The Dangers of the ‘Trad Wife’ & ‘Kept Woman’ Trend on Women’s Finances
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- čas přidán 13. 04. 2024
- In this video i'm chit-chatting about the new 'trad wife' trend with women wanting to retreat back to the private sphere and the dangerous financial impact this could have on women who aren't strategic about it.
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Even if you’re married to the BEST man he could die any moment or become disabled. I was fully immersed into the trend and wanted to give up my work, then my almost husband died of a stroke at 25 !!!!! It woke me up so hard!!! Always be able to feed yourself.
Wow! Hope your husband is okay 🤍
@her husband died 💀😭
@@Polkadot-ll8gz the KEYWORD - almost meaning that the husband did not died 🤦🏿♀️
@lilshine1234 almost husband, meaning they never got married. But the man definitely died.
@@lilshine1234 girl read again please 😭 her almost husband meaning they didn’t marry but almost did 😓
I think if women want to be trad wives, they just have to be smart about it, have savings, investments, passive income, always have a form of income. So the dynamic with the trad husband works well in this dynamic.
Exactly
100%. From one Economist to another, Note that even historically, women who were fully traditional non working wives, had structures in place to protect them in the event their husband died or fell ill. For example, a widow n kids were taken in by the husbands extended family to be cared for. In todays’s society, it makes sense that women earn their own money just for self dignity and ensuring Person Risk is mitigated
Agreed, I think I might have edited the part out that a widows would usually be taking in by their husbands brother or elder brothers etc if they had one but even then some women were unable to find people who were willing to take them it because you become a financial burden to others who likely already have financial responsibilities
I like you - you’re grounded, driven, intelligent. Thanks for the content
Very refreshing POV. I work at a law firm and we deal with divorces - there are so many clients who, even if economically active, lose access to their assets due to strain relationships and have to fight to get what rightfully theirs back.
Even if you decide to give it a go and be a stay-at-home lady, try to protect yourself by acquiring some assets in your name only/making a proper pre-nup post-nup agreement/getting life insurance in place! 💛
Thank you for sharing! 💕
Nara Smith often gets mentioned in the trad wife conversation when she’s a full time working model. She even worked well into her pregnancy and even though Lucky is Mormon he does a lot of housework too and even takes care of the newborn whenever it wakes up.
It? 😂
@@MS-tt7df I don’t know the gender of the baby lol
Lol. Fair point 😂
Oh she even had the baby now, congrats to her 🥰 but yeah it’s so strange I think it’s just because she cooks (from scratch) tbh and that makes some people feel a type of way 🤷🏽♀️
@@MS-tt7df 😂😂right!?
I remember commenting about the dangers of this trend last year on another creator's channel, and people were calling me a hater. Glad to see more women are talking about how financially vulnerable this situation is and how it often isn't the best position to be in the long term.
Hmm, not necessarily. It's more about how you tradwife. Side hustles, part time employment, telecommuting, and entrepreneurship are all avenues that can allow you to land on your feet. I honestly believe a lot of the blowback is from people hating everything conservative. There are also dangers in letting kids raise themselves, sacrificing closeness to children for an unapologetic, toxic male boss, and letting relative strangers raise them. There's a middle ground, I know a few intelligent women with advanced degrees who decided to stay home with their children. I'm talking top of the class.
If women's unpaid labor for childcare and housework was paid, then yes, I'm sure lots more women would enjoy staying home. But you're making POINTS saying, most women are NOT getting paid for this!! This is a failing of our societies for not valuing this work in the same way. Thank you for this discussion!!
Some of those tradwives have generational to rely on. My uncle's wife's father build and owned hotels, since she was a teenager she, along with her siblings, receives a monthly allowance.
I’d say *most* do. And all these influencers talking about how they don’t work and rely on their husband earn money from social media.
I couldn’t agree more. As a married woman who has an amazing providing husband who is the bread winner i often tell women you have to make sure that in the event of any unforeseen circumstances (God Forbid) you want to make sure you will be financially stable. With the rise of this trad wife soft life trend I get so much pushback so I am so happy to see people with platforms speaking on the liabilities that can come with it if you have no financial stability to fall back on.
Thank you for sharing 💕
Wow, you made a lot of interesting points. I agree that consumers should be more mindful of what they're viewing (point you made at 6:10) :)
Thank you!
this video needs to go viral! this is so amazing and you hit the nail on so many topics. I loved when you mentioned that consumers need to think more critically, because at the end of the day, it comes down to each individual to stop purchasing these products. Influencers wouldn't be relevant or wouldn't sell anything if the consumer didn't buy it. but also it's not their fault that people buy stuff.
And then I loved your thought on privacy too. Sometimes I forget that we do see random people sharing their houses, being half naked on the internet. It's like it used to be with the news, hundreds of years ago you didn't know what happened in Australia if you lived in New York. But today you not only know about all the major events and breaking news happening, you also have access to millions of people's lives online.
Again, this video is just amazing, I love your thinking and I really wish it gets pushed out more and people start thinking more for themselves instead of following trends. thank you Lamide!
Thank you so much!
I completely agree with the idea of social media changing the dynamic of women in households! They have access to create income streams, so they cannot say they are staying at home and bene taken care of.
This definitely made me have a new perspective about this subject, thank u 🥰
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Tradwives are working harder than anyone else in these social media streets.
Nara has time to do her makeup, dress up fashionably and take 8hrs to make her cinnamon rolls. It’s admirable but im sure many middle men/helpers are involved.
Finally someone speaking up to all this bull*
I love how you articulated this very well! Well done!
Love video essays! Your economic history background is coming in clutch!
Love this video, such good points made
Thank you for this video !
We love an educated and informative babe!!
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Amazing content! Thanks for sharing
Very true! Finally somebody said it finally!
Thanks a lot for this video, there's so much to think about❤️
I never expected you to start making social commentary videos but we love to see it! And it’s very interesting to see from a successful woman’s perspective!
excellent video. you made some very good points sis
Thank you for your content. The point on influencers made me change my perspective
Nara Smith posts partnerships regularly. Summer Fridays, Aritzia. Love her content. You make great points!
Well there you go exactly my point, thanks for sharing x
What an eye opening perspective, never thought about it like that.
I think subconscious I’ve always known to protect my self financially; Wether I knew or not, the type of lifestyle I wanted to live. Now that I’ve experienced a little bit of both I definitely lie in the middle. I think the balanced approach is always the best approach 👌🏼 for me anyways.
you are like a big sister thank you
the monetisation of the trad wife on social media
you are smart as hell, thank you so much for educating us 😭
Thank you ☺️
Thank you for explaining this in perfect logic and sparing me having to comment on this every time it comes up in conversation. I will just refer people to your video.
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super interesting, good food for thought!
Thank you!
Nara Smith herself has even stated she’s not a tradwife🤣
You are so right.
You’re content!!!!
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A woman should always have a way to earn or have a safety net. Even women in the days of traditional stay at home housewife who got an allowance to keep and manage the house, groceries etc managed to sneak a little bit away in a jar for a rainy day. It’s a sense of security because nothing in life is guaranteed.
Great video. Great points
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Brilliant video! Excellent points made 👏🏽
The real trad wives in developing countries would weep seeing these women.
The fact that they CHOSE their lifestyles even if they are off social media means they are not TRAD.
The real trad wives of old did not have CHOICE. It was imposed on them.
Good point!
This is not necessarily true. There are many Women and Men who migrate from developing countries but retain their familial structures and gender roles within their homes, if financially afforded the opportunity to do so. Lets not infantilise women in developing countries, many of them have autonomy and happily partake in their social structures.
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When you speak with the trad wives in the hinterlands or the so called Oga wife who wears fine clothes but can't talk until she is spoken to
Or those who have been told and believe that their 'head' should beat and cheat on them or don't even own mobile phone because their husbands have ordered them not to be on SM
I laugh when these women call themselves trad wives.
Even in the developed countries, trad wives in the 40s could not vote ,ask for a divorce or earn a good income even if they wanted to work so staying at home as gentle and submissive women was the ONLY choice they had.
Most trad wives in developing countries actually have businesses too, most people are not sitting around waiting for the hubby to make all the money. Life can happen at any given time, especially in these poor countries, where so many lives have been lost to various scourges like AIDs, Cholera, Malaria etc. I live in a developing country, so I'm just speaking on what I have seen and continue to see.
@@themalawiandiner180 Exactly so true! People in the west tend to diminish women in developing countries simply because their cultural Norms and practices are different. I mean the Woman in proverbs 31 was trading goods in the market!
It’s actually not really anything to debate, just make stuff make sense for you.
And if anyone upholds the Bible, even when the Bible talks about the Proverbs 31 woman, it talks about her buying land, having maids and all.
Nara smith is not a trad wife she is 50/50 and pays all the bills! It’s 4B or sprinkle sprinkle there is no in between! 😊
My mother was a stay at home wife and mum. The house was in her name. My dad invested into a private retirement plan for her for and after we grew up, she started a small business. Always had access to all the money so it was never an issue. Why are you all jumping into the extremes? Be smart. Have a prenup. Being a stay at home mum is the best, forget wife, to be able to care for your children is the best for everyone involved.
The funny thing is that what I witnessed in real life is that the working mom ends up in financial struggles and stressed beyond measures..On the other side, the household where the husband is the breadwinner marriages last long, the wife is less stressed and they have a better partnership....Live how it suits you but don't let fear mongering block your blessings....
The extreme to you is the norm, those husbands don't anything to ensure that their wives and children are provided for should something happened to him. Hence they are highly unlikely to think of a your future.
@RDCFemmes The character of the husband is important, so choose wisely.....
@@micka580 I agree! But a wolf is a wolf
@@micka580my sisters husband is the main breadwinner but she’s miserable and always complaining
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All Facts
Where is your hairpiece from please?
Proverbs 31:10-31 ❤
Proper smart. I like.
What was there do be by women as all the economic activities were hard labor; Blue collar work. men died in their work places so much and this was no place for women to be. Tech has made a very big difference.
There is a great book on this very topic called The Feminine Mistake
You’re so intelligent and beautiful, it’s a joy discovering your channel.
I think the traditional gender roles were/are not really understood. Giving rise to abuse and later the women sufferage movement. At the core of traditional gender roles was division of labor. Example, if a husband has a 9-5 there is no need for the wife to also have a 9-5 because that would have an economic opportunity cost. Instead the wife would leverage that small income from the husband's 9-5 and establish enterprises from that. That is the essence of the Proverbs 31 woman. Thats not an abused or lazy bum sitting at home and knitting woman. So at the end i totally agree that a woman needs to be financially astute because then thats how you become a multiplier.
I love Nara Smith, she’s not a traditional wife, she just happens to cook her food from scratch and dresses modestly. People label her as a traditional wife because of how she creates in her kitchen. She’s a supermodel just like her husband and they’re also influencers who are making money from modeling and influencing. She’s cultivating generational wealth with Lucky for their children.
I don't mind trends encouraging traditional roles, there are many women who seek that. I believe those women (or men) who choose to stay at home should all get a side hustle that mirrors the market, in case something happens.
I like how Norwegian countries do, with extended parental leave and funds to take care of children ( though it sometimes lends itself to abuse).
I think the mistake is believing that traditional wives didn’t work; the monetization aspect is for sure a new element, but it’s not what these women are thinking about when they hear the word traditional. This is a fantastic critique of the influencer crowd at large, though.
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As an american black woman throughout our history most of us have always had to work from the day we set foot off the ships up until now we have never been able to just be black women at one point in america it was illegal for black women to stay home with their children we were forced to go take care of white families so we weren't allowed to be home with our children but had to go take care of the white family home and children until we had enough through the civil rights movement By the 1960s, nearly ninety percent of black women in the South worked as domestic workers. The oppressive objectivity that southern black domestic workers were subjected to was a discursive, systematic and pervasive mistreatment based on their race and occupation.Black people have always had to work our asses off being a stay ay home wife or mom is rare in our community in america only 24 percent of women are even married so remove the ones who are staying at home its such a small number so if bw want to stay home im not against it why do we always have to be the strong independent don't need no man ? Anyone of course should plan accordingly for staying at home thats obvious there are many ways to stay at home and still make income like yt content
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The social media big timers are NOT traditonal wives making that content😂✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾. You make money from social media, and program and plans you work from home. You help manage your mans paper work you are a worker
lets not judge women and let women decide what they want to do with their life.
some want to be kept irregardless of the dangers and some don't.
You must be new here, this is a personal finance channel and most women who watch are money conscious. The video is not about judging women; it’s about helping women who want to make the decision make it in a more responsible way. If a women didn’t care about the dangers then this wouldn’t be the video for her 🤷🏽♀️
She isn’t judging them?? We’re warning them.
Housewives will always win, stay home mother's ftw. Corporate life is not for delicate and soft bodies of most women, that's why a big percentage quit in their 30's.
Win what? It’s not a competition
What we see here, ladies and gentlemen, is an ignorant comment that hasn't yet realised that people ought to live how they want that makes them content in life and that what theyre saying is blatantly wrong.
Moving along.
You were not confined to the private sphere. Before the advancement of technology, it was dangerous for women to be in the workplace or out in the marketplace. It was safe for women to be in the private sphere. Also, this is not universal. Women have had many economic rights in many great ancient societies in history such as Sparta and Israel.
Women were confined to the private sphere what are you talking about? Why do you think women had to fight but to have the same rights as men outside the home & still do. And the exception doesn’t negate the general rule, literally the worst way to make an argument.
@ Your argument is that they were confined because men wouldn’t allow them. My argument is that they were “confined” for their safety. Most of history is violent and extreme. The relative safety brought about by technology in the West is a 100 year old thing.
@VERYSOFTLUKA both are true, in a lot of countries at the time if not most. There, that's the discussion solved. And it's true. Women in most countries were met with disapproval or blatantly told you cant do this you cant do that you will only do this you can do that AND the environment in those countries was usually dangerous so women didn't have a choice in the matter, obviously there are women in the past who've achieved things that we learn from such as scientists and the like, but you can guess how difficult it would have been for them.
@@jusatesst I just don’t like the premise that women were “not allowed”. It was for their safety, as most of history is violent and brutal. It became a social norm and turned into “not allowing” because of the culture around it. But the fight for women’s liberation in the last 100 years was premised on the Industrial Revolution. It was now safe for women to work outside the home because technology made the work less brutal. So, that is it. It’s a technology issue
yes have ur own income but If a woman cannot sprinkle sprinkle then she had better stay single!!!
Tell me @Lámidé Elizabeth, given your lifestyle, it is clear that you do not support being FINANCIALLY dependent upon a man. With that being said, do you advocate for 50/50?
From her videos ,she promotes being a contributor not just a taker.
Most women have what it takes to be financially independent so why be just a taker, considering that working as a team brings bigger returns.
So, two things@@ezinneerhirhieneeukaogo1439...
1.) Contributing ONLY "financially"?
2.) You should NEVER speak for someone who is "fully capable" of speaking for themselves.
If so@@ezinneerhirhieneeukaogo1439, let her answer for herself.
If so@@ezinneerhirhieneeukaogo1439, let her speak for herself.
I hope not
I'm financially independent but never will go 50 50 with a man