ADHD & Hobbies: Why can't you stick to one hobby 👀?
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0:10 So Many Hobbies, So Little Time 😔
0:28 Why our ADHD Brains Quickly Lose Interest
0:58 Understanding the ADHD Interests
2:49 The Stages of our ADHD Interests
4:08 Accepting our ADHD Cycle of Interests
5:02 Embrace the Journey of Exploration
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Living with ADHD often means navigating a constantly shifting landscape of interests and hobbies. People with ADHD tend to have intense bursts of enthusiasm for new activities, only for those interests to wane as quickly as they appeared. This life cycle of interests can be both a source of excitement and frustration. One week, it's all about learning to play the guitar, and the next, it's a newfound fascination with painting. Understanding and accepting this ebb and flow is the first step in effectively managing hobbies and interests.
To effectively manage the ever-changing interests associated with ADHD, it's crucial to embrace flexibility. Rather than resisting these shifts, individuals can learn to adapt. One helpful approach is to remain open to new interests and allow room for exploration. Recognize that not every fascination needs to become a lifelong passion. By being adaptable and open to change, individuals with ADHD can harness the energy and enthusiasm they feel for various hobbies, allowing for a more fulfilling and diverse range of experiences. This approach promotes personal growth and creativity while mitigating frustration often associated with abrupt changes in interests.
While flexibility is important, establishing a consistent routine can help individuals with ADHD manage their hobbies effectively. Allocating specific times or days for different activities can provide structure and prevent impulsively dropping one hobby for another. Additionally, breaking down larger hobbies into smaller, manageable tasks can make them more achievable and maintainable. By combining adaptability with routine, those with ADHD can strike a balance that allows them to enjoy a wide range of interests while ensuring some level of continuity in their hobbies.
What was your latest hobby 👀?
Recently, making stickers and notepads. Sadly, it's starting to wane. 😢
The moat persistent one Is drawing, but I've all but dropped biking again. Kind of sucks because I bought a larger vehicle on the assumption I would be riding but it's looking like something to restart next year. Along 3 or 4 other interests currently on ice. I had to restart drawing many times to keep going with that one, is that common for ADD, restarting interests to keep them going?
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I came back to Javascript after spending one month on art
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I'm looking at the guitar in the corner, all of the art supplies, the craft supplies . . . busted 🙄
Omd I relate so much- I got a bunch of paints and haven’t used them in 7 months, I started guitar and haven’t played all summer-
I feel this so hard. All the crochet projects I started, the art supplies I bought in a rush after thinking I would love to paint. The polymer clay and tools for it and even more. 😭
There has to be a bingo game in this for us - watercolour paints - X, inks and calligraphy pens and kit - X, copic markers with all the skin tones - X, literally ALL the brushes, even the Chinese mops, riggers and retractable filberts (and literally no idea how to use them) - X, greeting card blanks, small and large w/c pads and even w/c postcards - tickety tick, two large crates of dress-making fabrics and notions (damn you, Aberkan, grrr) and four second hand sewing machines - because you just never know - X X X, flute - X, crochet hooks for jute (to make eco pan-scrubbers) and white cotton string (to make eco dish cloths) - X X, everything needed to make Luna and her huge wardrobe - X, guitar - X, on line course to create Art Deco digital art - X, all the left over books and study aids for Russian/French/Italian/Latin (don't ask), Japanese (likewise) and Spanish - X, all the books and study aids for all the different science courses I've really enjoyed - X, the annual diary bought to schedule all the new hobbies - X, the kit for yoga, Pilates, fancy-pants skipping (seriously, my optimism knows no limits at times - used twice for literal seconds) and weights - X, the hand-stitched (in covid times) Edwardian lace and cotton blouse I patterned from scratch - X (blaming you, @BernadetteBanner for giving me the confidence to think I just could, regardless of talent level and any experience - and even worserer, your also super talented sister who made me think for a hot minute that I too could just make original old-master-inspired-oil paintings of my friend's pets - X (lucky I still have any friends, really). I can't oil paint - but luckily the enthusiasm collapsed at the price of that kit before I could get started), the children's book I'm halfway through writing (again, started that one in lockdown) and the outline of the cosy crime book on my desk - also X and X. We all know that's as far as that will go - but at least I know who did it 😄😄.And the kit in the kitchen for making every extreme niche baking, preserved food or chocolate item ever created/invented - tickety tickety tick to eternity and back. And in front of me right now (pen in hand/ tucked behind ear), the lists to prepare for Christmas of the nonsense I'm going to make for presents (which this year will be planted in elegant vintage containers rare Amaryllises just ordered from Netherlands). Good People of the UTubes, I ask you to please pray for my people, they're exhausted already. HOUSE.@@luvvmia so challenge issued - I can't be the worst on here? 🤞🤞
@helenmcnair4284 impressive list. I haven’t got the patience to write out mine but I reckon it’d be longer purely because I’m 73 years old and I’ve been doing this for such a loooong time! 🤪
yeah i also have a violin i got when i was obsessed with your lie in april, but had a bad teacher and was mostly excited for the restaurants with my dad after lessons, but haven't used the guitar or did felting/crocheting for months either
The comorbidity of having autism and adhd: multiple hobbies but only sticking to a certain type and capacity. Also a lot of my hobbies are collecting focussed; books, records, DVDs. My consolation is that I cycle back to the same hobbies when the novelty of the last one wears off 😅
So true! And makes it really hard to declutter e the interest will come back one day
I have a lot of hobbies and I cycle through them. Some more frequently than others. I have seasonal trends, roller skating and gardening when its nice out, knitting and fiber arts when its cold. And I also have a lot of creative hobbies that I cycle through based on inspiration for new projects: sewing, knitting, weaving, natural dying, carving, print making, embroidery, herbalism, learning languages, etc. 😅
I always thought that there was something wrong with me, because I never finished a single course that I have started, I quit all the lesson classes, and the greatest suffering is drawing, which I want to do, but it does not bring me pleasure (yep). As soon as I pick up a pencil and make the first sketches, I feel bad and I give up everything again. This is terrible feeling.
Oh I have it bad. Usually it’s art supply stuff. My living room is a craft project zone. I’ve learned that not every great idea is worth starting 😅 it took me a long time to realize that.
watching this whilst my guitar, piano, art suplies, skateboard, yarn, sewing kits, books, jewlery kits, gaming consoles all collecting dust
My girlfriend has always said she thinks I have ADHD, I’m just watching this video laughing because it’s describing everything I do to a tee
I’m currently trying to write a book (I’m not diagnosed with adhd but I show many characteristics and symptoms of it to the point where I’m almost 100% sure I have it). I get bored really easy, and sometimes lose that excitement to start something new before I even start, and then feel angry that I’m not doing it. I’m doing pretty good with the writing of the book, but it’s taken so much effort to get past the boring boring and actually find it in myself to write when it no longer brings me joy.
This is my exact routine, and it scares me how many signs of adhd I actually have.
I find that I also do this with food, and sometimes don’t each very much because I’m bored of all the foods in the house
I mentally flip flop between all of my creative outlets every day, wanting to settle on one thing. When I told my therapist I just wanted to go after ONE of them, he said “don’t clip your own wings.” It’s something I try to remember every day.
Personally that's what I like about ADHD , because I want to try anything and I research about everything it's more easy for me to have something in common and understand a specific topic, because I Probably tried it all ready 😅
Yes! Me too! A curse and a blessing. Don't know what to think about it anymore😔
You mist have a way better job then I do...
@@Grimfr0st what do you mean?
I have too many hobbies to the point i dont know what should i do first, i got frustrated and just sleep. And then i woke up and realized i just waste my time for sleeping, i could crochet something, sketch something, paint something, play a game, try new recipe, learn new language, watch a movie, edit something, make a video, try to learn something cool, and then i got frustrated again so i went to sleep and it goes like that on loop. What should i do? :(
omg feels
Love effort hobbies are the best! Running, walking, writing, drawing, video games. If I have to plan or schedule with people it’s a no go! I already have a hard time managing my life why add more stress? Maybe when I retire I’ll pick up bee keeping.
so true. latest hobby was oil painting.
I don’t agree that the 5th stage is denial (though maybe that makes me in denial). I keep the items from hobbies I’ve done in the past and gotten bored of (which is ALL of them) and eventually I DO come back to them and cycle through them. I have painting supplies though sometimes I go for more than a year without painting but I’m always happy to come back to it and use them again. Same with coloring supplies, exercise equipment, instruments, etc. They accumulate dust and eventually I get an urge to pick them back up for a while.
I never stick with anything long enough to get great at anything and that is something I long for deeply so it’s a constant feeling of sadness knowing that I’ll give up before I get good and I can’t enjoy the excitement stage. I crave to be admired for how good I am at stuff but never actually get good enough to be admired. It’s a terrible cycle and there seems to be no way to fix it.
Man and this is the same thing us ENFP's go through too, thinking I'm both
In the last optional phase, I’d add something like self loathing. Depression often takes root at realizing you never have enough time / didn’t make enough progress on it. That part hits hard
I thought that was what everyone did. I always thought people who didn’t was boring or uninterested by default.
I can relate because I have three guitars to play, video games, and skateboard but it's difficult to choose one thing to do 😮💨😔😓
my problem with this is the money that goes with it 😭 damn im not rich i cant be speending all my money kn something ill forget about in two weeks
Then you just get left with nothing and boredom hits, just for you to want to do it again 3 months later
OMG, This is so me and has really hurt my family because of the money spent. Also has caused me to lose time with the people I love and now miss.
Yeah! It’s weird because they talk about this like it’s not a big deal. Most hobbies cost $1k+ to get into unless you have rich parents that are whiling to let you blow through money! This strategy isn’t going to work!
I usually forget i had the bobby , and go to another cuz This looks fun😅, have stuff that i hope will eventually be usefull again. And left this video like 3 times.
my hobby hopping has made me a well rounded jack of all trades. I'll never be a master at 1 thing and that's ok with me. I find that I can starts piecing hobbies together, a hobby that I haven't touched in a while can be integrated into another which makes them both feel fresh again. I fly drones and when that got a little boring, I started 3D printing. I was able to use 3D printing to make things for drones which made that more fun. Fishing took a back seat for a while and then I started canoeing which made fishing fun again, I used 3D printing to make parts for my canoe to make fishing easier. When you realize you have hobbies that you haven't touched and start to feel hard on yourself, look for ways to combined and expand them.
That sounds encouraging and worth a go,thanks
its very difficult i find because im a completionst that can't complete things. ill dive into a new show or game and decide i wanna watch/consume all of it in order instead of just starting with the best stuff, so then i take hours and hours moving through it and then lose interest before i get to the good stuff.
Thank you for this video❤ keep going ull reach 1m subcriber one day
I think I should look I lnto being tested. I do this quite often. I've leaned how to play guitar a bit piano a bit, recently decided to learn how to write with my non-dominant hand which lasted just a few days before I lost interest.
3:46 that's me. I don't like cooking. Even i don't know how to cook. And i kinda afraid to hold a knife.
Edit :
Thank you for made this one. It really a lot to me and honestly yeah,hobbies is really difficult to me but i try each one of them to look fits for me and my creativity.
Ive not done to bad this year, ive only had around 8 hobbies this year usually its 1 a month 🤦🏻
For me the rabbit hole was product / food photography. And now some of the equipments are collecting dust in the corner of my room, the rest are long sold.
absolutely spot on. I do this all the time.
Yes this is me…..It all started with making terrariums, then I moved onto Macramé. During Covid I discovered Acrylic Pouring and did that for two years, I was actually really good at it. Then I tried out Alcohol Inks for a while. Of course I also have over 100 indoor plants and recently I am really interested in photography. I live alone and enjoy having hobbies. Actually, some of my friends admire my creativity. I hope to stick with photography as it has captured my interest most of my life. But I am aware of my hobby-problem and therefore carful to not invest in expensive equipment. Yes, it’s the hunt for dopamine. You feel great when you finish an awesome painting or take a great photo. It gives me positive feedback. Much better then getting your dopamine from junk food, gambling, online shopping or other negativ sources. I am creative and enjoy giving my creations to friends etc. - nothing wrong with it!! 😊
When I’m watching a movie, i a) talk A LOT!!! B) I always look at the little detail like a person passing by and me just watching that person instead of the main character C) I’m so bored, and I’m all over the place,and D( totally not writing this comment while ‘watching’ this video👀😭🥲
I went through so many tv shows bc I got bored lol
This sounds more like ADHD to me that what she was describing.
I was like that in every hoddy but the most i am struggling is music like piano and art. I realize that i enjoy more on art than piano but i still take piano lessons bc my i used to like it went i was a child and my parents want me to keep going but for some reasons, i don't want to but want to in both way. But art is very enjoyable and i enjoy express my emotion and creative but i still don't understand why im not doing the same way to paino. But that my problems and maybe i will know if i....ever try
i have lots of hobbies but I created a wellbeing group, we meet monthly. it means I force myself to do a certain craft when I am there , 2 hours no destractions, of course when it is next month, I do another craft, but I do keep doing them over time.
Holy cow, I always wondered how people can make something their thing and do it their whole life, like master craftspeople. I am a jack of all trades and am knowledgeable about several activities. I cycle thru all of them and not in any certain order, this blows my mind!
I am interested in creativity so I tried to create my own story, but I end up having holes in my story and no plot but im not giving up, and my own mother says making a story isn’t going to help my future and wants me to quit
OMG me too, i spent hours to think about the characters and when i start to write down the ideas, it's gone! 🥲
If creating this story brings you joy, then who cares if it goes anywhere?
I've gone from vr, to cubing, to fortnite, to nature, aviation, robotics, I'm just sad that I can't have one hobby.
I feel that to be worried about hobbies is a modern and recent phenomenon. I don't think 100s of years ago most of us were worried about hobbies, we had plenty we had to do to stay alive like farming, hunting, textiles, pottery making. NOW some of these are hobbies, but before they were a necessity to survive. I realize I always stick with things that I know are a necessity for my survival (like going to work every day). Why would I stick with something if it is not necessary for my survival? I think that IS what the ADHD brain is really about is being hyper-vigilant to wanting to survive and putting everything else that's not important on the backburner. The ADHD brain doesn't want to dedicate the mental bandwidth to activities that are not necessary for survival like reading or writing or sitting in a boring classroom for hours. If you put an ADHD brained person in the jungle where they have to run away from tigers and snakes or whatever other predators there are, trust me they aren't going to get "bored" from running away. If you put an ADHD brain person to go fishing and realizing that that's the only way they are going to feed their family, they are not going to get "bored" of fishing.
I wonder if that’s true. Try enough things and it will workout. Or is it about just picking one and going deep. I worry I’ll try things forever and it’s not actually about finding the one golden hobby that sticks and it’s more about just sticking to a hobby idk
This is exactly what i have, and i hate it. I wanna stick to one hobby so i can become good at it, ive tried a bunch of sports, drawing, traveling. The longest i had a hobby was skateboarding for 2 years just for my stupid brain to get bored of it in one day, ughh i hate this. i wanna be like the football boys who dedicate their whole life to ONE hobby not be bad at many. PLS HELP
I don’t have a problem of sticking to a hobby. I’ve been committed for years to chess and ancient history and learning physics and minecraft and running and logic puzzles and personal organization and comic books and bird watching and hiking and mathematics and anime.
I never finish anyt
Ngl i should go to rehab or smn this shit made me go broke
Aaahhhhhh...... but how do I stop?! This month alone, I've gone through dnd, coin rings, boxing, emulation, and diamond painting.. it's exhausting..😢
Omg this is me to a T 😢
Wow, I think I have ADHD
I still suspect myself having adhd
heh friends and family say my hobby IS starting new hobbies
Not true! I stick to multple Hobbies, what kind of hobbies depends on the weather. I also do not chase novelty to the degree ADHD people usually do.
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The guilty felling
i hate ADHD