THIS Level of Honesty From a Man Is A Miracle | Dear Future Wifey S6, E621
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- What happens with unresolved childhood trauma follows you into your marriage? This episode is a cautionary tale of the damage that can be caused when two broken hearts are joined in Holy Matrimony. Cory Hughes, a previous guest of the Dear Future Wifey podcast, returns for a solo episode and bears it all. This is the “Miracle of Honesty.”
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After watching this whole episode, the importance of living a spirit led life and seeking a spirit filled man has been magnified 1000%!
Same! I really feel this is a warning to us all.
@Lucy R you said it well. Agree 1000%. I agree that trauma is real and affects everyone differently. However, the spirit supersedes all trauma and ultimately everything is about OUR choice. Healing comes from God who will point out our needs, lead us to the right therapist and guide the healing process. The problem is that too many of us Christians are led by the flesh and not the spirit. If we sow to the flesh we will reap of the flesh corruption. Conversely, if we sow to the spirit we will reap of the spirit reap.... Good thing there is hope and healing for Corey and anyone of us who needs it. We all have our area of brokenness and thankfully God is able to work through the most damaged situation and produce pure gold if we surrender completely to him. I sincerely believe that God is going to do great things in Corey's life if he surrenders completely.
@@anng7514 wow! 👏🏼 Well said! You made so many important points. Thank God for intuition and the Holy Spirit! And for Christians, our flesh is real and our hearts are deceitful. May we surrender our wills to the our Father in Heaven. ❤️✝️
Amen and amen! #Nuffsaidbespiritled
Whew 🙌🏽. If anything I’m learning a man has to be in a space where he is ready to lead in every aspect. Not perfect but at least developed enough to lead.
This is what I like to call an "ocean floor conversation". He got all the way down to the bedrock of his trauma and his experience in their marriage. That level of honesty commands respect. I pray that both Cory and Keyana continue to heal and seek the guidance of the Holy Spirit.
“oceanfloor” ❤
Yessssss.....thank you for expressing the perfect words I couldn't quite form in my mind because I was so overwhelmed with emotion (good kind) 🗣️🙌🗣️🙌
Amen!
Logophiles be taking notes , ocean floor conversation down to the bedrock ❤
@@amonmayoyo304 When I read your comment I'm like what the heck is a logophile so I had to look it up 🤔
Glory to Almighty God, you taught me a new word that also applies to me!!!!
I always deferred to "wordsmith" and "poetic" so thank you for expanding my vocabulary even more ☺️
1. Laterras, your interview style is impeccable, which is why this podcast is what it is. Thank you.
2. While listening to Cory, I felt he was terrific at describing his experience intellectually (brain) but not feeling it (heart). Almost like he knows what to say to sound healed but hasn't let that knowledge drop down into his being and permeate his choices and the resulting behaviors. I did not see his previous episode. When I heard he was a pastor and therefore had a speaking gift, that made more sense because he has to inherently be good at talking a talk. With all the information he shared, the walk wasn't being walked. The hard part about healing journeys like his is it's difficult to tell the difference between repentance and manipulation. Honestly, only God can know the heart of Cory or any of us. I continue to pray for discernment and true authentic healing for us all and protection for everyone encountering their and another's brokenness.
Excellent observation you made in your 2nd comment! 👌🏿I too felt that his explanations, though very insightful, came off as clinical and sanitized...but missing heartfelt brokenness over the trauma he caused his wife.
When you said you “felt he was terrific at describing his experience intellectually but not feeling it”, I felt that too at about 20 min in. I think I felt it because I know how to do the same
THIS❗️ I felt same way..like he speaking about his experiences as he's not talking about himself. Great observation and Yes L's interview skills is 👌
THIS IS THE COMMENT!!! 🎉 I FELT IT IMMEDIATELY!!! And in a sneaky way, he attempted to shift blame to her & everyone/everything else!!! And honestly, shame on Latterius. He mentioned that he was “seeing so much in the spirit” , but couldn’t see That?? The manipulation. The arrogance. The play on words. Smh. Something is fishy
It was hearing him repeat, "I loveD her" that kept catching my attention... but I don't know him personally, nor do I know his wife. I just pray that God shows up for him in a way that he can't deny and that God changes him in a way that he can't reject.
“You expected her to heal, what she didn’t break”….that’s a great revelation.
Now that is most DEFINITELY a real Revelation and it is so so SOOOO very sad that a man expects you to heal overnight over the mess that they've done and created. But what is WORSE is that many, many, MANY TIMES the other/new woman does NOT even know the real TRUE story of what has transpired and they simply go off of what that man has told them. We NEED Discernment in this day and time because without people are really hurt, wounded, and even distraught because of their being a LACK of Responsibility in THEIR ACCOUNTABILITY.
JESUS is LOOKING AND BOOKING. This is REPENTING and TURNING from ALL wicked ways Season.
That was🔥🔥🔥
One wise woman said; "I will stand next to you and support you through your healing journey, because we all have our trauma stories, BUT so long as it doesn't BREAK me, and have you bleeding all over me. Sending prayers out to Sis'. Let's trust God when he's showing us the signs.
A pastor with multiple marriages and now this?? He sounds like a salesman, the love bombing was a huge red flag. Why are black women required to get over things but black men can hang onto childhood trauma and use that as a excuse for EVERY DAMN THING???? His father beat him but his disrespect is for women. Got it.
My comment may get deleted (I’m a supporter of the show so don’t lol). But men like this scare me. Self aware, fully understands cause and effect, eloquent, and insightful enough to rationalize things…yet is the cause to their own demise. Unresolved Trauma is dangerous.
When my wife comes on here and shares her perspective, childhood traumas and actions I hope your comments remain consistent and non biased Queen. Stay Tuned…..
No moral compass. Ungodly men, will lead you to ungodly things if you yourself aren’t firm. Men period, but quickly, ungodly men. This is why women have to completely cover themselves with God. Man will be man.
I was with someone like this and quickly found out, and unveiled him to himself. Of course it made him chase me long after he revealed his true colors and I broke up with him…but I ran in the other direction. Very dangerous to himself and others. Every trait was the same.
He needed polygamy which is the nature of man. That’s the answer. He should consider polygamous marriages.
What I got from this is HEAL! Premarital counseling is imperative. Seeking the Lord for yourself is imperative. I will not knock him because he is self aware now and he fully understands now.
Know your partners traumas!!!
This episode is heartbreaking. As much praise that is given for being "transparent "...I can only imagine how the wife must feel to see the man who broke her heart be given such praise, as she is probably shattered inside. 💔
Shattered 🥹. Definitely would love to see an interview with her. Bless her.
Thank you. The bar is low. It’s great he’s being honest. However praise isn’t warranted when he’s admitting to the destruction of someone’s life and heart. Especially your wife. He’s been dealing with sexual demons for a long time due to his molestation and I hope he actually gets real healing from that.
@Tiffany Lewis I absolutely agree!! Stop praising him! Not needed. Bleeding on people requires no reward! I'm just so disturbed by this entire situation.
Totally agree!!!!
@@tiffanylewis1817 and sitting here confessing her sins without her permission. Still, not covering her!
Bro is a narc and is seeking sympathy and attention. This is what you call fake accountability. Even during the interview Lataerras had to challenge him to be accountable. He never loved her but was in deep lust and infatuation for a beautiful woman. Only 8 months into marriage with your ‘dream wife’ and you’re asking for a threesome AND you’re a ‘Christian’ man?! I’m over folks blaming past trauma for mistreating people because we all have them.
Said that when I saw first episode. I do not agree with people who post public videos and tell people how to comment. You have to take the good and bad or don’t post.
Agree. this came off very performative, perfectly curated responses and attempts to dodge answering questions directly. I hope this isn’t a ploy to the wife to be like “see I’m healed I’m taking accountability for my actions now take me back”.
Thank you!!!!! I said the same thing. Laterus had to get him to be truthful and accountable!
@@atasteoftee Well said!
💯💯💯💯💯
I hope that one day our men will find themselves and heal FIRST, And not at the expense of hurting, breaking down, and subjecting women to a pain that none should ever have to endure. Don't let your unhealed trauma cause someone else a lifetime of trauma. And hurt doesn't go away with a separation or divorce. It just closes the door to the idea of any future hurt from that companion. Thank you for this!
This. Right. Here. 💯
Marriage is a decision to be committed daily
to be honest daily
communicate daily
to choose that person daily!!!
Thank you for that gem!!!
Every time he said he loved his wife, I cringed. Love doesn't do what you did Sir, and that's biblical.
More of an infatuation
The tell tell sign of this type of narcissism is that everything has to be over the top and super public. Almost a show. Notice how big a production everything was. All for the ‘gram. Especially for a man, because most men (and smart women) don’t want their personal business all over social media. It’s all about proving to everyone that he’s “the man”. Even YOU are a flex for him. And ladies, getting married is NOT a flex. It is pure hell if it’s with the wrong person. Y’all better recognize.
Some of the most powerful episodes have been when men have accepted accountability for their actions. Laterras, thank you for cultivating a brave space for men to share.
Yessss
@@seedofabraham0149some not all. It takes holding up a mirror to yourself that brings about that type of accountability and transparency
@@seedofabraham0149 he had to it was public that he cheated- he was in the wrong
@@seedofabraham0149Stop because you're on some men vs women stuff which shows who you really are
I will just say this. I remember watching the first episode with Cory and Keyana, and something about him just didn’t sit right with me…..a slight arrogance, an answer for everything, excuses for every behavior etc. I feel the same way watching this episode…
Yeah......I get chills watching that first podcast.
An excuse or an explanation?
I hope he is genuine this time, my ex husband did the same thing going publicly saying how he owns it, then I went back. Nothing changed, worst experience. I only hope that this is real
@@Dr.Elaine1 explanations that led to NO changed behavior, obviously.
Right because an apology without changed behavior is manipulation. He’s explaining because he wants to set the record straight. However, many of us who watched the first episode saw some of the red flags (once I removed the gifts and fluff). When you operate in discernment, God gives you warning signs but it’s up to us to acknowledge them.
He’s not ready for marriage he has the gift of gabb .. he rambles a lot and make excuses talking bout trauma
I concur!
As a therapist, as a divorced woman who was cheated on, I applaud this man's transparency and agreeing to have this difficult conversation publicly. I applaud the work he is doing in therapy to get to the root of his pain so he can stop hurting those he loves. I'm praying for this couple and all couples dealing with these same difficulties. 🙏🏾
Wooo Jesus come near I need you 😩 every body ph is not the same how the hell you keep dipping in someone else front and keep saying Jesus while putting that unhealthy thing in your wife ladies ladies listen.
We have to becareful
I absolutely agree. There are so many men this could help like ex. Martell Holt and Derrick Jaxn lol.
I appreciate the transparency. This has demonstrated that there is NO perfect relationship. GOD bless them❤
@klion3924 the good thing is that Martell was/is in therapy. Prayerfully he is getting some healing and using the tools to become a better him🙏🏾
Ok I'm sorry for your pain
I think we should start asking, "is there anything broken within that you're looking for me to fix that I didn't break? Great point made!
Don’t ask. Listen and observe. Most would deny any need to be fixed
Whew, a word!🙌🏾
@@njc9776 true. Abusers don’t admit that there’s anything broken.
Most of the time they don’t know. They couldn’t identify where they’re broken, at least not enough to verbalize and then tell you. That’s unrealistic. I would just say keep your head on a swivel, once you see the signs, don’t ignore.
Whew my goodness. My question is what if the response is yes. Where do you go from there?
Trauma doesn't give anyone permission to mistreat people at all. Ladies, please pay attention to the red flags. Do not tolerate any form of abuse because of their unprocessed trauma. My heart is breaking for all women who have been hurt by traumatized men.
I am sorry that this is his story. My heart feels for Keyana and the other women he hurt. God protect us from people who aren't ready for commitment.
Exactly!I hate when I hear,I have childhood trauma.
Amen Amen Amen!!!!
@Brittany Myers, I agree with you trauma doesn’t give anyone permission to mistreat people. I also know the majority of people that do not get the counseling needed in their youth from childhood trauma will deal with you at the age that the trauma took place (especially sexual trauma) and most will look for love or as he stated the feeling/high they get and it is unfortunate that a lot of people that have childhood trauma turn to drugs or are very promiscuous. There are times when we have to remove our opinions to actually receive what is being said… While childhood trauma is not an excuse and is something that is real for many people. Again I agree with you trauma in one’s youth doesn’t give them permission to mistreat anyone; however, there was a lot said from the brother today starting with taking accountability for his actions and if we listen well enough we can gain from what was stated as well as protect the men and women around us.
I think you being too harsh , anyone who has been through what he went through, passive pain to people around you is inevitable or second nature without you trying
Exactly! 😒 I hate hearing the blame game when it comes to trauma. I have been through it too, but I don't treat people like crap because of it. And that was before I did counseling. A lot of this situation reeks the lack of the Holy Spirit in their lives. 😬
When you hurt someone you don't get to speed up their healing process ❤
This episode really is an example of what I experienced with my ex husband. I could not out-love his trauma. He was just not aware of how he hurt me and his own children repeatedly with his anger and controling behaviors. Thankfully he is now in therapy, but our relationship of 19 years was almost the death of me. I thank God for delivering me from that, and now we are on our own journey of healing by the help of God! God has given me a promise and I'm thankful. I pray they heal. At 42 I am loving myself, and taking care of my 6 children by myself and with the help of God.
😂😂😂 Wow sheesh the kids kept coming though
He ruined 7 lives don’t forgive him
@@Rubydiamondtruckeryes 19 years of marriage. We got married at a very young ages and enjoyed each other. Trauma didn’t prevent that. lol!
@@sunflowerkissed9637 I would never hold on to bitterness. That would do me no good. Plus our lives aren’t ruined. There’s healing and more good ahead.
I always hear the saying “A man wants a woman that has a higher moral compass than himself.”
I believe this is a narrative that could/should be challenged. If a man wants to lead shouldn’t his moral compass be higher or at least equal…
I appreciate the honesty because Corey and Keyana’s episode is one of my favorites from season one. ❤
Much love to both❤❤
Absolutely!
A man wants a woman with standards.
Beautifully stated! God has great things for this man still!❤
Amen ❤️
@@allthingsbreeny7204 & women want men who have even higher standards… they’re the ones leading their moral compass should be even straighter
Laterras had to call him out when he talked about him having an affair. Corey talked about "her finding out some information " he didn't want to say the information was cheating until Laterras called him out. I hate he experienced trauma and abuse as a kid, but sounds like a lot if excuses. I hope he heals and his wife as well from the hurt he inflicted on her.
I don’t think it’s fair to say ‘he inflicted pain on her’ that woman played a role, she told him it was okay to cheat when she had the first threesome. I think they are a perfect match, they need to stay together for the sake of other souls.
Didn’t they get a divorce?
@@sunkissed6413 separated
@@absolutetreasures6877 Interesting perspective
I couldn't be able to do it. I hate that its made to seem like cheating is trauma is suppose to be apart of women's experiences in marriages. some of the stuff we deal with men would forgive but move on. Sometimes I truly do not like being a woman due to how men can be and treat us.
All I can say is that we all need to ask God to reveal what is NOT for us, before our eyes are blinded by the feelings of love. None of us are perfect, but BABY!!! This episode makes me thank GOD everyday for protecting me from seen and unseen danger. We ALL have childhood trauma and have hurt ourselves/others because of it. Cory knew what he was doing but the ego is a dangerous drug. It’s refreshing to hear him take accountability… I just pray that he will do the inner work, and accept what will be. I pray that his wife will place herself in a safe space and take time to heal. Therapy works!
I noticed you said that “We all have childhood trauma” can you open that comment. I honestly feel like I never have had trauma as a child and I don’t understand why and I just hope I’m not the only one (along with my mom) who had an amazing childhood growing up.
Can someone explain what childhood trauma is? And why “we all” should have had it.
I believe childhood trauma comes in many forms. It’s not always a term coined specially to physical/or verbal abuse caused my loved one(s).
I am a firm believer that a shift takes place in each of our lives, during childhood. This likely results in childhood trauma.
If we look back, it may have been something as small as doing everything in our power to fit in at school because we felt insecure about our weight, height or looks. After doing so, still feeling inadequate.
Maybe it was needing/wanting more hugs but if you had parents/or family who were not affectionate, it caused you to seek affection from the wrong people - even if all of your other needs were met.
However, childhood trauma does not always come from parents. Having an amazing childhood does not mean that you haven’t experienced childhood trauma. Also, everyone’s definition of an amazing childhood may not be the same. Some could say that having a two parent household, fashionable clothes, and the best education equates to an amazing childhood. Meanwhile, their parents got into fights on a regular basis or showed favoritism towards certain siblings. It all has to do with the way someone views trauma.
If you don’t have childhood trauma, you are very lucky because I don’t know many people who haven’t experienced it. For example, I was adopted at birth and developed abandonment issues because of it. However, my family (who adopted me) loved on me/gave me the WORLD, but I still struggled with feeling that I wasn’t enough because my birth mother gave me up.
Childhood trauma is real, but it doesn’t give us an excuse to mistreat/or manipulate people, which is what I feel may have happened with this couple. This is why therapy should be essential to our adult lives. I feel that if you are broken, stay out of relationships!
*coined specifically
@@The_Perfect_Housewife No, we do not ALL have childhood trauma. and I am so grateful to the Most High for that, I thank Him for his mercy!
58:39 : i saw her post on Instagram about the domestic violence event : She said he choked her and tried to kill her 😳 and in this interview he is sitting there minimizing what happened and how she felt 😳
And he is justifying his actions by his past trauma 😳
Damn some men are dangerous
He was a walking red flag from the beginning.
WHAAAATTTT
That’s crazy
*all
My take away from this, is, before marrying, please experience someone when they are angry, or don't get their way.... and if they are willing to share their traumas with you...
This is probably THE most powerful episode. I hate that his childhood was so heinous. His wife is so beautiful, and I'm glad she consented to letting him discuss this ❤️ We've all been and done regrettable things, but sharing the lessons matters the most. The way he has been so open and shared the lessons he's learned is beautiful! This couple has a serious testimony! Thank you for bringing him back in the proper timing, and thank you for not judging him Laterras. Praying for he and his precious wife 🙏🏽
Amen!!
I concur!
Amen! 🙏🏾
Well said, Kejuan!
The answers are so calculated and some are vague such as I stepped out, No dude you cheated. Did you and your wife engage in a threesome? Corey- We tap dance around it! Corey said, " I would never hurt her". Yet he did. Trauma is real and never a reason to treat people like crap. Hopefully, he continues his healing process.
Man... I went back to the first interview with the couple. It felt like so many red flags came through during the initial dating process that was a prelude to where they are now. All the things he said he didn't want to do, he did. Made it hard to believe that what he was saying in this interview were true. I'm praying for her heart.
What’s the title of the first interview
@@Moryah.mollel podcast 111
Same here..they (the red flags) were screaming at me. I felt so bad and thought I probably still needed healing myself because I was wrong. Here was this seemingly happy and BEAUTIFUL couple..maybe I was just being salty.
But this episode here has healed me in a whole 'nother way...to lean into my intuition/"first mind".
Thanks Cory for sharing your story.
I surly remember that interview too!!
It was one of the first videos on dear future wifey podcast… I saw the manyyyyy 🚩 red flags 🚩 and said hmmmm….. But, kept quiet and said maybe he will be better from opening up and knowing his flaws…. I feel for his Ex-Wife 😩 what we put up with just to keep it together 😩😩 I hope everyone heals in this process 🙏🏾
We know ourselves better than anyone else. He knew. Sometimes we think that if we “think it” then “it is” when, in fact, we have to have a radical change (at the very core of our being) and not in word only. A change of heart and mind.
“I don’t get to control whether she wants to come back because I caused pain”
“I love her enough to know that she deserves to be loved properly”
“I love her enough to know that God is in control & not me”.
God Bless you both. This level of accountability is sooo healing to witness as a Black woman. Thank you both for the transparency & sincerity. 🙏🏾✨
~ The Sound of Remorse & Healing ❤️
Laterras, I love how you always challenge your guests to expound on the generic terms of their trauma. It’s not enough just to diagnose it but define what it means. That’s not only important to them but to others watching who may be trying to put language to what they’re going through. You’re really good at that and I appreciate it.
Thank you so much
This is the comment I was looking for. Laterras is going to do a complete autopsy on the situation. Mr. Cory's actions from his trauma mirror my ex. 😢😢 This one was very emotional to watch
Thank you, @Dear Future Wifey, for keeping it Lit❤
This is heartbreaking. While he is able to speak about this I know how she feels. The woman endures so much pain finally opening up, finally trusting, finally letting the walls down and accepting a man in her life only for this to happen. He is talking but it’s like he is outside looking in. He seems detached and not truly remorseful. My prayers go out to her and her children. This is why the Word says adultery and death ends the marriage covenant because infidelity is difficult to get out of your spirit it takes over your mindset and how relationships are viewed.
I had a man who lavished me with gifts way too early in the relationship, and yes they end up controlling because those gifts have a condition to it. He was very controlling because he felt I owed him for him being so generous to me. Its hard to be in relationships with such people. It’s scary coz they can punish you for saying No. it’s draining
Your statement is so true. In my being date years, my mom and dad were so hard on my sister and I about receiving gifts from boyfriends. They preached, nothing is free but GOD! I see it so clearly now and appreciate it.
That’s the first thing I thought. He was setting her up from the beginning. All I hear is I statements. So self absorbed.
This is all facts! They get offended when u say No, become passive aggressive or directly rude. It’s as if u owe them for the gifts they gave you!
Lattarus do you think you can have the young lady come on if she’s open to it? I love to hear both of them tell their perspectives 🙏🏾
I would love to hear her side too, but I wouldn't want it to be right now. Give it 6 months.
@@Theparentcator hopefully she will come back on the podcast🙏🏾💜
I hipe so because I remember their Podcast, how they held hands, and how safe she felt with him.
Yes, please have her on
@@carchelle4193 💯💯💯
I called off my wedding because he had not healed of trauma that this man had... He ended up marrying another lady and put her thru hell because he is severely emotionally wounded.. Those type of men don't change they become clever, not healed.
Clever indeed.
Are you saying even if your ex seeks help and really wants to change? There is no chance of him ever changing?
Preach sis! Say that again! Clever! Not healed!
@@shanid9891 that’s exactly it. My husband went to a new woman before we even divorced. He treated her so well in the beginning. Now that she’s about 4 months pregnant and we’ve divorced, he’s back to the man that I had. It’s almost like he got better with experience. He didn’t really change, just learned how to manipulate better.
I totally agreed! When he said he’s a speaker, I knew I was right about my gut feeling.
As a woman who was hurt by a broken man, I thank you...I needed this episode, this honesty, this accountability.
God is a Healer ❤️
He was not being honest
@@prettlocs1How do you know this?
No... If he is so traumatized, instead of leaving others traumatized after dealing with him, go and get healed. At some point, you have to accept your actions and accept your behavior as your choice. There are many people who've experienced childhood trauma who do not go throughout their lives hurting people as a matter of life. Stop dragging others down with you. It is not fair. This man has the gift of gab. He seems to be able to verbally manipulate any one who's willing to listen. Go and get healed.. Stop dating and heal. Stop making excuses, grow up and get the necessary therapy to get fully honest with yourself and heal so that you can stop destroying others. Seriously!!
At 1st I was side eyeing him, then God made me really listen to what he was saying; and I just want to say to Corey. Thank you for your truth, brave honesty, and vulnerability. It was refreshing and healing. I took away some 💎s.
Sigh. It's just a teensy bit annoying when God does that. I was side eyeing him too (knew absolutely nothing about who he is) and was about to log off when God said, "You better listen. There's something that you need to hear." So I'm listening.
Correct. We have to remember none of us are beyond falling and we all need Grace.
I watched that episode and was in that 2% who was like those gifts were too extravagant and was covering for something. I always wonder how the couples on the podcast was doing so I'm happy for the follow up. I'm getting so discouraged because I've experienced some really lying, manipulating and cowardly men. Lord help me NOT to give up on finding my Boaz 😢.
After watching the entire episode I had to add my 😞 disappointment!! Cheating? Physical abuse? Threesomes? And talking about GOD!!! Look I'm DONE 😢😮... love ain't enough! Healing is a must!!
Love is definitely not enough. We especially as women need hold others to the standards we have otherwise we resent them later on but we don't hv to accept their messiness. Threesomes, porn, a physical battle, it's all too much
Sounds like you still in a of pain. Be healed in Jesus name.
@@creativetips97 awww ok hope you get yours too in Jesus name
Does boaz exist though?
@Sarah Sibanyoni well, Boaz has been overly romanticised in Christian circles in my opinion
I truly wish their was a hand clap button for this. "When you hurt somebody, you don't get to speed up the healing process", THAT was everything. Praying for them both 🙏🏾
So l heard an about conflict languages for the 1st time on this podcast and decided to go read about them immediately , you didn't know them? I got you 😊
1.Expressing regret -genuine lm sorry
2.Taking responsibility -take the blame no buts
3.Genuinely repent -l will not do it again
4.Make Restitution - Pay for the damage you have caused
5.Ask for Forgivenesss - Give the offended a chance to verbalise her forgiveness for you ❤
“There’s been some women that have been broken by broken men; and they’ve internalized what that man did to be an inditement on the worth!!” Has me in tears, I pray fir his continued healing & for hers as well
I would love to hear from her……. She was clearly minding her “business” fr and raising her son when he met her. The pain, the sleepless nights, unnecessary anxiety that her son could be experiencing…… smh!! I know some are applauding the man but my thoughts are with the babies😢💔
I agree
I can tell you from experience, this woman sounds like she is WISE. She probably raised those children still honoring him, as she should. So much so that I am sure she got them therapy and healing through her prayers for them. God is faithful. He will keep those children and they will be able to talk easily about what happened. It will be their testimony as well. Watch and see that they will be very successful in all they do, God first.
Agreed
My prayers are also with the babies🙌🏽
Why is everyone saying "babies?" Didn't she have one 5 year old when they met?
I just pray that Keyauna's heart is healed throughout all of this. My heart broke for her while listening to Cory speak. My GOD! I pray that everyone heals before pursuing relationships with anyone. The level of brokenness people experience in these relationships is very traumatic. I am also grateful that Cory is growing. And I do pray that he does what he says moving forward.
He is doing so much under handed blaming of her. It appears to be classic Narcissism. He is trying to make himself look better and false humility is on front street.
There are parts of this that made me very angry. This man completely uncovered his wife (the woman he insists he loves) to all kinds of struggles and attacks. So yeah...angry. But I appreciate the ACCOUNTABILITY, man to man. I've encountered too many men who are accountable to no one, have submitted themselves to no correction, and have no one who will say "call a spade a spade". I appreciate this conversation.
He appears to be gloating !!! I’m reading his demeanor, responses, and deflection. I’m sorry but i feel that there are BLACK WOMEN commenting praise who may secretly wish to be wife #3 for him or be the one to “change” him. Mr. Laterras i really tried to
not even comment (please dont delete me) but some things seem like its from a place of sensationalization or “get back”. Sure you know him perhaps personally but there are a few folks that can objectively look at a situation. I will say, until this brother unshelled all of the unnecessary layers of BS, he will continue this path. The first five minutes i thought “ performative, he’s performing”. I dont know his tears that may fall at night, and to be honest - back in the day, while he used to have his motivation reels and lives, he and i probably chatted once or twice (literally one minute or so, this was when he did lives with his three kids, 2019/20)….i truly want him to be released of himself. I am praying for both parties. Blessings
Yes! It’s giving covert narcissistic and if not he definitely has narc traits.
Yes. This is for his benefit. A stunt.
Leadership, three-somes, self accountability, preaching, porn, rubbing elbows with the Jakes, cheating.......it's too much. it's all spiritual.We really can not have it all. Choose how you will live, otherwise, people are going to be damaged along the way...Thanks LT for holding your guest accountable. We all need that. Would love to hear her side! Prayers for both to truly heal.
Would love to hear her side as well.yes
@keshiadawn I think the very nature of the life of a believer is dichotomous. You mentioned the sharp contrast in the things he shared. I think if any of us who choose how we want to live choose to do right, it will be a struggle to do what is right consistently. If there is no struggle, you aren’t doing what is right.
@Ingrid Watson temptation is one thing, being the leader of temptation is another.
@@ingridwatson3519 Temptation is not sin. Yielding to temptation is sin. Choice, which we all have the power to make and will be held accountable for is very important. Falling which we all do is not the ultimate issue but consistently making choices that are at odds with the word of God. That being said, I believe that if he truly repents and surrenders his life to God, he will be healed completely.
@@anng7514 I don’t disagree with either of you all about choices or being lead into temptation too often. Within the context of his story, I could clearly see how his past trauma would send him into great temptation. Physical, mental and sexual abuse were all present. I think he is just now starting to unpack how so much abuse could lead to so many bad choices. I truly get that. Having unresolved trauma that you can’t even see how it impacts your decision making is real. It happens to more of us than are willingly to say. Mostly because we don’t even know.
There’s no healing without true repentance, may we all find our way back to Jesus, the lover and redeemer of our soul 🙏🏾❤️
Whenever someone says they are a textbook narc, please believe them and remove yourself immediately.
I pray for Keyana's healing, complete restoration, and wisdom to never return to this serpent! I remember him referring to the women he used then discarded as "dead bodies". There were so many, and I was really bothered by his categorization. Turns out he is the murderer! Oh, but the trauma made him do it? Who has not experienced trauma, especially those Black in America? Time and time again, these men feel entitled to a long lasting, loving relationship when they decide to be committed to a woman. I'm sure it never occurred to him to remain single and celibate out of the fear of hurting someone else. He been cancelled!
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Go heal
Can't out love someone's trauma. A word. This level of self awareness and transparency!!❤ Healing is beautiful.
This interview is uncovering so much dysfunction in ALL of us on SO MANY levels !! Corey thanks so much for your honesty and vulnerability! If we all would/could get there .. whew !! L. T. you’re opening us up !! YES !!
To God be the glory
To me, this brother needs to evaluate if he's the type to get married or not, now.
Im grapling with that question myself.
To me, he's just finished the 1st level of healing, now he needs to decide who he now is and wants to be and if that needs a wife besides him or not. He still feels drawn to getting his old life back when it's about the new him.
"I'd fire them, and let them keep working," that summed up the entire interview for me.
I feel like we glorify trauma when it comes from a prior experience in childhood and now wreaks havoc in adulthood. It’s seen as an oh I understand, but in reality adulthood has its own limitations. If we choose to love, honor, and respect another person, we need to do that despite our insecurities, inadequacies, and traumas.
I’m hoping that my future husband and I can both be honorable in the love we have for one another.
Thank you for sharing this experience! I am working through my own traumas but through therapy- I understand the importance of not traumatizing others because of my own trauma.
Agree. Thanks for sharing this. You would think that people would say since I have felt what it feels like to be hurt with words, physically, abandonment, ect that they wouldn’t want to cause that same pain to another just on that strength along. You would think it would give them pause to say I know what this can do to someone, so let me not do this to them. I would hope people are not using their traumas as excuses to hurt other and misbehave but we know it is out there. I want all of us to do the work and have these hard conversations before we get involved and invested with one another to help greatly reduce this atmosphere of causing more traumas due to past brokenness. Thanks again for sharing. And good luck with the rest of your healing journey.
This interview right here!!!! Thank you so much for your transparency 🙏🏾but Kenyona should not get back with him. What’s done is done and he is not healed. Move on girl and let him and God work this out.
All that in 8 months!!!
being honest is not enough , accountability follows
self awareness is always refreshing the real praise has to be reserved for the work
He lost respect for her when she gave in to his idea to invite people into their marriage
He still has a journey of healing ahead. This is going to take years.
😢 I believe so too
yeah it’s very concerning that he believes he’s healed.. especially when he said the same thing after his first marriage. radical acceptance and accountability does not equate healing unfortunately
There were allegations of cheating he had to address with her while they were dating. They talk about it in the original episode. I wonder if she was surprised that he was cheating or felt regret for going through with it knowing there were signs. She should come on the show for her side of the story.
I remember..he even got arrested I think....sad
@@winniekuchio2072 he got arrested due to a protest for black men , I believe they are not related and it was due to his activism
@@MNIU_ That's correct. Unrelated.
I remember the same! I pray that she heals and doesn’t get jaded behind this. I don’t think he was truly ready to get married but I appreciate his accountability. There were certainly signs, but love can be blind when we think someone will change for us.
There was an arrest for assault on her. It’s not mentioned here though. How does grabbing someone get confused with choking them
Action's speak louder than words.
As a man, I went through the same thing (minus the 3 way) and have damaged women as a result of it. I recently hurt my wife from cheating, lying and damaging her and is now separated and in a season of healing and acknowledging that being molested by a woman at 9yrs opened me up to lust and caused me to damage others. Please keep me in prayer
Prayers to you.
The transparency on this episode was mind blowing. So glad you guys touched on the demonic aspect of porn and ménage a trios. A lot of men and women are not aware that they have invited the devil into their bedrooms because society make these acts seem normal. I applaud him for his courage and may God continue to deliver and heal them both in Jesus name!
He didn’t stop trying to finesse the conversation and put his mask down until the threesome conversation came up. He was trying to convince the audience that he was better but I see through his gift of gab and see he’s still broken. He still has a lot to deal with. I really hope they have couple counseling with a licensed therapist to decide if the marriage is salvageable or not.
He's very much so still operating in his ego. But I'm glad he's becoming or have become self aware
@@deedeedunigan3274 absolutely
Y’all this man is in his 40s, this crap is scary. IMO, they need to stay together.
@TheLaDy I agree with you. Anytime you give a whole Monologue when a Simple Yes/No answer will suffice says A lot 💯(IMO). I’d really like to hear her side❗️
@@CotillionQueen I need to hear her side. I feel the story would be very different.
Corey had a lingering situation with a woman before he ever even proposed to Ke-Ke, smh. Yes, I watched the episode, lol. That situation was her red flag to runnnn, and not look back, but she chose to move forward with him. Sometimes, we invite our own afflictions into our lives, but turn around and play victim after the drama comes down on us. In other words, Ke-Ke knew what type of man she was marrying. The lies, cheating, 3 somes weren't a surprise for. Ke-Ke got caught up in thinking that Corey would change for her. No, sis, that's who he is, so please believe him and get out. People don't like the truth cause it hurts, but like I always say, the truth will hurt us 1st but turn around and help us in the long run. The truth will set us free.
No doubt the that was the Holy Spirit who revealed to Keyana that Cory was not to be trusted let alone, not ready for marriage.
You just don’t know how bad I needed that gem “truth will hurt first but help later.” Thank you!
@@zig2655 yw
Thank you “LT” for keeping it LIT on several occasions you had to remind him to be transparent and honest. His dictation was perfectly orchestrated and at times seemed rehearsed or as if it was being read from a textbook. Glad he seeing his faults and is healing, we never know the damage some people faced in childhood. I pray 🙏🏽 that both parties will heal from this very traumatic marriage. If it’s Gods will and their willingness to be led by the spirit their marriage will be blissful.
Thank you for exposing yourself.
Continued blessings on the success of this podcast. This conversation gives me pause to ponder about my future hubby, what to look and listen for, while courting.
I hope she stays safe & listens to her God-given discernment .
What we practice in our singleness will manifest in our marriage 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
You know how you can watch something with a side eye 😒? I watched Cory & Keyana on Season 1 and my eyebrow went up 🤨. I think we want to believe in something so much, even when we know it may not be the best for us. As women, we do this way too often. Every person isn’t sent from GOD, no matter how good they talk or how good they look or how much money they spend. We must be more discerning and look beyond the superficial. Prayers for Keyana and her son. 🙏🏽❤️ Prayers for Cory to uncover his truth & to find his path towards restoration & healing. 🙏🏽
Kay when my wife comes on and tells her story I want your side eye comment to be consistent Queen.
@@clhughes77 I heard enough to know enough. The fact that you didn’t allow your wife the grace, patience, or heart-space to share this traumatic experience on her own time, is very telling. Here you are again…in a position of “control.” Controlling the narrative, at the expense of your wife…. to promote your upcoming book. 🙄 I can’t imagine any therapist in the world being ok with someone who is ‘currently’ in therapy, promoting a book and speaking so publicly. Especially when his wife hasn’t made a ‘final’ decision on divorcing. You are giving her very little reason to want to stay. Do you know how humiliated & embarrassed she must feel? Or does your pride, ego, & trauma continue to seek & destroy? I feel for the broken boy inside of you and I also feel a deep sadness for those you’ve broken because of your need to control, manipulate, and abuse. It’s truly sad when the victim becomes the predator. I think you’ve fooled so many people with your words that they are blinded to the truth. It’s time for you to get quiet, go into isolation, allow GOD to do his work, and truly heal, Brother.
@@kayfleming5180 💯
@@kayfleming5180 ouch! Dang! 💔🥺 mouthful of boldness😳🤯
@@naomiesaint-sume7930 That was me being nice. I have not one ounce of sympathy for a male who puts his hands around his wife’s neck in a moment of anger, or a male who tries to justify domestic violence, or a male who brings his wife into his demonic world of porn & threesomes, or a male who gives his wife hell after she returns from visiting HER son! Not one iota of sympathy. He KNEW what type of monster he was before he walked into that woman’s life and turned it upside down. His version of their story is mild. I’m sure hers would be extremely heartbreaking. I pray she stays silent. That would be her taking her power back. It’s time to speak truth to power and take these males to task. We are in spiritual warfare with many demonic souls roaming this earth. GOD is waking his people up!! No longer can we remain blind to the glaring truth.
I remember watching this episode. I was a little envious thinking how come other people get their happy ending but me. Wow. I was wrong! Never get jealous, you never know what people are dealing with.
Corey reminded me of ex in terms of unresolved trauma started to become a cancer in our relationship. I remember telling him that why are you bleeding on me when I wasn’t the one who cut you . I thank you Corey for your vulnerability, accountability and transparency. I pray my ex reaches such a place of healing . Great episode
I’m sorry to see that he mishandled Kiana. I saw that the relationship was all about him…even the proposal was on his birthday…he seemed very in control of the narrative. And she so wanted to love this man and all the sacrifices seemed to be one sided. That is a recipe for disaster. It’s a beautiful that nothing is wasted with God. All the best to Cory and Kiana. Hopefully they will continue to do the work and experience a full filled life.
He even said he managed to get her to throw his surprise party..🤯 I don’t like his performance on this show
This was a interesting convo. IMO(in my opinion) Cory is still everything he said he’s not. When he spoke I heard control, slight authenticity and some truth/accountability. Keeping it a buck … the pic itself shows pride. After watching the entire episode I wonder if he had the same or similar issues in his first marriage?. It would be great to hear his wives heart. Praying for them both 🙏🏾🖤
😢 I wonder too about his marriage. Was the demise solely because of him...
@@lovefelix1566 I personally don’t believe that the demise of a marriage is ever One person’s fault. It takes 2 to work & 2 to fail. 💯🖤
No, it only takes one person to fail.
@@adrianstrong2127 oh ok ..
If you don’t want take Tabitha’s pic down! I thought she was making a comment. 😂
Human love is not enough. Every Man wants a good woman. Every GOOD woman needs & deserves to be with a Good man, whole and ready. Many are crazy in love with the IDEA of marriage. It takes wisdom, self awareness & understanding of the value of marriage to do RIGHT!! Our mothers, aunties, sisters & friends are tired of heartbreak/ savagery. Your decisions make a GOOD Woman feel like she is not enough & that's not FAIR at all! Good talkers/communicators sometimes forget to implement more & talk less. In spite of all this unfortunate revelation, thank God he is a vessel. I pray for more humility in his speech. Thank you Latterras for no sugar coating & being direct in this interview.
I’m only a few minutes in and I feel like he’s putting his salesman presentation on. I’m struggling to get through this.
Me too... if LT didn't have him clarify or explain he would've skated right past lots of things... #notfullytransparent
Absolutely. I get the sense that he was trying to use this to explain away his very bad behavior and try to save face.
@@harrycallender that’s what he was doing. If LT had not made him tell the big stuff he would have glazed over it. He did not telling his truth without justifying it.
Trust me it gets worse as you listen . It took me a couple days to get through the entire episode.
@@AlexiusS I listened to all of it but I was cringing. He kind of opened up once LT questioned him. He’s definitely a salesman. He has his dialogue rehearsed and ready.
Crying as I listened to this… I admit my heart is broken all over again as I watch. This answered so many questions of the pain I went through with the man whom I prayed, screamed, and pleaded to God so hard for and over. Still having to work with God to believe I am enough for anyone. “It was good that I was afflicted”. The truth will ALWAYS make you free. I pray healing over everyone who sets eyes and ears on this podcast. THANK YOU for access to deep healing in your admission and no deflection.
Yes ❤!
My question - when will spiritual leaders like Jakes discern that premarital counseling is necessary - no matter who you are. “One of Cory’s regrets was not slowing down for counseling”
I thought about that as well.
SIR!!! Had to stop and replay it back in smaller doses. He unpacked ALOT. He helped me understand the behaviors I’ve witnessed in some men that were in my life. Thank you. This will TRULY set some people FREE!
Thank you both and today, especially Cory. I’m 55 years old and divorced. You could never know the mirroring of our lives! To God be the glory that I came upon this podcast! God has a plan for all of us and what an amazing plan it is! Cory you ministered to my life today! ❤
Like Laterus said “what you practice in your single life will show up in marriage.” He practiced threesomes in his single life and it showed up in marriage. This is why healing and self discipline before marriage is so important! I feel for his wife. He was very selfish! He knew he had trauma. That wasn’t fair for him to put that on someone that genuinely loved him.
What else did he expose her to? He played on how much she loved him. Listening to this in the car, I almost drove off the road.
I’m not putting all the blame on him, she didn’t decline the threesome either. As women we can also assist in respecting ourselves.
I agree but sometimes women are looking for men to lead. I would like to hear her side to see why she felt she needed to allow threesomes in their marriage. There was something that caused her to accept that. Was he devaluing her? Did she have her own trauma?
This is his cry out to not lose her and I hope she realizes that enough to go through with the divorce and leave him. I guarantee you this is a stunt to hold her hostage.
She announced she is divorcing him on IG today.
This episode was interesting and left me feeling like I want to remain single! 😳🤣
Yup
Yess.. while I hope it helped someone.. it definitely didn’t help me.. kind of left me feeling hopeless. Just really sad.
@@TheSylvia2002 I understand!
He was in lust not love
@@ceethwyd That's exactly what I said
Mannn this episode is so raw and transparent it’s crazy! THIS is what kind of truth and transparent dialog is what MEN want to see. I’m praying for this brother and his wife that God will restore them 🙏🏾
Amen
This level of honesty is beyond a miracle! Laterras you have perfect interviewing skills-timing, empathy, clarity, and compassion. I love the honesty and transparency and how he allowed us to journey from the last time they were on until now. God is faithful and I'm praying that HE provides the total healing for both of them!!!
I just got done watching the first episode today and I kept thinking there were some major red flags. I pray for her healing this is so heartbreaking. I been through the same thing🙏❤️
Watching this episode was a blessing and triggering. I was in a relationship with a person like Cory, the only difference, he never took accountability and never heard or seen me and my feelings. I want to send this to him but I don’t want to open that door. Thank you for being vulnerable, honest and accepting responsibility, now that is a LEADER!!!
I HONOR U MEN FOR THIS... HONESTY IS THE "BEST" POLICY🎯💪🏾
I enjoyed when you said men have to go to therapy, be accountable, and stop expecting other people to fix what they didn’t break. Thank you for being honest, open, and transparent!
Latteras, thank you so very much for the entire organization of this interview. You maintained your purpose in this podcast by keeping this LIT!
You reminded those of us who have been following your podcast and saw the interview with both parties.
This interview was great! You are gifted Sir.
It is sooo heartbreaking to see broken marriages. I am so thankful for daily healing. Engaged and solid Therapy is so wise and reflects great humility.
May this episode remind us all to be so intentional in our relationships as we understand that the enemy hates marriage. Please, may we all have accountability with others, pray and remain before the Lord. It is good that they are apart even if for a season to heal, mature as a husband and man and heal separately.
Prayers! ❤🙏
I'm advocating for wholeness! Mental Health Matters for men and women. "Let's do the work!" Thank you for keeping it L.I.T. Cory. My prayers are with you and your wife.
I really hate that this happened...
Im not here to judge him, but my heart breaks for her because she was willing to jump...trusting that he would catch her. I mean, she was like skydiving for the new. There was such a trust and vulnerability in her submission. Mannnnn. Whew, may they both heal in peace.
Just keep living.
So true! All I can think about is her. 😢
I’m there to I just feel disappointed bc she radiates beauty and not just physically like she gives me good vibes ik I don’t know her but I just feel it
@@sxyteesa0890 same sis...no one is perfect...but she was willing.
Love truly is a gamble! She sure did submit herself hoping he wouldn’t break her heart.. ooweee that’s heavy
This episode was the rawest and most powerful!! No one watching it came away unchanged. There were so many lessons. For me the greatest lesson was, in choosing a spouse or even getting into a relationship, you must seek God's guidance and not be led by emotions/flesh. Our emotions can deceive us and even make us think we are being led by God. #bespiritled
You really have to ask ppl about their upbringing and past traumas and gauge how they have or are addressing those things. I now know that you truly have to vet someone before taking the leap of marriage because you join EVERYTHING that comes with them, including that inner child. I didn’t look at it as Corey giving excuses, he’s revealing his past to give some understanding of his choices and mistakes. Excuses would be blaming on his partner and still not attempting to do counseling. I hope he truly becomes healthy and finds himself as God sees him so that he can connect with his wife.
This is by far the one of realest interviews I’ve ever watched!! I appreciate the level of transparency and openness that both LT and Corey shared.. A lot of what was discussed is happening everyday if more of us became honest with ourselves. The struggle is real! We all fall short…but the testimony is how we hold on and learn from our mistakes. Praying that God continues to heal and mend the hearts of both Corey and Kenya along with their marriage!! Thank you for being lead by the spirit LT, I needed to hear this message! ❤️
This episode was amazing. Thank you for being honest, vulnerable and transparent even when it was visibly hard as we could tell. When someone tells they're story or shares something they did or went through as the voyager it's so easy to judge, doubt, not believe or criticize people. I challenge us to instead pray for them, LT and all the families on both sides to help with the healing. Thanks again for sharing.
I am not completely sold on Cory and his story. It just sounds very packaged and rehearsed. So I suppose that 2% percent that sensed something was off with Corey, unfortunately were correct .Also, there are some inconsistencies because the second interview he and his estranged wife did with Laterras, this dude said they did counseling, and now you're saying you DID NOT do counseling prior to marrying her? The same interview, homeboy was very cavalier when some friends or family members on BOTH sides stated, they were getting married too soon and that same 2nd interview Cory stated, "well I didn't know that the date of my marriage needed to make you feel comfortable"........now your stating that you and your estranged wife should have waited??!!!! I think what is so crazy, is that the girl was living her life, minding and handling her business, raising her son.....and here he comes turning her life upside down? Is it really TRAUMA that led you to cheat or just TRIFLING behavior?
I agree..not buying any of it
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Something is off 😢. We need to pray for him 😢
Very off ! I’ve seen him at the clubs recently and none of this was apparent 😮
He is performing
The lesson learned is that if he isn't in alignment with God then he doesn't know how to choose a helper that is alignment with him. So, he chose her based on deception bc he was living a deceptive lifestyle. That woman isn't his wife bc he don't know who he is. He was just lonely bc of all of the people that died and did him wrong in his family trying to fill a void the wrong way only God can fill. He will find the right one after repenting and going through his healing journey.
Why my spirit shout when LT said “my first marriage…. Idk why I said that..” I was like YESSSSSSSS this man LIVES in his coming blessing of his new wife! He can’t help but speak as though it’s already here.
These are the stories that need to be told. Thank you both for your sincerity and transparency. You are making a difference and impacting lives in a truly beautiful way.
Transparency from men will heal this nation. Praying for our men to heal and take their positions. Hallelujah Lord.❤❤❤ Congratulations 🎊 👏
Amen.
His honesty is healing him and so many others. He and his wife are in my prayers. ❤ 🙏🏾
Thank you!!! I connected to the feelings that he described, the honesty about being a talker, and the transparency. This exposed me to me. Thank you.
Very powerful, insightful, encouraging and extremely transparent interview. Thank you for sharing this with us. Continue to heal.