I'm taking DBT sessions finally after a decade long wait to find one in my community that didn't cost $2500 from the psychologists in this town. You can change your brain by changing your thinking, but it ain't easy. But put your mind to it, literally. I find it the one of the best therapies I have ever had.
Thank you so much for posting this! I'm in the process of trying to learn and you are really helping me. You are brilliant for presenting this information in a really digestible way.
If we have anxiety disorders or PTSD, "triggers" do in fact exist and that's a highly appropriate term. With disorders you often do not have control which is why we use prescriptions and therapy, to attempt to help it. Rarely do we gain control though.
I understand where you’re coming from, and I know that it’s really hard to feel like you have control in those situations, I certainly know that from my own experiences with ADHD and some childhood traumas. I think the goal of prof is not to dismiss anxiety disorders or PTSD, I think it’s more focused on a re-framing. As a person who, like many others, has their own “triggers”, I don’t think it’s always helpful to think about them with a defeatist attitude, that this is something we are bounded by. Like you said, therapy is something recommended and used, and I think this is what the professor is advocating. I am a highly emotionally reactive person (when not medicated) however, when I AM able to apply therapy techniques, the ability to gain control comes much easier, in my case. I don’t think the goal will ever to be to remove our “triggers”, I think the healthier approach, and the approach being proposed in this video, is that, while we may not be able to remove a trigger entirely, we can take control of our emotions a lot sooner than we realize. I wish you nothing but the best.
Yes. When I am triggered I immediately dissociate. I don’t hear or see anything at that point until someone speaks to me in a loving way. Then I come back to the present.
Good therapy endevours to bring back internal control rather than external control so you can trigger yourself in away that is benificial to self and other.imho
Thank you! Poor emotional regulation runs in my female bloodline. I constantly have to be mindful of it. The dudes in my family are totally fine. It's only the females raised by my "mother". Researching the brain helps me not resent her so much because i truly hated her for decades. But now i figure it's her brain and i can't fault neurons and stuff. Thanks for bringing humanity back into it. -Sadie ❤
Apart from content the professor is giving his own meaning and his reservation about using words like 'ballistic'. Man is not a victim but can develop competencies.
A symptom of ADHD is emotional dysregulation. Sometimes I react physically without thinking, it's like automatically happening and impossible to control that initial split second response.
I see disregulation in sports every day. Hit a home run in the 4th inning of a 10-1 game, and the player tosses the bat, screams, pimps his home run all the way around the bases. Look at how Spacex in their live feeds in the audience,reacts to a positive launch experience as well. Screaming at the top of their lungs while flailing their arms in the air. Strictly from a scientific POV, I’m curious if this is normal. “Normal”
What if it's to the point where overload of emotion looped thought process to only see hurt and pain leading to crash can I get better. Mental health meds didn't help. After brain crashed now it's like gaps
You can get better. I suggest reading the book The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk. Mindfulness meditation practice is also very helpful. The skills mentioned in this video are not things you just pick up over night. Emotion regulation takes practice. It is a skill to be developed over time. But you can do this.
@@charlsongaines128 thank you for response and the recommendation eben if my brain has suffered damage of even basic functions ? Can I get those back ? Idk if I made sense
@@melaniemoore6303 If you are talking about physical damage to your brain, that is different. If you have lost executive functions due to damage to the prefrontal cortex, I suggest speaking to a neurosurgeon or neurologist. But if we are talking about something psychological, such as adverse effects due to trauma, then I suggest reading the book. Look him up on CZcams first to see if you can relate. Also, to help control your stress response, including anxiety, panic attacks, depression, PTSD, and other issues, you can try other things that will help you manage your thoughts and emotions such as yoga, mindfulness meditation, tai chi, or something with animals such as horseback riding... or even art or playing a musical instrument. There is neuropsychological basis for these suggestions, but I'm just not going to get into it all on here. You can email me at charlsong1@gmail.com if you wanna talk more. Take care.
Emotion is sort of like a sense… like touch, sight, hearing, etc. It’s a system that our bodies have to make sense of our experiences, and to motivate us to make choices that enhance our survival.
@@masterthebasics4846 emotion is a combination of thoughts and body feelings. The body feelings come from a combination of things (like heart rate, breathing rate, stomach acid, carbon dioxide level, muscle tension, endorphins… many things). The body feelings are orchestrated by circuits in the brain (which eventually are wired to other body parts). And the brain activity is in response to external events - or to internal events (like changes in body functions, or thoughts or memories)
@@ErikMessamoreMD some say the planetary movements (heavenly bodies) have a lot to do with emotions. Do you think they cause emotional reactions and or causes emotions? Thank you Dr
The concept of emotional regulation just sounds like gaslighting and victim-blaming to me. A person feels an emotion that a person in power has determined they have no business feeling, and they are required to stop feeling it. Emotions exist for a reason, they tell us something. This concept is usually used with abuse survivors, who already have a long history of burying their fear, anger and sadness to keep people in power happy. If someone is hyper-vigilant or reacting with more fear than expected, the psychiatrist should be asking why they do not feel safe, why it would be reasonable for them to feel unsafe and what they need to feel safe. The last thing they should do is tell the patient that they only feel unsafe because they are "sick." They should be instructed to listen to those feelings and address what is causing them, not "control" them.
I have thought this way for a long time, however, and this is vital....no one wants the patient who is self harming, very destructive, suicidal etc and unable to use healthy skills to cope to overly open up over more things when they are not equipped about handling what they already have. From experience they want to make sure the person has some skills in place which isn’t just control but acceptance for how they may feel before the real reasons for their valid emotions are dealt with. The amygdala is firing all over the place with trauma and it needs to be re trained, understanding and accepting your emotions are vital in gaining some self control and who doesn’t want to feel that? It’s taken time to realise why they don’t just get stuck in and dig and deal but trauma is so powerful with some of us that it’s dangerous. Decider skills and DBT is not deep psychotherapy directed at your trauma but with this acceptance and skills you can then delve deeper. I have had so much experience of this now unfortunately.
I think you are confusing burying and dealing with. Continuing to go over something that puts you in an emotionally damaging state is as bad as burying it, because it will resurface stronger than ever before. One needs to learn how to deal and cope with their ordeal, and get on with life or it can lead to a life of violence, repeatitive patterns, heart attacks, strokes, weight gain, drug abuse, crime and more.
That perspective is too biological, it bypasses the most fundamental essence of what means to be human. Adaptive behaviors, survival...well that's good but please go beyond the animal !!!
I’m nearly a third of the way through right now and don’t think I’ll have the patience to finish. “Triggered” is a word used by society to address sensitivity… nothing more.
I'm taking DBT sessions finally after a decade long wait to find one in my community that didn't cost $2500 from the psychologists in this town. You can change your brain by changing your thinking, but it ain't easy. But put your mind to it, literally. I find it the one of the best therapies I have ever had.
Wow I love how God made us with the capacity to change 🙏🏼
Lol there is no god
@@Maureenieee I know sometimes it seems that way but there is a God and He loves us all. I’m praying for you. 🙏🏼👍🏼
@@Maureenieee prove there is no God
Thank you so much for posting this! I'm in the process of trying to learn and you are really helping me. You are brilliant for presenting this information in a really digestible way.
Thanks for the feedback Laura!
I’m glad to know that it’s useful for you.
If we have anxiety disorders or PTSD, "triggers" do in fact exist and that's a highly appropriate term. With disorders you often do not have control which is why we use prescriptions and therapy, to attempt to help it. Rarely do we gain control though.
I understand where you’re coming from, and I know that it’s really hard to feel like you have control in those situations, I certainly know that from my own experiences with ADHD and some childhood traumas. I think the goal of prof is not to dismiss anxiety disorders or PTSD, I think it’s more focused on a re-framing. As a person who, like many others, has their own “triggers”, I don’t think it’s always helpful to think about them with a defeatist attitude, that this is something we are bounded by. Like you said, therapy is something recommended and used, and I think this is what the professor is advocating. I am a highly emotionally reactive person (when not medicated) however, when I AM able to apply therapy techniques, the ability to gain control comes much easier, in my case. I don’t think the goal will ever to be to remove our “triggers”, I think the healthier approach, and the approach being proposed in this video, is that, while we may not be able to remove a trigger entirely, we can take control of our emotions a lot sooner than we realize. I wish you nothing but the best.
Yes. When I am triggered I immediately dissociate. I don’t hear or see anything at that point until someone speaks to me in a loving way. Then I come back to the present.
EMDR has helped me enormously.
Good therapy endevours to bring back internal control rather than external control so you can trigger yourself in away that is benificial to self and other.imho
@@mjcjjcc7maybe you could try and learn how to speak to yourself in a loving way to bring yourself back into the present moment
I agree we all have the power to regulate its a skill that wasnt taught thats all
Thank you! Poor emotional regulation runs in my female bloodline. I constantly have to be mindful of it. The dudes in my family are totally fine. It's only the females raised by my "mother". Researching the brain helps me not resent her so much because i truly hated her for decades. But now i figure it's her brain and i can't fault neurons and stuff.
Thanks for bringing humanity back into it. -Sadie ❤
Apart from content the professor is giving his own meaning and his reservation about using words like 'ballistic'. Man is not a victim but can develop competencies.
A symptom of ADHD is emotional dysregulation. Sometimes I react physically without thinking, it's like automatically happening and impossible to control that initial split second response.
Great video sir. All young psykiatrists trainees in Denmark was just told about your channel during Corona lockdown.
Thanks! So happy to hear that.
Awesome video great topic excellent explanation
Can you learn at 45 if in therapy for five years already so ready
I see disregulation in sports every day. Hit a home run in the 4th inning of a 10-1 game, and the player tosses the bat, screams, pimps his home run all the way around the bases. Look at how Spacex in their live feeds in the audience,reacts to a positive launch experience as well. Screaming at the top of their lungs while flailing their arms in the air. Strictly from a scientific POV, I’m curious if this is normal. “Normal”
Thank you for your insightful session. Is it emotional regulation or emotion regulation. I have doubt on that, can u clarify my doubt
What if it's to the point where overload of emotion looped thought process to only see hurt and pain leading to crash can I get better. Mental health meds didn't help. After brain crashed now it's like gaps
You can get better. I suggest reading the book The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk. Mindfulness meditation practice is also very helpful. The skills mentioned in this video are not things you just pick up over night. Emotion regulation takes practice. It is a skill to be developed over time. But you can do this.
@@charlsongaines128 thank you for response and the recommendation eben if my brain has suffered damage of even basic functions ? Can I get those back ? Idk if I made sense
@@melaniemoore6303 If you are talking about physical damage to your brain, that is different. If you have lost executive functions due to damage to the prefrontal cortex, I suggest speaking to a neurosurgeon or neurologist. But if we are talking about something psychological, such as adverse effects due to trauma, then I suggest reading the book. Look him up on CZcams first to see if you can relate. Also, to help control your stress response, including anxiety, panic attacks, depression, PTSD, and other issues, you can try other things that will help you manage your thoughts and emotions such as yoga, mindfulness meditation, tai chi, or something with animals such as horseback riding... or even art or playing a musical instrument. There is neuropsychological basis for these suggestions, but I'm just not going to get into it all on here. You can email me at charlsong1@gmail.com if you wanna talk more. Take care.
So what causes emotion?
Emotion is sort of like a sense… like touch, sight, hearing, etc.
It’s a system that our bodies have to make sense of our experiences, and to motivate us to make choices that enhance our survival.
@@ErikMessamoreMD okay but what causes them
@@masterthebasics4846 emotion is a combination of thoughts and body feelings. The body feelings come from a combination of things (like heart rate, breathing rate, stomach acid, carbon dioxide level, muscle tension, endorphins… many things). The body feelings are orchestrated by circuits in the brain (which eventually are wired to other body parts).
And the brain activity is in response to external events - or to internal events (like changes in body functions, or thoughts or memories)
@@ErikMessamoreMD some say the planetary movements (heavenly bodies) have a lot to do with emotions. Do you think they cause emotional reactions and or causes emotions? Thank you Dr
the only thing that helped me to regulate emotions was coherence training
Who is this clinician speaking?
This is Dr. Erik Messamore erikmessamore.com/
He is taking about himself in third Person? And quoting himself?
You have to regulate your emotions in an environment where at least 20% of the population are narcissists.
The concept of emotional regulation just sounds like gaslighting and victim-blaming to me. A person feels an emotion that a person in power has determined they have no business feeling, and they are required to stop feeling it. Emotions exist for a reason, they tell us something. This concept is usually used with abuse survivors, who already have a long history of burying their fear, anger and sadness to keep people in power happy. If someone is hyper-vigilant or reacting with more fear than expected, the psychiatrist should be asking why they do not feel safe, why it would be reasonable for them to feel unsafe and what they need to feel safe. The last thing they should do is tell the patient that they only feel unsafe because they are "sick." They should be instructed to listen to those feelings and address what is causing them, not "control" them.
I have thought this way for a long time, however, and this is vital....no one wants the patient who is self harming, very destructive, suicidal etc and unable to use healthy skills to cope to overly open up over more things when they are not equipped about handling what they already have. From experience they want to make sure the person has some skills in place which isn’t just control but acceptance for how they may feel before the real reasons for their valid emotions are dealt with. The amygdala is firing all over the place with trauma and it needs to be re trained, understanding and accepting your emotions are vital in gaining some self control and who doesn’t want to feel that? It’s taken time to realise why they don’t just get stuck in and dig and deal but trauma is so powerful with some of us that it’s dangerous. Decider skills and DBT is not deep psychotherapy directed at your trauma but with this acceptance and skills you can then delve deeper.
I have had so much experience of this now unfortunately.
I think you are confusing burying and dealing with. Continuing to go over something that puts you in an emotionally damaging state is as bad as burying it, because it will resurface stronger than ever before. One needs to learn how to deal and cope with their ordeal, and get on with life or it can lead to a life of violence, repeatitive patterns, heart attacks, strokes, weight gain, drug abuse, crime and more.
Jesus mate
That perspective is too biological, it bypasses the most fundamental essence of what means to be human. Adaptive behaviors, survival...well that's good but please go beyond the animal !!!
I’m nearly a third of the way through right now and don’t think I’ll have the patience to finish. “Triggered” is a word used by society to address sensitivity… nothing more.
You should be ashamed!