A girl that rejected me with an excuse, I politely thanked her for her time and completely pulled away my attention, moved on with another girl, complete silence. I didn’t even think of her until she started watching me. She’s literally stalking my social media, watching stories at 2am for months since then, never missing even one. You shake their ego when you don’t chase.
Same situation here, she left with an excuse, I appreciated her and told her I'll never disturb her, since then she's been stalking me on my social media, watching my TikTok posts and profile picture now and then, I'm focusing with my life
@@justinemachogu1Don’t take the bait. She wants to know she can still have you, nothing more. Keep doing you, only give them a chance if they address you directly. Even then, don’t be too quick to respond. Let it sit with you and think if it’s worth going through it.
The no contact doesn’t work anymore. In fact relationships and marriage doesn’t work anymore. Too many options. You pretty much have potential to meet thousands of people in your area alone and millions not too far away. Old rules don’t apply anymore.
The mistakes I've made are so painful that I can sometimes feel tears. The more you like a woman the more mistakes a man usually makes. I never make mistakes with women I'm not that interested in.
Learned to not chase a woman but let a woman chase you. I’ve made mistakes trying to do things out of my way but ended up backfiring at the end. Basically we have to come up with the mindset of she ain’t worth it if she ain’t putting the energy into you
it sure is communication is key in any relationship, being able to say what you like from dislike helps in preventing any unnecessary misunderstandings much less in intimacy
she doen't give a damn about my silence. I felt like she was pulling away, I broke up with her, she said: I don't want it to end, but I won't hold onto you. I texted that I didn't want it to end either, and she never replied, even tho it's been a month. That's ok. I accepted it, date other people. Even tho miss that one a lot.
She didn't reply because you weren't congruent. You walked away, signalling an end. Then contradicted yourself by telling her you didn't want it to end, therefore not true to yourself. Had you ended it and walked away, she may have missed you then realised if she doesn't reach out its done for good. A lesson for next time.
DO NOT EXPECT TO BE LOVED OR CHERISHED AFTER STONEWALLING ….AND LOVE IS NOT SEX EITHER …SO PICK VERY WELL WHAT YOU ARE TRYING TO ACCOMPLISH ….BE WARNED .
interesting how even if i’m not watching her stories, she can watch my and technically this reminds me of her anyways, although it her who s giving me attention
i wanna show i’m thriving via my stories but if i won’t watch hers, she may apply this principle to me and won’t watch my life. we are not exes even, she just has a bf
I can't apply the no contact rule, because she works at my gym. Yet, I keep it professional and don't call ot text her anymore. Funny this is that she chases me and tried to grab my attention while I'm working out, kinda of annoying
well it’s tricky cuz if i wanna show her that i’m thriving i want her to see my stories. but if i apply no contact to her she may do the same to me and won’t be seeing my stuff… she s not an ex, just one girl we are cool with
if she started to silence you, keep on silencing her. You are gonna win. Otherwise, she wasn't worthy anyway and you will find somebody better. Unless, it was because you treated her bad.
Yeah but if this is someone you like and you deny yourself contact and act like they don't matter... I get it, but then wouldn't you just be doing the same thing with the next person, and so on? Like... I find someone new and cool at first then nothing... And repeat. How is that going anywhere when I liked, actually liked, the first girl?
@@ZorshaAndHerPharaoh Yes, I realize that. But, basically, my understanding here is that, the guy is supposed to always wait for the girl and hide his feelings and let her come to him or decide to move on. Never the guy saying I'm gonna go ahead and move forward, because, apparently, girls don't like that. I do get it... I just don't get it.
@@ericheavilin2029 i'm a living example of chasing my girl and getting her back. It took 10.5 months, but 2 months later we were engaged. Sadly over a year and a half later we tore apart and it was from us both stopping contact for almost a week after an argument, which led to us not saying a word to each other on her birthday. Missing her bday was the nail in the coffin. Even if she chose to ghost me herself all week, she made it my fault for missing her bday.
A girl that rejected me with an excuse, I politely thanked her for her time and completely pulled away my attention, moved on with another girl, complete silence. I didn’t even think of her until she started watching me. She’s literally stalking my social media, watching stories at 2am for months since then, never missing even one.
You shake their ego when you don’t chase.
@@marguskiis7711best of luck to her mate. When you smell attention seeking women, you don’t bite. Silence is power.
Powerful 💪😎 good job! Now she's a fan haha
Same situation here, she left with an excuse, I appreciated her and told her I'll never disturb her, since then she's been stalking me on my social media, watching my TikTok posts and profile picture now and then, I'm focusing with my life
@@justinemachogu1Don’t take the bait. She wants to know she can still have you, nothing more. Keep doing you, only give them a chance if they address you directly. Even then, don’t be too quick to respond. Let it sit with you and think if it’s worth going through it.
@@marguskiis7711you come across butthurt. That’s probably why.
The no contact doesn’t work anymore. In fact relationships and marriage doesn’t work anymore. Too many options. You pretty much have potential to meet thousands of people in your area alone and millions not too far away. Old rules don’t apply anymore.
This is the biggest issue nowadays especially as perceived from women's perspective
Silence is Golden
The mistakes I've made are so painful that I can sometimes feel tears.
The more you like a woman the more mistakes a man usually makes. I never make mistakes with women I'm not that interested in.
Learned to not chase a woman but let a woman chase you. I’ve made mistakes trying to do things out of my way but ended up backfiring at the end. Basically we have to come up with the mindset of she ain’t worth it if she ain’t putting the energy into you
My silence is enforcing the fact that they dont know who I am.
it sure is communication is key in any relationship, being able to say what you like from dislike helps in preventing any unnecessary misunderstandings much less in intimacy
Your silence is doing nothing. People move on and lose interest.
she doen't give a damn about my silence.
I felt like she was pulling away, I broke up with her, she said:
I don't want it to end, but I won't hold onto you. I texted that I didn't want it to end either, and she never replied, even tho it's been a month.
That's ok. I accepted it, date other people. Even tho miss that one a lot.
Maybe, it was because you silenced her without good reasons and she silenced back.
She didn't reply because you weren't congruent. You walked away, signalling an end. Then contradicted yourself by telling her you didn't want it to end, therefore not true to yourself. Had you ended it and walked away, she may have missed you then realised if she doesn't reach out its done for good. A lesson for next time.
DO NOT EXPECT TO BE LOVED OR CHERISHED AFTER STONEWALLING ….AND LOVE IS NOT SEX EITHER …SO PICK VERY WELL WHAT YOU ARE TRYING TO ACCOMPLISH ….BE WARNED .
Very important
@@user-vt7nm9qi5v …THIS IS FOR BOTH …WOMEN OR MEN
Your awesome and a great person ❤
interesting how even if i’m not watching her stories, she can watch my and technically this reminds me of her anyways, although it her who s giving me attention
Nice one Christine.
Thanks Peter 🙏
i wanna show i’m thriving via my stories but if i won’t watch hers, she may apply this principle to me and won’t watch my life.
we are not exes even, she just has a bf
I can't apply the no contact rule, because she works at my gym. Yet, I keep it professional and don't call ot text her anymore. Funny this is that she chases me and tried to grab my attention while I'm working out, kinda of annoying
😂😂
well it’s tricky cuz if i wanna show her that i’m thriving i want her to see my stories.
but if i apply no contact to her she may do the same to me and won’t be seeing my stuff…
she s not an ex, just one girl we are cool with
if she started to silence you, keep on silencing her. You are gonna win. Otherwise, she wasn't worthy anyway and you will find somebody better. Unless, it was because you treated her bad.
@@africantruth2539 no we didn’t silence each other
@@Ja99prod But why do you want to apply no contact?
Yeah but if this is someone you like and you deny yourself contact and act like they don't matter... I get it, but then wouldn't you just be doing the same thing with the next person, and so on?
Like... I find someone new and cool at first then nothing...
And repeat.
How is that going anywhere when I liked, actually liked, the first girl?
It takes two people to chose for it to work
@@ZorshaAndHerPharaoh Yes, I realize that. But, basically, my understanding here is that, the guy is supposed to always wait for the girl and hide his feelings and let her come to him or decide to move on.
Never the guy saying I'm gonna go ahead and move forward, because, apparently, girls don't like that.
I do get it... I just don't get it.
concur.
not really worth it, depending on what you want though. Hook up culture is meh if you're looking for love or long term relationships
@@ericheavilin2029 i'm a living example of chasing my girl and getting her back. It took 10.5 months, but 2 months later we were engaged. Sadly over a year and a half later we tore apart and it was from us both stopping contact for almost a week after an argument, which led to us not saying a word to each other on her birthday. Missing her bday was the nail in the coffin. Even if she chose to ghost me herself all week, she made it my fault for missing her bday.
frive