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  • What is the deal with our obsession with the Native American Burial Ground curse?
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  • @cladspoon1917
    @cladspoon1917 Před 6 lety +2392

    I'm a full blooded Navajo deathling here! Indigenous pride here!🙂

  • @amypanddirtytoo1926
    @amypanddirtytoo1926 Před 6 lety +1769

    I am Lakota. The reason we prefer certain names, at least the reason WE prefer Lakota over Sioux, is that Lakota is OUR name, Sioux is the name the whites gave us when the federal government started logging all
    the different tribes. The government just decided to rename the tribes for some reason. Hence the reason Lakota prefer Lakota and not the name the US government gave us: Sioux.

    • @kme
      @kme Před 6 lety +95

      amy pease from what I understand (at least in some places in Canada) the tribes were given names according to what others (often traditional enemies) called them, rather than the names they themselves used.

    • @amypanddirtytoo1926
      @amypanddirtytoo1926 Před 6 lety +131

      KM E true. Some of the names were even just because the government liked the sound of them better, and some were just a description of the area they lived. Can you imagine the government renaming you against your will "dumb ass" if that was what am enemy called you or "icy and cold" cuz you lived somewhere cold!

    • @U2kitteh
      @U2kitteh Před 6 lety +40

      Wow, thank you for sharing that. I didn't know that! =c(

    • @rachelcreel1163
      @rachelcreel1163 Před 5 lety +40

      Agreed. I am Sac and Fox (Oklahoma) but our true name is Sauk.

    • @berkleypearl2363
      @berkleypearl2363 Před 5 lety +52

      I learned from the CZcams channel singelesktube that the name Sioux comes from the French. When the French asked their Algonquin guides what the Lakota people were called they were given an Algonquin name meaning “people across the snake-like river”. The French had difficulty pronouncing that name, so they shortened it to Sī (the last syllable of the aforementioned Algonquin word). Later they pluralized the word into Sioux. So while it was very rude of United States government to just stick with this very poor French interpretation, they didn’t just pluck it from thin air. I’ll link you the video if I can find it. It’s a lecture by a very kind, quiet Lakota elder. Not Sandra Black Bear or her brother, but some other teacher at the Rosebud university

  • @YTistooannoying
    @YTistooannoying Před 6 lety +649

    Navajo is a title the Spaniards bestowed upon the Diné. It has a murky etymology but it is generally accepted to mean cultivated fields. The term first appeared in 1603 as los Apaches de Navajo. Diné means man but has the accepted meaning of The People.

    • @sickgirl_acidrain2252
      @sickgirl_acidrain2252 Před 5 lety +30

      I find it so interesting that our names for us was always some variation of "people" . It was the setters that gave us "names" for ourselves. But to us... We're people. (I'm keetoowah- Oklahoma band) every time I watch my favorite genre of movie (horror) I think... Watch it be us... Watch it be us.... Yup it's us. We're burried there so it's haunted. 😒 Lol

    • @mariopalenciagutierrez4318
      @mariopalenciagutierrez4318 Před 4 lety +11

      @Steve Silvas that is navaja, not the same.

    • @ellenrice19
      @ellenrice19 Před 4 lety +5

      Ok, just a thought here but I have always been taught that the "Navajo" and the "Apache" were two different groups and that it was the "Apache" who referred to themselves as the "Diné"...anyone care to shed some light?

    • @FraxinusDipetala
      @FraxinusDipetala Před 4 lety +17

      Ellen Rice so the languages are both in the same “group” of languages (Athabaskan) in addition to being geographically close. Words and sounds are similar in certain cases. But both refer to themselves as Dinee/Dene/Diné. I did a bit of research when I found out about my mother’s bio dad growing up on a reservation. He was Apache.

    • @ellenrice19
      @ellenrice19 Před 4 lety +2

      @@FraxinusDipetala thank you...I was aware of the language group but not the vocabulary specific to each language.

  • @MiyuYoshida1
    @MiyuYoshida1 Před 6 lety +341

    Coming from a Diné woman, you said Diné really good!
    Also, thank you for mentioning that not all Diné people like to be called Navajo.
    Loved the shade you giving with the cherokee thing. LOL

  • @treetopy
    @treetopy Před 6 lety +2602

    "Barbecued horse wall" has been added to my growing list of "things I heard on Caitlin's channel and will never, EVER hear again".

    • @MartyredMuse
      @MartyredMuse Před 6 lety +39

      treetoppy I'm singing "barbecued horse wall" to the tune of "Bentham's head".

    • @Hadra568
      @Hadra568 Před 6 lety +9

      EverEmily good im not the only one

    • @hissymama
      @hissymama Před 6 lety +1

      Caitlin's so funny! Haha i love her!

    • @lilithjade4363
      @lilithjade4363 Před 6 lety +3

      treetoppy best comment ever lol

    • @christinebicha3887
      @christinebicha3887 Před 6 lety +2

      treetoppy that’s a long list

  • @para_momal
    @para_momal Před 6 lety +757

    "BBQ'd Horse Wall", yet another death metal band name.

    • @Infernape7890
      @Infernape7890 Před 6 lety +4

      Sounds more like a deathcore band name. Maybe even a grindcore band name.

    • @jnels2007
      @jnels2007 Před 5 lety +2

      Yessss! I was shocked she had only found 2 named "Coffin Birth"

    • @slowpokebr549
      @slowpokebr549 Před 5 lety +1

      Officer Greg? that you?

    • @insolubletoaster8133
      @insolubletoaster8133 Před 3 lety

      How about a death metal country band? Even if you play it backwards, you ain't getting that horse back.

  • @nikyle5869
    @nikyle5869 Před 3 lety +124

    I appreciate your “I am 1/19th Cherokee and my spirit animal is a unicorn.” I am full Navajo and fellow deathling, I enjoy your videos so much!

  • @Lady_Chalk
    @Lady_Chalk Před 4 lety +20

    Selling bones as souvenirs.
    I almost flipped my table.

  • @torilee6677
    @torilee6677 Před 6 lety +842

    Moment of silence for the BBQ’d horse wall 😭

  • @trpplanz
    @trpplanz Před 6 lety +290

    im full Navajo and a deathling! Navajo Death Culture is completely shut out of our communities on the rez. (yee-yah!) So I go out of my way to learn more (read, ask) even though my family is extremely against it. (I was told id be disowned if I became a mortician. My family is very very traditional on one side and Christian on the other. I grew up traditionally but im more open minded.) As far as i know theres 1 Navajo mortician and hes in Shiprock, NM. I may be wrong but thats what I know! The fear was that what I may do (touching the dead, looking at them, etc) would effect my family in negative ways such as sickness or death for the people I love the most or myself. I find it all to be fascinating and although im pursuing other things I still openly try to discuss death topics w/ my family even tho they dont want to hear it. Im genuinely curious. It made me happy to see a video done by you, about our neighbors and fellow Athabascans, the Apache Nation. Awesome! Nizhoni! Also ive read both of your books! It was insightful and hard to put down, well written and a breeze to read!

    • @sandytruster3292
      @sandytruster3292 Před 6 lety +2

      Hyraeth Lansing You look white.

    • @louisebentley4886
      @louisebentley4886 Před 5 lety +1

      Do the People still enact the Blessing Way?

    • @tseville2404
      @tseville2404 Před 4 lety +10

      Nah i'm a paramedic in Arizona and my former EMT partner who is full navajo recently became a mortician. Idk if she was traditional or not but shes great :)

    • @Nylon_riot
      @Nylon_riot Před 4 lety +13

      I lived in AZ a couple of years and was the only white person my Navajo coworker would talk too. (I am from the east coast so therefore not a dick to Indians.) I wish society were more like the Navajo except for that death hangup. :) Though to say Navajo society is complicated is an understatement. This friend became a chemist because she realized that no one in her community was a chemist and they needed one. If only everyone worked this way in society.If I wasn't disabled, I would run for office to get Native Americans more protection and rights. I think each tribe should have a representative in Congress.

    • @Vox-Multis
      @Vox-Multis Před 4 lety +3

      @@Nylon_riot Out of genuine curiosity, how does being disabled stop you?

  • @SB-iz4xm
    @SB-iz4xm Před 6 lety +10

    Thank you for pointing out the absurdity of "Indian burial ground" myths. At work several years ago, a housekeeper blamed a few curious incidents on the building being haunted in part by an Indian burial ground beneath it. I nearly strained my eyes from rolling them so hard.

  • @Spencer481
    @Spencer481 Před 3 lety +59

    This Miller dude sounds like an old timey Joe exotic

  • @uriahkessay5063
    @uriahkessay5063 Před 6 lety +382

    Native American's treat the dead with honor and respect. If you dishonour the dead, then they will dishonour you. This is why a lot of tribes offer prayers and songs to help the dead cross over for the safety of all. Btw WMAT member here.

    • @ilaera7830
      @ilaera7830 Před 6 lety +3

      Sweet, I’m Chiricahua.

    • @timmysisto7238
      @timmysisto7238 Před 6 lety +4

      San Carlos Apache here 👌🏻

    • @marlettechilds1971
      @marlettechilds1971 Před 6 lety +19

      Uriah Kessay
      My 97 year old grandmother passed on Mother's Day. The next day as the sun rose, I prayed and cut my waist length natural Spral curly hair to right under my chin. I feel good and worthy of life now. I'm ok, I was ok when I heard she passed and I'm ok now. Cause I know she's with our elders that have passed before. No tears cause I will see her again.

    • @marshmellow506
      @marshmellow506 Před 5 lety +2

      Idk about that, tons of tribes would desecrate the remains of their enemies, and cannibalism (the non-consensual kind, not the honor-thy-ancestors kind) was common throughout the plains. I'm sure they had some respect for the dead, but probably not more than any other culture.

    • @nosie4234
      @nosie4234 Před 4 lety +2

      White mountain apache here as well 👋

  • @ExplorationUnknown
    @ExplorationUnknown Před 6 lety +322

    I must say I discovers your channel recently. I am addicted and absolutely love your content.

  • @PrettyPudgyPrincess
    @PrettyPudgyPrincess Před 5 lety +239

    Okay... I fell down an "Ask a Mortician" hole for the last week... I. Can't. Stop. I ain't mad about it though. :P Great stuff!

    • @karissaah
      @karissaah Před 4 lety

      Mhya Does A Thing! me rn

    • @jonpaulnicolethorne6986
      @jonpaulnicolethorne6986 Před 3 lety

      What town?

    • @deftfuture4570
      @deftfuture4570 Před 3 lety +3

      same! Caitlyn has very quickly became one of my favourite youtubers! or, i guess, deathtuber ahaha

    • @insolubletoaster8133
      @insolubletoaster8133 Před 3 lety +1

      It's been a few months for me. You made this comment a year ago. Have you found your way out yet? Where does the hole end? Am I getting close to the mantle?

    • @MushVPeets
      @MushVPeets Před 3 lety +2

      @@insolubletoaster8133 I think that after a month of falling at presumably terminal velocity, we can guess metaphorically, if not literally, where the fall ends. Enjoy the plummet in the meantime; it's all you've verifiably got! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

  • @ShartimusPrime
    @ShartimusPrime Před 6 lety +86

    LMAO!!! You gotta sell a poster of that Caitlincorn. I'll totally buy one!

  • @roki5337
    @roki5337 Před 6 lety +689

    Thanks for this video! Another sensitive subject but could you do a video on the mass burial grounds of slaves in Maryland and Virginia?

    • @latias9628
      @latias9628 Před 6 lety +22

      R Oki I love in Maryland and had no idea about this. This is horrible but I want to know about it and not be ignorant about it.

    • @roki5337
      @roki5337 Před 6 lety +22

      I live here in Maryland and I first read about it in an article in the Frederick post. (Most smaller news papers carry the best stories!) I became interested since I know that Maryland was know for the tobacco plantations. Maryland was a tricky state since it was known as the Free State but there was slavery here just on a restricted basis. Virginia and Maryland had 100+ plantations (Many of them now owned by the National Park Service so I know there has to be some rich history with it as well as some burial grounds and rituals that may be interesting!

    • @gothicmom5232
      @gothicmom5232 Před 6 lety +3

      R Oki good idea!!

    • @ranedae
      @ranedae Před 6 lety +10

      I’m in Frederick, myself! Yes, our town and state has a dense history dating before the revolutionary war. Maryland also is home to one of the few green burial sites in the US. It is permissible to bury your dead in Frederick City. The permit is $30.

    • @lilithjade4363
      @lilithjade4363 Před 6 lety +3

      CAITLIN PLEASE DO THIS

  • @threeoftrees9286
    @threeoftrees9286 Před 6 lety +262

    The kids at my daycare got me sick as hell but if I'm gonna be sick, a pint of ice cream and new ask a mortician is probably the best way it could have gone

    • @torilee6677
      @torilee6677 Před 6 lety +5

      Fell better soon!

    • @femke6313
      @femke6313 Před 6 lety +4

      Take care of yourself and enjoy that ice cream!!!!

    • @threeoftrees9286
      @threeoftrees9286 Před 6 lety +3

      Thanks! Rsv is one of hazards of the job working with kids, I'm actually pretty surprised I didn't catch it sooner. Large sums of ice cream definitely help tho lol

    • @jennysandberg6874
      @jennysandberg6874 Před 6 lety +4

      Take care and enjoy the ice cream.

  • @crystalmj1982
    @crystalmj1982 Před 6 lety +169

    Has there ever been a dead person that actually broke you? I understand its your job and youre immune to it. But has there been that one that grabbed your heart and it bothered you? What was it? How do you handle it?

    • @Mrsjam96
      @Mrsjam96 Před 3 lety +20

      I worked in a hospital on the cancer wing for 13 years. The family is what got me! Seeing, hearing almost feeling the heaviness of their grief! It would overwhelm me sometimes and I was just the secretary. I would go into my office and cry. Especially when kids lost their Moms/ Dads.
      Now maybe I was drawn to the living because I believe in heaven and these cancer patients suffered so much pain that I believe they were going to a better place and they were ok to go! But their families were stuck here with nothing but grief, so the living were the ones who broke my heart ❤️!
      I also lived it. I fought cancer myself and won! Thank you Jesus! But I lost my beautiful mother in law to cancer too! To me it’s the living left behind. 💔

    • @pauletteperea9128
      @pauletteperea9128 Před 2 lety +24

      I don’t think Caitlyn is immune to suffering dead, she just confronts it in an upfront way despite how hard it can be. In her book “Smoke gets in your eyes” she mentions the corpses and situations that break her heart and how she also needed a break from dead. There’s also a TedTalk in which she mentions the corpses that changed her life.

  • @chelseaintherealworld3585
    @chelseaintherealworld3585 Před 6 lety +16

    Hi Caitlin, I love your work! I recently moved into a home near a cemetery, and a topic I would love to see you explore is the "longevity" of the business of cemeteries. What happens when they reach capacity or go out of business, who is responsible for the cemetery's upkeep and care in perpetuity? There was a NY Times article recently that explored all the creative ways that cemeteries in the NYC area are fitting more remains into finite space, but it didn't go into what ultimately happens when a cemetery has reached capacity. Do the owners just pack up and leave? Must they set aside funds for the continued care of the grounds, maybe like how insurance companies must keep enough money on the books to ensure they can pay out claims? Given the insane property values in our area and elsewhere, is it difficult to "start" new cemeteries? How does a business go about securing land to operate a cemetery?

  • @fishemojifishemoji4602
    @fishemojifishemoji4602 Před 6 lety +189

    Always found it really upsetting how "Graveyards and cemeteries" always get seen as sacred, understurbable places, whereas "burial grounds" seemed to end up being a couple archeologists frantically trying to save things as the bulldozer goes through developing, if there are any archeologists at all, you know? Like here in New York, a resort/casino was built called the Del Lago... With an island of undeveloped land in the parking lot holding a very old cemetery. But I've never heard even that about native resting places

    • @fishemojifishemoji4602
      @fishemojifishemoji4602 Před 6 lety +21

      Actually, a cool video would be the subject of death and land development

    • @HoneybeeRiley
      @HoneybeeRiley Před 6 lety +14

      Hey! So I'm in the archaeological field and I just wanna say that many construction jobs have an archaeologist monitoring the site while they dig around. In certain places they also need to consult the local native community before starting projects. If they get the okay to build, and bones or any other types of remains/artifacts are found in construction sites, correspeonding experts such as the police and a coroner are called in to determine if it is a recent grave or if it is an old burial.
      If the remains are recent they compare them with missing persons records and try to find out who it was. If it is older, they contact the local native community and hand over the remains to be properly buried.
      Most archaeologists I know bring sage and other things they deem necessary to be respectful/nonprofane while working with indigenous burial sites. Like it was said above, it's not a perfect system, but it's starting to help prevent further destruction of indigenous graves.

    • @paigelynn180
      @paigelynn180 Před 4 lety +2

      And act called NAGPRA (native american graves protection and repatriation act) was passed in the 1990s that requires archaeologists that find any old remains determined to be native american to consult with local tribes. The tribe the bones belong to desides what is done. If they say the archaeologists have to pack up and put the remains back to not disturb the dead, then that's what the archaeologists have to do.

    • @aazhie
      @aazhie Před 4 lety +1

      "Burial Grounds" to me, seems a much less respected name than "cemetery" at least as far as most white people seem to think?
      It's sort of telling that people tend to tack "Indian" or "Slave" in front of the word graveyard for places where POC are buried, but we can generally call the European descent's places of burial "graveyard" without needing any qualifying descriptor. Or the description is Protestant, or Green Meadows, something nice sounding or more specific than an entire race or category of people.

    • @jackrush1222
      @jackrush1222 Před 3 lety +2

      old video but it is inevitable to not build upon top of former graveyards and cemeteries. People will continue to live and reproduce, thus adding more and more dead people. We just can't simply bury all the dead until there is no space on Earth.

  • @ladeeeeM
    @ladeeeeM Před 6 lety +408

    Hi, I’m a new subscriber. I’d just like to say thanks for explaining things about death so clearly and with a sense of humour. Your videos are really helping me deal with my fear of death and what happens when you die. My Dad’s death ten years ago, really messed me up, and somehow your videos are helping me finally deal with it. Thank you ❤️

    • @agentmothman5343
      @agentmothman5343 Před 6 lety +10

      Amina Jane Ishaq welcome to the community. :D💚

    • @ladeeeeM
      @ladeeeeM Před 6 lety +3

      Foot Lettuce thank you 😊

    • @Takokujin07
      @Takokujin07 Před 6 lety +11

      I'm so glad you're learning to cope. My condolences, and welcome to one of the best communities on CZcams! Much love, a fellow deathling ❤

    • @ladeeeeM
      @ladeeeeM Před 6 lety +4

      ScarletNovember thank you for the lovely welcome fellow deathling 😁

    • @rohan79752
      @rohan79752 Před 4 lety

      I have to say, I can somewhat relate to you. I grew up living with my grandmother and grandfather. When I was 11 years old, my grandfather was shot dead. Bullet entered from the front of his face, and exited behind his head, nearly blowing away his whole skull at the back. I always wondered how they managed to make him so pretty when I saw his corpse. He was so peaceful looking. Literally quite beautiful. I also always wondered what happened to him after death, and what it was like dying. I just love how Cailtin describes death. If I would ever get the opportunity, I would love to be able to be a mortician.

  • @BirdSniffer343
    @BirdSniffer343 Před 3 lety +7

    As someone who has lived in Flagstaff for almost ten years now, I always thought two guns was just a road whenever I would pass by on the way to Winslow. I never thought twice about it. I had no idea that there was such a dark and interesting history behind it. In other news, I'm new to this channel and have been binge watching all of her videos for the last 3 days and I cant stop, pls send help.

  • @pamelam.cluthe3651
    @pamelam.cluthe3651 Před 4 lety +5

    Hi Caitlin. I just want to tell you that I am NOT a deathling. I happened to come across one of your vids in a "rabbit hole" and while the actual subject matter is not something I would have sought out, I have to say, i keep watching because I think you, Caitlin, are a wonderful speaker, presenter, and person. You are funny, kind, passionate,, and just really professional. Great job!

  • @ilaera7830
    @ilaera7830 Před 6 lety +279

    WHOA THIS IS MEGA COOL. *Is Chiricahua Apache*
    Edit: I feel like I must disclose that it’s cool that the two things I’m most proud of(being both Indigenous and death positive) are coming together under one video by a person I like.

    • @safire777
      @safire777 Před 6 lety +5

      Conquistadorable Yes! Same!

    • @AskAMortician
      @AskAMortician  Před 6 lety +54

      I'm so glad! Discussing indigenous issues can veer into the tone deaf and offensive, so we really tried do our research and not wade in unless there was something to say.

    • @ilaera7830
      @ilaera7830 Před 6 lety +6

      Ask A Mortician I’d say good job.

    • @faelientrashvlogs1495
      @faelientrashvlogs1495 Před 6 lety +3

      Saaaame! 1/4 apache over here 👋

    • @Opheliamamars
      @Opheliamamars Před 6 lety +7

      Conquistadorable love your name

  • @parkerkenney563
    @parkerkenney563 Před 6 lety +136

    Here is part of a speech given by Chief Seattle that may have caused *some* of the superstition surrounding Native American burial grounds.
    "At night, when the streets of your cities and villages shall be silent and you think them deserted, they will throng with the returning hosts that once filled and still love this beautiful land. The white man will never be alone. Let him be just and deal kindly with my people, for the dead are not altogether powerless."

    • @parkerkenney563
      @parkerkenney563 Před 6 lety +10

      I should add that there has been some dispute about the authenticity of this speech. Some say the multiple translations and white people omitting and adding things over the years butchered the original words.

    • @ohjalapeno
      @ohjalapeno Před 6 lety

      Parker Kenney there was a Chief Seattle? I wonder what the word means?

    • @parkerkenney563
      @parkerkenney563 Před 6 lety +6

      Charlotte Rhubottom from what I have read his name was Si'ahl and Seattle is the Anglicization of that name. I believe Si'ahl is a Luhshootsheed word but I don't know the translation.

    • @ohjalapeno
      @ohjalapeno Před 6 lety +4

      Parker Kenney thank you! Another interesting thing for me to google and read up on.

    • @hansbrackhaus8017
      @hansbrackhaus8017 Před 6 lety +3

      What's this about white people in this context? It wasn't whitey who killed the apache in those caves.
      Hate that kind of shit. Is it because that one guy sold bones as souvenirs? Well that's shitty but the actual death and decay was done by Indians.

  • @bryntendo
    @bryntendo Před 6 lety +23

    I've just realized that I haven't actually 'liked' all the videos of yours I've watched (which is all of them, several times), even though I legitimately Like them so much I love them! So I'm now going an Ask A Mortician binge and liking all the videos I didn't think to before. You deserve both the extra thumbs up AND the extra views, Caitlin!

  • @ericanelson5036
    @ericanelson5036 Před 5 lety +18

    Diné and Oglala 💓 loved this video and the respect you have for it

  • @kathleenwest1463
    @kathleenwest1463 Před 6 lety +151

    Speaking of tourist traps surrounding "Indian Ruins", never spend money going to the Manitou, Colorado, "Manitou Cliff Dwellings." Fakety fakes faked for the tourists. Plenty of cool stuff to do in this part of the country without paying for fakes. Just a random tip from a local.

    • @katharinehe
      @katharinehe Před 6 lety +24

      I mean they used to be a settlement before a person disassembled the structures and moved them and made it an attraction. I grew up around it and it's fascinating but not something I'd support financially now! Mesa Verde is well worth the drive. (Just my opinion as an archaeologist who works with indigenous people in the region.)

    • @Darswar4
      @Darswar4 Před 6 lety +4

      there is a dwelling in Mesa Verde, co that's legit.

    • @katharinehe
      @katharinehe Před 6 lety +4

      darzey yes it's a national park actually, many sites from many fascinating time periods

    • @katharinehe
      @katharinehe Před 6 lety +7

      Samar Nadra The archaeological sites in Arizona are from a different group but there are some wonderful sites to visit. Casa Grande ruin is particularly famous and worth visiting. Also if you can get to mid-NM, the Acoma have an amazing tour of their traditional village at the top of a mesa and their museum, which the community itself runs.

    • @linkenby
      @linkenby Před 5 lety +2

      So it's as realistic as Casa Bonita?

  • @ilaera7830
    @ilaera7830 Před 6 lety +146

    “i feel like i can say this, I’m 1/16 Cherokee” *Knowing smile.*

    • @ilaera7830
      @ilaera7830 Před 6 lety +50

      Daniel Appleton my point being is that a lot of people claim Cherokee lineage when they’re not at all. The point was to bond over the ire of hearing this too many times, not to discount or invalidate mixed Native people.

    • @ashs4074
      @ashs4074 Před 6 lety

      Same here haha

    • @MegaMsrachel
      @MegaMsrachel Před 6 lety +13

      Unless you have a B.I.D. then most likely not Native Im just sayin.
      I am full blooded Din`e the " white Colonizers" made this law not us. So its an lil insult to hear how some claim they have "indigenous blood". Navajo have our tradition with death as taboo so this story was very interesting.

    • @ohjalapeno
      @ohjalapeno Před 6 lety +9

      Rachel m I don’t think anyone means any disrespect when they say that, I know I don’t and I have been told by my grandparents,and great-grandparents that I was part Cherokee and curiously had some Choctaw blood. Whether it’s true or not I will never know but I have been told that and I’m sure the people that claim it have been told it as the truth.

    • @faelientrashvlogs1495
      @faelientrashvlogs1495 Před 6 lety +9

      Oh god 😂 yep literally everyone claims that

  • @mrbusterpants
    @mrbusterpants Před 4 lety +2

    You’re brave. Stopped there on a road trip with Dad. It is a very dangerous place. Aside from the climb down into the canyon, imagined a rattler could dispatch either of us and we could become new editions to said cave. Waked back to car and drove to Meteor Crater. These ‘ruins’ are the epitome of American roadside tourist trap kitsch. Sketchy commune living at the abandoned gas station too. Love your Channel. Thanks.

  • @AlfaFilly
    @AlfaFilly Před 6 lety +14

    "Barbecued horse wall" I feel bad I laughed lol
    I love how amusing your videos are while being so educational! I've learned so much binging all your videos. It's definitely opened my eyes to a lot of things.

  • @Wendi713
    @Wendi713 Před 6 lety +66

    I'm half Salinian (from Salinas, CA). We have amazing caves and stone carvings that are still well protected to this day. I'd love to see you do more about the American Indian death heritage. 💚

    • @antifagoat6591
      @antifagoat6591 Před 4 lety +3

      I lived Prunedale for a couple of years when I was a kid. We'd drive by some of the cave sites but I never got to really see them, but I'm happy that there's effort to preserve Salinas valley artifacts.

  • @KaynDarlene
    @KaynDarlene Před 6 lety +95

    I'm a proud full Apache deathling! I've been told that the cave is a cursed burial ground and not to go near it.

    • @sandytruster3292
      @sandytruster3292 Před 6 lety +2

      Homicidal Puppet In that case, CAITLIN’S IN DEEP DOO DOO👻⚰️💀😱!!!!!!!!

    • @lethal6475
      @lethal6475 Před 5 lety +4

      Thats so cool full Apache. Want a oen pal in Australia? Send me a pm. Thanks.

    • @Nytephyre
      @Nytephyre Před 4 lety +2

      You can. Curses and the supernatural don't actually exist. It would be fine.

    • @stuartd9741
      @stuartd9741 Před 4 lety +4

      It depends on what YOU believe in.
      If you have respect for your ancestors for example then don't go.
      More out of respect/history than any curse.

  • @augustpritchett4521
    @augustpritchett4521 Před 6 lety +3

    I'm taking a folklife class with a focus on ghost stories. This video kinda resonates with the things we talk about. We discuss the reason why certain folklore stories are emphasized in certain places, including in order to capitalize on cultural stereotypes like this one. Yeah, most folklore in America stems from racism.

  • @thewanderingghost
    @thewanderingghost Před 6 lety +2

    Hello Caitlyn. I happened upon an old mental hospital cemetery in Sparks, NV. It has a 9ft tall stone obelisk accounting for about a quarter of the former patients accounted for, the rest have been lost to time. A few of the original hospital buildings are still standing and a couple are still in use. What makes the hospital cemetery such a morbid but interesting find, at one point it was a park where families used to picnic and bring their kids to play. It wasn't until a few bodies were dug up during the construction of 22nd street that the grounds were cleaned up and the Obelisk was put in along with the unearthed corpses rebuiried around it in 2002.

  • @soda_king
    @soda_king Před 6 lety +78

    in Hollywood forever visiting my grandparents watching this with them now.

  • @katrinaumana2127
    @katrinaumana2127 Před 6 lety +65

    Death Cave sounds like an excellent metlic rock band name 🎸😂

  • @hatandbeardmedia5925
    @hatandbeardmedia5925 Před 6 lety +3

    I find the relationship between the indigenous Americans and the whites compared to the comparable situation here in Australia fascinating. This video has definitely caused me to rethink my interpretation of some of the mythology in Americana, but also to rethink my understanding of the situation at home. A fascinating, thought-provoking video. Thank you

  • @alyasgrey9370
    @alyasgrey9370 Před 6 lety +33

    I think it's a Christian cultural thing where non-Christian people's places of death and burial becomes the imaginary home of wandering spirits and 'devils'.
    You frequently see the same thing occur in Europe when dealing with pagan sites. It was pretty common during the Christianization of various regions during the medieval period for old religious sites and sometimes even settlements to be either abandoned or require a "cleansing" that necessitated building a chapel or church.

    • @penand_paper6661
      @penand_paper6661 Před 5 lety

      From the comments here from Natives, it appears that, although beliefs are varied, there is a reverence of the dead among them, and due respect is required lest bad things happen.

  • @FourEyedFreakyThing
    @FourEyedFreakyThing Před 6 lety +150

    It's be pretty cool to see a video on the 'lost' Roanoke Colony :)

  • @Ridogg81
    @Ridogg81 Před 6 lety +153

    “Careful bangs. Careful bangs!” Hilariously cute! ❤️♥️❤️♥️❤️♥️❤️♥️❤️♥️Am I right?!

    • @threeoftrees9286
      @threeoftrees9286 Před 6 lety +2

      Ridogg81 they weren't friends. Many native American tribes fought wars and even committed small tribal genocides. Not to be mistaken as native were just savages bla bla, but it's just a constant in any largely tribal land expance. The south American natives also had wars genocides and even canabalism. Early European tribes, African tribes and even early asian tribes did the same. War, genocide, murder, rape and "where you from" based racism have been rampent throughout history. Sucks but makes a very interesting research topic.

    • @psychotophatcat
      @psychotophatcat Před 6 lety +5

      Cedar Queen I think you replied to the wrong comment!

    • @threeoftrees9286
      @threeoftrees9286 Před 6 lety +1

      psychotophatcat no they editted it and completely changed it

    • @threeoftrees9286
      @threeoftrees9286 Před 6 lety +5

      psychotophatcat you can see it was editted.. the original said. The native Americans killed each other too, I must have failed history!

    • @igmusicandflying
      @igmusicandflying Před 6 lety +4

      There are shitty people regardless of race, religion, gender, nationality and time period. And people of all these same groups who have to deal with their shit.
      Also editing comments after someone has responded to say something completely different tends to put one in the former group instead of the latter.

  • @kheventplanner
    @kheventplanner Před 6 lety +19

    Id love if you'd go to the city of Pompeii! Always wanted to go myself,I'm fascinated by it.

  • @Stefaniaddison
    @Stefaniaddison Před 6 lety +1

    You never cease to amazing me with how well you articulate your points and tell stories. You are so able to handle really tricky and sensitive subjects really gracefully and still manage to inform so well. Kudos to another amazing video, you rock!

  • @petercushingsexcrementnigh7250

    Are you ever going to make a video on the stories of the infamous Irish immigrant gravediggers Burke and Hare? There was a film made abt them with simon pegg, it was a cameo heavy comedy but was still pretty good and historically accurate in tge right places. Greetings from Scotland (Dundee)

    • @ohjalapeno
      @ohjalapeno Před 6 lety +1

      Peter Cushing's Excrement Nightmare I’m dying 😵 to know the story behind your screen name!

    • @petercushingsexcrementnigh7250
      @petercushingsexcrementnigh7250 Před 6 lety +1

      Charlotte Rhubottom it was Christopher Lee pee dream but I changed it for April fools 2 years ago and it stuck.

    • @linabasilisk1955
      @linabasilisk1955 Před 3 lety +1

      Weren't Burke and Hare grave robbers, aka resurrectionists, rather than grave diggers?

  • @Ridogg81
    @Ridogg81 Před 6 lety +34

    Sounds fun!!! I would have liked to see more of your trip and more onsite footage. Thank you

  • @wrobinson1702
    @wrobinson1702 Před 5 lety +1

    Good one! Here's a possible topic for Caitlin: The "sinking" cemeteries of the Louisiana coast. A number of cemeteries, including several associated with Native American communities, are being lost/have been lost in south Louisiana due to coastal erosion. A handful of people have tried a variety of methods to somehow rescue or recognize these vanishing, yet memorable locations. I'd think Caitlin could do that topic the justice it deserves. BTW-my 4-greats grandfather was a "Red Stick" Creek Indian who fought against Andrew Jackson in the Creek War of 1813. Jackson learned to respect the ferocity and bravery of the Red Sticks, and later asked them to fight for the Americans (which they did) at the Battle of New Orleans against the British in 1815.

  • @smileyboohearsevideos9784

    Happy to start catching you again.. I came across someone who was being given a lot of grief about her upcoming death and funeral choices. I told her to check your videos out. I hope she finds you really helpful..

  • @deathnotevictem
    @deathnotevictem Před 6 lety +15

    Cauvel’s in Titusville, PA has a bleeding witches grave. The tombstone perpetually bleeds from the skull on it.

  • @lindsaywright6487
    @lindsaywright6487 Před 6 lety +13

    I know Virginia is pretty far, but downtown we have The Old City Cemetery. It is the oldest Cemetery in Virginia and is full of rich history. It is also a Museum and crematory. They do Docent tours and have pretty cool landmarks and old buildings like a pest house and many more places. You should try to visit!!

    • @lindsaywright6487
      @lindsaywright6487 Před 6 lety

      It truly is! You will enjoy it there! I actually used to volunteer as a gardener and weeded the medicinal garden they have there! You will be coming at the right time as the trees will be blooming. Hope you enjoy it as much as I do!

  • @eliseblair5228
    @eliseblair5228 Před 6 lety +2

    Love how you give the history of the “spooky” death places then also some moral history too! So interesting and shows it’s more than a “tourist destination”

  • @lindonbrown7181
    @lindonbrown7181 Před 6 lety +1

    I grew up in Flagstaff and have driven past Two Guns dozens of times but I just thought that it was one of the many abandoned places surrounding Flag. Thanks for enlightening me, I will think about this video every time I drive past!

  • @deathclaw4093
    @deathclaw4093 Před 6 lety +27

    Another great video from our death mother!

  • @judeethsqueer3505
    @judeethsqueer3505 Před 6 lety +32

    Gila monster is pronounced like hela monster

  • @DavidWilson-eu1mv
    @DavidWilson-eu1mv Před 4 lety +1

    Just happened to stumble across your channel and am glad I did. I find your videos informing and love your ability to mix in a decent sense of humor.
    We recently met a lady mortician, around 40 years old. When I showed your video to my wife I asked who it reminded her of and we both thought of Sarah immediately. The sense of humor and ability to talk lightly about something most would prefer to ignore is great. Thank you.

  • @catconnor6
    @catconnor6 Před 6 lety +2

    Hi Caitlin! I’ve been a subscriber and super fan (your videos helped be get through the California State Bar, actually) and I am halfway done with “Smoke Gets your eyes“ and have “From Here To Eternity “ waiting for me on my shelf. I am so happy to have found you and that I get to learn so much from you!

    • @catconnor6
      @catconnor6 Před 6 lety

      Sorry I didn’t finish my sentence! I’ve been a subscriber and super fan since July… Then read the rest lol

  • @nrw2925
    @nrw2925 Před 6 lety +7

    I always get so excited when I get a notification for your videos! Your humor is so well timed and just the right amount of cheesy. :)

  • @Ech0666
    @Ech0666 Před 6 lety +25

    For the most part, Navajo and Apache come from the same language group (Athabasken). We both call ourselves "The People." Different spellings and pronunciations though! 😊 also depending on which Apache band it is Too!

    • @tawnya0627
      @tawnya0627 Před 6 lety +3

      Starr Salcido My Grandmother was Iroquois. Which called themselves The People. Aren't all Indigenous groups considered The People? It is the reason the Founders (what did they found? Nothing was lost!) used "We, The People" in the Preamble of the Constitution.

    • @extinctinks
      @extinctinks Před 6 lety +9

      tribal groups referring to themselves as "the people" is pretty common throughout the americas. i'm from an isolate linguistic group (northern pomo -- pomoan language family), and pomo also basically means "people"

    • @flext-rex8284
      @flext-rex8284 Před 4 lety

      @@tawnya0627 omg your lack of American History is showing, they founded the country [not in a literal sense, not that I should have to clarify that] and created a government here. They didn't "found" [as you literally said] it physically although the Spanish and Portuguese did discover it for the European countries as they would have no knowledge of something they've never seen.

    • @tawnya0627
      @tawnya0627 Před 4 lety

      @@flext-rex8284 Catch up, Kraken. Clearly you have no sense of humor. I can't say I'm shocked. You missed all of the humor of my statement. The person with whom I was communicating did not. An ounce of pretention is worth a pound of manure! You must have a wonderful garden! Lol

    • @flext-rex8284
      @flext-rex8284 Před 4 lety

      @@tawnya0627 that wasn't a joke, you just sounded stupid and idiotic and HIGHLY uneducated. Don't make excuses for your lack of knowledge in the subject by playing it off as a joke and "hUmoUr" when that's obviously not what your first comment was about at all. Maybe you should go back to 9th grade American History class, English/Comm arts class and while you're at it, you might want to through in a comedy class because right now anybody with half a brain would fail you; i.e you're not funny. Nice excuse though but try again.

  • @evenstar435
    @evenstar435 Před 4 lety

    I appreciate that the adds on all the videos are only in the beginning and end of the videos, that way I can get uninterrupted watch time. Thank you Caitlin
    ❤ You have such fun and informative content! I'm obsessed!

  • @mikeadams2677
    @mikeadams2677 Před 6 lety +3

    Thank you for the history lesson on that location. I've driven by there many times, and have been curious about it as I passed by.

  • @RockabillyRambler
    @RockabillyRambler Před 6 lety +32

    They say the west was built on legends.
    The thing about legends, is sometimes, theyre true.

  • @MegaMsrachel
    @MegaMsrachel Před 6 lety +5

    Thank you I enjoyed this story I am Navajo full blooded this story was very interesting and Ive heard of the town Two Guns, but never visited even when I lived in Arizona.

  • @susancoffey6198
    @susancoffey6198 Před 6 lety +1

    I've been to Two Guns several times (my grandparents lived in Winslow, AZ). Thanks for sharing details about the area i never knew before!

  • @Kinkamo
    @Kinkamo Před 3 lety +10

    As a Native (Maliseet 1st nation) I really like the fact that you made this video! You really put down this stereo typical/racist myth about natives. Thank you!!

  • @hollywilde93
    @hollywilde93 Před 6 lety +5

    Received your book for valentines day and I finished reading it yesterday! It was amazing and I've been recommending it and your channel to everyone! #deathpositivity

  • @SJ_WomenAgainstPredators
    @SJ_WomenAgainstPredators Před 6 lety +36

    Mountain Meadow Massacre in Utah. This place is gorgeous, but the history behind it is horrible. It's a really interesting story.

    • @pinkyuzu
      @pinkyuzu Před 5 lety +1

      Sjondel same with the Sand Creek massacre here in Colorado... An appalling tragedy.

    • @ginnrollins211
      @ginnrollins211 Před 4 lety +1

      My family, who are devout Mormons on both sides, has told me about the massacre many times. Anytime we would go to Veyo, Utah, we would drive past the road that would lead to the location of the massacre. I haven't been to the actual memorial, but the valley is very beautiful; you wouldn't have think that an unspeakable act of cruelty would happen there.

  • @timduch1
    @timduch1 Před 6 lety

    absolutely love this video. I have been following for awhile and have appreciated your stance on many hot topics. This is by far the best deconstruction I have seen around these legends. The "grandmother was a Cherokee princess" riff was hilarious - so sad this is an actual thing! Thank you and keep up this good work!

  • @DaveCraineAccidentalAquarist

    Love this! I’ve been there many times and took many photos, but never went into the caves. Awesome retelling of the story!

  • @aspiring_fossil
    @aspiring_fossil Před 6 lety +11

    The Dickson Mounds. I read about them in a book I read in my undergrad called 'Grave Matters'. Fascinating, and infuriating. Love to hear your take on it.

    • @davannabruketta3151
      @davannabruketta3151 Před 6 lety

      TheGingerblueberry dickson mounds is kinda cool its a lot better now that they have recovered the mounds. My mom is still scarred from seeing a womans skeleton holding a baby when she was young.

    • @winstonchaychel
      @winstonchaychel Před 6 lety

      I was also going to suggest Dickson mounds, I live near it. They've since closed the burial area many many years ago (thankfully. People were being stupid and digging the bones up) but I love going there 💖

    • @ohjalapeno
      @ohjalapeno Před 6 lety

      TheGingerblueberry I have visited Serpent Mound in Ohio years ago. Really interesting.

    • @ohjalapeno
      @ohjalapeno Před 6 lety

      Daniel Appleton my visit was over 40 yrs ago, mid 1970’s. There were picnic areas there back then but how terrible they built a golf course through it! That’s progress for you. 😏

    • @ohjalapeno
      @ohjalapeno Před 6 lety

      Daniel Appleton I didn’t know or maybe can’t remember about the meteor in the head. That’s so interesting. I’m going to google it refresh my memory. Should be interesting reading.

  • @quaddeezy7846
    @quaddeezy7846 Před 6 lety +41

    Would love for you too go to the Winchester house and do the small tour.

    • @extinctinks
      @extinctinks Před 6 lety +2

      i grew up going to the winchester house regularly as a kid and honestly there's not a lot of death-related content there.

    • @quaddeezy7846
      @quaddeezy7846 Před 6 lety

      extinct inks Dang it lol 😔

    • @Talamasca007
      @Talamasca007 Před 6 lety +1

      More people have died at Disneyland, and frankly, if anyone is ticked they were killed by a gun, these days they would definitely be haunting the NRA.

    • @quaddeezy7846
      @quaddeezy7846 Před 6 lety +2

      Talamasca007 that is true

    • @michaellefort6128
      @michaellefort6128 Před 4 lety

      @@Talamasca007 the NRA doesn't make guns, it also advocates responsible gun ownership and training. I honestly don't believe that most of the people that HATE the NRA, don't know why the hate the NRA, they just were told to, so they do. Now that's the way to be prove you aren't a sheep. Just hate who your told to and swallow the lies your fed.

  • @kimc2733
    @kimc2733 Před 6 lety +1

    Sahweet! It’s a rainy Saturday and Colin’s book was available to download from my local library. I know what I’m doing today. Love your videos. So entertaining yet education. 👍🏼

  • @lizzy4860
    @lizzy4860 Před 6 lety

    Just wanted to say how much I love your outlook and take on these subjects. The content is very interesting and your bits of humor are great!

  • @ellielowehiem9303
    @ellielowehiem9303 Před 6 lety +10

    Next do one on our obsession with haunted cemataries. Why do people these days tend to fear cemataries instead of having picnics in them like back in the olden days?

    • @SB-iz4xm
      @SB-iz4xm Před 6 lety +4

      Most folks avoid cemeteries for the same reason they avoid every other aspect of death. It's part of our mortality-phobic culture.

    • @jenniferwells2291
      @jenniferwells2291 Před 6 lety +2

      Where we live a lot of the cemeteries, especially older ones are actually off limits to the public. Sadly you would get chased off by the police and maybe ticketed for trespassing if you tried. But I wish it was more welcoming to the families of the deceased and those who are there respectfully

  • @Ckrein4804
    @Ckrein4804 Před 6 lety +27

    It would be nice for you to do a video on talking to kids about death.

    • @Ckrein4804
      @Ckrein4804 Před 6 lety +7

      Raven Poe I’m thinking of more for adults to learn how to talk to kids about death. I try to answer my three year olds questions as honestly as I can but it would be nice to see her side of ways I could talk to my kids better.

    • @quacknaround
      @quacknaround Před 6 lety

      She has made that video.

    • @maureenzieber1523
      @maureenzieber1523 Před 6 lety

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    • @sarahakin
      @sarahakin Před 6 lety +1

      Last time I had to explain death to a child, I pulled out this gem:
      "Sometimes doggies go to sleep and don't wake up anymore."
      "But where is he?"
      "He's gone."
      "But where IS he?"
      "He's...gone."
      "But WHERE?"
      ..
      ..
      "He's not here anymore."
      True story.

    • @ohjalapeno
      @ohjalapeno Před 6 lety

      Yep she had!

  • @00MissDani00
    @00MissDani00 Před 6 lety

    So glad I found your channel, it’s so nice to find something educational AND awesome! ❤️❤️

  • @normanfrost4574
    @normanfrost4574 Před 6 lety +2

    Mortician: Your series is very entertaining and at the same time very informative. I hope you continue many years into the future.

  • @peterk7931
    @peterk7931 Před 6 lety +4

    Next time you are out east, I'd like to see your cover Mount Moriah Cemetery in Philly. Maybe with thoughts about the abandonment of monument.

  • @oldfashiondragon
    @oldfashiondragon Před 6 lety +10

    I honestly like looking at rocks

  • @tynettedyer8605
    @tynettedyer8605 Před 6 lety +1

    My 12 yr old thinks your videos are informative and fun to watch. We just found you, and really enjoy your humor. Some of your content covers what he's learning in history. He wishes his teachers made learning more like this. Thank you for giving him another job interest for when he's older.

  • @ericadeleo995
    @ericadeleo995 Před 6 lety

    You are my favorite CZcamsr

  • @ms.cutknife6131
    @ms.cutknife6131 Před 4 lety +6

    "I can say this stuff because I'm 1/19 cherokee" lmao we hear that waaaay too often

    • @edthesecond
      @edthesecond Před 4 lety +1

      In Santa Fake, she could channel a 5000 year old Indian Warrior, and charge stupid white people to talk to him.

  • @robertcombs55
    @robertcombs55 Před 5 lety +3

    My wife's funeral home picked up prisoners who had died in Louisiana's Electric Chair; they had to WAIT for the Body to COOL; as their temperature got up over 175F; they were literally Cooked alive.

  • @allybaker3602
    @allybaker3602 Před 6 lety

    I just purchased both of your books!!! I’m so excited to start reading them❤️

  • @joncampbell3641
    @joncampbell3641 Před 3 lety +2

    Caitlin - you’re the perfect host for this channel: intelligent, sensitive, engaging and respectful. Thank you

  • @CuteLuvrBoy
    @CuteLuvrBoy Před 6 lety +10

    How about a trip to Waverly Hills in Louisville Ky?

  • @Ridogg81
    @Ridogg81 Před 6 lety +103

    ‼️🛑‼️🛑 ADVICE NEEDED PLEASE🛑‼️🛑My neighbor who I share a wall with and is my landlords daughter died last night unexpectedly. She was in her 40’s. Ambulance and fire trucks were here. They were doing CPR for about 30 minutes until they pronounced her gone. Her 11 year old daughter saw it too. I want to do something to help and be supportive but I don’t know what to do and do t want to impose. Any suggestions??? Thank you

    • @christiamark9184
      @christiamark9184 Před 6 lety +56

      Ridogg81 bringing dinner is a common thing here. That way they don't have to worry about it

    • @amypanddirtytoo1926
      @amypanddirtytoo1926 Před 6 lety +74

      Ridogg81 yes, bringing food, offering to help clean, etc. You know, just any of life's daily activities that people in mourning aren't able to do/shouldn't have to worry about doing. You'd be surprised at how grateful people will be for that. Those little activities are just so burdensome when you are going through a death.

    • @amypanddirtytoo1926
      @amypanddirtytoo1926 Před 6 lety +26

      Ridogg81 also letting them know that you are there for them however they may need. Whether they might need to talk one day or just have a shoulder to cry on the next.

    • @stephross9846
      @stephross9846 Před 6 lety +28

      I agree with everyone else here. You are definitely not imposing. It's always the little things that mean the most that get overlooked in this time. Cooking, cleaning, offering to help with grocery shopping.. just let them know that you are there for what they need.. try to put yourself in their shoes and think what you would need at 11 years old having witnessed that.. the deathling community will always be here to help you through this

    • @ohjalapeno
      @ohjalapeno Před 6 lety +49

      Ridogg81 offer to housesit while they are out taking care of the business of funerals and the funeral itself. Some people read obituaries to find out when the house will be empty so they can break-in. I’ve heard of this happening so many times. It’s a real thing.

  • @amh521
    @amh521 Před 6 lety

    This was such an interesting video! I mean, all of your videos are, but I happen to live nearer this vid's focus than others and I guess that made me even more enthralled haha. Love subscribing to your content!!

  • @Pandagurl218
    @Pandagurl218 Před 2 lety

    I absolutely love your channel the sensitivity to everyone’s background. Thank you for touching subjects of the indigenous while remaining completely respectful, hoping one day an indigenous owner acquires this land and brings back its people. There is so much prayers and healing through the practices of the indigenous, this misconception of curses is what turned the view of our people into violent perceptions ❤️

  • @junenagai6865
    @junenagai6865 Před 6 lety +3

    "Mauled by Gila Monster" would be great on a tombstone!

  • @MiguelMorales-zp8jo
    @MiguelMorales-zp8jo Před 6 lety +4

    I've been curious on how would a video with you and simply nailogical would be.
    Man I want to see that so badly.😀

  • @christinedavis6659
    @christinedavis6659 Před 6 lety

    So your videos have been coming up in my suggested feed for a few days now. This morning i decided why not and watched one, now.....I....CANT......STOP! Ive been binge watching you for HOURS. Lol. Youve got a new subscriber!

  • @thereal001
    @thereal001 Před 6 lety

    Wow I really like your video's Caitlin. I have been thinking very much about my own mortality now that I am in my 50's and the things that you have to say have been eye opening and appreciated. I also saw your Ted Talk and you brought me to my knees when you mentioned your mom.... my mom passed away 21 years ago and I did something on that day that still feels my heart with joy. Once everyone left her hospital room I closed the door and laid in bed with her I rested my head on her chest and listened to the stillness of her heart.... looking back I am so happy that I did that. I learned that death wasn't a 'scary' thing but it was natural. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge.

  • @shelbytucker5755
    @shelbytucker5755 Před 6 lety +49

    ... they tried to put out a fire with their horse's blood.... wtf

    • @SJ-98
      @SJ-98 Před 6 lety +10

      Shelby Tucker Crusaders would drink their horse’s blood when they ran out of water

    • @shelbytucker5755
      @shelbytucker5755 Před 6 lety +12

      NeonViking thanks for being part of my fun fact Friday lol

    • @sherrythomas3028
      @sherrythomas3028 Před 6 lety +3

      I had that same reaction lol

    • @ohjalapeno
      @ohjalapeno Před 6 lety +2

      Shelby Tucker teal evolved people huh? 😏

    • @jk-76
      @jk-76 Před 6 lety +12

      Charlotte Rhubottom
      Use what you got. That sounds like hope injecting itself into a desperate situation. It can keep your mind off of the inevitable end and possibly hold the terror at bay long enough for you to die.

  • @spokeforhours
    @spokeforhours Před 6 lety +3

    Caitlyn! I just heard you on the Savage Lovecast, and it made my day!! My two favorite Internet personalities (if I may call that) from two vastly different communities/topics, getting together! It was such a great (even if a little too short) participation, I hope you get to participate again! I just had to laugh to myself when Dan said to you that he wants the full packed when his time comes, including being embalmed, lol.

  • @epicmomness1974
    @epicmomness1974 Před 5 lety

    AWESOME vid! You tell these things so amazing. I’m binge watching you today! 😆 I want to get one of your books. I’ll have to look for a link. And the horse wall....I totally laughed out loud and woke up my little dog, lol.

  • @MishMish3000
    @MishMish3000 Před 3 lety +1

    I think it would be fascinating if you visited Shiloh, especially the Bloody Pond. The whole death-and-dying thing with the Civil War is very interesting, and I wonder if legends about hauntings at the battlefields and hospitals of the period were ways for people to deal with the incredible loss of life.

  • @kyleeconrad
    @kyleeconrad Před 6 lety +5

    How many death caves they got over there? And those sunnies are effing adorable and so are you! And Your bangs be like: pop pop boing!

  • @emilyralston5584
    @emilyralston5584 Před 6 lety +12

    I live in Flagstaff! If you ever want a tour of all of our “haunted” places and dark history let me know!

  • @XslyproductionsX
    @XslyproductionsX Před 6 lety +1

    I swear I could listen to you talk all day....your voice is so nice

  • @sandirodriguez8000
    @sandirodriguez8000 Před 6 lety

    Soo interesting , like all of your vids. Thank you so much for keeping your content informative as well as interesting!