3 INSTANT Ways To Start A Conversation With Girls
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“Sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.” ~ Benjamin Mee
I'll try that G
the brentford centre back?
The English CB
The Brentford CB?
I guess this is from "we bought a zoo " right ?
Remember that "Confidence" is the key.
Fax
But gotta have sth back you up always too🤣
Yeah but don't be confident on nothing like even if you're looking bad at least try to have muslces
Hence why women love criminals and con-men
How do you come across confident if you struggle with anxiety like myself??
29 year old boomer here. To whoever is still in high school, college, grad school, etc. PLEASE take full advantage of this advice. I promise you, it becomes 1000x harder to approach and meet new women when you're in the adult world.. it's almost impossible unless you have top notch game. If you're still in school, embrace it. Trust me, you will NEVER be surrounded by as many single, easy to approach girls as you are right now. Don't waste it.
Edit: Just to clarify, yes it does get easier in the sense that you have more confidence as you get older. However, it's harder in the sense that there are far less options and opportunities for organic connections. Most people you meet as a grown-up will be set in their ways and have much less time, flexibility, and openness than they did in school. It's just the natural way of life.
so what if becoming a teacher in a school ?
Bro does not possess rizz ☠️☠️
Relate so hard...unironically if this actually true to me before I reach 30 I might go back to college lol 😆
Boomer at 29?
My broda in humanity, I love how confident u are in me, but I have never been surrounded by girls.
"Just command your legs to walk" is a useful mentality in many places, not just in cold approach. Your frontal cortex is not always your friend.
It's not what you say, it's how you say it. When your energy/vibe is good, people automatically get attracted to it. A simple and powerfull way to raise your vibe is to meditate for 5 minutes in the morning and envisioning all the times you won in life. It can range from "I got an A on a test i 9th grade" to "I did 20 pushups", it doesn't really matter in terms of size, just the feeling.
Stay blessed brothers.
Thanks morty
Bro think he zenyatta ☠️☠️☠️
could you say something like oh i like the bag u have where did you buy it from thinking of getting my mum that sort of bag ?
@@amarpalsohal9575 this is perfect what he said u shouldn’t do because then you are looking for girls with bags and stuff so listen to hamza and go to her
@@kaasvreter1008 that was an example, could i do the same w a girl whose wearing something nice instead of the bag
So many people nowadays have 0 social skills. Conversation and social skills are a very important part of self improvement. Keep grinding boys 👑lll
True. I should improve myself
Hi, any advice on how to learn about social skills and then putting them into practice?
@@reo-uptonmohun7019 go outside, talk to people
@@reo-uptonmohun7019 try talking to 100 people every week
Even if it's just a "good morning"
It'll help allot
Thanm you i see those gym youtubers saying working out won't pull girls to you it does but in you do have confidence or a good vibe whats the point
9:01 I talked to two girls today, We went to a hike and they were taking photos with timer so I approached and I asked if they need help with the photos, they happily agreed, I helped them and I started talking to them with a casual conversation, it's helpful for me so I can have more experience of talking to women and strangers. I really like the progress I have done, Thanks Hamza!
Bro you got balls of steel😂😂
Good job tho👍👏
@@eminem.4901 "uh, pervert/creap"!
@@MrTadas21 lol
@@MrTadas21 Yes , crepe indeed
I've followed Hamza's mental health guide as closely as I possibly could and I'm extremely happy to say that my score on the self assesment test, went from 16 in depression and 17 in anxiety, to 5 on both in about a month or so. I never thought I would get out of where I was, but here I am, and I can't take credit for all of it. Hamza, your advice has saved my life and the results have given me the willpower to keep pursuing the path of Adonis. This improvement is only the start, but I feel more capable now that I can think more clearly and be present. Thank you for pushing me and helping me realize my true potential.
Edit: Thanks for the kind words and support. Remember that I'm no different than all of you and that you can achieve just as much or more than you see other people achieving.
Bro just killed depression and anxiety. My respects
I'm happy for you bro
Grande diegooooooo, siguiendo el camino de adonis
This gives me hope. Literally started 3 days ago
thats a W for all of us brother, good job.
8:54 “Peace be upon him”. Respect my g. It’s so good to see you help men like us whilst you’re on a journey yourself. Stay blessed bro.
Common Hamza W
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Hamza's not muslim bro
@@TheCentennial4 he is, they saw him praying with the warner
Regret means more than rejection, hits hard
Hi
Started watching these videos 2 weeks ago and I've already drastically changed my life. Hygiene fixed, eating better, lifting, reading and studying harder, etc. This channel is very useful. The fact he also posts new vids almost daily, even when he's going through surgery shows another level of commitment that I respect highly. Thank you Hamza 🤙
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@@AlphaMaleLifestyleAML 🤣🤣🤣😐🤫
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The part where he described how the common man has detrained their brain made me think of when I was a kid. You would just go up to some random kid on the playground and ask, "Do you want to be friends?" Hamza really is spreading the truth.
Yeah, when we we're kids it feel so much easier to make friends compare to now
@@FELIX_AN It's easy to start talking to and befriend someone doing the same activity you're doing. Kids are all just playing around together, so it's easy to join in. The people you meet daily as an adult are all engrossed in their own world, doing their own thing. Breaking into their personal space is a monumental effort in comparison. And that's exactly why it's good to actually go out to do activities like dance classes, working out, hiking or whatever - to meet other people in the same mindset, doing the same thing. Making that connection is so much easier.
@@talknight2 exactly! when you find someone with the same mindset it always gonna be easier
All steps followed:I am now typing this from the police car headed to jail
The one piece of advice that will instantly make talking to anyone easier: "It's not what you say, it's how you say it"
Hamza out here curing more depression than anti depressants
Literally at the point where I want apathy pills.
@@samuelrichards5521don’t take that shit
I need Hamza pills
1. Find the girl by going out more
2. Build a habit of Just walking up to her
3. Say something
I recommend asking a random question, like “where is the x product” in a supermarket or “what time does this gym close” just think of something
Even a simple ‘morning’, ‘hi how are you?’ Is great start too.
@@AlphaMaleLifestyleAML dude you're really far from reality if you honestly think that. Just be friendly and confident and if you don't look like a creep (which is literally just a matter of hygiene and grooming) nobody will think you're creepy and if they do because you acted weird or something - well you won't see that girl again anyway.
Damn I never knew I needed this guy so much in my life. Not just this video, but all of his. I wish everyone good luck on their path to becoming like Adonis ✊
For real. I just recently found Hamza and it truly does feel like he wants better for us.
@@fernaureason7150 I can confirm, Found him around 6months ago. I started taking action recently, he has helped me a lot
I can definitely relate to step two. About a month ago, I was in Starbucks, and I saw this cute Asian barista chick. Not only did I smile and say hi to her, but we also got to know what each of us were drinking, and she recommended the next time I come back that I try the strawberry Lemonade. It was a smaller conversation, but it was1 honestly one of those situations that gave me a greater deal of confidence when it came to talking to women in general. Been watching your videos for four months, and I'd like to thank you for helping me improve so far, and I look forward to more!
I hope hamza understands how much he is saving young men from a life without greatness. Thanks to him we will become the best possible version of ourselves. We will make it brahs!
@@AlphaMaleLifestyleAML I understand your message. Eventually we will all need to move on from watching self improvement viseos and use the learned knowledge in the real world. most are not ready yet, but we can all become great!
These videos do jack shit, nobody finna go from antisocial to a pimping rizz lord off CZcams videos ☠️☠️
@@jotarokujo2784 you def seem like someone whos a pimping rizz lord, just judging by your profile pic
@@relevanttopics2923 yessir 🙏🙏🙏
6:06, Thank you, Hamza! I spotted this girl at they gym for a little over a week now. Yesterday I saw this video and it just stay in my head for some reason. Today, When I saw this girl again, I smiled to her, she smiled back :)) After I finished training, I went ahead and just COMMANDED my legs to move towards her “GO, GO, GO”. This, combined with a little introduction I copied from Andrew Tate resulted in me getting her instagram :) I was genuinely happy. So now I arrived home and texted her. She just liked my message… But it’s okay. This is 1000 times better than never going up to her and just throwing her a few glances in the gym. I thank you so much. God bless you!
Is she your girlfriend now?
@@vizual3704 No… She already had a boyfriend, apparently
@@marb2293 did you use the line excuse me i dont mean to bother you however i think your absolutely beautiful and i was wondering if i could get your instagram
@@jamaljaquice7956 yes
Gotta love how the 3 steps are literally "see the girl, walk towards her, speak to her" lmaoooo
step three is really true to me. i did a project that i wrote the script for my group and i traveled an hour and a half to present it to some people and i completely forgot to write an introduction when i got up. instead of freaking out, i calmed down and made one up off the top of my head and i ended up getting second place because of it
Hamza is that one friend you need when you're at your lowest.
I will talk to my crush tomorrow whatever happens happens!!!!
It doesn't matter if u made it work or not, but did you just walk to her?
What happened
What happened
Bro I really wanna thank you so much. Today I tried as you said and it works very smoothly. Instead of thinking what to talk about or what will she think, I just go for it. It was lot easy then expected. I talked with her almost an half and hour. She's very friendly. I make good impressions on her. Thanks so much brother if I hadn't watch this video then I should probably ended thinking about her in my head.....
8:54 bro i respect the editor for putting the sentence peace be upon him when hamza said muhammad
this shows that he has a bit of knowledge in islam
because they say that in arabic every time the prophet muhammad was mentioned
yes mashallah
exactly
this is honestly the best advice ive ever heard about cold approaching girls. took notes on this vid too! thank you hamza your a blessing in this world
My teeth holding me back
Like you got bad teeth or like figure of speech?
@@Da_doggo104 bad teeth bro
REEAALL BRO me too
Fellow introverts, we meet again
I fucking love this guy. Its like he manages to verbalize the basic facts that we already know in our subconscious but have forgotten due to social media & the internet
Yo I just started watching ur vids a few weeks ago, but literally before watching this vid, I did this exact advice twice already. Saw the woman, approached n talked w no lines. Second girl I tried to get her number n she said “she couldn’t remember it at the moment but we can still be friends.” Crazy part is, I didn’t feel rejected or put down, I was proud of myself that I took my shot anyway. It’s just like u said, regret is worse than rejection! Thanks for laying out what I already started noticing in this man!
I've seen so many videos of you and I only subscribed now. You really speak alot of truth and I myself battle with confidence when it comes to girls, but over the past few weeks I've atleast gotten to the point where I can compliment a girl and telling her that she's gorgeous even though I haven't asked for her number, probably should have but I'll get there. I've been rejected my whole but I guess I have to take that risk in the future. Your videos are helping me everyday. Regret is better than rejection. Thank you Hamza.
i can't bring to say how much this came at the right moment , cause today something happened and made me think i am trash at talking with people or girls in any matter and was bout to ask this on discord thanks hamza
Hamza ur mental health guide got me from 8 and 7 to 4 and 3 within 4 weeks! You’re a life changer bro. Thank u ❤❤❤
Hey Hamza, I'm new around here and I'm in your school, I haven't done much with it yet, but I really do like how much you are dedicated to your business and your purpose. It's really Inspiration for a young man like me whose trying to navigate his way through his own life and find his purpose.
I recently went through a breakup like yourself, with a girl I thought I'd spend the rest of my life with. Just want you to hear that you're not alone in your troubles through your life, but your dedication to your purpose is what is inspiring as fuck for me. I value your honesty and enjoy the new content, the unfiltered hamza is a good balance with the rest of your content.
Stay humble bro 🙏
You can't please everyone and as long as you're living truthful to yourself that's all that matters man
Congrats on 1.5M Hamza!
Good one Hamza hope you get a good recovery after your operation
Hi Hamza! I love your videos. Thank you for motivating me to start my own CZcams account.
thank you. you were the final piece to my mission 🙏🏽🙏🏽
im using this advice deffo
Hamza always comes with the perfect video at the right time ❤️
Great advice and well delivered. Might be useful to also discuss dealing with rejection, especially if it's the guy's first time taking the plunge and it hasn't gone well or as expected i.e. encouraging words to not let a bad experience demotivate you from approaching other girls.
I'm 14 years old and have gotten onto self improvement due to you Hamza. A couple of months ago i spent hours on Reddit almost every single day, but then i found your channel and uninstalled it. And since then I've been doing much better, thank you!
Thanks I needed this
Just wanna say how much watching ur videos helped me improved physically mentally and gave me a much better mindset than before 💯💯💯🤝
Its harder for some than for others. I grew up with high functioning autism called Aspergers syndrome. Basically a social disability. It took years for me to get out of it but know this: everything can be overcome
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Congrats man you are one of the few channels on yt that gives realistic and obvious yet really helpful tips. Keep up the good work👍🙋♂
casually watching a hamza video like this and thinking i'd just go out for a walk and start aproaching girls... I fucking stoped the video took my shoes and got outside. i talked to 3 girls and then had a pretty long and deep conversation with some minded girls who actually realated to my point. i feel so grateful to have discovered you hamza i wish u all the best and in total i aproached more girls in 1 hour than in 1 year. to all guys out there thinking like me just do it... fr!!!
Be confident when approaching girls, don't be weird, be respectful and chill. Be smooth, you got this. We all have rizz in us, use it.
Hamza, Hello from France 🇨🇵
Here I think we have a huge trend for cold approches (or it's just that I recently went into this).
We have a lot of people coaching, doing crazy approches and doing what we call "badinage artistique" not even fully on girls you wanna date, but talking to all people on whatever goes trough your mind, spread greatfullness and joy.
It mixes well with street photography by the way.
Lot of love Hamza, thanks for your much needed videos❤️
Oui,merci
Tu parles de Léo des philogynes ?
@@jeaneude9380 exact, y'a aussi "theFrenkitch" et d'autres encore, je les connais pas tous, mais Léo c'est le boss.
le boss des boss c est Nicolas Dolteau, c est lui qui a initié le cold approach en france
Thanks for everything hamza you give out great ideas and motivate others much love bro keep it up !
This video came at the right time Hamza! Thanks!
Fully agreeing with Hamza on this one. Let me tell you a recent story of mine..
I'm an intern doctor and in our faculcity we all do meetings occasionally for our hospital's problems, specificly for intern doctors (approx. 360 people). Anyway, I was there, listening one of my friends, she was expressing her problem with hospital and yeah, I realized that I had a similar problem like her. I started to plan my words, how to describe it but wait.... MY HANDS AND FEET IMMEDIATELY STARTED TO SWEAT! I was calm but my body was nearly shaking... I was confused but said ''Fuck it!'', didn't plan shit, took the microphone... and words flowed like water... it was so smooth...
I was good but my body wasn't used to not planning there...
Just do it, do not make plans.. you will already do it until you realize it..
The 2nd tip remind me so much of my younger year of my training where even though I didnt want to workout I commanded my legs to go to the point where I grabbed my legs to make them walk (You will look silly if you did this while approaching a girl) but I dont do that anymoe, plus I made a youtube vid inspired by Hamza
Literally so much value in this video.
YESSS FINALLY ! I just needed this video so much
If you still cant do what Hamza says just remember that probably no one is going to approach you so you have to make the first move. You are the man!
Wow, this video really hit home for me! I've always struggled with starting conversations with girls, but these three tips are game changers. Thank you so much for sharing! I'm definitely going to try them out and see how it goes. Can't wait to see what other amazing content you have in store for us. Keep up the great work!
thank you man much love
The first message is a challenge but once I get the conversation started I’m great, thanks hamza for this new info.
this man is right on target.
Hi hamza i am 15 years old. Only half a year ago i was that skinny gamer kid. Then i saw one of your video and you inspired me to do the hard work especially when you dont feel like it. I started lifting weights at home and i already gained 20.5 pounds. I am really proud of myself for doing that and really thankfull for you. Now i feel it is time to do something about my anxiety when talking to people. It is so bad that you talking about this me hands shake already when just thinking about approaching someone and talk to them. I have improved quite a bit first i didn't even dare to go to the supermarket because i am ashamed of myself. Now i am that not anymore but i still just agh i hate it so much that i have this i need to change but i don't know how yet.
Yess brooo do it work hard 🎉
Best video on how to break that intro ice wall separating you from a deeper connection. Unconventional advice is always the best. Thankyou Hamza. (although the intros always make me cringe lol)
Bro, this vidoe showed up right when I needed it. Thank you, Hamza!
Today's intro was so funny... The Jeffery looking from bushes is🤣🤣
Hamzas guide to approaching women:
1. Touch grass. See women.
2. Do not hesitate. Move in the direction of the women. (Run in a straight line to avoid wasting time. Between 11pm and 4am, she might run with you and start a first jogging date!)
3. Speak words. Make something up in that moment, do not plan out something to say.
I tried it, it worked now I have 3 kids
Bro got busy
Keep up the great content. Love the daily posts.
Yes FINALLY a video i hav been waiting
Have a 'whatever happens it doesn't matter' mindset and you'll be more confident during the approach.
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I've recently started a job at a fast food restaurant and that one girl has caught my attention. I've had a conversation with her one day when we both had a break, and I was more confident than ever for some reason... I felt that positive energy radiating from her, it felt so good talking to her. Since then she kept on catching my attention with a simple "hi" and hand waving, but I can't even start a conversation because of work, and I don't even know how to approach her, get to know her better or sth while keeping it simple and outside of work asap. I'm scared that it could go really wrong because of it being during a job. I feel like I need to get to know her a lot so I can take it outside, I just don't know how :/
Confidence is key, though work always make it blurry. Just be patient, build it up and be brave.
Hamza, Thank you so much for making these videos they have helped me so much.
Awesome video totally gonna this out right now work hard kings 💪💭
HAMZA: How I wish you had emerged into the world of men a few years earlier!
No shame in saying this, im 36, and this is the first time in my life that my failing behaviours have been laid out before me in such incandescent clarity. You would not believe the mountain range of sheer useless advice i've been chewing over the last 18 years trying to improve myself.
The other day I relapsed into my old ways of thinking briefly and it became suddenly clear to me that the frustrated Geoffrey way of living wasn't going to bring anything but depression, fear, stagnation and despair. I couldn't give a damn how old I am, I'm embracing the path of Adonis and I have never been so certain about anything in my WHOLE FUCKING LIFE!
Respect 💪💪💪💪🔥
At this point I am overconfident, I literally do the death stare at girls and then I talk to them after they are kind of scared
bro i swear i needed this so bad
I needed this video Hamza, thank you
Discovering your channel was the best thing ever happened in my life
Hwy king
W Hamza 🖤
Exactly what I needed thanks Hamza
nice help!
Always giving the Best advice🗿
Cringe fake profile
Working out in the morning for the first time right now🥳
keep it up brotha
Thanks alot
I actually did this a few days ago for the first time. I lock eyes with this girl across the street on my walk, and in that same second, I cross the street to her. That's it. I felt so good after I did it because I knew that I'd done well.
@@Vyper71 I got her number, but when I texted her she left me on read so IDK
@@joshen891599% of the time you should move on after situations like this. Girls are always on their phone. Just go get another one
Bro got negative rizz ⁉️⁉️⁉️
@@jotarokujo2784 I still got the number, so IDK
@@joshen8915 When I imagine how this situation plays out I kind of cringe. Like I respect the fact you had to courage to talk and ask for her number, but you gotta have some charisma. Did you really just walk up to some random women the moment you both locked eyes, no smile or anything like a robot? The more I think about this the worst it gets 💀
Hamza
I admire and honor you so much for your achievements.
I am so grateful for watching your youtube videos. They’ve helped me immeasurably.
Thank you so much and get well soon.
I like how this video isn’t the basic, just he confident in yourself, but it gives u advice on how to make urself
More confident and how come up with stuff on the spot instead of being an npc
Oh god this was exactly what i was wondering about, and then you upload it the same day! What are the odds?
A like from hamza is all needed to be dam motivated enough
I'm a 14 year old boy that doesn't have alot of friends because I mainly focus on my future, but your videos have helped me realise that I need to start working out and take better care of myself, I want to thank you for making these videos your videos help alot of us to become better people.
Claim your price from number above 👑💰🎁
Don't cope, if you don't have friends if probably due to poor social skills. I say this to you, because I cope with it for a long time till I work for making new friends. Maybe you're in a different situation, but I'm just saying
@@danieltriana1937 wht cope means?
@@haoshoku6830 It's kind of like, when you attempt to find ways to justify a problem in order to make yourself feel better. Like the OP said they "don't have many friends, but oh it's because I'm focusing on my future", that could be seen as a coping mechanism
thank you bro. for me, this is definitely the most difficult thing for me. i can talk to girls ive known for a certain period of time, or have been around them long enough to know their vibe. but when i see a girl that i genuinely think is stunning, i have a lot of trouble even saying anything to her. like you said, the whole eye contact and evreything, their queues of her telling you to come talk. i really hate it when they travel around in packs. but ive learned if there is like 1 or 2, thats a good time to introduce yourself and take your shot. thx for the video bruh. its very informational, and is a great for people who need it.
Bro i can relate with you as well i can talk to girls who are class mates or whom i know i can really talk so much but when it comes to strangers its just really so hard like in my gym there are girls but idk how to talk like they are strangers also that smile or smile back works sometimes but most of the time it doesn’t sometimes its just the person is genuinely not looking towards you so that there can be an eye contact or sometime if u smile or try to make eye contact they dont 🥲😂 i really have problem in approaching girls
Hey hamza, I love your videos and I m 14 at the moment, I started watching you very recently. I've gone to the to store to buy some hair products because I'm in the same shoes that you were in in one of your videos. I've bought the products to see what is best for my hair and what to use for which occasion. When I go back to school I plan to use different ones for a few days, Once I turn 15 in a few months I plan to start going to the gym and I started my day today by just taking a few breaths and not looking at my phone before I got to breakfast, I spoke to my family and had a good day today.
When i was watching the last step i realized in exams i shouldnt think very deep 'cause after i dont think like the first thing comes to my mind i do them wrong and spend 5-10 minutes for that one question and thank you hamza for everything such as making me lose body fat,make my life-looking-angle better and helping me get a lot better mental health .You are more than a brother to me.Have a nice day hamza,hope we'll meet one day.
No chance amateur
how old are you and where r u from bruv?
@@largecucumber6605 nahh be quiet man's improved himself so hard.
regret is worse than rejection - Hamza
Great video Hamza 💪
You are one of the very few channels & men who actually provide useful experience & facts. Great video as always, have a wicked day
Do it kings. I did it 2 times, and even tho I got rejected because those girls had boyfriends, they respect you because you approached them in real life. It also helps you to boost your confidence and social skills.
Good job. I don't want to break your spirit but I need to let you in on some things:
1. "I have a boyfriend" can be a lie. I've literally had girls say that, and then change their mind when I'm leaving.
2. You could be respected, or joked about for the next month, all depends. If they respected you, they'd say yes wouldn't they?
3. You are right. You get better by doing this. Become the guy who doesn't care about 1 and 2 being true!
@@maxtheawesome4255 How should we do it Then any tips
@@mshire328 No change needed, I wasn't critiquing that. I was just explaining that 1 "I have a boyfriend" is a common excuse instead of directly rejecting you, and 2 that respect from talking to a woman isn't guaranteed because doing it poorly makes you less respected. You seem young, so maybe you just didn't know.
Now IF I was to give a tip I'd say join a social group and date within that group once you are trusted. Trust is the #1 thing that women need to date you. Cold Approach works 1% of the time because they have no reason to trust you. However, when a friend sets up another friend for a date? They usually go on a date, because they trust their friend and their friend trusts you. Women are very social, it's a defense against dangerous men. Rumor, gossip, it's like networking. So my tip is _don't_ cold approach. Instead, _warm_ approach. The chances of success are much higher, and for those who struggle socially this gives them time to adapt and learn.
whats a good introduction line ?
@@jamaljaquice7956 "Hello." Don't use lines. Talk to them like anyone else. They are just humans.
Step 2 i disagree with. Forcefully overcoming your genuine fear without understanding it traumatizes you. In some cases it could help build confidence, help you get over your subconscious fears or whatever, but in most cases its more likely to traumatise you and engrain into you the anxiety of approaching women. It will make you used to having to overcome your fears. But the point is, you need to realise theres nothing to fear and stop feeling the fear. You need to realise that starting to talk to a strange IS NOT wrong. ITS NOT embarassing. ITS NOT uncomfortable. That is the ultimate state of mind to make the best and easiest approaches and to live a better life.
Basically the approach anxiety is a simple formula: fear of rejection (paragraph 1 of my message) + social anxiety (paragraph 2 of my message). Understanding both prior to approaching was crucial for me. Once I understood these concepts, My approach anxiety was gone in like 5 approaches. The bigger problem was talking to an absolute stranger who you dont share many interests with. But you face that problem later. Now let me break down the components of approach anxiety for you:
Fear of rejection:
Think about this. When you wanna ask someone for time or directions, you dont have any kind of approach anxiety. Its 0. But when you wanna talk to a girl you like, most men would have high approach anxiety. Ever wondered why so? First is because when asking for time you know exactly what youre gonna talk about. Youre gonna ask time. Or directions. But in the second case you dont know exactly what youre gonna talk about, so you gotta improvise, and also if u wanna get physical with a woman u gotta talk about ANYTHING but getting physical, thats what makes it harder than asking for time. BUT the most important point is this: You are not anxious about approaching to ask for direcrtions. You are only anxious when youre approaching to basically talk about anything but what you want (sex/relationship) with a woman you like. So its not actually approach anxiety. Its fear of rejection. Fear of rejection is because you basically think the girl is better than you, you care about getting rejected, about losing the opportunity with this woman. Imagine approaching a girl you dont like. You dont give a flying fuck if she rejects you or not. You absolutely dont care. (you only might have a little social anxiety because approaching someone randomly to get to know them and potentially get physical is too uncommon in our society, but that gets fixed by a couple approaches, its not a big deal at all unless you're antisocial) This is what you gotta understand and this is not fixable by doing 100 mindless approaches. I fixed this in myself by realising it and doing like 5. It was gone. Also understanding that 99.9% of women are not special, it helps you to not care about losing the opportunity with them.
Social anxiety:
understanding the aspect social dynamics that theres nothing wrong with you liking a girl, wanting to speak to her, understanding that the approach anxiety and any social anxiety is artificial. It is not primal, it does not exist when you are born, it is engrained into you by your parents, your peers, and all of the society during your growing up. Think about children, they can scream, shit, piss, fart, throw food, and do whatever in public and they dont care. If their parents dont tell them to stop, they grow up not caring and never start caring until society, their peers and whoever else tell them to stop doing certain things, such as screaming in public, throwing food, farting, etc. when you get rid of that, you dont care if you approach right away or in 30 seconds or in 5 minutes, because to you its the same thing as asking for time or directions.I've been through this, I've actually been that guy who would think for some time and then do nothing. I've been the guy who would approach right away and say some cringe shit like "I thought you were attractive Whats your name" (not a good line to start a dialogue unless shes a 5 and ur a 8 or shes just really really into you). And I am now the guy who doesnt care if its 5 seconds or 5 minutes, Im confident either way. Not because I tortured myself with mindless approaches, but because I understood the social dynamics behind this kind of interaction and logically realised that the approach anxiety is artifical.
I wasnt tryna write an essay but here it is I guess.. I hope this helps some dude just like me some time ago whos tryna start approaching girls easily. I've been that shy antisocial dude and it was quite a journey to overcome all that, I am now easily approaching when the girl is alone. Still hard for me to approach friends / companies / do bars/clubs, but Im working on it. Im also from a small town so it aint many girls on the streets here, especially attractive ones.
If you've read till the end make sure drop a like and maybe reply something, Id be glad to know someone is resonating with my message. Best places to find A LOT of girls: 1: Giant cosmetics/selfcare store like a giant Sephora 2: a big mall. the bigger the better. the best way to go is the biggest most famous mall in the city or in the area where theres a lot of places where people walk and chill. 3: the biggest/most popular park in your city. 4. the largest pedestrian/historical area where a lot of people take walks, however not too crowded.
😶dude I finished it finally
No ones gonna read that buddy
@@god_zeus4838 wrote dis for myself anyways
Hi i'm in the exact same boat lol, im never anxious to ask for directions or general question to a random girl but as soon as i see a girl i like and i want to approach, i just don't know what to say to them lol, like approaching seems easy but talking is difficult
@@_Pinda_ exactly. heres a lil blueprint howto start a convo in a subway for you. first eye contact, you gotta smile after a couple sec or if first time was too short - on the second time you make eye contact, (once you try a couple times you will learn how to play with the eye contact and smile combo, just like kissing, i could explain to you how to kiss a girl for hours but you really start improvising once you try and get a feel of it). then you come up to her, not too fast, not too close, to not scare her off. ask which stations shes going to. if its alotta uni's there - ask if she studies there, if she lives there, then ask her if shes from here, if not - where she came from. if theres no unis there, ask her "dont you go to uni or something?" and afterwards basically all the same topics. all of her replies will give you small subtle hints and hooks to grip on and start a new thread of the dialogue. Whenever you see an opportunity to be playful or a lil flirty, do that. The more experience you get the more you will catch these moments and improvise on the spot. I was that boring af logical dude too. Trust me, you will change if you put conscious effort.
Honestly Hamza, so much has changed for the better. I still have things to improve in this but I can now casually talk to girls on a normal basis at school compared to a year ago. Thank you and good luck lads 💪🏻
After watched over a million "how to approach" videos, this must be on the top 3 of all time. Thanks H
For someone that says not to chase girls, you sure make a lot of content about them.