Freshly minted single mallu right here 😊 Living my best life after having been married for 15 years. Every piece of advice here I have done - Therapy, buying my own home, relooking at finances, Travel around the world ( Read Eat, Pray, Love), Hanging with my buddies, Staying safe - Im my own bodyguard 😊 My additions? Try out those things you never got around to doing - Mine was discovering Tango! Love it!
I can agree with all your points !! There should be a happily divorced club, where we can support and learn from each other. Society is not so kind for single person. Recently divorced.
Divorce doesn't mean the end of the world, you are the best examples for all women specially indians. Please rise and shine like a sun. Be happy like this 4 ever❤️
You have almost covered everything. But one of the things i wanted to mention is you get to sleep more and you don’t have to worry about talking on phone or waking up as per the other person’s convenience. 😃
I didn't know that you had got divorced. I'm 28 and my parents have started looking for me on Matrimonial Apps and have really tried hard to force me into talking to boys that they shortlisted (without my consent) and I didn't like any of those boys. They are trying really hard to scare me about the prospect of being a single woman. And while I don't know about my future, looking at you taking such a bold step has given me renewed strength and courage to stand strong and say no to things that I'm not comfortable with and that do not have my consent. It's much better to be a single woman than to be paired up with a partner who makes you unhappy or worse, are forced to be with him only because you are scarced of ending up alone and even though you don't really love him or like him, you still stay with him. As a single woman, I am still developing the courage and strength to not get bullied and intimated by the fears that society wants us to believe. It is this fear that makes many people make wrong choices in their life.
Yeah Jovi, As a couple girl - even though I married the man I loved the most and thought would do anything for me and care about my wellbeing and my career development and all, i found out I missed my identity, i missed my happiness in having what I loved to eat around people or at home, i missed my dressing sense, i missed the joy of selecting my own dress, makeup things, even handbag, my thought process, my sleep and wake cycle, watching movie of my choice with family which in turn kind of lost interest in watching movies, reducing my abilities in some areas to matchup with his family, financial freedom, emotional attacks while choosing anything other than his will right, much more ... We tend to adapt to all as normal or act like normal and positive. It's overwhelming most of the time.
O and I missed out on telling you this - it really takes a lot of courage to be so open and talk about divorce and that too in such a healthy way. A lot of times, the bitterness and hurt stays on and it starts showing up somewhere or the other. I'm really happy for you and that you've found your space and comfort and doing things that you loved/love/wanted to 😊♥️♥️♥️
I think it's time that people should stop viewing single women with pity filled eyes, because we single girls are more powerful than you can ever dream of .
Ever since I got divorced about 15 years ago, I've been enjoying the independence! Now that my kids are almost adults, it's even more liberating. The best part is that I can make all my decisions without worrying about an approval/validation. Completely agree with you on the financial independence piece :)
Being single helps focus on your career. Its advice to all the college girls who are in a relationship, focus on your degree than on a guy because your degree/career will never say "i dont love you anymore hence I am breaking up". When my long relationship came to an end, I started focusing on myself. Got fit, cleared CA exams, and learned to enjoy my own company.
For someone who was single for the longest time to finding love in my 30s! I’ve been in a mature, loving relationship for nearly 3 years now. Few things I love about relationships & few things I miss about my single life. Things I love: Have a companion to do things with & emotional support. Things I miss from my single life: My time, effort & energy was all my own.! It’s so true that you don’t have much time for yourself when you’re in a relationship. I also miss meeting new people (coz your emotional needs are fulfilled by your partner). Although, this can get toxic easily when you don’t maintain your existing friendship with your girlfriends. I especially miss the first date butterflies! 😜 That whole “getting dressed up & going out on a date”, learning new things about a new person. The novelty, the nerves, the excitement, that initial rush! Having said that, I wouldn’t trade what I have right now for anything in the world! I need to learn to better manage my time & attention & still do things that I used to enjoy doing when I was single - like pursuing a hobby, make new friends, etc. Coz I know my partner would like that😊. He always encourages me to do things that bring me joy & asks me not to focus so much of my energy into our relationship. I strongly believe we women are givers & we need to draw the line before we completely lose ourselves in the relationship 😇
I have entered my 30s very recently and being Indian with contact pressure of marriage. No one made me feel this good about being single...I love you for the way you are...thanks for existing 💖 Loads of love to you, glad to know you!!!
Jovi mam I have always been a huge fan of your recommendations due to your sheer honesty and great style sense but today you earned my deepest respect . We need women like you so so so much who will understand and reflect the fact that marriages and relationships are not the ultimate for women to be complete. A single woman too can be happy , very much capable to take care oh her and her needs. They are not craving for men's attention or company. They are just fine on their own. Thank you so much for coming out with such great messages. I wish could have an elder sis like you🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
Hi Jovi I am married for last 12 years..with two kids... seeing your video I really feel you have exposed that soft spot that all us married women actually tend to ignore .... we all think its ok...but we all know deep down there is that someone else we used to be and crave to be...
I have been single for almost 10 years now and EVERYTHING you’ve said in this video is absolutely true! To me being single is addictive, I don’t know if I could ever give up this lifestyle. Maybe it’s self centered but it’s fabulous!
Hey! Thanks for talking about all this. Big sister vibes✨ A video suggestion, Could you talk about what you wish you knew when you were in your 20s? Or advices you wish you got in your 20s? I'd love to hear your perspectives. I'm 22 rn and i feel lost about my career and life in general. Pretty sure everyone goes through this phase. What are your views on it?
I wasn't married but was in a 10 year long relationship (which ended on a bad note recently).. and i totally agree with being thoughts and opinions being similar and losing ur authentic self because now your every thought involve another person too.. i too m discovering myself and figuring out life with new outlook which is scary and exciting at the same time
I first started watching you years ago when you were in Kuwait- Divorce is never easy, but sometimes it's a life and death choice feeling like you are drowning if you don't follow your truest self. It's a new journey- new hard things- but growth!
It is so lovely to see people writting long comments on this video, sharing little parts and journey of their lives.. kuddos to you for bringing such topics and pouring your heart out... Side note... Had to play video on 2.5x 😁
Hi Jovi! Amazing video. Do you ever get questions from family and friends about being single? I get a lot..Most of their questions are because they are genuinely concerned as in when we get older, you will need help, being single is only fun while you're healthy etc etc. How do you deal with questions like this?
Can't agree more Jovi ! And a big hug for speaking out. Lots of love 💕💕 I also think this sudden freedom is overwhelming like 'what do I do with this extra time' 🤔 However, the biggest change in me was to able to go out to eat alone or to the movies. I couldn't do that earlier. And my experience made me a lot more confident. I learnt to put myself first. Thanks to therapy. Divorce is a liberating feeling. Like I knew when I signed that I don't have to deal with this shit anymore! It's a 'delete history and refresh' button for life.
Ur really inspiring u said the right thing that our parents are not even aware of in this era.. Financial independence . And losing self identity for others
Hi Jovi i m married but not so happily married.....i can't step out because of my childrens. Self loveing n doing things in my bucket list is what I m doing.
As a child brought up by parents who were not in a happy marriage but didn't seperate "for the children" your children will be better off if you leave. Hope you find a way.
Another newly single woman (married for 22 yrs and divorced for 1) it’s hard but refreshing to push myself forward. My mantra now: will try everything at least once. Yay to self growth
Damm... The losing your personality is a spot on.... Even as a person who was in a relationship for 8 years I related to it. I lost myself so much in the person that.... I was so afraid to be alone to break up when it turned toxic. That was 2 years ago I do still struggle with being alone and navigating life. But I've learned so much. And look forward to whatever it is that life has to offer
People and Influencer like you ahh ❤️❤️❤️❤️ We need more people who will promote this type of things so that people get influenced into good stuff...not getting influenced for spending lakhs for a having a dream wedding.. whenever people see influencer having that kind of dreamy wedding they think..that's life..or being single is a crime....we genuinely need people like her who will come out and promote this things. So that..Women can understand ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ kudos man... where most female influencer makes dreamy wedding kind of video ( not that's it's bad) but still we need this type of conversation too ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Hey Jovi! I've requested this one to you before and I'm gonna do it again. Please, please I urge you to make a video on how to manage one's finances/investment for young & clueless people out there. Since you've gone through phase by yourself you know what to do & what not. It would be so helpful for many of us out there.
Woww this is soo relatable!! Divorce is actually liberating! It's not just about looking at the positive side of it, but it truly lets you be with yourself, makes you analyze yourself more, allows you to improve yourself & moreover makes you self dependent for every little thing. No more looking up to someone else, you can be your own best partner, & that's important too!!
Hi Jovi, please make a video on how to travel solo..like planning the vacation, managing the expenses, places to visit..will it be safe for a woman to travel alone? Please make a video on it. It will be useful for many.
I’m only 20 years old so my thoughts are not backed by experience but Indian society has a way of viewing divorce as this really negative thing. We all know that. But you know what, if it’s the end of a relationship that was causing unhappiness, divorce is a really happy, positive thing. I love that you are presenting the positive (and negative) changes that accompany this process so organically. More power to you, may you stay strong, healthy and make all your dreams come true. Very inspiring! ❤️
I got divorced literally like two weeks ago. I don't know if you remember me Jovi but i was the one stuck in an unconsummated marriage. I'd commented about it in your end of 2021 video. Right now, honestly i do miss the warmth of companionship. My marriage was unconsummated so I haven't felt the security and comfort of an actual proper relationship ever. I do want to experience that. But until that, i am enjoying discovering myself. I guess i see this as a second chance to be the woman I've always wanted to be. Well, let's see where life takes me. :) It's so heartwarming to read about such lovely stories in the comments section. :))
You miss the warmth of companionship now, because thats what you're used to. Give your mind the time and space to heal and you will realize how suffocated you really were in your marriage! you are going to feel so loved and fulfilled in your own time my life, I cannot wait to hear from you again from the next milestone! Im so happy for you!
@@MrJovitageorge thank you for the lovely response Jovi. It means the world to me. Makes me feel like my story matters. I will keep sharing on here. Thank you Jovi ❤️
The sixth one is something even I can resonant with... I am not somebody who has gotten out of a marriage but my mother apparently has, not officially but unofficially and we hope that happens soon but I see her being way more free now to do whenever she wants to do what ever. That freedom is precious.... I know what you are saying when you say sometimes you don't want to have a heavy lunch...it is freeing
I am married and I can totally relate to eating whatever you want when you are single and the opposite when you are married. It seems such a small thing but its huge
After marriage i really miss having my personal space 😭 there literally no space 🤣🤭 Very proud of you Jovi !!every video of yours teach us something n bring more close to you ✨🌼💯
Thanks a lot for this video. Gave a different perspective. I have always been a silent follower/fan of you for 10+ years. To be honest, i really enjoyed the videos and pics with ur ex-husband, especially the travels/funny pics. Many times, you mentioned 'true love' etc, which made me happy and gave good feelings. Didn't know it was all different. Good to hear your perspective. Would be great to hear the other perspective as well to complete any story and make conclusion. I wish you all the best for a happy and great future.
I thought everyone around me was dating or marrying or having kids. Finally someone on the same page. Single and enjoying life like never before.😊 And the 6th point. I couldn't agree more. 😁
Good part, she didn't speak anything bad for his ex. Really appreciate for that. My mom was single mom so definitely co-relate what she is saying. Now I am married and it's difficult 😅. I never learn how to take care of man and that is difficult. Although my husband is understanding and don't have high expectation with me🥰. So I am getting breaks from responsibility mostly weekly 2 days❤️
The food one!!! I'm married but I really do miss the freedom of not having to worry about anyone's stomach but yourself. (I also have 2 children and that's just too many stomachs to care about)
Been single always! But was made to feel guilty about not finding a partner, dealt with depression. Relate with finances, self reflection part. I want new friends though. 😬 being In Chennai, I am conscious at all times no matter the time. Thanks for the post! I want to get better now. Hugs.
100% excellent advice for women. Lot of places felt like glorifying divorce though. Nobody has to stay in a abusive or toxic or unhappy marriage at any cost. But cooking for another person or mixing with partner s friends or sharing interest should not be a reason. This is both ways not just for women . Must be interesting to listen to your ex husbands liberating speech.
Good luck Jovita love your enthusiasm for life. Single women are so much happier I noticed. Most of us Indian women kill our personalities once we get married and it's very sad.
I can cry over this video n this chit chat coz I recently got married n I'm not used to many things which I'm doing & I'm feeling sick like internally, I'm losing myself.. I feel like running away from every thing everyday & idk how to do it.
Loved the way you said "Me figuring out Me.... " I am a married woman (13yrs) with 2kids but what ever you have mentioned here is absolutely so true.... From being independent person to be fully house wife, and leaving everything behind... Specially Ur freedom of doing anything at anytime... I think we all miss that so much.. Happy for your new beginning.... Keep Smiling 😊 and motivating.!
i can feel those tears of yours...jsut be yourself and i really hope that your loser ex is wating this and regrating. Single and carrying the broken pieces of heart since last 10 years.being single girl is not so easy...
Live your life happily n independently. We just have one life. Glad that u r strong enough to face all the difficult situation and always focused in finding rose among thorns.
Hello jovita ma'am, i hope this platform is right to share my personal experience, i belong to a Muslim family and i got married when I was 19 later i realised that my husband was acting according to his family i ignored those things but it ended up demanding for my gold. The movement he asked for gold it was 5th year of our marriage and i got recent miscarriage, i left him on that spot because I felt the they don't have my value. I started earning and became independent but the point somewhere in your life you feel that you are missing something in your life, again he kept calling and wanted me to talk to him. i felt like he likes me and wants to live with me so i decided to be with him but now still i feel like hunger of gold has not gone .
Hi Jovita!! Been a silent subscriber of yours for years!! I have a daughter..I am going to make my daughter listen to this video lol!! You have covered all the points !! Thankyou for posting this!!
Few days back I was thinking that I no longer know what my favourite music is. My husband's and my choices have always been similar in music. I've now started feeling that I listen to only his favourite songs, even if they have been my favourite as well!!
You are living your life with so much joy. Marriage is about who wants to control the most no matter 1 ceremony or 2 🤣. Like your hair. Little❤️ from Malaysia.
I have never been single!!! Only when I was in college. I have always been surrounded by Everyone... Literally EVERYONE! No me time ever. I have 2 kids so!!! Not that I would like it any other way but a little bit of timeout from all the time fuss can do me good.
Loved the video. All women should know that loving yourself is not 'being selfish'. If you are happy only then you can keep others happy. I am married and I am very independent, so I still am all the things that your talking about. It's very important for women to know that they will still have to put themselves first in marriage too. Only then you will be able to keep the rest of the family happy on the long run!
Great video for anyone who is single or married to just be independent. It helps long term when one is in a relationship to keep it thriving if one chooses to be in a relationship later. I am in my 30s, single, never married and am hoping to find someone who matches my values, morals and habits in life. I also don't want kids so its tougher but hopefully it ends well haha. I get pressure to tell suitors I'll see about kids but I know I don't want them, so in our society its seen as such a taboo and I get judged. I watched Jugjugg Jeeyo yesterday (rarely watch movies lol) and the topics in it were so real! I am glad you are doing well and I think it helps you are in a city too in India, as in smaller towns I can only imagine its so much tougher! YES to a part II!
If u do not want kids mark my words if u marry someone telling him we will see in future, is going to be a deal breaker if ur partner comes around later in married life that lets plan for kids or just let's try to see what happens ,if we are capable to be parents.u will do it out of love or u will feel that this person whom I love so much and that person love me so much so lets do it .and then when u become pregnant n ur life comes to a stand still n slow paced u will know where u went wrong.u keep regretting n unhappy.
@@srabonighosh6591 I would never marry a person and then tell them. I tell them prior. I would not just get pregnant either like that. Having kids is a big thing. And having kids due to 'love' is irresponsible. Many women maybe get pregnant like that, especially in our culture but that's not how I am raised. I will speak what I want. And there are men out there who don't want kids either, it's not the end of the world. If someone doesn't want me due to not wanting kids that is okay, plenty of people out there.
@@sunvavachi good for you . I just shared my opinion .not an intention to raise questions on your upbringing. In your late thirties and plz continue your search.hope u find someone before you reach late forties. Everyone has values n ethics but life plans for them something else along the way . You won't know since you are still searching.also you yourself have mentioned in comments that you tell we will see about kids. Wahts that now.isnt it a lie or false hope.
@@srabonighosh6591 you said in time once married one will have kids. You have your opinion, thank you. I didn't mention I want kids or would think about it. I said I've been pressured to tell suitors I'd think about it, which is not virtue to me. I am looking, believe me haha, but people especially in our community are picky. I'm nice and doing my part. So hopefully the right person wants me as well. :)
OMG ❤️❤️❤️ All so correct especially regarding the matter about men, money and food independence Including no cooking of what we don’t want or when we don’t have the energy or when we don’t even feel to….❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ very true about losing ourselves and again finding real us back with that breathability and space, And it all comes with a tinge or even a tablespoon of depression but in the long run it might all feel worth it❤️
sorry to ask you. I thought you had a very happy marriage. I wld always show my husband your videos with your husband and tell him .see how they are doing things together and all.
Love your honesty. I love your energy 😊 I’m a happily married girl but the thing I miss the most is being alone looking ugly binge watching something and eating a pack of chips. 🙈
As always love the video. When you mentioned the freedom of choosing what to eat , I felt sad it's the most basic freedom one should have single or not. And I am also aware it's true for many women and men in relationship , which is not okay. I see this in my close friends and family and I always have to speak out . Food , clothes , choosing what to do in free time etc are basics . I am glad you broke free , I just wish lot more women and men recognise that it's not okay to he told what to eat or how to spend free time etc .
My 3yr old just watched this video with me, she said "she is beautiful and strong" , I know it must have been hard, but your fire is burning strong..strong enough for a toddler to see. Good for you, proud of you Jovita ❤
Being Married... I have to talk to people I dont want to or would not like to thats something I hate but otherwise I have a great husband who is also my best friend
Ohhhh Jovi what a lovely video! I miss free time me time you know. I'm married for 8 years now and it is still like we are discovering each other but i really want all those things that you are enjoying! One thing i miss is just do whatever i like on a weekend without having to tell anyone
Is it only me who find you super cute in this video? That doesn't mean you're not cute in the other videos. But in this you are just extra super cute 😀😍😍
Hi Jovi...I appreciate ur courage to open up and u living on ur own terms. But ensure that u r not underestimating the joy of family life with a partner as well...
I married my loving husband 4 years ago before dating for 5 years. I think it really depends on how the partner is like.. we both are like best friends living in together. We can't imagine sharing our space with anyone but each other. He may not be the best in looks but he has a beautiful heart. So beautiful that almost every single person we meet falls in awe with him. Everyone in our friend circle and my family calls him 'the best husband ever'. And no, I'm not one of those who post for Instagram. I'm not on any social media. We love each other very much and can't spend a minute apart. We text each other even when we're in the loos and under the same roof 😂😂. Sure, we fight but never last for more than 15 mins.. Anyway... I don't think being single is liberating if you've got other responsibilities. I feel that having children is going to change both of our worlds upside down. Being married is great if one gets a great partner but having children in any case is a nightmare! We'll have to cook at home everyday, we'll have to adjust our entire schedule based on the child. We can't take naps. We can't skip meals if we wish to. We can't just laze around..or take a sudden trip to anywhere(we do that a lot). Sure the child may be adorable but the responsibilities are not. I've seen many of my friends who cry that they have lost themselves in the process of motherhood. And there's nothing more scarier than that.
Jovi, loved this refreshing take on self-discovery, I love how poised and confident you are and enjoy watching your videos because it is like chatting up an old friend over coffee, honestly - no maska happening here hahha! I know this is not a make-up related vlog but am totally diggin' your lippy and eyeshadow, please share what shades ur wearing :)
What an absolutely wonderful video..all the things said are so from the heart..you are fabulous for talking about sth like divorce and being single so gracefully and with so much of self realisation and love..Hats off...
Hey thanks for the video. It was so helpful. Looks like the comment section is full of newly single gals. If you don't mind, can u talk about divorce. Separation and breakups. Its just so tough
Choosing an undertone is a heck of a confusion. There are a lot of videos out there but I wish to see your opinion as I trust your opinion the most. Making a short video is much appreciated ❤️
I don’t know why but this is such a feel good video. It’s not easy to be on your own but I love how you have put down everything. Lots of love your end. ❤
Being in the financial industry for over 27 years here on Canada helped me to invest long term and short term goals, git married @ 35 years old and I was financial independent, so issues. Money tend to be the biggest problem in marriages here. I am so blessed and yes I choose the people in my life. Not all friends are true. Quality vs quantity. I choose quality, few handful. Good luck. I loved myself too much and that's why I waited for marriage.
Happy for you Jovi😊 Keep up the spirits. The most important thing is to be happy .you inspire every Indian women who craves revival and to choose self love at least for once in their life even if it’s for a tiny moment 😊
Hi jovi...am too going thru same things....a divorce case going on....right now my emotions mind all under my control....started feeling happy again...nd taking steps towrds my next goal of studing abroad even though am well settled with a secure job in india....
Getting married in few months, keeping points for myself Would really appreciate part 2 Who won't appreciate an honest girl like you?!!! Stay blessed Proud subscriber 😇
Do whatever you like, don’t bother about criticism. Husband is only person who matters. Laugh & smile with him, say flattering things & keep him happy. Basically say nice things about him & do what you want. It’s not worth trying to please in laws.. they will never be happy & will always see DIL as outsider.
Freshly minted single mallu right here 😊 Living my best life after having been married for 15 years. Every piece of advice here I have done - Therapy, buying my own home, relooking at finances, Travel around the world ( Read Eat, Pray, Love), Hanging with my buddies, Staying safe - Im my own bodyguard 😊 My additions? Try out those things you never got around to doing - Mine was discovering Tango! Love it!
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Good for you! Did you travel alone?
I can agree with all your points !! There should be a happily divorced club, where we can support and learn from each other. Society is not so kind for single person. Recently divorced.
@@srilikhithapatel8366 let's make that club really soon!!
Thank you
Guiding..... I am single after a bad marriage
Divorce doesn't mean the end of the world, you are the best examples for all women specially indians.
Please rise and shine like a sun. Be happy like this 4 ever❤️
You have almost covered everything. But one of the things i wanted to mention is you get to sleep more and you don’t have to worry about talking on phone or waking up as per the other person’s convenience. 😃
Yes ma’am
I didn't know that you had got divorced. I'm 28 and my parents have started looking for me on Matrimonial Apps and have really tried hard to force me into talking to boys that they shortlisted (without my consent) and I didn't like any of those boys. They are trying really hard to scare me about the prospect of being a single woman. And while I don't know about my future, looking at you taking such a bold step has given me renewed strength and courage to stand strong and say no to things that I'm not comfortable with and that do not have my consent. It's much better to be a single woman than to be paired up with a partner who makes you unhappy or worse, are forced to be with him only because you are scarced of ending up alone and even though you don't really love him or like him, you still stay with him. As a single woman, I am still developing the courage and strength to not get bullied and intimated by the fears that society wants us to believe. It is this fear that makes many people make wrong choices in their life.
Yeah Jovi, As a couple girl - even though I married the man I loved the most and thought would do anything for me and care about my wellbeing and my career development and all, i found out I missed my identity, i missed my happiness in having what I loved to eat around people or at home, i missed my dressing sense, i missed the joy of selecting my own dress, makeup things, even handbag, my thought process, my sleep and wake cycle, watching movie of my choice with family which in turn kind of lost interest in watching movies, reducing my abilities in some areas to matchup with his family, financial freedom, emotional attacks while choosing anything other than his will right, much more ... We tend to adapt to all as normal or act like normal and positive. It's overwhelming most of the time.
O and I missed out on telling you this - it really takes a lot of courage to be so open and talk about divorce and that too in such a healthy way. A lot of times, the bitterness and hurt stays on and it starts showing up somewhere or the other. I'm really happy for you and that you've found your space and comfort and doing things that you loved/love/wanted to 😊♥️♥️♥️
I think it's time that people should stop viewing single women with pity filled eyes, because we single girls are more powerful than you can ever dream of .
True.. unfortunately, people think having a partner makes one's life complete.. 😂
Ever since I got divorced about 15 years ago, I've been enjoying the independence! Now that my kids are almost adults, it's even more liberating. The best part is that I can make all my decisions without worrying about an approval/validation. Completely agree with you on the financial independence piece :)
Being single helps focus on your career. Its advice to all the college girls who are in a relationship, focus on your degree than on a guy because your degree/career will never say "i dont love you anymore hence I am breaking up". When my long relationship came to an end, I started focusing on myself. Got fit, cleared CA exams, and learned to enjoy my own company.
For someone who was single for the longest time to finding love in my 30s! I’ve been in a mature, loving relationship for nearly 3 years now. Few things I love about relationships & few things I miss about my single life.
Things I love: Have a companion to do things with & emotional support.
Things I miss from my single life: My time, effort & energy was all my own.! It’s so true that you don’t have much time for yourself when you’re in a relationship. I also miss meeting new people (coz your emotional needs are fulfilled by your partner). Although, this can get toxic easily when you don’t maintain your existing friendship with your girlfriends.
I especially miss the first date butterflies! 😜 That whole “getting dressed up & going out on a date”, learning new things about a new person. The novelty, the nerves, the excitement, that initial rush!
Having said that, I wouldn’t trade what I have right now for anything in the world! I need to learn to better manage my time & attention & still do things that I used to enjoy doing when I was single - like pursuing a hobby, make new friends, etc. Coz I know my partner would like that😊. He always encourages me to do things that bring me joy & asks me not to focus so much of my energy into our relationship.
I strongly believe we women are givers & we need to draw the line before we completely lose ourselves in the relationship 😇
I have entered my 30s very recently and being Indian with contact pressure of marriage. No one made me feel this good about being single...I love you for the way you are...thanks for existing 💖
Loads of love to you, glad to know you!!!
Jovi mam I have always been a huge fan of your recommendations due to your sheer honesty and great style sense but today you earned my deepest respect . We need women like you so so so much who will understand and reflect the fact that marriages and relationships are not the ultimate for women to be complete. A single woman too can be happy , very much capable to take care oh her and her needs. They are not craving for men's attention or company. They are just fine on their own. Thank you so much for coming out with such great messages. I wish could have an elder sis like you🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
Hi Jovi
I am married for last 12 years..with two kids... seeing your video I really feel you have exposed that soft spot that all us married women actually tend to ignore .... we all think its ok...but we all know deep down there is that someone else we used to be and crave to be...
I have been single for almost 10 years now and EVERYTHING you’ve said in this video is absolutely true! To me being single is addictive, I don’t know if I could ever give up this lifestyle. Maybe it’s self centered but it’s fabulous!
Hey! Thanks for talking about all this. Big sister vibes✨
A video suggestion,
Could you talk about what you wish you knew when you were in your 20s? Or advices you wish you got in your 20s?
I'd love to hear your perspectives. I'm 22 rn and i feel lost about my career and life in general. Pretty sure everyone goes through this phase. What are your views on it?
I wasn't married but was in a 10 year long relationship (which ended on a bad note recently).. and i totally agree with being thoughts and opinions being similar and losing ur authentic self because now your every thought involve another person too.. i too m discovering myself and figuring out life with new outlook which is scary and exciting at the same time
May God help you in this journey.
Sending love 💕
I first started watching you years ago when you were in Kuwait- Divorce is never easy, but sometimes it's a life and death choice feeling like you are drowning if you don't follow your truest self. It's a new journey- new hard things- but growth!
It is so lovely to see people writting long comments on this video, sharing little parts and journey of their lives.. kuddos to you for bringing such topics and pouring your heart out... Side note... Had to play video on 2.5x 😁
Hi Jovi! Amazing video. Do you ever get questions from family and friends about being single? I get a lot..Most of their questions are because they are genuinely concerned as in when we get older, you will need help, being single is only fun while you're healthy etc etc. How do you deal with questions like this?
Can't agree more Jovi ! And a big hug for speaking out. Lots of love 💕💕 I also think this sudden freedom is overwhelming like 'what do I do with this extra time' 🤔 However, the biggest change in me was to able to go out to eat alone or to the movies. I couldn't do that earlier. And my experience made me a lot more confident. I learnt to put myself first. Thanks to therapy.
Divorce is a liberating feeling. Like I knew when I signed that I don't have to deal with this shit anymore! It's a 'delete history and refresh' button for life.
Yessss
Ur really inspiring u said the right thing that our parents are not even aware of in this era..
Financial independence . And losing self identity for others
Hi Jovi i m married but not so happily married.....i can't step out because of my childrens. Self loveing n doing things in my bucket list is what I m doing.
As a child brought up by parents who were not in a happy marriage but didn't seperate "for the children" your children will be better off if you leave. Hope you find a way.
@@muskankaushik196 I second this too.
Another newly single woman (married for 22 yrs and divorced for 1) it’s hard but refreshing to push myself forward. My mantra now: will try everything at least once. Yay to self growth
yay! and trust me, the hardest part is over. We got this!
Damm... The losing your personality is a spot on.... Even as a person who was in a relationship for 8 years I related to it. I lost myself so much in the person that.... I was so afraid to be alone to break up when it turned toxic. That was 2 years ago I do still struggle with being alone and navigating life. But I've learned so much. And look forward to whatever it is that life has to offer
Afraid to be alone and break up - spot on!
"There are times when I don't wanna have heavy lunch - I don't!"...Loved the way you said that😂Lots of Love Joviii❤❤❤
People and Influencer like you ahh ❤️❤️❤️❤️ We need more people who will promote this type of things so that people get influenced into good stuff...not getting influenced for spending lakhs for a having a dream wedding.. whenever people see influencer having that kind of dreamy wedding they think..that's life..or being single is a crime....we genuinely need people like her who will come out and promote this things. So that..Women can understand ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ kudos man... where most female influencer makes dreamy wedding kind of video ( not that's it's bad) but still we need this type of conversation too ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Hey Jovi! I've requested this one to you before and I'm gonna do it again. Please, please I urge you to make a video on how to manage one's finances/investment for young & clueless people out there. Since you've gone through phase by yourself you know what to do & what not. It would be so helpful for many of us out there.
Woww this is soo relatable!! Divorce is actually liberating! It's not just about looking at the positive side of it, but it truly lets you be with yourself, makes you analyze yourself more, allows you to improve yourself & moreover makes you self dependent for every little thing. No more looking up to someone else, you can be your own best partner, & that's important too!!
Hi Jovi, please make a video on how to travel solo..like planning the vacation, managing the expenses, places to visit..will it be safe for a woman to travel alone? Please make a video on it. It will be useful for many.
I’m only 20 years old so my thoughts are not backed by experience but Indian society has a way of viewing divorce as this really negative thing. We all know that. But you know what, if it’s the end of a relationship that was causing unhappiness, divorce is a really happy, positive thing. I love that you are presenting the positive (and negative) changes that accompany this process so organically. More power to you, may you stay strong, healthy and make all your dreams come true. Very inspiring! ❤️
I got divorced literally like two weeks ago. I don't know if you remember me Jovi but i was the one stuck in an unconsummated marriage. I'd commented about it in your end of 2021 video. Right now, honestly i do miss the warmth of companionship. My marriage was unconsummated so I haven't felt the security and comfort of an actual proper relationship ever. I do want to experience that. But until that, i am enjoying discovering myself. I guess i see this as a second chance to be the woman I've always wanted to be. Well, let's see where life takes me. :) It's so heartwarming to read about such lovely stories in the comments section. :))
You miss the warmth of companionship now, because thats what you're used to. Give your mind the time and space to heal and you will realize how suffocated you really were in your marriage! you are going to feel so loved and fulfilled in your own time my life, I cannot wait to hear from you again from the next milestone! Im so happy for you!
@@MrJovitageorge thank you for the lovely response Jovi. It means the world to me. Makes me feel like my story matters. I will keep sharing on here. Thank you Jovi ❤️
The sixth one is something even I can resonant with... I am not somebody who has gotten out of a marriage but my mother apparently has, not officially but unofficially and we hope that happens soon but I see her being way more free now to do whenever she wants to do what ever. That freedom is precious.... I know what you are saying when you say sometimes you don't want to have a heavy lunch...it is freeing
I am married and I can totally relate to eating whatever you want when you are single and the opposite when you are married. It seems such a small thing but its huge
After marriage i really miss having my personal space 😭 there literally no space 🤣🤭
Very proud of you Jovi !!every video of yours teach us something n bring more close to you ✨🌼💯
I love being single I'm glad you are embracing this journey with so much joy ! All the best girl 🥰
Thanks a lot for this video. Gave a different perspective. I have always been a silent follower/fan of you for 10+ years. To be honest, i really enjoyed the videos and pics with ur ex-husband, especially the travels/funny pics. Many times, you mentioned 'true love' etc, which made me happy and gave good feelings. Didn't know it was all different.
Good to hear your perspective. Would be great to hear the other perspective as well to complete any story and make conclusion.
I wish you all the best for a happy and great future.
I would love for you to do a financing tips you've learned video!!
I thought everyone around me was dating or marrying or having kids. Finally someone on the same page. Single and enjoying life like never before.😊 And the 6th point. I couldn't agree more. 😁
You are amazing jovi. So true everyone should be financially independent.
Good part, she didn't speak anything bad for his ex.
Really appreciate for that. My mom was single mom so definitely co-relate what she is saying. Now I am married and it's difficult 😅. I never learn how to take care of man and that is difficult. Although my husband is understanding and don't have high expectation with me🥰. So I am getting breaks from responsibility mostly weekly 2 days❤️
The food one!!! I'm married but I really do miss the freedom of not having to worry about anyone's stomach but yourself. (I also have 2 children and that's just too many stomachs to care about)
Been single always! But was made to feel guilty about not finding a partner, dealt with depression. Relate with finances, self reflection part. I want new friends though. 😬 being In Chennai, I am conscious at all times no matter the time. Thanks for the post! I want to get better now. Hugs.
100% excellent advice for women. Lot of places felt like glorifying divorce though. Nobody has to stay in a abusive or toxic or unhappy marriage at any cost. But cooking for another person or mixing with partner s friends or sharing interest should not be a reason. This is both ways not just for women . Must be interesting to listen to your ex husbands liberating speech.
Who said those were my reasons? Who said any of these were the reasons I got divorced? Some people are truly idiotic!
Good luck Jovita love your enthusiasm for life. Single women are so much happier I noticed. Most of us Indian women kill our personalities once we get married and it's very sad.
I can cry over this video n this chit chat coz I recently got married n I'm not used to many things which I'm doing & I'm feeling sick like internally, I'm losing myself.. I feel like running away from every thing everyday & idk how to do it.
Loved the way you said "Me figuring out Me.... "
I am a married woman (13yrs) with 2kids but what ever you have mentioned here is absolutely so true.... From being independent person to be fully house wife, and leaving everything behind... Specially Ur freedom of doing anything at anytime... I think we all miss that so much.. Happy for your new beginning.... Keep Smiling 😊 and motivating.!
i can feel those tears of yours...jsut be yourself and i really hope that your loser ex is wating this and regrating.
Single and carrying the broken pieces of heart since last 10 years.being single girl is not so easy...
What you told about men bombarding into your personal space is true..
Live your life happily n independently. We just have one life. Glad that u r strong enough to face all the difficult situation and always focused in finding rose among thorns.
Hello jovita ma'am, i hope this platform is right to share my personal experience, i belong to a Muslim family and i got married when I was 19 later i realised that my husband was acting according to his family i ignored those things but it ended up demanding for my gold. The movement he asked for gold it was 5th year of our marriage and i got recent miscarriage, i left him on that spot because I felt the they don't have my value. I started earning and became independent but the point somewhere in your life you feel that you are missing something in your life, again he kept calling and wanted me to talk to him. i felt like he likes me and wants to live with me so i decided to be with him but now still i feel like hunger of gold has not gone .
What shall I do for this....... please suggest
Hi Jovita!! Been a silent subscriber of yours for years!! I have a daughter..I am going to make my daughter listen to this video lol!! You have covered all the points !! Thankyou for posting this!!
You are an inspiration to many girls/woman of all ages.breaking the stereotypes and tabboos, that our society put to restrict females.
You’re so strong and such an amazing woman (very inspirational)
I love watching all your videos 😀
Few days back I was thinking that I no longer know what my favourite music is. My husband's and my choices have always been similar in music. I've now started feeling that I listen to only his favourite songs, even if they have been my favourite as well!!
You are living your life with so much joy. Marriage is about who wants to control the most no matter 1 ceremony or 2 🤣. Like your hair. Little❤️ from Malaysia.
I have never been single!!! Only when I was in college. I have always been surrounded by Everyone... Literally EVERYONE!
No me time ever. I have 2 kids so!!!
Not that I would like it any other way but a little bit of timeout from all the time fuss can do me good.
Loved the video. All women should know that loving yourself is not 'being selfish'. If you are happy only then you can keep others happy.
I am married and I am very independent, so I still am all the things that your talking about. It's very important for women to know that they will still have to put themselves first in marriage too. Only then you will be able to keep the rest of the family happy on the long run!
Great video for anyone who is single or married to just be independent. It helps long term when one is in a relationship to keep it thriving if one chooses to be in a relationship later. I am in my 30s, single, never married and am hoping to find someone who matches my values, morals and habits in life. I also don't want kids so its tougher but hopefully it ends well haha. I get pressure to tell suitors I'll see about kids but I know I don't want them, so in our society its seen as such a taboo and I get judged. I watched Jugjugg Jeeyo yesterday (rarely watch movies lol) and the topics in it were so real! I am glad you are doing well and I think it helps you are in a city too in India, as in smaller towns I can only imagine its so much tougher! YES to a part II!
If u do not want kids mark my words if u marry someone telling him we will see in future, is going to be a deal breaker if ur partner comes around later in married life that lets plan for kids or just let's try to see what happens ,if we are capable to be parents.u will do it out of love or u will feel that this person whom I love so much and that person love me so much so lets do it .and then when u become pregnant n ur life comes to a stand still n slow paced u will know where u went wrong.u keep regretting n unhappy.
@@srabonighosh6591 I would never marry a person and then tell them. I tell them prior. I would not just get pregnant either like that. Having kids is a big thing. And having kids due to 'love' is irresponsible. Many women maybe get pregnant like that, especially in our culture but that's not how I am raised. I will speak what I want. And there are men out there who don't want kids either, it's not the end of the world. If someone doesn't want me due to not wanting kids that is okay, plenty of people out there.
@@sunvavachi good for you . I just shared my opinion .not an intention to raise questions on your upbringing. In your late thirties and plz continue your search.hope u find someone before you reach late forties. Everyone has values n ethics but life plans for them something else along the way . You won't know since you are still searching.also you yourself have mentioned in comments that you tell we will see about kids. Wahts that now.isnt it a lie or false hope.
@@srabonighosh6591 you said in time once married one will have kids. You have your opinion, thank you. I didn't mention I want kids or would think about it. I said I've been pressured to tell suitors I'd think about it, which is not virtue to me. I am looking, believe me haha, but people especially in our community are picky. I'm nice and doing my part. So hopefully the right person wants me as well. :)
OMG ❤️❤️❤️ All so correct especially regarding the matter about men, money and food independence Including no cooking of what we don’t want or when we don’t have the energy or when we don’t even feel to….❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ very true about losing ourselves and again finding real us back with that breathability and space, And it all comes with a tinge or even a tablespoon of depression but in the long run it might all feel worth it❤️
sorry to ask you. I thought you had a very happy marriage. I wld always show my husband your videos with your husband and tell him .see how they are doing things together and all.
Single Jovita has been a blessing we didn't know we NEEDED!! 😍❤️
Love your honesty. I love your energy 😊 I’m a happily married girl but the thing I miss the most is being alone looking ugly binge watching something and eating a pack of chips. 🙈
As always love the video. When you mentioned the freedom of choosing what to eat , I felt sad it's the most basic freedom one should have single or not. And I am also aware it's true for many women and men in relationship , which is not okay. I see this in my close friends and family and I always have to speak out . Food , clothes , choosing what to do in free time etc are basics . I am glad you broke free , I just wish lot more women and men recognise that it's not okay to he told what to eat or how to spend free time etc .
I wish I had watched this video before getting married :/
My 3yr old just watched this video with me, she said "she is beautiful and strong" , I know it must have been hard, but your fire is burning strong..strong enough for a toddler to see. Good for you, proud of you Jovita ❤
Being Married... I have to talk to people I dont want to or would not like to thats something I hate but otherwise I have a great husband who is also my best friend
Ohhhh Jovi what a lovely video! I miss free time me time you know. I'm married for 8 years now and it is still like we are discovering each other but i really want all those things that you are enjoying! One thing i miss is just do whatever i like on a weekend without having to tell anyone
Is it only me who find you super cute in this video? That doesn't mean you're not cute in the other videos. But in this you are just extra super cute 😀😍😍
haha thanks my love
Best wishes….. Rediscover your inner strength, follow your dreams, enjoy and do things you like, and look after yourselves….
Got divorced a few months back & I didn't know I needed this video. Thank you girl ❤️
You're so welcome!
Jovi, can we have a discord for seperated/divorced women? It's so heartwarming to read about such lovely stories in the comments section. :))
Im not sure how to set that up my love..
Hi Jovi...I appreciate ur courage to open up and u living on ur own terms. But ensure that u r not underestimating the joy of family life with a partner as well...
I married my loving husband 4 years ago before dating for 5 years. I think it really depends on how the partner is like.. we both are like best friends living in together. We can't imagine sharing our space with anyone but each other. He may not be the best in looks but he has a beautiful heart. So beautiful that almost every single person we meet falls in awe with him. Everyone in our friend circle and my family calls him 'the best husband ever'. And no, I'm not one of those who post for Instagram. I'm not on any social media.
We love each other very much and can't spend a minute apart. We text each other even when we're in the loos and under the same roof 😂😂.
Sure, we fight but never last for more than 15 mins..
Anyway... I don't think being single is liberating if you've got other responsibilities. I feel that having children is going to change both of our worlds upside down.
Being married is great if one gets a great partner but having children in any case is a nightmare!
We'll have to cook at home everyday, we'll have to adjust our entire schedule based on the child. We can't take naps. We can't skip meals if we wish to. We can't just laze around..or take a sudden trip to anywhere(we do that a lot). Sure the child may be adorable but the responsibilities are not. I've seen many of my friends who cry that they have lost themselves in the process of motherhood. And there's nothing more scarier than that.
Jovi, loved this refreshing take on self-discovery, I love how poised and confident you are and enjoy watching your videos because it is like chatting up an old friend over coffee, honestly - no maska happening here hahha! I know this is not a make-up related vlog but am totally diggin' your lippy and eyeshadow, please share what shades ur wearing :)
Part 2 needed so much, its just so lovely to see you talking
The advice you gave to your young audience is SPOT ON!!!! 💜
We want the part 2 please share more about ur life and experiences 😍😍😍😍 I respect ur decision 😘
yes ma'am! more coming right up!
Love you lady, loads of courage.. you are such a motivator ❤❤❤❤❤
I’m loving your curls 💕
What an absolutely wonderful video..all the things said are so from the heart..you are fabulous for talking about sth like divorce and being single so gracefully and with so much of self realisation and love..Hats off...
How do you deal with parents pushing for a remarriage or asking to consider talking to someone through an arrange setup?
Keep shining as always. I guess from personal experience, relationship status shouldn't change any of these points you mentioned. Stay invigorated!
Hey thanks for the video. It was so helpful. Looks like the comment section is full of newly single gals. If you don't mind, can u talk about divorce. Separation and breakups. Its just so tough
I am in a toxic relationship.. but mother of 2 daughters... working... but not sufficiently...glad 4 u my love
You are amazing 👏 ❤ .very inspiring jovita ..... love u And thank you 😊
Good luck Jovita!!! It’s going to be absolutely fine - you’re going to be just fine.
Choosing an undertone is a heck of a confusion. There are a lot of videos out there but I wish to see your opinion as I trust your opinion the most. Making a short video is much appreciated ❤️
I don’t know why but this is such a feel good video. It’s not easy to be on your own but I love how you have put down everything. Lots of love your end. ❤
One of the biggest benefits of being single is that you can call catch and avoid BS. Not being gaslit, hallelujah!!!!
Being in the financial industry for over 27 years here on Canada helped me to invest long term and short term goals, git married @ 35 years old and I was financial independent, so issues. Money tend to be the biggest problem in marriages here. I am so blessed and yes I choose the people in my life. Not all friends are true. Quality vs quantity. I choose quality, few handful. Good luck. I loved myself too much and that's why I waited for marriage.
"You are your main protector and provider" 🙏
Love you jovi. There are 100s of influencers who have girl chit chat but i choose to listen to you every single time... Keep empowering everyone. 💕💕
Happy for you Jovi😊 Keep up the spirits. The most important thing is to be happy .you inspire every Indian women who craves revival and to choose self love at least for once in their life even if it’s for a tiny moment 😊
Hi jovi...am too going thru same things....a divorce case going on....right now my emotions mind all under my control....started feeling happy again...nd taking steps towrds my next goal of studing abroad even though am well settled with a secure job in india....
Getting married in few months, keeping points for myself
Would really appreciate part 2
Who won't appreciate an honest girl like you?!!!
Stay blessed
Proud subscriber 😇
Do whatever you like, don’t bother about criticism. Husband is only person who matters. Laugh & smile with him, say flattering things & keep him happy. Basically say nice things about him & do what you want. It’s not worth trying to please in laws.. they will never be happy & will always see DIL as outsider.
All the best ... Follow your gut ...love the way you expressed your point of view .
amazing and such an empowering video ❤️. Also your top looks beautiful, where did you get it ?
that PINK GLOSSY LIP is suiting you insanely!! ❤
Such a beautiful video, loved every point u mentioned. Thank you so much
Hi Jovita.. can you please do a video regarding body acne, uneven skin , ingrown or strawberry legs.. thank you 😊