Shifter Let's Talk Marriage
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- čas přidán 26. 09. 2022
- I got Starlink and needed to do a test. And my wife and I had a hilarious situation in the middle of the night and I thought it would make for good fodder. Marriage is unfair to most people, at least in my opinion. A modern invention really. But if you are there or are thinking of going there, well, then maybe some of this will help.
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Amen! Thanks for posting this, I am one of those who got remarried, fortunately love plays big role here.
Good on ya!
I’m 40 years old, married from 15 years, and 5 of relationship before…I would do it again everything. The best thing happened in my life my wife.
Me too.
We've also been married 27+ years, and it's all true. I even tell people, "If you don't want my wife to know about something, don't tell me." A few people I know were a bit shocked that I shared everything with her. LOL...I couldn't think of a reason I wouldn't. 😃
Oh ya. That level of acceptance is where things get good. It's like she is a safe haven.
LMAO!!! Spot on! It’s SO refreshing to hear the truth that…IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU!. Unfortunately this is a counter cultural message nowadays. You could’ve have ended with point number 1. It was grilled into me by my father that the world does not revolve around me.
If you only knew the crazy from this morning alone.
Ha ha, great stuff in here, definitely relate to many of those comments! I just watched your "Dear Future President" film too, which was excellent... came here for photography, but get social and political therapy/commentary thrown-in for free... nice work, Dan!
Ya, I can't just talk about photography. It's just not that compelling anymore.
Brilliant and spot on! 43 years here and counting!
That's commendable.
Absolutely, the best marriage guidance ever. Fact. Thank you.
Ha. I make plenty of stupid moves.
Had to revisit this. Good points.
We all need a refresh from time to time.
I thought I was the only perfect man on earth whose wife snores and cannot switch lights off or lock the front door.
You are not alone.
18 years of marriage the most important thing I've learned is just be the bigger person and just let the argument go and walk away. This alone I think has kept the marriage strong with two stubborn people.
And you know when you both share how great your poop experience is for that day you couldn't be closer to share your life.
Poop is great equalizer.
you are an inspiration
Man, you are something!.... very, very good indeed Dan!
Excellent video and spot on points.
this is so fantastic. like some deep buddhist wisdom here. book-marked for rewatch often. you're my hero, Milnor.
I'm just a guy grinding it out. And I make a ton of mistakes that hopefully you can avoid.
Good advice Dan! You're so good at notes on marriage, on photography, in Q&A's. Don't wanna miss it.
My wife my beg to differ.
Point 6. You are precisely describing my partner and I
Great fun this one! And your latest dispatch with Sarah Leen is encapsulating! Thanks for that one Dan, probably my favourite so far! Lori’s was also great!
Sarah is a gem. And thank you!
I'd love to take you out for a beer and tell you my story.
My wife of 22 years gave my son and I an ultimatum: move 1500 km away to be with me (to basically no where) but I'm going anyway. The problem is my son and I have our lives here. So did she, longer infact. He's going to University where we are. He's only 19 and I know people say well he's practically an adult. Have you ever been around teenagers in this day and age? Reality is a 19-year-old is about as independent as a 15 year old, generally speaking. So the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life was the let her go because I had to do right by the child I brought into this world. This whole ordeal is 4 months old and I am still devastated. I'm in shocked that 22 years has ended, that's almost half my life.
So our little family three is now a family of two. There is discord between my son and my wife. He feels abandoned and betrayed. She feels confused why he's angry. It's a mess. Do I regret getting married no. What I do it all over again? Yes.
Oh man, that is tough, tough, tough. Sorry to hear that. I'm not sure what the solution is other than potential reconnection at a later date. I can only imagine the size of the hole that would leave. I'm sure therapy would help. Best of luck and hope you find a morsel of positive to carry you through.
@@DANIELMILNOR505 one day at a time my friend.
You're a wise man Milnor, wise man.
For point #3 blunt challenge be willing to tell your spouse they are wrong, it is best to also pray that you are right.
Also hypothetically your wife is an angel.
OH ya, this is where things get spicy.
Your going to get in trouble Milnor! She's going to see this!
Hypothetically.
She will. I'm already in trouble.
Never a truer thing said Dan.
Perfect !!
I think you could talk about anything and make it sound great maaaan!… Excellent advice. My wife died nearly 10 years ago. We were married for 17 years... It was really fleeting! Good times though!
Oh man, so sorry to hear. That has to be so rough.
@@DANIELMILNOR505 Yep! makes you look at life differently.
Important, better than a test marriage.
after 13 tours in Afmarriagestan I have no hesitation in taking advice from a fellow vet that can quote from Mad Max...👊...
Oh man, I love that Afmarriagestan. I'm stealing that.
Ha ha nicely said. 31 years for us...
That's commendable. And you resilient! And you must be pretty cool too.
I was wrong, I thought this was a photography channel. I’m only subscribed as I wait for Beaumont texas stories and near death in Brazil stories. Dan knows I’m an A hole, this is my tribe.
Beaumont. holy christ. My mouth is watering and not in a good way.
Nailed it
Well, that's timely. Just got married a month ago after 7 years of being together. Can relate so much to that extrovert/introvert dynamic.
Would you mind elaborating a bit on the 8th question? How are they partner exactly in that deep focus state of ours?
Thanks again for the time you out into these.
They are our shadow no matter how deep we go because at some point you will emerge from the depths and they will be sitting right there. Partner whether you like it or not.
and congrats!
Thanks! Much appreciated
Hi Dan how true your analysis of marriage is, great video. I’m afraid I’m going to be sexist but women never forget when you hurt their feelings or perhaps they like to make us suffer some more. I think they call this the battle of the sexes, who knows?
Oh ya, she can hold a grudge but rarely does. I found a keeper. She puts up with me, so that says a lot. I did, however, just take care of a mouse for her.
Was finally thinking of getting married but I suppose she had different ideas, I guess better after 4 years and not 40.
Yep, sometimes that is the best thing.
Sounds familiar.
Sometime in the not too distant future, when I’m having that catheter inserted, I’ll stop a while and think of you. Thanks. By the way, women don’t snore, hypothetically.
I've had that catheter before. Never good. Never fun. And taking it out is always just as bad. Not hypothetically.
Yikes, gotta hurt.
On an aside I was wondering what sort of big pharma would think of ways to inflict such pain. However, it seems that these things have been around since as far back as as 3000BC. Moreover, one of your Founding Fathers, Benjamin Franklin fashioned a silver flexible one in 1752 for his ailing brother!. To wit he wrote “It is as flexible as would be expected in a thing of the kind, and I imagine will readily comply with the turns of the passage”. Well, there you go:)
Like is not enough. Very good points. I know a woman or two who would benefit from watching this, but I'd end up a-hole :D
you are and always will be. Welcome to the club.
Dan, did you drive over the Starlink machine?
Not yet but I imagine I will. Just put in on the roof....
@@DANIELMILNOR505 Why is it on the roof? Is it like a satellite dish?
Great Aussie accent.
Aaaaadeen years Garry. Aaaaaadeen.
Funny I just got married yesterday 😂😂😂
Well done lad!
@@DANIELMILNOR505 hahahahahahah 😂😂😂
Well, if you go missing, we’ll know what happened
look for the shallow burial ground.
Happy wife, happy life!
oh no, the "m" word.
There it is...
Marriage is a religious institution which I don't need. I've been in an awesome relationship for 17 years, and her mother was in a fabulous relationship for 38 years before having to get married for estate / tax purposes. A ring is a meaningless symbol - it's what you do everyday to never take the love of your life for granted.
My ring is a garden hose washer. Marriage is often for others. Religion, family, tradition, but it really is what you make of it.