How to Decrease Aggressive Behavior Hitting and Throwing

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Komentáře • 147

  • @missmemissy
    @missmemissy Před 2 lety +22

    My 22 month old watched Kung Fu Panda once and has now been karate chopping people for over a month 🙃 you're not wrong.

  • @silviagonzalez5275
    @silviagonzalez5275 Před 2 lety +4

    It's 11:51pm and I'm a mom of a 6 year old who is non-verbal and has autism. I have just gotten my son to go to bed. Often I try to redirect him to something else. Today that didn't work. I tried to comfort him with words and hugs. That didn't work. I tried to ignore it that didn't work. Today was really hard. Nothing seemed to work and I couldn't figure out what was bothering him. I feel for all parents in my situation. It's not easy. In the end today, I didn't figure it out and eventually my son tired himself out from all his screaming and fell asleep.
    Now I'm just watching videos to better educate myself on how I can reduce his aggression and hitting.

  • @uhohnoseatbeltTV
    @uhohnoseatbeltTV Před 5 lety +32

    I love that you point out that “no” and “stop” are SURVIVAL words and that kids should know them. I hear and read all the time about how we shouldn’t use “no” .. but it is important for them to know and understand it. Thank you for sharing all this advice!

  • @warholcow
    @warholcow Před 6 lety +2

    Really enjoy your videos. Thanks!

  • @rochellenavarro28
    @rochellenavarro28 Před 5 lety +16

    Wonderful videos! My son is 4 years old and a late talker. He's been in the same school/daycare since he was 4 mths old and in speech therapy. He has been increasingly getting better, but still a lot of jargon. Thank you for your videos! Very informative.

    • @giffyarts9486
      @giffyarts9486 Před 5 lety +1

      My little gir also is a late on speech she is 3 and going to 4 august its crazy the tantrum she does

    • @tammiemcdaniels4838
      @tammiemcdaniels4838 Před 4 lety +2

      @@jonboll-LGM if you can't comment on the topic and be a positive member of the group then you should NOT be here trolling for improper word choice and grammar. We understood exactly what she meant. Her name is Rochelle Navarro not "hey lady". If you want to be specific!

    • @monikachakarova5177
      @monikachakarova5177 Před 2 lety

      Hey Rochelle! How is your son doing now? I’d love to know as I have a 4 years old boy going through the same situation and Im really hoping for the best… thank you!!

  • @zohrajamani3476
    @zohrajamani3476 Před 2 lety +21

    Parents need a looooootttt of patience even my daughter she gets angry fast but I keep patience and she’s a good and discipline girl now 😘

  • @rosekay9773
    @rosekay9773 Před 7 dny

    Wonderful! Thank you!!! You are so kind.

  • @Ciggysuperchick
    @Ciggysuperchick Před 11 měsíci

    This is great advice. Thank you

  • @1tomariah321
    @1tomariah321 Před 5 lety +9

    What if I just generally get very easy very fast....?
    Everything literally and I can't control it and apparently people fear me when I'm angry but they tell me they like me alot when I'm not angry and that I'm very nice and polite

  • @DevineLoved
    @DevineLoved Před 4 lety +7

    This was very helpful especially since I deal with autistic kids!

  • @A4969Z
    @A4969Z Před 2 lety +2

    Plz help I'm suffering, my lil sis is crazy and my neighbours are fed up with her loud outbursts and violent actions

  • @11kiren11
    @11kiren11 Před rokem

    Thank you for your brilliant advice!

  • @mily87ful
    @mily87ful Před 5 lety +2

    You are so sweet this videos help a lot. I work as a home care nurse and the atrocities I see is beyond crazy , some parents do not have any boundaries, they let a 2 year old rule ! Am not even talking about my patients ( their siblings)
    I am watching videos on how to deal with a 4 year old biting, throwing my waters, and even trying to hurt my patient ( the sister) . I try to be so patient and acknowledge his feelings, but lately I can’t even look at that child.

  • @bernicejohall3644
    @bernicejohall3644 Před rokem +3

    It's when I tell my 2 yr old no he either hits or throws things

  • @linseyhuffaker2304
    @linseyhuffaker2304 Před 3 lety

    thank you this was very helpful!

  • @musicopensminds5555
    @musicopensminds5555 Před 3 lety

    Very helpful .thnx for sharing

  • @tannyasuquitana5694
    @tannyasuquitana5694 Před 5 lety +6

    This vídeos are amazing.. I’m studying for speech pathology and I really liked to see this. It will help me a lot💜

  • @mehwishkanwal8707
    @mehwishkanwal8707 Před 6 lety +3

    I m thnkful to u

  • @almaskokni584
    @almaskokni584 Před 6 lety +2

    Today I am doing this .it's really work.thank u so much

  • @DevineLoved
    @DevineLoved Před 4 lety +3

    I would even fake cry and it gets to them to be able to see I’m sad and they would randomly comfort me 😂

  • @lucinda6286
    @lucinda6286 Před 2 lety

    I'm a new para educator. What do you do when a child 5 years or older are throwing chairs and tables and destroying the room?

  • @AmanBansil
    @AmanBansil Před 3 měsíci

    hi, we have a 3 year old who won't share toys. She goes to other people's homes and gets mad if kids play with their own toys. she thinks they are hers. Any suggestions?

  • @luislara2557
    @luislara2557 Před 3 lety +7

    You seem to have a solid foundation in ABA! I graduated in SLP but I’m currently working as an RBT while pursuing my masters. Great tips!

  • @kevingordon8302
    @kevingordon8302 Před 3 lety +1

    Thanks

  • @Huskylove12300
    @Huskylove12300 Před 3 lety

    I liked your video it is helpful thanks

  • @monica_30
    @monica_30 Před 3 lety

    I will take these tips🥰 thank you

  • @TheChristocrats
    @TheChristocrats Před rokem +1

    My son is 6 and Autistic, he is partially verbal and leaning new words everyday. However he gets angry and starts hitting ONLY when he is tired and wants an object really bad. He recently has shown an interest in taking pictures...and wanted to play with my really expensive camera I use for work. I obviously couldn't let him play with it and we were trying to find him an alternate camera he could use but he got fixated and spun out of control and started hitting me because I wouldn't let him have the expensive camera. Once they spiral into screaming and hitting....is there no way to bring them back down? My wife took him out of the room and finally got him to lay down....but MAN was he angry.

    • @colettelander6984
      @colettelander6984 Před rokem

      Hi! I work as an LSA with autistic kids and I'm just trying to figure this out myself. What I've found works is firstly giving them some space, then quite often they'll seek comfort and you can get closer. It's really helpful if they have any objects that can act as comfort objects, like a blanket or a specific teddy! Other than that they usually just need to be soothed and have the safe space to feel their emotions. Good luck to you!

  • @cleanandambient4387
    @cleanandambient4387 Před 4 lety +8

    helpful, my almost 3yrl old, is hitting, throwing and spitting... Ithank you :)

    • @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy
      @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy  Před 4 lety +1

      Hope it helps!

    • @ruchisingh4253
      @ruchisingh4253 Před 3 lety

      Mine is continuing to hit and say sorry after 5 min.... He makes it a routine.... Can you help

    • @veerasundriyalpawar3212
      @veerasundriyalpawar3212 Před 3 lety +1

      Even my three year old daughter throws things, gets angry very soon, doesn't want to listen , back answers also.. don't know how to deal with this and I am so stressed out due to this..

    • @veerasundriyalpawar3212
      @veerasundriyalpawar3212 Před 3 lety +1

      @@ruchisingh4253 my daughter too says sorry but again she does the same..

  • @evelynaguilar4055
    @evelynaguilar4055 Před 5 lety +6

    Hi my 2 year old started daycare this week my sons is aggressive at daycare but at home its just him no other siblings just my husband and I he is the most sweetest boy when he is at home. I just need advice of how to deal with this behavior at daycare. Also he is delayed in speech. Love your videos very helpful.

    • @emp2003
      @emp2003 Před 5 lety +1

      Evelyn Aguilar I am having the exact same issue. Were you able to find help???

    • @SRoseBlog
      @SRoseBlog Před 5 lety +1

      Home school him

  • @matyueh6016
    @matyueh6016 Před 2 lety +1

    Thanks for the tips..done subs👍

  • @gracesequeira7907
    @gracesequeira7907 Před 5 lety +4

    Hi I am a preschool teacher and work with under three age group of children I would really like to help my student who has language and social development issues. Hitting is one of my big concern at the moment, I used to do the gentle hands approach but the hitting has become very intense. I want to protect other children from being hit and also use strategies for the child who is hitting.

    • @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy
      @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy  Před 5 lety

      That sounds tough! I'd encourage you to seek advice from other people at your school.

    • @SRoseBlog
      @SRoseBlog Před 5 lety

      1 An enclosed time out area like a crib
      2 u can restrain the child by holding him in a baclwards hug until he calms down

    • @parentingbeyondbehaviours6382
      @parentingbeyondbehaviours6382 Před 2 lety

      Sometimes behaviours become learned you have to evaluate the function of the behaviour then you can find the right strategies

  • @DevEspanol
    @DevEspanol Před rokem

    My younger son is 2 and so different from my older son is 4. My younger son is kind of aggressive but not really. He do things like push, hit, bite and head bump to call for attention, for example to try to my older son run after him. but he does not show sign that is mad or angry, just do it and that start worrying us. we do some of this tips already but We wonder how we can help him more.

  • @thatslife3637
    @thatslife3637 Před 4 lety +6

    Hey, really liked your videos I've been through some today! Actually I've been told by my mom that when I don't give my baby 2yo a proper time which he expects from me then he started to GE frustrated and annoying. Since I'm living in UAE there's no big family only your own so here's only me n and my husband here whether I'm my homeland there were so many people around my son he never hit me that time when I was there but when I came back he doesn't like to. Me to go anywhere nor in kitchen to do some work not even allowe me to go to washroom.
    And he just wants me to get him play with him or give him my all. I tried so many things to let his attention on learning toys or names or some words but as he's very hyper active Mashallah he doesn't even listen to me really 😔

    • @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy
      @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy  Před 4 lety

      Hi! Sorry to hear it's been difficult. Here's some more tips czcams.com/video/ETYyT7vrJSk/video.html

    • @urvashipatel5214
      @urvashipatel5214 Před 2 lety

      Hi...i am in abudhabi n my nephew is in india gujarat he is 2.5 n.is in nursery n.we have so many complaints about him being aggressive n hitting pther kids n the nursery teacher singles him out...she has no.clue how to control

  • @nelsreji
    @nelsreji Před 4 lety +1

    Hi Nice to see your videos. Really useful. I would like to view videos for Autistic child 3 years old. Focusing n speach therapy. Thanks

  • @missjess3292
    @missjess3292 Před 3 lety +16

    My 3 year old hits me anytime I have to say “no” and I’ve tried these tactics before and it doesn’t work. If she knows it hurts me she laughs and calls me names and has a smile on her face. Not sure what to do at this point. Been through a lot of videos and haven’t found one that has a solution for her horrible evil behavior. She’s defiant. Therapy starts wensday . But still trying to educate myself more

    • @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy
      @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy  Před 3 lety +1

      Best of luck with therapy starting! hang in there!

    • @mirrormirror444
      @mirrormirror444 Před 3 lety +1

      Going through the same with my 4 yr
      Old son

    • @nikkid8519
      @nikkid8519 Před 2 lety

      Yea my grandson will hit or say awful things. When i tell him it hurt me, he says i want you to cry. 😬 I'm worried about him. Here can be sort sweet though so i hope he is just learning emotions and cause and effect. 🤷‍♀️

    • @nikkid8519
      @nikkid8519 Před 2 lety +1

      Do you think she is needing extra attention? One on one play time. A better connection with you? Im no expert but this could be it in some instances. 🤷‍♀️

    • @amandafield1459
      @amandafield1459 Před 2 lety

      What did you end up doing ? Having similar issues with my newly 5 year old

  • @sszahid758
    @sszahid758 Před 5 měsíci

    what to do when boy is 20 years old with autism. If we say anything when he is angry thats make them more angry because of sensory overload so staying quite is only option and works better in most cases.

  • @nichgorman8806
    @nichgorman8806 Před 2 lety

    I don't understand tip #4 pls elaborate

  • @mariahconklin9345
    @mariahconklin9345 Před 3 lety +2

    This is great but I work with adults who have special needs so would this advice work for them?

    • @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy
      @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy  Před 3 lety

      I really can't advise on working with adults. May want to seek help from a behavioral specialist.

  • @aselamalawa
    @aselamalawa Před 4 lety +3

    Hi this tips will useful for me. Because my 2 years old baby girl start to hit me. I'll try these tips. Thank you so much.

  • @gpalla8072
    @gpalla8072 Před 6 lety +2

    My little girl has had multiple kids hit her, what is your recommendation to correcting other people’s kids in front of parents

    • @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy
      @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy  Před 6 lety

      Hi! Thanks for watching! That's a super tough one and I think it depends so much on the situation. Best of luck.

  • @jaweriamasood758
    @jaweriamasood758 Před 3 lety

    My 1.5 old child is being hit on a daily basis from his 2.5 year old cousin. Now he developed an aggressive behavior and started hitting me and his own head on things. What should I do

    • @TU-qc5xr
      @TU-qc5xr Před 3 lety +1

      I would stop play with that child or talk to the mother and have both decide on how to stop that childs hitting around your child so dicipline is the same for both kids.

  • @OZ-hn2sh
    @OZ-hn2sh Před rokem

    What about if the child is 8 years old??

  • @kusumbhattacharjee8062

    My 3 and half old son is throwing toys on others and if teacher give him paper to write he throw the paper in dustbin and stand on the table .. if anyone ask him to come down he try to bite them..

  • @wendy2001217
    @wendy2001217 Před 2 lety

    What do you do when you said soft hand ? Like touching gently on cuddly toys?

  • @SamanthaPeregrina
    @SamanthaPeregrina Před 3 lety +6

    Ahhhh. No wonder why my cousin hits his sister! His dad lets him watch boxxing and fighting.

  • @lamyaataha4931
    @lamyaataha4931 Před 3 lety

    Thank you for the information!🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

  • @Rishaan9665
    @Rishaan9665 Před 5 lety +1

    hi my kid pokes other toddlers eyes how to control that

    • @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy
      @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy  Před 5 lety

      Hi! That's tough. Generally speaking with negative behavior the key is to teach an alternative more appropriate behavior instead.

  • @lamiabundakji1843
    @lamiabundakji1843 Před 3 měsíci

  • @rockbandman9
    @rockbandman9 Před 3 měsíci

    Maybe all of this while wearing protective gear like motorcycle clothes with armored plating? Might as well have them learn that they will get hurt if they hurt you. That I’m sure will make them stop.

  • @silverrose9248
    @silverrose9248 Před 2 lety +1

    When I reach the #3 and #4 my 3 year old follows me and cries and continues to hit, throw, and she starts biting. If I continue to move away, say no, stop , she only cries harder and continues the behavior

  • @emergencyfood5407
    @emergencyfood5407 Před 3 lety

    So my sister (she is 8) hits herself with her hands when she wants something and we don't give it to her like phones or she want something but we don't understand what she want because she doesn't talk and i don't think she understand us what should we do ??

    • @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy
      @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy  Před 3 lety

      Hi! Has she been evaluated? I highly recommend she be evaluated professionally.

    • @emergencyfood5407
      @emergencyfood5407 Před 3 lety

      @@WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy
      No she hasn't been evaluated yet.
      Thanks for the advice.

  • @MrjordanYT09
    @MrjordanYT09 Před 2 lety

    Tv and movies and toys

  • @david_blomquist131
    @david_blomquist131 Před rokem

    💗💗💗

  • @JaneenFebles
    @JaneenFebles Před rokem +1

    My friends 5yo is hitting teachers everyday. None of what you suggested has worked. No one even knows why he really hits because he says the most ridiculous reasons like the sky is cloudy, or his marker dried out, or sometimes there is no reason and he ignores you when you ask him. He has had all his stuff taken away because everyday before school his mom says "no hitting today and you get your stuff back and a surprise!" He goes "I'm going to be so good today"... 10 minutes later hitting and trashing stuff. Can you suggest anything to help with this situation?

  • @Jared__Bowden
    @Jared__Bowden Před 4 lety +7

    I’m not so sure visualizing fighting in kids shows necessarily results in the child mirroring that behavior. This has been a common misconception that’s often suggested as a cause of bad behavior.
    Kids shows today are significantly less violent than they used to be. I think you nailed many of the other causes however.

    • @SLC09
      @SLC09 Před 4 lety +2

      I'm a support worker for a man with autism and mental illness, and whenever he becomes aggressive he speaks of transformers (the movie) and begins destroying things as if he were one. It may be due to past experiences or just simply frustration, but he definitely takes on and tries to embody the various movies/songs he's seen/heard. This may be different for each person with Autism, hence the spectrum, but I 100% agree with what is said in the video. 🖤

    • @RazorShalom
      @RazorShalom Před 2 lety +3

      Not Jeffy!...Jeffy has ruined my son! Because it appeared to be innocent and I didn't look closer. Then heard fuck this fuck you mother fucker one day coming from the iPad...then Mario beating princess peach. That shit should be illegal. He watched it for almost a year before I even realized it was an adult show masquerading as a kids show.

    • @nikkid8519
      @nikkid8519 Před 2 lety

      @@RazorShalom that's hilarious 😂😂😂😂😂 I'm sure he will be fine😂😂😂

  • @ImChickenLittle
    @ImChickenLittle Před 2 lety

    Kids shows are way less violent then stuff I watched between 1998 and 2005 and my reaction to not getting my way wasn't to hit other kids or an adult. The child needs a better outlet for being upset and know if they continue this means to release anger there will be consequences, just like if an adult starts attacking other adults they can go to prison or other things

  • @sareenanishad6801
    @sareenanishad6801 Před 2 lety

    Is hitting biting and throwing behaviours are common😭??I am very much depressed in my 2yr old boy's agreessive behaviours in public

    • @mattie4775
      @mattie4775 Před rokem

      My girl does that sometimes especially when we’re out and she’s tired

  • @ishaishasheikh
    @ishaishasheikh Před rokem

    My child slaps on his own face to show his anger

  • @eraa4339
    @eraa4339 Před 2 lety

    It’s true this that what my son run to shopes take staff and run 🏃‍♂️ and no listen no behave I am very tired I don’t know how to behave with him

    • @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy
      @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy  Před 2 lety

      I am so sorry to hear how tired you are. Here is another behavior video czcams.com/video/zZuHcL6XHsM/video.html I hope this helps.

  • @user-pp9sy2hj6k
    @user-pp9sy2hj6k Před 11 měsíci

    im going to try this with myself i have a bad habit of me and my sibling fighting 😭🤚

  • @jill274
    @jill274 Před 4 lety +2

    It's before. Bedtime he takes medicine to help him sleep after he takes the medicine that is when he becomes violant

    • @tammiemcdaniels4838
      @tammiemcdaniels4838 Před 4 lety +1

      Jill, I would suggest that you talk with his doctor. That sounds like a reaction to the medication. You might ask for a different type of medication.

  • @barikopman5550
    @barikopman5550 Před rokem

    I hit when I get frustrated with my behavior person

  • @hienienguyen6766
    @hienienguyen6766 Před rokem +1

    i take away my son's toys. i am learning to do time outs and etc. it's not easy when you are the only parent doing the work.

  • @samarpitachoudhury712
    @samarpitachoudhury712 Před 6 lety +1

    Hi...... My son is 22 months old, and he is into this habit of banging his head against objects, when he is stopped from doing something.. he does it also sometimes to get attention. He speaks monosyllabic words but hasn't started speaking as such.... Could you help, please

    • @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy
      @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy  Před 6 lety +1

      Samarpita Choudhury thank you for your comment. Kayla suggests ignoring the behavior when it's for attention and distracting him with another activity. He is probably frustrated by not being able to communicate. If you have not already, contact your doctor and your local state agency (if in the US) for a developmental evaluation for behavior and communication. You can google "early intervention evaluation" and your state. Hope this helps. Feel free to email therapy@walkietalkie.education

  • @marybrewer6244
    @marybrewer6244 Před 6 lety +1

    What if I leave and they keep following and hitting??

    • @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy
      @WalkieTalkieSpeechTherapy  Před 6 lety

      It's tough to say. In general when that happens to me, I continue to move away. I know it can be tough.

    • @Kaletheist
      @Kaletheist Před 5 lety +5

      I would explore emotion coaching. The suggestion of moving away is nothing more than isolating the child and removing much needed connection. It's giving the child the message that you love is conditional. Instead, keep calm, as gently as possible yet still effectively hold the child's arms by their sides and verbalize for them, 'you must be so mad, I won't let you hit. Hitting hurts bodies. Show me how mad you are, stomp your feet. Now, breathe with me. You are safe, you can handle this.

    • @mirrormirror444
      @mirrormirror444 Před 3 lety +2

      @@Kaletheist I think she doesn’t mean leave them completely but step away from them enough not to hit

  • @isave2430
    @isave2430 Před 5 lety +4

    Can't hear you. Needs higher volume

  • @sobiaafzal9048
    @sobiaafzal9048 Před 8 měsíci

    Mam voice is very low

  • @almaskokni584
    @almaskokni584 Před 6 lety +4

    You are looking so beautiful

  • @feruzaferuza9740
    @feruzaferuza9740 Před 6 měsíci

    why is her voice so low?

  • @nichgorman8806
    @nichgorman8806 Před 2 lety

    They hit cuz they don't want you there tho.. so they can run away..

  • @MissThomandra
    @MissThomandra Před 4 lety +3

    WOW.....seems like a video a psychologist should do based on training and not speech pathology

  • @rehema2018
    @rehema2018 Před 4 lety

    I'm 14 but I till do this

  • @MrjordanYT09
    @MrjordanYT09 Před 2 lety

    Try to stay alone and stay away from people

  • @SH-ig6rd
    @SH-ig6rd Před 2 lety

    too quiet