Before You Pray For A Deaf Person, Watch This
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- čas přidán 26. 08. 2024
- As the video title says, before you pray for a Deaf person, please watch this. In the video, we discuss one of the issues that many Deaf people have had with hearing people, specifically some hearing Christians who are too quick to pray for them without knowing or understanding Deaf culture- instead of being quick to pray for a Deaf person, we shared what is the best way to respond instead.
Also, I want to clarify one thing in the video… when I said, “If anything, I feel… that they should share about God and His love for them”… I want to clarify what I meant… that obviously the first thing you should do for a Deaf person is NOT to pray for them. Instead, do as you would with any other hearing person… say hi, introduce yourself, get to know them, etc. and then when an opportunity comes up, that you feel led to share about God, then that’s fine but just not the first thing you do is pray for them or share about God… that often will just push Deaf people away… because of their past experiences. Anyways, just wanted to clarify what I meant.
I hope you guys enjoyed this video! Keep an eye out for more new videos coming soon!! :) Be sure to subscribe if you haven’t yet. Also, I teach a sign or two everyday on @signedwithheart, so if you’re on Instagram too, be sure to follow Signed With Heart there too. :)
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I love my deaf Girlfriend 💕 im learning sign language so i can say my wedding vows in ASL. - i love you baby 💕
Good for you. I'm hearing and my boyfriend Joel is totally Deaf and has Asperger's Syndrome. I already knew how to sign before we met on Facebook. Keep practicing, dude. The more you practice, the more your signing will improve.
Lol nco so sweet. 😊
A real man. God bless
My daughter is deaf she’s 9 months , and I’ve been going through this where people from church will try to “fix” her
I’m proud of my baby girl and if Jesus sent her to me like that , I’m more then happy .
I agree people need to be more sensitive when it comes to this
Thanks for posting this
I thought I was wrong for thinking this way .
Thank you ❤️
Thank you so much for this video. I am deaf and recently I was blessed to receive a wheelchair after five years of steadily losing my ability to walk (severe joint degeneration and dislocations) and the first thing my in-laws and church family said when they saw me in it was that they would pray that I would be healed and could give it away. But for me the chair is an end to being house bound, leaning on people or a cane, being unable to go to the park or the beach. It hurt that they viewed something that was such a blessing to me as being something I should want to get rid of.
I have a disability and I’ve never thought of my accommodations that way. My disability is relatively new so I feel ashamed of my accommodations sometimes. Thank you for sharing your viewpoint, I’m going to adopt it!
I love it when she uses her voice. Her father is beyond awesome. Just made my day ❤️
Me, too.
Wow, how beautiful. "We need to be sensitive to the holy spirit," absolutely! Thank you for sharing your experience and for bringing your dad in on this video!
I love the way your Dad signs “Jesus” because it is so natural that it is clear that he signs His name a lot...beautiful!
I do, too. He's amazing at it. He sounds like a Sunday school teacher or preacher. Good going, Dad
I love your dad’s passion for the word of God, it was too cute when he stood up to preach it! Thank you for continuing to educate the hearing community on deaf culture. I’ve been blessed to have a sister who majored in deaf studies at CSUN and taught me a lot about the deaf culture. So many times we hearing people don’t realize how rude or offensive we are being when interacting with someone who is deaf. Thank you for this video! P.S. I love your IG page!!
I’m a hearing person who’s planning to take a course on asl language, and I really like to watch your videos, not only to get a feel and a basic understanding of asl, but also because of things like this where I get to see a point of view that I wouldn’t have before
good luck!
Thank you so much for sharing this to help give other hearing people our insight of this situation!
One thing I would say when a hearing person finds out that I’m Deaf. He/she would come up to me and ask if they’d pray for me. I’d explain that I don’t need a prayer for my ears to be healed. My heart is already saved by the love of Jesus Christ. However, I use this as an advantage to share that many Deaf people doesn’t know Jesus in their heart language. Then, ask the hearing person if WE can pray TOGETHER for other Deaf people to get to know Jesus and for their hearts (not ears) to be healed through Him.
Wow. That’s awesome. I love when people take unexpected situations and turn them into a situation to show people the need for the Gospel in their lives and the lives of others.
Yesss. Love this!
Love it when you openly share things about your Christian faith, as well as when you feature your family interacting with you in your videos
ditto
My goodness I love your dad. He seems so kind. We need more people like him in this world. 🙏🏼 Great video!
This is wonderful! I've been learning about deaf culture for a couple of years now and I never would've thought to lay my hands on someone but I realized there are people like that. But I love how your dad explains it that we should be led by the Holy Spirit. Really in all things we do. We'd probably keep ourselves out of a lot of awkward situations if we would! Lol
God bless!
I’m so glad you made this video. This absolutely needed to be said. I’m guilty of praying for people, from a distance, that God would change their situation. But now that you’ve made this video, I will pray that person has their needs met. I’ve been watching the asl interpreter at my church! I would love to learn asl well enough to interpret!
That must feel so awkward and condescending. Your experiences as a person who is deaf are valuable! Your community and culture are valuable! You are needed in the world. It wouldn’t make sense to pray for a person to stop being part of any other culture, so why would anyone think it’s appropriate for you?
Here's an atheist saying hurray.
Ask people what they want, right :)
Dad, you are passionate and truthful.
I love how you show him correct signs and just how loving your family is!
I just wanted to say this was a wonderful video! Your Dad is awesome and I’d love to hear more of him explaining the words of the Bible! You and your Dad are great together I love you both! The way you and your Dad are together is how me and my deaf daughter were before she passed. She had cancer and people all over my state prayed for her to heal from that. So you see it’s not what we want it’s what God wants. And He wanted to bring her Home to Him! I tell myself that it was the only way she could be healed from the cancer. She was only 8 yrs old. People need to understand that you can’t heal deafness just like I can’t heal the freckles on my body. That’s how God made me and I’ve excepted that! Just as my deaf daughter excepted being deaf! God made us all different! I’ll be watching for your new videos. I’m loving learning new signs and remembering the old!!! God Bless you and your Dad!💕💕🙏🙏
I do not usually comment on videos, but I just have to say how much I loved this video! I recently found you on instagram and saw that you said you're nervous to be in front of the camera. You shouldn't be! I really really enjoyed this. As someone who wants to learn ASL and a strong Christian I found this video very impactful. Also, when you do interviews like this, I pick up signs that you have done short teaching videos on really quickly! I feel like watching these conversations is a great addition to your short videos to help teach!
I would enjoy a couple of videos of you (and your dad) talking about the gospel! After all, that is the reason we are here and I'd love for you to continue to use your platform to share the gospel and His love! Or even showing us Christian signs. Keep it up, Ashley!!
KAYLA LEE yes I would so love to learn some Christian and church-y signs... I know that might seem weird! But, being able to physically say scripture or physically say songs, through sign, while also speaking and expressing, is really impactful to me.
This helps a lot! Thank you Ashley and “Ashley’s dad”! By the way I love how he explains the story of Jesus
Thank you Ashley. You show the world the beauty and strength of love. You are of value and when someone wants to fix you it feels frustrating because it devalues your existence, diversability and GOD's plan for you.Your faith is strong. Keep serving and signing the love, just like Jesus. Thank you
I totally agree has a Christian I get the same feeling when people pray for me too awkward and I’m deaf too from Perth
Your dad tries so hard. It’s sweet. I’m not Christian, but this warms my heart.
Loved this message and insight from you on how it feels to be approached in this way. I have a disability as well and find that many Christians have good intentions but it comes off as very rude when approached and not even asked your name just to be asked what's wrong with you? Do you have a unforgiven sin? Do you have enough faith to be healed? Can I pray for you?
This really puts a wall between Christians with disabilities & Christians without disabilities. It's something that needs to change in the Church because many of my friends with disabilities avoid church because of how they are treated as a spectacle or someone who needs fixed rather than a equal and valuable member of the body of Christ just the way they are. Thank you so much for your videos!
Looooovee you and your Dad’s relationship!!❤️
Loved it! Deaf people don't need healing so much as society does to make life easier for them! Put simply if we were all deaf society would be much more visual and people more informed. As a hearing person I'm sad to say it's taken me a while to realise this. God bless you both.
What a wonderful message! You and your dad are amazing, thank you for sharing your experiences.
For people who don’t realize how they are effecting others. 1.It’s never ok to touch people because they give you permission to pray for them. Ask permission for that too! Doesn’t matter if they are deaf, blind, in a accident, pregnant or you are just praying for good health. 2.I don’t think most people are wanting to bother others or make things awkward, they have good intentions. But sometimes it is clearly offensive why they are praying about you...”*oh no I’m so sorry you are not how I think you should be*, let me pray for you”.
I love this in so many ways. First Ashley and her dad. Then not only is it teaching deaf culture but its also teaching to follow the leading of the Holy Spirit and walking in wisdom in all we do. excellent!
i want to add to im hearing and i dont want just anyone praying for me either. people need to respect other people feelings and space.
One of my favorite of your videos. I very much enjoyed listening (and watching) your fathers teaching of the this topic. I love his passion in our Christ.
I recently took an online ASL course with my local library and just found your channel last night! Such an interesting topic and very good points brought up in this video. It's cool to see 'Christian' signs being used in a conversation like 'Jesus', 'God', and 'Holy Spirit'. Hope to learn a lot from you guys!
I love this video, and the message you both share. Most of all, I am happy to see that your Dad, as a non-native signer, uses mostly Signed Exact English. And that it's OK with you that he doesn't appear to use ASL grammar. I may be wrong in my assumptions, as I'm a newbie with ASL. But, I find that ASL sentence syntax takes a lot of time and effort to transform each of my thoughts into the correct grammar. I want to get better at true ASL, but for the time being, it's nice to just be able to communicate in sign, even if it's SEE. Thanks for posting Ashley!!
@@KisDraga Thanks for the reply. I don't really know if I use PSE or SEE more? I'm pretty new at signing and I mostly string together 4 or 5 word sentences at the most right now. I do like how true ASL syntax seems much less "wordy" and still gets the thought across. I guess I mostly just sign how I would speak, at this point.
It definitely wouldn't be SEE. It would be PSE. Signed Exact English has Every. Single. Thing. that is in an English sentence- "The boy jumped(signing something for the ed), (signing a comma) ran, and ....I can't think of a good way to finish it, but you also sign the period.
I have a Deaf coworker who originally learned SEE and taught us about it at a PD day. Ashley's dad is using ASL signs but often in English grammar order which to me means PSE, especially since he probably tends to simcom
@@briannaborka7415 Very interesting. Thanks for explaining the difference between PSE and SEE. And I assume "simcom" means "simultaneous communication", or talking to both deaf and hearing people at the same time :D
The Word of God is amazing. Wonderful lesson. I love Jesus.
I'll just pray that you have good things in life.
It makes me sad to hear about fellow Christians not respecting the boundaries of others, regardless of their abilities or disabilities. I'm sorry you've had to deal with that.
I'm glad you both made this video. Hopefully it will help to educate people about healthier and more godly ways to interact with strangers. It was also interesting to see some new Christian signs I hadn't learned yet, so thank you!
So well stated and a great reminder for Christians. I posted to my Facebook page. Thank you so such an important reminder of who Jesus was in the Bible.
Thank you for your story, I have seen that before. I believe ,as a little person, people have tried to pray for me to try to get me to grow. I have a precondition called Achondroplasia Dwarfism, it's not going to help grow. True, People should ask before laying hands on people.
Thank you so much for sharing!!! We recently had a comment made to us regarding our daughter...totally innocent and somewhat ignorant...that they would pray our daughter would be “healed”. We were kinda shocked and didn’t know how to respond. She doesn’t need to be “fixed”... God has created her perfect for His Glory! I just didn’t know what to say, so I just smiled and walked away. And here...I just so appreciate you’re vulnerability to share this video, because it gives me a better response the next time someone says something like that to us. Thank you, thank you! Keep on running this race! Don’t be discouraged or fearful, you are encouraging us!!!
I so love the deaf culture, its so honest and the signing is so on point.
I am hearing but I am studying sign language now for over a year,,,
I can keep a conversation going with help of my lip movement!
I still need to sign more fluidly but I guess I get to the point.
WOW, dad is so passionate! Thanks for sharing this. I'm learning so much about deaf culture from you and about the love of God from your dad!
That was so so good! Is your dad a Pastor?
I see not one deer in headlight here! Such a genuinely real conversation that is so raw and beautiful! Thank you for posting!
I absolutely loved this. ❤Thank you for explaining. 🙏Beautifully said❤
Amen, as Christians we shouldn’t be going around trying to heal everyone. We need to share the LOVE and the good news that Jesus has to that individual.
amen thats right.
Great video. I don't rush up to people to lay my hands on them but I do wish they could be healed and wish I had enough faith to lay my hands on them for healing. Thanks for the video. Very helpful video message. ❤
Love the passion! Dad can’t sit down for this one. He gotta jump up to preach the Word!!
Thanks so much for sharing! I love hearing your Father share those examples from scripture. Jesus met each person where they were.
Ur dad so good how much he love u show sign and understand how deaf culture was..thank you for ur dad to support deaf..
That was great. I’m not religious, but I enjoyed how sweet your father is.
Your Dad just warms my heart! This is a very enlightening video and appreciate you sharing!
This man is beautiful...Everybody in this world should learn from him..
Thank you for sharing this!! As a late life deaf person I agree .
My daughter is 2years old she is deaf this really brought some inspiration into my heart I thank you
This is so good, so many Christians have hero syndrome. Misguided actions based on their standard of what is Good. That is why being lead by the Holy Spirit is so important and you should not lay your hands on anyone with out their permission. This is such a good word.
I’m Jewish, and a woman of faith, and I think you and your father explained this beautifully. I don’t know what I would use from our scriptures to explain the same point, but I don’t think you should ever pray for someone with a chronic illness or condition. Most of those conditions are simply facts of life. You are deaf. I have multiple chronic illnesses. I don’t want people to pray for me unless I have the flu, or need surgery. And really, people should never lay hands without permission, with the intention of prayer or not. Blessings to you and yours. We may not believe the same thing, but I think we believe in the same God, and that’s what counts.
Yes. Many Christians are very presumptuous and assume both a) that they have the personal power to heal you and b) that you even want to be healed.
It doesn't work that way. Thank you both for sharing this. Also, God told Jesus to heal himself first, too.
We should all remember this. TY.
Thank you, Ashley for the share you and your dad did on this video with LOVE. God bless! I hope that you and your dad continue to share the Word of God with love!
I'm not deaf nor am I hard of hearing.... But I am legally blind and I totally agree coming from the opposite "disability". Many people have asked to pray for me, and I let them, but it mostly feels awkward because I am totally fine how I am, and don't feel the need to be "healed". Thank you for this video!
Loved this!! Made me emotional to see your dad speak about the word. Anyone who sees him speak about the Lord can see he is passionate about his love for Jesus. My dad is the same way. His eyes get big and he begins to walk around because for him, he can’t stay still when he is talking about the gospel how great Jesus’ love is. Thank you so much for sharing this. I think people should be more aware of this and instead say “pray with you” versus “pray for you”. Loved this video. Blessings to you!
I actually liked hearing /watching your father talk about the bible and Jesus. If he was to do a channel about that where he signed too I think I would watch him. And so many other people perhaps.
Is not everybody the Lord will heal but we need messages and songs for them too
Ashley - thank you for sharing! I appreciate your boldness in sharing how you have felt in past situations and how a hearing person like myself can be much more aware of how to care for a Christian sister like yourself. My husband is hard of hearing (deaf completely in his right ear from birth, and hearing with a hearing aid in his left) and he feels the same way as you that he doesn't see himself as handicapped at all and looks at all of the blessings he has in his life. Thank you for sharing! I am enjoying watching all of your videos and have subscribed to your channel. I am taking an ASL class and that's how I found your videos. Thank you and God bless!
This was so amazing to watch. I’ve loved your videos and felt like you were the best at teaching asl....now I know why! God is doing wonderful things in both of your lives and His Light is clearly shining through you!
Im not religious anymore as an adult but I agree with your dad and think he worded it well and also in a kind way as to not offend Christian people. I think people who would put their hands on someone especially someone they just met is awkward and rude, tho they may have good intentions its not respectful of that other person and their space.... I would not want someone doing that to me, so why would i do that to someone else... isn’t that the golden rule or something?
Great perspective and helpful as I was reading my daily devotional book “My Utmost for His Highest” about how God want us to do by listening through the Holy Spirit in our hearts, to do it or not to do it.
Thank you very much for making this video because as I have no specific religion I have been approached a lot and I also think it’s nice people care but it is uncomfortable and sometimes makes me feel sad because I rather people pray for others in need and I’m not in need. Just deaf that’s all. I really like the way you frame this and I think that it makes much more sense to respond to those reaching out
I love this video so much! I grew up with a really healthy version of religion and I love to see a way we can use our beliefs to deeply love those we might otherwise pity and look down on. There's so much acceptance and radical love in the bible.
But I wish you would have let your daughter speak for herself more. It's wonderful she had such a passionate supporter in her father, but I worry about the parallel I see in the Christians who immediately go "let me pray for you!" and the father that goes "let me speak for you!".
Wow, what a beautiful and convicting message. God bless 💕
That was a really great way to bring awareness to many people about many things. I bet that you have sent a thoughtwave in motion. Even if it's not this precise situation, people need to be more conscious of how they behave. Blessed Be.
I love your relationship with you dad! This was a wonderful video and I am so happy you shared it with us. God bless you and your family💕💕
Thank you this is such a blessing. Thank you for sharing
Wow...this made me emotional because I wish everyone could see this video and understand how that makes deaf people feel...wow
I love this video
Thank you for sharing that with us.👏🏾
Your dad’s explanation was very good ❤️ God bless you guys and thanks again for sharing 🥰
Love, love, love this! So beautiful to see you and your dad sharing your faith.
Funny, I’ve never once thought of praying for or over someone because their deaf.
Totally RIGHT!!!!! God bless you.
Your Dad is so awesome, what a blessing the two of you are. I've mentioned this before but my son has been hard of hearing since he was seven years old and in November (at the age of 22) he has lost 92% of his hearing, he just says this is the way God made me. His older sister has very mild Cerebral Palsy and as soon as the doctor gave me this long list of things she would "never do", I tossed it out and she's done most of everything we were told she wouldn't. That's how we live our lives, God made us the way we are and he won't let us down or leave us behind, we are who we are for a reason. We make a difference in this world. I appreciate all that you teach me especially so that I can communicate with my best friend who just happens to be my son.
Thank you for sharing this! I am currently learning sign because I think it’s a beautiful language, but additionally I have had many medical issues and due to having paralyzed vocal chords I am unable to fully speak. I have also had a few experiences where individuals would lay there hands on me and start praying and it would be very uncomfortable. Thank you for sharing your insights (wow love that Jesus example!! Never thought of that) on how to properly care for another as a Christian individual without immediately resorting to prayers such as those, even if well meaning
Hi, Ashley. Sorry for my bad English, but I wanna to write the answer to this video. As Orthodox, we never use all that laying hands on some person, while we pray. Just silent pray in heart one to one, or at the church. But I think we should pray for any person we knew. I mean, we are all are in some dangers all the time, we are all have some limits in our health, knowledges etc, so we are all need to support each other. That's why we pray to God to ask him to heal wounds we got after some sicknesses, to ask for wisdom and mercy to evil persons etc. As a hard of hearing person (a bit) I knew how hard sometimes to solve some problems then you are deaf (I knew a lot of deafs), so I guess it is good to pray to God about helping deafs in their needs. I didn't mean "healing" or "I wish they all become as ordinary as any people on this street", I mean, to pray to God to let them meet good persons much more time, to face less ignorance, to got any information without problems, to get job (if they want it) etc. To ask God to tear some walls around deaf person and let this person to enjoy to be who he or she is... P.S Sorry, haven't much practice in English
I love hearing your voice and these videos with your dad always bring me to happy tears! ❤️
beautiful, tks Ashley and Dad.
Love, love, love this! Best of blessings to you and yours!
Hello Ashley and Dad! I just started learning ASL (1 class so far) and I'm sooo excited for many more. Put I came to this video and your Dad has just blessed my soul...thank you sir! I knew once he stood up, he was about to give me a word from God.😊. I use a wheelchair when I'm outside my home for several health conditions. People have come to me to tell me I need to pray my way out the chair or they believe that once they pray I will be immediately healed. I understand your frustration, this video is well needed so others can stop crossing the line. Thanks for this video!!!
Saw the title, was very confused. I thought "Who doesn't want someone to pray for them?", not realizing you meant pray to "cure" deafness. I'd have to ask Jesus for the strength not to slap the teeth out of somebody that tried that shiet.
Edit: I like the way your Dad explains things
I'm overweight and church people don't come lay hands on my belly 😂
Sorry church people are so awkward. Thanks for having the courage to bring this issue into the light 👍
Oh a thing I've always noticed is no matter how clear your voice is while speaking & signing, keep doing both at one time, it lends a depth to it that either voice or signing alone can never touch.
Thank you for sharing this beautiful message. As a hearing person who knows some sign, I am very much enjoying your videos. And as a Christian I very much appreciate that we do need to show GOD'S love without being pushy and intrusive.
LOVE this! I have lived with a degenerative disease since I was born. I accepted Jesus when I was 5. I've been in a wheelchair since I was 16. (I'm about your dad's age =) ) Those same Christians come to me and pray for me to be healed. I have done what James 5:14-16 says. But, I felt the Holy Spirit whisper, "No, not now." No lack of faith. If my Heavenly Father wanted me to be healed I would be. He is using me for His glory - like He's using YOU! This video is so important! Thank you and your dad for the loving way you explained this!! (PS: I believe you and my daughter (she's your age) would be great friends - you have the same hearts!)
wow! God blessing you and your dad. Thank you for share because i have same shoes with you. that was beautiful story :)
Yes. And you have a Beautiful relationship.
So the important thing is to think you're right!
Just followed on insta, wow this is so true too I have seen this so many times! Thank you for sharing this was so authentic and genuine, couldn’t have been better! Look forward to more videos and hey your dad needs his own CZcams he’s pretty cool😎
That happened to me right there on the street in broad daylight back in 1989. I was so bemused. The kid (maybe around 20 or 24) saw me and came up and puts his hands on my head, on my ears, covering my hearing aids, and prayed prayed prayed... he was delusional... he thinks he can heal with his prayer, but physical facts of my deafness defeats his prayer. People all around were looking on. I was waiting for the bus to go home. The time was around 5 pm, maybe 6. It was getting dark. Sometimes I wished his prayer worked but it never did. I have nerve damage, not cochlear damage, but I sure do have heavy tinnitus since I was ten, 1980. Still loud tinnitus to this day, and will never quit until I die. First thing I'll see if I crosses over to see Jesus is to cuss him out, and then asks him if I can meet Lucifer and rain shits on him, too, for making our lives a hell on earth. Thanks.
Thank you so much for sharing this!! I loved it. This is such good information Ashley. I have never done that but I can understand the culture ignorance of people who might've done that & would like to believe they did it with the best of intentions. Loved your dad in this video he definitely displayed passion in his words of wisdom!! ❤❤❤ God bless you both!
I love how passionate your dad is about Bible stories. So passionate, he had to stand up to tell about this. It is clear that he is well versed and learned in the Bible.
I'm hard of hearing and in high school I told someone I had recently met that I was hard of hearing (for practical "I can't understand you" reasons) and his first reaction was "I pray for you." And he sounded serious, which honestly kind of scared me. We ended up being friends and he was never weird about my hearing loss, but that was my first time experiencing this concept that it's something to be prayed for and honestly made me ashamed. Also opened my eyes to something Deaf people probably experience a lot more.
You have inspired me to stay motivated in asl. Thank you so much!! ❤️
God Bless you and your father. I loved this video.
Love your Dad more of the two of you.
You two are awesome!!! God Bless you both!!
I love knowing people who love the Lord and share their stories about Him. I know exactly what you mean about others being to quick to pray. When I hear people being quick to pray for someone, I always add they should include us all! Thanks for sharing, I love watching and learning from you guys!
I love it when you and your dad are on the video together. The love and connection and joy you both have is heart warming. You both radiate the Lord's love and concern for others. Several of my friend who are blind from birth have talked about this too and can't stand when people do this. Even though one of those friends is also a believer herself. It's like people see something they want to "fix" rather than "oh, here's someone I might like to get to know as a friend and learn from." Looking forward to your other videos. I just subscribed!