The only way to see how untouchable you really are... The heart shatters open [April 30 CLIP]
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The only way to see how untouchable you really are... The heart shatters open
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Thanks Suzanne, I appreciate hearing these people be so honest, this channel is a valuable place.
Not the first time for this 1960's model vehicle. In 2004 the lid was loosened enough to see clearly for several years, then again lost in the fog and frustration and the wanting to die. Until two days ago and finding HERE. Whoosh! Head wants to throw up is something I've tried to explain for years. Ha ha! Absolutely beautiful.
I’m so sorry to hear this. I can not imagine having gone through abuse by parents, caregivers, adults. My heart aches hearing stories like this.. how strong he is to even speak about it, especially this publicly ❤
It seems easier to talk about pain when it’s not personal and the suffering is seen for what it is. the point of these conversations, as I am drawn to them, is to help us awaken from the nightmare of separation. I am grateful.
Who knows how deep our suffering goes, I don’t think it will be too long before we realise how abused we ALL were. When I first left my parents my suffering came up soon after, I don’t think this was a coincidence, so much trauma bonding in western households
Because you don't see it!
The 2nd part of this video, that is what's coming up on here, but there's no effort to avoid it, I never knew it was possible to feel an emotional anguish this severe (and I've processed PTSD trauma). When the wave hits, sometimes I feel I can't take another second, like the next moment my body is going to physically break apart. I almost hesitate to say this is worth it. But like you said, it's not up to "me." 🙂 Then it always resets back to emptiness...
The awakening is an ongoing process because you move away from what you thought you were into everything you really are. And there will be times that will be confusing, because of the wall that comes after each cycle..❤ The one aspect of this is the realization that it's singular and while conversations can be had around it, the pure nature of the event is going to be singular. A listening ear is supported but only you will know and experience what you now know about this world.. One!
I so appreciate the conversation with Simon. I too have gone through years of therapy believing “all was healed” and recently there is this intense self hatred present and also hatred towards my parents, deep sadness and grief for what was “taken” from my childhood and the conditions that ensued. There’s no filter now, all the “coping mechanisms” have dissolved. There’s just the rawness and intensity of emotion (for no one). This video has helped me to recognize that it’s simply “part of the process” which isn’t a process at all. It’s all just a story. I will say this though it can feel so incredibly challenging, lonely (for no one) and overwhelming at times.
Totally relate to the first lady. Feels exactly how i feel at the moment. The second lady's sharing was beautiful.
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Thank you for your beautiful videos Suzanne, and to the guests in this particular one. They certainly speak volumes of truth about my own experience. In gratitude I would like to offer a poem that was given to me by one of my guides when I started on my journey of healing some 24 years ago...yes it has taken that long for this process to come full circle and I can truly say i have come out the other end alive and full of love. The title is "Strength"....and little did I know what was to unfold in the following years. To all those who feel weak and overwhelmed and exhausted, keep going, push through and be.
"STRENGTH.....
Strength of Purpose,
Strength of Mind,
Seek the truth of your being, to be
Sure it is inside you always and yearns to be unearthed
from the covers of time.
Peel back the layers with Trust, Unity and Play.
With surety you know the time has come...
The time is here for you to stand up,
Stand tall and claim what is rightfully yours.
Claim your Belonging, Your Knowing, Your Truth,
Your Love For Yourself."
Callum, august 1997
Talking about the loss supports the mourning that waking up brings about. I think it's important, at this stage... to say goodbye and thank-you to all those illusions. They were certainly loved and cherished...
I think it can be both helpful and comforting to reach out to others who are also going through what's been expressed here. Sometimes just talking through it helps.
Very helpful, right now, for me.❤
I cried so much throughout this video
Behind it all, is an amazing intelligence that makes it all happen for the body while that individual conciousness exists IN it!
This was very beautiful. Thank you and thanks to the friends that shared. Such a blessing.
I have days where staying in awareness is so easy but then I have other days where everything feels so contracted and small. I also have days where nothing makes sense. I think I have trouble remembering who I am sometimes. I want to be able to stay open but it feels like something snaps closed and sort of excludes me. Just a couple of days ago I was effortlessly just being. Today, not so much.
I appreciate his comment about the "loss". I have felt this, too.
Thanks Sue 🛼
So sorry to hear what he went through😢
There seems to be onion layers or stacked shields of self defense patterns, which exist in the mind and the nervous system, that shield the identity (self-image) from suppressed information, which threatens the integrity of the self-image.
As the information makes its way through these shield layers, the information appears to be associated with different feelings. These associated feelings are generated by the information colliding with a shield. Because those feelings are defensive reactions to that information.
The first layer is always fear. Fear is the most primitive emotion. It's also why denial is the first stage of grief.
Fear becomes anger. Anger is just the other primitive side of the flight fight response. And the second stage of grief.
Once the two primitive shields are breached, the nervous system opens up a bit and can react more dynamically to the information. Anger becomes activity. Or in the five stages of grieve, bargaining. I think of it as a kind of false happiness.
Once the guise of activity is breached, the feeling associated with the information becomes sadness or depression. This is the final layer and is more a defensive integration layer. It doesn't seek to deflect the information but to process it in a careful (somewhat defensive way).
Weeping comes into play here as a kind of built in psychological and neurological self-surgery. The sweet chemicals and feelings of self-compassion that it brings are your anesthetic. The sadness relaxes (depresses) the body so that the lines of the nervous system are freed for processing, and a powerful stimulation of energy in the nervous system is triggered by the weeping, along with different kinds of alterations to your breathing. This is when the nervous system is laying you down on the operating table and taking over a little bit. Deep breathing and passivity (stillness) helps to let go of resistance during this important phase, and acting out or physical tension increases resistance in the nervous system and mind.
When the information is integrated, and that dark concealed aspect of your self-image is made conscious and felt, it's no longer a monster under the bed. Or an iceberg in your subconscious. Affecting what you think, feel, do, say and perceive via reactionary forces from those onion layers of defense.
This frees up the nervous system and the mind every time more integration happens, and that opens it all up to the finer, subtle joys, thoughts and feelings in life. That is the part that feels like something valuable has been added to you. It's more like a valuable door that got stuck closed long ago is open once again. People notice that music sounds amazing all of a sudden. Well that's because music plays the your nervous system and feelings like a harp. Now that you can feel again, it sounds better because it feels better. Everything feels better.
After that, what happens I'm not sure. Still gonna find out.
Edit: The physically painful feeling in the chest is what the anasthetic of weeping is for. Without tears it can feel like such physical pain you may think it's a sign of impending heart attack. With tears and deep breathing it's a lot different. When the heart breaks open, that same pain turns into a kind of divine ecstatic rapture! By no small measure, it's the most incredible thing I've ever felt by far. It's pure love.
One thing that worked for me is a line from a certain advaita teacher Robert Adams which I randomly came across that unlocked self-compassion which was essential for the processing of that pain. And it said that no matter what, always love yourself! And I believed him.
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thank you all who shared their experiences and thank you for uploading this Suzanne, it's so so hard, so painful, so much sadness about Dave and how he died, such a loss, he has three children... i tried so hard to keep him alive x
No character can break free from the dream until it becomes a nightmare. A lethal, near fatal personal suffering is mandatory to waking up. Now realize that humans do all they can to avoid suffering, we label suffering as a horrible bad thing...but why? It's not...well we don't label anything, ego labels it all so the view is never clear. Current humanity is a reflection of the fear of facing reality. It is curious to get a glimpse into the mans suffering and yours. Mine was from the opposite end of the spectrum. My character was the "monster" not the poor defenseless "victim". Yet enlightenment can come to any, but will only ever come to those it was always going to.
Yup I have become monster aswell and can confirm this. Im slowly leaving old habits and letting go of hatred going into my original state of conciousness. Peace to you all.
Thank you so much Simon& Ann and Jade. 🙏🏻
For me, what drew me to you in the first place was you talking about loss. I have felt so much grief in this unfolding process but not many teachers talk about it the way you do. Maybe it's also a gender thing? I feel immense loss around my story and my role as carer, mother, daughter - I resonate so much with your experiences and it made me feel a lot less alone. I was really wondering if what I was experiencing was normal. So from my perspective, I am very grateful for your honest sharing.
Thx SO much for this sharing! The discussion of the “spiritual desert” as Angelo Dillulo calls it was very helpful. 🙏
It helps for me to be reminded. Repeatedly
Omg yes the loss is heartbreaking 💔 😔
Thank you ❤
Resonating so much with this entire series of meetings ❤ gahh
sometimes it's like everything is so familiar but in an impersonal way. it's like a felt sense of remembering that everything is home. it's like home remembering of itself of being home in everything..
So incredible to hear others stories and hear of the suffering, I am amazed you survived.
Yes exactly, being able to express our emotions to our parents is key, that’s where it all started!
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Alcaeon in about 380 BC postulated that human emotions do not reside in the heart but within the brain or mind.
The heart does not shatter or have anything to do with human emotions - it pumps blood around the body
I can only speak from my own experience. One may have an experience of the heart opening or exploding without the physical heart changing. Unconditional love has something to do with this process.
@@jamessloan2680 All emotions reside in the brain/mind. You may as well related your "heart experience" to liver function or your kidneys.
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I've acknowledged that I have too much bottled up anger, but I don't know how to get it out. How does the process of emptying out channels this anger without hurting other people?
Do scream therapy! It really helped me and I would recommend it if you haven't tried it
@beatrizkarwai6763 - For me, I recognized that this type of anger rising up in me had almost nothing to do with any current situation, so I would find some space for myself away from people, to allow the feelings of anger and hatred to just be there. Sometimes a walk in the woods, sometimes just sitting in my car, sometimes in my bedroom. I really followed Adyashanti's method of just allowing the feelings. Being intimate with them, not rejecting or pushing them away. Just to be clear, for me it was very difficult and painful and disturbing as those old hurts and rage came up. But you'll be surprised to know you can handle it, if you just turn towards it and allow. I stayed with it until it was done with me, not until I was done with it. That's a key. For me because of the history, I experienced many rounds of rage and hatred coming up. It went on for a few months really. But after each round I felt immense openness and spaciousness inside. All the best to you.
@@SimonM282 *"I stayed with it until it was done with me, not until I was done with it."*
So perfectly said.
Thank you 🙏
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Is anyone else also mixed up in both non-duality and Law of Attraction? Sometimes I feel their ultimate pointings are the same, but perhaps the paths that lead us back to ourselves (where we never left) appear quite different.
Specifically, I think I hear from non-dual speakers that we need to allow so--called negative emotions to come up, to see them, give them attention, and investigate them. Whereas, I think Law of Attraction speakers encourage us to let go of such thoughts and feelings as quickly as we can and to shift our attention to thoughts and feelings of appreciation and satisfaction.
Does anyone else resonate with or find value in both these schools of thought, and if so, what do you think about the apparent contradiction about how to approach feelings like guilt, shame, unworthiness, uselessness, feeling unlikeable, boring, unloveable, not good enough, etc.??
Should we give these feelings attention, feel into them, give them time and space to express, or should we try to thank them for the contrast they offer and then to shift our attention to more general thoughts and feelings of appreciation as quickly as our vibrational momentum will allow? Is there even a contradiction here?
Law of attraction isn’t spiritual as I’ve been told by guru types. But if you’re stuck in lack and are looking for outside transient things to make you feel full, so be it. But that’s not the non-dualist path. The path is not a simple feel better life changing notion, it is all or nothing and yet life continues as it does. You don’t do anything for real so what are you attracting? It becomes mental and that’s exactly what we want less of. Discernment plays a larger part in this, stay empty and see what happens. My two cents from studying much:-)
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the only one i don't resonate disagree what you said is that i am not real and everything we experience is an illusion that's just my difference point of view truth because i think everything we see experience is real and we are real i also think dreams and imaginations are real to me it's not a fake illusion to me at all but at the sametime don't get me wrong there is also apart of me that also resonate with that everything is real by happening and not real by not happening simultaneously we don't actually know what this is what is actually going on we don't actually know anything i think it's ok if we don't actually know nothing at all because i said the samething too about that there is apart of me that i think it's ok to not actually know anything but i also want to let you know that i respect your and everyone's difference truths i think nobody is wrong and crazy for us having our own difference opinions and truths suzanne because i just love being open minded about that i also wanna share one more thing i do resonate agree that some that say there is no right or wrong, should or shouldn't it just is that's exactly how i feel too i said the samething too about that there is no right or wrong should or shouldn't i also agree resonate that it's all unknown i am always capable
I resonate with what you said ❤
@@n-xsta thanks
Time after time, there is such comfort, such grounding, in these messages and conversations, as I go through “my own” version of this process.
Indescribable, yet palpable.
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👸🏻🍑💨🎶👃🏽💕🏃🏽..⛷️ 🏔️🧗🏽umm Suzanne's non duality shatters my heart open umm