I also wanted a really short hairstyle. The hairdresser said she felt Bad for my hair, meanwhile I was in the chair physically unable to fight through washing my hair. After that I've cut my own hair every time I wanted something new. It is so refreshing and it's nice to know that even if I mess it up I've tried doing something new and learned a skill.
Dude I’m so sorry that happened to you. People don’t understand, whether you just have way too much hair or you’re in pain or your mental health is in the toilet.. my hair is not important! It will grow back! Bodily autonomy being violated WHEN YOU ARE PAYING A PROFESSIONAL makes my blood boil.
Fr I wanted a pixie cut as a kid she did the opposite hair style my hair has always been done by former hairdressers that are family sence I cut my hair last and got a few comments on it :D
Same, I just got tired of no one listening or coming out with hair I hated. I started cutting it myself and I've made plenty of mistakes, but they were MY mistakes. I'm no hairdresser, but I'm happy at the end of the day knowing the decision was all mine.
I've had similar experiences and have been cutting my own hair for years now. I had long hair on top and shaved around as a teen, decided to grow it out, asked the hairdresser just to trim it up and make it even with the sides so I can grow it easier. She refused saying I'll look like I had a buzz cut. Ended up with an ugly not quite pixie that was not easy to grow out. And the woman who shaved my sides and back before almost didn't do it because "your hair is just so pretty" Ma'am it's thick and heavy 😭 I refuse to pay for an overpriced, unwanted, and typically uncomfortable haircut. If I mess up, it's on me and I can use the saved money for a treat.
so tired of hairdressers trying to decide what you do with your own hair. you're paying them for a service, they should do what you tell them to do. why do they think it's okay to give their opinion when it's not asked for?
I hate when hairstylists do that. I have type 3b curls and they are beautiful if I do say so myself, but I needed a trim desperately so I want in to get like 5 inches off, and this stylist said “Omg your hair is gorgeous! Why do you want to cut it? I’d kill for your hair.” And then told my mom she REFUSES to cut my hair and a stylist with an afro stepped in, cut my hair, and said sorry that her co worker was being so rude to a customer.
Ooooh my stylist says something like “aww such beautiful curls and you want to cut them off :((“ YET it’s playful and just to make small talk with my mom. She still cuts it as short as I want, while also telling me where she’ll stop so I don’t look awkward with a super short hair. It’s gotten even curlier since I take better care of my hair, so I don’t go as short as I did before.
I also have curly hair and I’ll go somewhere to get it cut and the hair stylist will say it is gorgeous and refuse to cut it. Not in an asshole “I’m refusing because I’m not letting you” way but in a “I don’t want to mess up your hair” way. Because curls are very different than every other hair texture. So unless she told you that specifically don’t always assume the worst in people
@@Dinonugget_111 She told her she didn't want to cut it because it was too pretty, not because she's inexperienced. You communicate that to the customer properly. Imagine you order something in a restaurant on the menu and they tell you they refuse to make it because you look good without eating it. If they said the chef who makes it wasn't available, that's a different story.
My father refused to let me dye my blonde hair black. One night after everyone went to sleep I dyed it black. It looked great! Next morning my dad flips out and drags me to a salon, telling her that I didn't have permission to dye it black and demanding that the stylist bleach it blonde again. The stylist looked at a very upset and humiliated me and said 'I can't bleach it and no one should try because she used permanent dye, it will likely make all her hair break and fall off'. Later I learned that this probably wasn't true, and I realized she only said that to save me from being blonde again and stop my dad from controlling my appearance. I was so grateful. And wouldn't you know, my blonde roots never seemed to grow in! My dad was furious about it but here I am 10 years later with jet black hair that looks so much better than the blonde ever did, and I've gone no contact with my dad (for many reasons, not just my hair). Living my best life and I still think of her sometimes!
Are you saying you’re one of those people who’s hair suddenly changed colour, or are you saying that you just kept dying the roots like “hehe blonde roots? Pffft, whattt? No my hair is actually black now.”
no it definitely was true, it’s hard to go over black hair with bleach. Your hair would have likely turned a terrible color and fell off. But she probably was also trying to help you aswell.
My mom always said my hair could turn black forever but in middle school you learn your hair is a genetic thing, and they say your genetics can't be changed so I didn't believe her, I did not know until just now at 17 years and 4 months old. I've always wanted to dye my hair and I still do, but maybe I won't do permanent
@@lri828Hair color can definitely change over ten years ☠️ mine hasn’t, but I’ve noticed a trend of it changing with redheads and natural platinum blondes. They’ll be one hair color as a baby and by kindergarten, they’ve swapped to the other one without a hint of it ever being the previous one.
All throughout middle school and highschool the hair dressers ALWAYS told me bangs wouldn't look good with my hair type and sadly I listened until I decided to do it myself I look great they just didn't think I'd take care of them
@@InuInugami it was a learning process to me because i have really curly frizzy hair I suggest not washing them too often, use hair oil, and heat protective if you plan on straightening them
@@InuInugami trust me the last thing you want are ratty looking bangs i had them look so weird for a while Edit: I wanted to mention on top of all of that when I wash it I put it in one of those big hair curled rolls
@@InuInugamiI’ve noticed that if I go a while between cutting my bangs, the first day or so after, they look a little strange before the hair chills out and stops looking like I stuck my finger in an outlet. And gods help anyone with a cowlick in the bang area of their head. It takes effort and time to make them look right if you have a cowlick there.
The same happened to me. The hairdresser even asked my Mom if she was okay with it, and my mom gave her the okay. We ended up leaving with an exact copy of "coconut heads" hair cut (Ned's declassified school servival guide). I loved it, but my mom secretly hated it, so she sent me back. Hairdresser with colorful hair finally gave me the correct haircut, and I looked amazing. The worst part is the haircut took forever because the first hairdresser kept cutting little by little, asking if it was short enough as if trying to make me regret my choice To clear things up, I told the woman I wanted a pixie cut and showed them a picture of Kaley Cuoco since she inspired me to cut it cause I thought she looked so beautiful with short hair. I kept telling the hairdresser I wanted short hair and my mom did also even my dad came up and told her He was okay with me getting a Pixie cut. We left with a bowl cut because she had taken so long the store was starting to close.
no... that's a sign of a good hair dresser. she was trying to be courteous since once you chop it off you cant get that length back, so she went little by little so that she could make sure you leave with a cut you're perfectly satisfied with. she's not a mind reader, i assure you she didnt know the exact length you desired, it's impossible for her to read your mind no matter how many reference pics shes shown 😭 see what i mean?
@@atlas8912no? If i say i want my hair shaved on the sides with two inches on top (idk what haircut they wanted) and i show them a picture of the exact haircut i want, I genuinely don’t think anyone sane who listens to the customers request should give you a coconut head bowl cut. That’s stupid. The kid came in clearly set on what they wanted (short and in the style they described) so making sure they wanted it by giving them a longer haircut isn’t “courteous”, it’s rude and a waste of time. I understand if you think it’s a punishment haircut and refusing but that wasn’t the case and sounds clear from the way they commented. I’ve had a similar experience as an adult. After several months of covid, my hair which is always short actually grew out to near my shoulders. I asked for a fade and showed reference pictures and told the hair dresser i always have it short but it grew out during covid and she had the audacity to tell me i was lying. She cut my hair to what i can only describe as the ysolda breton haircut from skyrim. I thought she was cutting off some length before buzzing since my hair was kind of long at that point, and next i knew she was asking me how i liked it. I was very baffled by the fact i asked her for a short buzzed fade (i even used the word “masculine haircut”) and she didn’t even pull out the clippers. How is that courteous? If i don’t like the haircut that i chose, that’s on me. The hairdresser isnt supposed to ensure you like it, they’re supposed to ensure the best quality of the cut requested. In a perfect world they’ll like it but sometimes you end up realising a haircut doesn’t look as good on you as it did in theory. It’ll grow out. Maybe a “are you sure?” would suffice, rather than sell a product the customer didn’t request.
@@atlas8912no, if I show you reference pics of buzzed heads and tell you I want to shave my head, they know damn well what I want and then think they know what I want more. I’m not paying someone to say they’ll do what I asked and then ruin what I had without doing what they said they would
@@Mmannk As a hairdresser: This is what happens. No. One. Brings. In. Pictures. Out of the 10 clients I had, none had pictures. I had to bring them up myself (which is hard because having phones on the floor in my salon is not allowed) People come in and say "I just want it shorter" or "Just make it look good" Communication goes both ways and we aren't mind readers.
@@Nopee906 i show pictures every time. I’m sorry you have customers who don’t but i speak from my own experience that i will ALWAYS bring a picture. Others are like me. And you can always ask for a reference pic if they didn’t or forgot to.
I'm transmasc. The first time i went to get all my hair cut off, the hairdresser refused to take it as short as i wanted it because she told me "you'll hate me if i cut this much off". I wasn't able to take care of my hair because i was so dysphoric and depressed. It was dirty contantly. I enjoyed the haircut, but it wasn't even close to the picture i showed her. The second time i got my hair cut, the hairdresser told my MOM, and not me, that she would "make the sides more feminine". She talked to my mom the whole time about the cut, not me. The third time i had a cool male hairdresser, and he gave me what i actually asked for. But at that time my hair looked really bad bc i was so overdue for a haircut. Now i just buzz my hair every once in a while. My mom asks me "do you want me to go take you? I can go take you..." It's my hair. Let me be.
When I turned 16, my parents took me to a hair salon in LA to get a pixie cut and dyed hair for the first time. I always had longish brunette hair. When I told the stylist what I wanted and showed reference pictures, she told me she wouldn’t bleach my hair because it was virgin hair. And she said a pixie cut wouldn’t work for me because I had a round face and looked ‘low maintenance’. So instead, she gave me a shoulder length bob and dark raspberry hair (not bleached, and I wanted violet) I literally cried my eyes out when I got home because I’d been looking forward to this haircut for months and was really excited that I’d recently developed a personal style. My ED was in full swing at that time, and being denied my favorite hairstyle over a ‘round face’ ruined me for a long time. I still have a hard time trusting hair stylists and just do my hair at home. I only go to a salon if I fuck up my own hair really badly and I can’t fix it.
I forgot to mention that the service was $750 and I didn’t get a single thing I asked for. I later on learned that LA has the most ridiculous salon prices in the country. I went to Ulta about a month later, and met a lovely hair stylist that was a fellow Melanie Martinez fan. She gave me a perfect pixie cut with split dyed violet and blue-black hair, exactly what I wanted. At the time it costed around $200, which is a bargain for the amazing service.
I don't get the 'virgin hair' argument... Like yeah, it has not been bleached yet and I'd like to pay you to change that please. Do they want me to do a crappy job at home first?
I’m a parent of a fun teenager who has repeatedly cut their own hair, dyed it randomly and shaved their eyebrows. I wish I had parents who would let me do fun things with my hair.
@@bladenot-runner1795 I have my moments where I struggle with my parenting but I always go back to have a conversation and apologize for being overwhelmed. I’m very neuro spicy with autism and more but my kids are pretty happy.
@@Meipmeep Neuro spicy is a great term, lol. The fact that you apologize at all is way more than most parents do, and clearly they feel safe and supported enough to express themselves. That means a lot.
I think the only reason my mother doesn’t let me do horrendous things with my hair is because she doesn’t want my hair to be damaged. like i tell her about my friends who get their hair dyed and she says “they’re so young! their poor hair!” i feel like my hair is boring and am constantly trying to spice it up with bangs, hair clips, bows, etc. but it’s just never enough
I think parents react that way because they see us as an extension of themself. I also wasn’t allowed to shave my head but I did a short bob in middle school and then I’m highschool I started to get the classic guy cut with shaved bottoms and a little more hair at the top. Now I’m growing it out again
For me my mum was woried I wouldn't like it shaven and should maybe wait till after exams (she was fine with shoet hair cuts), but when my dad took me and she saw I like it and it didn't look bad (I know this from peoplea comments), she was fine with it.
there not trying to have an extension of themselves they want the best for you so if you mr not talking to your mom and all of a sudden your cutting all your hair off ofc that concerning
@@paigewashington5430I told my mum over and over that I wanted to cut my hair and she refused so aggressively that as soon as I moved to college it was the first think I did and when she found out she cried and screamed at me why I would do something like that even though I had expressed how amazing and happy it made me feel…. Yeah, I don’t think you’re speaking for all parents 😅
@@paigewashington5430Sometimes. Sometimes, it really is refusing to acknowledge a child's autonomy. I (17) have never been ALLOWED to cut my hair above shoulder length because it is "masculine and you would look ugly." I have been asking to cut it for the past six or so years. Sometimes it really is concern, but at the end of the day there is no reason for a parent to absolutely refuse a haircut unless it's a small child choosing something ridiculous.
I have hair that matts and dreads within a few hours of being brushed and so having short hair is a life saver. I’ve never met anyone with hair like mine
Do you have really fine hair? Mine does that too really quickly after brushing and I’ve literally had hair dressers call their coworkers over to touch my hair because apparently it’s not a common texture/hair type they see! I don’t know if it’s necessarily that it’s really fine, or if it’s something else that leads to it though🤔 I keep my braided or tightly wrapped and in a clip to protect it though but I never wear it down because it gets matted so quickly no matter the length.
I have rlly fine hair but alot of it, and it does the same as yours. I have curls but they have gotten weaker as i hit teenhood lol, i want to get a pixie but maybe only in uni
it took me several hours every day to detangle my hair when it was long, and it tangled back again in half a second, we regularly had to cut knots out i never met anyone with hair like mine was either
Mine does the exact same, getting my hair combed as a child honestly became traumatic so I'd end up going weeks with combing my hair or changing the style and i only recently learned how to handle it myself
My hair does this. I’ve come close to shaving it off dozens of times. Literally hours and I’m all matted again when I’ve done nothing that even touched it.
I shaved most of my head when I was 13. My hair was almost to my waist at that time. I had like 5 hairdressers next to me in shock that I wanted to do that. They asked me like 10 times if I was sure and I said yes everytime. Surprise I ended up hating it😂 (it looked better after like a month) BUT I’m glad I still did it bc I would’ve never known what it was like (and glad that I did it young lol). Now my hair is to my waist again
Exactly. Parents who freak out about hair are insane. Even if their kid regrets it and hates it to all hell, it'll grow back. Let them make that decision and learn and grow.
no bc when i went by he/they in middle school and i wanted to get a short haircut they gave me a feminine pixie cut because the hairdresser “didnt want me to look like a boy” ????
No cause I’d ask her to cut the sides like a boys haircut and she’d be like oh hunny you don’t want that, let’s make it longer and I’ve you side bangs, ended up jsut cutting my hair myself (it’s curly so you can’t tell much) and when I came back she was like oh you cut your own hair? It’s not even? And I was like someone had to give me the cut I wanted 😃
A hairdresser did this to me! I was wanting to cut alll my hair off bc it was damaged and i left with a tiny afto bc she didnt want mw to regret my choice. I did, by going to her lol. I just shaved my shit myself
Good christ, thus has happened so often to me I'm sorry you understand this feeling as well. The woman who's cut my hair since I was 2 straight up said "married women shouldn't have short hair this short" and "I don't like this style in the picture, I'm cutting it different" and gave me a long bowl cut. I was fuming and went home and used my husband's clippers and now I cut my own hair. It's so freeing
I had a stubborn hairdresser the first time i got a haircut, i came in with very specific pic of an assymetrical bob and the hairdresser just refused to do it the way i wanted because "this will look choppy and too masculine on you" so she gave me a symmetrical bob way longer than i asked that made me look like a girl So we went back like an hour later when my hair dried (she dreeencheddd my hair with the spray bottle and didnt dry it at all) and got it fixed the way i wanted with a new person and they didnt charge us cos i was still crying about it Now i just cut my hair at home. Like we're paying anyway just cut my hair, if i dont like it ill cry about it later anyway
I'll never understand why parents get so hysterical about their daughters (or presumed daughters) want a hair cut. I also wanted my hair cut when I was younger bcs it was unmanageable, and then years passed, and then I just cut it myself. A few freak outs happened but I got what I want cauee I am my own person who can decide my appearance lol
I wish, my dad doesn't want me to because I'll look more masculine... and? My hair physically makes me want to cry all the time. But nooo I have to wait till im 18... which is a couple years from now but fuck it. 😒
@@tsubaki7370just put an absurd amount of gum all through your hair at the length you want it cut to. Your dad would be a huge dick to make you keep gum hair till your 18
@@tsubaki7370 personally I did wait till I was 18, but i think they only say that hoping you'll change your mind, cause they once again said I shouldnt when I said it's about time I do cut it. So I just cut it myself. (I did have to stay with a horrible self done haircut for like a month though, so if you do it yourself, do consider watching a tutorial.) If you just cut it yourself or do like other person recommended, itll have to get fixed up eventually. I also literally had episodes of crying abt my hair bcs it was hard to comb, looked horrible, etc, and just cutting it wouldve been great for my mental health at the time (and is now too). Now I feel much more free with my shorter hair. 😊
@@phibie8853 Yea, I do trim it myself here and there. (I've seen so mamy people cut their hair horribly and I am NOT going to be one of those people) And, yes, my hair physically and mentally bothers me constantly and I have CONSTANTLY told my parents but my dad won't budge, so what I'll do is have a boyish haircut to screw with him, then be tame and have it just off my neck. Also, thank you for telling your story. I feel you on a personal level.
I was getting my hair buzzed, at this point my hair was almost at my shoulders which is too long for me (FtM btw), and the hairdresser was like " That's alot of hair your going to loose," I looked her dead in her eyes and told her " It's just hair, if I don't like it, it will grow back, I'm not going to get mad for something I asked you to do." She cut my hair the way I wanted it without complaint.
I'm gonna give y'all the best advice i wish I'd gotten earlier: FUCK salons for really short cuts. I say this with all the love in my heart for the many MANY wonderful hair stylists working at salons. Just go to a barber!!! They're usually p cheap (20-30 send to be the average) and they'll do a GOOD JOB. Like, even as they're hesitant because they're like, oh no i don't know how to cut "women's hair" like just be like I'm literally here getting a "men's cut" i believe in u lmao and like. They'll do SO GOOD. I literally spent years going to salons to maintain a cut my sister in law gave me. EVERY TIME i went in i complained that the cut war crooked but they'd always just maintain that mild crookedness, literally like 8 years i went through this, even going to a couple like. Fairly expensive salons. And the result was always like...fine? Like whatever, luckily i knew to be like "just take me down to a 1" and assure them i'd done it before and they'd do as asked (helps that I'm an adult too lmao). Just this year though i finally went to a real barber, finally got over that like nervousness of going somewhere unfamiliar, and Y'ALL. He fuckin MATHED my hair, like he even explained he was just like, oh yeah i just gotta measure it out. And like, he got me growing out a couple sections so it looks a lil funky but y'all, it's SO GOOD. And he did this lil fade??? And it looks SO good. Go to a barber y'all!!!! It might be a lil weird but it'll be fine and you'll be so happy and they'll shave your head good!!!!!
Hair dressers can be fucking annoying about giving short hair to people they perceive as women. Heres my story about that shit for context i am a transman but am perceived socially as a women Last year i shaved my head but my hair grows really quickly so soon i needed a haircut My boyfriend needed a haircut too and so we decided to get haircuts together using his hairdresser When i get my hair done she shaves it a 3 on the sides and im like could you do a one on the side? And she actually refused? She did a 2 instead and was like the 1 is going to be sooo short on you My boyfriend gets his hair cut she says to him "So just rhe usual? 1 on the sides?" AAND USES A 1 TO SHAVE THE SIDES OF HIS HAIR I WANTED TO SCREAM OMFG The next time i actually just made my boyfriend tell her to use a 1 on the sides for me beacuse she reufsed to listen to me and guess what happened when a cis man asked on my behalf... i got the haircut :/ Him and i were both very annoyed by this interaction and it was so clearly sexism and it was disheartening seeing as the hairdresser was a women who also frequently tslked about being cool and how she had mullets and dyes her hair fun colours and just trying to be this fun person whilst still perpetuating gender stereotypes on me. So disappointing. Its sad how dispite me being the only person in that room who had shaved my head i was also the only person not trusted to have agency over my hair and whether it was shaved. So disaapointing.
I asked for a short short haircut, not quite a buzz cut but still short, and ended up with a bob cut.. Yeah no hairdressers need to stfu and do their job properly, like alr if you accidentally mess up but straight up refusing to do something you've specifically been asked to do is shitty
I like my short hair. I waited way too long! My sister and I shaved her head except the bangs (Chelsea cut) when she was in highschool. My mom freaked a bit but at the end of the day she let us do our thing. I started bix dying my hair around 11. By 13 it was blonde with pink streaks. And this was the late 90s, so i definitely got stares and even got sent to the principals office over it. My mom defended me, "there isn't anything about hair color in the dress code so how dare you call me in here over something like this" type thing. Then they added "no bright hair colors" ...so i dyed it brown,which turned the pink to purple. Not bright! Then I did emerald green, and eventually blue black. 😅
I've always hated when parents/hairdressers think they own and get to decide what your hair becomes. I had a dramatic cut in 7th grade, and everybody was saying how brave I was or how they missed my long hair. Its hair, it's not status, it's not happiness, its hair and it grows back. Since then I've had 2 more dramatic cuts (including fully shaving my head) and it's funny seeing everybody's reactions
I don’t understand why hairdressers feel the need to input their opinion on how short you want to cut your hair 💀 for the longest time since I was little every time I went to get my haircut. I always wanted it really short like pixie cut length, but the hairdressers would always say “oh your hair is curly is will curl up to the length you want”. My hair is not curly, it’s that weird in between of wavy and curly. Needless to say it never curled up and it was always chin length 💀 Edit: or one time I wanted my hair really short the lady refused to buzz the back because she didn’t want to have to make another appointment for me to keep up the trim 💀 like hello? I would probably grow it out anyway but why is it up to you that I make another appointment???
Ugh yes, I feel you!! My mom refused to let me cut my hair.. I wanted my own identity so I just cut it myself and died it black 💀 my mom literally beat me and I swear she hated me after that like she never treated me the same after I basically told her I'm my own person
Actually we are responsible for you until you are 18 and that's because children under 18 are incapable of making proper choices for themselves. Oh well.
These repliers seem to think that their children are an extension of them. Yikes. A kid’s only going to learn from a mistake if they’re allowed to make said mistake when the consequences are minimal.
@@jules9111Not at all, over protective or over bearing parents usually leads to resentment and hatred of your parents. There needs to be rules sure, but if you have too many youre just setting your kid up for failure.
I used to be friends with a hairdresser. I wanted to bleach half my head and she said that I might as well bleach all of my head since it’s going to take the same amount of time. I only wanted half. I still ended up bleaching half. I wanted black and blonde hair. Ended up with purple hair. My hair was too dark to have the blonde I wanted and she said if we dyed if purple it would fade and balance the blonde. When it faded it was gray. Safe to say I just kept dying my hair different colors until it grew out. Just go with someone who knows what they’re doing and says yes to what you want, not makes suggestions with what they can do.
Since shaving my head a few years back I highly recommend to everyone to shave their head at least once in your life even if you hate it, it’s such an eye opening experience and very freeing
I agree!! Mine is long again now but shaving it felt great. Finally not being able to hide behind my hair was a huge confidence booster, definitely recommend trying it at least once
@@APerson863 I wish that was the case for me. I have short hair now and I hate it. I hate that it will take months, maybe even years for it to grow back to where it was before I got a big cut.
my dad shaved his head when he was a teenager and absolutly hated it because it looked bad since he has an oval shaped head and my sister wanted to get her head shaved too but since she has the same head shape as our dad my parents were able to talk her out of it and to simply get the back of her head shaved to see if she likes it ( when there is still longer hair covering it) she was nervous at first so she didn't do it but she did it after 2 years and liked it now she has her hair at chin lenght and we both agreed it looked better when she put the in a half ponytail.
You have absolutely no idea how much you have just helped me. I’m really sick & waiting for an operation & my hair is just falling out so much. I’m now going to get it all cut off, thank you 😊❤
It's so freeing! My hair got destroyed when my physical and mental health got really bad, and I ended up cutting it all off in a 1cm buzz. It looked much better than I thought it was going to and was so much less stress to take care of. My health has stabilized more now, and I'm growing it back out. It's down to my shoulders now!
I’m going to hairdressing school in a few months and when I become a hairdresser I will ALWAYS listen and do exactly what my clients want. It is their hair and their money. I hate when hairdressers don’t do what the client wants because they don’t think it will look good or whatever (sometimes it’s for the health of the hair for example I wouldnt bleach someone’s hair with extreme damage because it could create hair loss) because it shouldn’t matter what the stylist thinks it’s the clients hair!!
oh ive had this!! my mum cried so much when i first cut my hair short and then absolutely panicked when i shaved it (it was still pretty short lmao) now i have a great hairdresser whos up for literally anything and i can just show him like 3 reference pics and hell do exactly what i want but its been a JOURNEY girl!!! id been doing my own hair for years at this point!!!
I wanted a wolfcut (idk if it didnt have a name at the time or if i just didnt know it, so i just asked for a layered blowout type thing and showed the best picture i could find) when i was younger. The lady preceded to tell me "no, that'll make you look like a boy" (which i am a guy) "i dont want to do that" "are you sure you want it that short?" (I had 3 feet of hair before cutting it) and the list goes on. I was paying her to do as i asked with my hair. She gave me a bowlcut though and i was pissed. Now i just have my partner cut my hair
I get not wanting to be the one to do it since it’s a big moment with a lot of pressure on her if you didn’t like it in the end but to literally stop the haircut in the middle to prevent you from doing it is ridiculous. She at least should of passed you over to someone who WAS willing to do the shave
The mom forced them to stop- The hairdresser was going to do it fully but the mother came in screaming and with how it was described I wouldn't doubt that the hairdresser was screamed at by the mother telling her to stop and that her daughter's hair shouldn't be that short.
oh my goodness! I love your videos and I was wondering if you could do a makeup tutorial for your more simple every day looks. Your skin always looks so stunning and i love your eye makeup!! So simple yet magical, much love.
I snuck off campus to a salon to get my hair buzzed off. I deal with a disorder that makes me pull my hair out yet my parents [mostly dad] refused to allow me to do it despite how thin and gross my hair became from anxiety and truama that I was dealing with causing me to pull out my hair. Was liberating and the first step to getting out from under the thumb if a narcissistic and emotionally abusive parent. [I'm leaving context out for that, the internet doesn't need to know THAT much]
A similar thing happened to me in middle school. I asked for a very short men's haircut (i had medium length mostly dead hair)and the hairstylist refused to cut my hair as short as i wanted it. So i ended up with the EXACT same mushroom-y haircut with a long and heavy side bang. Crazy how some hair stylists think other people's hair is their decision. I ended up having to cut my own hair since then, since that stylist is the only one in business in my area.
As a young trans guy, haircuts have always been hell for me. Hated them as a kid, and then had to fight to get my hair cut into a “pixie” cut. (which is what i have now) But it wasnt easy convincing my mother, who told me “my hair was already short” (it was like shoulder length) and that “i cant get it any shorter” obviously i can, because i have it now. thanks dad
Had experiences like this. Mine probably were extra due to being real rural arkansas, but it's more common than it should be. I wanted pretty much what you got in the end, long on top and short on the sides but specifically asked for a boxier, more masc cut (I was casually transing my gender.) The lady point-blank refused, after a lot of effort on my part I ended up with something like a bowl cut, but shorter in the back 🤢 and even when I did successfully get it shorter, it took me several appointments to convince them to use a buzzer on my head at all. They'd use scissors to painstakingly crop the sides and back because buzzers are for men, I guess 😅
some hairdressers do you so dirty like...i asked for this specific haircut to look more masc back when i was 18 and ended up looking like my grandma 💀 after that i just gave up and shaved my head at home cause id rather be bald than have that shit hairstyle 😭 after that ive just cut my own hair at home and it always looked great and like i wanted it to 👍
i got the worst effing haircut from a man who convinced me not to get a full buzz. my hair was already totally fried and neon green so idek why he wanted me to keep it so bad😭. never went back to him again, and got a lovely hairdresser who was a delight to talk to and actually listened to what i wanted❤
Out of all the weird and abusive shit my parents did to me, my mum was actually really good about my appearance. She always said "it's just hair, it can grow back". Grateful for this.
Lmao I remember as a 25yr old I wanted to shave the side of my hair, like fully shave! But my hairstylist was nervous bc she didn't know if it would look good (I did, I have thick, wavy/curly hair and saw ppl with my hair type have the haircut) so she talked me down to shaving a quarter of my head instead of half. Now at 29 yrs old I have both side of my head shaved down to the nape of my neck, giving me a cool, long Mohawk look!
i love to hear from people in the comments that the hairdresser actually REFUSED to cut theirr long hair. i've had the exact opposite experience for my entire life. i have always had incredibly long hair and the hairdressers would BULLY me into cutting it, even though it was always healthy. they would say shite like -oh long hair isn;t trendy etc. And when i was 16 i went for a fresh up, to cut about 3 inches(8cm) that needed, and the hairdresser lied to me and ended up cuting half of my hair (about 12 inches). i haven't gone to hair salon ever since and never going to. i bought a hairdresser's scissors and being doing my fresh up at home ever since. so yes, i agree with y'all that if you ask for a cut they SHOULD oblidge but it is nice to hear that some hairdressers are not so prone into cutting as i have experienced my entire life...
I feel you. I get haircuts once every three or four years, always a big chop, because I donate my long hair to a charity making wigs for cancer patients. I've done it a few times now and to say that some hairdressers are worried about endorsing and providing massive changes is an understatement. I've had to show proof that I've had my hair cut short before, had to explain in detail that I just grow it entirely virgin specifically because my hair is ginger and long, natural ginger wigs are in demand for the charity. I always say "cut it as short as you're comfortable cutting it, but I don't wanna be bald, my head will be cold and I can't hack that." 😂
I DIY’d cutting my hair and then shaving the sides a few years ago (I can’t believe it’s been that long) and I don’t regret it at all! It was what I wanted and needed at that time and I’m glad I allowed myself to experiment and experience that.
Actually had the opposite experience. I was around 12-13 when I went to a hair dresser and told her I wanted an inch trimmed off my hair. Context: My hair was medium as it went past my shoulders. As she finished washing my hair, SHE GOT OUT A RAZOR AND STARTED SHAVING THE BACK OF MY HEAD. Then just in huge lobs like cutting through multiple stacks of paper. I had a very bad looking pixie cut and me and my mother couldn’t say a word about it. Another time (not the same place) the stylist told me “I shouldn’t cut my hair because short hair makes me look boyish”.
I've also had a hairdresser assume I didnt know what I wanted when I asked to go from waist-length hair to a pixie cut. I ended up with a sort of bob. I looked like Trinity from The Matrix, but when she's not IN the matrix.
I went to a British public school when I was 15. The headmaster told me that I needed to act more "British". So I had my friend give me a mohawk. Unfortunately, his dad came home in the middle, freaked out and sent me home after only 1 side was shaved. My dad finished it in the morning much to my headmaster's dismay because he couldn't really say much since my did said he did it.
It’s annoying when you’re afab and ask for a short haircut and they give you a more feminine and longer haircut. Like bitch I’m paying you for that shit?
I swear you told us a story about your parents being against you dying your hair or altering your appearance in any way too much lol ?! Of COURSE she was going to be mad about you SHAVING it all off! 😂😂❤
My daughter tried to shock my husband and me by asking if she could dye her hair blonde. ( she has dark chestnut brown hair.) I told her sure you can try to get your hair dyed blonde. I will take you to the salon myself; and you can ask the hairdresser if she can dye your hair blonde. The next Saturday we went to the salon. My daughter asked the hairdresser if she can dye her blonde? When the hairdresser said she can't do that. My daughter was very disappointed and confused. She came to the waiting area to ask if I could get the hairstylist to dye her hair blonde. I told her no she is 15 and she can deal with it herself by changing one word. It took her four months to get over me not helping her to dye her hair blonde.😂 She figured it out by watching a episode of American housewife. When the oldest daughter went blonde and the mom said I can't believe you BLEACH your beautiful brown hair.😂😂
I would have cried if my daughter went from that super long hair to a shaved head too. But at that age, you’ve just got to let them do what they wanna do with their hair. They’re definitely old enough.
i asked for short hair and the lady cutting it was hesitant at first, and apparently its because usually when girls say short, they will get upset if its TOO short. so they make it longer than u say regardless to play it safe bc they think youll regret it afterwards? but i told her nah i want it all gone like 3 times and she was like say less
i wanted a short haircut, and the hairdresser refused because i had such “beautiful natural curly hair”. doesn’t matter. it’s just hair. fucking shave it.
My Mom used to forcibly dye my hair so I looked more like my half siblings. That experience really scared me as a mixed race kid. Now I have no emotional attachment to my hair and I have to develop strong relationships with hair dressers to be able to ask for what I want. Shout out to my current one for being so kind and understanding.
I'm a trans man. I was 24 when I did the big chop. I'd been researching the best way to ask for it. I wrote down exactly which guard numbers I wanted on my head. I specifically said "I want a masculine haircut" and "may I cut off the ponytails myself please?" Which I think convinced her I meant business. She didn't let me touch her scissors though, so I didn't do the chop myself. I'd bothered to do the research because I'd said "I want it short" before and left with a bob that, while absolutely adorable and flattering, made my suicidality worse. I didn't tell my parents I was going to do it. My spawn point had a tantrum for the rest of the day, and then had a stick up her ass about it for another couple months. They don't know I'm trans, for obvious reasons. My spawn point freaked out about a measley haircut, I certainly wasn't going to tell her I'm on testosterone. She got her dress up dolly for 24 years. I was suicidal for 12 of them. Her dolly was going to die either way- I just chose not to rot in the ground.
Dude when I wanted to cut my really long hair the lady refused to do it too! I grew it out to donate it. And she said no I would regret having a pixie And I told her I had a pixie before it's only this long to donate and she literally cut off a few inches asking if I liked this length first because it was so much cuter for my beautiful hair. My jaw dropped because it made the hair to short to donate and I know she knew that. I made her cut it to my shoulders and had to go to another hairdresser to get a pixie because she refused to fix it.
Ughhh, it always pisses me off when hairdressers or family members want to decide for you how your hair should be. I've heard its common for them to not want you to cut your hair if its too long, and it sounds annoying
Also, my mom's old hair stylist says that she should have highlights too "hide the gray hairs" (she always had it dyed). The highlights made her look old 💀
Apparently hairdressers everywhere are difficult. I wanted my hair ≈5mm on the side and ≈7mm on top because summer was coming and my hair feels like it forms a closed surface trapping heat better than any isolation in existence. I’ve argued with three different hairdressers that all wanted to convince me to leave my hair longer. I then bought an electric razor and cut my hair to the length I wanted it to be, which I still do
Honestly, I’m glad I have a hairdresser that allows me to shave my head meanwhile my mom (who also was a hairdresser) just tells me “I’ll only shave your hair if you have cancer.“
I went from hair down to my ass to practically buzz cut and my hairdresser got soooo excited about it and then I had to be like oh btw we need to braid it before we cut it off I’m donating it. Her honest reaction was “that’s a shame you could have gotten £200 for each braid since you have such healthy hair” my 11 year old self was so tempted so thank god we’d already got the envelope because I was like “no I’m already ready to post it to them and they know it’s coming”. Told me to come back when I grow it long enough to sell and I’ve just kept it short for 7 years with some different styles and even getting my own clippers 💀💀
cutting and shaving my hair used to be the only thing I could control growing up in a toxic household, so I had almost every hair cut my brain could think of until I shaved off my head, which was the last hair cut I ever did before I got my own apartment.
Whenever I’d grow my hair out when I was younger, I’d end up cutting off like 10 inches of it to donate. When did it when I was 13 though, I decided I wanted a super short, boyish cut with an undercut. It was a big change, but I had wanted to cut my hair for a long time since it had been making me uncomfortable. Anyway, my stylist leaves it like 3 inches longer than I wanted with a weird round bob thing because she “didn’t want me to regret it “. Needless to say, I went back a couple weeks later to get the actual cut I wanted from a different stylist. I totally agree that stylists are allowed to offer their professional opinion and consultations, but at the end of the day I’m paying for the service and it’s my hair not yours.
I did it in my bathroom! By the time I was done, there was nothing my mom could do about it. She literally just gave me the blankest look and muttered, "Well, we can't FIX it now." I love my mom. She still hates that I regularly shave my head XD
If you aren’t going to do someone’s hair when they pay you and tell you what they want don’t become a hairdresser If you refuse to do a paid for haircut what’s the point of your job(unless it’s a punishment haircut please refuse those) Don’t just say”no I’m no doing that” it isn’t your hair you shouldn’t care other than making it look how the person wants
I had a bob for the longest time, but I’ve always wanted a side shave with it long in the front. Two years ago, we went and got a pixie cut. Around 3months ago, I grabbed an electric razor and some scissors, trimmed the sides to about an inch, and then shaved the rest off. We then went to get it dyed. Now I have the cool ass hair I always wanted. Shaved sides, around an inch in the back, and chin length purple waves in the front!
Yeah I pretty much shaved my head it was great! I absolutely am hating the grow out process but it was revolutionary and I found who actually likes me and who doesn’t. People were so obsessed with my “beauty” telling me how I can look prettier and what size my body looks best at. So I shaved my head and everyone who was there for me eventually left. And it was all because I let go of caring to be beautiful and actually live my damn life rather than trying to be beautiful!! Materialistic people no mas in my life 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
I was going through it and right before a school year started i wanted to shave off my long brown hair and dye the whole head purple. The change was so drastic the hairdresser i chose came in on her off day to do my hair. It came out more of a carebear pink and it reigns as one of my favorite hairstyles of all time. When it faded i had streaks of pink with the blonde i called it my sunset hair 😊
One time I went to a hairdresser and showed her a picture of this really fluffy, androgynous hairstyle and she told me it was “just a styled pixie cut” (it very obviously wasn’t) and then gave me a pixie cut, no styling, and didn’t show me how to get it anywhere remotely close to the picture I showed her. I almost cried when I got home cause I hated it to much. Never went back there and now I go to a lady that actually listens to what I want and communicates with me to make sure she’s getting it right
I don't care what anyone says, if a hairdresser quite literally denies doing the only thing they are there to do, give me/you/anyone the hair that was asked for, no pay. If I ask for a shaved head, you shave my head or you get no money. Endof story.
@@oliviac2585 and I think its fair to do literally the one thing you are paid for... a hairdresser can not want to cut long hair but if they're being paid to do so their wants don't mean anything.
@@izzyq9200 I'm just saying a lot of people do drastic things to their hair when they're upset, so I think it's fair to not want to do it immediately, especially when it's a child who doesn't have a parent there. A tattoo artist has the right to refuse work and I think the same goes for hairdressers.
@@oliviac2585 idk man i think comparing tattoos to a haircut is a big jump. One is in most cases a permanent change to ones body where as hair grows back.
@@izzyq9200 I'm not saying a haircut and a tattoo are equivalent, just that both are artists who should have a choice in what work they do/do not do. It's not just "I'm paying you so you have to do what I say". I'm just saying if I were the hairstylist I wouldn't shave someone with long hair bald without having a consultation and/or checking with parents/guardians first.
Can we just normalize women with no long hair already? The fact that hair dresser said no is annoying. If a girl decides to shave her head it doesn’t mean she’s crazy. Let people live already
I also wanted a really short hairstyle. The hairdresser said she felt Bad for my hair, meanwhile I was in the chair physically unable to fight through washing my hair. After that I've cut my own hair every time I wanted something new. It is so refreshing and it's nice to know that even if I mess it up I've tried doing something new and learned a skill.
Dude I’m so sorry that happened to you. People don’t understand, whether you just have way too much hair or you’re in pain or your mental health is in the toilet.. my hair is not important! It will grow back! Bodily autonomy being violated WHEN YOU ARE PAYING A PROFESSIONAL makes my blood boil.
It’s almost like you should be able to cut your hair however you want!! I can’t stand stylists who think they know better than what you want.
Fr I wanted a pixie cut as a kid she did the opposite hair style my hair has always been done by former hairdressers that are family sence I cut my hair last and got a few comments on it :D
Same, I just got tired of no one listening or coming out with hair I hated. I started cutting it myself and I've made plenty of mistakes, but they were MY mistakes. I'm no hairdresser, but I'm happy at the end of the day knowing the decision was all mine.
I've had similar experiences and have been cutting my own hair for years now. I had long hair on top and shaved around as a teen, decided to grow it out, asked the hairdresser just to trim it up and make it even with the sides so I can grow it easier. She refused saying I'll look like I had a buzz cut. Ended up with an ugly not quite pixie that was not easy to grow out. And the woman who shaved my sides and back before almost didn't do it because "your hair is just so pretty" Ma'am it's thick and heavy 😭
I refuse to pay for an overpriced, unwanted, and typically uncomfortable haircut. If I mess up, it's on me and I can use the saved money for a treat.
so tired of hairdressers trying to decide what you do with your own hair. you're paying them for a service, they should do what you tell them to do. why do they think it's okay to give their opinion when it's not asked for?
The hairdresser didn’t force her to do anything, it was her mom.
@@strxwbxrry_420they probably talk about the first hairdresser
Unless it's a chemical service that could fry your hair, you shouldn't refuse someone who wants a service from you
Her general age and how drastic a change she could be convinced that she’s going to regret it and make a complaint idk
@@MadMetalMidget yeah but hair can grow back, experience can not
I hate when hairstylists do that. I have type 3b curls and they are beautiful if I do say so myself, but I needed a trim desperately so I want in to get like 5 inches off, and this stylist said “Omg your hair is gorgeous! Why do you want to cut it? I’d kill for your hair.” And then told my mom she REFUSES to cut my hair and a stylist with an afro stepped in, cut my hair, and said sorry that her co worker was being so rude to a customer.
Ooooh my stylist says something like “aww such beautiful curls and you want to cut them off :((“ YET it’s playful and just to make small talk with my mom. She still cuts it as short as I want, while also telling me where she’ll stop so I don’t look awkward with a super short hair.
It’s gotten even curlier since I take better care of my hair, so I don’t go as short as I did before.
I also have curly hair and I’ll go somewhere to get it cut and the hair stylist will say it is gorgeous and refuse to cut it. Not in an asshole “I’m refusing because I’m not letting you” way but in a “I don’t want to mess up your hair” way. Because curls are very different than every other hair texture. So unless she told you that specifically don’t always assume the worst in people
@@Dinonugget_111 She told her she didn't want to cut it because it was too pretty, not because she's inexperienced. You communicate that to the customer properly.
Imagine you order something in a restaurant on the menu and they tell you they refuse to make it because you look good without eating it. If they said the chef who makes it wasn't available, that's a different story.
I'm sorry that happened.
@@squirrel670 you pulled half that information outta your ass my guy 💀
My father refused to let me dye my blonde hair black. One night after everyone went to sleep I dyed it black. It looked great! Next morning my dad flips out and drags me to a salon, telling her that I didn't have permission to dye it black and demanding that the stylist bleach it blonde again. The stylist looked at a very upset and humiliated me and said 'I can't bleach it and no one should try because she used permanent dye, it will likely make all her hair break and fall off'. Later I learned that this probably wasn't true, and I realized she only said that to save me from being blonde again and stop my dad from controlling my appearance. I was so grateful.
And wouldn't you know, my blonde roots never seemed to grow in! My dad was furious about it but here I am 10 years later with jet black hair that looks so much better than the blonde ever did, and I've gone no contact with my dad (for many reasons, not just my hair). Living my best life and I still think of her sometimes!
Are you saying you’re one of those people who’s hair suddenly changed colour, or are you saying that you just kept dying the roots like “hehe blonde roots? Pffft, whattt? No my hair is actually black now.”
no it definitely was true, it’s hard to go over black hair with bleach. Your hair would have likely turned a terrible color and fell off. But she probably was also trying to help you aswell.
My mom always said my hair could turn black forever but in middle school you learn your hair is a genetic thing, and they say your genetics can't be changed so I didn't believe her, I did not know until just now at 17 years and 4 months old. I've always wanted to dye my hair and I still do, but maybe I won't do permanent
@@lri828Hair color can definitely change over ten years ☠️ mine hasn’t, but I’ve noticed a trend of it changing with redheads and natural platinum blondes. They’ll be one hair color as a baby and by kindergarten, they’ve swapped to the other one without a hint of it ever being the previous one.
No she was definitely telling the truth lmao
All throughout middle school and highschool the hair dressers ALWAYS told me bangs wouldn't look good with my hair type and sadly I listened until I decided to do it myself I look great they just didn't think I'd take care of them
You need to take care of bangs?? How?
@@InuInugami it was a learning process to me because i have really curly frizzy hair I suggest not washing them too often, use hair oil, and heat protective if you plan on straightening them
@@RandomIvan101 Dang that's a lot I figured it was just like normal hair but short :/
@@InuInugami trust me the last thing you want are ratty looking bangs i had them look so weird for a while
Edit: I wanted to mention on top of all of that when I wash it I put it in one of those big hair curled rolls
@@InuInugamiI’ve noticed that if I go a while between cutting my bangs, the first day or so after, they look a little strange before the hair chills out and stops looking like I stuck my finger in an outlet. And gods help anyone with a cowlick in the bang area of their head. It takes effort and time to make them look right if you have a cowlick there.
The same happened to me. The hairdresser even asked my Mom if she was okay with it, and my mom gave her the okay. We ended up leaving with an exact copy of "coconut heads" hair cut (Ned's declassified school servival guide). I loved it, but my mom secretly hated it, so she sent me back. Hairdresser with colorful hair finally gave me the correct haircut, and I looked amazing.
The worst part is the haircut took forever because the first hairdresser kept cutting little by little, asking if it was short enough as if trying to make me regret my choice
To clear things up, I told the woman I wanted a pixie cut and showed them a picture of Kaley Cuoco since she inspired me to cut it cause I thought she looked so beautiful with short hair.
I kept telling the hairdresser I wanted short hair and my mom did also even my dad came up and told her He was okay with me getting a Pixie cut. We left with a bowl cut because she had taken so long the store was starting to close.
no... that's a sign of a good hair dresser. she was trying to be courteous since once you chop it off you cant get that length back, so she went little by little so that she could make sure you leave with a cut you're perfectly satisfied with. she's not a mind reader, i assure you she didnt know the exact length you desired, it's impossible for her to read your mind no matter how many reference pics shes shown 😭 see what i mean?
@@atlas8912no? If i say i want my hair shaved on the sides with two inches on top (idk what haircut they wanted) and i show them a picture of the exact haircut i want, I genuinely don’t think anyone sane who listens to the customers request should give you a coconut head bowl cut. That’s stupid. The kid came in clearly set on what they wanted (short and in the style they described) so making sure they wanted it by giving them a longer haircut isn’t “courteous”, it’s rude and a waste of time. I understand if you think it’s a punishment haircut and refusing but that wasn’t the case and sounds clear from the way they commented. I’ve had a similar experience as an adult. After several months of covid, my hair which is always short actually grew out to near my shoulders. I asked for a fade and showed reference pictures and told the hair dresser i always have it short but it grew out during covid and she had the audacity to tell me i was lying. She cut my hair to what i can only describe as the ysolda breton haircut from skyrim. I thought she was cutting off some length before buzzing since my hair was kind of long at that point, and next i knew she was asking me how i liked it. I was very baffled by the fact i asked her for a short buzzed fade (i even used the word “masculine haircut”) and she didn’t even pull out the clippers. How is that courteous? If i don’t like the haircut that i chose, that’s on me. The hairdresser isnt supposed to ensure you like it, they’re supposed to ensure the best quality of the cut requested. In a perfect world they’ll like it but sometimes you end up realising a haircut doesn’t look as good on you as it did in theory. It’ll grow out. Maybe a “are you sure?” would suffice, rather than sell a product the customer didn’t request.
@@atlas8912no, if I show you reference pics of buzzed heads and tell you I want to shave my head, they know damn well what I want and then think they know what I want more. I’m not paying someone to say they’ll do what I asked and then ruin what I had without doing what they said they would
@@Mmannk As a hairdresser:
This is what happens.
No. One. Brings. In. Pictures. Out of the 10 clients I had, none had pictures. I had to bring them up myself (which is hard because having phones on the floor in my salon is not allowed)
People come in and say "I just want it shorter" or "Just make it look good"
Communication goes both ways and we aren't mind readers.
@@Nopee906 i show pictures every time. I’m sorry you have customers who don’t but i speak from my own experience that i will ALWAYS bring a picture. Others are like me. And you can always ask for a reference pic if they didn’t or forgot to.
I'm transmasc. The first time i went to get all my hair cut off, the hairdresser refused to take it as short as i wanted it because she told me "you'll hate me if i cut this much off". I wasn't able to take care of my hair because i was so dysphoric and depressed. It was dirty contantly. I enjoyed the haircut, but it wasn't even close to the picture i showed her. The second time i got my hair cut, the hairdresser told my MOM, and not me, that she would "make the sides more feminine". She talked to my mom the whole time about the cut, not me. The third time i had a cool male hairdresser, and he gave me what i actually asked for. But at that time my hair looked really bad bc i was so overdue for a haircut. Now i just buzz my hair every once in a while. My mom asks me "do you want me to go take you? I can go take you..."
It's my hair. Let me be.
When I turned 16, my parents took me to a hair salon in LA to get a pixie cut and dyed hair for the first time. I always had longish brunette hair.
When I told the stylist what I wanted and showed reference pictures, she told me she wouldn’t bleach my hair because it was virgin hair. And she said a pixie cut wouldn’t work for me because I had a round face and looked ‘low maintenance’.
So instead, she gave me a shoulder length bob and dark raspberry hair (not bleached, and I wanted violet)
I literally cried my eyes out when I got home because I’d been looking forward to this haircut for months and was really excited that I’d recently developed a personal style.
My ED was in full swing at that time, and being denied my favorite hairstyle over a ‘round face’ ruined me for a long time.
I still have a hard time trusting hair stylists and just do my hair at home. I only go to a salon if I fuck up my own hair really badly and I can’t fix it.
I forgot to mention that the service was $750 and I didn’t get a single thing I asked for. I later on learned that LA has the most ridiculous salon prices in the country.
I went to Ulta about a month later, and met a lovely hair stylist that was a fellow Melanie Martinez fan. She gave me a perfect pixie cut with split dyed violet and blue-black hair, exactly what I wanted. At the time it costed around $200, which is a bargain for the amazing service.
what the fuck?? that’s absurd, they should not be in that industry if they want their paying customers to be their personal models
Next time please look at the law, thats usually not legal in some places and you couldve gotten your haircut and the money back
I hope you're more confident in your hairstyle choices now and walk away from any worker that doesn't want to give you the style you asked for. ❤
I don't get the 'virgin hair' argument...
Like yeah, it has not been bleached yet and I'd like to pay you to change that please. Do they want me to do a crappy job at home first?
I’m a parent of a fun teenager who has repeatedly cut their own hair, dyed it randomly and shaved their eyebrows. I wish I had parents who would let me do fun things with my hair.
So many people frown on harmless fun.
You sound like an awesome parent.
@@bladenot-runner1795 I have my moments where I struggle with my parenting but I always go back to have a conversation and apologize for being overwhelmed. I’m very neuro spicy with autism and more but my kids are pretty happy.
@@Meipmeep Neuro spicy is a great term, lol. The fact that you apologize at all is way more than most parents do, and clearly they feel safe and supported enough to express themselves. That means a lot.
I think the only reason my mother doesn’t let me do horrendous things with my hair is because she doesn’t want my hair to be damaged. like i tell her about my friends who get their hair dyed and she says “they’re so young! their poor hair!”
i feel like my hair is boring and am constantly trying to spice it up with bangs, hair clips, bows, etc. but it’s just never enough
I think parents react that way because they see us as an extension of themself. I also wasn’t allowed to shave my head but I did a short bob in middle school and then I’m highschool I started to get the classic guy cut with shaved bottoms and a little more hair at the top. Now I’m growing it out again
For me my mum was woried I wouldn't like it shaven and should maybe wait till after exams (she was fine with shoet hair cuts), but when my dad took me and she saw I like it and it didn't look bad (I know this from peoplea comments), she was fine with it.
there not trying to have an extension of themselves they want the best for you so if you mr not talking to your mom and all of a sudden your cutting all your hair off ofc that concerning
@@paigewashington5430I told my mum over and over that I wanted to cut my hair and she refused so aggressively that as soon as I moved to college it was the first think I did and when she found out she cried and screamed at me why I would do something like that even though I had expressed how amazing and happy it made me feel…. Yeah, I don’t think you’re speaking for all parents 😅
@@babybug2023 very much not buddy
@@paigewashington5430Sometimes. Sometimes, it really is refusing to acknowledge a child's autonomy. I (17) have never been ALLOWED to cut my hair above shoulder length because it is "masculine and you would look ugly." I have been asking to cut it for the past six or so years. Sometimes it really is concern, but at the end of the day there is no reason for a parent to absolutely refuse a haircut unless it's a small child choosing something ridiculous.
I have hair that matts and dreads within a few hours of being brushed and so having short hair is a life saver. I’ve never met anyone with hair like mine
Do you have really fine hair?
Mine does that too really quickly after brushing and I’ve literally had hair dressers call their coworkers over to touch my hair because apparently it’s not a common texture/hair type they see! I don’t know if it’s necessarily that it’s really fine, or if it’s something else that leads to it though🤔
I keep my braided or tightly wrapped and in a clip to protect it though but I never wear it down because it gets matted so quickly no matter the length.
I have rlly fine hair but alot of it, and it does the same as yours. I have curls but they have gotten weaker as i hit teenhood lol, i want to get a pixie but maybe only in uni
it took me several hours every day to detangle my hair when it was long, and it tangled back again in half a second, we regularly had to cut knots out
i never met anyone with hair like mine was either
Mine does the exact same, getting my hair combed as a child honestly became traumatic so I'd end up going weeks with combing my hair or changing the style and i only recently learned how to handle it myself
My hair does this. I’ve come close to shaving it off dozens of times. Literally hours and I’m all matted again when I’ve done nothing that even touched it.
I shaved most of my head when I was 13. My hair was almost to my waist at that time. I had like 5 hairdressers next to me in shock that I wanted to do that. They asked me like 10 times if I was sure and I said yes everytime. Surprise I ended up hating it😂 (it looked better after like a month) BUT I’m glad I still did it bc I would’ve never known what it was like (and glad that I did it young lol). Now my hair is to my waist again
Exactly. Parents who freak out about hair are insane. Even if their kid regrets it and hates it to all hell, it'll grow back. Let them make that decision and learn and grow.
Me being transmasc and asking for a short haircut and the lady refusing to cut it in the front because "it looks more feminine like this"
omg that is so...💀 i can't even imagine bruh that's so awkward LOL. like why can't she just keep her weird ass gender conformity issues to herself
trans masc right of passage
no bc when i went by he/they in middle school and i wanted to get a short haircut they gave me a feminine pixie cut because the hairdresser “didnt want me to look like a boy” ????
A hairdresser once didn't want to give me the haircut I wanted because I'd look like "a fat lesbian"
No cause I’d ask her to cut the sides like a boys haircut and she’d be like oh hunny you don’t want that, let’s make it longer and I’ve you side bangs, ended up jsut cutting my hair myself (it’s curly so you can’t tell much) and when I came back she was like oh you cut your own hair? It’s not even? And I was like someone had to give me the cut I wanted 😃
A hairdresser did this to me! I was wanting to cut alll my hair off bc it was damaged and i left with a tiny afto bc she didnt want mw to regret my choice. I did, by going to her lol. I just shaved my shit myself
Good christ, thus has happened so often to me I'm sorry you understand this feeling as well. The woman who's cut my hair since I was 2 straight up said "married women shouldn't have short hair this short" and "I don't like this style in the picture, I'm cutting it different" and gave me a long bowl cut. I was fuming and went home and used my husband's clippers and now I cut my own hair. It's so freeing
I hope you didn't pay her!
I had a stubborn hairdresser the first time i got a haircut, i came in with very specific pic of an assymetrical bob and the hairdresser just refused to do it the way i wanted because "this will look choppy and too masculine on you" so she gave me a symmetrical bob way longer than i asked that made me look like a girl
So we went back like an hour later when my hair dried (she dreeencheddd my hair with the spray bottle and didnt dry it at all) and got it fixed the way i wanted with a new person and they didnt charge us cos i was still crying about it
Now i just cut my hair at home.
Like we're paying anyway just cut my hair, if i dont like it ill cry about it later anyway
I'll never understand why parents get so hysterical about their daughters (or presumed daughters) want a hair cut. I also wanted my hair cut when I was younger bcs it was unmanageable, and then years passed, and then I just cut it myself. A few freak outs happened but I got what I want cauee I am my own person who can decide my appearance lol
I wish, my dad doesn't want me to because I'll look more masculine... and? My hair physically makes me want to cry all the time. But nooo I have to wait till im 18... which is a couple years from now but fuck it. 😒
@@tsubaki7370just put an absurd amount of gum all through your hair at the length you want it cut to. Your dad would be a huge dick to make you keep gum hair till your 18
@@baileyhuff3309 I love how you think. 😂
@@tsubaki7370 personally I did wait till I was 18, but i think they only say that hoping you'll change your mind, cause they once again said I shouldnt when I said it's about time I do cut it. So I just cut it myself. (I did have to stay with a horrible self done haircut for like a month though, so if you do it yourself, do consider watching a tutorial.)
If you just cut it yourself or do like other person recommended, itll have to get fixed up eventually. I also literally had episodes of crying abt my hair bcs it was hard to comb, looked horrible, etc, and just cutting it wouldve been great for my mental health at the time (and is now too). Now I feel much more free with my shorter hair. 😊
@@phibie8853 Yea, I do trim it myself here and there. (I've seen so mamy people cut their hair horribly and I am NOT going to be one of those people) And, yes, my hair physically and mentally bothers me constantly and I have CONSTANTLY told my parents but my dad won't budge, so what I'll do is have a boyish haircut to screw with him, then be tame and have it just off my neck. Also, thank you for telling your story. I feel you on a personal level.
I was getting my hair buzzed, at this point my hair was almost at my shoulders which is too long for me (FtM btw), and the hairdresser was like
" That's alot of hair your going to loose," I looked her dead in her eyes and told her
" It's just hair, if I don't like it, it will grow back, I'm not going to get mad for something I asked you to do." She cut my hair the way I wanted it without complaint.
I'm gonna give y'all the best advice i wish I'd gotten earlier: FUCK salons for really short cuts. I say this with all the love in my heart for the many MANY wonderful hair stylists working at salons. Just go to a barber!!! They're usually p cheap (20-30 send to be the average) and they'll do a GOOD JOB. Like, even as they're hesitant because they're like, oh no i don't know how to cut "women's hair" like just be like I'm literally here getting a "men's cut" i believe in u lmao and like. They'll do SO GOOD. I literally spent years going to salons to maintain a cut my sister in law gave me. EVERY TIME i went in i complained that the cut war crooked but they'd always just maintain that mild crookedness, literally like 8 years i went through this, even going to a couple like. Fairly expensive salons. And the result was always like...fine? Like whatever, luckily i knew to be like "just take me down to a 1" and assure them i'd done it before and they'd do as asked (helps that I'm an adult too lmao).
Just this year though i finally went to a real barber, finally got over that like nervousness of going somewhere unfamiliar, and Y'ALL. He fuckin MATHED my hair, like he even explained he was just like, oh yeah i just gotta measure it out. And like, he got me growing out a couple sections so it looks a lil funky but y'all, it's SO GOOD. And he did this lil fade??? And it looks SO good. Go to a barber y'all!!!! It might be a lil weird but it'll be fine and you'll be so happy and they'll shave your head good!!!!!
JFC I'm so sorry that happened to you, literally why can't parents just let their kids be individuals. It's not her hair not her choice 😭
Also the hairdresser who refused???
Hair dressers can be fucking annoying about giving short hair to people they perceive as women.
Heres my story about that shit for context i am a transman but am perceived socially as a women
Last year i shaved my head but my hair grows really quickly so soon i needed a haircut
My boyfriend needed a haircut too and so we decided to get haircuts together using his hairdresser
When i get my hair done she shaves it a 3 on the sides and im like could you do a one on the side?
And she actually refused?
She did a 2 instead and was like the 1 is going to be sooo short on you
My boyfriend gets his hair cut she says to him
"So just rhe usual? 1 on the sides?"
AAND USES A 1 TO SHAVE THE SIDES OF HIS HAIR I WANTED TO SCREAM OMFG
The next time i actually just made my boyfriend tell her to use a 1 on the sides for me beacuse she reufsed to listen to me and guess what happened when a cis man asked on my behalf... i got the haircut :/
Him and i were both very annoyed by this interaction and it was so clearly sexism and it was disheartening seeing as the hairdresser was a women who also frequently tslked about being cool and how she had mullets and dyes her hair fun colours and just trying to be this fun person whilst still perpetuating gender stereotypes on me. So disappointing.
Its sad how dispite me being the only person in that room who had shaved my head i was also the only person not trusted to have agency over my hair and whether it was shaved. So disaapointing.
I asked for a short short haircut, not quite a buzz cut but still short, and ended up with a bob cut..
Yeah no hairdressers need to stfu and do their job properly, like alr if you accidentally mess up but straight up refusing to do something you've specifically been asked to do is shitty
I like my short hair. I waited way too long! My sister and I shaved her head except the bangs (Chelsea cut) when she was in highschool. My mom freaked a bit but at the end of the day she let us do our thing. I started bix dying my hair around 11. By 13 it was blonde with pink streaks. And this was the late 90s, so i definitely got stares and even got sent to the principals office over it. My mom defended me, "there isn't anything about hair color in the dress code so how dare you call me in here over something like this" type thing. Then they added "no bright hair colors" ...so i dyed it brown,which turned the pink to purple. Not bright! Then I did emerald green, and eventually blue black. 😅
I've always hated when parents/hairdressers think they own and get to decide what your hair becomes. I had a dramatic cut in 7th grade, and everybody was saying how brave I was or how they missed my long hair. Its hair, it's not status, it's not happiness, its hair and it grows back. Since then I've had 2 more dramatic cuts (including fully shaving my head) and it's funny seeing everybody's reactions
I don’t understand why hairdressers feel the need to input their opinion on how short you want to cut your hair 💀
for the longest time since I was little every time I went to get my haircut. I always wanted it really short like pixie cut length, but the hairdressers would always say “oh your hair is curly is will curl up to the length you want”. My hair is not curly, it’s that weird in between of wavy and curly. Needless to say it never curled up and it was always chin length 💀
Edit: or one time I wanted my hair really short the lady refused to buzz the back because she didn’t want to have to make another appointment for me to keep up the trim 💀 like hello? I would probably grow it out anyway but why is it up to you that I make another appointment???
I shaved long hair at the hair dressers and the lady was so excited for it.
Ugh yes, I feel you!! My mom refused to let me cut my hair.. I wanted my own identity so I just cut it myself and died it black 💀 my mom literally beat me and I swear she hated me after that like she never treated me the same after I basically told her I'm my own person
Parents: You don't own your kids' bodies.
Actually we are responsible for you until you are 18 and that's because children under 18 are incapable of making proper choices for themselves. Oh well.
Children: if you live in your parents' house, you live by their rules. You do not get to do whatever you want.
These repliers seem to think that their children are an extension of them. Yikes. A kid’s only going to learn from a mistake if they’re allowed to make said mistake when the consequences are minimal.
@@maximoose7455 You seem to think a child should have no rules or responsibilities to follow. Yikes.
@@jules9111Not at all, over protective or over bearing parents usually leads to resentment and hatred of your parents. There needs to be rules sure, but if you have too many youre just setting your kid up for failure.
I used to be friends with a hairdresser. I wanted to bleach half my head and she said that I might as well bleach all of my head since it’s going to take the same amount of time. I only wanted half. I still ended up bleaching half. I wanted black and blonde hair. Ended up with purple hair. My hair was too dark to have the blonde I wanted and she said if we dyed if purple it would fade and balance the blonde. When it faded it was gray. Safe to say I just kept dying my hair different colors until it grew out. Just go with someone who knows what they’re doing and says yes to what you want, not makes suggestions with what they can do.
Since shaving my head a few years back I highly recommend to everyone to shave their head at least once in your life even if you hate it, it’s such an eye opening experience and very freeing
If you have short hair once you never go back. It just so nice
I agree!! Mine is long again now but shaving it felt great. Finally not being able to hide behind my hair was a huge confidence booster, definitely recommend trying it at least once
@@APerson863 I wish that was the case for me. I have short hair now and I hate it. I hate that it will take months, maybe even years for it to grow back to where it was before I got a big cut.
my dad shaved his head when he was a teenager and absolutly hated it because it looked bad since he has an oval shaped head and my sister wanted to get her head shaved too but since she has the same head shape as our dad my parents were able to talk her out of it and to simply get the back of her head shaved to see if she likes it ( when there is still longer hair covering it) she was nervous at first so she didn't do it but she did it after 2 years and liked it now she has her hair at chin lenght and we both agreed it looked better when she put the in a half ponytail.
You have absolutely no idea how much you have just helped me. I’m really sick & waiting for an operation & my hair is just falling out so much. I’m now going to get it all cut off, thank you 😊❤
It's so freeing! My hair got destroyed when my physical and mental health got really bad, and I ended up cutting it all off in a 1cm buzz. It looked much better than I thought it was going to and was so much less stress to take care of.
My health has stabilized more now, and I'm growing it back out. It's down to my shoulders now!
Omg I felt embarrassment through the screen 😭 at lest you have a pretty funny story to tell now. Also, you look gorgeous, as always 🫶🏼
My mom tried to cut her hair super short recently and the lady told her no. My mom took it as a compliment, but I was shocked people still do that.
I’m going to hairdressing school in a few months and when I become a hairdresser I will ALWAYS listen and do exactly what my clients want. It is their hair and their money. I hate when hairdressers don’t do what the client wants because they don’t think it will look good or whatever (sometimes it’s for the health of the hair for example I wouldnt bleach someone’s hair with extreme damage because it could create hair loss) because it shouldn’t matter what the stylist thinks it’s the clients hair!!
oh ive had this!! my mum cried so much when i first cut my hair short and then absolutely panicked when i shaved it (it was still pretty short lmao) now i have a great hairdresser whos up for literally anything and i can just show him like 3 reference pics and hell do exactly what i want but its been a JOURNEY girl!!! id been doing my own hair for years at this point!!!
I wanted a wolfcut (idk if it didnt have a name at the time or if i just didnt know it, so i just asked for a layered blowout type thing and showed the best picture i could find) when i was younger. The lady preceded to tell me "no, that'll make you look like a boy" (which i am a guy) "i dont want to do that" "are you sure you want it that short?" (I had 3 feet of hair before cutting it) and the list goes on. I was paying her to do as i asked with my hair. She gave me a bowlcut though and i was pissed. Now i just have my partner cut my hair
I get not wanting to be the one to do it since it’s a big moment with a lot of pressure on her if you didn’t like it in the end but to literally stop the haircut in the middle to prevent you from doing it is ridiculous. She at least should of passed you over to someone who WAS willing to do the shave
The mom forced them to stop- The hairdresser was going to do it fully but the mother came in screaming and with how it was described I wouldn't doubt that the hairdresser was screamed at by the mother telling her to stop and that her daughter's hair shouldn't be that short.
oh my goodness! I love your videos and I was wondering if you could do a makeup tutorial for your more simple every day looks. Your skin always looks so stunning and i love your eye makeup!! So simple yet magical, much love.
I snuck off campus to a salon to get my hair buzzed off. I deal with a disorder that makes me pull my hair out yet my parents [mostly dad] refused to allow me to do it despite how thin and gross my hair became from anxiety and truama that I was dealing with causing me to pull out my hair.
Was liberating and the first step to getting out from under the thumb if a narcissistic and emotionally abusive parent. [I'm leaving context out for that, the internet doesn't need to know THAT much]
A similar thing happened to me in middle school. I asked for a very short men's haircut (i had medium length mostly dead hair)and the hairstylist refused to cut my hair as short as i wanted it. So i ended up with the EXACT same mushroom-y haircut with a long and heavy side bang. Crazy how some hair stylists think other people's hair is their decision. I ended up having to cut my own hair since then, since that stylist is the only one in business in my area.
As a young trans guy, haircuts have always been hell for me. Hated them as a kid, and then had to fight to get my hair cut into a “pixie” cut. (which is what i have now) But it wasnt easy convincing my mother, who told me “my hair was already short” (it was like shoulder length) and that “i cant get it any shorter”
obviously i can, because i have it now. thanks dad
I had the same problem, hair dresser decided I was too young and would regret it. I went to a barbershop and the guy buzzed it off no questions asked.
Had experiences like this. Mine probably were extra due to being real rural arkansas, but it's more common than it should be. I wanted pretty much what you got in the end, long on top and short on the sides but specifically asked for a boxier, more masc cut (I was casually transing my gender.) The lady point-blank refused, after a lot of effort on my part I ended up with something like a bowl cut, but shorter in the back 🤢 and even when I did successfully get it shorter, it took me several appointments to convince them to use a buzzer on my head at all. They'd use scissors to painstakingly crop the sides and back because buzzers are for men, I guess 😅
some hairdressers do you so dirty like...i asked for this specific haircut to look more masc back when i was 18 and ended up looking like my grandma 💀 after that i just gave up and shaved my head at home cause id rather be bald than have that shit hairstyle 😭 after that ive just cut my own hair at home and it always looked great and like i wanted it to 👍
I used to do hair and I hated the industry the people are rude the clients are demanding and all I wanted was someone who wanted what you have lmaoo 😂
Getting an electric trimmer is cheaper and more satisfying than arguing with a hairdresser.. i always shave my head myself every few years
i got the worst effing haircut from a man who convinced me not to get a full buzz. my hair was already totally fried and neon green so idek why he wanted me to keep it so bad😭.
never went back to him again, and got a lovely hairdresser who was a delight to talk to and actually listened to what i wanted❤
Out of all the weird and abusive shit my parents did to me, my mum was actually really good about my appearance. She always said "it's just hair, it can grow back". Grateful for this.
I love ur haircut! Though I don’t think I would look good with it you look so pretty in it! It reminds me of Aurora’s hair
Lmao I remember as a 25yr old I wanted to shave the side of my hair, like fully shave! But my hairstylist was nervous bc she didn't know if it would look good (I did, I have thick, wavy/curly hair and saw ppl with my hair type have the haircut) so she talked me down to shaving a quarter of my head instead of half.
Now at 29 yrs old I have both side of my head shaved down to the nape of my neck, giving me a cool, long Mohawk look!
No HAIRDRESSER should refuse to give you the HAIRCUT you want. Yikes.
i love to hear from people in the comments that the hairdresser actually REFUSED to cut theirr long hair. i've had the exact opposite experience for my entire life. i have always had incredibly long hair and the hairdressers would BULLY me into cutting it, even though it was always healthy. they would say shite like -oh long hair isn;t trendy etc. And when i was 16 i went for a fresh up, to cut about 3 inches(8cm) that needed, and the hairdresser lied to me and ended up cuting half of my hair (about 12 inches). i haven't gone to hair salon ever since and never going to. i bought a hairdresser's scissors and being doing my fresh up at home ever since. so yes, i agree with y'all that if you ask for a cut they SHOULD oblidge but it is nice to hear that some hairdressers are not so prone into cutting as i have experienced my entire life...
I feel you. I get haircuts once every three or four years, always a big chop, because I donate my long hair to a charity making wigs for cancer patients.
I've done it a few times now and to say that some hairdressers are worried about endorsing and providing massive changes is an understatement. I've had to show proof that I've had my hair cut short before, had to explain in detail that I just grow it entirely virgin specifically because my hair is ginger and long, natural ginger wigs are in demand for the charity. I always say "cut it as short as you're comfortable cutting it, but I don't wanna be bald, my head will be cold and I can't hack that." 😂
Once I figured out how easy it is to cut my own hair, I decided I'm never paying for a salon again...save your $$
I DIY’d cutting my hair and then shaving the sides a few years ago (I can’t believe it’s been that long) and I don’t regret it at all! It was what I wanted and needed at that time and I’m glad I allowed myself to experiment and experience that.
your hair looked good either way!!! very cute!
Actually had the opposite experience. I was around 12-13 when I went to a hair dresser and told her I wanted an inch trimmed off my hair. Context: My hair was medium as it went past my shoulders. As she finished washing my hair, SHE GOT OUT A RAZOR AND STARTED SHAVING THE BACK OF MY HEAD. Then just in huge lobs like cutting through multiple stacks of paper. I had a very bad looking pixie cut and me and my mother couldn’t say a word about it. Another time (not the same place) the stylist told me “I shouldn’t cut my hair because short hair makes me look boyish”.
I went in to get a short pixie had really long hair and ended up with that exact same mushroom cut 😂
She was too scared to cut it all
Off lol
I've also had a hairdresser assume I didnt know what I wanted when I asked to go from waist-length hair to a pixie cut. I ended up with a sort of bob. I looked like Trinity from The Matrix, but when she's not IN the matrix.
I went to a British public school when I was 15. The headmaster told me that I needed to act more "British". So I had my friend give me a mohawk. Unfortunately, his dad came home in the middle, freaked out and sent me home after only 1 side was shaved. My dad finished it in the morning much to my headmaster's dismay because he couldn't really say much since my did said he did it.
It’s annoying when you’re afab and ask for a short haircut and they give you a more feminine and longer haircut. Like bitch I’m paying you for that shit?
I swear you told us a story about your parents being against you dying your hair or altering your appearance in any way too much lol ?! Of COURSE she was going to be mad about you SHAVING it all off! 😂😂❤
The ombre is so pretty :o
I hate when hairdressers think theyre your hair's criminal defense lawyer more than they are a member of the service industry
My daughter tried to shock my husband and me by asking if she could dye her hair blonde. ( she has dark chestnut brown hair.)
I told her sure you can try to get your hair dyed blonde.
I will take you to the salon myself; and you can ask the hairdresser if she can dye your hair blonde.
The next Saturday we went to the salon. My daughter asked the hairdresser if she can dye her blonde? When the hairdresser said she can't do that. My daughter was very disappointed and confused.
She came to the waiting area to ask if I could get the hairstylist to dye her hair blonde. I told her no she is 15 and she can deal with it herself by changing one word. It took her four months to get over me not helping her to dye her hair blonde.😂
She figured it out by watching a episode of American housewife. When the oldest daughter went blonde and the mom said I can't believe you BLEACH your beautiful brown hair.😂😂
I would have cried if my daughter went from that super long hair to a shaved head too. But at that age, you’ve just got to let them do what they wanna do with their hair. They’re definitely old enough.
i asked for short hair and the lady cutting it was hesitant at first, and apparently its because usually when girls say short, they will get upset if its TOO short. so they make it longer than u say regardless to play it safe bc they think youll regret it afterwards? but i told her nah i want it all gone like 3 times and she was like say less
It looked really good!
I actually really like the outcome with the inch at the top. Edgy-yet-classy at the same time!
i wanted a short haircut, and the hairdresser refused because i had such “beautiful natural curly hair”. doesn’t matter. it’s just hair. fucking shave it.
My Mom used to forcibly dye my hair so I looked more like my half siblings. That experience really scared me as a mixed race kid. Now I have no emotional attachment to my hair and I have to develop strong relationships with hair dressers to be able to ask for what I want. Shout out to my current one for being so kind and understanding.
I cheered my daughter on while she shaved her hair. She looked gorgeous
"Its too long" "then.. get scissors?"
I'm a trans man. I was 24 when I did the big chop. I'd been researching the best way to ask for it. I wrote down exactly which guard numbers I wanted on my head. I specifically said "I want a masculine haircut" and "may I cut off the ponytails myself please?" Which I think convinced her I meant business. She didn't let me touch her scissors though, so I didn't do the chop myself.
I'd bothered to do the research because I'd said "I want it short" before and left with a bob that, while absolutely adorable and flattering, made my suicidality worse.
I didn't tell my parents I was going to do it. My spawn point had a tantrum for the rest of the day, and then had a stick up her ass about it for another couple months.
They don't know I'm trans, for obvious reasons. My spawn point freaked out about a measley haircut, I certainly wasn't going to tell her I'm on testosterone. She got her dress up dolly for 24 years. I was suicidal for 12 of them. Her dolly was going to die either way- I just chose not to rot in the ground.
You are woman who is dressing up as a stereotype of a man.
Dude when I wanted to cut my really long hair the lady refused to do it too! I grew it out to donate it. And she said no I would regret having a pixie
And I told her I had a pixie before it's only this long to donate and she literally cut off a few inches asking if I liked this length first because it was so much cuter for my beautiful hair. My jaw dropped because it made the hair to short to donate and I know she knew that. I made her cut it to my shoulders and had to go to another hairdresser to get a pixie because she refused to fix it.
Ughhh, it always pisses me off when hairdressers or family members want to decide for you how your hair should be. I've heard its common for them to not want you to cut your hair if its too long, and it sounds annoying
Also, my mom's old hair stylist says that she should have highlights too "hide the gray hairs" (she always had it dyed). The highlights made her look old 💀
It was honestly cute❤
Apparently hairdressers everywhere are difficult. I wanted my hair ≈5mm on the side and ≈7mm on top because summer was coming and my hair feels like it forms a closed surface trapping heat better than any isolation in existence. I’ve argued with three different hairdressers that all wanted to convince me to leave my hair longer. I then bought an electric razor and cut my hair to the length I wanted it to be, which I still do
I liked how you looked with brown hair, you look beautiful
That yearbook photo is giving Phoebe Halliwell season 6
Honestly, I’m glad I have a hairdresser that allows me to shave my head meanwhile my mom (who also was a hairdresser) just tells me “I’ll only shave your hair if you have cancer.“
I went from hair down to my ass to practically buzz cut and my hairdresser got soooo excited about it and then I had to be like oh btw we need to braid it before we cut it off I’m donating it. Her honest reaction was “that’s a shame you could have gotten £200 for each braid since you have such healthy hair” my 11 year old self was so tempted so thank god we’d already got the envelope because I was like “no I’m already ready to post it to them and they know it’s coming”. Told me to come back when I grow it long enough to sell and I’ve just kept it short for 7 years with some different styles and even getting my own clippers 💀💀
cutting and shaving my hair used to be the only thing I could control growing up in a toxic household, so I had almost every hair cut my brain could think of until I shaved off my head, which was the last hair cut I ever did before I got my own apartment.
That’s close enough to shaved in my book. You deserve the shaved head valor.
She is so beautiful
Whenever I’d grow my hair out when I was younger, I’d end up cutting off like 10 inches of it to donate. When did it when I was 13 though, I decided I wanted a super short, boyish cut with an undercut. It was a big change, but I had wanted to cut my hair for a long time since it had been making me uncomfortable. Anyway, my stylist leaves it like 3 inches longer than I wanted with a weird round bob thing because she “didn’t want me to regret it “. Needless to say, I went back a couple weeks later to get the actual cut I wanted from a different stylist. I totally agree that stylists are allowed to offer their professional opinion and consultations, but at the end of the day I’m paying for the service and it’s my hair not yours.
Your logic was 10/10. I completely agree. It shouldn’t be a big deal. Good for your for ballin hard since you were a kid apparently🫵🏽👍🏽
the style in the photo is kind of cute ngl
I did it in my bathroom! By the time I was done, there was nothing my mom could do about it. She literally just gave me the blankest look and muttered, "Well, we can't FIX it now."
I love my mom.
She still hates that I regularly shave my head XD
If you aren’t going to do someone’s hair when they pay you and tell you what they want don’t become a hairdresser
If you refuse to do a paid for haircut what’s the point of your job(unless it’s a punishment haircut please refuse those)
Don’t just say”no I’m no doing that” it isn’t your hair you shouldn’t care other than making it look how the person wants
I had a bob for the longest time, but I’ve always wanted a side shave with it long in the front. Two years ago, we went and got a pixie cut. Around 3months ago, I grabbed an electric razor and some scissors, trimmed the sides to about an inch, and then shaved the rest off. We then went to get it dyed. Now I have the cool ass hair I always wanted. Shaved sides, around an inch in the back, and chin length purple waves in the front!
Reminds me a bit of my mom and brother with my sister when she wanted to shave her head after the side effects of corona kicked in.
Your hair looks nice long. Enjoy hair while u have it. I started losing alot in my 30s and it is so thin now. I wish i kept it long when i had it.
YOURE so beautiful
It looked so cute honestly!!!
Yeah I pretty much shaved my head it was great! I absolutely am hating the grow out process but it was revolutionary and I found who actually likes me and who doesn’t. People were so obsessed with my “beauty” telling me how I can look prettier and what size my body looks best at. So I shaved my head and everyone who was there for me eventually left. And it was all because I let go of caring to be beautiful and actually live my damn life rather than trying to be beautiful!! Materialistic people no mas in my life 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
I was going through it and right before a school year started i wanted to shave off my long brown hair and dye the whole head purple. The change was so drastic the hairdresser i chose came in on her off day to do my hair. It came out more of a carebear pink and it reigns as one of my favorite hairstyles of all time. When it faded i had streaks of pink with the blonde i called it my sunset hair 😊
One time I went to a hairdresser and showed her a picture of this really fluffy, androgynous hairstyle and she told me it was “just a styled pixie cut” (it very obviously wasn’t) and then gave me a pixie cut, no styling, and didn’t show me how to get it anywhere remotely close to the picture I showed her. I almost cried when I got home cause I hated it to much. Never went back there and now I go to a lady that actually listens to what I want and communicates with me to make sure she’s getting it right
I don't care what anyone says, if a hairdresser quite literally denies doing the only thing they are there to do, give me/you/anyone the hair that was asked for, no pay.
If I ask for a shaved head, you shave my head or you get no money. Endof story.
I think it's fair to not want to shave a long-haired teenager bald
@@oliviac2585 and I think its fair to do literally the one thing you are paid for... a hairdresser can not want to cut long hair but if they're being paid to do so their wants don't mean anything.
@@izzyq9200 I'm just saying a lot of people do drastic things to their hair when they're upset, so I think it's fair to not want to do it immediately, especially when it's a child who doesn't have a parent there. A tattoo artist has the right to refuse work and I think the same goes for hairdressers.
@@oliviac2585 idk man i think comparing tattoos to a haircut is a big jump. One is in most cases a permanent change to ones body where as hair grows back.
@@izzyq9200 I'm not saying a haircut and a tattoo are equivalent, just that both are artists who should have a choice in what work they do/do not do. It's not just "I'm paying you so you have to do what I say".
I'm just saying if I were the hairstylist I wouldn't shave someone with long hair bald without having a consultation and/or checking with parents/guardians first.
Can we just normalize women with no long hair already? The fact that hair dresser said no is annoying. If a girl decides to shave her head it doesn’t mean she’s crazy. Let people live already