I wish that the brothers that know better, would talk to the brothers that don’t, about being a provider in these polygynous situations. Brothers are leeching off of sisters. Are not providing and are going 50/50 or less with their wives. Brothers want all of the benefits of being married, but don’t want to fully play their part. Some... not all! If you cannot afford to be in polygyny, or married in general, you shouldn’t be!
Saying "Men are Polygamous by Nature" is against Islam..? Why do almost all Scholars claim that men are polygamous by nature with no Islamic claim? This makes men think it's okay to open doors and feel for multiple women, when in the west, where everyone is treated "equally" women are equally polygamous, cheating on their husbands, for "fun" not for "love or emotional" reasons as many put it. This means that both sexes are vulnerable in the same way. I think the society allows men to behave this way or think this way, because it's a male dominated world, and they supressed women since the beginning of time, when in the end, both men and women are the same, committing the same sins. However, the world makes it okay for men to be this way, claiming its their nature. Ever wonder why Muslim parents will abandon their daughters forever if they caught them speaking to a guy but will not do anything if their son goes out and sleeps around with women? Why is that? In the Shariah, both is a sin, both are haram! True women may be of more fitnah towards men, because women have more awrah to cover, yet they fail to, but most men are naturally in hijab, hence the reason for lesser fitnah for women. The Polygamy allowed also speaks about helping widows or orphans, anyone who can clearly study the Quran can understand that. The Sahabah and Prophets mostly married older women who had children from other men who had died. If men want to follow the example of the Prophet, they should follow it in the way he practiced it. Wars were common, many women were left without homes or men to take care of them. Had Allah disapproved, we would suffer social issues. There are many many many men who are happy with one wife, who dare not think about other women. Even having a thought of a non-mahram while married is a huge sin, how can one approach the thought of Polygamy knowing this is wrong? We see here the clear reasons for Polygamy. Some claim their wife is too fat or too old so they want to get another wife? It's because women are too busy with children they don't have time to even think of getting another man. Though the arab world makes it look like women have no physical desires or feelings. The fact that society has suppressed this, is proof why they claim "Men are Polygamous by nature" I would like to see any type of proof from Islam that this is true? Men were more free to do whatever they pleased, this is the real reason, before Islam and after Islam. It's not a religious view, its a social view. We Muslims are taught to follow the Quran and refer to sunnah and hadeeth, if men want to remarry, then why dont they read the verse on polygamy and refer to the sunnah and hadeeth? There are clear hadeeths that our Prophet pbuh the sahabah remarried older women to help them and be noble men for the sake of allah subhanwaltala, not for sexual reasons as Scholars put it these days. Also when Hazrat Ali wanted to take a second wife for the reasons I put above, it made Hzt Fatima upset and Prophet pbuh forbade Hazrat Ali remarrying a second wife. So if anyone can show a claim from ISLAM that men are polygamous, I would like to see. Please don't bring sciencists' claims into this, because even they claim things that go against Islam.
@@JahannamHellfire When you say, "This means that both sexes are vulnerable in the same way." You're assuming that men and women are the same. They're not. Plus, we have several scientific data that discusses the phenomenon of black men specifically being polygynous. Google "r vs K mating strategies in humans".
So a sister that's not married pays 100% of her bills so if a brother marries her now she gets to be taken care of? As an adult shouldn't we take care of ourselves? To me the sisters are using Islam as a way to sell 😺
@@abdulwakeel5598 you need to take that up with your lord. If you don’t know the conditions or rights of a husband and wife, you have some reading to do.
To each his own. But be honest. Even the prophet struggled and never had the peace he had while with Khadijah. Monogamy is natural however polygamy is a mercy. Just as slavery was a mercy. I feel like just because it’s halal doesn’t mean we don’t progress away from things until they become necessary. Unless your being charitable or there aren’t enough men it’s more a desire than a mercy imo.
Great info here. My problem was that I came in the door with the notion that it will be a thing one day, and it was agreed upon, but she changed her mind after the fact and things fell apart from that point on.
You know what, so many woman are not built for monogamy either. However it is shunned and not allowed for women but it is for men! Not fair or just! Why should we have to divorce a man who can’t meet our needs if we truly love him? We should be able to keep him and also take another husband!!!
As salaam alaikum, monogamy IS natural and it is the preferred union in the quran because a man will never b able to maintain "emotional" justice between wives in which if you cannot b fair to them, then marry only 1. Monogamy is only unnatural to the cheating heart❤, which indicates that most men have heart issues & a problem with sincerity. May allah b merciful to all of you cheaters & help you all find your way back to allah (whom you have strayed so far from) Allah is only one God! Prophet Muhammad did not have a haram! Peace
@@talentedmrcj If he saying monogamy is not natural then yes he needs to read the Quran!!!! It's not what he or u say it's what ALLAH SAY!!!!! SMH SAD PART PEOPLE LIKE U THINK IT'S A GAME!!!!
@@mrme2653 sir… i dont think anything is a game lol, not sure where you’re getting that from…. Im not saying that hes right because hes an Imam or that youre wrong …. Im just asking you to expound on your opinion. What ayahs in the Quran support your position?
Polygamy a Remedy or a Right? By Imam Alauddin Shabazz. Imam Alauddin Shabbazz once gave an example by referencing the bag ladies we see on the street as a remedy...
To imply that something is a preference is one thing to imply that something is unnatural is another! The G and sexy comment is funny! The dynamics of family life should be kept in perspective! To each according to his means. We should be mindful not to make mockery of the institution of marriage! A word for brothers, be careful that you're inclination towards polygyny is not predicated upon envy of others that have made that choice! That's the wrong motivation! What may be practical in your situation may be impractical for me! Sexy Gs may beg to differ! 😃
Wanting sex is natural. Being in a relationship, for me, feels natural with one other women. The idea of putting my daughter, sister or mother in an open relationship situation is unnatural for me.
So what he said that, the point is what did he mean by the statement, it sounds like you are one of those people that already got your mind made up about this brother, that's prejudging people. I take it he don't like to spend to much time around people not no time at all Mr know everything!!!
Anonymous BAP and exactly why i called your bitch ass a joke too.You could keep your comments to yourself OR you could choose not to watch anything on this channel. But just know that the same way I have to accept that you can share your opinion about my trash platform, you have to accept that I can comment on your trash ass life in response. It's only right. Or you could just shut up and keep it moving. But thanks for watching
@@talentedmrcj dont ever let anyone take you out of your peace. Even IF they may say something wrong. Dont let them take you out of your character. Salamulaikum
@@janetlorna07Nah, can’t nobody take us out of our true character. His character was shown when he called my sister out of her name - that was totally uncalled for. 🙄
I wish that the brothers that know better, would talk to the brothers that don’t, about being a provider in these polygynous situations. Brothers are leeching off of sisters. Are not providing and are going 50/50 or less with their wives. Brothers want all of the benefits of being married, but don’t want to fully play their part. Some... not all! If you cannot afford to be in polygyny, or married in general, you shouldn’t be!
Saying "Men are Polygamous by Nature" is against Islam..?
Why do almost all Scholars claim that men are polygamous by nature with no Islamic claim? This makes men think it's okay to open doors and feel for multiple women, when in the west, where everyone is treated "equally" women are equally polygamous, cheating on their husbands, for "fun" not for "love or emotional" reasons as many put it.
This means that both sexes are vulnerable in the same way.
I think the society allows men to behave this way or think this way, because it's a male dominated world, and they supressed women since the beginning of time, when in the end, both men and women are the same, committing the same sins. However, the world makes it okay for men to be this way, claiming its their nature. Ever wonder why Muslim parents will abandon their daughters forever if they caught them speaking to a guy but will not do anything if their son goes out and sleeps around with women? Why is that? In the Shariah, both is a sin, both are haram!
True women may be of more fitnah towards men, because women have more awrah to cover, yet they fail to, but most men are naturally in hijab, hence the reason for lesser fitnah for women.
The Polygamy allowed also speaks about helping widows or orphans, anyone who can clearly study the Quran can understand that. The Sahabah and Prophets mostly married older women who had children from other men who had died. If men want to follow the example of the Prophet, they should follow it in the way he practiced it. Wars were common, many women were left without homes or men to take care of them. Had Allah disapproved, we would suffer social issues.
There are many many many men who are happy with one wife, who dare not think about other women. Even having a thought of a non-mahram while married is a huge sin, how can one approach the thought of Polygamy knowing this is wrong? We see here the clear reasons for Polygamy. Some claim their wife is too fat or too old so they want to get another wife? It's because women are too busy with children they don't have time to even think of getting another man. Though the arab world makes it look like women have no physical desires or feelings.
The fact that society has suppressed this, is proof why they claim "Men are Polygamous by nature" I would like to see any type of proof from Islam that this is true? Men were more free to do whatever they pleased, this is the real reason, before Islam and after Islam. It's not a religious view, its a social view.
We Muslims are taught to follow the Quran and refer to sunnah and hadeeth, if men want to remarry, then why dont they read the verse on polygamy and refer to the sunnah and hadeeth? There are clear hadeeths that our Prophet pbuh the sahabah remarried older women to help them and be noble men for the sake of allah subhanwaltala, not for sexual reasons as Scholars put it these days.
Also when Hazrat Ali wanted to take a second wife for the reasons I put above, it made Hzt Fatima upset and Prophet pbuh forbade Hazrat Ali remarrying a second wife.
So if anyone can show a claim from ISLAM that men are polygamous, I would like to see. Please don't bring sciencists' claims into this, because even they claim things that go against Islam.
@@JahannamHellfire alhamdulillah
@@JahannamHellfire When you say, "This means that both sexes are vulnerable in the same way." You're assuming that men and women are the same. They're not. Plus, we have several scientific data that discusses the phenomenon of black men specifically being polygynous. Google "r vs K mating strategies in humans".
So a sister that's not married pays 100% of her bills so if a brother marries her now she gets to be taken care of? As an adult shouldn't we take care of ourselves? To me the sisters are using Islam as a way to sell 😺
@@abdulwakeel5598 you need to take that up with your lord. If you don’t know the conditions or rights of a husband and wife, you have some reading to do.
To each his own. But be honest. Even the prophet struggled and never had the peace he had while with Khadijah. Monogamy is natural however polygamy is a mercy. Just as slavery was a mercy. I feel like just because it’s halal doesn’t mean we don’t progress away from things until they become necessary. Unless your being charitable or there aren’t enough men it’s more a desire than a mercy imo.
exactly what O was thinking. But then I read articles that men are actually naturally polygamous and will cheat if they’re not going to be polygamous
The way you go about things right on😌
Great info here. My problem was that I came in the door with the notion that it will be a thing one day, and it was agreed upon, but she changed her mind after the fact and things fell apart from that point on.
brothers shouldn't really even be speaking about marrying 2s 3s and 4s until thier taqwa and money is right..
You know what, so many woman are not built for monogamy either. However it is shunned and not allowed for women but it is for men! Not fair or just! Why should we have to divorce a man who can’t meet our needs if we truly love him? We should be able to keep him and also take another husband!!!
Lol i feel you sis…., but we didn’t make the rules, God did (dj khalid voice) 🤷🏽♂️
are all men naturally polygamous or does this differ per individual?
As salaam alaikum, monogamy IS natural and it is the preferred union in the quran because a man will never b able to maintain "emotional" justice between wives in which if you cannot b fair to them, then marry only 1. Monogamy is only unnatural to the cheating heart❤, which indicates that most men have heart issues & a problem with sincerity. May allah b merciful to all of you cheaters & help you all find your way back to allah (whom you have strayed so far from) Allah is only one God! Prophet Muhammad did not have a haram! Peace
meant to say, Prophet Muhammad did not run a harem.
😂😂😂
If I see one more video on this with so call brothers who really don't study the Quran I'm going to cry!!! Seriously smh damn!!!!!
The Imam doesn’t know the Quran? 😂🤣
@@talentedmrcj If he saying monogamy is not natural then yes he needs to read the Quran!!!! It's not what he or u say it's what ALLAH SAY!!!!! SMH SAD PART PEOPLE LIKE U THINK IT'S A GAME!!!!
@@mrme2653 sir… i dont think anything is a game lol, not sure where you’re getting that from…. Im not saying that hes right because hes an Imam or that youre wrong …. Im just asking you to expound on your opinion. What ayahs in the Quran support your position?
@@talentedmrcjAn-Nisa to start!! Read the whole Surah and I pray Allah bless u with understanding
@@talentedmrcj and it's not my opinion it's what Allah says in the Quran we really don't have a say!!!
Polygamy a Remedy or a Right?
By Imam Alauddin Shabazz. Imam Alauddin Shabbazz once gave an example by referencing the bag ladies we see on the street as a remedy...
To imply that something is a preference is one thing to imply that something is unnatural is another! The G and sexy comment is funny! The dynamics of family life should be kept in perspective! To each according to his means. We should be mindful not to make mockery of the institution of marriage! A word for brothers, be careful that you're inclination towards polygyny is not predicated upon envy of others that have made that choice! That's the wrong motivation! What may be practical in your situation may be impractical for me! Sexy Gs may beg to differ! 😃
Wanting sex is natural. Being in a relationship, for me, feels natural with one other women. The idea of putting my daughter, sister or mother in an open relationship situation is unnatural for me.
He actually said sometimes I done even want to be around my kids🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
So what he said that, the point is what did he mean by the statement, it sounds like you are one of those people that already got your mind made up about this brother, that's prejudging people. I take it he don't like to spend to much time around people not no time at all Mr know everything!!!
Excuse me Ms know everything
Sometime I don't wanna be around kids as well, actually there is know body I wanna be around all the time especially if they think like you think!!!!
Omar saleem Yes he’s selfish
Omar saleem Ms Know something’s not everything 🤡
This platform is below Shadeed. The “interviewer” is a joke. Shadeed speaks truth so just follow his page ...
Anonymous BAP bitch, you a joke.
Barbershop Conversations with Cj & Khalil Come thru Shaytan . This is exactly why the platform is trash.
Anonymous BAP and exactly why i called your bitch ass a joke too.You could keep your comments to yourself OR you could choose not to watch anything on this channel. But just know that the same way I have to accept that you can share your opinion about my trash platform, you have to accept that I can comment on your trash ass life in response. It's only right. Or you could just shut up and keep it moving. But thanks for watching
@@talentedmrcj dont ever let anyone take you out of your peace. Even IF they may say something wrong. Dont let them take you out of your character. Salamulaikum
@@janetlorna07Nah, can’t nobody take us out of our true character. His character was shown when he called my sister out of her name - that was totally uncalled for. 🙄