Well put. There are people out there who want the attention from even those of the opposite sex, but with no seriousness to it, they just want the attention and admiration. It mainly comes from low self esteem and a lack of socializing in the past with the very same type of people that they're trying to get the attention from.
This video is adressed to mainly children, but i think the topic is very generalized. It can be about anybody at any age and for whatever circumstances.
Father God, thank you for this message. In accordance with this message I pray and bind to grow to bend inappropriate attention seeking behavior into something positive in the classroom, while binding myself, my family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, acquintances, opponents and the body of Christ freed of all inappropriate attention seeking behavior while binding one to seek attention in a positive way and binding to hell all inappropriate attention-seeking behavior, binding to hell being unequally yoked with and have any common share with those who seek attention in a negative way, in accordance with ephesians 4:23, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
Thank you for reminding us to give positive affirmative attention when the individual is behaving appropriately to reinforce & reward those good behavior choices. "An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure." I appreciate your wise advice & hope for more encouraging informative videos! God bless you!
But what if your kid gets all the attention she wants, with a mother who will go to the ends of the earth for her, but when you start to hold her accountable for her wrong doing, she runs away… 3 minutes up the street because you took her laptop, phone, tv and shut down her social media she wasn’t even supposed to have because of risky behavior like talking to ppl in different states and putting her life at risk…. She gets all the attention she can ask for. Movie date night, rewarded when she does good, cooking n baking cakes together, going to parks and taking silly pics…. Doesn’t sound like a kid deprived of attention, the minute you hold her accountable, she acts out…. She also acts out the things she sees on tv, thinking it will work in real life…. What is this about?
Just ignore. If the behavior is from a child, you should put them in timeout facing the wall so they are not getting any attention from the unacceptable behavior. If the behavior is from a teenager or adult you can just ignore the person.
ignorance isnt always key though, I am of the age of a teenager and I can certainly say ignoring the person in any way can have the opposite effect of what you want and cause mental harm and worsen the situation
not true with my 4 year old. He gets plenty of attention. He does art projects with both his mother and I. We play legos. We have movie nights. We have game nights. He goes to swimming lessons (this is one area where he's super hyper focused and is super into it). You would think this would exhaust him... nope not for a minute. He'll come home and jump on the trampoline and run circles around the yard and then he'll chase the dog. He's in preschool with some wonderful teachers trying to help us get a handle on it. My son can't seem to control his impulses... he shakes his body and makes loud "impact" kind of "fighting" noises like he's batman or something. His phone/tablet use has been cut way down and the types of shows he watches no longer include any hitting. When he does watch on the phone he watches people build things in minecraft. I asked doctors about Tourette's and they say nope. His teachers try active ignoring... not rewarding him for his behaviors... they're amazing people but they can't figure out why he is sooooo hungry for attention. Even if you just gave him plenty it's like he has withdrawals. He'd rather get in trouble than sit still and let you do the dishes. I'm just not sure where to go with this. Doctors have seen him and say there's no way he's spectrum. Possibly ADHD but they say he's more just hyperactive. He just doesn't quite fit that mold either. We've tried every type of discipline you can imagine but everyone has a different opinion on discipline and you offend half the room when you say you tried this or that...the other half applauds you. It's maddening where you can't even get advice from a group of parents without half of them getting mad at each other. We're lost and don't know where to go with this. Any advice? Thank you... Chris and Ivette
My son had very similr issues and still has A little ,and for me it was that I was not really admiring his nature and complimenting enough on every little details , I felt like I did everything and I did spent a lot time with him but I wasn’t speaking enough his language he wanted me to join him In his sillyness , and wildness , like join his world and be dramatic together play sports , cuddle him a lot more ,join his video games ,I do believe he needs more attention then the average kid and it’s draining so it’s good to have a partner to give u a break. I gained certain respect for him since reading about his type he’s isfp/esfp (defiantly a Sp temperament ) which if your interested you can checkout the book please understand me 2. Also the website personality hacker helped me a ton an offers coaches that give amazing advice personalized for ur child’s type .. it was life changing for me and my child .i also noticed the more I became confident and healthy it had a positive effect on my child , we also reflect every night on the day and I draw him pictures of many positive things he’s done and he loves it and has a big effect ,I can draw stuff as little as -he turned off the bathroom light, closed the door, and he guesses what the picture means .good luck
The part where you said about turning away and ignoring him, not rewarding him for his behavior or so (I think u said that😅) reminds me what pet trainers would do to dogs that misbehave. Honestly I'd say leave him be, he's 4 right, 7 now?? Maybe continue with your way of discipline though. The situation may change as he grows up, I mean I was a social energetic butterfly when I was younger but now I'm just someone who cowers away and want nothing to do with humanity, then again this isnt about me. If it doesnt change however or gets worse, I recommend a certain type of therapist (I dont know the certain type because I dont know all the types of therapists off the top of my head ._ . ) Now..I'm not a professional, or a parent, or hec even anyone who has even had some sort of experience with a child so please dont exactly take all what I said seriously, except maybe the therapist part. Sorry if I couldnt be of any help, hope everything goes well for you!
@@ynattirbarreug3909 he's 8 now and we've come a long way. We kept up with the active ignoring strategy and it worked for the most part. But I think the largest gains he's made are due to maturity. He is still quite attention hungry but he's far more content to sit and play by himself now when he's got something he's really into. It's just one of those things I guess. He'll grow out of it more and more and we'll just have to continue to demonstrate good behaviors. He's changed from a very hateful boy into a very thoughtful and caring boy. We just have to stay the course.
tramp Bailey Me too. I never get attention because everywhere i go there is an attention seeker. Also guys, I need to be watched more than attention seekers because I have something wrong with me. Except I dont get that attention that I need. So I am planning to run away from camp or school or something. 😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😐😐😑😭😭😭
XxKawaiiUnicornGalXx So sweet! Hey it's ok don't do that must be happy and don't run away just ask people if they can give you a hug or watch a movie with you they might make you feel better
OH MY GOD. I can’t find a fucking video on a neurologically typical human or someone who’s not a damn kid. I’m seriously about to walk out on my life long friend because I can’t find help ANYWHERE.
Oh, it's okay to give time to kids but not adults😂 i wasn't paid very much attention when I was a kid though I learned in Psychology that what you lack as a child will soon catch up with you as you grow older...well I can seek attention in relevant issues but not with seeking attention for people to adore me, that I'm like better, prettier, richer, smarter and etc...why do some people do this?😂
Nice video content! Sorry for the intrusion, I am interested in your thoughts. Have you tried - Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (should be on google have a look)? It is an awesome one of a kind guide for becoming an excellent parent without the normal expense. Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my friend Sam after a lifetime of fighting got cool results with it.
It's a behavioural characteristic isn't it. a display of a certain behaviour. A very obvious display. A person spending an obsessive amount of time online on social platforms documenting every aspect of their lives, is attention seeking or seeking online approval. A person spending the day laying in bed reading a book and dozing the afternoon away, content with their own thoughts and company without jumping online constantly checking for replies or reactions to comments. There is no display of attention seeking, the person is quite content with simply relaxing. Every single person with a social media account is an attention seeker, that's what social media is by literal design. Whether you're attracting attention to yourself or a product or business idea, you are by definition seeking attention. Individual attention seeking is also associated with other disorders such as megalomania or narcissism where an individual thinks they are mightier than everybody else and demands attention to the point where they try and control and manipulate others for their own benefit. Don't do it that way, do it this way, your way is wrong do it my way sort of scenario. Constant relentless obsessive behaviour trying to influence others, they know best. The world is entirely about them. It's the obsessive need for recognition and approval from others that dictates attention seeking, publishing every little aspect of your life for others to comment on. You could have the most active live ever, travel to twenty countries a year but the pictures and memories are kept private for yourself and your family to reflect on, not published all over social media. One is attention seeking one is not.
What if ur already giving attention to a teen (13 year old girl) an do everything with them that they want u to that u can an support them. An she has inappropriate sexual relationships with anyone who claims they love her
Oh the roommate who slumps his feet around when he is in the room and not getting attention. Or having every window blind open at night with every light on parading around, the one upping and bragging and constant praise seeking. Wearing headphones all around the house doesn't help, timing what I do when he isnt around doesnt work. Finally I just point blank asked, why do you slomp your feet around when you dont get attention? Now I feel unsafe for asking. Shots fired.
I can't give in because then he pushes further in an extremely grimy unrequited way and when that happens, I get mean and aggressive. Idk how obvious people need to be when dealing with clingy insecure delusional people.
This is horrible advice. It doesn't address the problem with some kids who never get enough attention and always seek it through negative behaviors. Just giving those kids your attention doesn't solve the underlying problem that's driving them to continually seek out negative attention from adults and others.
Well put. There are people out there who want the attention from even those of the opposite sex, but with no seriousness to it, they just want the attention and admiration. It mainly comes from low self esteem and a lack of socializing in the past with the very same type of people that they're trying to get the attention from.
This video is adressed to mainly children, but i think the topic is very generalized. It can be about anybody at any age and for whatever circumstances.
What if its adults and not kids??? Or is it safe to say theres something mentally wrong with these people?
Father God, thank you for this message. In accordance with this message I pray and bind to grow to bend inappropriate attention seeking behavior into something positive in the classroom, while binding myself, my family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, acquintances, opponents and the body of Christ freed of all inappropriate attention seeking behavior while binding one to seek attention in a positive way and binding to hell all inappropriate attention-seeking behavior, binding to hell being unequally yoked with and have any common share with those who seek attention in a negative way, in accordance with ephesians 4:23, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
It isn’t a child who is attention-seeking, it’s a GROWN 70-something year old grandmother and Christian missionary! How do you deal with that???
starts talking about how to address the behaviours at 3:50
thank you
i think it all starts from the beginning if u wanna really change you’re perspective on kids seeking for attention...
You just gave me an epiphany, thank you sir!
This was helpful and relatable.
This explanation is so real!!
Thank you for reminding us to give positive affirmative attention when the individual is behaving appropriately to reinforce & reward those good behavior choices. "An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure." I appreciate your wise advice & hope for more encouraging informative videos! God bless you!
Continue giving attention to those pp who need attention really exhaust me. I will die one day from feeding someone with attention.
So well explained. Thank you !
One question. Is barfing a sign of attention seeking too.
But what if your kid gets all the attention she wants, with a mother who will go to the ends of the earth for her, but when you start to hold her accountable for her wrong doing, she runs away… 3 minutes up the street because you took her laptop, phone, tv and shut down her social media she wasn’t even supposed to have because of risky behavior like talking to ppl in different states and putting her life at risk…. She gets all the attention she can ask for. Movie date night, rewarded when she does good, cooking n baking cakes together, going to parks and taking silly pics…. Doesn’t sound like a kid deprived of attention, the minute you hold her accountable, she acts out…. She also acts out the things she sees on tv, thinking it will work in real life…. What is this about?
Just ignore. If the behavior is from a child, you should put them in timeout facing the wall so they are not getting any attention from the unacceptable behavior. If the behavior is from a teenager or adult you can just ignore the person.
ignorance isnt always key though, I am of the age of a teenager and I can certainly say ignoring the person in any way can have the opposite effect of what you want and cause mental harm and worsen the situation
not true with my 4 year old. He gets plenty of attention. He does art projects with both his mother and I. We play legos. We have movie nights. We have game nights. He goes to swimming lessons (this is one area where he's super hyper focused and is super into it). You would think this would exhaust him... nope not for a minute. He'll come home and jump on the trampoline and run circles around the yard and then he'll chase the dog.
He's in preschool with some wonderful teachers trying to help us get a handle on it.
My son can't seem to control his impulses... he shakes his body and makes loud "impact" kind of "fighting" noises like he's batman or something. His phone/tablet use has been cut way down and the types of shows he watches no longer include any hitting. When he does watch on the phone he watches people build things in minecraft. I asked doctors about Tourette's and they say nope.
His teachers try active ignoring... not rewarding him for his behaviors... they're amazing people but they can't figure out why he is sooooo hungry for attention. Even if you just gave him plenty it's like he has withdrawals. He'd rather get in trouble than sit still and let you do the dishes.
I'm just not sure where to go with this. Doctors have seen him and say there's no way he's spectrum. Possibly ADHD but they say he's more just hyperactive. He just doesn't quite fit that mold either.
We've tried every type of discipline you can imagine but everyone has a different opinion on discipline and you offend half the room when you say you tried this or that...the other half applauds you. It's maddening where you can't even get advice from a group of parents without half of them getting mad at each other.
We're lost and don't know where to go with this. Any advice?
Thank you... Chris and Ivette
My son had very similr issues and still has A little ,and for me it was that I was not really admiring his nature and complimenting enough on every little details , I felt like I did everything and I did spent a lot time with him but I wasn’t speaking enough his language he wanted me to join him In his sillyness , and wildness , like join his world and be dramatic together play sports , cuddle him a lot more ,join his video games ,I do believe he needs more attention then the average kid and it’s draining so it’s good to have a partner to give u a break. I gained certain respect for him since reading about his type he’s isfp/esfp (defiantly a Sp temperament ) which if your interested you can checkout the book please understand me 2. Also the website personality hacker helped me a ton an offers coaches that give amazing advice personalized for ur child’s type .. it was life changing for me and my child .i also noticed the more I became confident and healthy it had a positive effect on my child , we also reflect every night on the day and I draw him pictures of many positive things he’s done and he loves it and has a big effect ,I can draw stuff as little as -he turned off the bathroom light, closed the door, and he guesses what the picture means .good luck
The part where you said about turning away and ignoring him, not rewarding him for his behavior or so (I think u said that😅) reminds me what pet trainers would do to dogs that misbehave. Honestly I'd say leave him be, he's 4 right, 7 now?? Maybe continue with your way of discipline though. The situation may change as he grows up, I mean I was a social energetic butterfly when I was younger but now I'm just someone who cowers away and want nothing to do with humanity, then again this isnt about me. If it doesnt change however or gets worse, I recommend a certain type of therapist (I dont know the certain type because I dont know all the types of therapists off the top of my head ._ . ) Now..I'm not a professional, or a parent, or hec even anyone who has even had some sort of experience with a child so please dont exactly take all what I said seriously, except maybe the therapist part. Sorry if I couldnt be of any help, hope everything goes well for you!
@@ynattirbarreug3909 he's 8 now and we've come a long way. We kept up with the active ignoring strategy and it worked for the most part. But I think the largest gains he's made are due to maturity. He is still quite attention hungry but he's far more content to sit and play by himself now when he's got something he's really into. It's just one of those things I guess. He'll grow out of it more and more and we'll just have to continue to demonstrate good behaviors. He's changed from a very hateful boy into a very thoughtful and caring boy. We just have to stay the course.
@@christopherleblanc5187 Well it's very nice to know that things are settling down with him!!😊 I continue to wish you well!!!
What about when u always get attention everyday of your life...
Flatten the curve
Just like Corona
No one will give a shit about you then
Loved the video! Extremely beneficial. Thx alot
If I knew this was only about children I wouldn’t have watched
What about adult attention seeking parent?
Set boundaries and ignore the person.
No
Tactical ignoring.
I need attention so badly.
tramp Bailey lol hello
Know each one may need attention from others but please don’t exhaust another person. That person did do wrong to suffer in your need for attention
tramp Bailey Me too. I never get attention because everywhere i go there is an attention seeker. Also guys, I need to be watched more than attention seekers because I have something wrong with me. Except I dont get that attention that I need. So I am planning to run away from camp or school or something. 😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😐😐😑😭😭😭
XxKawaiiUnicornGalXx So sweet! Hey it's ok don't do that must be happy and don't run away just ask people if they can give you a hug or watch a movie with you they might make you feel better
Craig Saxy Man Okay and thanks for being so sweet!
OH MY GOD. I can’t find a fucking video on a neurologically typical human or someone who’s not a damn kid. I’m seriously about to walk out on my life long friend because I can’t find help ANYWHERE.
therapist maybe??
Oh, it's okay to give time to kids but not adults😂 i wasn't paid very much attention when I was a kid though I learned in Psychology that what you lack as a child will soon catch up with you as you grow older...well I can seek attention in relevant issues but not with seeking attention for people to adore me, that I'm like better, prettier, richer, smarter and etc...why do some people do this?😂
this is for neglected kids not for over attentioned kids...
Nice video content! Sorry for the intrusion, I am interested in your thoughts. Have you tried - Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (should be on google have a look)? It is an awesome one of a kind guide for becoming an excellent parent without the normal expense. Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my friend Sam after a lifetime of fighting got cool results with it.
Abhishek Bundela "over attentioned" kids do not seek attenton. If anything they seek invisibility
It's a behavioural characteristic isn't it. a display of a certain behaviour. A very obvious display. A person spending an obsessive amount of time online on social platforms documenting every aspect of their lives, is attention seeking or seeking online approval. A person spending the day laying in bed reading a book and dozing the afternoon away, content with their own thoughts and company without jumping online constantly checking for replies or reactions to comments. There is no display of attention seeking, the person is quite content with simply relaxing. Every single person with a social media account is an attention seeker, that's what social media is by literal design. Whether you're attracting attention to yourself or a product or business idea, you are by definition seeking attention. Individual attention seeking is also associated with other disorders such as megalomania or narcissism where an individual thinks they are mightier than everybody else and demands attention to the point where they try and control and manipulate others for their own benefit. Don't do it that way, do it this way, your way is wrong do it my way sort of scenario. Constant relentless obsessive behaviour trying to influence others, they know best. The world is entirely about them. It's the obsessive need for recognition and approval from others that dictates attention seeking, publishing every little aspect of your life for others to comment on. You could have the most active live ever, travel to twenty countries a year but the pictures and memories are kept private for yourself and your family to reflect on, not published all over social media. One is attention seeking one is not.
What if ur already giving attention to a teen (13 year old girl) an do everything with them that they want u to that u can an support them. An she has inappropriate sexual relationships with anyone who claims they love her
..sorry it ended up a bit too long..
How about genetics
I feel that this new wave of lgbtq teens and young adults are routinely engaging in these negative attention seeking behaviors
Oh the roommate who slumps his feet around when he is in the room and not getting attention. Or having every window blind open at night with every light on parading around, the one upping and bragging and constant praise seeking. Wearing headphones all around the house doesn't help, timing what I do when he isnt around doesnt work. Finally I just point blank asked, why do you slomp your feet around when you dont get attention?
Now I feel unsafe for asking. Shots fired.
It really feels like dealing with a bratty kid.
I can't give in because then he pushes further in an extremely grimy unrequited way and when that happens, I get mean and aggressive. Idk how obvious people need to be when dealing with clingy insecure delusional people.
Committing myself to exposing how I had ro live. As a recipient of a sex abuser using a murdering trait family to help a coming it. A
im one
Lol. Scramble the t.v. call the police for a dr who committed a crime. Has it made me be what u desire?
LMAO
This is horrible advice. It doesn't address the problem with some kids who never get enough attention and always seek it through negative behaviors. Just giving those kids your attention doesn't solve the underlying problem that's driving them to continually seek out negative attention from adults and others.