My Husband Does Not Believe In Love | Kier & Noemie
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- čas přidán 1. 12. 2021
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"I'm doing me, it's just fun doing you at the same time." Noémi shouldn't have ever dropped that bar. It's being added to my Slick Mouth Repertoire expeditiously.🤣
It’s literally a breathe of fresh air every single time I listen and watch the sit down talk! 🙌🏾 I love your transparency and rawness in every conversation! As a single woman right now this is so helpful.
Noemi’s smile is so infectious.. I found myself smiling right along with her ❤️😊
She’s really beautiful with amazing smile
This alone was the therapy y’all needed to close the year out ! Such a healthy and raw conversation ! Thank y’all for showing us how Real love isn’t linear .
As a newly married wife I really love watching you two! Y'all are alwayssss sooo sooo inspiring and honest. 💕
My favorite part was when Kier explained how he knew Noemie was "the One". That if she was to ever walk away , he knew he would spend the rest of his life comparing all other women to Noemie and how she set a diff kinda standard so he couldn't let that go.
Whewww Chile! 🙌🏾 I felt that because that's EXACTLY how I knew my husband was the one for me ❤️
Thank you two are amazing! Continue these sit down talks 😊
WHAT!!!!! I didn’t think y’all was coming back til a little after the baby was born. But GOD. So happy for y’all. Continued blessing energy toward y’all.
Yesss... Learning to love yourself, and fixing the issues that are within. No one can heal you, that's your responsibility. I learned this the hard way. Waiting to be rescued, like the fairytales.
Kier & Noemie, we are just seeing this video and wanted to CONGRATULATE you on your 4 years of CZcams bossing. Congratulations!!!
I'm in a fresh relationship, but he's everything I've wanted. I've always known what I wanted love to look like and it feels great to meet someone who's in that same space with. Blessings to you❣️
Love is what you and your mate make it and how you show it. This word is universal it's what it is and looks like to you.
You are an amazingly beautiful couple. Your transparency is the answer to staying together and making marriage work, truly! I’ve been married for almost 18 years. I truly appreciate listing to your videos. Thank you. 🙏🏾❤
Assuming positive intent! So simple but some transformative in how I can communicate with my partner.
Oh how I’ve missed these sit down talks!! I love listening to the gems y’all drop aside from marriage it’s the introspective-ness for me
“I love you for your benefit.” That one hit me!
Noemie dropping gems!!
As someone undergoing a 12-step program for codependents… yeah love is so tricky in this society… well distinguishing between unconditional real love and everything else!
Omg, it’s so nice to see other married couples that keeps it aaaalll the way real. I’ve been married for 6 years, and we’ve been through a lot of transitions that we’ve needed to find our way back to our foundation. Love this!
Wooow so much wisdom and down to earth exemples.the situation presented in 28: 00 to 29:00 was exactly what i think and i am so so so happy to see that there is people who think like that. I had to stop to let this comment.
You know what I appreciate about y'all -I always leave the conversations more honest with myself. I have a whole sit down talk with me and your voices / commentary narrate. I promise I'm not nuts lol. Blessings and Noemie you are beautiful.
You two are a clear reflection of Most High's work, as individuals and as a couple. Thank you for sharing yourselves with us 🖤
This has helped me so much. If only
I can get my husband to watch you all
With me. Y’all be sharing some gems!
We’re two people with different family backgrounds, cultures and upbringings, so we made our wedding theme “Love Conquers All”. I believe love conquers all. And I believe in the magic of love BUT as magical and wonderful as love might appear, a successful relationship requires strategy, planning and technique. Love requires work
Work absolutely! My brother asked me the other day, why does relationships take work? I said because no day is the same. In the workplace at home in the nucleus family with extended family in the neighborhood or your spiritual family things are always changing and navigating those changes requires something each one of us mentally emotionally physically and often financially. Those decisions and those choices are at the core of Who We Are as individuals. There is no way around it. That is work!
You guys always have excellent content. It is very helpful. “There is no such thing as a big problem only making a problem bigger”. Keep up the great work. I just subscribed to the Patreon page from this conversation.
You guys are Not just known locally ….. your gift and wisdom has introduced you to the world…..
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I see you one day changing lives through pastoring. I’m glad your wife sees what’s coming….
This comment cannot express enough how much I APPRECIATE the blunt honesty about your daughter.
I have been so uncomfortable with the idea of dealing with my 4 year old son and wanting to hug him and run from him in the same day.
I don’t have many moms to talk with so this blunt honesty was much needed.
It’s amazing hearing Kier’s perspective on love because I feel the exact same way, that people are in love with the idea/potential of what someone could be for them, it’s rare that people simply appreciate the other person for who they are and want them around for that reason only.
I always thought it would be impossible for me to find “love” with that belief and seeing y’all appreciation for each other is starting to open my mind back up to the idea of marriage, I don’t believe in “the one” but I do feel what he said about the standard, maybe I just haven’t had enough experience to even know if I have a standard.
Welcome back. Speaking of Tabitha and Chance...if yall ended up doing a collab with them....bruh. it would be fire!!!
Watching from Dubai am a repeat offender and am addicted to your conversations I really can't have enough of you too.
So glad to see y'all! Great sit down sit down!!
Noemie beautiful passionate woman. Kier beautiful transparent man.
You are both happy souls
Yes live sit downs!! 💚🤎🖤
This was so perfect ! Like I didn’t even know I needed this , this made me realize I need to reevaluate my ideology of what marriage and love is vs what I was taught. Also when she went through how she approaches an issue with herself before bringing it to you. I love this . This is my first video I’ve watched on you guys channel def won’t be the last!
This whole session is soul food for me.
Absolutely love your platform! This video has opened my eyes to some things I need to do for myself and in my relationship. Thank you❤️
Ugh I missed these thought provoking conversations....love to listen you guys talk about different topics❤❤
I love the first minute of this video the vibe was A1. Keep it up y'all!
Love these talks, y’all are so real. ✊🏾❤️
I love how candid yall can be with each other and leave space for grace, helps me tolerate my situation.. it gives me hope 🥰
Thank you for this sit down talk and the honesty you both give. The viewpoints in this video are enlightening, and I definitely agree with the part that both parties have to be willing to do the work that love requires.
Great convo I truly enjoy it because it’s so many gems, insights, and confirmations. There was a time where I felt like it was something wrong with me because I didn’t do the romanticized version of love. It’s good to know I’m not alone in that.
I love that moment by moment, phase by phase, chapter by chapter you are both very dedicated, honest, aware, & accountable on your journey. This entire video has reassured me to trust my process. I am currently single, mastering self-love, and transforming my idea of what love is for the better. It starts with me. I believe that one day I will meet someone I can continue my journey of love with-someone who will add to the process without me giving them the sole responsibility of loving & caring for me without me doing those things for myself. I struggled with that in my past. I’ve since been in therapy unpacking so much and I have the tools to do better, so that’s what I’m doing. It’s almost as if now I don’t even want anyone to interrupt where I am. Lol. But it’s a process. I love that all things are working together for your good as a family and couple. I don’t usually comment, but I’ve been a supporter for a couple years now. We need this positive black representation of love, family, parenting, therapy, & healing. Love y’all. Fr.
Please for a Live sit down talk!!! 😫
I loved how this message seeped into not just love and relationship/marriage, but also your individual journey’s emotionally, and financially. The discomforts, struggles and how you both navigated through the different phases. I originally came to check out the perspective of a married therapist “not believing the hype of love” but stayed for the introspection on they why’s and how’s of that idea. I’m so glad you guys are at a place to respectfully disagree, but listen and attempt to understand compassionately despite the differences of opinion or views that has always been my idea of love. Appreciate the vulnerability and candidness from both professional and personal aspect. Not too invasive, but enough exposure to give a clear view. Glad I watched the video all the way through! Excited to see what the future holds for you guys! 💕
Ohhhh how I have missed y’all!!! This was sooo needed and I have been on a journey of learning about how real relationships work and not the “made for tv, ig, Twitter versions” because it has warped our way of thinking and if y’all was watch MAFS this season it was very prevalent in the marriage ideas of the men this season maybe even more than the women! But with you too I always walk away with nuggets I can use! But really learning to be with someone cause you want them and not focus on how a relationship “should “ be is 🙆🏾🔥. But I also need that same energy in return💯.
Repeat offender here LOL I for one am glad I listened to episode in its entirety. I feel like this can be looked at in two ways. Those that romanticize love based on movies and expectations and those that are against it due to possible trauma or just simply never being in the position to witness that level of love. To me, being with someone that you can sit and work through all your ish with and is still there to do better is romantic to me. There are some people that see people in love and their first thought is, what are their problems, it is not always like that. Why can't we just enjoy those moments for what they are.....moments. Why do we have to evaluate the totality of the relationship on that moment? I love love, I believe in it and may even romanticize at some points but I still live in the reality of my relationship.
I’ve been married for 5 years but it’s hard as hell but equally fulfilling in a real relationship. Thank y’all for sharing your experiences, peaks and valleys. I definitely find it helpful and inspiring.
You may or may not see this message but to see a male talking about mental health wow mind blowing. This subject is very taboo especially in the black community. I was able to catch you on the Jill Scott podcast tears and joy, relief just to name some of what I was feeling. The sincerity in your voice was everything living in your truth.
Keep up the good work you guys love love your videos always learn something
I’m down for the live sit downs !!!
I have really missed you guys‼️‼️♥️
Happy new month to you guy
I have missed the sit down talks!!
At 26:10…me and my hubby went through the same thing…he was say often, I’m not your child and you’re not my mother so don’t speak to me like that…I had to learn how to say things differently in order for him to even stay in the same room.
Hiii loves. Miss yall. Wish your podcast as on Spotify
I MISSED YALL!! love you guys
Same to me
I love you guys…so glad your back! So proud of your journey individual and as a couple. Next video please tell us about ur experience on Oprah 🙌🏽 we would love to hear…
“What? Foreshadowing what?!” 🤣🤣🤣🤣
LOVE YOU GUYS. BLESSINGS
Missed you too!! 🥰
Love y'all!!
We missed y’all too!
I love u guys❤️❤️❤️❤️
This was everything!! I’m a “new offender” so to speak but now I’m wondering where y’all been all my life lol! Watching this now has me hooked!
Hey twins! Me and mines are the exactly the same! Blunt and sensitive! Y'all hit it right on the head!!
No feedback just LOVE y’all! 👏🏾👏🏾
Mannnnn.....I miss yall!!
Hey what tier on the patron will get the live convo. P.S. the convo in this sit down talk was great.
Noemie you are definitely Haitian my husband getting mad when I fall asleep during movie time too. He says the same thing you said.
We don’t know what it’s gon’ be but I know it’s gonna be great. Yupppppp
I think the 40 weeks is still 9 months accounting for the months that are 5 weeks or the extra 2-3 days a month that aren't counted in the 4 weeks = a month situation. Either way pregnancy is a long time LOL. Also I've stopped myself from saying the repeat offender thing on IG too bc I was like wayment!! LOL
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What happened to the Patreon?
The work stuff, time vs money. 😢
I missed y’all I had to stay off social media for 6 month I made it I’m back with y’all
Kier, Noemie How old are you guys again? I love y’all Sit Down Talk. Both you guys are very mature and Extremely Intelligent for your ages You have not posted in quite a while and I’ve missed y’all. But I know y’all are expecting Little Sidney soon and probably do not have the time to post, So I just wait patiently for a notification
'She's a pitbull crybaby'
She is me, I am her. 🤣 like I like you to tell me the truth raw truth but I forget not everyone can take it and evaluate, they require different delivery ways.
When I'm hearing the truth, I let it hurt for about 2 secs and not let myself chase that hurt, its okay to hurt but for me I hate the time wasitng festering chasing that can breed, so I hear it, acknowledge the sting and take in the rest, then start thinking on what was said and what I can improve on. *you have to learn how you like to hear things about you...*
When really telling the trurh, *I hate sugarcoating*, but being gentle and learning how people HEAR, is what works.
I’m late lol but … They say “9” months because at 36 weeks the baby is safe to deliver but 40 weeks is really considered full term when they ask were you full term? #doula
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Where are you guys?
I think the pandemic altered that realm of work vs time. With more at home careers and careers like day trading becoming more popular. People are making 6 figures by pressing a sell button. I think it’s a very promising future for men and fathers.
Kier said he doesn't believe in, "the one," but he believes in, "the standard,"... No disrespect but it sounds like semantics.
“The one” could be anyone but not just anyone can fit your personal standards. Which is why standards/knowing your worth before picking your s/o is important.
Are you a counsellor?
I’m a repeat offender from way back. I’m already Patreon. I’m down for the live sit downs. I’m following all the things but I’m glad to hear the updates about how you are doing. I love the way you’ve separated Kier, Noemie and the marriage because it it a separate living breathing entity. I’m soooo cheering for y’all and all of your endeavors. Glad maternity leave has commenced.
I'm mad at this title let's talk