Loyalty Test Ft Uti
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- čas přidán 1. 02. 2023
- On this episode Toke is joined by Uti, they discuss loyalty as a whole in terms of relationships. The conversation is very interesting. ENJOY!
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I'm not even surprised by the way the convo went immediately Toke mentioned Uti is a 'Leo'..... Most male Leo are big on pride and try to dominate/control their relationships, yet they fall and get hurt by the 'sharp' babes.
Yes, past experiences teaches us lessons... However, you shouldn't always try to control new relationships, give it a chance.
UTI is so deep and intelligent. I love how he backs his argument with facts. Indeed Accountability is one of the strong pillars in every relationship. Queen T thanks for always representing us your gender and for having UTI around. I love this episode, love your transparency and you never disappoints.
I never knew uti is this intelligent and deep 🥰❤
Toke thank you for always assuring me that I'm not an insane person. We should learn how to give slack to the people we claim we love the same way will do for our siblings. Pulling out a receipt in every conversation is an unforgiven spirit. I'm supposed to be able to have a conversation with my partner without pulling out the receipt. With Uti's mentality, I won't even call his relationship love but the partnership
We are human u can't avoid it u can forgive ND not forget
That means you are a gaslighter period!
I don’t agree. UTI might have been a little bit too intense but he knows where he’s coming from. It works for you don’t mean it’ll work for someone else. We often want validation from everyone and everywhere else but ourselves. I know a situation where a person apologizes for their bad behavior but keeps at it. Do you understand how that hurts? Our siblings, family members, partners and lovers shouldn’t go on hurting us cos we keep accepting and they keep doing negative things to us. More than anything, love over everything and we should protect one another by being kind. Girl hold your power.
Receipts are important when the offender makes it a pattern and gaslights you when you hold them accountable of their toxic pattern. It’s not a sign of unforgiving spirit
Period!
Bring UTI back! He is such a delight to watch. You guys didn’t have a breather because of the richness of your contributions
Accountability is the keyword for me 💯💯💯💯 na to just bring out receipts if things wan dey long. Receipts too sweet. and then the part Toke said to Uti "which girl.do you like this" killed me 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂"carpenter 2"...
Uti aced the assignment!!!!!!!! Accountability is huge... but it is only beneficial to the one who is trying to do better and be better. One who values being held to a higher state of being. Toke is right where we need to make allowance for people's shortcomings and extend grace but I'd argue it is even more important that people learn how to express themselves when emotions are high in that heated moment. Too much damage is done when a person is controlled by their emotions at the expense of Tact. Yes we are humans, but those on the receiving end are also humans. Saying what you mean and in the way you'd also like to receive it is key. Remember, words can cut deep and people won't forget how you made them feel so.... No! Let's learn to express ourselves better when angry. E hard die. But we can learn it. If we communicate better when it matters most, we rid ourselves of half the problems we face in all kinds of relationships. This was such a fun conversation. Part 2 please!!
I agreed with everything Uti said. Love is patient, love is Kind in any circumstance no matter what it is, if a person who claims to love acts outside of this principle it is not LOVE. People should stop allowing people to shit on them based on so-called love. Love feels good even in hard difficult circumstances, love is still love
omg this episode was so deep, love Uti' intelligence and wished the episode was longer... didn't want it to finish
I was thinking the same!
I'm with UTI on accountability.
Woo!! Toke just hit the nails on the head, is the need to be right so important right now, or the bigger picture as a team👌🏾🙌🏽
Wow Uti making the most sense and spitting out hard facts!!👏👏👏. Love the spin on accountability. Goodluck on ur journey Uti. The growth shows!!!
Uti speaks intelligently. So, Self Aware and Self Assured. Love love his submission, Aced this conversation 😍😍🥰
Tokes fashion ehnnnn...🥰
Love how Toke’s outfit blends so well with the background
Go Toke!!!! I love this blue zone conversations❤❤❤
Uti is correct we need to hold each other accountable, that's why there is a lot of gaslighting, people do not want to genuinely face their emotions
What an amazing conversation. Toke, I love how much you have grown over the years. You have really done your work and it shows!!! Girl, who is your therapist- drop the deets. Its also obvious through this past season that you have been really hurt by people closet to you; unintentionally you reference heart break in every conversation, but it lets us know behind all the glitz and glam, you are human😍. Toke I Stan you girl.
UTI, watching this interview- I love that you are self aware and you have also done your work; however your conversation gave me serous anxiety. While I do believe people should be held accountable for their actions, the truth is people are humans and would slip from time to time; we have to be able to extend GRACE. It doesn't appear that there is room for error in your world. You might have to undo your work small beg, I think you did too much work!!!
You apply grace for people who see it as a slip up and are willing to work on that attitude so that it does not repeat itself or atleast it reduces gradually.
Wow!
DAMN!
I enjoyed this sooooo much !!!❤
😂😂😂😂😂 Uti Dey argue like my papa, you can’t win them…..
But then, I kinda agree with him on this one
Lemme goan watch fess, then come back later to comment 😂😂❤❤💪💪💯💯
I really stan Toke on her words here, It might sound like accountability to call your partner out and even accounting their behaviours in names, like you're being silly, etc, etc, but that doesn't help, regardless of how much work a person has done on themselves, feelings are also part of a person, it seems too damn logical for something that started out and is also built on emotions. If it's this way life is, then our parent were right in so many they spoke to us growing up.
Our parents were wrong but we weren't empowered enough to hold them accountable. I doubt your parents can insult you the same way they did when you were young. That's the crux of Uti's argument: you can't be in a relationship with someone who doesn't fear saying insulting words. It's the ultimate red flag, no buts.
Yo! I haven’t even listened more than 5mins and I’m 💯 with UTI. It takes a lot to get to the point he has gotten to. Wow this is an amazing episode. Thank you Uti and Toke for this episode
Very interesting and educative conversation. Loved it!! 😍😍
Love the organic banta between Toke & Uti ❤so matured, realistic, fun, engaging and nice😂😂😂😂 #BringUtiBack to the show 🥰
I totally agree with him when he mentioned how people throw bad words (liar, fool, ugly, etc.) when arguing. I can forgive you for raising your voice (which should be once in a blue moon😂) but you better not insult me or bring up a past event/ current situation to hurt me, if you do, you clearly shouldn’t be with me, so BYE!✌🏾
I feel this conversation with Uti was long and it had to be cut into bits, cause some discussions were not complete😭😭. TM, please you might have to bring him back, he sounds self aware and knowledgeable👏🏾.
And I really like #TMpod because of the TOPICS and HOW they are discussed, it’s not all about gossip and throwing shades, you would actually learn something tangible.
But Uti is making sense 😂😂😂😂 All I can say is that the relationship pool of today is a mess!
Has to be how Uti is aging backwards!!! 🤍
I totally agree with UTI especially with how he dealt with his past relationship giving his ex a second chance because some people think that we are supposed to be perfect buh guy no one is perfect but we can try to be better. And for a relationship to work it has to be both ways,love has to be reciprocated.
God blessed you with insight, keep on .
Toke be looking fabulous as always🤩
This was soo good!!!
UTI!!!!!!😂😂😂😅😅😅😅😅😅 BRO I LOVE THIS ABEG!!!!!!!❤
Love this episode❤️ and the way Uti explains things… love you Queen T🤭
An interesting conversation... really loved it.
The eye shade 😍
Nice one we want to see Nengi❤️❤️
I wish this lasted for a minute ❤❤❤❤ very deep. 👏
We cherish things and use people. So apt!
This episode was too short, loved it!!
Uti my man ! Lots of facts that we are not ready to hear.❤
Toke that’s Enabling o!
UTI you’re wise oo but it’s not a man or woman problem it’s a people problem, men use men, women use women. Toke please sometimes wrong should be wrong, it’s not about the need to be right. People should be able to hold their partners accountable to avoid familiar mistakes in the future. Always wanting to see the good people makes people stay in abusive relationships because then they feel guilty to leave because “the good outweighs the bad”.
Love love this episode ❤❤❤
Uti has a very strong personality and seems to be the type that checks out at every first fuck up. Uti is manipulative too.😂
I totally stand with Toke on its not important to always have immediate confrontation
I prefer when the argument has died down and we are un a healthy space I bring up the issue I was not okay with .
The problem is make sure you don't get gaslighted at the end
For the walking out on Uti when there's an argument
In some situations where the argument is getting overly heated
I prefer to leave the area inorder to allow the person and myself calm
down because it's not always going to be very easy all the time
Uti is me, I am Uti(gaslighting, last born, getting your facts in order & receipts-accountability) 😂😂🤭🤭🤭
I’m with Uti on this one. I do not tolerate nonsense anymore😅
Uti you’re loved so openly and straight person I remember some years ago he celebrated his birthday I was with him so disciplined
Now I know the reason why he won big brother Africa
Uti you can be my friend ;you nailed it; agree with you 100%
O my God, this conversation is so interesting
Totally totally agree with UTI. No name calling in disagreements, in arguments. Periodt.
These uti man ehn......he said its always the friend
UTi is a very intelligent man in relashioship, he tells the truth about women..we men have been called mumu even when we are being caring and faithful
Kudos Uti...Accountability is key in life.
Really enjoyed the conversation, I used to judge Uti from his time on Big Brother and his venom filled mouth. However, all I see is growth! Well done, guys!
Toke I miss your solo vsit-down videos where we just chat and you call things out as they are. When next are you going to do such videos?
Right!?
I love thisss
I agree with UTI to an extent. There is nothing worse than being in a relationship with gaslighter who lacks self-awareness & accountability. It’s draining. But I also agree with Toke that sometimes conflicts can get heated and out of hand between two passionate partners and that’s not enough to call it quits.
I always say getting married young has a lot of disadvantages in a sense that one feels robbed of their youth!
I agree with Toke, UTI wants to date a perfect girl, he thinks u shld be perfect bcos u have done work on urself.
I understand with Toke in this one.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣uti with the energy..
I support Uti on this. Yes to accountability… no name calling or insulting cos we are arguing. And you have to say I’m sorry if you ever use those words.. they are verbal abuse. You will have so much argument with loved ones, friends or people you are close to, do you want to hear such words said on the time? People need to learn to state their differences and still be respectful.
Thank you, Toke, for playing the devil's advocate. I feel Uti is a BIG TIME control freak and an egoist. Zodiac or not, that's a major flaw. I could be totally wrong too, as I do not know him personally. But from this conversation, that much is evident to me.
None of us are perfect, and we shouldn't waltz through life compiling receipts for our loved ones. It's called a "love relationship" for a reason, and I think loved ones are deserving of lots and lots of allowance.
I agree a 100% though, that there SHOULD be exceptions when the lover is toxic or when the wrongs have become a pattern... in that case, we should do all we can to protect ourselves. But largely, the premised assumption in this conversation is that of a loving relationship.
Toke I love your hair oh
I just became an uti fan .so realistic.
Women n forbearance 5&6
Uti is good but…..
This episode is drainingggg
Uti want to kill me
Non of this argument uti agreed with which is a total 🚩
Tokestar try ooo😩🙌🏼💝
who do uti like this🤣🤣🤣🤣
I love the combo. Uti and Toke 😍
You represented your gender 😂😂 the na wa at the end is not a small one 😂😂😂
Here because of UTI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So I never saw this side of uti before now, I love him now my fellow Leo.
Toke allow UTI talk finish now, you were just interrupting and loosing the train of thought sometimes. I wanted to hear more sometimes. However good episode!
Uti came with receipts and small vawulence lmao
This guy is intelligent....what!!!!!
It is good and fine to wait till 30 or 35 to marry but who told you , you will live up to 40?
If you fine a good woman or man and you are able to start a family, why not do it?
I believe we all just need wisdom when it comes to relationships.
Intelligent duo
I'd like to hear more of Uti's insights
Weldone Uti
THIS WAS CLEARLY A FIGHT🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.. MAKE UNA GO INSIDE RING
Who put these two together please 🤣🤣🤣
....But nobody should call me idiot ooo aaah no name calling please
Accountability cannot be over emphasized
I'm with Uti-accountability. If I have to be keeping receipts then it's time to move on. Be careful with your words. Some of us have paid for being too empathetic-God sef dey tell you to bounce! Abusers don't own their stuff and then act like the victim when you block them. Awkward as it might be-protect your peace at all costs
i agree with Uti>>>>>
Bring Uti back pls we need another episode with Uti
This I’m advancing forcefully , significantly and aggressively
please can uti come again please i use God beg you.
Narcissistic thought process...Wow.scary
I get the feeling that Toke has only ever experienced toxic situations and has a high tolerance for it now. What Uti is saying should be the norm
❤❤
Uti 💞💞
Hmm durex performa
Uti👍👍
I’m just here saying in my head, I want to marry UTI😩🥰🙈
i listened to this and all i could think was thank God God is not man.
😂👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
UTI has been scarred oo😅