The Gender War: Navigating Modern Dating and Relationships | Dear Future Wifey Podcast
Vložit
- čas přidán 19. 09. 2023
- In this episode why Are the Genders At War? What is the Dating Climate? Why Are Some Couples At Odds w/ Each Other?
**"Can we all just get along? There's a gender war going on: men against women and women against men. On this episode of the 'Dear Future Wifey Podcast,' we hope to heal and build a better community. Love McPherson, a Certified Marriage and Family Counselor and Relationship Expert, joins us to tackle the tough topic of 'The Gender War.'
CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST
www.lovemcpherson.com/
🔔 Stay Updated! Hit the bell icon for notifications on our latest episodes!
👉 Subscribe for more uplifting stories: / @dearfuturewifey
JOIN OUR MAILING LIST
Stay updated on our latest episodes and events: bit.ly/LRWconnection 💌
THEME SONG
Get the "YOU (Dear Future Wifey)" theme song on iTunes: itunes.apple.com/album/id/1729... 🎵
SUPPORT OUR CAUSE
Donate to Kingdom Royale: Empowering foster kids to become royalty: www.KingdomRoyale.com 👑
MERCHANDISE
Explore our Dear Future Wifey collection: www.DearFutureWifey.com 👕
SUBSCRIBE & SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS
CZcams Channel: / @dearfuturewifey
🍏 Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...
🎵 Google Play: play.google.com/music/m/Iae4c...
🧵 Stitcher: www.stitcher.com/podcast/dear...
🎧 Spotify: open.spotify.com/show/1r3Ba1G...
FOLLOW US
📸 Instagram: / dearfuturewifeypodcast | / laterrasrwhitfield
📘 Facebook: / dearfuturewifey
🐦 Twitter: / dfwifeypodcast
#️⃣ Hashtags
#dearfuturewifey #dearfuturewife #genderwar #moderndating #relationshipstories #relationshipadvice #datingtips #communicationskills #love #marriage #DearFutureWifeyPodcast #LoveMcPherson #DatingClimate #CouplesConflict #LaTerrasWhitfield #christianrelationships #marriageadvice #lovestories #relationshipexperts #FamilyCounselor #podcast
"Love starts with passion and continues with compassion", that's a word!
WASN'T THAT SOMETHING!!!
WHEN she said ..you were on drugs🤣😂😆
HALLELUJAH
A word and then some!
It really was!
32:10 Tailor design what YOUR MARRIAGE LOOKS LIKE
55:26😲😳🤣
Finally a fair (not promoting on gender over another) Christian perspective on dating.
It's so necessary. I appreciate how the host poses questions from a both/and perspective. I noticed another male led podcasts invite similar guests and pose questions in a divisive manner.
This is an excellent topic. I see this black men vs black women battle crap all over CZcams. I'm happy that an actual discussion about it can take place in a respectful mature way.
I feel you on that. I just don’t see why the masses don’t see the trajectory initiated. #blackloversmatter
When are they going to stop we was made to be different anyway not being better than each other, immature!
How many of us come here to read comments before listening to the podcasts? 😊
Me😂
I do to ensure that it's worth it
🙋🏽♀️
@@rakeshamurray5603Yep❗❗
While watching the commercials and waiting 😂😂
Tyler Perry said if a man can pay one bill. Most men of character will not allow his wife to pay all the bills except one bill.
He downplayed what was said.
My GOD Laterras, in the first 10 minutes she was walking so strong, truthful, and heavy!!! I am here for it all!!! This topic has vexed me for a while. Everyone has discounted love and marriage to the no value bargain bin. It’s mind blowing to me. As a whole we treat relationships like we are trying on clothes and when we don’t like the fit so to speak we change. We have removed it’s true purpose of covenant, selflessness, doing life with someone that has your back and vice versa, and the mirrored image of mercy and grace. This episode is everything because she is breaking yokes of delusions. Thank you so very much❤❤❤
If you don't follow her DO! My goodness she keeps it coming💯👊🏽😬. Love me some Love and learn a lot.
This is the perfect comment Queen ❤❤💜💜
@@rhondawade9229 thank you❤️💯
Wow, great comment❤. Thank you
Yessss🤓
As for the bank accounts, I agree wholeheartedly. My ex-wife used to get upset because, while we had a joint account for bills (which I put into alone because I made more money), she wanted us to share all accounts and I refused. She even brought our pastor at the time into it, and he actually AGREED with HER. I still didn’t do it. No way I was going to allow her access to my personal accounts knowing she was bad with money. Didn’t make sense. Awesome episode!
you should have never married her because she was bad with money. she would've squandered your money.
Yessss she is speaking truth!!! I had the pleasure of hearing her speak at the Women Evolve conference last week!! It was a phenomenal experience!!
She had me in the first 12 mins!!! As I get older looks no longer matter. I’m looking for a man with integrity!
Why can’t anyone tell the truth about men’s egos not being able to handle women making more money. Why can’t we ever discuss the depth disparity between people in different income brackets.
Wow great topic and convo, loved when she said:
- "Both genders are not valuing what really matters"
- "Your inner child should not be running your adult relationships"
- "Women's testoterone level is higher than ever"
- "When you're DMing me you're not complimenting me, you're disrepecting me and my hubby therefore I'll invite you to my block party"🤣
Saw myself here too
@01:05:13 That's what I taught myself to forgive my dad, move on and value myself
@01:06:33 Happens to me too sometimes
@01:24:20 Leaving generational blessings start in my singleness, not when I date, am married, have kids
Wow!!!! Teach us!! I know there are still amazing men out there!! And there are still amazing women out there!! Let’s lead with love and stop hurting others!! Praying for the future marriages!!! We got this!
Men are so intimidated by independent women that it has become very hard to date, not all of us are looking fr the six figures, don't get me wrong we want financial stability but I think communication and trust is more important
"You are placing me in a position where I will experience past pain." That really resonated with me!
I really appreciated this interview, especially when she explained the 5 stages of dating ❤
Feminist alert.
This is all a roll of the dice in finding a good relationship. Men and women communicate differently. We view our desires and weaknesses differently. Notice how many men are in here is the dynamic. Men communicate differently. This country is in a transitional and transactional social media narcissism. Look at me, look at my profiles, look at how great I am. Then swipe left.
So true
Preach
Truth!!
What you mean?
It’s only a roll of the dice IF you are not living by and committed to Gods true words of the Bible.
This is honestly where EVERYONE is missing the mark. Relationships & God-ordained unions have little to do with the idea of love we as modern day humans have; there is a specified role of a husband & of a wife, Biblically speaking. Expectations on either end are unrealistic & completely unrelated to the union God truly endorses. So yes, there will ALWAYS be a battle of the sexes.
Also, if you’re deeper in God’s word & via observations as well as several testimonies of former satanists/ witchcraft performers, this battle is 100% spiritual.
I love that she essentially said it is okay to want what you want but speak about it in the dating phase. Keep having your requirements based on your specific circumstances when dating.
For me, I love what some friends do. They both work but they live on one income which literally takes the pressure off. Just because some women want things paid for doesn’t mean she wants a mansion. If she wants a leader and he is a leader, he can say if this then that. So many relationships work that way. I personally wouldn’t just make more and live to a combined standard. I would live to the standard of what he made. Some women’s checks goes towards the kids college fund and other things. This general idea is an option. I wish we can start talking about logical ways people are making thing work instead of bashing others for wanting what they want. Having needs and wants is important as well as communicating it.
Anyhow, I like this lady.
She said you have to put away your inner child in order to have successful adult relationships and when I tell you, I hollered so loud in my car. I have never heard it put that way, but my God is she dead on. Thank you for that word miss love.
Yes we need more women like her In our lives! She has so much wisdom and I truly love this❤ !!! I am married and me and my husband watched this together and have taken mental notes
I know exactly what she is talking about. There was a lot of passion in my marriage at the beginning, and for 19 years, I was giving a lot of compassion and had to decide to let it go. He was an angry person. I agree that it's more about character!! I had to realize that the relationship was not good for me. God is good! I forgave him and moved on. And walking more purposefully! I'm still listening...
Did you ever get to the root of WHY he was so angry? Mom issues, unfulfilled dreams, and get him some therapy. 29 years is such a long time.
@striving1 it was not the will of God for me to stay where I was being abused. And it was 19 years of toxicity since I was 21 years old.. I will never do that to myself again, even if I know the root. He has the responsibility to heal, and so do I. My purpose is renewed and I give God all the glory. God delivered me from that place to which I will never return. And yes to all those issues (Mom issues, trauma, you name it). God literally was the one who told me to let go.
@@suzettecounsels No I'm glad you ultimately chose yourself. I'm just like God help us! Your testimony might save someone else.
@striving1 Thank you!! It's certainly given me more purpose!
@@suzettecounselsAmen!! The issues are typically connected to curses put upon the individual or their family line (generational curses) either from others through connected sins (or just hatred without true reason), or from God as a punishment for sin (the only time God will curse us).. in either case, I’m glad you’ve shifted your focus on God & understand the mission much better now. God will work on him separately if he so desires to receive Him.
This is the convo the world needs! I usually do not comment but had to speak so that Mrs. Love can continue to speak the wisdom that we need. Thank you for this much needed conversation/discussion 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Dr. McPherson is a blessing! Thank you for another life-enriching episode, Bro. Whitfield.
Character, empathy, forgiveness, compassion are very important ( Time gets to test them all)
Friendship, loyalty and openness.
No Guarantees ( if you take your life seriously).
The success of your relationship will depend on the success of your relationship with your self, beautiful.
When you are married and chasing someone else, you DISRESPECT them(testing anyway: true)
Do it afraid, do your thing.
Great show.
This is a very wise woman. Some of what she said made me say “ouch” but I have to look her up. Very very wise.
Yes .much wisdom in her words.
The wisdom that is seated within this phenomenal woman is…. Outstanding!!! She is absolutely one of my favorite people on the planet!! ❤❤❤ Her messages are timeless.
💗💗💗
This woman spot on with having compassion for her husband. Too many non-married women in 2023 lack empathy for men, so much so, that it is a requirement for any woman I am with. I refuse to be with someone who can’t empathize with me!
* who cant..empathy is also a deal breaker for me. It says a lot about a person. Empathy are also kind people. Almost always.
Same here
I think she was saying they should both have compassion for each other. Too many single men in 2023 think it’s all about them and even say women feelings don’t matter. That is a big issue because no woman wants that.
Certain types of men I really struggle to empathize with.
@@naturalyme2 well I am a man and what I’ve learned is that black women who didn’t grow up with a father or men tend to lack empathy for men and don’t know how to deal with men. They don’t know how men operate within a relationship and family in a healthy way. Which is why i wouldn’t date a woman who didn’t grow up with a father or doesn’t have a good relationship with her father!
I'm sorry she isn't available for appointments at this time, but I see why. She's anointed for this.
"Not equal giving but equal sacrifice!!!" Love the way she said that. Was just teaching a couple regarding the use of percentage for managing financially. She just put language to it that I didn't have.
Suzy Orman spoke at length on this topic some years ago regarding percentages. You might be able to find it.
@@Regina.Clarke thank you!! 😊 I'll check it out
We have to be culturally specific in these conversations so we don't ignored our history. I share this because within the Black Community, for the most part Black Woman have always worked. So technically for the past 100 years Black woman have brought some finances to the table alongside their men. Black woman worked during slavery - after emancipation as domestic workers, entrepreneurs such as hair dressers, door to door saleswomen, mid wives, teachers, nurses - civil rights era ushered the modern era of Black women in corporate America, academia, and tech. So for these conversation we must first audit our past so we have have a more contextualized present conversation about redefining Black gender roles, and expectations. I do believe within the Black community our finances are more egalitarian.
I shared this because at the top of the conversation the guest friend shared her friend said in the past "that men would come in with their success and things" and "Now" Black woman are bringing the same things to the table so it is making gender roles unclear. But Black woman and men in 1965 were both given the right to go to college around 1965 and "change their trajectory" of their families lives. So I keep asking, what time period were only Black men the sole providers of success and money in the American context?
Good points, but I think that biblical standards for marriage trump societal norms and history. It's not easy, but as black folks, we can't let the past keep us bound by mindsets that prevent us from having fruitful relationships. That means we have our work to do, but it's necessary.
I agree. It’s interesting bc we don’t have social scientists on the podcast to actually run through the numbers.
As someone with a basic college degree, I have read enough to know the average black family is more likely to be egalitarian than the average white household. BW contribute financially and are not opposed to working - we have always worked. This idea that BW are soooo superficial and only care about money is absurd bc the data is not showing that. If we cared about money that much, we’d pick a different group of men to mate with. Clearly love is considered more important than prestige or finances.
Atp I’m like, can you contextualize these talking points and fact check them? Making excuses for a community that is under educated and underemployed is not helping us.
Yes, we have always brought something financial to the table. However "eqaul" rights racially and the ability to get an higher education helped us become financial stable without the man. Before we needed that two income household to survive.
I see a man being able to cry as actually being able to express himself emotionally not just telling me he loves me. A man to me that can’t cry is a beast.
For real…I need to see he is human and we all have emotions. A man that does not cry, will not cry is DANGEROUS.
Agreed
Love McPherson is working her gift! She absolutely walking in excellence 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 . What an insightful conversation
I’ve always said the same thing. I have no health issues at 51 years old. It’s also one of the secrets I believe why I look youthful. I CRY to God. I will never carry that stuff.
1. What's important is the character of a man... 2. This is excellent! 3. It's their trauma that's repelling love. Thank you- This is a whole therapy session!
Exactly what she's saying. I remember telling my ex husband over and over again that I needed more than the couple of pennies he threw my way. He was so use to being the sole provider, he didn't know how to treat a woman. All he was use to doing is pay bills, well some of us can pay our bills, what else you got to offer? Zero compassion, zero affection, literally treat me like a man.... Sir bye.
Yes, Same story! Boy Byeeee!
Wow!! Same here! This is the very reason I left my EX. Good man and provider but was never taught how to treat a woman. And he wasn’t an abuser he just didn’t know how to be in a relationship which is really sad. 🫤
Dr. Love McPherson is the truth ❤. Excited about this episode!
We are in a moment where we simply do not listen to one another. We vet each other through the filter of social media “narratives” and unresolved issues. We are not open to be loved from a genuine place because we have bought into the notion that every man or women is the sum total of the person you were in a failed relationship with. No need to ask what the other brings to the table, because the issue is neither is coming to the table honestly. Who are you when the adjectives and titles are removed? How does “alpha male or boss chick” equate to character and integrity?
So true, people need to learn the art of vulnerability in relationships, but it's hard because many folks have been hurt so much, myself included.
Amen!
This....
I wish I could hit the "like button" a dozen more times. She is dropping gems 💎 throughout this podcast! ✨️ 🙂 Thank you hon, thank you 🙏
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾You know a podcast is good when you have to keep rewinding to hear it again, then pause to pray cause the nuggets was eating THEN touch and agree while screaming YES Lord cause God is just so amazing when we submit and receive 🥹🙏🏾🙌🏾
Same here!! It was sooo good!!!
Absolutely beautiful! Kiwi vs lollipop! And the 1st Corinthians breakdown. Beautifully said! I’m thrown. I’ve done my work and this just made my soul sing. My soon to be husband and I will have a beautiful marriage because of many of things she mentioned. Do your work everyone! Thank you Miss Love
This is the only episode I believe I have to watch twice because it has so many important elements that I know missed and I need to digest them.
Me too. I watched this episode twice!
This is my FAVORITE INTERVIEW. She’s very helpful. I will definitely re-watch this. I loved the writing down of thoughts & talking back to self about thinking patterns. That’s why I love journaling & my therapist! Doing the work on my inner child has changed my life for the better!! 💕 🎉
I’m going to run this back a few times. This has been my favorite episode yo date. So many good, real, healthy and encouraging gems. The spirit is sweet and encouraging on this one.
She is amazing!!! Just this conversation alone opened my eyes to things about myself and my relationship. This is the type of therapy that is really hard to find. Thank you For having Love on your show. She was very balanced with her views on the current gender war and what marriage really looks like.💕💕💕
I have been on a healing journey from my last relationship where my ex told me that "I changed." I've tried to understand how can a man who said he loved me, witness his significant other, of 2+ years, going through sickness which lead to financial insecurity and tell me that "I changed" and then break up with me. And it has really bothered me. Well, Mrs. Love. "Love starts with passion and continues with compassion." Thank you for this word which has added to my healing.
Come on Love!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am not even 15 minutes in and she's delivering a powerful message!! A message that I hope our men and women get!!! This is why we are losing or have lost so many generations!!! Nobody is teaching this stuff anymore! Everybody has turned a deaf ear to sound doctrine and solid food! Instead they want to be fed instant meals! Thx God there are still people standing in the gap! The world won't shift until everyone does their part & shift and stop going with every wind & new trend that is blowing or coming along. We all are guilty of it. ! Myself included! A'int no healing until we start kneeling! Periodt! Thanks Love! Thx LW for opening the door for God to timely usher this beautiful woman in to sit on this yellow couch! 🙏🙏🙏
Loving this info about the brain dump around minute 58:00. I also love the notes to self -and talking back to self. I’ve started doing that and it really helps - written and voice notes.
Ma'am, this closing just wrecked me! I needed that! Thank you!
Powerful episode!!! "We must put away our inner child" to have a successful adult relationship!!! This episode!!!!!! Yesssss. Loved everything said here. ❤️ So encouraged to keep going.
‼️‼️‼️
I watched this episode 3 times, back to back! So powerful!!
This is what we needed!!! I'm getting these books. I love her presence and her compassion in delivering this information.
This my favorite episode of the season!☺️💜
This was an excellent discussion from a married woman's perspective. I havent finished the whole convo but 15 minutes in my ears are wide open. I even sent this to the single ladies i know. The real talk an Auntie would give. Marriage can be wonderful
This was a great episode ❤❤❤. It was a mini therapy session that was very helpful.
This is great practical advice. Love McPherson this was a sound advice for dating at all stages and ages. Thanks for your contribution. I am looking forward to reading the book and workbook!😊💚
I love her rationale. It just makes sense. Ive always felt that all the money should not go in one pot because one party could abuse it. Ecxellent! Laterras you never fail with the guest you have on your show! I cried listening to the end of this!
Thank so much for this beautiful conversation that was needed!! I’m so grateful for you Laterese for your platform. I came from old school with no social media when we didn’t this type of platform. We needed these tools, I had to figure out this dating game on my own No Communication from my parents.❤️🙏🏾
What a beautiful conversation! Thank you again, Laterras!
My God! I didn't want this episode to end! It was soooo good!
My thoughts exactly!
This was so good. I almost got up holla'd I have to watch again and take notes. Thank you for blessing us with Dr McPherson.❤
This episode was absolutely amazing, refreshing, & necessary!!!! As always, thank you, Laterras!!!! Thank you, Mrs. McPherson!!!! GOD BLESS YOU BOTH!!!!
Wow!!! Is all I can say! Thank you for the message and the opportunity to continue to learn.
She’s such a treat!! I wasn’t even 15 mins in & was like this so feeding my soul. I seriously needed to hear this right now. Thank you. Blessings ❤️💜🦋🙏🏾
I’m here watching again for the 2nd time and there probably will be a 3rd and 4th this was my FAVORITE EPISODE OUT OF ALL SEASONS!!!
Definitely in my top 5
Everything she said spoke directly to me especially the last part when you and her talked about your nephew/son on how he talks himself out of a project and then gets upset when he does not feel as successful as his peers. That’s hit me to the core, I am the same I have so many great ideas and projects I would like to accomplish it’s the fear of of starting and talking myself out of because I feel no one will listen or watch or buy.
I am definitely going to purchase her books and join her FB groups to connect with her and others. I am watching again and taking my notes.
I really Loved! Loved! Loved! This episode
This was an awesome discussion
Please bring her back
Absolutely Awesome 👏🏾
I just love the knowledge, transparency and maturity of this conversation and podcast.
I very rarely comment, but this is such a spiritual quencher! Mrs. Love you radiate GOD all through your work and your words are anointed. Thank you for blessing us with this special treat on Dear Future wifey! Amazing!
I absolutely loved this episode! I went and bought her book! 😬 Excited to read it.
This was a GREAT podcast! I love the facts & realness she was giving. I bought the book!
Fabulous episode!🔥🔥 Fabulous letter! 🥺🥲
Had to add a 2nd comment! This was one of my favorite of your interviews!! So educational and like eating spiritual food. Thank you for your service in the Kingdom 🙏🏽
Love this! Very informative! It has me thinking. I love how she breaks things down. Thank you, Dr. Love! Thank you, Laterras! Keep Shining!
Unconditional love is not unconditional relationship... 😢 that's deep
The biggest success in your relationship depends on your relationship success within yourself.
Change comes by revelation or devastation
This was so good
Very much needed épisode! Thank you ❤
I blamed my self for all the trauma from a very young age, most of my life. I felt so sad and for what my parents, sisters, friends, relationships, and family member experienced. I always tried to show them love when I didn't even know how to love myself and they would continue to hurt me. JESUS taught me how to remove them all from my life, loving them in my prayers for them. Healing is not easy. Today, I'm doing the best I can. For the first time this year I'm learning not to be hard on myself, speaking affirmations, accepting me for me, and embracing what I'm good at. I am very grateful and thankful for JESUS' LOVE, GOD'S GRACE because HE taught me through reading HIS word and others praying for me. Still to this day I am thankful I feel my😇Grandmothers prayers.
Ms. Love have helped me more then any other guest. Thank you so much. Keep serving the single and married community. I will be purchasing the book 😊❤
I’ve never come across Queen LOVE before today. I am so here for THIS one!!
Thank you, LW!
This episode was so good. Thank you!
Beautifully done …affirmation… confirmation… sooooo many nuggets!!!!! still covering you and praying her in brother🙏🏽
Many powerful nuggets for the heart and mind !! Thank you for introducing us to her Laterras.
"Change comes by revelation or devastation. " I positively ❤ this! This is as REAL as it gets!
I'm gone say THIS and I'm done, "Pick your potion and put it in motion." 😒 🤔
Eeeeee ma
This revelation so good!
I loved this episode, she gave a lot of good insight real fast!!! The nephew-son is the cutest thing!!
That makes so much sense Dr Love!
This episode was so powerful and impacting!!
❤ Beautiful🎉 Thank you so much!!! I’ve already ordered both the workbook and paperback!!!❤
Amazing show, as usual.
I got tears when you said you are up to so many viewers after just starting during the pandemic. I had no clue you were so new. You embody being a host so gracefully. 🎉
LADARREN YOU BETTA START THAT CHANNEL!! IM WAITING WE WILL SUPPORT ! Dont overthink it, you have to start somewhere!! You are more than capable!!! Your a product of Laterras, you have no choice but to succeed in WHATEVER YOU DO!!! ALso amazing Episode as usual !!
Awesome!! Awesome!!! Episode! I’ve been following Mrs. Love for a coupe of years. She has helped me tremendously! I can’t afford the group coaching, but God!! This blessed me and gave me so much confirmation! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Wow this is a powerful one. Thank you! thank you!❤❤❤
Just ordered all your books and joined the group.
I enjoyed this interview. Thank you for sharing Laterras!
1:12:55
That just made me feel validated AND ENCOURAGED
" The difference between me and you is I do everything afraid!"❤
Thank you for doing you Mr Whitfield👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💪🏾❤️
This was absolutely amazing!
The bar has been set high !!!! She’s amazing ❤
Thank you again for another session of free therapy 😊
I loved this episode! Thank you Laterras, for allowing us to take this journey with you. You better cry and cleanse yourself. 🤣 You have the best guests on. I saw Love McPherson at Women Evolve and I loved the session, it was much needed. This podcast is such a blessing. Thank you Love for the concept of Notes to Self, I need to revisit some journals and write some Notes to Self, regarding the lessons learned. Congratulations on the purchase of your new home❣️🎉
Glad you enjoyed it!
Thank you and I needed to hear this.
This was beautiful! ❤thx u for all your knowledge and experience
Amazing Episode! This is one of my favorites!❤❤