How To Stop Feeling Awkward In Social Situations
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Like it or not we have all been awkward at different points in our lives. Sometimes that awkwardness gets in the way of connecting with other people or even feeling confident in ourselves. Awkwardness doesn’t need to be the end of the line. In fact, if you handle yourself well you can turn awkwardness (whether it’s just a moment or a way of being) into confidence. Which is what we are covering in this video featuring Tom Holland.
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0:27 - Point #1: Adjust your body language.
4:05 - Point #2: Handle friendly teasing.
6:39 - Point #3: Tell your own embarrassing stories.
9:37 - Point #4: Let go of managing people’s opinion of you.
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Hey man would you consider making a video on what makes people want to follow Captain America? Not Chris Evans the actor but the actual character.
Charisma on Command You always give great advice! Big fan of your channel! I’m always looking forward to see them. 👍🏼
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@@theradiantknight9771
1st and foremost : Values his own life far less than that off other people. Even before he became Cap and its also the reason he was chosen as a candidate for Super Soldier Serum (Grenade Test scene).
Also shown by his signature tool : A friggin shield. He's the shield which protects everyone (not caring about religion, race or upbringing).
2. His general character is built on the basic values of an "honest man" archetype. Values honesty, loyalty, hard work, commitment, passion, love and peace.
3. He's a guy who does not want to lead. He's always chosen by someone to take the mantle of leader.
4. Always improving his skills on any level. Fury teaches him strategy for example, because he chose him to lead the Avengers.
5. Not hiding his failures, moreso honestly takes them as reasons to give up his position as a leader, because he does not think he would follow himself until the failure is fixed.
Basically the poster image of a romanticized knight in shining armour.
I can’t wait to practice all of these habits and completely forget them when I’m in an awkward situation
I- yeah 😔
😂yeah
Why u describe me?
Well I'm- When- Kinda- yeah... 😣
Actually you f**this video 🙌👏
This is the kinda video you watch late at night
Literally doing that now
@@Redbikemaster same
Lol yep- I'm watching it at 12:45AM
MENDO 2:11 am
1:38AM rn
I feel like an alien learning to be human watching these
True, true
Welcome to being socially awkward
I felt like a loser searching up for this 😭😭
lmfao
@@pls-gg3fy same
Imagine being Tom, discovering that he has been analyzed this well
Tom: 👁👄👁
hi
@@NomTom hi Tom
@@roseover340 🧿👄🧿
@@NomTom 😂
How To Turn Awkwardness Into Confidence?
1. Be spiderman.
2. 1.
cry more
Key Word, yell less.
I’m sorry, I was trying to do a thing. You know...Aaron Burr in the Hamilton musical says “talk less, smile more.” 😅
3. 2.
i laughed
I love how we all came together to show we have no personality.
i feel attacked but sadly ure right ;___;
@@pogger4878 youre cute julia
@@abdihassan7208 thank u!!
@@pogger4878 alright im gonna follow you :)
What the f*ck is going on here?
Me: He makes a lot of good points. I'll start doing this.
Me 5 seconds later: No memory of what was just said in the video.
Write down what you understand. This helps me a lot
Your pfp matches well with your comment lol
Yesss
Memorize it if you can't remember it fully
Because of the you word. It's a blaming word by nature recomindation by me try to watch it again. But replace that word, in the head with I or me enstead. That is an adiea by nature the words judgemental. As well as very very disorientating and addictive. Takes a strong mind to listen to big ideas. And especially comprehend think slow aka be patient and especially being very active and writting ideas and thoughts out or talking to others about them. I hope that was helpful to someone here.
Video summary for you speed demons out there:
Adjust your body language by:
- 3 second eye contact with everyone in the room, this makes everyone feel acknowledged and you capture their attention
- Use your hands to express and gesture (don’t hide your palms)
- own your movement, embrace awkward situations, don’t close up
Have fun with friendly teasing
- laugh with the group (don’t always retort with a witty comment)
- Double down on a joke aimed at you (this spreads the laughter in a friendly way)
Tell your own embarrassing stories
(this shows confidence)
- Use high impact words (Keeps your audience engaged)
- Act out the story vocally and physically (Again, keeps everyone engaged)
Let go of managing people’s opinions of you
- it’s freeing.
(Was multitasking while watching this so do pardon me if I missed anything or wrote it in a hard to understand way)
This is good comment
This should be pinned
My dad walked in and asked what I was watching. I told him porn.
Dodged a bullet right there.
Underrated comment 😂😂
my dad told me this video would help me...
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Did you show him your palms?
WAIT what
I have a feeling Tom doesnt even know that he is doing everything right, he just does it right
i mean i feel like he’s probably just learnt overtime what hits and what misses from experience
I liked your comment because of how I totally agree with you, and also your profile picture and name!
Liked because of the picture
he is lucky
Typical Tom
Just wanted to say, for someone like me who's autistic with mental health issues, these videos are really helpful, thank you for making them, just watching these makes me feel like I'm understanding social situation better, I look forward to seeing how I do after lock-down from these.
You got this bro!
They really do help a lot!
What does it feel like to be autistic and to have mental issues may I ask? Just curious.
Yess I have autism and I use this to study the neurotypicals
Also, we are fine just the way we are.
Recap :
1. The rule of the 3s : maintain eye contact for 3 seconds
2. Show your palms ( it apparently retains people’s attention when you talk )
3. Move, gesticulate while you’re speaking ( move hands ... )
4. Commit to what you express ( for example : when you tell a story, do imitations etc ... )
5. Fully embrace awkwardness : don’t show the embarrassment if you’re disconcerted, go further : for example, if a friend is teasing you, double down the joke, tell your own embarrassing story, etc ...
6. Use words with packed emotions, you can use somehow hyperboles while you’re telling a story for example ...
It can be words like : amazing, best, ... to describe little things
7. Have fun with the group, laugh at the jokes ...
8. And the last one ( finally lol ) and the most important : do not pay attention to what people think, it’s worthless, be yourself a 100%
THANK UUU!!
👌🏻👌🏻
You are going to heaven
Thank you so much, not only did u just write points but also examples. It was so helpful when taking note🙏🏻
I now realized why white people always used to boast behind their money and its because of insecurities due to the lack of not knowing how to be human!! Black people we have always been winning without money we just got tricked through the white man knowledge
*awkward silence*
me: *shows my hands and starts talking about that time when i pissed my bed when i was 16*
Again awkward silence
you made laugh so much 😂 omg
lmao
At least you showed your palms so that means you’re not awkward 👌
maybe you have to be more confident while talking about pissing your bed :D
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done
Me: Turn awkwardness into cringe conversation.
Ugh same though
same thi
Who else is strangely nervous watching this video?
Well me. That’s because I feel like I’m in his position talking to these people and I reallyyyy don’t like talking to people lmao
Tom Holland gave me sense of major inferiority complex 🤣 Bruh he's so fine af! Makes me feel out of his league but I admire him for that (I'm a woman just saying but still jelous of him 🙂)
Yep haha
"Tutorial: How to be like Tom Holland"
Ok I'm listening
Step 1: Always be the most adorable person in the room
@@alyssa2807 Step 2: Be awesome
Step 3: Secretly be Spider-man
@@totallynormalname365 secretly, not so secretly
@@marinovanderzalm8205oh🤭
1:54
Mark Zukerburg: Doesn’t show palms
Me:deletes facebook
LOL!
F yasss 😂
HAHAH
You mean, not just your account, but the entire facebook company, right?
Cause he is not trustworthy
Well, you know, Tom does it naturally. Its just the way he is. He was raised that way by intelligent, cultured and sociable people. He comes from a very good family. In an interview he said that his parents made the children had to tell stories at dinner. And I assume they, parents, told the stories too and his father is stand up comedian. Can you imagine how lucky this guy is? And besides, when he was a little boy, his parents always made him talk with other adults, their friends etc., to look in the eyes and talk. He said, therefore he had no problem working with adults. And he has been working since early childhood.
Of course, Tom being comedian's son probably has an innate comic and presentation talent in him. Plus the observation his parents' behavior, plus the propper upbringing, plus a lot of experience. I repeat, he works in the industry - performs on stage, gives interviews, communicates with a variety of people from childhood.
But still that is very good analysis, thank you. Many of us can use this advises, i guess. They are quite available. I think, the main thing is not to be too strict and demanding to yourself. Be kinder to yourself. But move constantly step by step, little by little and never lose hope.
This sis such a true and perfect comment. His life experiences led him to be the person he is today and he’s lucky
In a cult? Im curious
Hes also so fine and baby boy
I like that-‘the inner extrovert’-good way to put it. I suppose we all have one!
My fave quote ever goes something like this: "if you can't control something why are you worried/stressed about it? If you can control something why are you worried/stressed about it?" -- whenever I think this I feel a lot more calm and confident. Imagine you are stressed talking and its awkward -- there's nothing you can do anyways. Then your body will naturally relax itself a bit when you realize you are locked in anyways and you will actually be more confident in the moment. This has helped me before exams, interviews, dates, etc..
You seem to think I can think clearly in an awkward situation.
Niels Jansen How bold of him
When my brain knows I'm in an awkward situation it will do everything in its power to make sure I don't forget it. It's as if there's a little CD player up there that's only got one track. As soon as the confidence breaks it hits the play button. "You're awkward. You're a mess. You're a failure. You're awkward. You're a mess. You're a failure. Everyone's judging you. Never go out in public again." (Replay).
In reality, most people don't even notice our anxieties, and if they do they usually couldn't care less 🤷♀️ One day I will conquer my brain.
Make a point to adopt better body language and your thoughts will follow
You have at first to fake, and then when you'll get use to faking it, you won't even need to fake it anymore, you'll be different. Your brain will have been trained.
Just means you have to make your behaviors automatic, so you don't have to be thinking clearly.
It's ok, some people - never - think clearly.
Ironic fact: Tom Holland is afraid of spiders.
i'm afraid of tom holland
@@DEFENDERofficiel And spiders are afraid of you.
Just for the picture of Jellal, I'm subbing.
Everyone are afraid of spiders when there's a huge poisonous spider on them. And that includes Black Widow.
Spiders are afraid of him
"give everyone 3 seconds of eye contact"
Anxiety and ADHD: you know the rules, and so do i.
*Looking into the ground* I have no idea what you are talking about
@Ayor a mm you dont know what you're talking about. i have nothing to make excuses for and im productive and i am very social. yet anxiety and adhd still overwhelm me, and i never used them as excuses. its just mental pain i deal with all by myself. so your point is?
@Ayor a some people out there cant control these things, do you think you're making things better? you're only gonna make them feel more guilt and lean towards never talking about their problems, and have them constantly struggle all by themselves. i personally dealt with such problems. nobody ever acknowledged my mental problems, so i just never talk about them again, never mention them, even when it was clear that its taking over, i never mentioned it and i took responsibility. no matter what i did, i always look up solutions, the struggle is always there, if i ignore it it gets worse, if i give it attention i feel more struggle, best i can do is warp my life to fit these struggles. there is nothing else i can do.
@Ayor a pretty sure you're respectable human being tho ♡
@Ayor a guess i fell for the trap
I pray that this guy has everything he’s ever wanted in life because this is awesome! Wife, kids, wealth, happiness......he deserves it for teaching people things like this.
I just want to say thank you.
"....less trustworthy...."
Shows video of Mark Zuckerberg lol
He's a damn reptilian
@@JakethThySnaketh
The galactic council of controllers dislikes the term "reptilian". The politically correct term is "scale-people".
LMAO
It was reference to a previous video about why people don’t trust Mark Zuckerberg.
😂
Tom Holland's storytelling abilities are elite which makes him charismatic
his stories seems fake because he exaggerates a lot
@@edin410 k but they fun as hell to listen to
@@edin410 storytelling doesn't have to be 100% accurate. Actually 100% accuracy most of the time makes you a bad storyteller.
he tell to much tho
@@parkjiminismylight6441 damn , my stories are always accurate bc I dont want to lie
I finally realized that the narcissist abuse I went through growing up has hindered my sense of humor and chipped away from my confidence. I always thought people were making fun of me out of spite and good to know the difference after watching this video. Sincerely, thanks.
Hey man, I don't know if you are going to read this but if you happen to stumble upon this comment, just wanted to say your channel legitimately helped me go back to the confident outgoing guy that I once was. I went through a tough heartbreak that shook me to the point where for about 2 years I became very insecure and didn't take care of myself physically as well as mentally. Today I went out with a couple friends and a few strangers and for the first time in a long time I felt that I was the leader of that group of people. I felt super confident and really comfortable with myself which definitely put most of the attention on me whenever I spoke. So I'd like to genuinely thank you for these videos. Much love - a grateful subscriber
Good for you
"Your deepest confidence is not based in controlling the perceptions of others, but embracing the truth of who you are"
This is amazing!
Emmanuel Díaz didn't expect such good advice
Truer words have never been spoken....
BARS!!!!!
Is this really a revelation though? I get that it's phrased poetically but is it not common sense that when you know who you are and are comfortable and happy with who you are that you tend to develop genuine confidence in yourself and people's opinions tend not to matter by then?
Literally read this as he was saying it.
Mark Zuckerberg is indeed the best example of what not to do... in any human interaction.
BlankCanvas88 he's like an alien trying to act like a human, at least an alien would learn eventually how to act convincingly as a human whereas Zuckerberg, well...
Have you seen Theresa May?
He can’t be in a human interaction he is a lizard
Sweet baby rays
Hesalizard
1. Adjust ur body language
- 3-second rule of eye contact
makes ppl feel included in whatever the heck ur talking about
- show ur palms while talking 7:43
makes comments more intriguing to listen too
avoids distrustfulness
will come across more confidently and trustworthy
- embody the ppl ur talking about too
8:47
- commit do whatever you are doing
it's our fear of being judged or criticized that causes us to try to draw even less attention.
But it is that limited fear that signals discomfort and creates an awkward experience for everyone
by committing fully to something you don't want to do, a situation that could've gone terribly
becomes one where ur confidence shines through 3:14
so if u do something goofy, whether its intentional or the opposite, ur best bet is to continue what ur doing and go all the way
"by embracing awkward situations fully, you show more confidence when every single person on the sidelines"
2. Have fun w/ friendly teasing
- take up more space
ur being warm by even touching ur friends
u show ur not afraid to take control on a physical level.
these gestures signal to the group ur not someone who should be piled onto
- laugh w/ the group
u get to show that you can separate who u are from the part of u that is being teased
the embarrassing things that u did in the past don't define who u r
if u think about that it's easier to look at them with an element of humor
This is what separates the people that consistently get teased from the ones the group gives up on.
if u laugh with it, it mostly goes away
but even more...
- double down on the jokes
if u try this, you'll realize it actually puts u back in control of the convo 5:41
Ur transforming a moment where ppl might have laughed at u, into one where ur showing ur good humor and confidence.
Amplify the joke and spread the laughter
3. tell ur most embarrassing stories
be so good at it that ur friends ask YOU to tell ur own story
if u do this, it shows a supreme level of confidence since ur the one that comfortably and comically sharing what most ppl would consider a nightmare 6:52
4. use exaggerated versions of the truth 8:11
ppl need a reason to listen
incorporate words that have emotion packed into them
"amazing trip"
"the best summer of my life"
"the most stressful day of my life"
5. let go of imagining ppls opinions of u
most of the awareness would just disappear
remember: 99% of the awkward situations u will encounter in ur life are made worse bc ur fighting to be perceived in a certain way.
relax. its only a perception
ur deepest confidence is embracing the truth of who u r
MINDSET makes it just flow naturally
Great
Tom is a perfect example, I’ve always thought how good he is at handling potentially awkward situations
I'm only awkward because I never have anything to talk about, ever. Even with good friends and family
have a hobby other than gaming and anime maybe
Same. It's pretty sad.
Michael Olawoye you don’t have to have something specific to talk about, people talk about anything and everything. talk about memories, hobbies, something that interests you, something you bought. talk about something significant that happened in your day, talk about the things that are happening around you. even talk about problems. it doesn’t have to be complicated :] you never run out of things to talk about!
@@lynnieebeaniee yea that's good and all, but I have a problem with keeping the topics fluent. I could talk about the best part of my day, but once it's stated, where do I go after that. That's where I struggle most, and I'm sure many more feel the same.
You seem to know what you are talking about, plz halp. I deal with this every day in school.
@@kestanecihasanpubg I feel personally attacked
*Awkward moment*
My brain : *let's make it extra awkward*
This is a good point. I used to always make awkward situations more awkward, and that didn't help my relationship with friends at all. Sometimes you just got to read the room and not go through with whatever you're thinking.
since we're here might as well go all the way or like the video says COMMIT
@@WesleyWhiteside that just shows lack of confidence. The only reason why you'd make an awkward situation more awkward is to show other people that it doesn't faze you and that they don't have to be faze by it either. And more often then not, you can break the awkwardness by putting other people at ease with your comfort around those situations.
Meanwhile palms: 'Lets begin the real show'
Some girl: aww man, that joke made we want to kms
Me: yes, I have wanted to kill myself too... HaHahA *shoves palms in her face and stares at her for three seconds*
CHa cha real smooth
I can imagine the "commitment" and "take up more space" points backfiring in so many spectacularly humiliating ways I'd rather just be awkward forever.
yes, smb could wright a brilliant episode in sitcome based on this. :)
haha respect
I never realized how good he is at public speaking wow
the only 3 second rule i know is picking something off the floor and putting it in my mouth
I think that's 5 second rule
@@SoDamnMetal No u dead
If you’re hungry 10 secs is also ok
Persobe yeah everyone is so damn picky
Its kept you alive and in the game!!!
*_Gain experience talking to others no matter how awkward you might think you are because with experience grows confidence_*
D D Face your fears. You’d be surprise by how many people would be interested to listen to you!
@@dd9639 that fact that you even tried is a good start. At first most of us feel the same way, continue to get more exposure until that feeling slowly dissipates and watch your confidence grow. But I need to emphasize the EXPOSURE, talk to at least one person every day! Even if it's a cashier for a few seconds and just continue to add on a little time over the days and weeks
It makes me soooo tired. I literally do not have the energy level to do things like that for a prolonged period of time.
I just start shutting down. Which makes everything worse. "Who's the catatonic chick on the sofa by herself? Weird."
@@dd9639 Please dont do it
Something I learned from Tom during an interview was is response to how young he looks. I used to get so offend and back offish when someone pointed out how young I looked. During an interview Tom was told he look so young, and Tom responded with a thank you. I saw how mature that sounded and although he confined to look young the perception of him being young was left and was filled with a sense of maturity.
Now I'm more interested at Tom's parents who taught him to be a super likable guy at such a young age.
when he went "If you're ever feeling awkward, just ask yourself:" my mind immediately completed the sentence with: "What would Tom Holland do?"
Good advice! If you're in an awkward situation, just start spoiling movies!
Probably do a backflip or spoil the next marvel movie
Do a back-flip while you spoil the next Marvel movie, haha
@@guicaldo7164 😂
Spoil the new avengers movie
Mark Zukerburg watching this video to be less awkward: Hey, thats me!!
1:54
This comment is underrated.
Lul
Hahaha 😂😂
IM DYING
🤣🤣🤣🤣😭
I was at a family gathering with a lot of people I didn’t know once, and this was when they decided to throw me a surprise party. I don’t like being the centre of attention and there were so many people there I never met so it was reeeeallyy awkward for me. Internally I was really embarrassed and shy and freaking out. Externally however, I played it off in stride, started laughing and smiling, clapped my hands to show enjoyment for their singing, walked around the room waving and thanking everyone. Honestly I don’t even know how I did it. Later, I asked my sister if I looked awkward since that was all I could remember feeling and she said I looked like a queen coming to greet the people. She said I looked so confident and sure. That observation never fails to make me surprised. I guess anyone can end up looking confident even if they don’t feel it.
Fake it till you make it! You got this!!
You know, I kind of understand it looks like I am trying to ruine this party, but I think someone has to stop this obsession with confidence. I hate surprise parties, I hate speaking to people I did not choose to speak, and this is absolutely normal. I never pretend I like something I hate. This stop people from giving me these things. I manage any social situation, I like speaking in public, but I also realise that being adorable for everyone is not my friggin goal in life.
Thanks your channel I literally put myself in awkward situations every single day to practice. I go to places where I don't know anyone that don't matter much and try to converse with random strangers at every opportunity. It helps to practice thanks man this channel has helped me immensely.
"Confidence is not based on controlling the perception of others but embracing the truth of who you are" 💯💯💯
Yes! I held tight to that too
I think it's both being yourself and using advices about our body language as these are truth about us and how we behave
@@marcomulasso9904 yeah. rephrased it means to be yourself and accept your imperfections, rather than putting on a difficult act.
i read this on the exact moment that he said this
Aziza Shawdun so philosophical...can you be my mentor?
I love how I’m watching these videos like I am alien in disguise trying to assimilate into human society.
Edit: this is my first top comment ever, and i must admit i feel nothing. I definitely am an alien.
Of course you're not... or are y-... no way.
well dude you stole this comment :)
Ha-ha, that would be hilarious, fellow human being
Haha, as a real human being i find this sentence comical, I must laugh. Haha
Still can’t do it tho, I have my hands in my pockets am sweating shaking and can’t keep eye contact for more than 3 seconds
the amount of analysis and contemplation you see in these videos is remarkable.
what you said around the end about sincerity regarding yourself really hit home. I think a few things finally sunk in for me. Thank you!
Vid: how to turn awkwardness into confidence
Step 1: be Tom Holland
Step 2 : be spiderman
steampunk hulk video should be named "how does a future multi millionaire who already experienced massive success at a young age manage to act playfully awkward"
@@tomdabomb16712 agreed
1. Be rich
2. Be famous
When you can climb walls and swing around Manhattan, you'll have so much energy it'll be hard to be awkward.
But I’m Batman
*shows palms*
why are your palms so sweaty?
*stares for 3 seconds*
What the hell is wrong with this guy?
*laughs at self*
No one else laughs
I can relate. It pisses me off when people misunderstand meaning of
my words and behavior.
@@seriousperson2065 it's so anoying ikr...
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
underrated comment!
😂😂😂
I figured all of this out by myself. Although I never defined the specifics to myself, these are the exact actions I use in a group to communicate properly. Finding this video, and watching it, then realizing what it was felt a little odd. I think of awkwardness in a very specific way. It's a little hard to explain, but the key is to remember that embarrassment and awkwardness are things that are decided by you. If you don't want to feel awkward or embarrassed, you simply negate that feeling. Forcefully, or by easing yourself into it.
It's not hard to find out these little tricks by yourself. After all, as long as you look for it, it'll be right there. Think of a way you want to communicate, and who you want to be. Then simply be that person, and be proud of it. Force that personality out and it will naturally merge itself with the conversation. Then everything after that is just you being you, without restraint.
these videos inspire me to go out and socialize, but covid's a bish
Every time i watch your videos i feel like an alien trying to learn how to be hooman
Hey, at least there are videos!
You're not the only one.
I always felt like that.
You’re one step ahead of Zuck
Hard same.
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This was actually helpful and using them display confidence. Just review them often, turn them into a habit, and keep going, and be content with yourself - and you got it.
8:37 I've been doing this my whole life and it's my favorite! Everytime I'm telling a story to my friends, family or strangers, and I make the switch from my normal voice to an impersonation of someone in my story it instantly catches their attention and makes em laugh. 💯
Introverts : oh I see
oh i see
Lol exactly
*The key:* Be self ware of your awkwardness and then work towards being more self comfortable.
Well yeah but that’s the key to fixing anything, really. It is the hardest part though
Yes self acceptance is definitely important.
Sure...
Know you're awkward and own it. It's whatever
Oml when I become aware of my awkwardness, I become more awkward 😂
Learned a lot from watching this video intermittently over this past year. Honestly feel like I've gained some confidence just from watching it. I've had friends "tease" me, and rather than take offence, I joked back at my expense and laughed along with them; the jokes against me soon died. I've been sharing more and more eye contact in groups of people. And just the other week when I arrived at work, there were about 4/5 people that were happy to see me and they all proceeded to chant my name; usually I would curdle myself and shy away awkwardly not knowing what to do. Instead I dropped my bag and started dancing, hahah. Honestly can't believe what this video has done for me.
Hey!!! How are you now?
I’m becoming more & more awkward after the pandemic. Sometimes during the Zoom meeting I was just cringing by my word/behavior so much. I definitely need this. Also, love Tom.
How To Turn Awkwardness Into Confidence
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First step : be Tom Holland
Second step: eat a snickers
Joseph Field you’re not you when you’re hungry
chicken legs TV good since I won't be me!
:))))
First step: be attractive
congratulations now your flaws are “adorable quirks”
Pack your bags guys y'all failed miserably.
this man has watched a lot of tom holland cute moments compilations
LOL
That means you probably did too
@@robertrallo3905 We all did...
LMAOOO
@@LisaHall1014 i don't lol
I’m actually pleasantly surprised how helpful the philosophies and tips in this video are.
Tom was raised the way he is. I wish I was too 😢 He's so lucky
#1:Adjust your body Language
a.Use the 3 second rule eye contact (unless your talking to one person)
b. Show your palm most of the time when speaking (reveal and you'll be more confident/trustworthy)
c.Commitment
#2.Handle Friendly Teasing
a.Take Up More Space
b.Laugh With The Group
c.Double Down On The Joke
#3: Tell Your Own Embarrassing Stories
a. Activate The Confident Body Language
b.Choose High Impact Words (e.g- "Amazing Trip"," Which I think was the best summer of my life!",That was maybe the most stressful day of my life." )
c.Embody The Characters In Your Story
#4: Let go of managing people’s opinion of you
a.If You Ever Feel Awkward,Ask Yourself,"What perception am i fighting right now?" And then relax.Because this is just a perception of you :')
I'm just taking notes,but you're very welcome! :))
I dont even wanna knoe how often this got screen shot :F
lmao thanks, charisma +1
I just took a picture of this and I'm going to write this down, this is very helpful, thanks so much!!!
Thank you!
Congratulation, you are now not yourself anymore.
CZcams knows that I am awkward
😂😂😂😂
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Dammit youtube!!!
Zuckerberg told em
😅✌️
Your channel should be taught in high school curriculum everywhere. Thank you for teaching me skills that I never managed to learn before.
this has been recommended to me so many times until i finally gave in and watched it, its like youtube is trying to tell me something
Friends teasing me in public
Me: Laughs hysterically along them shows eye contact to everyone while shaking my head and showing my palms to everyone
Did I do it right?
Razor Reznov Yep 😉
JEEZ i laughed so much...
lol
T E dudeee🤣😂
Are you a Scorpio lmao
"Your deepest confidence is not based in controlling the perception of others, but embracing the truth of who you are."
This line has gotten me far.
Me to adventure time villan or guy that looks evil but is actually pretty chill
Thats a good one
Yep
You are a cat?
Stevepunk Yes.
The 3 second rule will help in panel interviews. Haven’t tried it but I always get that pit stomach nervousness regardless
I took a break to work on mindset. “Perception of you…” very powerful
Instructions were unclear, now im in a relationship with my grandma
Riich. Lmao
Hahaha 😂
Awkward..
You always were. A family relationship.
Sweet home alabama
Can you do more videos to help people who think they have a boring personality?
1D8G 4ZPD They're tons of articles on websites and there's tons of youtube videos that talk about that. The main component to boring people , is their everyday scheduled lives. Same routine over and over again. You don't take risks. No passion and fire in your eyes because you never leave your comfort zone. No spontaneous adventures. Not only that, but if you're constantly on social media wasting your life scrolling, it does nothing good. Start reading books that enlighten you on certain topics. Watch documentaries. Learn a new skill. Develop a new hobby. Be unpredictable.
1D8G 4ZPD Boring people 9 times outta 10, have absolutely no substance to their lives. It's not them that's boring, it's their surroundings.
Care about what you do more, do more of what you care about and own it.
If you feel like you’re boring in a conversation an easy tactic is to ask people a lot of questions about themselves and act super interested. People love to talk about themselves, so you’re making them feel good but you don’t have to open up too much. Just work on remaining relaxed (turn towards them, nod, smile, etc) and listening well. This has helped me in situations where I don’t know what to say to someone, whether it be because I’m having an introverted day or the person just intimidates me. Another one is to remember that you’re not as boring as you might think you are. I talk to people about all kinds of random things. They might think I’m weird, but they definitely don’t think I’m boring. You’d be surprised what kind of random topics can fascinate people! Either way, be relaxed, confident, and open. If the conversation lulls, excuse yourself and don’t be hard on yourself because we’re all learning!
watch his video about sophie turner and keanu revz
usually when I think about the awkward things that happened to me I think about it in a funny comical way, but the advice at 9:37 literally just made me open my eyes and I totally feel different about my awkward memories.
I've watched this video so many times and i keep having the same realisations every time. No complaints
Tom Holland really is one hell of a wonderful individual! So charismatic and confident at such a young age. It really is admirable!
What does age have to do with being charismatic and confident? I was the same when I was 5 because I wasn't scared of judgment.
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@@arturgazizov9867 thank you for the launch codes
Didn’t realize Tom Holland was a damn legend.
He’ll be
Neither did i lol
4 years later coming back.
This id some really good content. Usefull
So this is why I feel so comfortable when watching his interviews😃😄
He is a really good guy🤟
I thought this was a Tom Holland interview, but instead I learned how to be confident. Love it
Yeah. None of this will work on me because I just freeze and my brain shuts down when any hint of stress shows up.
“If you have the right mindset, you don’t need the exact technique in every situation... if you just let go of managing people’s opinion, most of the awkwardness (and probably stress :) would disappear.”
Maybe you need medication
I love the difference between the replies on your comment
@@doritosofasia1912 what am i doing here
If you have an underlying condition you need therapy/medication.
If not, therapy is still good.
That being, social skills, like any other skill, need to practiced and with time you'll get better.
Charisma on command ... I hope this reaches you. This is necessary info to what I'm about to say. I'm a Christian, so I was (and am) wary of certain philosophical outlooks on life. When I came to your channel I was a bit cynical.. that's me! I was a nihilist before I was a Christian and even as a Christian I know that life (and human nature) is far from roses. My point is.. I underestimated you and your intentions. I am grateful for this channel and content. I have ptsd and all the fun stuff that comes along with that, at times my loneliness and isolation is absolutely crippling. From just a cpl of these videos, I've already been able to have more fulfilling social interactions. That means alot to me. I can see you really want to work on yourself and I enjoy your kindness. I'm just grateful.
that laughing one is great! I find it so attractive when people can laugh at themselves
yea bro it's not like he's a world renowned actor or anything
Oscar Reyes there are plenty of people in the real world that use these things. He’s a world renowned actor because he knows how to act, not necessarily because he is confident. But don’t take that the wrong way; his confidence is the foundation of his acting
Well he plays the same character all the fucking time.
You must be fun at parties. I mean I'm not a world known actor I'm in a little theatre group lol, but I'm doing these unintentionally and it worked for me.
He is still a human being! Just because he’s well known doesn’t mean he’s automatically confident
You know actors aren't acting all the time, right?
Nothing, absolutely nothing can be more awkward than a *handshake fail*
I'm laughing coz I've had plenty of those.😂😂
Hhhhha for me it isn't.. i just laugh and say "take 2" and we hand-shake again.. sometimes i even say "and now a cool handshake" and we act EXTRA weird and laugh it off. It's HOW u react when the handshake wasn't right.
Yep tried to give a handshake to a guy one time because I thought it would be a pretty standard thing to do but he didn’t follow through with the handshake so we just ended up holding hands... so awkward lol
Just mention its awkward. Chances are the other person finds it just as awkward
Twan Willems Yeah every time something awkward happens I just say “Well that was awkward!” And we usually both laugh and then can move the conversation without an awkward pause
My introverted self making notes:
1. 3 seconds eye contact when talking to a person. Shift people you talk to every 3 seconds if it is a group.
2. Show palms, no closed fists.
3. If things get awkward, build on it.
4. If you get teased, accept it and laugh about it.
5. Stories make good conversations, add emotion, and act as if you are reliving it.
I remember watching the video on social tips for introverts (or something like that). I tried them out at my parkour club and immediately made two friends.
Oddly enough though I've become even less social than I was before, because now making friends isn't an accident: its something I can do on purpose. And this knowledge is....exhausting.
Regardless I want to be more ambiverted so I will try to be social again at the next meeting, but my gosh is this sort of thing stressful. I have to keep moving forward though because I see a charismatic future for myself.
Thank you for the great content Charisma on Command! It changed my life for the better by giving me the tools to be proactively social.
I watched this. I'm now in love with Tom Holland.
I've also liked my own comment because I've learned nothing
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Woah u weren’t already?
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The thigh thing was definitely a power move
I would never know this video could make such a big impact on me. Thanks for making this video. I think it changed my life.
Same it changed my life too
I feel like awkwardness turns into a more full and better form of confidence then just flat out confidence
That umbrella performance he did has now 18 mil. views.Tom went literally hard mode
I'm sure a lot of the viewers went hard mode too
i believe that no matter what i would never be able to dance dressed as rihanna in public without freeze or move very rigid in this life.
His confidence was amazing there
RiꜱᴇnHᴇᴇd Damn, he can dance O_o
the situations are made awkward because you're fighting to be perceived in a certain way....
that line hit home
This line might of just changed my life.
I would have not believed that a yt video would hit the nail on the head on every single thing that makes me go "what the hell is wrong with me?" and given me the answer to these persistent questions. Thank you, youtuber guide! I don't have money but here's my blessing ✨🌟⭐
0:30 he is very skilled at turning those more difficult moments around.
0:50 3 second rule of equally gaze. makes people feel included.
1:40 he shows his palms. shoes open and comfort.
2:40 more commitment: otherwise, it would show everyone feels uncomfortable.
3:40 by embracing awkward situations fully, you show more confidence than every person on the sidelines. this is when awkwardness is forced on you. for i.e. the friends are teasing you.
4:00 when you're a guy and your friends are gonna tease you and it's not out of malice. if you handle properly, then you can be a leader in the group.
take up more space: fill or occupy a certain amount of volume, often specified through the use of modifiers.
4:40 pile on/onto (someone): 1. (of a group of people) to jump or climb on top of someone: 2. (of a group of people) to attack 被欺負的
4:50 a simply technique is to laugh with the group.
5:05 you can seperate from the aspect you being teased and who you are. because those things dont define who you are. and put you back in control of the conversation
6:00 show good humor and confidence.
6:40 tell your own embarrassing story. you are in charge of your own story.
9:30 99% of the awkwardness is going to be worse if you're going to fight back.
10:00 you are not perfect. there's always going to be place that other teases. that is in recognizing those less than perfect facts and liking yourself anyways. the true confident is generated!
Social blunders are inadvertent violations of normative standards of behavior. Although blunders can be embarrassing and unpleasant, most people view them as relatively fleeting and inconsequential.
Thank you
This video made me realize that Tom Holland is a genius
Yeah, he probably has high Emotional intelligence:D
yeah like wtf Tom is a gift
Basically
Step 1: be yourself
Step 2: embrace your awkwardness
Step 3: if someone makes a joke about you or teases you just go along with it
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BE YOURSELF!! BE WHO YOU WANT TO BE
Asdfgh Zxcvbn correct, Show your palms....!!!! ✅
You know what I will be what I want! I now am an attack helicopter
A bit reductive innit.
Opening yourself in general gives more confidence.