Why Moms Are Choosing To Be 'One and Done' | TikTok Compilation
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- čas přidán 26. 02. 2024
- The phrase “one and done” refers to parents who have intentionally (or not) decided that they are having only one child. Moms of TikTok share why they decided to be "one and done" after having a baby.
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I had my first (and only) when I was 38. Easy pregnancy, no issues not even morning sickness. Easy baby too. Didn’t need to put her to sleep just put her in her crib and she was out within 3 mins and slept 12 hours straight. Hardly cried, ate anything I gave her. Rarely even spit up. I still only wanted 1. When she asked about a sibling, I got her a puppy.
No regrets. She’s happy. I’m happy. All is well.
My daughter was an easy baby. Never really cried. She nursed so she did wake up throughout the night every couple hours for the first 9 months or so, but her being easy made me think I would not get that lucky again. lol
She is 13 now and I don’t regret it.
Same! I was pregnant during the pandemic it was amazing because we were quarantined. It was way too easy, had her at 37 no epidural natural delivery, I'm not taking any chances lol
I had my first at 20 and I’m very very tempted to not have any more so I end up with an adult at 40 😂😂 Then I have baby fever and change my mind. 3 max I think.
How about none and done. #childfree
Preach
I love children sm. Team kids over here 🥳
As a one and done for a number of reasons, there is nothing wrong with none and done! it’s the right choice for some and should be respected.
No Marriage and no kids. Nothing worse than people than preaching about how great kids are😂
@@wanjawandia1786good for you. Go have the kids. Don't ask us for help. Bye
Stay Childfree ladies ✌🏾
Yes lawd
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Right. Not like most men help out anyway.
@@ll2323seems y’all just be bad at picking men if they not helping atp
@@wanjawandia1786 not hard when a plethora of men are bad/terrible in relationships.
Women are telling the truth about relationships and motherhood. I love the honesty! ❤
Long overdue!! So many married and had kids when they didnt went either. Theyll never admit it either
Living in denial will soon be a thing if the past
@@1Skorpia I do - I'm very open about that...
„Women were so much happier when they were wives and mothers“ is the biggest bullshit lie m£n ever told.
@@xysarenottheprizemarriage and motherhood is a scam for women
My mom only had me and realized she couldn't handle more.
She really got no joy from being a mother at all and claims I was an easy baby and child.
So, yeah, she made the right decision.
I found joy from being a mother, but still was one and done. My daughter is 13 now. She was a good, easy baby and I chose not to have another baby for a number of reasons, but I didn’t think I would get lucky with an easy baby again.
I know a colicky baby or baby that cries a lot the parents get through it, but still it did cross my mind that I wouldn’t have it easy again.
@@NurseKayP
Yes, as a good friend of mine simply stated, "You do what works for YOU". That goes for everything in life, including the decisions ppl feel are right for their own families.
I love kids and feel blessed that I got to have 2. But, I've never seen an issue for ppl that only want one or none. My own kids don't ever want to be parents and I back them up.
It was very hard on me that I had no siblings but that was due to A Lot of inexcusable mistakes made by my mother and almost all of the adults in my life. So, as depressed and lonely as I was as a child, I'm now glad a second person wouldn't have been subjected to all the anger and mental abuse. I know a lot of children with no siblings are happy. I had a lot of cousins but wasn't always around them but I'm still crazy about them.
what about you are you also thinking of only one just curious
My husband and I have never regretted our decision to only have one. She is getting a 4 year degree fully paid for. We could afford one. That is what we had. If I knew the amount of worry there is as they grow. So many sleepless nights. I've been exhausted for 21 years. People actually tried to convince me that I would be sorry I didn't have a boy. Not sorry!
As a woman who was number 6 of 12 kids I definitely can say it isn’t fair to kids who have multiple siblings as they never get the right amount of love and affection and I and many of my siblings were neglected. I want to be able to provide all a child could ever need but especially in this economy. I’ll probably only have one and at the most 2 lol.
Same!
I think the argument that you should have multiple children because “they’ll need siblings/friends” is not only a bad argument but also just wrong. You can live without siblings, only children can still make friends with others, and you also just shouldn’t e having a second kid for the purpose of giving the first one a friend.
I’m an oldest sibling. My mom outright told me she had my brother so he would be my playmate. Instead he tormented me for years: pulled my hair, pinched me, broke my things. And I got no sympathy. Never have kids for that reason.
@@SkycometFallensame. My mom had my sister so I would have someone to play with and be friends with growing up. We hate each other to this very day and we’re both in our 20s
@@emmacrumley8870good to know. I used to feel guilty sometimes that my daughter wouldn’t have a sibling, but my brother and I fought all the time when we were young. We do get along now. And most of my cousins fought non stop with their siblings.
My daughter is 13 now and has her friends. My cousins and stepsister also had daughters that are all a couple months to a year within my daughter, so she has those family members as well.
Having another child for the wrong reasons is always going to be a bad decision.
I disagree. I have two brothers and while I have friends, my brothers will always be my best friends. We are so close. I think my childhood would’ve been sadder without them.
@@bigmomma3265My childhood would have been sadder without my brother, because I would have had no one to beat up.
My world was fine. The issue was my brother causing destruction and then blaming me. I got in so much trouble for stuff that he done.
Eventually I started blackmailing him when we got in school when his trouble making bled out into school. Teachers thought I was the angel and would give me notes to give to my parents what he did. I had all the power at my fingertips and told him everything he would be doing for me and if not, he got reported.
Once we got into our teens our parents FINALLY saw it was him causing all the issues. He started buying porn previews or whatever they were called. He didn't think about it being charged to the invoice and when it was brought up, he actually blamed me.
I did not. Not ever. Buy porn. I did buy porn once I hit 25, but not when I was a teen.
Being Childfree is everything to me 😂
Im a 1 and done mom. My daughter is 16, i was able to give her all my love and energy when i was young. She had a beautiful childhood, and we still talked about how happy we were. Im so glad i never had another. Our life is more of ease because its just us. I ❤ it.
God forbid, what if she dies before you?
@norviliaetienne222 You realize people die every day, right? Whole families at the same time. So what's your point? and you sound incredibly ignorant.
@norviliaetienne222 You probably don't have kids and if you do, your miserable and want others to be miserable just like you.
@@norviliaetienne222You need to go to church more or something for being so fearful.
I was sitting in the back room of my house when I heard the whine of an engine. Thene there was a loud crack, followed by a BOOM and the power went out. I look through the blinds to see a mushsroom cloud of smoke over the trees. A driver lost control and went through a power pole.
Thing is, if he had turned in the opposite direction, he would have been in the room I was sitting in. I was reading a book.
You're supposed to live your life like you'll die tomorrow.
@@norviliaetienne222what a weird cynical thing to even say. What even possesses a person like you to even say that in the first place? I swear, yall wish for the worst to happen whenever someone talks about their lovely life. 😭😐
You know what? None and than is fine, too.
For YOU. I can’t relate.
k@@potato1084
.... Why TF are you here then
I am an only child. Had plenty of friends in daycare/kindergarten, near our apartment building, in the village where our summer house is situated, and in music school. Don't believe lies about all only children being lonely. They are lonely if their parents fail to find a social circle for them
Just say you’re rich 😂 Summer house??
As an only child who also had plenty of friends, your experience isn't the experience of others. I had wonderful friends growing up, some my age, some not but we grew up together and I've always felt alone. Not lonely, just alone because I was an only child when literally everyone I knew had siblings. And the only time I didn't feel that way was during the time my younger cousin lived with us.
Now, I'm not saying parents should have more kids. The less, the better, imo. And you should definitely not have a second (or third or fourth) child just so that your first child doesn't get lonely. Among other problems, it can turn into the parentification of older children so fast. But let's not pretend that no only child has ever felt alone. Not to say siblings are the cure to every child's loneliness but that for people who wanted a sibling, a sibling would've probably made them feel a lot less lonely/alone.
So your parents have to find other people's children outside of your extended family network for you to "socialize". that is the definition of lonely. This doesn't sound healthy at all. As a mother of a continually growing family I tend to shy away from mothers of only one child the more I have them. They are not mentally healthy nor do they have mothering skills and tend to not want to learn them. The fact that they are depending on me making my children vulnerable to their needs says everything. I would hate if daycare and public programs were my only entry into society. Sounds bleak and superficial
I have 10 (technically 11) siblings and I still had lonely times lol
@louis-vd3ur not really it's literally how it works. As adults we have to go out in the world to make friends and find social networks.
As a mom of 3, I fully understand. The only peace I had is when they went to bed. I lived for bedtime!!!! It’s hard! It never stops no matter how tired, or sick and frustrated & overwhelmed you are. I had 3 kids as a stay at home mom by the time I was 21. We moved 10 hours away from my family and I was home with 3 kids for all of my 20s, my entire youth.
Wow, that sounds intense. I had one and done and I always think about if I would have kept the other. Especially since the father barely helps. Very glad I didn't do it. But kuddos that you were able to be supported.
You killed your child? Why? What if the one you do have dies too? Then what? That is so sad, you have no idea why God sent you that child, perhaps they would’ve been a pillar for you in a later challenge in life. Trust that God will care for you if he sends you a child, you will have to answer for the killing of your child, and that child will be on your judgment roster…. I do not wish to be in your shoes
@norviliaetienne222 I feel so sorry for you that your life is so miserable. You probably cry often because your life is so empty.
@@shawnlove4502um actually no they sound like you since you posting you still think about the child.
Why didn’t you tie your tubes or hysterectomy instead of abort if you didn’t want another one?
My sister has an abortion 20 years ago and has been bat shyt crazy af since.
A lot of women don’t talk about the psychological aftermath of aborting - not everyone can do that and just keep it moving.
@@gagoomt4076This is why I decided to keep my baby I had at 20. I knew myself and knew I wouldn’t cope with it. I’m still incredibly pro-choice but people need to think hard before making a decision like that.
My friend is an only child and she did got spoiled as a child but turned into a kind, generous, slightly shy woman who likes to give gifts to her friends.
Oldest sibling here. Never have a second kid so they will “play together and keep each other company.” Take it from me, they’ll just end up hating each other as kids
Speak for yourself. I love my siblings
It heavily depends on how each individual child feels and their age gaps. If you have a jealous child they won’t handle it well at all. I wasn’t jealous as a child and loved my brother and we had a 4.5 year age gap. My baby loves other babies and isn’t jealous or overly clingy so I think she’ll handle a sibling (in the far future) well. I feel like parents need to involve their child in decisions like this. I’m a young mummy though so I can afford to be flexible with sibling gaps. Many can’t.
Same
30 yrs we still don't like each other
Not really my brother is my best friend. But it really just depends on the family structure and the individual. There is no garuantee that siblings will get along or hate each other.
Sis is running off of tears! Bless her heart.😢
_None_ and Done.
Same
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Yup❤😂
Yes siree ❤
.... Why the TF are y'all here then ... Y'all some weirdo
I feel this. My husband and I had one in our twenties and our family is complete 😂 you can love an experience and not wish to repeat it
I'm a mom to one daughter. She is 27 now and doesn't want children of her own, and I completely support her choice. I was young when she was born, and she had serious health complications, which were extremely challenging for me as a young, single mom. When I remarried, there was so much pressure, especially from the people I love, to have more, but that was my decision and I wasn't changing it. I had a TL at 30, and I never regretted it. Having one child, or no children, is the best choice for so many women, and I hope society learns to respect their choice and stop pressuring them to have babies they don't want.
What’s a TL
One and done, not by choice, so thank you to the lady who mentioned us. I really get tired of people asking me when we are having another…there won’t be one because my body can’t have another baby. If somehow I get pregnant, great, but I’ve accepted being one and done.
I am 46, and I have NONE and I don't regret my choice for one minute! My husband and I have been together 16 years and we say every day that we are SO glad we don't have kids. When I was 20, I was a nanny with two kids in diapers-one was 18 months, and one was 6 months. That was THE best birth control ever! It is hard, and not for everyone. BTW, I am an only child and wasn't lonely growing up-I was creative, empathetic, and confident. It's all how you raise them!
You know children bon’t remain children forever right? They don’t stay in diapers, they grow up and become adults, and if you play your cards right, they become friends when they’re adults… plus you get grand babies!! You’ve ended your genetic line, sad
@@norviliaetienne222 Why do you go get a life and get out of everyone else's life?😂🤔 Why do you go play with your kids or imaginary ones and get off the internet.
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@@norviliaetienne222'play your cards right?' insanity.
Why is it we put more thought into financial planning, buying a home, getting a medical procedure?
It's always someone telling a woman to "play her cards right" when it comes to children.
@@oliviaobiajaYeah, the best card ever is the single-and-childfree card...😊
Im happily team one and done and find peace with my family of 3. ❤
I'm a one and done, and I've never regretted it. I had a dangerous pregnancy and delivery, and both prenatal and postpartum depression. Back then (early 2000s), people still didn't believe in postpartum or prenatal depression, and I spent my son's first year and a half or so unable to enjoy it like I should have, because I was a constant ball of anxiety, panic, and sadness. My son is a happy, healthy adult now, and I couldn't be prouder of him. 🥰
As someone who has really bad pmdd , screwed up my hormones treating with bc, and also battle depression on and off, I want to avoid the emotional whiplash that comes with pregnancy at all costs.
Omg same here. My uterus is enough trouble on its own. there is no need to add pregnancy and childbirth to the mix!
I only felt sane and mentally stable while pregnant 😅
Zero and done here 😂
Yes one and done. I’m an only child myself and people talk about only children negatively, but most of what they say is ridiculous. I had my tubes tied two years after after the birth of my child.
I had my one and only child when I was 19. I am now 40 and he just turned 21. I have a sister and couldn't imagine my life without her. That often made me feel bad that I never gave my child siblings, but I just didn't want any more children. My sons father gave him 6 younger siblings and he loves being an older brother, but he told me he does not want kids, and I told him that's okay! I don't really want grand children. I mean I will offer support if he needs me, but im not watching no babies. Some ppl were meant to be a parent, im just not that person.
I am 54 and grateful I was allowed to remain childfree.
I think it’s really great that parents are realizing how important it is to give time, attention, and affection to their baby! Being able to provide for your child is a wonderful feeling. Especially with the economy the way it is I can see having one child becoming the norm. I think the future is bright with the parents of today making sure their child is growing happily and healthily emotionally, mentally, and physically. These moms are doing awesome!
It kills me that pregnancy is literal torture for some women (some/most who really wanted to be moms, I'm Not discounting that part) and then there's the potential for them to have horrific second pregnancies or just even further complicated second pregnancy AND THEN some a-hole or a-holes are like "why not more?" @ the askers, please send yourself to the farm before you just get sent regardless.
True but I feel the most sane and stable while pregnant. It’s weird.
@@potato1084 that's super cool for specifically you.
You don’t even understand that it’s not supposed to be torture. And the ones who get you pregnant and claim your children as theirs is the cause if that torture. This world is so warped and fked up and upside down you ding even know the half of if.
@potato1084
That’s YOU. Medically that’s not the reality for everyone.
"I have sisters"...is all I needed to hear.
Reasons I'm one and done:
1. I'm tired
2. I'm tired
3. I'm tired
4. I'm a clean freak.
5. I raised my siblings.
6. I want to do things while I'm still young.
this this THISSS!!!!!
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I think what people should consider is before deciding how about trying out babysitting for a close friend or family member FOR FREE? Take on the responsibility of 1 or 2 of the kids for a week. Take the kids on like your own for the full experience. It's a win win. You get the experience of seeing what it would be like to care for a child or children before embarking on the journey. And the parents get a full week off to do whatever they want Im sure they would appreciate it.
I find it quite rude and just an overstep of boundaries when people try to convinced one and done parents to have more children as if it’s their business. Like you never know what’s those parents went through with that child or if the parent even wanted that child in the first place. Having children is a lot and it’s important for the parent to know what they can and can’t handle.
Exactly
Are they going to pay for the child????? They need to be silent.
It’s rude but when you turn around and ask them to mind their business then your the rude one 😅
Mom number 2 is so beautiful but her list nearly made me cry. She went through a lot and is going through a lot too. 💖
I had my only at 26. Now she’s 29 and I don’t regret not having more.
One and Done mom here! I co sign all these moms. My son is 11 and I feel like I can actually enjoy motherhood with just one. I also get to invest and focus on making him the best human possible.
I’m also one and done. My baby will be 12 this year. I’m not starting over. PERIOD.
Always said one and done then lost my mind and had my second I told my husband in no uncertain terms that I wouldn't survive another one
It takes an invisible village to raise a kid. None and done club forever!! I had a sibling and was lonely and bullied by said sibling, so not all siblings are your friends. The worsrt reason to have multiple choldren.
As an only child who had the happiest of childhoods I support you!
Also, the world would be much improved if only people who want a child had a child.
I’m none and done 😂
The fact that we need to explain ourselves for making personal decision....
1 and done mom! Had my son at 23, hated pregnancy and post partum. My son is 15 now..well adjusted and just fine! I couldn’t imagine having a 2nd and trying to juggle work, home and everything else. We’re content and happy with our 1.
Ya but tell ur husband to take care of ur child too. Most of mom's are stupid because they think its their sole responsibility to look after kids..
@sreyanandhini3944 that doesn't make a woman stupid. Alot of woman are indoctrinated into that thinking. Why insult someone when you can just have a simple discussion about it. Especially if they are brainwashed into thinking that's their responsibility.
I had one, he’s almost 22 and I only have the regret of having a child at all
No no, don’t get me wrong; he’s a great person, was an easy baby… I love him like crazy but it changed me as a person and not for the better. I’m WAY too anxious/high achieving (and pushed that on him, so he has anxiety because of me which is exactly what I wanted for my kid ffs), I still worry excessively about him and frankly he’s mad I had him at all (society, climate change, politics, etc. He’s said he wishes I hadn’t had him, I “did him dirty” bringing him into this shite world and he’s not wrong 😢)
Pregnancy also changed my hormones, caused several autoimmune diseases (me not him), etc. The toll on my body was not worth it
You can’t worry about or miss what you never had… so I HIGHLY recommend #noneAndDone
Save yourselves ladies. The kids you don’t have won’t know you didn’t have them anyway, so no worries 😌
I could have written this myself. Nearly identical story. Including an autoimmune condition. I have felt this way as well. My son just turned 23. Thank you for posting this. I thought I was the only one who felt this way.
Thank you for sharing ♡
I think you need a therapist. There’s nothing wrong with being one and done but not for these reasons. It’s heavily depressing.
@@potato1084 that this is so common that doctors are studying the correlation between pregnancy and auto immune disease in women isn’t a good enough reason? 🤦🏾♀️
How bout NO KIDS😂 no marriage either.
That's the smartest and safest thing to do, as we all can see. Let's be honest, everyone.💯💯💯 Fr. I agree.
I am a only child and I was never lonely, if I wanted to play with someone I could call a friend to come over, vs my best friend that was 1 of 5 kids, all they did was fight with each other and blame each other for doing something bad.
One-and -done. I HATED being pregnant. Hated it. Not that I had pain or was unduly sick. Pregnancy does not feel natural to me. Then there's the ridiculous, horrible, insane labor. Delivery is bizarre and disgusting, and, really, was this the best God could come up with? Ohh, and let's not forget the episiotomy, the gift that kept on giving for weeks of not being able to just plop down and sit, like a carefree normal human being. But let's not forget the kid, who except for a total of 20 minutes the first year of life, never slept. So, hats off to all the women who have been pregnant every year for a straight 15-20 years of their life, because they'd have to freaking lobotomize me and install an "anywhere-but-here" chip in my brain for me to be able to endure that.
Bless!!! We started with a few toys and somehow we now have 2 toy boxes full plus shelves and baskets. I can't. She plays with ALLLLL of them! She has set up a farm and salon and kitchen and garden. Plus her fairy and princess wardrobe. She has a very rich imaginative play life. So many toys.
I read an article some years back that said for every child a woman has she loses 10% of her productivity. I believe this because i am 1 of 6 and when it was just me and my older brother we got everything. Lessons, gifts, whatever we wanted. As each child kept coming it became less and less enriching and sustainable for us. So by 6 my mom was down 60% in productivity. She was over it at that point and nothing was getting done in the house. I ended up having to take the brunt of the work as the first daughter. I have no kids now and never have wanted them now because of my experience.
Older siblings don't become good friends with our siblings we just because younger parents and have to take care of them as well 24/7 i would get so secred my brother died in sleep i would wake up at 3 am to make sure he was still breathing i Love him but having to take care of him all the time exhausted me
The thing about a village and child raising.. that's true.
If a woman have a close knit family where she can sometimes leave her child with her parents or siblings, child rearing woukd be a lot less heavy on a mother. But if she's mostly alone and the family dynamics is not like that. You're on your own.
So so true. I live with my MIL who cares for my baby while I’m out. She also helps when I want to go to university. That 8-ish hours a week has kept me sane and able to be a better parent honestly. Yeah we’re kinda poor but I value this more.
that was 16 minutes of validation I needed very much thank you
One and done of course !!!!👌 choose what is best for you always ❤
It’s just so expensive to have even one. The people who keep asking when are you having another one are insane.
I have one and I’m extremely happy with my choice. My daughter is thriving and she is a very happy active girl. Our week is packed with sport activities about school. I can’t imaging having this much time and dedication for another child. No thank you!
Im not one and done.but i completely understand it. It has been so much harder than i anticipated, but i know someone is missing in my family, but you bet im not looking forward to the exhaustion.
As someone that wants lots of children in the future. I respect these women for knowing what they can and can’t/ would and won’t handle. Children are a very BIG responsibility. I also applause the childfree woman as well, because children are not for everyone.
The Taco Bell story has absolutely made my year!L 😅😅
I’m 7 1/2 years in and the constant worrying has not subsided yet. I think it’s a little worse tbh
All of the moms are so pretty. Babies/children are adorable but take all your time and love. 💖
I'm definite team one and done! My son is on the spectrum and I'm raising him alone with no support from anyone (ok, just a handful of good friends and family lol). This is the hardest thing I've ever done in my life! A non-verbal special needs toddler ain't for the faint hearted. The possibility of having another autistic child is terrifying, plus I'm 40 now, so not trying to fertilise old eggs. 😂😂😂😂
I'm a mom of 7. My first were a set of twins. My youngest is a singleton younger than her siblings by 6 and half years. Taking care of one child as a toddler is so much harder than taking care of multiple toddlers because they all play together and entertain each other. If I had a singleton the first time I might have stopped too.
This! I am #4 out of a crew of 8 (eldest daughter) I am also one and done. My mom and I have this debate often. She thinks it’s easier with one and I disagree! The kids create their own community within the home. Parents are more or less the financial support and guidance. With one child you are literally everything all of the time until they are middle/high school age…. I think
I had to teach my son to ask, "am I not enough?" when people started trying to use him to get more kids from me despite me being a single parent from the beginning.
Apparently my asking, "why do you want me to die?" wasn't enough. My son almost killed me. Another baby would have left my son parentless.
I'm one and done. Before I had my son, I was perfectly happy to be childfree. The maternal instinct only kicked in when I was around animals. When I had my son, a lot was on my shoulders and my partner barely helped. That was not what I thought I had signed up for. All in all, my son is an angel and I don't think I need to have another. I got it right the first time.
Yup. One and DONE! shit is hard and I want to take care of myself.
One child, one husband and three cats!!! The cats are the easiest by far!!
I always go back in forth about have a second child. I always wanted my son (3 years old) to experience what I had growing up and even now with my siblings, they’re literally my best friends. BUT there are times I just can’t see myself going through everything I went through during delivery and postpartum. I get baby fever all the time, but constantly remember the mistreatment from doctors and malpractice. It’s not about finances or not wanting another but simply my health in all aspects.
I’m a one and done parent/ second parent to a sibling. Both have been different from each other they both see me as the parent. I also raise them the same way and differently . But one thing that is important is to always apologize for your actions and words.
I had one and I knew I only wanted one until I relocated and had another one 😢 my mental state has been in shambles ever since .
What is that one lady going on about "you don't have to have pain and discomfort during pregnancy or poatpartum"...?? Yes there are certain conditions that can be treated and improved upon, but acting like women have complete control in what experience they have during pregnancy, labor and delivery, and postpartum is just insane. People say the most outrageously delulu shit with such confidence.
I’m one & done for all the reasons women choose to be child free.
The video about the labour incident, a message to all women out. There who are embarrassed of that , as labour and delivery nurses, midwives, we don't care it happens too often, its our job to take care of it and we , definitely wount judge you about it , what matters is you be as cooperative as possible during your birth , so we can deliver your baby safely and make sure. Both of you end up happy and healthy after that hard experience ❤ , much love to all the mothers out there giving birth naturally or via C-section ❤ ,from a midwife
On one hand, as a single child, I pity the children who will grow up feeling alone like I did. I had friends to play with, I still felt alone. Especially as I saw them with their siblings. I had a younger cousin who lived with us for a while. That was the only time I didn't desperately wish I wasn't an only child. I'm 21 years old now. I still am so envious of the people (friends and classmates) who have a sibling; younger or older. Hell, I'm jealous of my cousins because there are just three of us in total (from my dad's and mom's side) who is an only child. Sure, not all children will feel this way but I guarantee that it'll at least be a few.
On the other though, I'm glad that people aren't reproducing like they're bunnies. And that they'll be able to give proper care, love and attention to that child (exceptions for shitty parents who don't care about their child). Because I was an only child, I did get all the love and attention they could give me for me. I have never had to face scarcity. I was raised like a princess.
Honestly, childfree is the best choice in this dilemma. I can't expect mothers to go through the process of pregnancy, childbirth and/or raising a child (if they're adopting) if they don't want to. I also don't like the idea of a child feeling like I did (and do). So, if you don't have a child, you don't risk disappointing a poor child. I know not everyone agrees with this opinion. And honestly, I don't care either.
As someone who had horrible morning sickness/ hyperemesis, extreme discomfort, a traumatic labor and delivery, postpartum preeclampsia, and postpartum anxiety- i have to be one and done. For myself and for my baby.
My daughter was born in 1992 and I was a single parent. My plan was to have more children if I married. I never got married but I don’t regret my decision even though people kept asking when I would have another baby. People being invested in the decisions of others is just so weird to me.
I have 2 and two will do! I love love love being a Mom. My 19 month old still wakes up once a night.
I have one, will only ever have just the one. Painful Braxton hicks, and the beginning of my cardiac issue journey started month 3 or 4. Anxiety and ppd were right up in there, and within 4 months i was in the e.r. with cardiac issues and died... twice.
I am one and done. Why is it that people LOVE to tell you to have more kids, when none of them are going to take care of them 24/7?? More power to the one and done and childfree ladies out there.
I respect you all choices I understand.
Omg 😆 shit sounds like nightmare im cool
One and done is better none. Rather have 1 child than none.
My triplet sister (me 1, her 2, 3rd is too smart to be that mean) was **is** my biggest bully. To the point where I didn’t know I was being bullied @ school, the mean one noticed. I didn’t because it wasn’t anything close to what I got from the “aggressive” #2 DAILY. She was upset by their actions, didn’t stop her though.
Yea 1 and done for me too. It's sooooo much work. Not just physically but mentally. My kid comes before anyone l, including myself My son is 19 months now, and I just started making room for myself again. I got my body snatched back after months of hard work and exercise. Me and my sons fa5her struggled financially for a while and are not just getting back on our feet. We fought verbally, physically. Our relationship has been through alot. No way I'm having another one. If my son wants a brother, he can get a puppy.b
If you want 0, if you want 1, if you want 5, it's literally morally neutral. We need to stop asking ppl about kids, about fertility, about pregnancy, etc.
I'm in my 50s and I only had one. The birth was easy but I was sick every week except for about three weeks in the fifth month. Yes, one is enough and I really enjoyed watching them grow. Could I have done it again? No.
My daughter is a teenager and people still ask me why don't I add another child. Nope and a big nope. I have gone through postpartum period since I had her when I was 19 and it ain't easy
It is no concern of anybody's if you do not want more than one child.
Just one for me 😅 my everything. But her dad was older than me with better resources and still “not ready”. He’s a great dad and man. But no one teaches them how to support moms..bc it’s natuuural for us. Friends with his family and new wife’s family, all good vibes and still no. I have married friends that are pretty much single and it’s all an expected life occurrence for us to endure.. yea no. And yea, the world sux and it’s taking all my energy to set her up successfully. Got another job, she’s in private school and thriving and I still have my body from my teens.. don’t feel like testing fate. Gonna finish doing a great job with this one and then live on a cruise ship while answering all of her endless calls bc I call my mom constantly and I love that she has time for me.. still.. at 36 bc it never ends 😅 also, almost died dealing with American drs with no support after while the govt keeps pushing for … what are we callled now? Birthers 😅im good 💅
My MIL really helps me out as a young mother. My husband is excellent but men need the clear instructions in order to help out. After my first I changed my mind about having 4 and want 3 instead. 😅
I wanted 8 kids. After my first I realized how much more work I would have to do if I had more than 1. So one and done plus no one really tells you about PPD and how it actually feels they make it seem like it’s normal and nothing nope . Never again thank you . I live my child so much and will give her the world and she’ll have all my attention . Plus k was an older sister so I kinda feel like I already have more than 1 kid.
❤ 38 yr old single mama here with one child who recently expressed that he feels lonely beimg an only child. He lite up when i asked if he wanted a dog. I think i found the answer!! He just wants a companion to play with at home ( besides me ) 💜 Pet store here we come!
I'm 36 and will only ever be a Dog Mom 🐾❤️ My parents weren't present and I feel too much resentment towards them to have my own kids.
One and done is wonderful 😊
proudly one and done...
People would always ask me when I was having another and I would be like I’m one and done but here I am 10 years later having number 2….I have a set now girl and a boy now I’m done done 😅😅
My doctor asked me about after birth control care I told her naw I’ll just see you in another 10 years she was ahhh no ma’am😂😂😂
I was team one and done with my son for 19 years…. Then had my daughter🥹😂😂. Don’t be like me ladies🥹😂..
Two and threw, but i dont want to normalise it, people should be free to do as they please, i love big families though its not for me.
Unless your family is around to help and really are hands on about taking care of the child they have no right to encourage more.
My husband and I both come from 3+ kids families and we're one and done! Our daughter was so good that we were not willing to roll the dice that the 2nd one wouldn't be the antichrist!! She loved being an only child :D
I am one and done stay at home mom. I am finishing my degree while at home and I removed my tubes.😂😂😂. Won't be experiencing pregnancy and babyhood. My daughter is 3. Can't wait until she is school age. Nope. Nope nope. This is one time experience. If you truly want one and had one close your shop immediately
Same. Mine is ten and I have no regrets. She is well taken care of but I just can’t do it again. Blessing to you and your lil one.
In this economy 1 baby is 2 lol
I agree I said I was one and done and everyone just keeps telling me the exact same thing . I’m pretty sure I’m pregnant with baby 2 rn which if I am was not planned at all . I’m terrified .