Tonya Harding’s Mom on Estranged Relationship With Her Daughter: ‘She Hates Me’

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    Sandy Golden is speaking out for the first time in more than two decades about her estranged relationship with her famous daughter, Tonya Harding. She says they haven't spoken or seen each other since 2002. Their tumultuous relationship is being thrust back into the national spotlight in the highly anticipated movie "I, Tonya." Golden admits being tough but says she was never abusive. She says she worked three jobs to pay for Tonya's training and even sewed her costumes by hand. #InsideEdition

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  • @tiffanifarrington4039
    @tiffanifarrington4039 Před 6 lety +10451

    Abusive parents almost always never recall any of the things they've done after the abuse is over.

    • @mifnp8887
      @mifnp8887 Před 6 lety +418

      Very true. They have a disease called "selective amnesia." LOL

    • @angelaschrade5679
      @angelaschrade5679 Před 6 lety +60

      Forget??? All I know is that I certainly have not forgotten.

    • @Gonk
      @Gonk Před 6 lety +34

      Yup it would hurt them tooo much.

    • @tvtitlechampion3238
      @tvtitlechampion3238 Před 6 lety +56

      Or it was done out of love, or a motivational tactic, or it wasn't THAT bad, or she's not remembering it right, or...

    • @TheCedilia
      @TheCedilia Před 6 lety +128

      Too right. Not only do they not recall, but they'll find a way to play the victim in it all if they're cornered. They'll make you feel guilty or crazy if you distance yourself from their abusive behavior.

  • @worksupermodel
    @worksupermodel Před 6 lety +10207

    Abusive parents tend to lie and deny. They see nothing wrong with what they do.

    • @redroseforyou4209
      @redroseforyou4209 Před 6 lety +89

      Totally

    • @strnglhld
      @strnglhld Před 6 lety +78

      Lie Deny and Justify 🤙

    • @aeris44
      @aeris44 Před 6 lety +165

      Yup. Anyone who’s abusive physical and/or emotionally will find every excuse in the book, play victim and/or make it seem the actual victim is over reacting. Freaking sociopaths. I’ve dealt with a few sociopaths cuz I used to be a pushover. They look for those kind of people and when it’s your child, my god I’m so sorry for those kids.

    • @millsykooksy4863
      @millsykooksy4863 Před 6 lety +56

      All abusive people do that

    • @twoguyskissingpng
      @twoguyskissingpng Před 6 lety +72

      Exactly. They will always make the children out to be the one at fault.

  • @courtneybennett01
    @courtneybennett01 Před 6 lety +7720

    How ironic that when the writer for ‘I, Tonya’ tried to contact her to interview her for the script, she declined but now that the movie is getting attention, she speaks out

    • @Alvan81
      @Alvan81 Před 6 lety +255

      Right on the $$$ comment.

    • @courtneybennett01
      @courtneybennett01 Před 6 lety +109

      GYR O probably loads and she’s denied all of them until now, when the film is getting attention and making money - thanks for proving my point further

    • @rogueofpop8785
      @rogueofpop8785 Před 6 lety +38

      Kimberly actually Allison confirmed that in an interview about the movie

    • @fozzybear7526
      @fozzybear7526 Před 6 lety +6

      Margot lololol if that was actually margot Robbie on CZcams channel responding to an inside edition video 😂

    • @alisonbenitez5453
      @alisonbenitez5453 Před 6 lety +2

      Kimberly what is actually wrong with you

  • @in_jail_out_soon1237
    @in_jail_out_soon1237 Před 2 lety +1885

    The moment she said “ she hates me, period” Without breaking down I knew there was something wrong with this woman because no mother could take their child hating them like it’s no problem at all

    • @taylortaylor4291
      @taylortaylor4291 Před 2 lety +36

      She started crying at the end when she was talking about see her and her grandchild she's probably just used to it by now

    • @alyssapinon9670
      @alyssapinon9670 Před 2 lety +10

      When she said that I was like “hmmm wonder why…”

    • @brittanybynature
      @brittanybynature Před 2 lety +4

      They can if the hate is mutual

    • @billnye8143
      @billnye8143 Před rokem

      Stay in jail

    • @nyadoarreath8787
      @nyadoarreath8787 Před rokem +14

      Just because a person doesn’t show emotion doesn’t mean they don’t care. She was a hard working mom. Those were different times and different parenting.

  • @yassidabrat
    @yassidabrat Před 6 lety +8139

    Her mom is playing the victim, no child no matter how puberty is treating them wakes up and says " I'm just not going to talk to my mom for 15 years " that's doesn't happen .

    • @GorgieClarissa
      @GorgieClarissa Před 6 lety +68

      Yassi Roman yes! this comment

    • @Luna_Anonymous
      @Luna_Anonymous Před 6 lety +53

      We don't know the full story. Things could be wrong on both sides. Maybe tonya also got aggressive with her mother.

    • @marleygirl85
      @marleygirl85 Před 6 lety +9

      Yassi Roman exactly

    • @Alvan81
      @Alvan81 Před 6 lety +204

      But where does almost ALL of the aggression in children come FROM? A PARENT'S example or worse actual abuse.
      Other people noticed the abuse even back in the 80's when people didn't report things.

    • @AlmaWells
      @AlmaWells Před 6 lety +18

      Yassi... Tonya's mom... SPOILED that little monster...
      Her mother worked 3 jobs to give that spoiled, rotten, BRAT
      her skating dream... and UNGRATEFUL TONYA is UNAPPRECIATIVE!!!!!!
      Jesus preached, "forgiveness." Tonya is a spoiled, rotten son of a bee hive...

  • @tj205bama
    @tj205bama Před 6 lety +6412

    She's wearing that Snapchat filter

  • @babylonian
    @babylonian Před 5 lety +3011

    ...Allison Janney nailed it, lol

    • @Hextraordinary13
      @Hextraordinary13 Před 3 lety +103

      Allison Janney nailed it so hard -- she won a goddamn OSCAR for it!

    • @leshaariel4921
      @leshaariel4921 Před 3 lety +27

      Allison Janney always nails it

    • @Beth5171
      @Beth5171 Před 3 lety +10

      Right?!? Nail on the head! lol

    • @tleav61
      @tleav61 Před 3 lety +14

      I couldn’t believe it was the same person. Wow, what a transformation. The same goes for Margot.

    • @theorangecandle
      @theorangecandle Před 3 lety +2

      Yooo wierd seeing you here Nick from Rev3games

  • @XenaBe25
    @XenaBe25 Před 6 lety +1796

    Even as she's saying "Is that supposed to be me? That doesn't even look like me..." she's saying it in Allison Janney's voice. How deliciously ironic lol

  • @speakyourheart8548
    @speakyourheart8548 Před 6 lety +5301

    A controlling mum who lived life through her daughter.

  • @cj-qn8ou
    @cj-qn8ou Před 6 lety +2733

    This woman abused her daughter.

    • @secreteobsession3584
      @secreteobsession3584 Před 6 lety +26

      CJ Hobbes she looks like an abuser but she worked hard I guess to make toya famous skater it cost a lot for lessons

    • @mattw4496
      @mattw4496 Před 6 lety +5

      CJ Hobbes You saw her abuse her?

    • @lauriemtz8616
      @lauriemtz8616 Před 6 lety +1

      CJ Hobbes For sure!

    • @honeyjohnson2304
      @honeyjohnson2304 Před 5 lety +15

      Matt W other people did

    • @xxjasonxx8368
      @xxjasonxx8368 Před 4 lety +15

      Matt W bruh it’s so easy to prove it, you can tell through her expressions and verbal abusing during the competitions

  • @mifnp8887
    @mifnp8887 Před 6 lety +3440

    "She was sweet back then." What a lovely thing to say about your daughter. Classic narcissist only thinking of herself and her own feelings, i.e., "what about me?" What a piece of work. I am glad Tonya finally found happiness. Leave her in peace.

    • @trinigrl09
      @trinigrl09 Před 6 lety +21

      I love how you try to tell this woman about her own experiences with HER daughter even though you have NEVER MET EITHER OF THEM…..that seems presumptuous and arrogant of you…..

    • @gingerisevil02
      @gingerisevil02 Před 6 lety +85

      trinigrl09 those of us who have gone through abuse ourselves can see the classic narcissist traits...

    • @torquettalk
      @torquettalk Před 6 lety +16

      trinigrl09 self-centered individual right here!

    • @alisonbenitez5453
      @alisonbenitez5453 Před 6 lety +17

      trinigrl09 you're the one that comes off as arrogant, take your naive ass and sashay away

    • @jakebull2571
      @jakebull2571 Před 6 lety

      shaylen sanders amen sister

  • @lisajswan
    @lisajswan Před 5 lety +457

    Her mistake as she stated, "I did everything so Tanya would love me more". As a parent, you do things for your kids because YOU LOVE THEM.

  • @MsPea
    @MsPea Před 6 lety +1353

    Tonya's mother left her family when Tonya was in high school. Tonya lived with friends after that. Her mother was married six times. Tonya's dad was her 5th husband. She walked out on her family to marry husband number 6. People at the rinks where Tonya skated heard how her mother yelled at Tonya, her coaches knew that her mother abused her. It was no secret. She only wants back in Tonya's life now because she thinks there will be money from the movie.

    • @hattiem.7966
      @hattiem.7966 Před 6 lety +26

      I saw the movie today,I loved it!!!

    • @1besieged
      @1besieged Před 6 lety +9

      her mother did pay for her lessons .. and bore her, the Bible says to love and honor your parents..

    • @ACETYGRA
      @ACETYGRA Před 6 lety +158

      The Bible also said eating shellfish and wearing clothes of mixed fabrics were sins! Your point?!?!

    • @csillatorok5060
      @csillatorok5060 Před 6 lety +94

      the Bible also tells advice for parents too...why abusive people never mention that? They just want their victims obey the Bible?

    • @ToothyDeer
      @ToothyDeer Před 6 lety +93

      Love and honor someone who beats you? Who sabotaged you, who abused you emotionally as well? To the point where you been driven crazy, and see the world in HER mother's messed up view, when once it was innocent?
      Her mother destroyed her, and is a big part of her downfall, not uprising.

  • @lovinliverpool
    @lovinliverpool Před 6 lety +2117

    The "poor mom" look , isn't cute. Lol you can tell she's a master manipulator, why would anyone even do an interview with her? There's nothing credible coming out of that mouth.

    • @gyro7768
      @gyro7768 Před 6 lety +15

      Spilled milk, baby

    • @queentrill1563
      @queentrill1563 Před 6 lety +3

      lovinliverpool master manipulator just like her daughter.

    • @ACETYGRA
      @ACETYGRA Před 6 lety +50

      What LaVona is doing is what a lot of abusers do when their victim breaks free from them. She is trying to make Tonya look bad and make other people hate her, hence try to break her again.

    • @lovinliverpool
      @lovinliverpool Před 6 lety +12

      ACETYGRA I agree 100%. Classic tactic.

    • @yevgeniyaleshchenko849
      @yevgeniyaleshchenko849 Před rokem

      @@ACETYGRA Everyone here undrstands that.

  • @brookierex4223
    @brookierex4223 Před 5 lety +229

    I was abused by my mother and she said the same exact things that Tonya's mother said in this interview. She's too old to be looked at as evil or to be corrected now, but I vow to never be that way to my child.

    • @ems901
      @ems901 Před 11 měsíci +4

      Old people can be quite vindictive and mean

    • @ericbingham-kumpfcomposer5293
      @ericbingham-kumpfcomposer5293 Před 8 měsíci

      My parents were control freaks and cruel to their children. I would not allow my daughter to be around them and it was for a good reason.

    • @TammyMayCormier
      @TammyMayCormier Před 28 dny

      Never too old to have a boundary set.

  • @t.r.1457
    @t.r.1457 Před 6 lety +1339

    She hits and insults her daughter and then wonders why her daughter is far away with no contact to her. Lol, just lol...

    • @shawnofdanaukota3843
      @shawnofdanaukota3843 Před 6 lety +22

      And the mother is not qualify to be a grandmother.

    • @kaitlynmckessy4250
      @kaitlynmckessy4250 Před 3 lety +1

      If people got disciplined like this nowadays, then there would be less thugs. If there is any at all..

    • @vanceunderwood5364
      @vanceunderwood5364 Před 3 lety +24

      Kaitlyn McKessy there’d be plenty of thugs, they’d just be called parents.

    • @hi-ls6lt
      @hi-ls6lt Před rokem +10

      @@kaitlynmckessy4250 really? My dad was “disciplined” like this and turned out to be a criminal. How wonderful. Also there’s just as much thugs in your time as mine. Believe it or not.

    • @yevgeniyaleshchenko849
      @yevgeniyaleshchenko849 Před rokem +5

      @@kaitlynmckessy4250 Discipline is not the same as abuse, dearie.

  • @joanna7350
    @joanna7350 Před 6 lety +331

    I believe Tonya. Her mom is as cold as ice.

  • @donngodfather285
    @donngodfather285 Před 6 lety +558

    Why do I always feel sorry for Tonya, like I just can't hate her. I think she was troubled and driven mad.

    • @gigi4266
      @gigi4266 Před 6 lety +15

      QUEEN.

    • @mindymartinez4657
      @mindymartinez4657 Před 6 lety +54

      Same, she went through hell all throughout her life and when she finally starts to succeed she gets dragged down again.

    • @kitty62862
      @kitty62862 Před 6 lety +7

      Donn Godfather Exactly. Same here.

    • @yevgeniyaleshchenko849
      @yevgeniyaleshchenko849 Před rokem

      please don't use such words as ''mad'', it's wrong and stigmatizing. she was traumatized not mad.

  • @IntoBlackHouse
    @IntoBlackHouse Před 6 lety +398

    If she actually cared about Tonya she wouldn’t be making this about her getting victimized, and badmouthing Tonya as someone who is ungrateful and hateful. She would be saying I hope one day Tonya can forgive me for what I’ve done to her, but if she doesn’t I can understand and respect that too.

    • @kitty62862
      @kitty62862 Před 6 lety +9

      Abc xyz And she wouldn’t be sitting there, looking like she robbed a clothing drop in Hollywood.

    • @dovee1
      @dovee1 Před 4 lety +4

      @@kitty62862 then tripped into a load of potted plants nearby.

    • @chooseyourpoison5105
      @chooseyourpoison5105 Před 3 lety +12

      This ^^^ I can always remember an interview with actor Ryan O'Neal where he addressed the fact that his daughter Tatum O'Neal no longer spoke to him. He acknowledged that he hadn't been a good dad and said that if Tatum no longer wanted to have anything to do with him, he would fully support that because he wanted her to do whatever she needed to do to help her heal, even if it meant he'd never see her again. Now contrast that with Tonyas mother.

    • @yevgeniyaleshchenko849
      @yevgeniyaleshchenko849 Před rokem

      @@chooseyourpoison5105 Indeed...

  • @fortunecollector
    @fortunecollector Před 6 lety +4004

    Her flower head band is covering her horns

  • @izzybones1180
    @izzybones1180 Před 2 lety +82

    Abusive parents like to act like they suddenly can’t remember the abuse they put us through.
    “I thought she loved me for everything I did for her” a classic line that parents use to make the victim look ungrateful
    My mom does it all the time

    • @khafimoore
      @khafimoore Před 9 měsíci

      😢😢😢 I'm sorry 😔😔😔 to hear that . I hope your doing okay now 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾 god bless

  • @shadowolfyy
    @shadowolfyy Před 6 lety +126

    "She hates me. Period."
    She has a right to feel that hatred.

  • @davidtylergriffin3561
    @davidtylergriffin3561 Před 6 lety +966

    This interview doesn't make her any more sympathetic. You can tell how cold and clinical she is by how she speaks.

    • @knezfikol5010
      @knezfikol5010 Před 6 lety +2

      Cynical?

    • @FlutterMouse
      @FlutterMouse Před 6 lety +30

      Knez Fikol clinical as in sterile and lacking warmth

    • @ezziboo
      @ezziboo Před 3 lety +10

      She wants what every malignant narcissist wants: pity.

    • @yevgeniyaleshchenko849
      @yevgeniyaleshchenko849 Před rokem

      @@FlutterMouse cynical has nothing to do with sterile though.

    • @FlutterMouse
      @FlutterMouse Před rokem

      @@yevgeniyaleshchenko849 CLINICAL WITH AN L as in a Clinic . Not CYNICAL. Geez.

  • @BoyKanaan
    @BoyKanaan Před 6 lety +57

    I love how she say "is that me? She doesn't even look like me". And if you see the documentary from 1986, she literally looks like her in the movie

  • @treasuretrovel3816
    @treasuretrovel3816 Před 6 lety +412

    Children do not naturally hate their parents but rather bend over backwards to please the parents from infancy on. The reason Tanya hates this woman is because the mother is a narcissistic, abusing piece of work. I am glad the movie is coming out in a few weeks because it will highlight how Tanya, the child was abused by Sandy. It is my sincere hope that Tanya and her husband keep Sandy away from their child. Abusive parents always try to blame the child when the child breaks their silence about the abuse. I believe in this case, there were lots of witnesses to Sandy's abuse and her character. Tanya's problems in life and her shortcomings all stem from her abuse at the hands of this awful mother. I am looking forward to the movie but know that I will have an especially difficult time watching the scenes where little girl Tanya is emotionally and physically abused by this witch.

    • @carly4422
      @carly4422 Před 6 lety +48

      exactly. There is no one in the world that a child loves and forgives more than their mother. It takes a Lot for a child to reach the point where they can't forgive anymore.

    • @ajrwilde14
      @ajrwilde14 Před 6 lety +15

      thank you this helped me a lot

    • @dovee1
      @dovee1 Před 4 lety +12

      Reading these comments reassures me about my own situation. Abusers always make it seem like it's not a big deal and can't understand why their child hates them. I'm glad Tonya realized it was wrong and spoke out.

    • @yevgeniyaleshchenko849
      @yevgeniyaleshchenko849 Před rokem +1

      @@carly4422 ...and their father.

    • @carly4422
      @carly4422 Před rokem +1

      @@yevgeniyaleshchenko849 definitely! (I should have said there's no one a child trusts, loves, & forgives more than their parents).

  • @TrayDyer38
    @TrayDyer38 Před 2 lety +57

    “She doesn’t even look like me”. Uh… yes she did! Allison Janney nailed that role.

  • @nightnightninja8211
    @nightnightninja8211 Před 4 lety +85

    Unfortunately I had a abusive mother. Haven’t spoken to her in years and never wish to again. I severed the relationship when I found the guts to do it and my self respect. The film was a tough watch for me and brought up a lot of memories.

    • @moneytttt1140
      @moneytttt1140 Před rokem

      You should forgive her

    • @sissylopez4468
      @sissylopez4468 Před rokem +8

      @@moneytttt1140 why tf will anybody forgive something like that, not all mothers love their kids. She doesn’t need to apologize to her.

    • @user-el3zi8kn5l
      @user-el3zi8kn5l Před 7 měsíci +1

      ​@@moneytttt1140why she should forgive her abusive mother?

  • @TheFireproofWitch
    @TheFireproofWitch Před 4 lety +93

    Her energy is so incredibly narcissistic that it gives me anxiety. She would've been insanely difficult to live with.

  • @truenorth7949
    @truenorth7949 Před 2 lety +67

    Being abusive is not just about the physical, but mental emotional and verbal

  • @tahnieg1083
    @tahnieg1083 Před 3 lety +37

    She treated her child like a commodity- a ticket out of poverty. I'm sure the mother had her own struggles but that's no excuse for abuse.

  • @boopsscoopz2206
    @boopsscoopz2206 Před 6 lety +46

    There was a lot more than “ a swat” that took place. Friends, coaches, and casual observers have all mentioned the abuse they witnessed taking place. “ She was nice, back then”....(I.E: Back when she was a small child and couldn’t defend herself)“ I didn’t have any problems with her until she was a teenager”. After a lifetime of abusing her child, she abandoned her at 15 years old, telling her that she didn’t want her, and then took off with her soon-to-be SEVENTH husband without looking back and she’s shocked this caused a bit of a “ problem”?! 🙄

    • @windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823
      @windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 Před 5 lety +1

      You'll notice, none of whom did a damn thing to stop her. interesting.

    • @chooseyourpoison5105
      @chooseyourpoison5105 Před 5 lety +11

      The thing that really saddens me about the whole thing is that practically the whole skating world knew Tonya was being abused, and not one person did a thing about it. I know that times were different 25 years ago and domestic abuse was considered a private matter, but you'd think that SOMEONE, somewhere, would have had the guts to step in. But nope, not one single person. How do they live with themselves?

  • @C0T0HA
    @C0T0HA Před 6 lety +53

    'I wanted her to have what I couldn't' - well that explains just about everything.
    She traded all of her own life, time and effort and her daughter's life, time and effort into this one thing, no matter the cost.
    She achieved this one thing. There's the cost.

  • @davidthomas347
    @davidthomas347 Před 5 lety +22

    I imagine Tonya was difficult as a teenager... but that's how her mom made her. This woman is a vile piece of work

  • @lailadobb9221
    @lailadobb9221 Před 3 lety +37

    “She hates me!”
    FOR GOOD REASON!!!

  • @pocketsizedchaos
    @pocketsizedchaos Před 5 lety +56

    When you look at Tonya’s Mother in the real videos, and remember the image of her Mother in the movie, it’ll blow your MIND with how perfectly they visually portrayed her Mother in the movie!

  • @KeithJMcG-qz8vr
    @KeithJMcG-qz8vr Před 6 lety +286

    “Is that me? She doesn’t even look like me!” 😂

    • @mattw4496
      @mattw4496 Před 6 lety +2

      KeithJMcG1987 lol...u wrong

    • @edwardgaines6561
      @edwardgaines6561 Před 6 lety +14

      KeithJMcG1987 That's a compliment for the actress.

  • @rDec123
    @rDec123 Před 3 lety +36

    Things abusive parents always say when things don't go their way as a defense mechanism is "my child/children hated me" so that it would be easier to forgive themselves which deep down they KNOW they can't.

  • @kathleenpatricia728
    @kathleenpatricia728 Před 6 lety +614

    "Is that me? She doesn't even look like me." And Margot Robbie doesn't look like Tonya. 😏

    • @kathleenpatricia728
      @kathleenpatricia728 Před 6 lety +20

      Gabrielle Maria In my opinion, they don't.

    • @thelona108
      @thelona108 Před 6 lety +17

      No amount of Hollywood makeup could make Margot Robbie look as trashy as Tanya Harding.

    • @ankina86
      @ankina86 Před 6 lety +4

      I bet as a mother she sees Tonya even better looking than Margot lol

    • @andreasanchezgomez3842
      @andreasanchezgomez3842 Před 6 lety +23

      I don't think they look alike. I believe Amy Adams could have been a better choice (purely based on looks and even her voice)

    • @KaylaMarie_
      @KaylaMarie_ Před 6 lety +3

      Andrea Sánchez Gómez Amy Adams could be her sister.

  • @zeroclipsclips9282
    @zeroclipsclips9282 Před 4 lety +19

    My mom harm me when I was a kid.
    When I was 18 I left home to never come back now I'm 26 and I live so far from her. And even though she didn't love me, man I wished nothing in the world but to feel what's it like to be loved by her. We talk often but something when she says she loves me, something doesn't feel quite right or sincere. I feel so empty at night.

  • @Flo-qj5sk
    @Flo-qj5sk Před 3 lety +21

    I just recently watched I, Tonya. I could and couldn’t believe the abuse this woman inflicted on her daughter. The part that got me in the movie though was when her mother showed up at Tonya’s house with all the reporters outside acting like she cared then actually had a voice recorder in her pocket. That would have been the last straw for me also. The mother should have been asked if she actually did that or not.

  • @teddytete.mp3
    @teddytete.mp3 Před 6 lety +566

    Sorry but you all might not get it.... the mom seems pretty abusive... just by her body language i can tell... look at the way she speaks: 'Is that me? That doesn't even look like me' ... like who says that after watching themselves being portrayed in a hollywood film?! She seems very perfecctionist and very angry....

    • @XaldinX
      @XaldinX Před 6 lety +39

      I thought the same. Key red flag in a narcissist, and than blaming your daughter. “I wanted you to have what I couldn’t?’ Nothing was about her lol

    • @JenniferCress
      @JenniferCress Před 6 lety +12

      Teddy TeTé I know for sure that she was abusive to both her and her sons.

    • @brokenpofu
      @brokenpofu Před 6 lety +46

      Look at the way she said "she was sweet back then. I never had any problems until she was a teenagers". That's typical gaslighting language and behavior.

    • @Luna_Anonymous
      @Luna_Anonymous Před 6 lety

      I don't know about abuse but What's exactly to nitpick about that part? People who think that the actor chosen to represent them doesn't actually look like them say that. Maybe she thinks the actress doesn't resemble her. Why is it wrong to want things to be perfect.

    • @Luna_Anonymous
      @Luna_Anonymous Před 6 lety

      XaldinX Okay so anyone who doesn't like their portrayal in a movie or what actor was chosen to represent them is narcissistic? Maybe she doesn't like the appearance or looks of the actress representing her and thinks it doesn't resemble her appearance.

  • @angie.gisselle2
    @angie.gisselle2 Před 6 lety +872

    I would be scared of that mom 😂

  • @duda5253
    @duda5253 Před 6 lety +67

    she’s just like the character in the movie wow

  • @Burstangel93
    @Burstangel93 Před 6 lety +55

    "She hates me!" - well maybe not without a reason

  • @lalakuma9
    @lalakuma9 Před 6 lety +654

    She did some crappy things, but I don't believe her mom either.

    • @ACETYGRA
      @ACETYGRA Před 6 lety +28

      If you want to know where Tonya picked up some of her bad behavior just look at the old woman in the interview!

    • @kyliek1280
      @kyliek1280 Před 5 lety +1

      ACETYGRA without tonyas mother tonya would be a nobody

    • @fatimakhan4671
      @fatimakhan4671 Před 3 lety +5

      @@kyliek1280 without tonya's mother tonya would be happy, as she is now. Last time I checked sandy wasn't the one on the rink..

  • @corndawg15
    @corndawg15 Před 6 lety +197

    You can tell her mom is lying.

    • @memekodd
      @memekodd Před 6 lety +1

      Juan Trevizo
      Her mother is hard.

    • @CountessNicoleDeLancret
      @CountessNicoleDeLancret Před 6 lety +4

      Right. She admitted in another interview that she hit Tania with a brush. She said it was only one hit but I don't believe that for a second. She beat her with it.

  • @sallyperdue3185
    @sallyperdue3185 Před 3 lety +26

    "I didn't have any problems until she got up in her teens." That is literally what they all say.

  • @mollkatless
    @mollkatless Před 6 lety +21

    this is a case study in what a sociopath looks and acts like

  • @djr6876
    @djr6876 Před 6 lety +230

    A “stage mom” relationship with her kid, your her mom and agent the lines get blurred.

  • @thehazelnutbar
    @thehazelnutbar Před 6 lety +784

    Sad...

  • @esthergetterlfinger2437
    @esthergetterlfinger2437 Před 5 lety +23

    Tonya "does not want this." Good for her, overcoming a wave of continual abuse. Go to therapy, mom!!

  • @jessej6434
    @jessej6434 Před 6 lety +62

    Mom sounds very harsh and difficult.

  • @chooseyourpoison5105
    @chooseyourpoison5105 Před 5 lety +32

    "I wanted her to have what I couldn't." Aaaaand there it is . . . controlling mother trying to live through her daughter . . . cold hearted and nasty piece of work

  • @wendyknox-leet1034
    @wendyknox-leet1034 Před 6 lety +266

    Stay far away from that mother! Poison

  • @charissecoal
    @charissecoal Před 6 lety +69

    she abuses her daughter and can't figure out why noone will talk to her now. what goes around comes around lady

  • @wel.3098
    @wel.3098 Před 3 lety +13

    "she hates me."
    well, what the hell did you expect after years and years of verbally and physically abuse your only child that needed your support + love the most, not to mention how she already lost her father figure as a young girl
    this woman is really vicious

  • @thischarminglovehound2376
    @thischarminglovehound2376 Před 6 lety +82

    But many of Tonya's friends have confirmed the abuse. And lol @ "she doesn't look like me"..

    • @cherylannemason
      @cherylannemason Před 6 lety +7

      I vaguely remember a quote from one of Tonya's friends, back around the time of the whole knee bashing saga, to the effect that when Tonya married Jeff Gillooley that it was as if she'd married a male version of her mother, abusive and hypercritical. Not to excuse Tonya, but as a human being, she definitely was dealt a rough hand in the family department.

  • @millieatr
    @millieatr Před 6 lety +5

    Showing childhood photos the Mom said "She was sweet BACK THEN " a loving
    Mom doesn't talk about her daughter that way.

  • @europianbob
    @europianbob Před 6 lety +56

    Sounds like my mother. Haven't spoke to her in 3 or 4 years

    • @daisydove3336
      @daisydove3336 Před 6 lety +6

      Miss Amber me too!

    • @k9john346
      @k9john346 Před 6 lety +9

      Sorry to hear that.

    • @LastbutNotFirst
      @LastbutNotFirst Před 6 lety +2

      im going on 23 years.

    • @samanthadixon580
      @samanthadixon580 Před 6 lety +4

      I haven't spoken to mine in over 10 yrs and my brothers. I dodged a bullet

    • @celiashen5490
      @celiashen5490 Před 6 lety +3

      Sounds like my grandma too. My grandma sometimes says, "Everyone should want my scoldings and be absolutely giddy when I do scold!"
      Unfortunately for her, the only person still willing to talk to her is my salty ass.

  • @deadbird1229
    @deadbird1229 Před 6 lety +28

    I believe Tonya about the abuse stories. I don't think her mother should have been a parent-she strikes me like an eccentric, angry woman who didn't know how to love her daughter.

  • @Sd3cinema
    @Sd3cinema Před 6 lety +79

    How to spot a self centered individual who feels that no matter what they do they should be forgiven....look for the “forgive and forget” or “you only have one mom” comments.

    • @LHSmith-hl5ro
      @LHSmith-hl5ro Před 6 lety +10

      Have to agree with you there, Sashia.

    • @pinkpearl1967
      @pinkpearl1967 Před 6 lety +15

      "won't let go of the past" is another one

    • @ericandy88
      @ericandy88 Před 6 lety +10

      Anyone can be a parent. Trouble is, not many people deserve to be one.

    • @11Garrett11
      @11Garrett11 Před 6 lety +2

      LW: B'bye mommy!!

    • @csillatorok5060
      @csillatorok5060 Před 6 lety +4

      If you only have just one Mum, it does more serious that if that one is abusive because it's irreplacable. What Tonya's Mum did with Tonya is unforgivable and it also contributed to Tonya's problem. At point she must have realised that she has to block her out of her life and concentrate for her own.

  • @helenjayne83
    @helenjayne83 Před 6 lety +14

    Typical abuser. Always change the past to make them look innocent. Her Mum is still playing the victim and not admitting how much of an awful person she was.

  • @criticRN
    @criticRN Před 6 lety +49

    that mom has some crazy fashion sense

  • @still_your_zelda
    @still_your_zelda Před 6 lety +8

    Tonya definitely learned her coping mechanisms from her mother. Narcissism, ego issues, refusal to accept failure. Its all really sad how this cycles through generations.

  • @elle4873
    @elle4873 Před 2 lety +10

    I love how abusive parents and abusive people in general will absolutely deny they were ever abusive or be abusive like? Do you think a child just stops wanting ABSOLUTELY everything to do with a parent for no reason like tf?

  • @Eurafrican
    @Eurafrican Před 6 lety +159

    I don't have any sympathy for this mother. What is she hoping to achieve through this interview? Guilt trip her daughter into a relationship?
    If a child cuts out their parent from their life, there's no smoke without fire...

    • @chooseyourpoison5105
      @chooseyourpoison5105 Před 3 lety +4

      Exactly. I'm pretty sure Tonya didn't just wake up one day and decide to disown her mother. It would have been years of abuse, with Tonya trying to please her or make excuses or just enduring it, until she finally decided she had to walk away.

  • @cinnamongirl4315
    @cinnamongirl4315 Před 6 lety +20

    Wow her mother is a total abusive narcissist. I feel for Tonya and her upbringing but she is a strong person for still being able to accomplish some incredible things. I hope Tonya is able to have love in her life now, it really seems she never got it at all.

    • @yevgeniyaleshchenko849
      @yevgeniyaleshchenko849 Před rokem

      She is happy with her husband and son now, so she did get it afterall as it seems.

  • @gingerisevil02
    @gingerisevil02 Před 6 lety +13

    Oh woe is me, that's what abusers say, "I never could do anything right!"

  • @utopiachild71
    @utopiachild71 Před 6 lety +34

    Classic narcissist

  • @krazyoldkatlady192
    @krazyoldkatlady192 Před 6 lety +32

    What a psycho,! She doesn't deserve a relationship with Tonya. What the hell does she have on anyway?

    • @dovee1
      @dovee1 Před 4 lety +1

      She is personifying a potted plant. All nice shrubbery and no brains.

  • @PAMXVII
    @PAMXVII Před 6 lety +5

    I relate so much her mom with my father, it's crazy.

  • @baddiexeditsssssss3720
    @baddiexeditsssssss3720 Před 3 lety +16

    "she hates me, periodt" something u don't hear from a woman of that age LOL

    • @Cupcakeslol23
      @Cupcakeslol23 Před 2 lety +1

      LMAO I’m glad I’m not the only one who got that.

  • @Unqualifiedmedicalperson
    @Unqualifiedmedicalperson Před 6 lety +8

    "Is that me? Doesn't even look like me"
    She really does though......

  • @SK22000
    @SK22000 Před 6 lety +6

    I will never forget this, I always felt something was off about her mom.

  • @veronica0902
    @veronica0902 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Children will never forget how their parents abused and mistreated them. The abuser will never admit their abuse because if they did, they have to be accountable. They're not willing to do that.

  • @bubblellama-gq8rj
    @bubblellama-gq8rj Před 6 lety +8

    “I gave her one swat”
    Ummm I doubt that it was only one....

  • @sabrinaadam3701
    @sabrinaadam3701 Před 6 lety +403

    You know what, you don’t know the whole story the mom could be lying.

    • @JenniferCress
      @JenniferCress Před 6 lety +36

      Sabrina Adam I know first hand that she is

    • @mesmer3780
      @mesmer3780 Před 6 lety +5

      True but she did have tears in her eyes. That's very hard to fake on Q, on camera, being interviewed by strangers...

    • @javajules
      @javajules Před 6 lety +58

      But who were her tears for? Her daughter, or herself? Maybe she is wrong, maybe she is right....but tears do not make a trustworthy witness.

    • @VintageRose75
      @VintageRose75 Před 6 lety +33

      Julie H Very true! I have noticed watching many true crime stories (of abusive, dangerous, narcissistic people), that the guilty person almost always gets emotional only when it comes to their own pain, not someone else's.

    • @AlmaWells
      @AlmaWells Před 6 lety +3

      The bible says...
      "Honor thy mother... Honor thy father...
      Why should our Lord in heaven above...
      allow Tonya in heaven??? when Tanya... is soooooo unforgiving!!!!!!

  • @katywhaley1106
    @katywhaley1106 Před 6 lety +147

    This is so sad and horrible

  • @luxury7542
    @luxury7542 Před 4 lety +45

    I’m sorry but, nobody is gonna talk about how Tonya’s mom said “Period”. 😂

  • @ArtByDesign80
    @ArtByDesign80 Před 6 lety +11

    *CORRECTION: she is the only US female skater to land a triple axel in INTERNATIONAL competition. Kimmie Meissner landed the jump at US championships.

    • @mmm76716
      @mmm76716 Před 6 lety

      ArtByDesign80 Kimmies was trash...u give her credit for that terrible jump😲

  • @noraxbeth
    @noraxbeth Před 3 lety +4

    They sound exactly like each other; “nothing I ever did was acceptable”

  • @50hellkat2
    @50hellkat2 Před 6 lety +5

    She didnt have any problems until Tanya started thinking for herself.

  • @FiTrill
    @FiTrill Před 3 lety +5

    "Doesn't even look like me." N a r c i s s i s t.

  • @ENIGMAPOP
    @ENIGMAPOP Před 6 lety +9

    As a long-time figure skating fan, I can tell you Tonya is NOT the only US lady to land a 3Axel in competition. She was the first, but not the only.

    • @chooseyourpoison5105
      @chooseyourpoison5105 Před 4 lety +1

      Midori Ito was the very first to do it anywhere. Tonya Harding was the first US skater to do it. Mirai Nagasu was the first to do it at the Olympics.

    • @DRthistle
      @DRthistle Před 2 lety

      Right not the only ..but still almost the only US woman to do so. So I wouldn't diminish the feat..its is extraordinarily difficult and actually three and half rotations requiring a shift of balance in the middle of the jump and most say more difficult than a quad.

  • @belindakrooks5800
    @belindakrooks5800 Před 6 lety +139

    She made her daughter a star, putting the role of a mother to the side to ensure her daughter reached her full potential. Classic stage-mum scenario.

    • @JenniferCress
      @JenniferCress Před 6 lety +26

      Belinda Krooks She is a child abuser and a HORRIBLE mother! No one says anything about the kids she gave away to promote Tonya's career. Tonya wants nothing to do with her either because of how she was with her too.

    • @Inessence4
      @Inessence4 Před 6 lety +7

      Jennifer Cress those other kids were probably better off without her.

    • @belindakrooks5800
      @belindakrooks5800 Před 6 lety +1

      agree^

    • @VintageRose75
      @VintageRose75 Před 6 lety +1

      Jennifer Cress Is thst you in the video with them at 2:36? ☺

    • @khitchings1
      @khitchings1 Před 6 lety +5

      Where you there, Jennifer? Stop projecting your own life into it and try to think rationally.

  • @danyjcastro
    @danyjcastro Před rokem +3

    1:00 "She doesn´t even look like me":
    Ma'am, She looks like you. Even her voice is very similar. Good acting.

  • @RobsEverywhere
    @RobsEverywhere Před 3 lety +2

    Banning her for life was, beyond question, way too harsh. She should've appealed the ruling.

  • @Pepethefrog25
    @Pepethefrog25 Před 6 lety +9

    "this lady doesn't even look like me" LMAOOO

  • @teaexposedtv5445
    @teaexposedtv5445 Před 6 lety +18

    The women that plays as the mom do look like her

  • @keeganthorpe
    @keeganthorpe Před 6 lety +33

    She is not the only American woman to do a triple axel in competition. But she will always be the first. The bond between a mother and child is usually one that lasts until that parent dies. If no relationship exists at all, there has got to be a reason.

    • @bridgettewagner4755
      @bridgettewagner4755 Před 6 lety +4

      Not the triple/double combo, nor two triples in a single competition though, Harding is still the only American woman to do those - at least for now.

    • @RaymondHng
      @RaymondHng Před 6 lety +2

      Harding is the first _American_ woman to successfully complete a triple axel in competition. Kimmie Meisner is the second American woman. Two Japanese women, Midori Ito and Mao Asada, have also done that.

    • @dawnsacks5161
      @dawnsacks5161 Před 6 lety

      Keegan Thorpe Midori Ito was the first

    • @kitty62862
      @kitty62862 Před 6 lety

      Keegan Thorpe She was the FIRST to land it in competition.

  • @isthisfake.
    @isthisfake. Před 3 měsíci +1

    the axe forgets, the tree remembers. such a true statement regarding abuse. and ill guarantee it especially applies to this relationship. im glad tonya has seemingly found peace among herself.

  • @GillyWhitfootHaysend
    @GillyWhitfootHaysend Před 3 měsíci +3

    I totally understand when some parents use the tough love approach, but it’s a miracle that this insufferable excuse of a life didn’t poison Tonya’s passion for pursuing her dream sport. Tonya’s professional life has been bookended by being-used-and-thereby-uncontrollable events at her expense.

  • @krumplethemal8831
    @krumplethemal8831 Před 6 lety +3

    Funny when she says, is that me? She doesn't even look like me. Um yeah she does, spot on in fact.

  • @gs.2617
    @gs.2617 Před 6 lety +64

    "She hates me" LMAO 😁😁😁😁

  • @oravlamartin5091
    @oravlamartin5091 Před 3 lety +3

    I wasn't abusive I just gave her a swat 😂

  • @HalifaxHercules
    @HalifaxHercules Před 6 lety +5

    Because most arenas and sports organizations now have strict "Code of Conduct" for parents and guardians, if Sandy Golden was abusive towards her daughter today, she would be banned from attending her practices and Figure Skating competitions for life.

  • @JudithDeHaven
    @JudithDeHaven Před 6 lety +65

    Things that make you go hmmm.
    In 2004 basketball player, Ron Artest jumped into the stands to physically fight a drunk fan and all he got was suspended. Tonya--fired FOREVER.
    In 2002 Salt Lake's judges cheated in the pair figure skating judging in favor of Russia. NO ONE was fired or suspended for life! Tonya--fired FOREVER.
    Recently in 2010 you HAD to do a quadruple jump. Evan Lysachek did not and "won" gold over Russian, Evgeni Plushenko, who DID the jump. So you think hey someone should give up their medal or chance at the next Olympics, right? Nope didn't happen! AND say it with me: Tonya--fired FOREVER.

    • @clineeco
      @clineeco Před 6 lety +14

      If they did not fire Tonya, then the rest of the other athletes may feel intimidated by her. With the rumors spreading around that she is responsible for the attack and if the incident was not properly investigated and everyone went along doing their business, other skaters will be afraid of doing something that might upset Tonya out of fear of being assaulted. The rest of the athletes will go on thinking that violence at the end of the day is tolerated and trying to do the right thing wouldn't matter. This will make talented skaters afraid to pursue the sport. Among the things you mentioned above, nobody is directly affected. The motives were not meant to directly implicate hurt on someone. If the US Figure Skating Association tolerated Tonya Harding, it would create a ripple effect that would cause fear, distrust, it would promote violence and draw away people and sponsors. It has the potential to do the sport a pretty big damage

    • @mesmer3780
      @mesmer3780 Před 6 lety +13

      Yeah but those people attacked fans or cheated. They didn't attack a fellow competitor...

    • @laceymack2090
      @laceymack2090 Před 6 lety +11

      Yes, because she deserved it. The attack was violent, and Tonya was implicated. It was a strong deterrent and it worked.

    • @seanmoses5225
      @seanmoses5225 Před 6 lety +9

      I like how you're only stating how "Tonya--fire FOREVER" when there's more to that. How bout you say, "Tonya who was the mastermind of a distasteful scheme in order to win the gold medal was to hire 2 men to bash the knee of innocent hardworker Nancy Kerrington. Then Nancy's dream to win the gold medal never happens. These other lame events don't even compare to the assault of Nancy. Tonya deserved it.

    • @ladyjsmooth9174
      @ladyjsmooth9174 Před 6 lety +3

      Freddy Krueger Well said.

  • @lighteyes214
    @lighteyes214 Před 6 lety +7

    I, Tonya was amazing. Allison Janney and Margot Robbie will get Oscar nods for sure. You can't change the past but I hope Tonya has made positive progressions into the future and is happy with her life. No one deserves to live and die by their mistakes.

    • @lisaowens2040
      @lisaowens2040 Před 5 lety

      It's still one person's side of things that happened. The truth is usually always in the middle.

  • @allisonday893
    @allisonday893 Před 4 lety +6

    Im in the UK and remember the incident with Nancy. I was around 9 at the time and thought Nancy was so pretty and Tonya was so evil. I forgot about it until I saw the film, did a little research after and my goodness, nowI feel for Tonya. She was abused by her mum (yes you worked v hard, but that doesn't stop you praising your daughter. If you felt that bad about her supposed lack of thanks you could have stopped funding her years before. You wanted the glory and money she would bring you), and partner and snubbed by the sports snobs, but she was good! She may have a hard manipulative side but I think many abuse victims do, as a defence mechanism. Now, as a grown up and a mum myself, I just want to give her a cuddle and tell her she's worth it.

  • @tbradtbrad
    @tbradtbrad Před 6 lety

    I'd love to see the whole interview