Cutting People Off | LETTERS FROM THE SKY
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" Everybody talks about cutting ppl off but nobody really talks about the grief that comes with having to stand firm on that decision knowing it’s not what you wanted but what was necessary for your well-being"
Facts... I think what we should work on is not let people in too easy so you won't need to cut them off once you get to know them. Cause by the time they in you know them well enough
Setting personal boundaries and surrounding myself with good and true people have been the best decision so far. My life has never been this peaceful amidst all the challenges I've been facing each and everyday. It's a different feeling when you are living your own life without the judgment of those so-called "friends". I did better with my relationships that matter. I found my balance. Guess it's fine to let the attachments and expectations go. It's liberating.
“You become who you surround yourself with” scares me and makes me wanna cut off everyone.
When you grow older your capacity to tolerate people's bs go down to zero and you tend to prioritize yourself.
hay naku true ito.
Agree!
we can also be a villain in someone else's story. while its true that we can compliment or supplement each other's differences when it comes to friendship, sa panahon ngayon, priority ntn ang peace of mind.
dati kasi nung wla pang social media, we only get to really be updated with our friends pag may okasyon o ngkta kta na. but now we get to see almost all of their side, their political opinions, quotable quotes and even hanash in life and gnun dn tayo sa knla..
kaya somehow understandable nga ung gnwa ni letter sender kung pgbabasehan ung day and age naun.. pero before hnd tlga gnun kaimpactful ung indiiferences ntn kaya we can tolerate each other.
And just to add let’s also validate the senders feelings. It’s okay to cut off people if you think that it’s for the better. But ofc not to the point na everything is about you. There’s certain situation that is needed. If it’s ofc too toxic for you then go ahead that’s you, let’s not say hey deal with it, that’s just life. Balance in everything.
Thankyou for your thoughts. I feel validated 😭
Wow, akala ko ako lang. Same with the sender, I lost contact with HS and College friends/people. Every year(1st,2nd,3rd...), I join new groups of friends then when something wrong happens between us, I leave. Am also introvert and not that friendly so I feel like they prefer more talkative and funny people and I think my existence in the group is not valued because I'm introvert so parang boring sa karamihan. Then I only meet new friends because I am a good listener to them but syempre magsasawa dn sila. Maybe that is why I can easily detach from them because we can't create a strong friendship. Isa dn cguro is ung trust ko sa many X-friends that I met, was challenged so many times in different ways. So once nasira na nila, I cut them off.
Super same situation 🥲
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gad that's EXACTLY ME hahaha. I cut off all my elementary, HS, and a lot of college friends. I only have 5 friends now, I love them but I hate them haha. Honestly, I've been having problems with them to the point I wanna cut them off also and just live comfortably and peacefully alone. But, it's true, I think I'm being IDEALISTIC. I want all my friends to act in a certain way. I forgot that we're not perfect and we should embrace each others complexities. Maybe, as long as that my friends don't drain me and hurt me to the core a lot, I stay. And, I should also remember all the good things they did because its greater than the opposite.
Thank you, i was so worried. I think you got the perfect balance and I’m gonna implement this to my life.
In my opinion, even from your past podcasts, you’ve mentioned that we should be careful who we are with, who influenced us. If I will put my self into the sender’s shoes I will understand him/her. Kasi kung tina-try mo nga naman to be the best version of yourself there’s a tendency talaga that you might distance yourself from the things, environment or even people na makaka-apekto negatively para di mo maachieve yung pagreach yung pagpapaimprove sa sarili to be better. Nasa bible din naman po yun diba, tell me who ur friends are and I will tell u who u r. But of course there’s a right way to do that, to be fair dahil kaibigan naman sila ng sender, I think the sender should also consider the feelings of his/her friends. They deserve naman na malaman o iexplain manlang sa kanila before the sender detached himself from his friends because that’s the “right” thing to do and the sender must know that if he/she is really seeks to be a better person.
If cutting off is hard, then putting some space can make it easier.
I remember my thesis days sa kakabasa ng mga communication theories and some psychological theories I came up this reasoning na
Pacer (2017) "Human are born to have complex personalities but also humans are born to understand the complexity of the human's personality."
thats the gift of life, seeing the beauty behind imperfections may it be physically, emotionally, psychologically - thats not being toxic - thats called being a HUMAN. And I think everything in this world is subjective - even the word cutting off - might be perceived differently by different people - some might see it as letting go of someone because they are not yours in the first place, others might see it as betrayal of loyalty, or in gen z terminology we call it ghosting. by the end of the day, you dont owe anyone's loyalty not even your family, you are you own person by the end of the day. Emotional attachments are just parts of us that might mess with our sense of identity and rationality. When your full of your own goals and dreams - intrusive thoughts involving people does not even come to you. Its your life not mine sabi nga nila - when yku hear advices from people - take it or leave it, use it or not.
I have this one friend n sobrang toxic and nega. Halos lahat ng lng lumalabas s kanya reklamo and mali. At first na iinis ako s ugali nyang ganyan. But i learned n i can deal with this kind of people by humor and always shout at her with everyone is hearing, " ano nanaman reklamo mo ______" pa joke way un so in a way ma conscious sya n ung mindset nya ganun and unti unti mabago nya on her own. Pero syempre merong exception n talagng hopeless and better to cut them off kesa ipilit.
I miss the old introoo though. Welcome to, skypodcassssttttt 💚
trueeeee!! mapapasabay ka talaga ahahhaha
Ilove your t shirt coz i love green hihi, well i more amaze much more adore your skyfam thanks for all good ideas thoughts, Godbless
“The purpose of our lives is to be happy.” - Dalai Lama
Whatever the heck you do, make sure it suits your happiness. Does cutting them off brings your happiness? If yes, then continue doing it. The problem with today's society is that we never pay attention to our Philosophy classes anymore. Dahil ba wala ng philosophy jobs nowadays?
It's no longer healthy for me; it affects my mental health. I need to cut them off because life is too short.
saktooo, been waiting for this
Don't cut people off kasi baka magagamit mo sila in the future.. baka maka tulong sila sayo in the future.. haha
Omg so relatable
This is so me
As an aloof person, this is not a problem for me.
You have a good point. It always depends on ourselves if we cut off or continue
I like ur top Kryz! ❤ Where'd u get it?! Pls!
you really have good eyes in fashion
Now i know 5:50
It is actually true that not everybody has the same faith as others.
Mrag ako gamay.🤣
Wondering night 58
Thoughts on having gay kids po 🤍🙏🏻
first!
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