Donnie McClurkin's advice for parents of sexually abused and his personal story

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  • čas přidán 11. 12. 2011
  • Pastor Donnie McClurkin opens up about his struggles due to childhood sexual abuse and his advice for parents

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  • @guideoftheblind1
    @guideoftheblind1 Před 10 lety +75

    AMEN!!!!!!!!! Never leave your child with anyone,

  • @brokenwithpower
    @brokenwithpower Před 4 lety +29

    I have SUCH a greater level of respect for him hearing this. I NEVER allowed my son to go with ANYONE. Sadly this is the world we live in.

  • @dorothyscott3069
    @dorothyscott3069 Před 10 lety +46

    This is so powerful and so True and I encourage parents to listen to Pastor Donnie. I trusted my son with my pastor of 15 years and found that he made sexual advances towards him. My son became so angry and bitter behind his advances that he turned his back on God and he is now in prison. When I confronted the pastor he then turned the congregation against my son and I. I placed my son in harms way by trusting my pastor. Please listen to what he's saying because it's wisdom from God!

    • @paulachinn6306
      @paulachinn6306 Před 7 lety +6

      Praying for your son that he will come to know that God loves him and can heal him. We have to use wisdom and rely on God's guidance on who we let our children associate with in the church- whether they are adults, teenagers, or other children. Be watchful. Because as the Pastor said , its true that hurt people hurt others.

    • @seinitokilupe3669
      @seinitokilupe3669 Před 5 lety +3

      May the Just God deal with those kind of people 😔

    • @charray6867
      @charray6867 Před 4 lety +1

      Amen

    • @grizzlemc1662
      @grizzlemc1662 Před rokem

      @Dorothy Scott I hope and pray to God that He heals the brokenness that occured all around. Listen to the potters house by tramaine hawkins

  • @roxannemeeks8985
    @roxannemeeks8985 Před 4 lety +33

    Donnie McClurkin is so REAL for this. God is real. Jesus Christ reigns.

  • @ernestleethomas2155
    @ernestleethomas2155 Před 9 měsíci +2

    Powerful Testimony of Faith from this super anointed man of GOD. GOD BLESS PASTOR McClurkin Forever for his honesty, transparency giving JESUS the glory.

  • @adamtorres833
    @adamtorres833 Před 3 lety +29

    Sad part about this, most of the time, it's family. I know this first hand. It's all about education, and openness with parent and child

    • @Ezarhia_The_Fulani
      @Ezarhia_The_Fulani Před 2 lety +2

      Exactly, sometimes it's one of the parents. In my family's case it was my son father.

    • @grizzlemc1662
      @grizzlemc1662 Před rokem

      ​@@Ezarhia_The_FulaniI just want to say im so so sorry about what you're going through but there's hope in Jesus. There's hope in the Lord. I dunno what that looks like for you but please know that God cares and He loves you all with an everlasting love. Everything that I have been through in my life God has used it to bring me closer to Him. Everything I have been through in my entire life God has used it to bring me closer to Him. The things that you and your family are going through did not catch God by surprise. All things work together for good for them who love God, for them who are called according to His purpose. Romans 8v28. If you let Him God can use every piece of our story to pull us through and carry us over.

  • @kervinfondren5600
    @kervinfondren5600 Před 6 lety +37

    I was raped on active duty in the Army in the 80's, and I still suffer from PTSD and mental disorders stemming from that today. It does get better! Don't take something you can't ever give back! I forgave and moved on.

  • @AMJLovesTheLord
    @AMJLovesTheLord Před 8 lety +32

    Absolutely amazing. You see I knew I was not crazy. I don't trust nobody taking unrelated kids out on a one-on-one trips and home visits alone. The devil is a lie!! Thank you pastor McClurkin for making it plain.

  • @AcaJudiJudiJudiJudi
    @AcaJudiJudiJudiJudi Před 9 lety +23

    Teach your children for their protection and early.

  • @simplymelodicmeissimplyme237

    I commend the sister that asked this question because this is a hush-hush conversation secret in the African American community of incest rape and abuse that is not discussed. Now that these things have started to surface these discussions yet there still needs to be healing for the people who are behind the border of when the discussion stop another was people born in the 30-40 50s and 60s and 70s 80s and 90s who still are carrying the burdens of these sexual predatorial assault.

  • @joeymcfloey2467
    @joeymcfloey2467 Před 4 lety +8

    Praise God for Pastor McClurkin, there is no one who is righteous or blameless. The blood of Jesus reconciled man back to Father God. Thank you for making yourself vulnerable and humble before God. Only the living God can heal any type of violation.

  • @MulitSeeker
    @MulitSeeker Před 3 lety +3

    God lead me to this video this morning because he knew l needed this word. Lord jesus I needed to hear this. Thank you God

  • @stephaniej.alexander5485
    @stephaniej.alexander5485 Před 2 lety +3

    Grace is the ability to forgive without limits!!

  • @vk4574
    @vk4574 Před 3 lety +2

    Who would dislike this, this is real facts!!!

  • @jeanettedawson7993
    @jeanettedawson7993 Před 3 lety +5

    Amen the power of God can fix anything through Jesus. Bless this man for speaking truth on this subject. God's grace is amazing.

  • @Laticiad
    @Laticiad Před 9 lety +15

    I AGREE with what he said. If your son is young YOU (the mother) should be there. We are the protector of our children. There are far too many people with bad intentions and we (with prayer) should be there to help deter that kind of behavior. AGAIN-DO NOT LET YOUR YOUNG BOY (AND OR GIRLS) GO WITH FOLKS UN-SUPERVISED BY YOU (THE PARENT)

    • @charray6867
      @charray6867 Před 4 lety

      I agree. Spoken from a Mom whom learned the hard way. In Mid-2000, my husband & I allowed my Pre-Teen son(whom is slow) to spend the night with a friend from school after the Friend's Birthday Party. We didn't know that friend or his parents, but spoke with someone on the phone allegedly Friend's Parent. Several months later (January/February 2001) during a meeting with Extended Family Members, I found out my slow Pre-Teen son was taught some kinda sexual game by the friend & others whom spent the night also. Idk why my slow Pre-Teen son didn't tell his Dad & I what happened the next day when he returned home. But it shattered my soul to find out that this had happened, as well as an 18y.o., gay, male family member of mine had heard about that incident before me & used it to his advantage to molest my slow Pre-Teen son & 2 other Pre-Teen male family members. I took my slow Pre-Teen son to a Child Abuse Clinic for help. Because he in turn had tried that sexual game on a family member youngest than him. They told me that I had to call the Police (from the Child Abuse Clinic), to report my18y.o., gay, male family member, as well as on my slow Pre-Teen son. So, I did. By law medical places are required to report any type of Child Abuse to the Police, but they allowed me to call first. Plus, I had to take him to a Lab for HIV Test & sexual assault counseling. Even though the Police have questioned my slow Pre-Teen Son & the Police decided to drop the case,the Mother of the younger family member (that my son tried the sexual game on aka molestation) holds unforgiveness in her ❤ against my son 19 years later. And her own husband (child's Stepdad) repeatedly raped her 2 young children before she had him arrested & she would go visit him in jail, eventually divorced him. But I've never heard of her bringing up what her husband did, however from time-to-time other family members tell me about her bringing up what my slow Pre-Teen son did in the year 2000.
      God helped me to forgive all whom were involved.

  • @emilysjoys
    @emilysjoys Před 5 lety +8

    Come on tell it! Thank you so much! Our children are being destroyed by the ones who should love them. Smh. Thank you so much..

  • @JustAThought155
    @JustAThought155 Před 5 lety +15

    Let us expose by discussing the hidden sexual acts that dominate many church bodies.

  • @primroseobatadodo8460
    @primroseobatadodo8460 Před 9 lety +10

    God bless you pastor I've learnt so much

  • @jenniferdevoe9372
    @jenniferdevoe9372 Před 4 lety +1

    MOG ... Couldn't have responded better. God bless him !👑♥️

  • @patricklewis833
    @patricklewis833 Před 10 lety +11

    Thanks Pastor Donnie for this.

  • @abdulax6910
    @abdulax6910 Před 3 lety +2

    Preach Donnie!!!!! That was gooood!!! Fed my spirit just that quick

  • @shirlwashington1301
    @shirlwashington1301 Před 10 lety +5

    Awesome words...the Walk is Real!!!

  • @lisaholmes6408
    @lisaholmes6408 Před 7 lety +3

    I tried to keep my Daughter with a bright future ahead that she would still love and forgive and teach and pray for the lost.

  • @Vicqui72
    @Vicqui72 Před 7 lety +6

    Powerful...God be praised!

  • @lh6802
    @lh6802 Před 7 lety +10

    Great advise! Pastor Donnie

  • @FlyRoni
    @FlyRoni Před 5 lety +8

    Courageous....😢😢

  • @ManyHats216
    @ManyHats216 Před 9 lety +4

    Hallelujah thank you thank you thank you God for grace and the power to forgive and allow the healing process to begin

    • @charray6867
      @charray6867 Před 4 lety

      Yes, I Thank-you Lord👋👋👋

  • @gracebello8613
    @gracebello8613 Před 3 lety

    Your Maker will uphold you till you see God. You are one Paul of our time 2 Corith. 12 vs 6 - 10. Thank God you have been helped by Him always. You have been a blessing for so your reward is waiting for you. Keep holding on. From Nigeria

  • @spiritualharvestministries

    AMEN! PASTOR DONNIE! SO TRUE, SAME IN MY CHURCH!

  • @kathywalker8836
    @kathywalker8836 Před 5 lety +2

    Thanks for this Video💝💝💝💝

  • @favouredlisa8218
    @favouredlisa8218 Před 2 lety

    Wow! Donnie got it correct. This is powerful!

  • @faithfull7576
    @faithfull7576 Před 3 lety +4

    All sexually abused people need delivetance if they want to fulfill what God purpose for them.

  • @kingsleychukwuma4701
    @kingsleychukwuma4701 Před 9 lety +2

    Well said Sir..

  • @whiskeygirl1478
    @whiskeygirl1478 Před 6 lety +3

    Amen brother ! Completely agree

  • @rawlawchambers2143
    @rawlawchambers2143 Před 8 lety +5

    Amen Donnie well said

  • @ladyvirtue650
    @ladyvirtue650 Před 5 lety +2

    GRACE GIVES US...

  • @cynthiapittman452
    @cynthiapittman452 Před 2 lety

    Glorious TRUTH

  • @josephinekehinde2304
    @josephinekehinde2304 Před 3 lety +1

    Well said sir

  • @shaeives3485
    @shaeives3485 Před 2 lety +1

    Looove this!!!!

  • @GNM6752
    @GNM6752 Před 3 lety

    Experience is the best teacher

  • @inaandkyah5896
    @inaandkyah5896 Před 3 lety +1

    Wow, he should preach that so some of these leaders can here this and parents don't give your children to nobody be there with them but don't let them be with them alone.

  • @prophetichealingwithkeith9357

    And family members..it happened to me at age 6yrs. I never had a chance

  • @mochachino2933
    @mochachino2933 Před 2 lety

    Amen to this!!

  • @spoetryqueen
    @spoetryqueen Před 6 lety +3

    Tight but right. Our generation excepted consequences for our sins.

  • @TeaSeaKay
    @TeaSeaKay Před 3 lety

    This is wisdom

  • @zenobiajackson7187
    @zenobiajackson7187 Před 10 lety +2

    awesome!

  • @Dianadiana-zj4er
    @Dianadiana-zj4er Před 3 lety +1

    Hallelujah!

  • @patriciak.taylor4177
    @patriciak.taylor4177 Před 6 lety +3

    It is very true. OMG.

  • @feleciamiddlebrooks4577

    Absolutely Amen,

  • @brandyrogers2393
    @brandyrogers2393 Před 3 lety

    Yes lord thanks Donnie 💯

  • @josephantonio9143
    @josephantonio9143 Před 2 lety +1

    Donnie McClurkin pls come to Ghana and sing with us I like you and your song like the I've got my mind made up and the days of elijah so I want to see you in Ghana for real and I have known you and your name but I knew your other name was Donald Andrew McClurkin and my name Dylan daitey Antonio but also I am known as Joseph Antonio

  • @pencilheadfamily19
    @pencilheadfamily19 Před rokem

    Hallelujah hallelujah hallelu
    🙌🏾🙌🏼🙌🏾👽💙🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @melissanewell3871
    @melissanewell3871 Před 5 lety +2

    Love you Donnie

  • @AcaJudiJudiJudiJudi
    @AcaJudiJudiJudiJudi Před 9 lety +2

    amen!

  • @ToGodBeTheGloryForThisFood

    He right. The big brother company isn’t always safe.

  • @adesuwabalogun3999
    @adesuwabalogun3999 Před 7 lety +3

    The most reliable is to empower kids with knowledge and the Power to speak up. Kids should have sex education early, and they should know that adults will try to take advantages, teaching them how to talk to such adults, and build their defence is important. No adult will mess with a child that speaks boldly about sex , and a child that can politely and strictly say please don't touch MY this or that part of my body i will tell MY mummy.

    • @charray6867
      @charray6867 Před 4 lety

      Thank-you for saying this. I wish I had told/edicated my children on those things.

  • @cleanhouse4gud
    @cleanhouse4gud Před 10 lety +3

    Amen

  • @ceceprincess4758
    @ceceprincess4758 Před 3 lety

    Amen donnie

  • @derrickcrawford3134
    @derrickcrawford3134 Před 9 lety +4

    That was good Donnie.

  • @clarisermiller769
    @clarisermiller769 Před 2 lety

    THERE IS A LOT OF WICKED PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD, BE WATCHFUL BE PRAYERFUL. AMEN!

  • @superhot2994
    @superhot2994 Před 3 lety

    YEESSS AMEN

  • @azekiaelise9338
    @azekiaelise9338 Před 3 lety

    Wow Amen

  • @ANDREA.363
    @ANDREA.363 Před rokem

    Amen!!!!

  • @shaquillekiragu
    @shaquillekiragu Před 2 lety +1

    Wow.

  • @justussquires2782
    @justussquires2782 Před 4 lety

    Did tye tribbett had anything to say?

  • @yvonnegriffin7519
    @yvonnegriffin7519 Před 4 lety

    JANUARY 9 2020 SONG... THE SEED ON GOOD SOIL STANDS FOR THOSE WITH A NOBLE AND GOOD HEART..WHO HEAR THE WORD. RETAIN IT..AND BY PERSEVERING PRODUCE A CROP....MEMORIALS BAPTIST CHURCH 1311N CAROLINE STREET BALTIMORE MARYLAND 21213

  • @ritadaniels3881
    @ritadaniels3881 Před 3 lety

    What you don’t understand who to get out of there, you got that before. Amen Amen Amen for Christ sake Amen

  • @theunbutcheredcats
    @theunbutcheredcats Před 2 lety

    Why didn't he go to jail for his crimes? No one came forward?

  • @lisaholmes6408
    @lisaholmes6408 Před 7 lety

    My birth was through my dad beat and rape my mom
    just because you are married to a man don't mean that the man has a right to forcing his wife to have sex.
    Here come O.
    I forgave my father and other that done wrong to me.
    I live because of his love keep me for my purpose.

  • @regalhouseofjudah4668

    This kind goes by fasting and praying

  • @cendoriagray5296
    @cendoriagray5296 Před 8 lety +3

    I know this is old and someone never answered the question in a comment upon this video..good video by the way..but the person sitting next to Donnie if no one answered is The Tribbett

  • @sheepseven7588
    @sheepseven7588 Před 4 lety

    THIS ADVICE IS THE TRUTH , IN THE HOME AND IN THE CHURCH WITHOUT THE HOLY SPIRIT AND A KNOWLEDGE OF GODS WORD THEN SATAN WILL ALWAYS CONTROL US THRU HIS SITUATION AND WE STAY IGNORANT

  • @tracyjohnson1661
    @tracyjohnson1661 Před 2 lety

    HE SHOULD BE ESPOUSING PASTORS THAT'S IN CHURCH

  • @yvonnegriffin7519
    @yvonnegriffin7519 Před 4 lety

    IMPACT GROW MATURE US CLINGING GROW HARVEST PERMANENTLY VISIT PRODUCE HONEST....GOOD HEART PEOPLE...NUTRIENT RICH SOIL SON FLOWERS.

  • @tcgraham386
    @tcgraham386 Před 6 lety +1

    AM€N

  • @drpharm561
    @drpharm561 Před 2 lety

    Look at the guy next to him, he is ashame, when mothers have sons and allow them dress up like women and direct them from it. And it dose happen those members who know the true way. Children are a gift from God, so if you had a woman previously and a child then why do the opposite bc you want it. Achoice you must b Holy and FEAR God c if you Fear God then yu be very careful not to offend the Lord, David killed a man for his wife look what he said. Psalm 51.contrite heart he will not dispised. When Iwas a child a groun man tried to touch me in the wrong way and i began to scream to the top of my voice and the church moved this man, but i never trust anyone person.. any more. But God changed my inner self bc of thi thingcould of been damageing, m other was going to fire a cap in his butt, thatday,innocent child getting a man to try this there was others on the truck to. Children grown up, this man had lots of children also. Glad i had a mother and father who was loving over me and my sinlings.

  • @yaboiiKalEl
    @yaboiiKalEl Před 9 lety +5

    I think it was a bit drastic saying the mom needs to be there.. She can't possibly be there everywhere her child goes. I think it's very important to let the holy spirit lead our decisions on who to let our children go with but in order to say the parent has to always be there is silly.

    • @mrbilingual
      @mrbilingual Před 8 lety +2

      I agree, and I am a rape victim. If grown men do not trust themselves with kids, they have issues! As long as the parents give consent and the child is old enough to talk, there is no issue. If that child never learns to trust a male, he will grow up being distance like all of his male coverings. My only recommendation is not to be too careless with the opposite sex.

    • @mrbilingual
      @mrbilingual Před 8 lety +1

      There is no mistake; what I said was right on the money! If you did not know, males are encouraged not to hang around too many female clients in the social service fields. It is call preventive measure or a liability issue. For this reason, I do not pick up female hick hikers or compromise myself in a way around the opposite sex. One of the first thing my instructor told us when I went to grad school was NOT TO BE ALONE WITH A FEMALE CLIENT without someone knowing it. He spoke about what happened to him. John Pride is right. It sounds to me that your issues might have caused you to read into what is not there! AND YES KENYA, THE GENDER OF THE CHILD ALWAYS MATTER TO THE OFFENDER AS WELL AS HIS/HER AGE!!!

    • @oreldean
      @oreldean Před 6 lety +9

      No sweetie I coming with my child and if I cannot go he is not going. Cannot trust anyone with our babies male and female.

    • @MaeSekou
      @MaeSekou Před rokem

      Agreed!!!

    • @MaeSekou
      @MaeSekou Před rokem

      @@oreldean ok now how long are you going to do this…until he’s 18?

  • @jsoncornell1004
    @jsoncornell1004 Před 7 lety

    Tye Tribbett Don't Start loll he speaking in other tongues don't start because you won't be able to start loll

  • @tracyjohnson1661
    @tracyjohnson1661 Před 2 lety

    He sound suspect

  • @michaelthomas9049
    @michaelthomas9049 Před 2 lety

    He really shouldn't be the one giving advice to no one about kids, and their struggles with sexuality... When he can't figure out what he was to do with his life... Let's be real about it!

    • @jackiebessard7988
      @jackiebessard7988 Před 2 lety +4

      🤭 ~ i thought I heard him say that ONLY Jesus can deliver and set free. I think I heard him say that the struggle with the flesh is real! The spirit and the flesh will struggle until the spirit is released from our decaying corrupted, irredeemable body. Reminds me of the Spirit speaking through Paul in Romans. Who shall deliver me from this body of death? Who better can testify than the person that has lived it and been delivered and admits the truth about the struggle? I didn’t know any of his history but have a better picture now. Who can love the unlovely but the person who has ‘walked a mile’ in the struggle? I truly get it now🤔. The eye opener for me? TRUST👀NOBODY👁…. especially the ones who know Gods Word but sugarcoats🐍 it

    • @03MsMichelle
      @03MsMichelle Před rokem +1

      What does someone's sexuality has to do with giving someone advice about protecting your children?

    • @michaelthomas9049
      @michaelthomas9049 Před rokem

      @@03MsMichelle don't give advice when you're struggling with your own issues on sex. Get your affairs in order, then do what's needed.

  • @smurfette1985
    @smurfette1985 Před 9 lety +4

    My spirit is bothered by this. if a child does not have a father in their life, they need male guidance. A pastor is the leader, the shepherd. Shame on him for not taking an active role as a male figurehead in the lives of lost boys.... a mother no matter how string is not a man...i was raised by a single mother but to be a male raised by a single mother is a different story. I'm not perfect but I have a spirit of discernment. It's something not quite right with this ministry. I don't buy it!!! I'm not blinded by false phrophets.

    • @itsstaetae
      @itsstaetae Před 9 lety +6

      I dont think he is saying its wrong to adapt some form of male guidance for a child that is lacking, I think its more of assuming that because they are in the church that they can do wrong. We are all sinners and all humans and it would be foolish to put them on a pedestal because there is still a chance... Be aware of the unknown and the devils doings and ability to try and take over. Just be aware I think is all.

    • @TERRICAWAITS
      @TERRICAWAITS Před 7 lety +4

      I hear what you are saying however children don't have discernment and even some adults don't have it. The enemy does what he does and that is kill, steal and destroy. The Bible says trust no man, that includes even those that may be in the church. I have seen it too many times . For years a man was allowed to pastor and molest little boys knowingly. He did this to many boys for years and the presiding bishop at that time did nothing when allegations was brought against him. Finally, he met his match and his fate was murder. As a matter of fact it landed him in First 48 and all that he had done and how he destroyed the lives of so many had finally been uncovered so yes it happens and we have to use wisdom in all things. Cover your children

    • @andersonbrown5507
      @andersonbrown5507 Před 6 lety +5

      It is no other mans responsibility to raise a male child of a single mother besides God the father and the earthly father. It’s not fair to throw that responsibility onto someone who did not share in the pleasure of making that baby. Raise your kids the best you can, and take full responsibility for the actions and choices that created that situation. This is the simple solution vs finding a husband and submitting to a man even for the sake of your son. This is the work around where it doesn’t cost the mother anything upfront, but the child may pay the price. Black folks call this USING.. Its not the pastor, black male teacher, deacon, or anybody else Fatherly responsibility. Put the father on Child Support and drop him off to his Daddy on the weekends, whether he likes it or not. Send him to the father new home and address whether he likes it or not. Don’t let men get away with this. And don’t allow that Man to use other men indirectly by having you shift the load to men in the church. This is disgraceful. Nobody owes you anything.

    • @oreldean
      @oreldean Před 6 lety +6

      You know how many pastors molested/ raped little boys all because of "father figure".

    • @jeffreyasamoah-prempeh7583
      @jeffreyasamoah-prempeh7583 Před 4 lety +3

      All he is saying is that its not for him! There’s nothing shameful about that, he has enough wisdom to know he cant even trust his flesh considering his background and what he has been through in such situations and God is the giver of such wisdom. The bible admonishes us to flee from sin and to do away with the parts of the body that causes us to sin if we cant keep them under control and that is exactly what hes doing. It doesn’t mean if you leave your kid with him that anything would happen but is he going to take the risk? No!

  • @willieheard1059
    @willieheard1059 Před 3 lety

    False prophets a gay man

  • @gryndkommeted1362
    @gryndkommeted1362 Před 4 lety

    Amen