❤️
Thank you so much for this sis Nozi. It took me back at some point when l was so dissatisfied with everything. And something came to mind that reminded me of the fact that l prayed for the season where l am and it is holy.
I think it's in our nature as humans to want to be affirmed as well as to need those constant reminders. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that coz honestly life can have us getting carried away and forgetting who we are, our purpose, and our intentions. That's why I believe it is important to always find time to journal especially on gratitude, meditate and dwell on His word.
Suffered from the same thing as well to a point of feeling like am literally suffocating from lack of space plus my growing family. Something in me reminded me that every blessing i received it came at a season of gratitude so i turned my perspective and am grateful and with a sound plan i will achieve all in my season
Shuuu you’ve hit the nail on the coffin. It so happens that I’m literally going through the exact same thing. I bought a house 4yrs ago and at the time I was so excited and feeling like best decision even. Now i feel like I want a bigger space tjooo I see everything wrong about my space literally everything even the area
Sometimes I feel like its normal because inventors will never stop to design new things and as they do they always look for a gap. It will never end since technology its ongoing. We are currently in 3rd industrial revolution...Just wait for the 4th industrial. Its all about convenient and soft life. Weather the house, car, phone, furniture, clothes etc...It will never stop or end. All you need to do its discipline yourself. One professor in one of the conferences said "People spend the money that they don't have to impress the people that they don't even like" its paraphrase. If I am not mistaken it was Somadoda Fikeni
This is Profound, Nozi!! 👌🏼👌🏼❤️❤️❤️ I suppose looking forward to improvement is crucial for the betterment of one’s life and/or circumstances. And yes, it is fundamental to appreciate and embrace current blessings.
Yoh sisi I have the same story about our house now. I had to calm down and realised that our house is perfect just the way it is..Yoh, I struggle with being content! I have learned that things will never satisfy us, never...there's always gonna be a need for more until we face what it is we are trying to fill with things.
I can so relate Nozi, I have always had a dream to extend my house, that edge got worse when I had my second born, my house felt so small, to a point that I felt I was forever dumping into stuff. Then I realized maan my mind is playing games with me, and it's stealing my joy to not focus on this new human being. But luckily God helped me I managed to get my dream fulfilled
I was watching this other video, kusithiwa we should know that even resting season is still "your season". That weekend that you didn't have any gigs was still part of the process mam. It was still your season
This is such an interesting and profound topic. I think contentment primarily relates to the present moment (The Now), outside of that nothing exists. of course, this is a conversation on its own. Sending you love 💚
Thank you for this Video sis Nozi..Yaz we often overlook and take for granted what we have becouse we now feel like it has become a burden in our lives eish. 😇🌻 thank you
Wow this conversation was definitely necessary. I find myself struggling with this too and what I've learned is that yes be content with what you have but also don't be too comfortable with having just the bare minimum. Jesus didn't die on the cross for us just to be mediocre. We need to always strive for reaching beyond the stars, but then again doing it in such a way that it doesn't drain you spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically because then it defeats the whole purpose. Notification gang 🥰🇳🇦 #suzettekeybah
While u wanting more, i think u need to be grateful for what you currently have. Make the best with what you currently have. Don't be too hard on yourself, you are doing your best. God has created you to be who you are. Every single step of your life. Pray for more and be grateful for what God is doing in ur life now. God bless you Nozi.
Thank you for speaking about this. It's always a struggle to keep a balance. I totally agree.. while wanting more, there should be gratitude for what we have at the moment. When there's no value or gratitude.. then it needs to be checked
Thank you so much for this conversation, this is my struggle 🤔 I get the things I want but I'm always looking for the next forgetting that at some point I was praying for the things I have
Just a few months my life took the worst turn ever and I lost so many significant people in my life. At the time everything happened I felt as if life was being unfair, because cause I always have people walk out on me even if I was always there for them, but I am so content with them leaving right now, cause I have reflected on their influence on my life and even though there was some good to it, I always over compensated and I concluded that as a person I am evolving and if I lose people along the way it is probably cause they don't fit into what lies ahead for me. As we grow, our ambition grows too, but contentment is not in wanting more, it's appreciating every milestone and acknowledging if it's time to let go. Also, contentment comes with reflecting on your life as an individual and not with peers, cause I think this is what shakes many people. Just, because your friend moved out from home at 20, it does not mean that is the route your life should take, you can move out at 30, but having a plan to move out and not being "comfortable", that shows a great deal of contentment.
I remember I noticed that the background changed. Lol and you didn’t say a lot on my comment 😂 Looks good though. Yes we deserve increase and improvement man!!
Wanting more is ambitious . but being annoyed at what you have is not content . content is when you looking forward to smash goals but being happy with what you have ........
😢😢I bought my house I loved it and I hate now its small family has grown my kids are 3 in a 2 bedroomed house Again wanting more and me wanting a bigger house 😅 Yet I don't afford now 😂😂
I think stick to the Tenis for the sake of your arms. As the fitnes Bunny you might see a big difference for your fitness goals. 💖💖💖 I always wanted to have arms like Cerena’s arms 😜😜😜
Thank you so much for sharing this. It’s the gospel I needed to hear today!! I’ve been slacking in my current blessings because I’ve been so focused on the next best thing. God slowed me all the way down with this video. Ngiyabonga Nozi, u have no idea how much peace & understanding this message has given me. May God continue to open His tap of blessings over your life 🙌🏾❤️🙏🏾😇Yohh😭
I’m struggling on balancing buying things I currently want and saving for next year because I don’t know why my source of income will be . Final year student ***
I agree with the statement the brother said. To me, contentment means being peaceful while healthily working towards more.
I relate to this conversation so much as a 25 year old. I am struggling with being content with what I have achieved so far. I'm always looking for more, and I am not sure when it will feel like it's enough. I usually set career and personal goals for myself and it has gotten to a point where, when I achieve something, I almost don't even celebrate it because I'm looking for the next better thing. It's so difficult. Even with the house thing you just mentioned, I still stay at home for family reasons, but I always overcompare myself to my peers who have apartments and are getting houses, and sometimes it really dents my confidence, I almost feel like I'm not fully an adult who can make my own decisions, when technically I can. Thanks for highlighting this! Now I have a lot to think about.
We are the same, I would really like to look back and just enjoy what I have achieved thus far
I just want to say this if I may, I don't know if you have celebrated your milestones. After achieving each goal you have set celebrate it and take time to enjoy that moment, cause jumping from goal to goal will have you searching for the next great moment without realising that at that moment in your life you are in the greatest moment. Exhaust the feeling of one achievement, before moving to the next. Just like u'Sis Nozi said that the house was very exciting at first, but now she wants out, she has surpassed the phase of enjoying that how and now seeks more.
I relate to you on so much! Same here! Same age! I understand you
@@tshegofatsokwenda8710 I’m going to do so going forward. Thank you 🙏
I started doing a gratitude journal - it helped slow me down a bit.
There's a quote that keeps me grounded "You are already living in one of your answered prayers" this conversation makes so much sense. Especially being young and constantly chasing life and what it has in store for you. It's very important to understand that yes you want more, BUT there's a blessing in what you have today.
Powerful reflection there. You just reminded of one of my jobs back in 2010. I had prayed and fasted to get it.
Three years into it I felt like I had out grown it, I began to feel miserable there. Until one day, as I was praying for a new job, there was AHA moment. I got reminded of how once upon a time, the current job was a blessing. Why then, was it suddenly becoming to feel like a burden.
It was at that moment that I was reminded of the concept of Obedience. Being obedient and trustworthy with the job that God has entrusted me with until the very last second. Until He decides to move me to a bigger responsibility.
My attitude changed instantly, I began to to be intentional and cheerful in delivering my duties. My popularity and performance grew at an alarming rate. My love for that job was restored. It was only then that a new job came to my door step, when I least expected it. I moved 5 salary levels upwards. .....
I am going through the same thing currently... thanks for sharing
Whaaaaat?! I am here for the fruits of obedience 🙏🏾🥺
I wish i could like your comment 1 million times! Sheeeesh🥵❤❤❤❤❤
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Wow wow wow😭 thank you for sharing
Eish babes the big question is " where does it end". I feel as human beings we always want and want to have more instead of enjoying the "NOW". In appreciating the now that's when God starts preparing us for bigger things .
amen and amen... being content but understanding it...
What an important conversation to have. Definitely something I struggle with. It's not easy to stop reflect, breathe and realize how far you've come. I appreciate this conversation 💜
Nozi this is so deep ndikuxelele 😭😭😭😭I am still learning to be content serious
Wants are unlimited. You satisfy one, another arises. I’m ALWAYS grateful for what I have but I continue to want more without any pressure. Thank you Lord for a healthy me.😅
relatable! For me this one statement wraps it all up: I am not where I would like to be, but thank God, I'm not where I used to be. This allows me to celebrate my house, knowing I own it, outright, even though I'm working towards a house that I plan and dream and envision and build from the ground up.
Beautiful conversation. My thoughts on this is that for most of us, our motivation and drive is largely driven by our backgrounds. The anxiety of not wanting to go back to those places that were full of hardship and challenges keep us wanting more and even when we are at a point that we should be reasonably comfortable, the anxiety of feeling like what if this all goes aways keeps us on our toes.
Most of our generation are still first generation university graduate, first generation home owner, car owner etc , so really wealth in the true sense has not yet been a part of our lives that long that we can easily start speaking of being content…yes I am grateful for health, for my kids, food on the table etc, but a lot more needs to happen before that feeling of true contentment becomes a part of the black story.
Half of what we say we have is still half the story, a car and a house on loan is still not quite yours so the anxiety of staying on top of all that is a lot. When our kids grow and inherit a fully paid for house and car, then their conversations will be a little different after that.. and when their kids get that plus some money saved then they feel even better and so on♥️.
being content shouldn't hinder pursuit but pursuit should not disturb the state of being content, wanting more and being content are actually independent of each other and the mistake we often make is trying to relate them and that is where we are thrown off balance. Try striving for more without looking down on what you have, there is so much peace in that.
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Well said
I loved this conversation. It's worth it. My mum passed on in 2020. And my sis moved to UK and everyone was saying atleast I don't need to stress about buying a house anymore. I hated those words coz I want a house of my own. But I realized I got a peaceful environment to plan for my business and career, and shouldn't rush to have things that I'm not financially ready for all in the name of breaking the stigma that "my mum's house is now mine".
Sana I can so relate!!!! Resenting your beautiful home and everything about and around it because it has now suddenly become“not good enough” yo! 😂 la nto is a stealer of joy!
There are things you considered as a blessing and you now feel like they’re an inconvenience - you meed to revaluate. Be careful of wanting more without appreciating what you have.👏🏿Thank you for this SisNozi!♥️
Thank you. I needed to hear this😓❤️
Loved this conversation , dankie sis Nozi. You mentioned the bible and this is how I've come to understand the concept of content from there. Being content is the ability to be grateful for the things God has done ,and joyful for all that He is currently doing but also still being hopeful in the things that he will do. We believe in a God of miracles so it's only natural for us to desire Him to move in miraculous ways for us , so being content doesn't clash with our desire for more nor does it clash with ambition. The problem comes when our desire for more prevents us from seeing God moving in the now. My favorite verse says "It is a gift from God when God gives some people wealth and possessions, the power to enjoy them, the ability to accept their lot in life, and the ability to rejoice in their own hard work" I love how it emphasizes that even with content ,it is Him who can give us that.
well said,love it and thank you.
I can only imagine Skhu asking those question. You probably wanted to hide under the table. What a topic...I am really reflecting
This is very insightful sis Nozi, I honestly felt like you were talking about me. Thank you for this video.
Very eye opening conversation, I've gone through the same feelings of resenting the current blessing because of a future desire. Funny enough it's the same story with the house. Then I looked back and realized, those feelings of wanting better were stealing the joy of being in the present. Now I'm busy redesigning the current space trusting that He is faithful who promised. A grateful heart is a magnet for more blessings. Thoughts are very powerful
I get your point mommy❤❤❤ thnx for those beautiful words… seriously we should not neglect things that we have 😊
you've just earned yourself a new follower, such a profound topic. Enkosi sisi
So power sis, I am content and I got a shock of my life when someone suggests that I am not. That made me shut down and not want to explain myself. Contentment to me is being grateful everyday and recognizing how far God has moved me even in silent battles. Basically what am trying to say is let's not be quick to assume people are not content if they express frustration about a certain area of thier life
House is on the way sis Nozi, I even imagine you and Skhu staying in the Estate opposite Carnival City, your house is bigger and nicer. And I see white Mercedes coming soon as well. Watch and see
I think as human beings we tend to desire more as we grow, being content may also mean you are happy with your life and appreciate, even thou u desire to have more, it wouldn't mess up your gratitude level or state of happiness if what u desire doesn't happen.
We also all have that inner child that we constantly need to feed if we never get an opportunity to silence it. If were raised poor we want to work so much that we don't ever have to make the inner child feel the deprivation anymore or if we were abused anything that even looks like or resemble it even if it's not at a toxic level we run coz we feel the need to protect the inner child. The best place to start is to identify why u have the need to have more and more and also the validation of work to make u feel life is lifing 😁. We are all a work in progress and we do need to reflect on where God has taken us and appreciate His work in us instead of constantly making Him hear how much more He should be doing. I pray u never lose your ambitions but also pray that u find your own healing so it can bring u full contentment 💕
So powerful indeed and profound .Thanks Nozi.
As am listening to you am thinking to myself ooookay, it's good that am not the only person that feels like I do. Ewe am grateful and feel blessed and content with all that I have kodwa am ready for more. Infact I am planning our bigger next venture, ewe ndiyayazi ne Bible ithi zifundise ukwanela yindawo okuyo kodwa no man I am God's favorite I deserve a lot more in this beautiful life. Thank you Nozi💖
for me content mean to be happy with not getting and having all that you want; though you will still continue to work towards achieving all that you desire
Enkosi Nozi for this teaching about contentment sisi. You have challenged me to reflect on my own life and to count my blessings 🙌🏾
For me it's different. When I made my goals, I divided them into short term, medium term and long term and this applies for education, car, a house and other things. So, this essentially means as much as I have achieved all my short term goals and some of the medium term, now I am working on getting my medium term goal education. I know afterwards, I'll get my medium term goal house. After that it means I will not rest until I get my long term goal house, car, etc. This will keep me ambitious enough for a long time coz, girl are my long term goals big! But I will not keep upgrading in between which will keep me basking in contentment enough until my biggest dreams come true. Even now, I regard everything else from this stage as a bonus because I always look at how far I have come. .
*applies to
I hate it when people make it like I am not grateful… as long as you are alive you will want more that doesn’t disregard what I have already
Wow🤭 this couldn't have come at a better time than now🥺 growing up I've always been taught to be grateful to an extent that I personally felt like I wasn't allowed to dream big or want greater and better things in life 😖My mom has always reminded me every chance she got that ndizalwa nguye🤔 her exact words were "uyazlibala ba uzalwa ndim", my dad on the other side doesn't believe in a girl child, the only thing that he was fixed on was, and I quote "yi waste ufundisa umntwan oyntombaza bcos uzodidibana nendoda kwesaskolo ugqiba kwakhe nje ufunda umka naloo ndoda bayotya loomali yakho ushiyeke, ulamba uyintlekisa ngoba klk uthengise nemfuyo ubhatala iskolo" sana this broke me, and whenever I wasn't proud of myself it would be my consolation ba "kakade wethu no one believed in me" I've just realised that all my decisions have been based on me proving to my parents that I am worhty, deserving and actually can make something of my life. The only problem is that most of was never about me but to impress them😭 it has gotten to a point where the expectations have become too much and sana I'm depressed and I feel used 🙆♀️ I'm tired of proving myself and now want to live my life in my terms and now I'm constantly thrown with "kibethwa inkomo etsalayo". I've wanted to move out of my family house and have start something in my own name, build a home for my children, but sana mom will remind ukuthi mandithobe iemere kulendawo uThixo andibeke kuyo, klk mna dikhulele etyotyombeni and should be greatful that ngok sihlala kwi 1 bedroom house ye RDP, (which I extendedto a 2 bedroom)🙆♀️ sana kanti where does it stop 😭 hay the got too much and right now the relationship is strained ngoba if ndiyahamba apha ubrother wam ose varsity uzohoywa ngubani ,also bona bazokondliwa ngubani, I know I'm content nhe, but I've made a conscious decision to put myself and my needs first, I'm already 33 and still running my mom's home (only financially phofu ngoba ke they call the shots) I already have kids, a failed marriage and all that is being used against me🤔🤭 hay sana it's a lot 🙆♀️
Am so sorry nana, sounds like a lot that you’re carrying. Trust our broken parents to do that to us. Please consider therapy
Thank you so much I am currently going through the same issue with our house now I feel much better you gave me something to think about
You look absolutely gorgeous and talk about how stunning your kitchen is …amazing 🥰🥰🥰
We learn every day as we grow. Contentment lesson is mostly centered to one's religion and the most misunderstood topic of all times. I've realised that as Christians especially old time Christians, we tend to think that being poor shows how holy we are, which is not true. NO God did not create us to be poor hence HE said 'ask and it shall be given. One thing that I do agree with that you mentioned is that IT'S OK TO BE CONTENT AND STILL WANT MORE. This takes us to the issue of Happiness, I mean you can't be content with poverty or lack of something honestly, you end up aware or unaware asking the giver of it all God why why why njeee. So I believe we aught to be content and still work hard to achieve more if it makes us happy because CONTENTMENT & HAPPINESS goes hand in hand.
Interesting topic❤ for me I’d say I am content with my life and I’ve never thought it means I don’t want more but that it means I am happy with what I have and excited to wake up every day and work on it “perfecting my craft” and everything that comes with it is a bonus
This is profound wonderfully explained,thank you💚💚 from Zambia 🇿🇲.
Sana, not to contradict this conversation on contentment. But i'm not content with only hearing from you on CZcams. Sicela iPodcast/a special series dedicated to these conversation (where you can even invite guests and pick their brains on such topics/thoughts). I love it every time you bring us a conversation that picks our brains and forces us to engage with your content even outside YT. Jonga ngoku, ndizobe ndibusy ndibuza abantu the whole day if they are content and what contentment looks like for them. Thank you
Welcome back Nozi😍😍 great topic, enkosi Maskhosi we're learning👏
Wow Nozi I can really relate to this topic sooo much it's as if you speaking my heart..my friends always say to me hey can you slow down..also I bought my house 2 years back and when ever I say I need a house my friend always says andoneli..you have a house n I really get frustrated that ì even stop sharing what I wana do next cz I feel I'm being misunderstood yes I'm happy I have but just wana have more.i thank God everyday with what I have but I'm still asking for much more ..but hey I struggle to share now cz I feel like people will tell me I'm ungrateful.like I got a better job a month ago I'm already going for interview for other jobs..am I not greatful? Yes I am but I feel like the fact that im called for even better opportunities then I should pursue them.but yes maybe sometimes we need to breath a little..I relate in so many ways thanks
Thank you for this conversation sis Nozie I guess it really starts with daily practice of genuine gratitude & constant reflection & there after opening up yourself to abundance & not fully basing your happiness or attaching it more on big moments. We all living on our answers prayers and while waiting for others to manifest we still remain intentionally grateful & content.
Thank you for the topic. I am very ambitious, I am forever looking for better opportunities & improving my career. Part of it is us subconsciously trying to run away our needy past. I think for me in particular I was traumitised by the inconvenience porvety brought into my life...to a point where getting better & better has become an obsession. The topics you touching on are really helpful
I think being content has to do with gratitude and being at a better place with peace.because we grow daily,our priorities may change from time to time and that opens a room to advance.
Exactly where im at right now, to a point of being discommected from my reality and my job. Its a lot 😭😭😭😭😭
Yah ne sis Nozi I really loved this conversation I don't even celebrate my achievements because I always look for something more or better than what I have done......Love u Nozi u always spot ❤
Thanks for this topic Nozi because Im kinda in same predicament as you. I have realised iya depressa the way we go about it. Just last week I was at the car wash and I realised I dont get to celebrate my car soloko ndibawela b a better brand the latest model. But ngalamini after I left car wash I was so grateful for the car and I got to apprciate it. Haike eyendlu I find my self looking at new houses more often than not.
So powerful .Love this
I love your transparency Nozi👌👌 yoooh this is true, we really doubt our blessings by wanting more and not realizing ba sisukaphi kuze sibelapha🥺🥺🥺 Thank you for this topic❤️
Thank you so much for this sis Nozi. It took me back at some point when l was so dissatisfied with everything. And something came to mind that reminded me of the fact that l prayed for the season where l am and it is holy.
I really needed to hear this🥺🥺🥺. thank you so much. ❤
I think it's in our nature as humans to want to be affirmed as well as to need those constant reminders. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that coz honestly life can have us getting carried away and forgetting who we are, our purpose, and our intentions. That's why I believe it is important to always find time to journal especially on gratitude, meditate and dwell on His word.
I love 💕 your kitchen😊
Suffered from the same thing as well to a point of feeling like am literally suffocating from lack of space plus my growing family. Something in me reminded me that every blessing i received it came at a season of gratitude so i turned my perspective and am grateful and with a sound plan i will achieve all in my season
Referring to a bigger house
Such a great topic Sis Nozi .💐♥️
Thank you for this Nozi ❤❤❤
Shuuu you’ve hit the nail on the coffin. It so happens that I’m literally going through the exact same thing. I bought a house 4yrs ago and at the time I was so excited and feeling like best decision even. Now i feel like I want a bigger space tjooo I see everything wrong about my space literally everything even the area
Sometimes I feel like its normal because inventors will never stop to design new things and as they do they always look for a gap. It will never end since technology its ongoing. We are currently in 3rd industrial revolution...Just wait for the 4th industrial. Its all about convenient and soft life. Weather the house, car, phone, furniture, clothes etc...It will never stop or end. All you need to do its discipline yourself. One professor in one of the conferences said "People spend the money that they don't have to impress the people that they don't even like" its paraphrase. If I am not mistaken it was Somadoda Fikeni
Wow!
I honestly felt like this video was talking about me. Thank u for this video sisi 🙏🏽
This is Profound, Nozi!! 👌🏼👌🏼❤️❤️❤️
I suppose looking forward to improvement is crucial for the betterment of one’s life and/or circumstances. And yes, it is fundamental to appreciate and embrace current blessings.
Yoh sisi I have the same story about our house now. I had to calm down and realised that our house is perfect just the way it is..Yoh, I struggle with being content! I have learned that things will never satisfy us, never...there's always gonna be a need for more until we face what it is we are trying to fill with things.
I can so relate Nozi, I have always had a dream to extend my house, that edge got worse when I had my second born, my house felt so small, to a point that I felt I was forever dumping into stuff. Then I realized maan my mind is playing games with me, and it's stealing my joy to not focus on this new human being. But luckily God helped me I managed to get my dream fulfilled
Thanks Nozi I really needed this!❤️❤️
I was watching this other video, kusithiwa we should know that even resting season is still "your season". That weekend that you didn't have any gigs was still part of the process mam. It was still your season
This is such an interesting and profound topic. I think contentment primarily relates to the present moment (The Now), outside of that nothing exists. of course, this is a conversation on its own. Sending you love 💚
Yooo this was so profound and such a well of wisdom 💯🥰😍
Thank you for this Video sis Nozi..Yaz we often overlook and take for granted what we have becouse we now feel like it has become a burden in our lives eish. 😇🌻 thank you
Wow this conversation was definitely necessary. I find myself struggling with this too and what I've learned is that yes be content with what you have but also don't be too comfortable with having just the bare minimum. Jesus didn't die on the cross for us just to be mediocre. We need to always strive for reaching beyond the stars, but then again doing it in such a way that it doesn't drain you spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically because then it defeats the whole purpose.
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well said sisi
While u wanting more, i think u need to be grateful for what you currently have. Make the best with what you currently have. Don't be too hard on yourself, you are doing your best. God has created you to be who you are. Every single step of your life. Pray for more and be grateful for what God is doing in ur life now. God bless you Nozi.
Thank you for speaking about this. It's always a struggle to keep a balance. I totally agree.. while wanting more, there should be gratitude for what we have at the moment. When there's no value or gratitude.. then it needs to be checked
Thank you so much for this conversation, this is my struggle 🤔 I get the things I want but I'm always looking for the next forgetting that at some point I was praying for the things I have
You’ve been my motivation. I love you so much !❤😊
molwenii molwenii bethuna , thank you for the video😍 love this kitchen
Great content well said
I needed this. Thank you for this amazing and informative video. 👏🏼 ❤️
Thank you Nozie 🙏🙏nd you so beautiful Maskhosi ❤❤
Just a few months my life took the worst turn ever and I lost so many significant people in my life. At the time everything happened I felt as if life was being unfair, because cause I always have people walk out on me even if I was always there for them, but I am so content with them leaving right now, cause I have reflected on their influence on my life and even though there was some good to it, I always over compensated and I concluded that as a person I am evolving and if I lose people along the way it is probably cause they don't fit into what lies ahead for me. As we grow, our ambition grows too, but contentment is not in wanting more, it's appreciating every milestone and acknowledging if it's time to let go. Also, contentment comes with reflecting on your life as an individual and not with peers, cause I think this is what shakes many people. Just, because your friend moved out from home at 20, it does not mean that is the route your life should take, you can move out at 30, but having a plan to move out and not being "comfortable", that shows a great deal of contentment.
love you ,thank you for sharing the words with us and for us to look back and appreciate the things we have and got to achieve
Thank you so much for this reminder Nozie it's very important and was an eye opener for me 🙏❤
Thanks Nozie.. I needed to hear this ..such encouragement ❤
Content don't mean you don't want more it means you don't desire someone else's possession
You know where the danger is? You know where the danger is🥴
Thank you for this topic mntase, it honestly feels like ubuthetha nam.
Thanks for sharing ❤️.
I remember I noticed that the background changed. Lol and you didn’t say a lot on my comment 😂
Looks good though. Yes we deserve increase and improvement man!!
Love love love this talk
This is me right now😂
Beautiful vlog Mama really loved it🙏🙏😘
Wanting more is ambitious . but being annoyed at what you have is not content . content is when you looking forward to smash goals but being happy with what you have ........
My current sentiment.
Wow..what we once viewed as a blessing is suddenly becoming an inconvenience..thank you Sku..i needed those words..it hit me.
And you have a beautiful house mommy❤❤❤
Love this Nozi!! I relate so much...
I’m always caught between being grateful and wanting more for myself.
😢😢I bought my house I loved it and I hate now its small family has grown my kids are 3 in a 2 bedroomed house
Again wanting more and me wanting a bigger house 😅
Yet I don't afford now 😂😂
Deep 🎉🙏🏾
Food for thought🌸
lmao when she said help me run like literally lol
It's been a minute. We missed you sisi ❤️
I think stick to the Tenis for the sake of your arms. As the fitnes Bunny you might see a big difference for your fitness goals. 💖💖💖 I always wanted to have arms like Cerena’s arms 😜😜😜
Thank you so much for sharing this. It’s the gospel I needed to hear today!!
I’ve been slacking in my current blessings because I’ve been so focused on the next best thing. God slowed me all the way down with this video. Ngiyabonga Nozi, u have no idea how much peace & understanding this message has given me. May God continue to open His tap of blessings over your life 🙌🏾❤️🙏🏾😇Yohh😭
I’m struggling on balancing buying things I currently want and saving for next year because I don’t know why my source of income will be . Final year student ***
Relatable...