Why Breaking Up Is So Painful
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- čas přidán 29. 08. 2012
- Breaking up is hard to do because it is both a mental and physical process. Memories live within our bodies and mind. Therefore, pain will arise during a breakup because the body is physically trying to work out the memories and keep them at a distance.
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It is painful because you give everything mentally, physically and emotionally to the person you love.
osho said once that the only human who is capable of love is the human who is capable of being alone
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Thats good.
"You can erase someone from your mind, but getting them out of your heart is another story."
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seanu sk so true
True that !
read my thoughts
It's all mind ...heart only has emotions not memories ...sorry but it's true
I am a man in mingo county West Virginia, I’m 48 years old now and I have been a drug addicted for 30 out of thirty eight years of life. I’m sure you here this a lot Sadhguru, but I started listening to you about four years ago, your wisdom has brought me further than all the churches combined. Sadhguru if you get this message or someone gets it for you, I really need you and I’m sure you’ve heard that a lot to. But you can save me Sadhguru. My name is Keith Evans please help me I’m willing to do whatever it takes please help me..
"The more memory you build into it [the body], the more confused it becomes." One big reason why relationships, especially ones that get physical, are extremely painful & difficult to end :(
Adam Hemingway- well said brother...... Its so true.... No one understands wot pain one goes thru..... . And i have immense respect n love for Sadguru ji!!!!
Adam Hemingway truly painful 😔
"you are divorcing your spouse, which is bad enough - do not divorce yourself from yourself"
True
You need to understand that at times divorce is not by your choice but become a compulsion. U can't judge everybody's situation as one.
Beautifully said, i lost everythg but found my self please never give up on yourself as u are the only 1 that will understand u. Xx
Right
Heeey! You sayin sumpm HERE!! small but powerful words. Do not divorce myself from myself.. In tears 😢
Holy shit I really needed this right now. I'm going through a breakup with someone who is toxic for me but whom I still love very much. Mad respect for Sadhguru.
Alan Ponte how are you doing? I'm in the same situation is
Going through it right now.
Me 2 we screamed at each other all the time but I miss her so much and she's moved on my hearts broken :(
Same here :-(
Same here
I miss my ex wife so much. 14 years of memories and what I thought was the ultimate comfort in life. She is a great person, but I could not make her happy. I struggled with so many issues of my own. She and I have a beautiful son together. I really wish that we would be together again someday.
Going through the same thing man how's are you starting to feel a little better though? Cause I could sure use some reassurance right now.
You will be someday
+JOHN CONTOS In my opinion John I cannot make another person happy. If I think that I can make another person happy, or that they can make me happy, then I am am deluded! This point is well developed IN THE ROAD LESS TRAVELLED by Scott Peck. Thanks for your honest sharing. God bless.
who is this
+Cynthia Miller (1 of a kind queen b) why do you want to know
What a like most about Sadghuru is that he isn't hippy and complicated he's very cool and easy to listen to. Bless him.
WE DIE MANY TIMES IN LIFE BEFORE OUR PHYSICAL DEATH.
SUFIBEAT can you please explain
Caesar: “A coward dies many times before his death. The valiant never taste of death but once. Of all the things that I have ever heard the strangest it seems to me is that men fear, seeing death, a necessary end, will come when it will come.”
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@@bubbles6958 why you mad?
I was in a toxic relationship too, just realized break-ups are a blessing... It's not negative to me *at all* except a side effect that wears off soon...
After break-up, I found myself...my real self.. hard to put in words... M new... I realized my "realizing-self", it's true..now I get it... Shiva is beautiful, satyam shivam sundaram.
I am happy for your new "found" life :)
I like this guy more than osho. osho is great but I feel bad when I listen him , he makes me feel hopeless. but this guy is more realistic and more optimistic, and offers real life solutions rather than theorical utopias. Great video, thank you
+Swolbraham Lincoln I had the same experience. I tried listening to Osho but I had to give up since I didn't feel any inspiration...Sadhguru just has that special kind of 'magic' :)
PS I feel bad for people that will never find out about him and/or will not be able to get it ...
I like Sadguru so much and I listen to him almost every day. About Osho it is quite different, in fact I love him. I agree that Sadguru advises are more practical than Osho but there is sth in Osho that makes me crazy about him. He is just very different from everything that I have ever seen, maybe very pure and untouched.
It's just simply different methods of expression.
for osho, he was truly a mystic, he used abstract concepts to explain thus most people are having difficulty to understand him.
I'm not saying Sadhguru is not a mystic, but he has certainly surpassed osho in terms of expressing himself and his explanations.
I agree with you Bryan. Sadhguru has his own way to make ordinary people to understand life in more spiritual way. I think if one wants to continue his or her inner journey in more depth Osho's teaching will be the light in darkness. this is base on my own experience.
Puvanes Velu Ordinary humans are not yet capable in reaching the understanding Of Osho's teachings, similar to the teachings of the Buddha.
I would usually recommend, people to start by listening to Sadhguru's teachings and apply Osho's and The Buddha's teachings later onwards.
You can never underestimate the pain of heartaches because it's almost the same intensity of being hurt physically or way more painful than it. Physical pain can heal immediately but emotional pain can last long more than a year and it depends on how you cope up with it. So we should bear with people who are suffering from emotional pain because we never know what they've been through.
Anewlove,com Official well physical pain doesn't heal instantly unless maybe you're Wolverine but I know what you're talking about and what you mean and it's true
Well said: A New Love Official. I fully endorse your comments!
Someone like me who go through emo pain or heart break has to be splash with ICE, cold water on our face to WAKE TF UP about realities of life - that everything including relationship CHANGE..
I broke with my wife who was the best lady any man could ever get in his entire life. She was a 100% asa mother, A sister, A daughter, Afriend , A nurse, A teacher, A best friend and a wondeful wife who has supported me financially, mentally, emotionally, morally, physically and has been with me in all hard times. I messed it up so much while I regret her absense every second. No solace or peace till date. I love my Batul the most in this world while no one can match her or replace her in thixs entire world.
I'm sorry for your lose, friend. I can relate to your story in that I was like your wife. I had to let go because I wasn't getting what I needed (e.g., a family, a man to look up to, a man who could step up, a man who would protect me). The role reversal messed it up. What I had to do was COMPLETELY separate myself from my best friend to let myself heal like Sadhguru says. Not easy. I still have remnants of that memory but I am much better now (7 years later) than year one. I'm looking again... One who is compatible physically, mentally and spiritually. Very possible to find someone like that! Enjoy the journey, forgive yourself, and most importantly, LEARN about yourself! Watch more Sadhguru!
Sometimes its better to preserve good memories than to create bad ones.
The separation was decided for me. I did not want my relationship to end or be ripped from my self and life . He is correct in what he says - my body is replaying memories of our life together all the time. My cells are grieving. If feels like I am in withdrawal from my ex and the life we had. I don't want to miss him but I do.
Sunflowershowers : how are you now? These things consume us and makes it scary to try again. We don’t like to hurt but that should not stop us living and loving with another....
I so relate it's horrible like I feel powerless and the grief is the worst part as it infuriates me as I want to be over him already
kinda shit a woman WOULD say sheesh
I also feel like I'm going through withdrawal. It hurts so bad, I'm flooded with memories. But time is magical. Every day I cry less and one day, I will cry no more.
Tree seer how are you doing now?
this guy is really wise. these videos help me sometimes with stuff I just can't deal with on my own.
Same here bro
Me too
+Phillip Adams This man is Leonardo da vinci at his childhood, & buddhha at his old age.
Me too. He has whole new and simple perspective.
Phillip Adams well said
In my opinion, Sadhguru is the wisest man I've ever met, even-thou just virtually, yet. When you try to argue about his words, you didn't get it. If you see more videos, if you change your way of thinking, you will understand that there is not best journey to go in logical way. You argue because everyone is different. Memories of people are different. By your data gathered he might be not right. Still his thoughts are synchronized with his spiritual body. In that way his thoughts are precious.
Most wars of this world are fought in the minds.
Survivor myself.
Divorce isn't always voluntary, and in my case it was worse than death, because that person not only left me, but did not want me anymore.
This guy...... I have learned so much i just an hour
I agree.Such great teachings!
Hindu dharma is deeper than Mariana Trench
I love the analogy of a bundle of memories and not only an analogy but it's actually what it is.
This was extremely helpful.
Thank You.
Believe me, he tries to help humanity. To make the world better place. He says: do things properly, consciously. Not compulsively. If you want to live in better world, you must first sort yourself out. I mean your spiritual body. I think he deserves respect and support in his work.
I can never get enough of this guy! I just love his philosophy on life and his outlook is very wise! Positive indeed😉
Unrequited love is FAR worse
My soul touches you everyday, my dear Sadhguru..🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️❤️
thank you
Your Welcome :--
He is very understanding of the physical pain of breaking up and how our body suffers through it.
wish I never displayed random jealously when were at such a good place in our life.
We must not desert our selves; what ever the situation it may be;
Divorce is horrible. Nowadays in the west it is trendy to say "I am going through a divorce". What a horrible way to live by mourning your own death, the death of your other half!
that was the most realest shit ive ever heard.
But sometimes you need to make that decision when it becomes the best option after trying to talk things for the sake of peace. What would you do when all efforts have failed?
*4 years together with a man who loved me unconditionally, and I allowed one of his old mistakes to take a toll on my mind, cloud my judgment and become jealous and controlling. I’m going to manifest ABDULRAHMAN back into my life, I’m going to be with him again again. We are paired.*
I'm in tears right now.I have recently broken up with my ex. I didn't know how to deal with these emotions it's so destructive that I felt emptiness that is not peace. I want to talk to some people but I don't have much friend. Thank you for this. :')
+Arthr, your comment is about a month old. How are you feeling now?
Stay strong I'm also struggling but need to moved forward like they will or in my case have already moved on
Arthr hope you are doing fine now..
Hope ur doing good now
My friend, don't loose your confidence. You are in a process of breaking the bond between you and that girl. All the pain is in u r mind. Control u r mind conquer it then u ll be perfectly free. Have strong will to conquer u r mind...
If I can only hug you in person to thank you for all of your teachings would be an honor. I love you from the bottom of my heart thank you my teacher.
Have been through a heart-break n depression as well .. Thank you for this beautiful video .. So relatable .. 💕
17 people failed to understand this!
he has very good teachings and is helpful.
"Divorce is a voluntary death", makes alot of sense, it's why so many people commit suicide after heart break.
Wow !...I have great respect for Sadhguru ,I found out about him a few days ago when I was looking for some videos of the Daai Lama and I've been watching them since then ...
check out Osho videos. You might find him more amusing and interesting. Sadhguru is my 1st spiritual guru as well :)
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This man has a Beautiful aura. You are Shining ✨✨✨
This confirms to me that attachment to someone is very much indeed a literal physical spiritual Engineering process.
I recently got attached to someone compulsively and I just couldn't deny real things that's happening within me.. mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
I just knew it was very very deep.
I am from Florida, USA
everyone should watch the video on CZcams it's a documentary called "MUST SHARE this is the knowledge they don't want us to know". the title is just provocative but it does underline everything that sadhguru is teaching scientifically. it helps me understand. it's amazing
I am going for Indian food tomorrow! Oh...and this is a very wise man. Thank you for sharing.
Richard Heteny so what did you ate?
That sounds racist
great enjoy India food💕 which is really just north Indian food in the West.
I agree I don't know where I would be without sadhguru
I love this. This is exactly what I need right now. Thank you.
Just went through a breakup, thank you so much for this really helped.
That is some advice. Wow. It analyses breakups in a whole new level
Thanks for the wise words. Really helpfull these days. Glad I found this channel, very interesting and inspirational.
Thank you for your insight! It is true the physical memory of how it was is the most difficult part to let to from. Logically you know the other person has moved on and is no longer there but YOUR feelings, thoughts and LOVE make it very real like it happening now despite the truth. Every sight, sound, touch and smell are very deep in your core! Distancing yourself from someone that fills you with love makes it even worse to detach.
Wonderfully explained. I always took time after a break up - varies depending on how well I felt about a new relationship .. there was a bad abusive relationship that I was in for 3 years and it took me more than 2 years after the break up to recover and feel 100% again. So I ended up investing almost 6 years of my life into something that never worked out. What most people do not realize is that t is better to be single than to be in a bad relationship .. I think sadhguru is spot on with his memory concept of explaining break ups. Very accurate .. thankfully I realized this on my own through meditation and Buddhist / Hindu teachings about ten years ago when I had that bad break up I just described above.
Awesome ...your words are so powerful don't know why but I remember everything you say and how you deliver it. Thanks to God for teachers like you who help improve the mindset of the masses that need it.
Thank you so much for the very special words , helpful .practical and deeply insightful.
If only more and more people can understand this, I will be more than happy. Because nowadays I see people with this kind of mentality that move on you will find someone better. In the end, what Sadhguru said caught my whole attention that our body is self-sufficient itself and does not any external object and it is time now to dive inward.
As always sadhguru is wonderful human being.... i love his phylosophical thoughts
thanks for the wise words
Sadhguru ( Guru of ultimate truth )
Thank you for this I needed to hear it.
Thank you, Sadhguru. This is very helpful to know.
I know you here with a sad heart. Don't worry, it will be a better tomorrow
I think the same! The world can accomplish many more goals if we live and act as a species. No boundaries. We need to see the similarities between us rather than difference. This will help us become better, more connected people together. "Peace on earth is evolution for mankind." - Dub Fx
Right video at right time. Thank you Sadhguru.
This Is A Great Video! I needed this!
I would like to reach such clearity in my mind!!. I can't stop listening to Sadhguru, he explain life issues in a practical and easy way. I always find a moment of peace hearing to him.
Such beautiful wisdom you share, thank you
he has great skin
Gabriella Richie cx
lol...u came to see that :P
Blair Richie What a superficial human being.
Blair Richie he does! Young and fresh looking skin lol
Blair Richie I wonder what he's using on that beautiful black skin
I like your attitude, full of thoughtfulness. I don't agree, but I do respect you.
I get so much peace hearing ur voice
I will prepare myself with time because now I know relationship will end no matter what no one will stay in your life unless you have money in your pocket there is no ❤️ such thing ...no matter how good you are .....
I know I will not be the first person to end this but I will be prepared
Beautiful man!!
Very well explained !
Amazing words by my beloved Sadhguru.
Miss my ex so much. Six years and all we talked about was our love. So hurt she didn’t want to fight for it in the end when we had plans for the future. Hardest thing I have gone through...
Thanks very wise words.
See above.
Pure TRUTH.
I wish i had a friend like him.
Thank you!
this man is BRILLIANT!!! Thank you so very much for making me understand a little more. Thank you. :'(
Amazing. ...thank you.
u right sir. n breakup may damage your brain too
Thank you, blessings
Watching this just after getting everything ended. Wish I could have seen this video before. But I got my answer.
Divorce is a painful reality that shows that two individuals cannot live together anymore. Divorce is simply a peak of intoxication. It's the intoxication that triggers divorce. There is no need to go insane over it. Keep in mind that whatever happened has happened for good. Just move on and dont look back. If memories take one back to the wonderland they should remember the factor of intoxication that existed in the union. Instead of focusing on good memories one should focus on the reasons of the break up. People seperate and get together again to be seperated again. I have seen this many a time. Once my teacher said to me that separation is like a crack in a glass. You can glue it but the crack will always be there. If one is thinking about divorce or seperarion it simply means that they cannot live with thier spouse anymore. Imam ghazali said once its better to be alone than being with the bad company. Move on. Let the past go. If your ex is living thier life why the hell are you mourning over her 😁😁
I lost my best friend pain is unbearable unexplainable 😞loosing someone .. it hurts to the core 😞
IMO he makes great sense. Thru your sight, your mind has a memory, but the mind is sort of in a constant state of flux, your thinking this right now, then a second later another thought arises. Thru touch your body remembers, but the body holds on to it much deeper, so it's much harder to let go. We are not our body/mind, they are intimate possessions of our but not us, so we need to create space btwn that and us, that way the pain of divorce is not so bad...
I hope today’s generation understand this concept!
Separation is really difficult
Truth speaker with clear mind and joyful less every time.❤️
"THANKYOU"
thank you sadhguru dev
Damn! This was insightful
Sadguru sir you said correctly.
I Agree He is very intellegent isnt it !
Thank you so much
I like that sadhguru sees the things how they are. Its sad that those things in modern society are treated like it was nothing fundamental in life. This leads to a "throw-away"-mentality from the society, where it is normal that you divorce or have above 3 relationships in life or already have a relationship when you are 13 years old. Im blessed that im 23 years old and don't have a relationship so far, makes me even more motivated to work on myself tho, especially after seeing sadhguru speaking about it. Thank you very much.
It's not overly optimistic, it's 100% possible. Realization can happen in an instant to each and every one of us. Love is a state of being and not an action. It does not judge or differentiate between one thing or another.
Excellent..
Thank you
Thanks dad
❤️ Awesome 👏 👍🏼
❤️ Words of Wisdom ❤️
Very delicate to handle this
Sadhguru its a another wow...!
Phenomenal lecture, Sadhguru :)
So wise it is.. juz had breakup with someone who was toxic for me but whom i love very much...❤️💔