It kills me that people can tell me "Oh my god, you are so quiet! Why don't you talk?' Yet, I am rude if I were to say "My god, you are so loud! Why can't you stop talking?'
I am an introvert and honestly, the pandemic was a perfect example of extroverts and introverts. Extroverts were losing their minds meanwhile introverts called that time a REAL vacation.
TRUE!!! The only buzzkill for me was not being able to go to the cinema or swimming 😅 I did miss seeing my classmates in person, but I had pretty much NO problems during COVID! 😂
Introversion is NOT shyness. They are different concepts. I’m not shy at all, I go out into the world and am very outgoing, bubbly, chatty, and love to see my friends. But once I’m done, I look forward to returning home and require A LOT of alone time to recharge. I’m very comfortable and happy sitting home alone and doing my independent quiet hobbies. I am introverted even if it doesn’t look that way to people who think introverts are all quiet, insecure shy people.
Well I'm not bubbly or chatty myself, I don't mind going out in the world sometimes too, and like you I definitely enjoy peace and quiet. I just prefer doing my own thing. And some people have never been able to understand that.
At the time of the lockdown I couldn't understand why people was so uncomfortable being indoors and not connecting with people. For me it's another normal day.
My family had no clue what to do during lock down and it was hilarious to see them try to find ways to entertain themselves inside our home. I think the lock down helped them realize that being comfortable by yourself is pretty hard and an acquired skill too. They looked so lost and I was having the time of my life.
I never realized I NEEDED that alone time before the pandemic but during lockdowns I was in such a healthier place that even now years years later it’s hard to let go of that and find balance again because I was so healthy alone, I don’t know how to be that with people again but also the world simply will not let me be alone so alas I am back and in an even worse state knowing I need alone time and not being able to get it lol
I'm very verbal & not particularly shy, but I get overwhelmed and/or drained by interacting with people. In social situations I disappear periodically, or find a book to look at or an animal to talk to...then after a few minutes I am back in the group being scintillating again. This was a very interesting episode, & they gave it to my favorite narrator. I really appreciate her delivery; very natural & conversational.
Yeah, I'm one of those people who needs several days ahead of time to amp herself up for any social interactions, and then a few more days afterwards just to rest.
I’m the same way! People are convinced I’m an extrovert because I’m verbal and seemingly outgoing, but they don’t see when I have to disappear and regain energy by talking to a pet while at a house party or slip away to be alone before rejoining the group. Does that make us extroverted introverts?
I know most people call it junk science but this is MBTI type INFJ 🙋🏾♀️ I'm 49% extraverted 51% introverted. I'm the same.sometimes I go climb a tree during a party where no one can find me😅 or stay with a pet etc.HATE small talk and always find the shy person in a room and try to make them feel comfortable 💕 honestly I feel INFJ memes understand me better than Anyone in my life.I have an Infp sibling who is super quiet and almost a hermit.But I understand why she is that way.
Also a big miss-conception is that those who have social anxiety are automatically introverted. It's not necessarily their social battery that's the reason for not wanting to socialize, it's more they get anxious on how to talk to people, which is a big difference
I deeply recommend the book. "Ouiet" by Susan Cain. It perfectly explains how the world values the extrovert more than introverts and the importance of valuing both equally to each other
People nowadays will eagerly share every single detail of their personal lives to not only people they know, but to total strangers on the internet. But sure, the people who prefer to keep to themselves are the weird ones.
@AmyThePuddytat Correct; introverts still require human interaction to remain mentally healthy, that's a normal human trait. However, you will not convince me that sharing everything on social media is normal or healthy. This comment only serves the purpose of expressing an opinion. Have a great day!
Pam Beasley is my all time favorite introverted character. Her struggles were so relatable. When she said sometimes people act like she didn't exist , I felt that.
I'm an introvert, an INFP to be specific, but i would love an extrovert version of this video just to see what entertainment and the general public gets wrong about them
I'm an extroverted introvert. I can entertain myself alone for very long periods of time. I don't mind social interaction but deep conversation is way easier and more energizing than small talk. I can be outgoing in certain situations if I'm comfortable but trying to cold approach people in bars (or having them cold approach me) is painful.
I am an ambivert. One of my favorite singers, Barbra Streisand, I learned by reading her memoir, is an introvert, and I think we've come a way into accepting introvertness from the famous. But, man, most of how people demonized her was a society not knowing how to respond to her desire for privacy and to maintain it so well.
Being an introvert and being confident are not opposites. I was introverted and shy. People would always pressure me to be more outgoing and extraverted which made me feel like there was something wrong with me. The lesson I learned is its okay to be introverted but not okay to be shy. Shyness is a fear of others while being introverted means you're just not drawn towards the music and spotlight at a party. Introverts should push themselves to meet and talk to people but shouldn't feel ashamed to not want to be in the middle of the dance floor. In school everyone studies in groups but I study alone and that's fine with me as long as I'm scoring higher than everybody else.
@@henriettebopda5895 shyness is a fear that applies to both intro and extroverts where you don't feel comfortable in their own skin and fear judgment. Introverts especially have it rough bec the expectation is for everyone to be super outgoing and people make you feel guilty for not. Introverts shouldn't be afraid to introduce themselves and talk to people they find interesting but don't feel bad if you don't want to be in the center of a million people you don't know or care about. In short, don't push yourself to be like everyone wants you to be and also dont be afraid of others
I hate the introvert trope of someone only being an introvert due to trauma or some other distress. I hate relating to a quiet or reserved character only to have them be extroverted only after having their trauma resolved. It gives the impression that being an introvert is a trauma response and not a natural preference. 😔 Edit: Introvert, extrovert and ambivert are just how you get and recharge energy. Because introverts get recharged by being alone, we TEND to be more reserved and closed off, just like because extroverts recharge with others, they TEND to be very social and outgoing. You can be an introvert and a social buttery, and you can be an extrovert and shy.
We actually talked about this in school, according to my teacher; Introvert = charges energy by being alone and looses energy from being around people Extrovert = charges energy by being around people and looses energy from being alone Obviously this is very simplistic but I think in the end it rings true because it doesn’t mean you are shy, or don’t like people or anything like that.
I thought something was wrong with me for years - why didn’t I enjoy partying, why did I always wanna stay home, why was I so nervous in big groups?… Then Introversion started being talked about a lot more and it all made sense.
Funny because i always believed that I was an introvert. But Someone once told me that she felt like i was more of an ambivert. I can totally agree with that.
In my childhood I was an extrovert, once I became a teen I started being more introverted. And yes the thing about parties, yikes, always hated them and felt uncomfortable being at random people's houses with the extra loud music forcing you to shout instead of speaking.
I'm the extrovert that introverts adopt to handle social situations. They know I can take care of the conversation and social energy while they sit back and just enjoy being as social as they feel comfortable, and I will never push them to speak more than they want. Also, it's funny, but I'm an extrovert with social anxiety. Wanting to recharge my energy being around people while getting drained by all the overthinking is certainly challenging.
I hate the "I'm an introvert because I'm shy/I like reading/I'm not cool" BS. It's not about that. It's about stimuli, social interactions and "coping" mechanisms. All of that related to recharging/draining energy.
Extroverts are the sun that brings lightness throughout the day. And introverts are the moon that lights up the night. Both are different. But equally important to the sky.
Even this video complies to the stereotypes though, constantly associating introversion with being "quiet." I'm a loud-mouthed introvert and so are some of my best friends. We are bold, socially graceful, and never shut up. We are performers who love the spotlight. We just need alone time to recharge and reflect, more so than extroverts.
In my head, I’m Benedict but when I’m out and about, I’m Francesca. I was never a very social person, rarely meeting up with friends outside of school, but the pandemic definitely affected me in terms of interacting with people my age. I recently moved back to my home country after several years but still haven’t gone out much. Some might call me lazy. I won’t go too into detail but I really feel all the changes I’ve gone through have drained me. I’d like to have a more stable life by the end of the year, though. What I really wonder about, though, is what my social life will be like. In the months leading up to my move, I fantasised about completely reinventing myself, simply letting go of inhibitions I’ve had in the past and becoming a very loud, outgoing person. It’s obviously not that easy. But anyway, it’s basically led to me wondering what I really am like. The gears in my head are always whirring with thoughts about my writing and just things in life in general but I rarely express those thoughts out loud. I really would like to form close friendships but I don’t know what “role” I would play in a friend group. I don’t want to be quiet and as a result more ignored but I don’t know if I’d really be a party animal... I know none of this makes sense, probably, I’m just hitting my random thoughts down lol
As an introvert who went through the teen years in the 1980s, I was frustrated that all the introverted characters on TV and in film seemed to be guys; it was somehow okay for guys to enjoy solitude and to love reading and to have creative interests, yet girls, it seemed, were always focused on the social aspects of school and life and were super-concerned with being popular. In this respect, TV has made MASSIVE progress, and we're starting to see more and more lady introverts on screen. At long last, I feel seen.
There's a huge difference between cognitive extroversion and social extroversion. Many cognitive extroverts are still social introverts. It literally means focused externally on the world, not necessarily on people. Some people are action oriented, adventurers, discoverers, adrenaline junkies, which are extroverted activities, but you can, and often prefer to do it alone, or 1:1. Also, do not conflate introversion and extroversion with shyness. There are introverts who are confident, and extroverts, who might desire social interaction, but also experience extreme anxiety all the time. Being introverted or extroverted isn't special, nor is one realistically valued over the other. In society, being able to collaborate is what advanced us from the stone age, hence, it's valued for the impact on humanity as a whole. And a lot of the things require input collected and distributed by extroverts, but processed and adapted by introverts, before being distributed and executed by extroverts respectively. I am focused externally on the world, for example. But, if we're not talking MBTI or Jung, I'd consider myself a social introvert and quite a recluse. I can guarantee you a lot of those celebrities that label themselves as introverted would begin their MBTI with an E, if analyzed by cognitive function. And about the prejudice against introverts... tell me three genuinely nice things you'd say about an extrovert, that you personally value, not what you assume is valued by others. I think most self proclaimed introverts (in fact majority of the population) can't.
3 things i value about extroverts. 1) they get me out of the house and bring the stoke 2) they make excellent wingmen/guard dogs. I defer all my extroverted needs to my 6'4" dooface guy friend (kronk was useful sometimes) 🤣❤ 3) they check in often as much as its annoying sometimes its nice to know you arent completely forgotten about.
I'm an autistic Introvert who grew up somewhere in Europe where down-to-earthness is favored over being outgoing like seemingly in America, still back in school I'm used to being the throwaway friend who's usually quiet and more absorbed in drawing & thinking about life then in engaging in superficial conversation-topics. But seriously human-society wouldn't have been as great today if weren't for more introverted or lonewolf people like Albert Einstein and Nikola Tesla and Abraham Lincoln. Introverts might not be as vocally demanding for respect but that doesn't change the fact the more introverted folk deserve respect and better representation too.
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A message to some introverts out there: please stop using the excuse of being an introvert to justify your pity party. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being an introvert and most people don't mind you being quieter. Being an introvert doesn't justify your social ineptitude and it also doesn't justify you treating extroverts as if they have it easier. Of course, they tend to connect with people more easily, but they are much more likely to be considered annoying by others, and they also have difficulty dealing with solitary activities. Everyone has difficulties in some areas of life and ease in others. Try to bring light to your strengths instead of only criticizing someone who thrives on your weaknesses.
I think a lot of people think I'm an extrovert cos when I am in public I am usually able to handle myself in a very social-forward way, I speak confidently, I don't stutter and rarely 'um', etc. But maaaan I am such an introvert. I work in customer service and after work every day I usually have had my entire fill of people for the day and have no social energy left. So if I have to do something in any way social after work, that's when people will really notice my introversion cos I become deeply quiet at that point cos the switch needs turned off.
I was doing my diploma in elementary education and one of our teachers' was explaining to us on how to deal with children with different personalities and the way she was describing an introvert child was as if he/she is suffering from a disease and that irritated me so much as I am an introvert myself and to see that this is what some teachers think introversion is really frustrating.
That's horrible. I was always made to feel like there was something wrong with me because I've always been introverted and felt uncomfortable speaking up in class (a lot may have been because I was bullied by my peers). I felt like I was hugely damaged in some way.
1:05 this is very important. many people, who are not my friends, have told me that i'm shy. i can't help but burst out laughing. one time a classmate told me that in front of one of my oldest friends and we coundn't breathe for at least 7 minutes, we were cry laughing
Def an ambivert that sways more extroverted. I like to work alone, hate working sales, and need time to recharge alone throughout the week to function. However, I need daily social interactions to feel alive, love to party, love public speaking, am very confident and like to “hold-court” as a “life of the party” type in social situations, etc
My introvert side tends to flare up when I’m dealing with unnecessary drama or stupidity. Noise level can be a factor, but it’s not always the main driver.
Many call me an Extrovert because I like socializing and making people laugh - even people I’m meeting for the first time. But I prefer working alone. I hate team work. And I prefer working out alone too. I also enjoy solo activities like doing puzzles and watching TV. So I don’t even know what I am anymore lol
I am an ambivert who is also autistic. So what that means is I'm energised *in the moment* around people I know, love, and most importantly trust wholeheartedly, but as soon as the social situation is done, I have a massive drop and need that alone time with my interests/hobbies to recharge my batteries. The autism means if I'm surrounded by strangers or by people I know but don't really trust, I can shut down. Also, the video clip of introverts making a phone call with the "please don't pick up" then going into the bright and perky voice is 1000% true to my life.
Paige despite her short time in Teen Wolf was a decent representation of introverts And Jack Harper of 2018's "Can You Keep A Secret?" who is played by the amazing Tyler Hoechlin is also an accurate presentation of an introvert and in real life he is actually one
I hate group projects, I don't always want to talk, I don't want to talk to everyone, I leave parties early, and I don't pack my schedule with social events. I need to retreat to my little cave or run off into the fresh air to function as a person.
A proud Aquarius introvert with 4 Aquarius placements in my sun/moon/mars & Venus! 😏♒️ I’m a thinker & observer. I like deep conversation, and genuine people. Most just want to be nosey, don’t play with me, you’re going to wish I kept my mouth closed! ♒️💜
Also duos such as that highlights intro-extro relationship Enid and wednesday Geto and gojo Carina and maya Nick and Charlie Optimus prime and bumblebee.
I am right in the middle and I know both extrems. I have difficulties identifying with one side because I have also been on the other side. Sometimes it switches multiple times during one day…
Poor social skills are not the same as Introversion. Extraverts have a higher capacity social battery, which allows them to practice social interaction more, which tends to make them better at it. Inteoverts can, and i think should, still learn social skills, they just may not apply them as often. Introversion also doesn't necessarily mean that someone is more introspective, but it may because they have more practice being alone sitting with their own thoughts.
yep different tendencies allow more opportunities to practice. So don t blame for the introvert or extrovert. The core to the theme is more deliberate practice
Favourite Introverts: - Miranda Hobbes (SATC) - Katharine Hepburn - Greta Garbo - Elinor Dashwood (‘Sense & Sensibility’) - Bridget Jones (‘Bridget Jones’s Diary) - Isaac Henderson (‘Heartstopper’) - Lara Jean (‘To All The Boys…’) Favourite Extroverts: - Pooh (K3G) - Tallulah Bankhead - Samantha Jones (SATC) - Erin Brockovich (the movie version) - Geet (‘Jab We Met’)
How is Bridget Jones an introvert? She’s socially awkward, yes, but that’s because she often doesn’t think before she opens her mouth. She’s always out on the town and very much involved in her friends’ and family’s lives.
@@vanessaheine8093 She’s usually shown by herself, enjoys her own company occasionally, her social connections extends to a few people, she enjoys solitary activities and is socially awkward
@@PokhrajRoy. it’s pretty pointless to argue with strangers on the internet but here we go: she is rarely on her own except when at home. She doesn’t seem to have many hobbies that she does on her own. I’m an extrovert and I like my alone time at home but I thrive amongst people as Bridget clearly does. She’s not socially awkward, she just says dumb stuff a lot. In addition, she’s based on Lizzie Bennett who is in no way an introvert. The Bridget in the books in particular is out all the time. The only “alone” thing she actually does is write in her diary. She galvanises an entire prison cell of woman to sing Madonna in a push up bra, for gods sake! How is that in any way introverted? Does she travel on her own? Go for walks, spend time in nature on her own? No. She goes to a garden party dressed up as a playboy bunny, wears a see-through top at work, flirts with her boss, embarrasses him in front of the whole office when she publicly quits, and appears on camera with her bum on show. Bridget is a brilliant, awkward and hilarious extroverted queen. The only reason we only see a limited number of her social circle is because the movies couldn’t keep introducing new characters. But she had a massive social net that includes “jellyfish” Rebecca.
I am still not 100% percent acceptant of the fact that i am an introvert, it is just hard to accept oneself when everybody demands you to be loud and get out of your shell and a lot of people kinda act like you are either dumb or an a**hole for being quietk (specially in university and in the workplace)
I'm a shy extrovert - I enjoy going out and engaging in social activities, but maintaining relationships with people can be difficult at times. I do my best to socialize and make friendly acquaintances with people, but most of them are so busy with their own lives in this day and age to make time for me even when I try to make time for them. And a lot of times it's just difficult finding someone to relate to who you can feel comfortable around with and make you feel comfortable with yourself. More often than not I'm largely ignored. It doesn't help that I'm on the Spectrum, and although I am higher functioning (Autism with Preserved Intellect), sadly it's even harder for me to be associated with other members of my kind. I prefer neurotypical people, and I don't want to be defined by my disability, but be seen as a human being who's no different from the rest, just trying to live life out on my own terms and find someone out there who can understand and accept me for who I am!
I agree, it's not a battle on who's better than the other, we need both, around 50-50 like it's already. Also in eastern society, it's prettry the opposite (and it's not better). Personally, I'm extroverted introvert, so I need people but I need alone time but I need people, it's a difficult balance to maintain.
When a large majority of the population claims to be introverted the word looses all meaning. How many people say they're extroverts? It's better to just judge characters, but even that is difficult. There are so many other factors like an extrovert might not like people or an introvert might like them and social anxiety is a separate thing.
(see username) I remember having a breakdown in a restaurant during a family vacation some time during elementary school. When my mom asked what was wrong, all I could say was "There's been too many people for too long." I'm so grateful that of my two best friends, one is a fellow introvert and the other is an ambivert - she understands our need for movie nights at home but also gets us out to do things we otherwise wouldn't have tried.
Introversion does not always equal meekness or being a pushover, just like extroversion does not always equal boldness and confidence. No one is a monolith and its good to remember that.
What I dislike the most about this is when people ask me "oh are you shy? You seem like a sjy person"....wel duhhhh now leave me alone. It's such a stupid question. What if someone is not shy but simply doesn't like to talk all the time 🙄
One important thing to remember is even Jung was quoted as saying, “There is no such thing as a pure ‐ extrovert or a pure introvert. Such a man would be in the lunatic asylum. Those are only terms to designate a certain penchant, a certain tendency.”
I think I'm starting to become more introverted as I get older. It's most noticable when I'm at work I got to breaks or lunch O like to go to the cafeteria when there are little no people around or if off somewhwere not too many people go. My neighbor is very queit especially at night. That use to bug me when I was in my teens & 20s but now I enjoy it. Oddly enough when the pandemic was happening I was on edge because I was a very out going person. I still like going out but I noticed I haven't been going out as much
Hermione seems like an extrovert/ambivert to me. One of the first times we see her, she is helping Neville go door to door looking for his toad, plus she always raises her hand in class. She's definitely not quiet. Even when she reads, she's usually not alone. I don't see her taking breaks from socializing. She's just a bit socially awkward and stiff (more so in the books). Idk 🤷♀️
A lot of people in the comments are talking about normalizing introversion, yet it seems that no one wants to claim shyness as their atribute. It seems that sitting at home and being by yourself should be congratulated, while being shy is still embarassing somehow. I really don't get that, it shouldn't be this way. If we're celebrating introversion, we should accept shy people just as much.
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It kills me that people can tell me "Oh my god, you are so quiet! Why don't you talk?' Yet, I am rude if I were to say "My god, you are so loud! Why can't you stop talking?'
I do sometimes ask myself why some people cannot shut up, and have to share everything, and I'm truly baffled by them.
This is how i feel at work
or "blurting out every thought you have does not make you sound smart, not all of your ideas are good ideas"
People DO say that s-t. Literally. ALL. THE. TIME. People are punished for sincerity and passion. On either side of the spectrum.
Thank you for succinctly summarizing my teenage years...😅 Ah...the trauma of middle and high school ☠
I am an introvert and honestly, the pandemic was a perfect example of extroverts and introverts. Extroverts were losing their minds meanwhile introverts called that time a REAL vacation.
True 😂 i was so relaxed while my parents freaked out. They even started to go to the supermarket twice a day buying stuff we didn't need
TRUE!!! The only buzzkill for me was not being able to go to the cinema or swimming 😅
I did miss seeing my classmates in person, but I had pretty much NO problems during COVID! 😂
Man I was like: “there was a pandemic?”
Introversion is NOT shyness. They are different concepts. I’m not shy at all, I go out into the world and am very outgoing, bubbly, chatty, and love to see my friends. But once I’m done, I look forward to returning home and require A LOT of alone time to recharge. I’m very comfortable and happy sitting home alone and doing my independent quiet hobbies. I am introverted even if it doesn’t look that way to people who think introverts are all quiet, insecure shy people.
This ❤
Agreed. I'm an outgoing introvert- I like to socialize with my friends, but I need to be alone and "re-charge" once I hit my limit.
Well I'm not bubbly or chatty myself, I don't mind going out in the world sometimes too, and like you I definitely enjoy peace and quiet.
I just prefer doing my own thing. And some people have never been able to understand that.
At the time of the lockdown I couldn't understand why people was so uncomfortable being indoors and not connecting with people. For me it's another normal day.
I was grateful that staying home and not socializing was expected of us 😂
My family had no clue what to do during lock down and it was hilarious to see them try to find ways to entertain themselves inside our home. I think the lock down helped them realize that being comfortable by yourself is pretty hard and an acquired skill too. They looked so lost and I was having the time of my life.
I never realized I NEEDED that alone time before the pandemic but during lockdowns I was in such a healthier place that even now years years later it’s hard to let go of that and find balance again because I was so healthy alone, I don’t know how to be that with people again but also the world simply will not let me be alone so alas I am back and in an even worse state knowing I need alone time and not being able to get it lol
I'm very verbal & not particularly shy, but I get overwhelmed and/or drained by interacting with people. In social situations I disappear periodically, or find a book to look at or an animal to talk to...then after a few minutes I am back in the group being scintillating again. This was a very interesting episode, & they gave it to my favorite narrator. I really appreciate her delivery; very natural & conversational.
Yeah, I'm one of those people who needs several days ahead of time to amp herself up for any social interactions, and then a few more days afterwards just to rest.
I’m the same way! People are convinced I’m an extrovert because I’m verbal and seemingly outgoing, but they don’t see when I have to disappear and regain energy by talking to a pet while at a house party or slip away to be alone before rejoining the group. Does that make us extroverted introverts?
I know most people call it junk science but this is MBTI type INFJ 🙋🏾♀️ I'm 49% extraverted 51% introverted. I'm the same.sometimes I go climb a tree during a party where no one can find me😅 or stay with a pet etc.HATE small talk and always find the shy person in a room and try to make them feel comfortable 💕 honestly I feel INFJ memes understand me better than Anyone in my life.I have an Infp sibling who is super quiet and almost a hermit.But I understand why she is that way.
@@unicornwitchprincess1004same!
Also a big miss-conception is that those who have social anxiety are automatically introverted. It's not necessarily their social battery that's the reason for not wanting to socialize, it's more they get anxious on how to talk to people, which is a big difference
This! Needs to be said more often. People with social anxiety need more support than those who are introverted.
This comment makes me feel seen. Thank you
I deeply recommend the book. "Ouiet" by Susan Cain. It perfectly explains how the world values the extrovert more than introverts and the importance of valuing both equally to each other
Excellent book. The Introvert Advantage: How Quiet People Can Thrive in an Extrovert World by Marti Olsen Laney is also a good read.
People nowadays will eagerly share every single detail of their personal lives to not only people they know, but to total strangers on the internet. But sure, the people who prefer to keep to themselves are the weird ones.
You posted this here to strangers for no reason other than to have human interaction too.
@AmyThePuddytat Correct; introverts still require human interaction to remain mentally healthy, that's a normal human trait. However, you will not convince me that sharing everything on social media is normal or healthy. This comment only serves the purpose of expressing an opinion.
Have a great day!
@@ManiaMac1613 Nobody shares everything.
Pam Beasley is my all time favorite introverted character. Her struggles were so relatable. When she said sometimes people act like she didn't exist , I felt that.
The most annoying thing society gets wrong about introversion is they confuse them with shyness. Society has a problem with shyness, not introversion.
This!
Nah it has a problem with both.
I remember a psychologist saying, "Being introverted doesn't mean they don't feel things, it means they can feel things more intensely."
As an introvert who struggles in this extroverted world, I thank you for this thoughtful analysis ☺
It's not an extroverted world. You're the privileged half of the population who doesn't need people.
I'm an introvert, an INFP to be specific, but i would love an extrovert version of this video just to see what entertainment and the general public gets wrong about them
Me too, what's your enneagram
I’m an INTJ.
Aww hi fellow INFP! Very INFP of you to even wonder that 😂 love my folks bc SAME
INTJ here
As an INxJ, I'd love to see that too. There's no way a extroversion-dominated society doesn't also put pressure on the extroverts themselves.
Proud introvert
I'm an extroverted introvert. I can entertain myself alone for very long periods of time. I don't mind social interaction but deep conversation is way easier and more energizing than small talk. I can be outgoing in certain situations if I'm comfortable but trying to cold approach people in bars (or having them cold approach me) is painful.
I am an ambivert. One of my favorite singers, Barbra Streisand, I learned by reading her memoir, is an introvert, and I think we've come a way into accepting introvertness from the famous. But, man, most of how people demonized her was a society not knowing how to respond to her desire for privacy and to maintain it so well.
Being an introvert and being confident are not opposites.
I was introverted and shy. People would always pressure me to be more outgoing and extraverted which made me feel like there was something wrong with me. The lesson I learned is its okay to be introverted but not okay to be shy. Shyness is a fear of others while being introverted means you're just not drawn towards the music and spotlight at a party. Introverts should push themselves to meet and talk to people but shouldn't feel ashamed to not want to be in the middle of the dance floor. In school everyone studies in groups but I study alone and that's fine with me as long as I'm scoring higher than everybody else.
I am an introvert and over confident to the fault
Why is it not ok To be shy?
@@henriettebopda5895 shyness is a fear that applies to both intro and extroverts where you don't feel comfortable in their own skin and fear judgment. Introverts especially have it rough bec the expectation is for everyone to be super outgoing and people make you feel guilty for not. Introverts shouldn't be afraid to introduce themselves and talk to people they find interesting but don't feel bad if you don't want to be in the center of a million people you don't know or care about.
In short, don't push yourself to be like everyone wants you to be and also dont be afraid of others
I hate the introvert trope of someone only being an introvert due to trauma or some other distress. I hate relating to a quiet or reserved character only to have them be extroverted only after having their trauma resolved. It gives the impression that being an introvert is a trauma response and not a natural preference. 😔
Edit: Introvert, extrovert and ambivert are just how you get and recharge energy. Because introverts get recharged by being alone, we TEND to be more reserved and closed off, just like because extroverts recharge with others, they TEND to be very social and outgoing. You can be an introvert and a social buttery, and you can be an extrovert and shy.
We actually talked about this in school, according to my teacher;
Introvert = charges energy by being alone and looses energy from being around people
Extrovert = charges energy by being around people and looses energy from being alone
Obviously this is very simplistic but I think in the end it rings true because it doesn’t mean you are shy, or don’t like people or anything like that.
That's it.
Yall keep knocking these out of the park!!! As an introvert myself, I’m also an INFP, I feel so deeply seen and loved right now 🥰🥰
I thought something was wrong with me for years - why didn’t I enjoy partying, why did I always wanna stay home, why was I so nervous in big groups?… Then Introversion started being talked about a lot more and it all made sense.
Same but my parents still think that " i am not normal" because i dont go out like they used to.
As an ambivert, there’s hardly any representation of it. Either it’s ’sad person with weird hobbies’ or ‘party animal who humiliates nerds’.
Funny because i always believed that I was an introvert. But Someone once told me that she felt like i was more of an ambivert. I can totally agree with that.
Another fellow ambivert here! I would also like to see more about ambiverts.
In my childhood I was an extrovert, once I became a teen I started being more introverted. And yes the thing about parties, yikes, always hated them and felt uncomfortable being at random people's houses with the extra loud music forcing you to shout instead of speaking.
I'm the extrovert that introverts adopt to handle social situations. They know I can take care of the conversation and social energy while they sit back and just enjoy being as social as they feel comfortable, and I will never push them to speak more than they want.
Also, it's funny, but I'm an extrovert with social anxiety. Wanting to recharge my energy being around people while getting drained by all the overthinking is certainly challenging.
I hate the "I'm an introvert because I'm shy/I like reading/I'm not cool" BS. It's not about that. It's about stimuli, social interactions and "coping" mechanisms. All of that related to recharging/draining energy.
True, it's not as much about personality as how it's about what you just mentioned.
Exactly
Extroverts are the sun that brings lightness throughout the day. And introverts are the moon that lights up the night. Both are different. But equally important to the sky.
As an introvert, I can say this video is right on the money about us
INFJ here, I would love for the west to accommodate introverts more 🙂↕️.
Same ❤
From this day on any time someone asks “why are you so quiet?” I’m gonna return serve with “why can you never shut the f*ck up?” 😊
Even this video complies to the stereotypes though, constantly associating introversion with being "quiet." I'm a loud-mouthed introvert and so are some of my best friends. We are bold, socially graceful, and never shut up. We are performers who love the spotlight. We just need alone time to recharge and reflect, more so than extroverts.
In my head, I’m Benedict but when I’m out and about, I’m Francesca.
I was never a very social person, rarely meeting up with friends outside of school, but the pandemic definitely affected me in terms of interacting with people my age. I recently moved back to my home country after several years but still haven’t gone out much. Some might call me lazy. I won’t go too into detail but I really feel all the changes I’ve gone through have drained me. I’d like to have a more stable life by the end of the year, though.
What I really wonder about, though, is what my social life will be like. In the months leading up to my move, I fantasised about completely reinventing myself, simply letting go of inhibitions I’ve had in the past and becoming a very loud, outgoing person. It’s obviously not that easy. But anyway, it’s basically led to me wondering what I really am like. The gears in my head are always whirring with thoughts about my writing and just things in life in general but I rarely express those thoughts out loud. I really would like to form close friendships but I don’t know what “role” I would play in a friend group. I don’t want to be quiet and as a result more ignored but I don’t know if I’d really be a party animal... I know none of this makes sense, probably, I’m just hitting my random thoughts down lol
“An extrovert gets energy from being around other people, and an introvert doesn’t like you.”
- Mike Birbiglia
As an introvert who went through the teen years in the 1980s, I was frustrated that all the introverted characters on TV and in film seemed to be guys; it was somehow okay for guys to enjoy solitude and to love reading and to have creative interests, yet girls, it seemed, were always focused on the social aspects of school and life and were super-concerned with being popular.
In this respect, TV has made MASSIVE progress, and we're starting to see more and more lady introverts on screen. At long last, I feel seen.
I was also a teen in the 1980s, and being an introvert back then as a girl was so difficult.
There's a huge difference between cognitive extroversion and social extroversion. Many cognitive extroverts are still social introverts. It literally means focused externally on the world, not necessarily on people. Some people are action oriented, adventurers, discoverers, adrenaline junkies, which are extroverted activities, but you can, and often prefer to do it alone, or 1:1. Also, do not conflate introversion and extroversion with shyness. There are introverts who are confident, and extroverts, who might desire social interaction, but also experience extreme anxiety all the time. Being introverted or extroverted isn't special, nor is one realistically valued over the other. In society, being able to collaborate is what advanced us from the stone age, hence, it's valued for the impact on humanity as a whole. And a lot of the things require input collected and distributed by extroverts, but processed and adapted by introverts, before being distributed and executed by extroverts respectively.
I am focused externally on the world, for example. But, if we're not talking MBTI or Jung, I'd consider myself a social introvert and quite a recluse. I can guarantee you a lot of those celebrities that label themselves as introverted would begin their MBTI with an E, if analyzed by cognitive function.
And about the prejudice against introverts... tell me three genuinely nice things you'd say about an extrovert, that you personally value, not what you assume is valued by others. I think most self proclaimed introverts (in fact majority of the population) can't.
3 things i value about extroverts.
1) they get me out of the house and bring the stoke
2) they make excellent wingmen/guard dogs. I defer all my extroverted needs to my 6'4" dooface guy friend (kronk was useful sometimes) 🤣❤
3) they check in often as much as its annoying sometimes its nice to know you arent completely forgotten about.
I'm an autistic Introvert who grew up somewhere in Europe where down-to-earthness is favored over being outgoing like seemingly in America, still back in school I'm used to being the throwaway friend who's usually quiet and more absorbed in drawing & thinking about life then in engaging in superficial conversation-topics. But seriously human-society wouldn't have been as great today if weren't for more introverted or lonewolf people like Albert Einstein and Nikola Tesla and Abraham Lincoln. Introverts might not be as vocally demanding for respect but that doesn't change the fact the more introverted folk deserve respect and better representation too.
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Do a vid on extroverts!
I’m an INFJ….so people believe that I’m extroverted because of my “authentic” personality and natural leadership skills! Help!!!
Ambivert
A message to some introverts out there:
please stop using the excuse of being an introvert to justify your pity party. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being an introvert and most people don't mind you being quieter. Being an introvert doesn't justify your social ineptitude and it also doesn't justify you treating extroverts as if they have it easier. Of course, they tend to connect with people more easily, but they are much more likely to be considered annoying by others, and they also have difficulty dealing with solitary activities.
Everyone has difficulties in some areas of life and ease in others. Try to bring light to your strengths instead of only criticizing someone who thrives on your weaknesses.
As a sociable introvert (possible ambivert) who always gets questioned when identifying as one, I appreciate the acknowledgement!
I think a lot of people think I'm an extrovert cos when I am in public I am usually able to handle myself in a very social-forward way, I speak confidently, I don't stutter and rarely 'um', etc. But maaaan I am such an introvert. I work in customer service and after work every day I usually have had my entire fill of people for the day and have no social energy left. So if I have to do something in any way social after work, that's when people will really notice my introversion cos I become deeply quiet at that point cos the switch needs turned off.
Daniel Day Lewis, arguably the acting GOAT, is an introvert.
I was doing my diploma in elementary education and one of our teachers' was explaining to us on how to deal with children with different personalities and the way she was describing an introvert child was as if he/she is suffering from a disease and that irritated me so much as I am an introvert myself and to see that this is what some teachers think introversion is really frustrating.
That's horrible. I was always made to feel like there was something wrong with me because I've always been introverted and felt uncomfortable speaking up in class (a lot may have been because I was bullied by my peers). I felt like I was hugely damaged in some way.
1:05 this is very important. many people, who are not my friends, have told me that i'm shy. i can't help but burst out laughing. one time a classmate told me that in front of one of my oldest friends and we coundn't breathe for at least 7 minutes, we were cry laughing
Def an ambivert that sways more extroverted. I like to work alone, hate working sales, and need time to recharge alone throughout the week to function. However, I need daily social interactions to feel alive, love to party, love public speaking, am very confident and like to “hold-court” as a “life of the party” type in social situations, etc
My introvert side tends to flare up when I’m dealing with unnecessary drama or stupidity. Noise level can be a factor, but it’s not always the main driver.
Don't even get me started on being a ND introvert 😂
Many call me an Extrovert because I like socializing and making people laugh - even people I’m meeting for the first time. But I prefer working alone. I hate team work. And I prefer working out alone too. I also enjoy solo activities like doing puzzles and watching TV. So I don’t even know what I am anymore lol
I am an ambivert who is also autistic. So what that means is I'm energised *in the moment* around people I know, love, and most importantly trust wholeheartedly, but as soon as the social situation is done, I have a massive drop and need that alone time with my interests/hobbies to recharge my batteries. The autism means if I'm surrounded by strangers or by people I know but don't really trust, I can shut down.
Also, the video clip of introverts making a phone call with the "please don't pick up" then going into the bright and perky voice is 1000% true to my life.
Paige despite her short time in Teen Wolf was a decent representation of introverts
And Jack Harper of 2018's "Can You Keep A Secret?" who is played by the amazing Tyler Hoechlin is also an accurate presentation of an introvert and in real life he is actually one
I hate group projects, I don't always want to talk, I don't want to talk to everyone, I leave parties early, and I don't pack my schedule with social events. I need to retreat to my little cave or run off into the fresh air to function as a person.
A proud Aquarius introvert with 4 Aquarius placements in my sun/moon/mars & Venus! 😏♒️
I’m a thinker & observer. I like deep conversation, and genuine people.
Most just want to be nosey, don’t play with me, you’re going to wish I kept my mouth closed! ♒️💜
5:34 Ugh I’m such a Type A in group and no one ever thinks I’m a good leader. Not in school, not at university.
“Which fork are you choosing” SENT MEEE I CANNOTTTT
My favorite introverted actor is Keanu reeves.
I am a full on Introvert and my favorite introverted actors are Kristen Stewart, Emma Watson and Keanu Reeves. ❤
Also duos such as that highlights intro-extro relationship
Enid and wednesday
Geto and gojo
Carina and maya
Nick and Charlie
Optimus prime and bumblebee.
I love this. I watch the Take all the time and just realized I wasn't subscribed! LOL I just subscribed... 🤣
I am right in the middle and I know both extrems. I have difficulties identifying with one side because I have also been on the other side. Sometimes it switches multiple times during one day…
Poor social skills are not the same as Introversion. Extraverts have a higher capacity social battery, which allows them to practice social interaction more, which tends to make them better at it. Inteoverts can, and i think should, still learn social skills, they just may not apply them as often.
Introversion also doesn't necessarily mean that someone is more introspective, but it may because they have more practice being alone sitting with their own thoughts.
yep different tendencies allow more opportunities to practice. So don t blame for the introvert or extrovert. The core to the theme is more deliberate practice
Favourite Introverts:
- Miranda Hobbes (SATC)
- Katharine Hepburn
- Greta Garbo
- Elinor Dashwood (‘Sense & Sensibility’)
- Bridget Jones (‘Bridget Jones’s Diary)
- Isaac Henderson (‘Heartstopper’)
- Lara Jean (‘To All The Boys…’)
Favourite Extroverts:
- Pooh (K3G)
- Tallulah Bankhead
- Samantha Jones (SATC)
- Erin Brockovich (the movie version)
- Geet (‘Jab We Met’)
How is Bridget Jones an introvert? She’s socially awkward, yes, but that’s because she often doesn’t think before she opens her mouth. She’s always out on the town and very much involved in her friends’ and family’s lives.
@@vanessaheine8093 There are introverts who party and have fun with limited amount of people. Not every introvert is a hermit
@@PokhrajRoy. no but what evidence do you have that BJ is an introvert?
@@vanessaheine8093 She’s usually shown by herself, enjoys her own company occasionally, her social connections extends to a few people, she enjoys solitary activities and is socially awkward
@@PokhrajRoy. it’s pretty pointless to argue with strangers on the internet but here we go: she is rarely on her own except when at home. She doesn’t seem to have many hobbies that she does on her own. I’m an extrovert and I like my alone time at home but I thrive amongst people as Bridget clearly does. She’s not socially awkward, she just says dumb stuff a lot. In addition, she’s based on Lizzie Bennett who is in no way an introvert. The Bridget in the books in particular is out all the time. The only “alone” thing she actually does is write in her diary. She galvanises an entire prison cell of woman to sing Madonna in a push up bra, for gods sake! How is that in any way introverted? Does she travel on her own? Go for walks, spend time in nature on her own? No. She goes to a garden party dressed up as a playboy bunny, wears a see-through top at work, flirts with her boss, embarrasses him in front of the whole office when she publicly quits, and appears on camera with her bum on show. Bridget is a brilliant, awkward and hilarious extroverted queen. The only reason we only see a limited number of her social circle is because the movies couldn’t keep introducing new characters. But she had a massive social net that includes “jellyfish” Rebecca.
I don't know how I missed this video when it was dropped but it's made me feel so validated and so have a lot of the comments as well ❤
I love shy celebrities. Rooney Mara and Emma D'arcy are incredibly shyyyy and quite awkward. And I love them!
I am still not 100% percent acceptant of the fact that i am an introvert, it is just hard to accept oneself when everybody demands you to be loud and get out of your shell and a lot of people kinda act like you are either dumb or an a**hole for being quietk (specially in university and in the workplace)
5:30 Lol half of my French conversation exercises were: “Hey, do you want to make plans for hiking and swimming and canoeing?”
This video was so validating.
I love your channel so much.
Your videos are insightful and progressive, expand my knowledge and make me feel better about myself. Thank you the Take!
This video makes me feel so seen! Thank you.
I'm a shy extrovert - I enjoy going out and engaging in social activities, but maintaining relationships with people can be difficult at times. I do my best to socialize and make friendly acquaintances with people, but most of them are so busy with their own lives in this day and age to make time for me even when I try to make time for them. And a lot of times it's just difficult finding someone to relate to who you can feel comfortable around with and make you feel comfortable with yourself. More often than not I'm largely ignored.
It doesn't help that I'm on the Spectrum, and although I am higher functioning (Autism with Preserved Intellect), sadly it's even harder for me to be associated with other members of my kind. I prefer neurotypical people, and I don't want to be defined by my disability, but be seen as a human being who's no different from the rest, just trying to live life out on my own terms and find someone out there who can understand and accept me for who I am!
6:24 All eyes were on Mike Faist when he didn’t even speak that much in interviews.
I agree, it's not a battle on who's better than the other, we need both, around 50-50 like it's already. Also in eastern society, it's prettry the opposite (and it's not better).
Personally, I'm extroverted introvert, so I need people but I need alone time but I need people, it's a difficult balance to maintain.
When a large majority of the population claims to be introverted the word looses all meaning. How many people say they're extroverts? It's better to just judge characters, but even that is difficult. There are so many other factors like an extrovert might not like people or an introvert might like them and social anxiety is a separate thing.
Well damn, little bit of a spoiler for those of us behind on The Bear😅
(see username)
I remember having a breakdown in a restaurant during a family vacation some time during elementary school. When my mom asked what was wrong, all I could say was "There's been too many people for too long." I'm so grateful that of my two best friends, one is a fellow introvert and the other is an ambivert - she understands our need for movie nights at home but also gets us out to do things we otherwise wouldn't have tried.
6:04 Yes, I got a lot of “You’re so annoying” when it was just me making lame jokes.
Introversion does not always equal meekness or being a pushover, just like extroversion does not always equal boldness and confidence. No one is a monolith and its good to remember that.
What I dislike the most about this is when people ask me "oh are you shy? You seem like a sjy person"....wel duhhhh now leave me alone. It's such a stupid question. What if someone is not shy but simply doesn't like to talk all the time 🙄
One important thing to remember is even Jung was quoted as saying, “There is no such thing as a pure ‐ extrovert or a pure introvert. Such a man would be in the lunatic asylum. Those are only terms to designate a certain penchant, a certain tendency.”
Zendaya & Keanu...introverted virgo royalty!
Rooney Mara is my favorite celeb introvert
As an introvert, I love the recent Wenders film: Perfect Days.
How many of DC universe's heroes are introverts?
I wonder
I think I'm starting to become more introverted as I get older. It's most noticable when I'm at work I got to breaks or lunch O like to go to the cafeteria when there are little no people around or if off somewhwere not too many people go. My neighbor is very queit especially at night. That use to bug me when I was in my teens & 20s but now I enjoy it. Oddly enough when the pandemic was happening I was on edge because I was a very out going person. I still like going out but I noticed I haven't been going out as much
Sydney is the first fellow Black girl introvert I’ve ever seen depicted on TV
How is Bridget Jones an introvert?
Justice for introverts please.
Hermione seems like an extrovert/ambivert to me. One of the first times we see her, she is helping Neville go door to door looking for his toad, plus she always raises her hand in class. She's definitely not quiet. Even when she reads, she's usually not alone. I don't see her taking breaks from socializing. She's just a bit socially awkward and stiff (more so in the books). Idk 🤷♀️
Hate the internet’s trend of basically bragging about how introverted one is, though. Super annoying.
Great episode.I think I’m an introvert
A lot of people in the comments are talking about normalizing introversion, yet it seems that no one wants to claim shyness as their atribute. It seems that sitting at home and being by yourself should be congratulated, while being shy is still embarassing somehow. I really don't get that, it shouldn't be this way. If we're celebrating introversion, we should accept shy people just as much.
4:46 Isaac Henderson from ‘Heartstopper’
Thanks.I am an introvert
Being an introvert has become cool and quirky.
12:23 It was the fridge, not the freezer. If Carmy got locked in the freezer, he'd be dead.
Adam Driver is practically a cryptid at this point, but not afraid to yell and show his ass if the script demands it
Introverts have much higher IQs on average. *Knowledge* is a form of power
11:12 Lmaoooo me in school
Emma Watson ❤.
Silence is key.
Thanks
Looking forward to the video under appreciated extrovert
10:10 More recently, Chappell Roan.
I consider myself a Failure.