BPD & Working- The BPD Bunch S2E3
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- čas přidán 1. 08. 2024
- Xannie, Jess, Carys, Solene and Georgette talk about managing work and BPD!
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About Us:
The BPD bunch is a weekly CZcams talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!
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Disclaimer:
Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
Instead, we hope that by sharing our stories and what was helpful for us, you can gain some insight and direction into your own recovery ❤️🩹
The idealizing and devaluing cycle with jobs is so true for me… has caused many problems for my stability.
Same
Nice to see successful women with careers despite bpd . I have a masters in counseling and have worked as a teacher for 29 years with bpd . Hard as hell but possible .
This thing about being in the hospital after attempting and then feeling like you to be in work the next day - RELATE. Biggest regret of my life was going back to work the day after my discharge
Yeah I at least have a couple days off before going back to work
Working retail and food service is a beast when dealing with BPD symptoms :( and that's currently the only employment i can seek
Can you be more elaborate?
Right Mina? It's pathetic because that's literally the only jobs I'm getting asked on interviews to...I can't even get hired anywhere else. One lady said she liked me then ghosted me it was so rude.
Yeah. Trying to not be stuck in that terrible cycle.
I had to take 2 months of medical leave in 2021 and 8 months of medical leave in 2023 for my mental health. I was in such a dangerous headspace and it was showing at work. I am very fortunate to have medical accommodations including extra breaks and intermittent leave. But I do feel they are holding me back. I've been told I am unreliable even though my work still gets done. Some requests I've made have been denied because of their lack of faith in my remaining with the company. It's disheartening but my job is thankfully very flexible in what I can do every day. I have a very hands-off manager who allows my performance metrics to speak for themselves and doesn't micromanage my moves. He trusts that I know how to get my job done right even with my disabilities and missing time. I'm very very fortunate and thankful.
I can relate to a lot of what you said.
"I used to be a seamstress part time but now this channel eats up most of my time". This comment gives me hope. I want to start my own channel hopefully to never have to return to the corporate world
work is for me a scary jungle. i like my job like my patients cuz they r short interactions but day in day out working with coworkers is very hard. my life at home is quiet and peaceful cuz i keep to myself where no one can hurt me. work is so exhausting mentally dealing with people yet i like my job.
I don’t know what job to do at all 😮? Also I’m 33 so I should probably get my shit together is what it feels like …. ( I get into this cycle on week I want to pursue IT the next week I want to be a bar tender the next week I want to join the army and so on….)It’s fucking exhausting even just thinking about a decision 🤷♀️
I get you 😪🥺😓
Omg I’m going through this now it’s so draining mentally and emotionally smh 🤦🏾♀️ I don’t know what I want to do I’m all over the place and the job I have now is so mentally draining because of all the different components of what I do and demands to be present when I’m so depressed and just don’t want to be bothered most of the time. It’s so challenging.
Im 39 and got so many qualifications yet nothing I can fully commit to doing and stick to it regardless the difficulties.Always one foot out on the look out for something better even thou I have often have no idea what that is
Yeah, if only more of us had the means to “be our bosses” and make our own schedules… I have a feeling the majority of people in the USA with BPD are in a similar boat to me, meaning that’s not their reality. Most likely, we have to work jobs where we’re at the mercy of our companies’ expectations for our productivity.
I understand why you feel that way! And certainly, what I'm doing now with content creation wouldn't be an option for everyone. That said, one of my first independent contractor jobs was working as an office assistant for a small local business. I got to make my own schedule, and the only means required were finding a way to show up. I can't say how many opportunities like that there are, but my experience has been that they do exist!
It's not even those with BPD though it's also those that don't have BPD. I get so sick and tired of doing the same thing over and over again, waking up at the same time, saying hi to the same co workers...hearing the co workers say the same thing..."Happy Friday." Then me joining the cult and doing the same. People aren't going to agree with me I bet but work is a cult and I'm just over it at this point but I'm forced to work because my rent for a box house is flipping $840 a month it's bs and I have roaches in my house to so I'm just in the process of thinking about just living on the street I'm over it.
WOW, I'm blown away and delighted to have found this channel! I wouldn't have known quite what word to use but other comments here have just nailed it: VALIDATED. A lot to ponder - I'm 71 and retired. But "retired" just bites for me, both socially and financially. Time to totally rethink how I'm going about it all. I yam what I yam and it's a bit too late to even try wearing the "perfect" mask. I REALLY appreciate what I've learned from each one of you today. Liked, subscribed, saved to favorites and going to buy a tee - SO happy and grateful in this moment! Thank you. 🙏🏻 🥰♥️
Yes great point made at the end by lawyer lady... My work life has been an on going night mare and I'm sure im not alone in this! Actually could anyone point me to any help / meet ups in the London area? Glad i have discovered the BPD bunch ❤
Thank you for this raw wonderful valuable information.
Wow, this is one of my new favorite CZcams channels!!
this was so validating. i feel like a failure because i haven’t been able to complete anything & i hope to find a path with financial stability but the flexibility.
Great video, very validating and inspiring! Thank you.
I loved hearing you ladies talk about your experiences. If I was talking I would be worrying the whole time that everyone else thinks I’m dumb. Fear of rejection.
Really good content
Thank you girls, it was so helpfull 💖💖
You're so welcome!
I have never had someone have the same name as me, but to spell it like that is absolutely beautiful!!!
it always happens ): even when i hope and pray it’s going well
This a great channel. Are there any resources that can help with choosing a job and really honing on on who you are strengths wise? I ALWAYS want to work but I keep burning out but I would like to keep working at it. I have a baby to provide for!