5 signs your family doesn’t care about you (and what to do about it)
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- čas přidán 12. 07. 2024
- We all know family life can be tough at times but does the way your family behaves leave you questioning whether they even care about you?
Feeling like your family ignores you, doesn’t respect you, or even like your family doesn’t love you, is incredibly painful.
Maybe you feel like the black sheep of the family and always in the wrong.
Perhaps you feel like no matter what you do it is never good enough.
You may even feel like you’ve been raised by narcissists who aren’t interested in you or your life at all.
Although you might feel like your family doesn’t care, it’s never usually that simple.
There are steps you can take right now to improve family ties - so you no longer feel like a victim over how they behave.
In this video, we’ll run through 5 telltale signs that your family doesn’t care about you and how to deal with it.
Read the full article here: hackspirit.com/signs-your-fam...
This video is definitely the story of the invisible child in a narcissistic family. I can relate. It took me 34 years to realize I’m not the problem, it’s them.
Tough to live in a family full of narcisisit when you got nowherelse to go and they always shift blame laught at your own problems but when you dare to do the same to them they become violent and make you seel like crap
Same with me. It took 40 years of trying to be close with my siblings and being called needy, pathetic (when getting upset about the rejection) and unsympathetic to they’re woes and excuses. Im done now. The well has dried up. Im gonna give myself the love they never did.
Well we do tend to get problems due our childhood. Emotionally unavailable or narcissists, their behaviours have affected us and we have to deal with the aftermath as perhaps those around us too. Trying to function but barley function. Original sin must be this, takes two generations to rid the generational traumas. Took me 40 to realize dynamics, my life is sad and lonely if someone takes an interest in me I get suspicious. Trusting none and doesn't deserve genuine love or care from any human, so many years wasted I was just 25 and now life is soon gone. Don't make the same mistakes as I did. Try be happy, misery brings you nowhere.
Worse when you have to put up with a nobody for an older sibling who hits on teenagers who dont like them and having family think you're the crazy one for not wanting anything to do with them.
I have had to learn I'm better off not being around them it's God's way of protecting me from their dysfunctional addiction or behavior
There is no such thing as God, you made the decision yourself. Give yourself the credit for making a tough but necessary decision.
@@NonExpertKnowItAll "The fool has sid in his heart, "There is no God" Psalm 14 v 1
God Is Real ! How u think we where made ? We Where made in His Image
Same to us
My family drained me financially. Then kicked me out with £200. Then they call me fat even though I've lost the weight kick in the teeth that
I feel like if you keep taking initiative they’ll never get off their ass and reciprocate because they know you’ll always step up.
This is true
Dont do that! Instead create a new family.
This!!
If you have money 💰 💴 they will love you
Agree and if ya lose or dont have much or more money than them they dont want to know ya anymore
Be honest this video wasn't recommended you searched for it. I did too. But were better off alone we can make other friends we don't need relatives
True we have
excuse me but no, if your family has scaoegoated and abused you for decades, its not a solution to just "call them", or "plan a day and invite them", like wtf
pov:you don't have money to buy a new house/flat for yourself to get away from ur family....
My family was extremely dysfunctional
Only family member who respects me is my mom the rest treat me as a joke.
Saddest thing is when your own mom treats you like a joke and your siblings too. No one to turn to.
No one respects us of relatives
My in laws are ridiculous. I don't have a family of my own and they were my last hope at having one. Ever since I came around they treated me differently. They kept me at arms length, they never want to hang out, they never want to get to know me personally, they dont seem intrested in my career, no matter what attempts I make they just don't care. Then, a year ago my husband's brother brings home a girl and she's like Jesus himself joined the family. They're super enthralled with her, drive 2 hours away to her house to see her when I live 10 mins away, take time to see her family when they havent talked to my mom since my wedding, they get to know her culture and the other language she speaks but wont even attempt any languages I know, they were super supportive of her career but mine is just ok, and the conversation with her is always flowing but talking to me is like walking on eggshells even though ive never given the impression no one could ask me something or just chat. I'm so confused why this happened because we're both pretty similar personality wise. She is more of buttkisser but I still try to seem intrigued when they show me things. I've never done anything inappropriate or rude towards the parents. They just don't like me and even the girl who I've tried to make friends with wants nothing to do with me. I've only met her a handful of times and every times she only talks to the family but never me, I wasn't invited to be in her bridal party but all the other sisters were, I wasn't invited to the dress fitting, I never get responses to my texts. Now me and my husband are moving across country and the in laws are freaking out and trying all these toxic things to get us to stay here which confused me so much because they haven't cared about anything we're doing until we announced we were moving. They claim to care and that we're family too but they've never show it. This has left me feeling exhausted and hurt, wondering what's wrong with me and why I don't deserve love. I'm always wondering what does this new girl have that I couldn't bring to the table. Why am I undeserving of love. All I want is a family I can be myself around and a safe place where we can support each other. I'm broken watching everyone elses family be close and loving.
I think your in-laws and husband does not have a close relationship, there may be some bad memories exists between them. There is nothing wrong with you, you being the wife of your husband makes them dislike you I think. Don't worry about them, you can have kids and make family of your own.
My family (specifically my grandma) does not like me or my siblings just because of my mom. My mom is the eldest daughter and I don't know much about their history together. I grew up being treated so poorly by my grandma and seeing my other cousins be treated so well. Her deep hatred goes so far she even dislikes the children we have made. She treats my nieces and nephew so bad. It breaks my heart. I've gotten use to it and just accepted that she will never like us for no reason. The reason I'm bringing it up now is because my mom gave birth to my older brother when she was 17. He was the first grandchild. He was treated very well and was raised by both my mom and grandma. He recently passed away & I found out that he apologized to one of my siblings for him being treated differently then us. It broke me to pieces. I didn't think anyone would ever acknowledge this but my older brother did. I'm not sure how to go about it. I can't stop thinking about it. Something I thought didn't bother anyone but us turned out he was living with that guilt the entire time he was alive. Can anyone help me understand and accept that maybe I did care that my grandma hates me and my siblings. That my brother possible didn't live with the guilt of being treated well compared to us. I don't know what to do.
Sorry for your loss, please don't focus on the negative because even if he lived with guilt (whom doesn't) it hopefully didn't consume him. You will meet him one day again and can ask him then, try to live a good peaceful life and carry his legacy on by adapting one of his traits that you feel are honorable.
Family dynamics (especially toxic ones) do affect us all so ofc you cared and care since it continues to affect you and the next generation. Whomever is chosen as "favorite" doesn't usually like that role and they feel very guilty about it, they seldom address this because they don't want to point it out that the rest is unpreferred or worse. Keep on moving, pray, accept your grandma probably wont change and that is her cross to wear. Try to correct the path that is wrong for the next generation and don't let negativity ruin your soul. Peace be with you.
Forgive but no reason to forget, family members will disrespect you over and over again and it will be up to you to break the cycle. Walk away if it happens often .Apologize even when you were not in the wrong. Visit family members because you want to see them do not take score because that will be hurting yourself. I am taking a break from my family , they hurt me deeply and never apologize. I am always in the "wrong" I live a very stable life I am a single Mom who without help takes care of her child. I have inherited 4 mental illnesses/disorders and have received no support from my family. I work hard at keeping healthy and stable and I am. I have driven myself to and from Hospitals after operations due to no one in my family being available , never mind the care afterwards, as well as psyc hospitals because well I felt that no one was there to help me. I should have not told them about the disorders because their concern is not sincere. I must fit into their box. I need to do what is right for me and taking a time out from the family is the best thing for me right now.
It is not true that it takes two person to have a mess. It doesn’t matter if somebody wants a good relationship if the other person doesn’t want is. Stop making victims belive they have to change so they will not be abused. The only thing the victim can do is ro distance themselves from the toxicfamily.
Yea I didn't particularly care for the "advice" given in this video either...good to know I wasn't the only one who was bothered by these suggestions. Best advice is to leave. Period
Dont call them anymore when they say f off
I love and needed to read these comments. Reinforcing the idea that I did the right thing. Lord knows how badly it hurts to be the black sheep, but it is what it is.. My mother was just an egg donor. My way to get into this Universe. What I decide to do with my consciousness is up to me. I can no longer look back and wonder WHY anything. It’s time to move on and discover myself.
One sibling ghosted me 4 weeks ago and another constantly is verbally abusive . I was in need of enough money to buy food for a couple of days ahead of a serious winter weather event and all she could do was berate me for not handling my finances more responsibly even though I'm on a fixed income
Same to us going through and gone through thee same
Neglected when flooded out didnt care at christmas last year
2:20 I deal with this on my dad’s side of my family. My dad was never there for me when he was living and I never got invited to events unless it’s a funeral. I stopped trying to hang with my older half siblings and even potential friends because I get tired of being the only one reaching out. Each time I make plans for us to hang out they find an excuse as to why they can’t. I get tired of dealing with one sided people. That’s why I like to go places ALONE and I’m good by my damn self.
My dad's side of the family hated my mom because she came from a poor family and she used to be a maid regardless of being so hardworking and attaining her bachelor's it never changed their attitude towards her , on the other side I don't think that my dad was close to his siblings , I never saw them visiting us at our home neither did they ever call the only time I would talk to them is if I passed my primary and highschool exams which I never did only my two sisters did because they were smart in books I was soo hurt by this . Then in 2015 we had family reunions and it felt so awkward because all the other cousins were so close with each other and I didn't fit in till today . Everytime I go for this gatherings I just feel so hurtttt they have been occuring for 7 years and I no longer feel comfortable to go there I hate being there .... I hate belonging to that family I really do I just wish my dad was intentional with making us closer with them , he's such an emotionally unavailable dad . All this hurts so much it really hurts
Sounds like you're dads the only one worth a fuk in the entire family tree
I think when your family dont care about you best way you dont care about them is much better becuse they never like agin no matter what you do or love them just for get about family any more fund one good girl friend or mary make new family is better and kids
My mother constantly reminds me every other day she wished she aborted me but my father who died young wanted me. My brother is the favorite although the is also abusive and they both are physically abusive, drugged me not leave them.. they enjoy when they are miserable when I cry. I try so hard not to be a victim. I have a new relationship and I’m just afraid to love someone who is showing me true love and blessings.. I’m afraid he will turn into the people I love the most that .. we just changed.. here I am treated most likely like their foreign maid .. also I have white skin but my mother is dark. I can’t control it. My father was white but he is dead so I’m constantly reminded that I don’t really “belong” and my mother constantly says racist things to me about my skin. Whatever, I’m white butbits my mother it still hurts whatever color my skin is.
when I have a tummy ache my mum still takes me to school
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Bruh
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Families like that, who needs enemies?!
Are you joking ( psychic’s 😵💫🤣) ??? The first part of your video 👏👏👏The 2 NDE’s part where you mention trusting a psychic? (when your already vulnerable) ?? 😵🙄🙄😬🤨😖😖???
I did not hear him say anything about NDE but I’m with you the first part of the video is great and then I mention psychics I like OK forget it
You had useful information Until you got to the part about a psychic. So unfortunately that naivety under means they helpful information you did have
Your last sentence doesn’t make sense.
What if you don't care anymore and cut them off
They dont exsist anymore
It was me that is unacceptable.
Thank You 💕
I don't know what I can do? I've tried everything except for two things.
Yep I hate coming from dysfunctional family my mom's side they give me money for Christmas even though I tell them not to they never call my dad's side are my way or the highway I have my God and my husband
Forgive forget dont bother with them anymore
My problem is my little sister she always get everything but I dont
It is not your little sister that is the problem, it is your parents whom need to learn to share their attention between you two. If you still a kid try to speak up so they understand this hurts you and if they don't get it find positive role models (that are not predators or other evildoers). Did they even initially inform you that you were to get a little sister and what that means and so forth? Perhaps they still see her as a baby to spoil. Don't be jealous of your sister, it's not her fault. One day she can be your best friend if you put aside the fact she is favored. Sorry to say but some parents are either ignorant or just try do their best but don't understand how their actions/none actions affect their children.
Same with us
My father and brothers are the same narcissistic. only my mother understands some time but she ignores their behaviour as she was ignored by her father and brothers. After wasting all my emotional and mental investment with them finally I made understand to myself ahhhh why I didn't take care of mental health.when I see how other families are behaving and responding to each other I feel my self orphan and helpless inspite of having father and so called brothers
Nobody cares or helps. Many are delusional about my family and have fallen under their spell.
Thank you🙏
This was a great video until psychic source👎🏾🙄
These are very general statements and the other person may not want to have a relationship.
Best advice anyone can give right there and yet it doesn't help
Just move away. Go low contact or no contact and find real friends.
Agree
@@Klikka1 yeah i agree its the only real solution i can think of. If it was a boss or a friend who didnt value me and made me feel terrible, i'd quit the job or cut off the friend. Same applies to family i guess. It just hurts a lot more, i hope i will feel whole one day. I also struggle with thinking that im not worthy of being loved or valued by anyone else too. If my parents cant do it then do i deserve it? Well my friends do appreciate me. But i also sometimes feel like they might be manipulating me bc how could they really be genuine about liking me? Well that's just a thought, i dont believe it, but it sticks around.
If I’m the child and not the parent and I go to visit my parents 3 times and they don’t even return the favor once! Yeah F that and them 😂
556. But that’s hard to do, tried several times leave them behind. Start a new one.
I agree but maybe there's someone in the chat you can encourage
These tips are bad already for a healthy relationship yet the reason why people feel their families don't care about them is they're dysfunctional so you can't apply healthy people's rule book like just initiate contact more cuz if the family member(s) cancel or flake on you no matter how many new dates and times you set up if they're breaking 99.9% of them then you're still not a priority for them and return to square 1. And if you're using some of your tips on dysfunctional families all you'll do for yourself is create an addiction as you're chasing them, they're your drug or the emotions you're getting even if painful and unbearable are the addition themselves.
I been bullied by my relatives now out of our lives true what they say is what theyve did to us
I dont understand the advice about not being a victim. It sounds good but practically i dont know how to work with that at all. Also none of that advice really resolves the issue of not being cared about. If i forgive and forget, then i'll still be not cared about, and just eternally forgiving and forgetting it while still being hurt by it. It just sounds like advice on how to pretend its not as bad as it is and abandon your desire to be treated well
They dont wanna hear us give us abusive mouting off threatens
My sister told me this Easter that all three of them Her my mother and father hate my guts.
thank you.you guys help me
What is it you need help with i might not be able to solve but im willing to give a shot and i cant just hear yiucry out for help without at least offering a ear
Pray 4u
My god don't U think we do this , it's worst than U are saying for many
I stop sending invites to my kid’s birthdays bc it was always a let down from my adopted mother. I finally stopped reaching out and just sent a card telling her my mental state of mind is not good. She decided to let her granddaughter read it (it was for only her to read. That same granddaughter was the one who told me about it and now she herself has left my adopted mother and her mother because of their toxic ways) so I’ve learned to keep my distance and stay in my own lane. Even so I still get talked about and it’s not for the good.
I just block my adopted sister bc she never reached out but would be orbiting me. The same granddaughter (her niece) ask her if they could visit my baby daughter and my adopted sister told her she didn’t want to and doesn’t care. Mind you the same granddaughter had cut her off too smh.
That was all it took for me to have finally blocked her was when she said she didn’t care. If you don’t care then don’t be orbiting me on social media 😒
Makes you want to end it all. Who would care?
Theyve left us out
Stay away from them who curse ya
The last guy who I fell in love with in 2015 was already taken & my folks didn't what you call show the comfort & respect that they should have. One of them said stuff like "I told you so. I told you how it was going to be." That frustrated & teared me down so hard that I didn't know what to do. My family always have thought that being in relationship with a star was impossible. I tried hard to keep the positive words in mind.
"Anything is possible."
From age of 12 & up I dragged down about stuff like that. There is a lot of negativity in my family.
Hey i hope that you found someone to talk to in confidence about this i c an only imagine the pain that caused you on top the hurt of losing your first love dont give up on love the special man is out there just keep working on yourself and dont let the past alter your future keep your head up 😀
@@vicsanders875 Well in a way I did find a special guy. A secret dream mate. His name is Matthew. He has been coming to me in dreams ever since 2017. He is Italian & Welsh. There is no doubt in my mind that he is out there somewhere. Ever since I still love the other guys with all my heart & always will. Thanks for your word. Have a great day.
Carry on doing ya own things through Jesus christ ya lord and savior let go of the past
They ley us down constantly
We are better not around them
They flakes on us
Never did care never really wanted us at birth
Dont give them new address
Dont talk to them anymore
Avoid them
I'm kind....but he just wanted to be stupid as well .. but good to know for you good for you... but either way just saying that physics obviously is a so called "argument, " but just saying that it's not real and I am...damnit...
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I say dont care about ya move away change Fone number change way you look
👇 Promo'SM.
The advice is garbage
The advice is not garbage
Not worth the hasel
Wow psychic? What gives dude? You just discounted everything you said.
What goes around comes around
Families like that, who needs enemies?!