My Husband Doesn't Want To Save For Our Kid's College

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  • čas přidán 8. 09. 2024

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  • @richardaguirre3719
    @richardaguirre3719 Před 2 lety +213

    If you live in an area where your kids can do two years at the community college and two at a state public university, they can work to help pay for it. You can get it done for $25-30k and not throw away thousands of dollars. It's ok to let them live at home while they complete their college education.

    • @teeduck
      @teeduck Před 2 lety +8

      You say it’s ok to let your kids live at home. Not when your parents kick you out when you turn 18

    • @brianmcg321
      @brianmcg321 Před 2 lety +1

      That’s what we are doing.

    • @edgarc407
      @edgarc407 Před 2 lety +27

      I did this and paid $15k, now I make 120k right out of college

    • @deliz870
      @deliz870 Před 2 lety +6

      @@edgarc407 way to go

    • @ErinTalksMoney
      @ErinTalksMoney Před 2 lety +4

      Yes! My husband did this. I moved home after college to live with my mom, a single parent - got a full time job & part time job, and paid VERY reduced expenses! Forever thankful to my mom for giving me that opportunity!!

  • @vjs4539
    @vjs4539 Před 2 lety +40

    Most of those colleges should go out of business

  • @laurah6381
    @laurah6381 Před 2 lety +8

    I will do anything to give my kids a better life than I had! If you can help your kids, help them. It doesn’t mean your kids are lazy or ungrateful.

  • @M2161
    @M2161 Před 2 lety +62

    Put a “college” fund ready for your kids and if they don’t go to a 4 year university, gift it to them in one way or another or put it to retirement.

    • @darkshadow955
      @darkshadow955 Před 2 lety +2

      Exactly

    • @gabemondry
      @gabemondry Před 2 lety

      That’s basically an UTMA, and what I have for my kids. Your kids only pay taxes on it based on their bracket, which as a 21yr old, will be basically no taxes. Dave doesn’t like UTMAs because they have no strings attached.

    • @zoeyredmond5501
      @zoeyredmond5501 Před 3 měsíci +1

      This stuff isn’t hard, the education system has just failed us when it comes to finances

    • @M2161
      @M2161 Před 3 měsíci

      @@zoeyredmond5501 at a certain point this isn’t even financial education but basic common sense.

  • @helenhilton2158
    @helenhilton2158 Před 2 lety +17

    My nephew got a full-ride scholarship and expects his kids to do the same, but we’re not all alike. How can anyone guarantee that their children will qualify for a scholarship-especially full-ride? It certainly doesn’t hurt to set money aside for their education.

  • @pey7777
    @pey7777 Před 2 lety +79

    I had no help from my parents for college. I worked through school and was a resident assistant to get free housing and still graduated with $40k in student loan debt. I went to school for engineering so I landed a job making $75k right after graduating and paid off my debt in little over a year. Now I'm about to turn 30 and already have $700k net worth. Plan to retire in my 40s. It's that simple

    • @donaldlyons17
      @donaldlyons17 Před 2 lety +9

      You should already know that for many it is not that simple? In your town where do the fast food managers and bus drivers come from?

    • @MissTXTee
      @MissTXTee Před 2 lety +4

      How did you pay off $40K in one year making $75K? I would assume you brought home $55K. So, you lived off of $15K that year? Did you live at home or something??

    • @pey7777
      @pey7777 Před 2 lety +10

      @@MissTXTee It was a little over a year, about 15 months. I kept my expenses very low. I had a roommate and was paying only $600/month in rent. I was throwing thousands at the debt each month.

    • @racpatrice
      @racpatrice Před 2 lety +2

      Wow good for you! Congrats

    • @Evil-Rod-Farva
      @Evil-Rod-Farva Před 2 lety +3

      And awesome job by the way. Nice to see a fellow young person crushing it instead of whining and parasiting.

  • @privateprivate8366
    @privateprivate8366 Před 2 lety +92

    I think that, when you don’t want to save for a better future for your kids, you’d better ensure you’ve saved for your own, because you won’t be their problem, when you get old.

    • @cambrie7946
      @cambrie7946 Před 2 lety +9

      Wise advice.

    • @JKBelle
      @JKBelle Před 2 lety

      Lol! Ok! 🙄 what about people like me who did by all standards try to do what was “right,” but found college to be a complete RIP OFF and I’m STILL paying for a worthless degree that should have been paid for because I was in the military during 9/11 and then served during a war in which Bush CUT THE COLLEGE FUND for soldiers like me who re-enlisted specifically to get this benefit and after having to drop out of school in the middle of the semester because I was deployed I was stuck holding the bill after serving my country and being denied the very benefits that are used as the carrot on the stick!? Comments like yours are extremely short sighted and you act like everyone is the same lol! Ok! Good luck when you get old with such gross ignorance. Seriously! 🤦🏼‍♀️

    • @abrahamflores2566
      @abrahamflores2566 Před 2 lety

      To be honest college is over rated so you cannot attribute a successful future to saving for their college. There is no guarantee of a successful future because of some paper

    • @scarpfish
      @scarpfish Před 2 lety +7

      Funding their child's future unfortunately can leave parents unable to adequately fund their own when they get old, leaving said child guilt ridden yet resentful at the same time when a debilitating illness drains the parents of their savings.
      Having a mother with Alzheimer's who went far beyond the call of duty for me and my siblings, I speak from experience.

    • @privateprivate8366
      @privateprivate8366 Před 2 lety +8

      @@abrahamflores2566 understood. But, I’m talking about parents who have a general disinterest in their children’s future. There are parents that leave their children to simply finding their own way, with no guidance whatsoever. Some of those parents may do so because, as DR has had as subject before, they see their children as merely an extension of themselves, rather than an individual that needs to thrive on their own.

  • @taelee1113
    @taelee1113 Před 2 lety +16

    529 has restrictions on investment. I would rather put in regular investment account then use that money however you want to spent on it. I get that it does have tax benefits, but I would rather have more control on your money then less.

  • @sail253
    @sail253 Před 2 lety +8

    College is not what it was and its only worth something if you go for a very specific field and have a backup plan in case it doesnt work out

  • @jill3621
    @jill3621 Před 2 lety +29

    I had to pay for 100% of my college as my parents didn't have the money to help me. I think it did keep me grounded in reality that I needed to choose a less expensive college and get a degree that would pay me well. When I have kids, I intend to help with maybe half of their tuition/books/fees but NOT housing. I have found housing/meals tend to be the most expensive part of college and it's only purpose is to have "the college experience".

  • @actuallyterry
    @actuallyterry Před 2 lety +32

    I feel like parents should pay for college if they can afford to. If it jeopardizes their retirement or home, they should not do it.

    • @edhcb9359
      @edhcb9359 Před 2 lety +9

      Most parents don’t do it because it jeopardizes their ability to buy “stuff” not their retirement.

    • @patty109109
      @patty109109 Před 2 lety +7

      @@edhcb9359 true. I know a few families with no money for kids’ college. One bought a new house they didn’t need, amazing backyard, luxury suv. The other just bought themselves a brand new suv as well but I guarantee when they kids turn 18: “sorry, we couldn’t afford to help you!”

    • @unfairsanic5089
      @unfairsanic5089 Před 2 lety +1

      @@patty109109 which is why they end up working in a fastfood, getting knocked up in an early age and debt.

  • @nicolcacola
    @nicolcacola Před 2 lety +10

    Parents paying for college is a privilege not a right. If y'all can't afford to save for college and need to use it for retirement, raise them to work hard for what they want to do for school in the future.

    • @mocheen4837
      @mocheen4837 Před rokem

      I dropped out of college because the tuition and rent at Berkeley was too much. I still ended up with a job that paid a six figure income. I wanted to be able to allow my children the option to attend college without having to worry about the cost. I put enough away to pay for both of their educations. I was fortunate that my daughter received a scholarship that covered tuition and provided a generous stipend.

  • @JKBelle
    @JKBelle Před 2 lety +104

    College is worthless a LOT of the time now! I have an expensive degree I’m still paying for even though I was deployed in the army and finished it online while literally serving in a war! But I should still pay for it.. fine… I do… but I’m so sick of the mindset that you absolutely have to go to college to be successful! Actually, most of the really highly successful people are college dropouts!

  • @Ryan_DeWitt
    @Ryan_DeWitt Před 2 lety +139

    Saving for your kids college is nice, but I don't think it should be an absolute requirement.

    • @CE-vd2px
      @CE-vd2px Před 2 lety

      Save like 15k and make them pay their way?

    • @christophercarrigg3775
      @christophercarrigg3775 Před 2 lety +1

      Agree

    • @yellowtrain3161
      @yellowtrain3161 Před 2 lety +8

      AMEN!!! Wanna go to college? Join the military. Parents shouldn’t take on this burden.

    • @edb484
      @edb484 Před 2 lety +3

      They work like me during school and everybody else

    • @boothman9321
      @boothman9321 Před 2 lety +2

      College is an investment you make in yourself, not a right.

  • @random-nz7dy
    @random-nz7dy Před 2 lety +17

    For many years, a high school degree was seen as the standard in a bachelor's degree in and of itself was seen as impressive. However the bachelor's degree has now become the "standard".
    So having a bachelor's degree no longer impresses anybody.
    People are slowly figuring this out.
    The bachelor's degree itself doesn't help. It's what the bachelor's degree teaches you and where it sends you.
    If the bachelor's degree gives you skills that are applicable in the marketplace and create a good return on investment than it's worth it. If the bachelor's degree gives you the skills and prerequisites needed for medical school then it matters.
    But just going getting a random bachelor's degree in communications because you don't know what you want to do is stupid.
    College is not pointless but college can be pointless if you don't plan it with purpose

    • @mamebonsu2560
      @mamebonsu2560 Před 2 lety +1

      I think often the case is that young people going into college don't necessarily have plans. Many still don't even know what it is that interests them, and (at least at my high school), they didn't really have us considering our future that way. I, personally, have an English Literature BA and French minor. Has the degree helped me in most of my career choice? Maybe a little bit. But now I teach skateboarding and actually make decent money! I wouldn't have thought I was going to be doing this to have income even after I graduated... But now that I have the language background and the teaching experience through skate lessons, in the future I could become a teacher. Point is that college can look pointless in regards to setting up your career, but it can help you be creative and think for yourself, and keep yourself on a plan should you need one in the future.

    • @mamabear2020
      @mamabear2020 Před 2 lety +1

      I agree with you
      I went to college right after high school I got my bachelors in psychology.
      I have no job but thanks GOD I don’t have any loans

    • @matthewmchenry9331
      @matthewmchenry9331 Před 5 měsíci

      Life isn't all about money. Calling higher education a waste is like saying you should eat beans and rice your whole life.

    • @random-nz7dy
      @random-nz7dy Před 5 měsíci

      @@matthewmchenry9331 You're arguing against things nobody said. Nobody said that life is all about money and nobody said that higher education is a waste.
      But regardless of your interests, spending multiple hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt on a degree where you can only make 50k a year and can't advance is highly unwise.
      And thats a constant occurrence in our education system.
      Every year there's tons of people graduating who could make similar money working full-time at Costco, yet they have 200k in debt. That's what we're talking about

    • @matthewmchenry9331
      @matthewmchenry9331 Před 5 měsíci

      @@random-nz7dy again, making it all about money.

  • @EasyLifeOutdoors
    @EasyLifeOutdoors Před 2 lety +46

    Right wrong or indifferent I don’t want to fund college for my children. My parents paid for the majority of my college education and I completely squandered it and felt as though I appreciated it at the time but looking back I know that I didn’t. My plan for my kids is to let them pay their own way through school or whatever they choose to do then when they are 26-30 and have become responsible contributing members of society my wife and I will sit them down and explain why we did what we did and hand them each a check for 30k-50k. Maybe they can cut their mortgage in half or buy a new car or invest it or whatever they choose to do. I feel like if my parents had done this for me I would’ve utilized those funds in a much more productive way and would have a real sense of appreciation for it.

    • @larrybarbee4916
      @larrybarbee4916 Před 2 lety

      Excellent plan

    • @caliopeknows844
      @caliopeknows844 Před 2 lety +6

      Yup. Love and respect are different things. Love 'em always. Respect 'em when they earn it.

    • @karlabritfeld7104
      @karlabritfeld7104 Před 2 lety +1

      House is a better idea. I like that.

    • @rajbeekie7124
      @rajbeekie7124 Před 2 lety +1

      Hope it works pout for the kid. Overall, I think it is a bad idea. If the kids are responsible and mature to take on the responsibilities of college at 17 or 18 I would say fund them as much as you can. I told my kids I prefer them studying making good grades than working. Good grades equate to scholarships. Scholarship money is way more than working for money.
      Now, if the kids are not mature and not ready for college or any type of education then it is better to hold on to the money.

    • @caliopeknows844
      @caliopeknows844 Před 2 lety +3

      I offered to let mine live at home rent free including utilities and standard food free as long as they were attending college full time or attending college part time and working part time. They can even return and take me up on it if they are still single.

  • @mitchnerjosh
    @mitchnerjosh Před 2 lety +48

    Kids today are so spoiled. My parents said when you 18 your out and good luck. 👍 No help for college. So I joined the military and went to college.

    • @JKBelle
      @JKBelle Před 2 lety +5

      Yup same here! Best thing I ever did in 1998

    • @mitchnerjosh
      @mitchnerjosh Před 2 lety +5

      @@JKBelle Class of 2007 over here lol We both Ancient 😂 98 was a good year though.

    • @georgewagner7787
      @georgewagner7787 Před 2 lety +6

      No you're still young. Class of 83

    • @pojack9979
      @pojack9979 Před 2 lety +4

      My parents told me I could stay at home if I went to college. I got a job instead and was out of the house at 19.

    • @ddellwo
      @ddellwo Před 2 lety +5

      And when they’re 80 and in need of assistance make sure you tell them the same thing…….👍

  • @SensSword
    @SensSword Před 2 lety +22

    College is a ripoff. Tell the kid to get a scholarship if he/she wants to go to college.

    • @johnmartin4641
      @johnmartin4641 Před 2 lety

      It’s only a rip off if you major in something useless like German Polka History. I went to college, which was required for my job, and I did very well and made several times what the cost of college is today every year (except very early on in my career because I was young and inexperienced) and retired in my 50s.

    • @kathypatterson6813
      @kathypatterson6813 Před 4 měsíci

      Dumbing down of America

  • @steveneptun7580
    @steveneptun7580 Před 2 lety +5

    I want to save for my kids' college so they can go to college to be a sociologist if they want. If that's their passion and aptitude (and they can get paid enough to be satisfied with their life), then that's what I want them to do. That said, I will tell my kids that I don't want them to get a college degree to be a cashier, nor do I want them to fail out of college. College is an investment, but the returns don't have to be monetary.

    • @steveneptun7580
      @steveneptun7580 Před 2 lety

      @NomadBachelor You missed the part where I said "but the returns don't have to be monetary."

  • @prettyridesmedia
    @prettyridesmedia Před 2 lety +13

    I don’t have kids but it’s not a parent’s responsibility to pay for college. My parents didn’t pay for my tuition and grew up fine . Home paid off , no debt owed .

    • @johnmartin4641
      @johnmartin4641 Před 2 lety +6

      Yes, it is a parent’s responsibility. Part of a parent’s job is to provide for their children. Us parents have about 19 years to work, get promotions and raises, save, and invest from the moment we find out we’re going to be parents until our kids go to college. Kids obviously don’t have that luxury. That’s why it’s not a big deal for us parents but it is extremely difficult for the kids. And I’m betting college was a lot cheaper when you went than it is today. If he doesn’t help them with college, they’re not going to help him when he’s elderly because they either won’t be able to afford to help him because of his selfishness and recklessness or they will refuse to help him because he refused to help them. The amount of aid they get is also dependent on the parent’s income because it is assumed that the parents will pay.

    • @pep590
      @pep590 Před 2 lety +2

      But college is 100's of times more expensive than even just 20 years ago thanks to the governments guaranteeing of school loans. It's not a fair comparison.

    • @pep590
      @pep590 Před 2 lety +2

      @@johnmartin4641 You said it brother!

    • @MariaLopez-qp5yc
      @MariaLopez-qp5yc Před 3 měsíci

      @@johnmartin4641 I don’t think it’s my responsibility to fund their college and I don’t think it’s their responsibility to care for me when I’m elderly. I should be taking care of that myself…hmmm. So if I can’t pay for my kids college the best I can do is not be a financial burden to them when I’m old.

  • @HeadReindeer
    @HeadReindeer Před 2 lety +58

    He sounds like a very smart man. College is pointless these days.

    • @kellywaddell4448
      @kellywaddell4448 Před 2 lety +22

      College is pointless if you get a pointless degree that doesn’t result in a job. If you get a degree for a specific job, it’s not pointless.

    • @karlabritfeld7104
      @karlabritfeld7104 Před 2 lety

      Indeed!

    • @anthonywebster8638
      @anthonywebster8638 Před 2 lety +1

      @@kellywaddell4448 it's pointless, regardless of the degree.

    • @unfairsanic5089
      @unfairsanic5089 Před 2 lety +5

      @@anthonywebster8638 i disagree, im an rn and the only way to get in my position is through education. And there are other ways to get it without being i debt.

    • @random-nz7dy
      @random-nz7dy Před 2 lety +2

      College is not pointless. Pointless college is pointless.
      Like everything else in life, it needs to be done with a plan and a purpose. If you get a degree with no plan and it has no marketplace value then absolutely it's going to feel like a waste. But if you get a degree that sets you up for say applying to medical school, that's not useless.
      What happened was for many years, college degrees in and of themselves were generally pretty attractive. Just having the degree was seen as huge.
      That's no more. A bachelor's degree has become the new standard like a high school degree used to be. Nobody cares about having a bachelor's degree in and of itself. It's where it leads that matters

  • @paccarcrap
    @paccarcrap Před 2 lety +1

    I wouldn't either, they can get a student loan pretty cheap, help them with food, gas, and car insurance.

  • @tonystone8584
    @tonystone8584 Před 2 lety

    Never thought this would become the new Jerry springer. Hilarious and I love it!

  • @yoga_for_me9868
    @yoga_for_me9868 Před 2 lety +16

    I agree with the husband. Parents don’t owe the kids higher education. Some people really can’t afford it but just feel like it’s their duty. If you are higher income than sure help them but if just average than no.

    • @millsathn
      @millsathn Před 2 lety +2

      If you can afford it, you owe them. It should be funded 100% by the taxpayer. It’s your mindset that has caused US to become such a mess.

    • @SUPAassassin098
      @SUPAassassin098 Před 2 lety +4

      @@millsathn It seems like you don’t know what “owe” means.

    • @edhcb9359
      @edhcb9359 Před 2 lety +1

      To much “stuff” to buy yourself instead of helping your kids…right?🤷🏻‍♂️

    • @donaldlyons17
      @donaldlyons17 Před 2 lety

      @@millsathn If college and higher education is optional that why should taxpayers fund it and not people just take out loans for it?

    • @johnmartin4641
      @johnmartin4641 Před 2 lety +2

      A parent’s job is to provide for their children. “My children didn’t choose to be born. I chose to have them. They owe me nothing. I owe them everything.”-Elon Musk. The husband better not be counting on the kids to take care of him when he’s elderly because they either won’t be able to afford to help him because of his selfishness and recklessness or they will refuse to help him because he refused to help them.

  • @mariad4183
    @mariad4183 Před 13 dny

    Gotta build it into regular conversations so it doesn't come across as an option when it's time

  • @hazelwood55
    @hazelwood55 Před 10 měsíci

    Here are a couple of options to a 4-year degree. I worked stocking shelves at Meijer. I got an Anti-Money Laundering Certificate from ACAMS (only $1500) and got a job with a bank starting at $55k/yr. There are 6-month cybersecurity programs (I know Ohio State has one) where one can get a cybersecurity certificate and the bank I work for, starts cybersecurity people at $118k/yr. They need cybersecurity people so badly they give a $2k bonus to anyone who recommends one and gets hired.

  • @JasonGroom
    @JasonGroom Před 7 měsíci

    A better solution here is to divide between a UTMA and a 529. If you have equal amounts, and equal growth in yhe two accounts, and your child decides not to go to college, or any kind of other education, or they get scholarships and grants to cover it, when you cash out those accounts, the UTMA will provide more money, because the 529 is subject to a penalty. The UTMA can be cashed out, annuity style, and you will only be paying taxes, at the childs rate, on what they are taking annually in growth.

  • @eddiefniii
    @eddiefniii Před 2 lety +14

    Plumbers AC techs. Electricians. Carpenters. Truckers Etc. No degree required. Some make over 200k a year. Sick of everyone saying go to school. Not everyone needs a degree. If everyone had a degree your lawn guy would be charging you 150 every visit. The sanitation person would be charging 100 a month. Stop proclaiming that everyone needs a degree! I only have an AA. Zero loans back then. I’ve done well. Better than most of my classmates. A degree is great. But it’s not necessary.

    • @truckingmoney485
      @truckingmoney485 Před 2 lety +5

      I’m one of those “dumb” truckers making about 140k on a 5k trucking school certificate.

    • @eddiefniii
      @eddiefniii Před 2 lety +1

      @@truckingmoney485 thank you. It’s a scary job. I appreciate all you do. I couldn’t do it! ❤️

    • @mle011
      @mle011 Před 2 lety +5

      Trades aren’t always a “forever” job though, as the physical demands of the job may not be something someone can handle once in their 40s, 50s, 60s, etc. I work at a trauma hospital and every day see work accidents - men falling off ladders, roofs, scaffolding; getting major injuries from nail guns, saws, forklifts, etc. Sometimes it’s safer and better in the long-run to have a college degree and job that is less physically risky.

    • @privacyplease1556
      @privacyplease1556 Před 2 lety +4

      These jobs are very laborious. Not everyone is meant to do hard manual labor for 40 years. We need doctors. We need lawyers. We need teachers.

    • @electricbeing993
      @electricbeing993 Před 2 lety

      Facts

  • @andreaj8319
    @andreaj8319 Před 2 lety +20

    Sounds like daddy doesn’t want to save for his children. America is a very self centric country. If they don’t go to college they don’t go. Save a little something to gift to them when they graduate though at least.

    • @isaacpoling9200
      @isaacpoling9200 Před 2 lety +6

      We shouldn’t have to pay for their college, it should be on them .

    • @JKBelle
      @JKBelle Před 2 lety +4

      Lol my parents were like “here’s one semester of community college and you’re on your own!” Ok, so I joined the Army in 1998 and it made me grow up for starters and realize I’m not a princess like I thought!

    • @bronsonrunwick3632
      @bronsonrunwick3632 Před 2 lety

      @@isaacpoling9200 ignorant comment

  • @krsandrs
    @krsandrs Před 2 lety

    We lost half the value of our 529 plan in the early 2000 crash. Right when all three kids were getting ready to go to college. Was an absolute fiasco.

  • @gtolose
    @gtolose Před 2 lety +3

    The principle is right, invest in your children.

  • @carolr7823
    @carolr7823 Před 2 měsíci

    It's nice if parents pay for their kids college education, but I do not believe they are required to do so. Parents do not owe their children a college education.

  • @cato451
    @cato451 Před 2 lety +25

    I don’t blame him. Let them figure it out. I suggest they become electricians.

    • @cambrie7946
      @cambrie7946 Před 2 lety +2

      Or coders!

    • @JKBelle
      @JKBelle Před 2 lety +1

      They can go to Job Core for FREE!

    • @LovelyCeee
      @LovelyCeee Před 2 lety

      @@JKBelle I forgot about Job Core! Thank you for stating this.

    • @darkshadow955
      @darkshadow955 Před 2 lety +1

      Ok. I suggest they become engineers.

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 Před 2 lety

      @@JKBelle Corps

  • @BV-Auto
    @BV-Auto Před 10 dny

    Trade schools are the way to go!

  • @John3.36
    @John3.36 Před 2 lety +1

    I imagine when you put your money into a special college savings account (529), then your money can only be used with certain state-recognized schools. What if you don't want to put your kid into a state propaganda mill?

  • @LisaApril
    @LisaApril Před rokem

    Some professions require a four-year degrees: engineer, physicist, physician, scientist, mathematician, all very necessary professions that lead our society. Not everyone wants to go to college but some do and have no support to pay for it. Any child whose parents have a college fund For them are extremely fortunate. I hope that this situation is not that the husband simply does not want to pay for three Children’s college fees, tuition, books, lodging, food etc.

  • @cutenobi
    @cutenobi Před 2 lety

    “Don’t throw the baby out of the bath water”. Lol. I have never heard that saying until now. It makes sense.

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 Před rokem

      It’s “Don’t throw the baby out WITH the bath water.” How could you never have heard that old expression? I’m telling you, this is why Americans are growing up without any common sense.

  • @timothyswauger3984
    @timothyswauger3984 Před rokem

    I don’t think it’s a parent’s responsibility to pay for their kids college. If the parent wants to then fine but they should not feel obligated.

  • @mcshakycheese7396
    @mcshakycheese7396 Před 2 lety

    I don't think it's fully true that you can take out cost basis from a 529 the same way you can from a Roth IRA. 529 withdrawals are always taken where the amount is divided between the cost basis and gains, which means even if you have more cost basis than you are withdrawing, you are still taking out a portion of gains, which applies the penalties and taxes.

  • @curly50POW
    @curly50POW Před 2 lety +2

    Smart man

  • @jwc3104
    @jwc3104 Před rokem

    I opened 529 for my daughter when she turned 1. I thought I did good.
    My friend got 529 opened when he found out his wife was pregnant. He did better.
    Then I met someone at work, who opened 529 when they got married - even before having a kid!!! Damn it.
    I didn't know you can open 529 under your name, then transfer it to your kids name later.

  • @grizzleyadams2101
    @grizzleyadams2101 Před 2 lety +19

    The number one priority is having enough money to pay for the roof over your head and food on the table. Next is save for retirement and medical savings. Keeping debt free is also important. Saving for your kid's college is at the bottom of the list if you have any money left.

  • @quinnsnextstep
    @quinnsnextstep Před 2 lety +3

    First generation bachelor's degree graduate in 2007 at 37 years old. My mom helped pay for my first semester at 18 y/o, took out debt. Never again. I'd rather give him cash after raising him to be financially responsible. At $50/month, in a 0% savings acct, from birth to 18, he'd receive more than 10K to start off with. More than I had and more than my debt that my mom paid off.

    • @quinnsnextstep
      @quinnsnextstep Před 2 lety +1

      Wouldn't this be a good opportunity to explain investments? As parents, we support, but can we take an investor role in their lives also?

  • @manme6051
    @manme6051 Před rokem

    I've given a lot of people the idea of just looking up the textbooks that a classes for say a business degree would take, and just study on their own.

  • @user-ig7uw5nt3p
    @user-ig7uw5nt3p Před 2 měsíci +1

    They can go into military or get loan and repay it 😊😊😊Must know how to survive on their own ❤️❤️❤️

  • @fauxbro1983
    @fauxbro1983 Před 2 lety +23

    I don't blame him. It's not the parents role to save for college. On top of that college isn't for everyone.

    • @dash4800
      @dash4800 Před 2 lety +1

      yeah, just send your kids out thinking their only option is to go into massive debt. And guess what, if they don't go to college then its just extra savings.

    • @jeorgedavid3239
      @jeorgedavid3239 Před 2 lety

      Exactly

    • @emanmar70072
      @emanmar70072 Před 2 lety +9

      The role depends on the parent's choice to pay or not pay for college education. The problem is broke parents forcing their children into college and haven't saved a dime to pay for it.

    • @M2161
      @M2161 Před 2 lety +3

      @@emanmar70072 exactly! Although education is very helpful to get a job, if you can’t afford it do t send your kid to a 4 year school and go into debt, be smart about it!

    • @abark
      @abark Před 2 lety

      If you as a parent with a boomer mentality are going to demand your children go to university, then yes it is the parent's role to save for it. It's also a parent's role to set their children up to do better than they did themselves. Another lesson lost on the boomer generation and their spawn.

  • @henrikhkarpynskyi8712
    @henrikhkarpynskyi8712 Před 2 lety

    I see there is a lot of comments about community college as "safe heaven" in terms of financial side of the story. Please be aware that nowdays community college still racks up into siginificant number. In our area it is 8-10K per year(so just a little bit cheaper than regular public uni).

  • @JustinCase780
    @JustinCase780 Před 2 lety +9

    George is lookin' amazing.

  • @expertonmyself
    @expertonmyself Před 2 lety +1

    TRS-Highlights, I've seen this on a few videos. When you using the possessive in plural form, the apostrophe comes after the "s." So it should be " kids' " college.

  • @jreinel1966
    @jreinel1966 Před 2 lety

    My only daughter decided to joing the marines to become a veterinarian,im off with putting my self in deb to paid for her college education..😇

  • @miketheyunggod2534
    @miketheyunggod2534 Před 2 lety

    16 years old can have a bank account without a custodian. Dave is wrong again. 3:57.
    My son is 15 and has a checking account in his name only. There is NO custodian.

  • @JetDriver77
    @JetDriver77 Před rokem

    You can now roll unused 529 funds into an IRA as well, I believe up to $35k once.

  • @UrbanPorcupine
    @UrbanPorcupine Před 2 lety +1

    This was very informative

  • @theraddadinvestor1000
    @theraddadinvestor1000 Před 2 lety +1

    why not just open a brokerage for your kids instead so you don't limit them just to college.

  • @isaacpoling9200
    @isaacpoling9200 Před 2 lety +19

    We shouldn’t have to pay for our kids college !

    • @jeorgedavid3239
      @jeorgedavid3239 Před 2 lety +2

      Exactly

    • @JKBelle
      @JKBelle Před 2 lety +2

      Agreed! I joined the army because my very financially responsible parents just couldn’t pay for it!

    • @donaldlyons17
      @donaldlyons17 Před 2 lety

      @@JKBelle So you think the army is ok but a gang is not even though both can offer fianacial support?

    • @privacyplease1556
      @privacyplease1556 Před 2 lety

      You don’t have to, but if you can, you should.

    • @johnmartin4641
      @johnmartin4641 Před 2 lety

      Yes, it is a parent’s responsibility. Part of a parent’s job is to provide for their children. Us parents have about 19 years to work, get promotions and raises, save, and invest from the moment we find out we’re going to be parents until our kids go to college. Kids obviously don’t have that luxury. That’s why it’s not a big deal for us parents but it is extremely difficult for the kids. And I’m betting college was a lot cheaper when you went than it is today. If he doesn’t help them with college, they’re not going to help him when he’s elderly because they either won’t be able to afford to help him because of his selfishness and recklessness or they will refuse to help him because he refused to help them. Don’t count on your kids helping you if you refuse to help them, because it’s likely not going to happen. And the aid they’re awarded is based on the parent’s income because it is assumed that the parents will pay.

  • @silverltc2729
    @silverltc2729 Před 2 lety +10

    Degrees are over rated.

  • @Sorenalike
    @Sorenalike Před 2 lety +6

    Honestly as a foreigner looking into US families feels like you are all stock with your kids (its like you dont want them) and educations and stuff ... forcing kids to leave the house at 18 going into millions of debt to study man its scary to be you. i understand about feeling to leave the nest but if your kid is working and have a job letting them to live with you allows them to save more money and build a better future for themselves idk maybe i got it all wrong.

    • @violetstameski664
      @violetstameski664 Před 2 lety

      💯

    • @suhaibirfan8706
      @suhaibirfan8706 Před rokem

      No brother you have it right, these idiots willingly allow their kids to go into lower paying fields or take on massive debt then throw them out into the world with that poor financial situation. No wonder foreigners through out all metrics crush Americans when it comes to income and success in this country.

  • @anthonywebster8638
    @anthonywebster8638 Před 2 lety +4

    Sounds like your husband is a smart man, because college is a joke.

  • @charliele3165
    @charliele3165 Před 2 lety +1

    The parents are just plain clueless.

  • @flea4061
    @flea4061 Před 2 lety +2

    Big mistake. The road you're on will lead to student loans. Go start a 529 now!

    • @nicolcacola
      @nicolcacola Před 2 lety

      Kids working and going to school is possible you know.

  • @karmiek777
    @karmiek777 Před 2 lety +8

    This college savings is like a 401k or retirement.
    Pay 15% on my own money!
    That's the stupidest thing I ever went through...
    I thankfully was able to retire early and pulled out my retirement paying the 10% plus taxes... what a waste! If I was a little bit smarter back then, I would've NEVER gotten it!
    I know how to manage my own money thank you very much!
    I would save up money on the side in any form with No penalties and later on decide whether it will be for college (highly doubt it as it's a waste of time) or help them another way...possibly start their own business or teach them how to invest!
    Binding yourself to these scams are STuPID!
    I like Dave's advice on getting out of debt, but in investment I'll take a hard PASS!

    • @superblump87
      @superblump87 Před 2 lety

      You really managed to pack a lot of ignorance into one comment.

    • @karmiek777
      @karmiek777 Před 2 lety

      @@superblump87 and yet I was able to retire early...🤔 sure! 🤣

  • @truckdriver3737
    @truckdriver3737 Před 2 lety +4

    Sounds like Dad doesn't want to pay for the children's college education I don't blame him

  • @ShortCrypticTales
    @ShortCrypticTales Před 2 lety

    what is the valid argument for higher ed Dave?, going to be no point as colleges are a waste as you can get the same education online or buying books at amazon

  • @catherine4908
    @catherine4908 Před 2 lety

    If you can afford to help your child why wouldn’t you? All these people who say they would throw their kid out at 18-what’s wrong with you? I 100% agree that a lot of college degrees are useless and that could be a term for you paying for it-but the idea that you would send your child into the world with nothing is just plain wrong to me

  • @ckookiemonster
    @ckookiemonster Před rokem

    Great info

  • @GabrielMartinez-sd8pc
    @GabrielMartinez-sd8pc Před 2 lety +2

    I seriously don’t understand why he has this as a mandatory baby step. Like this should not be a thing.

    • @johnmartin4641
      @johnmartin4641 Před 2 lety

      Because it’s what any decent parent would do for their children. Part of a parent’s job is to provide for their children. Us parents have about 19 years to work, get promotions and raises, save, and invest from the moment we find out we’re going to be parents until our kids go to college. Kids obviously don’t have that luxury. That’s why it’s not a big deal for us parents but it is extremely difficult for the kids. And I’m betting college was a lot cheaper when you went than it is today. If he doesn’t help them with college, they’re not going to help him when he’s elderly because they either won’t be able to afford to help him because of his selfishness and recklessness or they will refuse to help him because he refused to help them. And the aid they’re awarded is based on the parent’s income because it is assumed that the parents will pay.

    • @LuisLopez-nk7fj
      @LuisLopez-nk7fj Před rokem

      Because he's rich bro he sees everything different cause he can pay .now I agree 💯 wt u I didn't even haveparents and I'm ok .bro I worked wt guys that went to college and had no clue what to do out in the real world true story had them asking me what's a 45degree drop .I don't even have a high school degree haha 🤣

  • @karlabritfeld7104
    @karlabritfeld7104 Před 2 lety +1

    I agree with the husband. Who knows what these kids are going to want when/ if they graduate high school. Los Angeles is horribly expensive.. only the rich can afford college. Most people are barely scraping by.

  • @JerryStevens
    @JerryStevens Před 2 lety +3

    I understand why Dave is proud of his and his family's four year degrees but neither I, my wife, or my two sons have four year degrees. We have two year degrees. We're all doing great and would be less wealthy, not more, if we had four year degrees because it's not the degree that increased our incomes. It was the value we brought to our work.

    • @jacksonbilly9979
      @jacksonbilly9979 Před rokem

      Until a better job position opens with 1.5% raise for but only if you have a better education. Believe it or not the other 2 years that you go for the 4 year degree, usually teaches you new stuff, sometimes more advanced stuff... but hey your 2 year degree is still worth a little.youre Just the very basic hire until they find someone more qualified.

  • @kentondragon9263
    @kentondragon9263 Před 2 lety +2

    Dad is smart, he wants his kids to become social media superstars/ CZcams, Instagram, Tiktok, 😌

    • @edhcb9359
      @edhcb9359 Před 2 lety

      That will happen. 🤣🤣🤣

  • @jonathansaindon788
    @jonathansaindon788 Před rokem

    Wouldnt it be better to simply put the money in your roth ira and use that for your kids college? Is it more flexible?

  • @edhcb9359
    @edhcb9359 Před 2 lety +8

    Help your kids with college, or help them the rest of their lives. Your choice people.

    • @anthonywebster8638
      @anthonywebster8638 Před 2 lety +2

      College is a horrible investment. I dropped out of high school and make 200k a year.

    • @edhcb9359
      @edhcb9359 Před 2 lety +3

      @@anthonywebster8638 Good for you. You are in the top one percentile for High School grads. Are you willing to make that same bet for your kids when you could so easily secure a future for them?

    • @spankynater4242
      @spankynater4242 Před 2 lety +1

      Or do neither, your choice people.

    • @steveneptun7580
      @steveneptun7580 Před 2 lety +1

      @@spankynater4242 If you're going to do neither, maybe don't have kids. I get it, you don't have to do anything for them after they turn 18, but then why have them if you're not going to do what they need you to do to set them up for a good life? That said, college doesn't have to be the way you set them up for a good life.

    • @spankynater4242
      @spankynater4242 Před 2 lety +1

      @@steveneptun7580 your job is to teach them to be independent. Not to string them along and keep them needing more and more and more. If you can’t teach your children to stand on their own, then you failed as a parent.

  • @Dbzman-69
    @Dbzman-69 Před 2 lety

    So what would be wrong with putting it in an etf or a mutual fund and calling it a college fund? If anything you would have more flexibility on how to gift it to them if they don't go to college, seems to me like less of a pain in the balls if they decide to go another route idk 🤷🏻‍♂️

    • @andreasmelkersson3592
      @andreasmelkersson3592 Před 2 lety

      @John Lopez All this talk about mutual funds rofl. If 10 people choose mutual funds, 9/10 of those people will underperform their relative benchmarks over time. The science has been settled. Stop talking junk.

  • @TRJ2525
    @TRJ2525 Před 2 lety +13

    Who is this new girl? I swear they go through hosts faster than I went through girls in college 😂 speaking of college, college isn't for everyone and you can have a perfectly nice life for you and your family without it.

    • @todd2456
      @todd2456 Před 2 lety +2

      You must be new here if you don't know who she is.

    • @TRJ2525
      @TRJ2525 Před 2 lety +2

      @@todd2456 nah. Just don't watch that much anymore.

  • @ChoKeller
    @ChoKeller Před 2 lety +7

    Why would anyone waste money on college?

    • @MissTXTee
      @MissTXTee Před 2 lety +2

      ...Because most of us can't be celebrities or athletes, so we need to get a degree in order to be qualified for many of the high paying jobs out there.

    • @ChoKeller
      @ChoKeller Před 2 lety +1

      @@MissTXTee Who told you that? Your public school. Unless you're trying to be a doctor, lawyer, or anything in STEM, college is a complete waste of time, money, and resources.
      You're better off getting into an apprenticeship through Praxis.

    • @dillonmccann8072
      @dillonmccann8072 Před 2 lety

      Literally not true

    • @ChoKeller
      @ChoKeller Před 2 lety

      @@dillonmccann8072 Sure is.

    • @privacyplease1556
      @privacyplease1556 Před 2 lety +2

      @@ChoKeller if you add teachers, supply chain management, finance, architecture, urban planning, we’re talking about 10-20 million jobs right there that necessitate a college education

  • @joshuathomas2115
    @joshuathomas2115 Před 2 lety

    Can you tranfer UTMA funds to a 529 college fund

  • @rajbeekie7124
    @rajbeekie7124 Před 2 lety +2

    To me, it is crazy to save in a 529 plan. When applying for aid, loans, scholarships, etc. the money in the kid's name is the first to contribute to his/her education.
    Assets in parents name are taken at a lesser percentage. If the parents buy something like a Berkshire that does not pay a dividend, the money will grow tax free. Also, many funds pay a small dividend so the taxes are pretty tiny.

    • @cathyl7944
      @cathyl7944 Před 2 lety +3

      If you save enough for them to go to school by taking advantage of tax-free growth in a 529, you don’t need aid, loans, etc. The point is to avoid debt, not hide money.

  • @caeligratia6706
    @caeligratia6706 Před 2 lety +2

    Off topic I know, but Christina, you're so pretty!

  • @AK-pg2ud
    @AK-pg2ud Před 2 lety

    Has this lady never heard of Google?

  • @robloxvids2233
    @robloxvids2233 Před 2 lety

    Set up an ESA and put 2k/year in there. That should be a bare minimum. Above that, set up a 529. The cool thing is anyone can add to 529s, such as grandparents. Another option is US I-bonds, which currently pay 9.62%, with a max of 10k/year. If you exchange these and use the interest for school then it's not taxed. Not sure if they have to be in the student's name or not, though.

  • @alexbecar977
    @alexbecar977 Před 2 lety

    If you have kids and cant afford them some degree then you shouldn't have had them, it was your choice to have them, yes college isn't necessary but not everyone is Bill Gates and Zuck, its the "safe" route most people , just don't get a stupid degree.

  • @vjs4539
    @vjs4539 Před 2 lety +6

    Kids should pay for their own college

    • @guyrose2350
      @guyrose2350 Před 2 lety +6

      Lol why cuz your parents didn’t pay for yours? Letting your kids have a head start to life is one of the best things you can do. Paying for education is never a bad thing, now if they bought them designer clothes every year that teaches your kid nothing, but education is important and this gives them a huge headstart and options.

    • @guyrose2350
      @guyrose2350 Před 2 lety +4

      @Tankkizzle if they have the means they should. If you want generational wealth, small things like education are the best thing to get started on it! Obviously if a kid wants to go to Harvard for no other reason than it’s Harvard, that’s drawing the line (although in some fields a well connected school can get you much further in life so you have to weigh up the potential if you are able to afford that) but to be in a position to pay for your child’s further education is an incredible thing. If a family is still in debt and have a mortgage to pay, then their kids should be paying for themselves.
      My education was fully paid for, now instead of money going to debt, now at the age of 24 I have a 250k+ net worth as all my money (not used for day to day life) is invested.

    • @donaldlyons17
      @donaldlyons17 Před 2 lety

      @@guyrose2350 People like you understand that capitalism only rewards wealth so going what you can only makes sense.

    • @johnmartin4641
      @johnmartin4641 Před 2 lety +1

      Part of a parent’s job is to provide for their children. Us parents have about 19 years to work, get promotions and raises, save, and invest from the moment we find out we’re going to be parents until our kids go to college. Kids obviously don’t have that luxury. That’s why it’s not a big deal for us parents but it is extremely difficult for the kids. And I’m betting college was a lot cheaper when you went than it is today. If he doesn’t help them with college, they’re not going to help him when he’s elderly because they either won’t be able to afford to help him because of his selfishness and recklessness or they will refuse to help him because he refused to help them. And the aid they’re awarded is based on the parent’s income because it is assumed that the parents will pay. They give the kids less money because they assume the parents will do their jobs and pay.

    • @guyrose2350
      @guyrose2350 Před 2 lety

      @@donaldlyons17 any system that has ever been implemented in our history only rewards wealth or those with incredible skill, that’s why giving your kids a leg up into education is great, and also allows people who have skill and brains to be able to get scholarships when they ACTUALLY need them because their parents cannot help them at all. All these parents who are comfortable and could help, take away from the families who can’t and therefor steal someone else’s chance of education.

  • @notabannedaccount8362
    @notabannedaccount8362 Před 2 lety +11

    Real men join the military and pay their own way!

  • @DudeDude491
    @DudeDude491 Před 2 lety +1

    Who is the new Girl?

  • @NurseMoneyGrowWealth
    @NurseMoneyGrowWealth Před 2 lety

    Kids under 18 can’t be under contract in America unless it’s marriage 🤔

    • @deva190
      @deva190 Před 2 lety

      Unless they have a co signer.

  • @karmiek777
    @karmiek777 Před 2 lety +9

    Hilarious!!!
    Dave Ramsey is endorsing College... sent his children to college as a requirement... makes me wonder how good His Classes are 🤣🤣🤣 His children Work For Him!!!
    No college required!
    What a waste 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @truckingmoney485
      @truckingmoney485 Před 2 lety +1

      Agreed!

    • @karmiek777
      @karmiek777 Před 2 lety

      @@truckingmoney485
      Fellow Trucker here 😀
      You know what I mean!

    • @superblump87
      @superblump87 Před 2 lety +3

      College taught his kids how to think critically and be successful. He wouldn't have hired them without a degree.

    • @karmiek777
      @karmiek777 Před 2 lety

      @@superblump87
      That could be taught at home.

    • @superblump87
      @superblump87 Před 2 lety +1

      @@karmiek777 sure, but not to the same extent.

  • @adamsaldana5462
    @adamsaldana5462 Před 2 lety +1

    He just wants to just devour it like a fool

  • @birdy808
    @birdy808 Před 2 lety

    And what if they don’t end up going to college??????

    • @johnmartin4641
      @johnmartin4641 Před 2 lety

      Then you have a large amount of money to do whatever you want with.

  • @theraddadinvestor1000
    @theraddadinvestor1000 Před 2 lety

    save? no! you should invest for your kids.

  • @hondamojo1
    @hondamojo1 Před 2 lety +6

    Just divorce him and claim emotional abuse like 75% of all the other women in this country.

  • @Arman_Kaymakcian
    @Arman_Kaymakcian Před 2 lety

    Open a UTMA account for them

  • @CallHerCassie
    @CallHerCassie Před 2 lety +4

    I think parents should stop paying for their kids let them manage their own future

    • @johnmartin4641
      @johnmartin4641 Před 2 lety +1

      Part of a parent’s job is to provide for their children. Us parents have about 19 years to work, get promotions and raises, save, and invest from the moment we find out we’re going to be parents until our kids go to college. Kids obviously don’t have that luxury. That’s why it’s not a big deal for us parents but it is extremely difficult for the kids. And I’m betting college was a lot cheaper when you went than it is today. If he doesn’t help them with college, they’re not going to help him when he’s elderly because they either won’t be able to afford to help him because of his selfishness and recklessness or they will refuse to help him because he refused to help them. And the aid they’re awarded is based on the parent’s income because it is assumed that the parents will pay.

  • @djpuplex
    @djpuplex Před 2 lety +12

    He should invest in ear plugs. Her voice sounds terrible. Man up and tell your wife no. Tell her no.

  • @cathyl7944
    @cathyl7944 Před 2 lety

    The title of this video is not true.

  • @screwdriver_bandit
    @screwdriver_bandit Před 2 lety

    Disagree with Dave’s logic on college. The future of wealthy American useful people is in the trades.

    • @aolvaar8792
      @aolvaar8792 Před 2 lety

      I used my Engineering degree to beat out other candidates,
      for a 48-month apprenticeship as a Power Station Electrician, union IBEW.
      All the apprentices had engineering degrees.

  • @MrOfficer235
    @MrOfficer235 Před 2 lety +8

    Sell the husband

  • @NaomiSimpsonhk
    @NaomiSimpsonhk Před 2 lety

    Or they can start a business and start a minors ROTH IRA and it’s no penalty for using the money for education.

  • @sunnywalker3591
    @sunnywalker3591 Před 2 lety

    It isn't the responsibility of the parents to pay for college, especially if they are struggling financially.

    • @sunnywalker3591
      @sunnywalker3591 Před 2 lety +1

      @@Austenfan177 I'm not sure what you're referring to. Most of the people I know (including myself) didn't have school paid for. College is an option and choice, there are plenty of other avenues. If a parent can pay...Great. When they can't afford it, then there are alternatives. Financial help is great but at the end of the day keep it realistic within your situation. I know lots of people with degrees that don't use them and plenty tradesmen jobs where they make great money. I never said anything about kicking anyone out at 18 so I'm not sure where you got that. There's a difference between helping within reasonable logic and feeling obligated to foot the bill on all your kids choices.

    • @johnmartin4641
      @johnmartin4641 Před 2 lety +2

      Yes, it is a parent’s responsibility. Part of a parent’s job is to provide for their children. Us parents have about 19 years to work, get promotions and raises, save, and invest from the moment we find out we’re going to be parents until our kids go to college. Kids obviously don’t have that luxury. That’s why it’s not a big deal for us parents but it is extremely difficult for the kids. And I’m betting college was a lot cheaper when you went than it is today. If he doesn’t help them with college, they’re not going to help him when he’s elderly because they either won’t be able to afford to help him because of his selfishness and recklessness or they will refuse to help him because he refused to help them. And the aid they’re awarded is based on the parent’s income because it is assumed that the parents will pay.

  • @SykoManix
    @SykoManix Před 2 lety

    Whats the Womens Name ?

  • @Markrtsoon
    @Markrtsoon Před 2 lety +3

    Saving for your kids college is the worst thing parents could do. The more you save, the less scholarship university will give to you.

    • @dillonmccann8072
      @dillonmccann8072 Před 2 lety +1

      It’s not based off what u have saved

    • @donaldlyons17
      @donaldlyons17 Před 2 lety

      @@dillonmccann8072 Now with income that may be true depending of whether or not the go to school inside their home country but as far as I know the schools with billion dollar endowments don't count saving.

    • @pep590
      @pep590 Před 2 lety

      You could not be more WRONG sir!

  • @poppinYT
    @poppinYT Před 2 lety +5

    “Congrats to everyone who is early and who found this comment” 🏆