How to Detach Emotion from Stuff | Releasing Clutter Trauma
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- čas přidán 11. 07. 2024
- In this episode as we DeClutter the Basement, I talk about how to detach emotions from stuff. I attached so much emotions to my belongings bc of my past traumas when I was in middle school and when I was 17. I used some of the concepts from “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle to help process past traumas and untether those emotions to the stuff! I hope this helps you in your Decluttering journey too ❤️🙏🏼❤️
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We need a basement tour !! You have gotten so much done recently. We need a tour and a updated plan please
Yesssss, you are so right!! I definitely need to create that video asap!!! lol
Well done for clearing out another spot in the basement. It would be really great if you showed a before and after walk though of the room to see how much progress you have made overall since the start of the year, now you are past the six months mark, as I think maybe it will inspire people that they can do what you are doing and rate the scale of the progress in a six month timeframe.
That’s a fabulous idea!!! But thank you so so much for sharing that with me ❤️🙏🏼❤️
Wow 🎉 When you are going to declutter the Halloween things, maybe clean out the whole attic and move the decoration in the basement and all the sentimental Boxes in the attic😊
Then you have easy access to all the seasonal decor together and all the sentimental things are safe together in the attic 😊
This video needs to be saved and watched a few times!!! Such great therapy-talk and advice!! I love how it reflects your strong ‘present self’ that operates NOW!! You are helping so many!!
I am so in agreement with you!❤
Thank you so much my friend, that is my hope and prayer!! I hope it helps someone else ❤️🙏🏼❤️
What an amazing discard pile. Your progress in cleaning out sections of the basement must please you immensely.
It is!!! It’s a combination of “whoo Hoo I did it and WHOA, did I do that?!” lol
I miss the videos where you share your thoughts about the items piece by piece in real time as you're going through them. ❤
I don’t think my attachments are involved in past trauma. I keep items because they represent good times and loved ones from the past. I miss that time and those people. I guess my trauma is loss and grief? There’s still an emotional process I have to work through.
Keep sharing, Melanie!!
You definitely can have it tied to the good times!! That’s why I hold onto the baby stuff, baby toys and my childhood toys! It’s because the memories come back alive and I’m “reliving” those moments in the present time!! But it makes sense that we might hold onto it for grief too ❤️🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼
I do the same. My girls toys and some baby clothes ..very hard ..
Maybe you can turn that changing table into a shelf or cricket station. For the craft area
Trauma can show up as loss and grief which for keeping stuff makes sense.
We are moving for the first time in 15 years and I am feeling so empowered in my decluttering, this right here is exactly why. I feel like while I discard the stuff I am also decluttering past versions of myself. I am letting the now me and the future more confident & capable me take control and decide what to bring with me into a brighter more intentional and meaningful future.
Yessssss!!! So beautifully written and so very true!!!!!
What a great way to articulate what's happened! I think that perfectly sums my thoughts exactly!
Ms Heart, were you able to put that Melanie's Christmas Decoration box into a larger plastic tote? I would hate to see it suffer any water damage if theres any more leaks in the basement. Thank you so much for sharing! You are a beautiful person ❤
Yessssss…I do a have plastic bin that it will fit into!!! Thank you so much!!!
I love this, Miss Heart! Thank you ✨🦄💕 Usually, the voiceover-only videos are difficult for me because I feel like I’m missing the process of decisions… but it was actually a relief to hear you say these were more churned items and the decisions had pretty much already been made 😅 I focused a lot on your message, and you make decluttering through emotions sound possible and accessible, and not as scary as my head wants it to be.
Thanks for building a bridge.
I’ve not been keeping a routine of decluttering, so starting again feels like an enormous challenge. I’m not nearly late stages of hoarding disorder, but your channel has helped keep me in check over the last 4 years and make sure I curb my “resourcefullness” habits. Definitely realising how my childhood experiences still affect me today, which in itself is difficult to process, but a necessary step. I didn’t used to believe I could “detach” myself from the stuff.., and for some of it still can’t see how, but your journey is one of hope.
Big hugs and I’m so proud of and happy for you 💕✨
I love HH videos. AND I notice that I feel a bit exhausted even watching Ms Heart look at so many items one at a time. I have successfully decluttered five bags of stuff this week 😁
Well done! 💪💕
Whoo Hoooo!!!! I am so incredibly proud of youuuuuu 📣🦄💜📣🦄💜📣🦄💜
Loved your explanation of the process of detaching yourself from the trauma. I am doing it too in relation to relationships instead of clutter, but the principle is the same. Your growth is immense and your house reflects it too. Well done, proud to be your follower since the beginning of the channel. ❤
I love those Christmas decorations from your childhood. Have you considered adding them to your current stash of decorating items? Put them to use? Or are you just storing them until you are able to let them go? Genuinely interested. ❤
I agree. Put them on a tree and share your memories of them with your kiddos! I loved seeing all the glass Christmas bulbs too. Once the basement is done, you could even put up a separate tree in your finished space!
Great question!!! I really want to dedicate a “pink tree” with all my old and girlie ornaments!! I will do it one day 💖🙏🏼💖🙏🏼💖
Wow, that was a great tossy tossy pile! And it was a very inspirational video. You made me think a lot-thank you!
So glad your old christmas decorations are safe! And those hand sketches are simply wow! And yey for clearing out the baby changing station! But I have to say....what stuck with me most in this space was to see ....the pole. Clear, firm, guarding the ceileng, and being your gouse foundation, as it should be.
It is amazing to see it standing, with nothing summerging it. It's strong and still. And I somehow see that also in you! That's were this journey took you and will make you even stronger. You are the rock and the foundation of your family and for your boys. And you willbe surronded only by wgat you need, and continue for years to come, to be a strong, beatiful, and so much loved and needed soul!
Cheers to you, Mrs. Heart!❤
Oh my goodness, thank you so so much 🥹🙏🏼🥹🙏🏼 You have been such an amazing friend to me during this journey, I’m so grateful for you 🦄💜🙏🏼🌟🦄💜🙏🏼🌟
@@ahoardersheart As You have been for me, even if you didn't know:) Many blessings to you and the wonderful community you built here and around you!
You’re doing an amazing job ❤
Also those hand drawings were really impressive 😳
Awe, thank you so so much ❤️🙏🏼❤️
I love miss Pepper. She reminds me of my tabby Kissa (Finnish for 'cat'). Good job once again! Greetings from the Netherlands.
Awe!!! Kissa 😻❤😻❤ Such a cute name for her!!!
Superb tossy-tossy pile!
Thank you so much my friend ❤️🙏🏼❤️
Ooh, thank you so much for reminding me of Eckhart Tolles work. I dont think that Im a hoarder but have unhealthy tendencies to supress my feelings. It's easier to watch CZcams Videos instead of dealing with boredom/ motivating to do something After work besides numbing myself.
The book opened something insider myself, I had an awakening moment because of it a couple of years ago, I need to give it another go.
Much love from switzerland, your video was my Highlight today💕
Absolutely my beautiful friend 🇨🇭❤️ I’m definitely having a spiritual awakening reading this book! I bet when you reread it again, you’ll learn something new from it!!
You are doing amazing! I love The Power of Now. One of the best books I've ever read along with its sequel
🎉 Good on you for getting to this stage of letting go and recognizing that you're the present you ❤
I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum. Minimalist and trying to tell myself that I'm worth having things. Been having a bad mental health day with OCD intrusive thoughts/flashbacks. My mother was and is abusive and used to always call me a monster or ungrateful for moving on from my things. She didn't appreciate that I was an organized child (probably also due to her abuse). All of this turned into low self worth. I almost committed suicide earlier this year and haven't got completely past it. I've moved so much, been yelled at so much, and been treated so badly by my parents, friends, and boyfriends that I've lived with that it all snowballed 💔 I'm blessed to have some good support these days, but if it weren't for my sister and then an anti depressant working on me a little bit, I would not be here. It made me a tad functional, and that's it.
🙏 It's funny how we've got so much in common even though we're supposedly so different.
Toxic people cause so much harm. I'm also on a journey to surround myself with only quality people. I'm a hoarder but I also hear you with being worth having things, I am trying to move on from only having the cheapest because I can afford the best now so why shouldn't I? Good luck with your healing journey, you will get there ❤
Dear ones, you are both loved. Glad you are here and getting help. Personally dealt with a loved one who tried to commit suicide. It was heartwrenching. Your life is worth living. If the meds aren't working well, talk to your therapist. There are so many to help now. God loves you. ❤ I love the children's book. "You are here for a reason." I will post a link to it in a separate comment as I'm not sure if it's allowed, and I want my comment to reach you. Prayers for you. 🙏
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I'd love to see you use the changing table as intentional storage until you're ready to let it go. That way it doesn't end up with ADHD organizational items ("let me put this here, I'll put it away later" items) I'm so blessed that you talk through what you're thinking, when you declutter. I find I have similar thoughts. I'm working on things and I'm finding it easier to declutter.
the changing table could display any of the baby items you decide to keep later down the road?
Thank you so much my friend, I’m so happy that you are decluttering easier, I’ll be cheering you on 📣🦄💜📣🦄💜
@@ahoardersheart I love that you are such a cheerleader!
Your videos are inspiring. I’m sure you’re proud of yourself. I do like your decluttering and organizing and the way you talk it through. Keep up the progress and your videos.
Yay, another great decluttering session! Even if it was a shame that you lost your job, it seems like you take good care of your extra time. You have been working so much overtime, many of your bags and churned things seemed to come from stress, not "only" ADHD. 😅❤❤❤ You are doing great. Lots of love! ❤❤❤
I used to like drawing hands too. Good job on saying goodbye to materials and past emotions.
Thank you so much my friend ❤️🙏🏼❤️
Meet the need -- intense. Thanks for another great video!
Awesome. You got a big stack out of there. So, proud of you.
I love hearing you speak….you are doing so great…. 😊❤️
Great job!
I love all your videos!!
Emotions, self worth ?!? Wow, I can’t tell you my precious friend how this makes me feel! I have been praying for this answer and our loving Father God use you ❤️! Thank you, thank you, thank you. ❤️☝️♥️🌺❤️🌸
Oh my goodness!!! This makes my heart just so happy because I always ask God to help me use the right words so it helps someone else!!!! Thank you for sharing my friend ❤️🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼
@@ahoardersheart you are such a blessing of Jesus. ❤️☝️♥️
As always, you have done an excellent job of giving us the language we need in order to understand the process. you are a graceful and kind person to share so freely with us. Thank you for all you do for us
Your artwork is fab ❤
So glad I finally got to watch you been without electricity and internet for 6 days live outside of Houston horrible hurricane cam through 66mph winds so stressful finally got electricity on today you give me so much comfort thank you great job beautiful lady 💜🦄
Thanks to your videos. I have came a long way throwing out stuff I held onto It has been a journey n still a work in progress
Whoo hoooooo!!! Yessss, I am cheering you on every step of the way 📣🦄💜📣🦄💜
@@ahoardersheart thank you so much
You are so encouraging to us all. Thank you so much!
I don’t have a basement but I spent the last six months cleaning out my attic & garage. It feels so liberating!! The attic is completely empty and we can fit two cars in the garage with room to spare. Keep up the good work❣️
You really encourage me ❤
An amazing video as always thank you for helping us all ❤
We need encouraging self talk. We are better than the negative comments. Change is possible for each of us. Thanks for your insight. Tina, Al's wife
Absolutely my friend, it’s so important that we have encouraging positive self talk ❤️🙏🏼❤️
You are fantastic artists ❤
Great declutter as always
I'm always wanna see new basement tour, for me it's like a reward after decluttering
Yesssss!!! I plan on doing that soon!!!
Definitely put those old Christmas decor in a plastic bin to prevent potential damages ❤
Pretty pencil drawings!
Well done
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I experienced bullying at age 8 to 11 targeting several things but mostly my clothes. Some kids made it their business to comment, “You wore that last week; you wear that all the time.” Small me did not put it together that some weirdos were keeping obsessive track of what I was wearing every day.
Currently, I have enough clothes so that I don’t have to repeat outfits for about five weeks. It feels excessive and I’d like to minimize. I cringe at the thought of people assuming that I might be poor or fashion challenged if I wear the same clothes repeatedly. Does anyone have suggestions for how I might get past this?
Check out the Minimal Mom's channel for ideas on creating a capsule wardrobe. Hannah Louise Poston also has several great videos on creating a wardrobe for your own true self. Mix and match classic items are great for a limited wardrobe. You just have to determine what style you are. Anna Bey also has some good tips. Just remember that style can be at any price point. We don't have to have expensive clothes to be stylish. Wear what you love!
Your are the only youtuber I can relate too.. I dont know if your remember.I still have the santa you sent me...
I would Love to See the putting away of the churned stuff
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Oh nooooooo, so the dreaded baby bed is finally coming up? 😳
Bravo - this video is your Phd
I wish and pray that all those bad people have had a bad life journey for what they did and said to you
As someone very wise once said, we are all victims of victims. Also healing and revenge are incompatible.
I understand that she has issues with pain in her past, which caused her to become a hoarder. I've had pain in my past, but I try to look beyond it. There are things that will cause me to have a panic attack now, because they resemble what happened in the past. I don't dwell on it, I feel with it and move on. I don't care to hear a lecture, where she goes over the causes of her pain and hoarding, every time she makes a video. If it's for new subscribers, that's ok. I hope she gets more new subscribers that those who are leaving. I'm sorry, Miss Heart but I don't need to watch a video, that no only brings up memories of my pain, but reminds me of a lecture of of how I should feel and what I should do about it. I'll probably get some negative comments about this post. That's ok. Everyone has their own feelings and has the right to express them. I only ask that you do so with dignity.
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That’s rough.
I for one have gotten a TON out of her explanations and relatable stories in her videos, and look forward to being able to glean a little something from each new post… or being reminded of something she’s already talked about. I too have ADHD and memory issues, so I am super grateful for her content in a few ways.
If it is not quite for you, that’s perfectly great … as I know I myself am subscribed to WAY more [declutterers] than he lovely Ms Heart, each with their own story to tell, or not (as they just play music).
Good luck stumbling on just the right people for you. 🧡
Respectfully, I'm sure she doesn't mean to cause any harm when she talks about her past. I feel like she's only trying to educate the people that need to hear her message, such as new subscribers or viewers who may not be familiar with her. It sounds like you've maybe reached a point where you're ready to move on with your healing, and that's great! I am genuinely happy for you. I just think she is trying to help other people move on as well. I get that it can sound like a lecture about how you "should" feel, but I don't think she means for it to come across that way. I hope I'm not coming across as being negative myself. I'm so sorry that you've been through trauma, no matter what it was. I wish you continuing success in your healing.
Honey, are the rest of your video's going to be the same counseling from your past?
Like churned items, information will be similar if not the same churned stuff every so often. You'll find changes in the videos of course, but it comes with the territory. She's a recovering hoarder. She has had PTSD and residual trauma, so repeat feelings and emotions will come up all the time that she will constantly address. As someone with CPTSD, I can understand that. It can't be helped because it's something you're constantly fighting against day in and day out while in therapy and outside of it while you constantly are rewiring your mind. I can see why it may come off as repetitive stuff. If it is, you can always mute it and watch the video for the decluttering motivation.
She is healing. This is part of the process. It follows her journey. Not your convenience. Your comment is uncalled for.
I think she does it for new subscribers/viewers. But I agree - I prefer talking through each item over the motivational time-lapse style.
Good videos Ms.Heart! They keep motivating me to clean and declutter my basement.
@@volunteerworker Well said!
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