How to Let Go of Chasing Weight Loss

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  • čas přidán 23. 07. 2024
  • HOW TO LET GO OF CHASING WEIGHT LOSS? - Many people who binge eat are starting to recognise the impact trying to lose weight has on their eating. For some of us, intentionally seeking out weight loss is a big part of how our binge eating was triggered to begin with. More and more people are shunning diets and the culture that expects us to be constantly working on shrinking our bodies. The problem is that the desire to lose weight has been around for a long time and it has a habit of coming back.
    In this video I talk about how we find the willingness to keep letting go when it comes to pursuing a smaller body.
    My book, I Can't Stop Eating, is available on Amazon amzn.to/3a6M6Hb​ and a CZcams version for free here www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qr5qm...
    Website - thebingeeatingtherapist.com/​...
    Instagram - / the_binge_eating_thera...

Komentáře • 34

  • @forvalsa
    @forvalsa Před 3 lety +50

    Dear Sarah, there are A LOT of "help with binge eating" videos on youtube and frankly, after a while, they all seemed to be saying the same over and over again... I don't know how youtube recommended your channel to me but I am glad it did! you definitely give original and helpful content here.... I hope it reaches more and more people each day! thank you!

    • @TheBingeEatingTherapist
      @TheBingeEatingTherapist  Před 3 lety

      Thanks Ana! I’m glad you are here and very happy to hear my content is resonating with you ❤️

  • @camiladz1043
    @camiladz1043 Před 6 měsíci +10

    Why hasn't this channel gone viral yet? There is great wisdom in every video, I just can't stop watching

    • @TheBingeEatingTherapist
      @TheBingeEatingTherapist  Před 6 měsíci +3

      I'm glad my videos are speaking to you. My content doesn't work for the YT algorithm. This isn't the content most people want. When you're in pain you want quick fixes and promises of transformation. I really understand that and I think people find my content when they are ready to hear it.

  • @katharinemelanson1330
    @katharinemelanson1330 Před 4 měsíci +3

    One of the most life changing ideas you've taught me is the importance of asking the question: "Are you eating enough?" When I honestly answered this question, I realized how I had been setting myself up for dysregulation.
    Since changing my mindset and habits about when I need to eat, I have radically improved in all areas of my life. The starvation/binge cycle had literally been causing so much of my dysregulation.
    So thank you! Thank you for helping me find this solution, and for sharing your message about self compassion, curiosity, and working with our parts rather than against them.

  • @ettena93
    @ettena93 Před rokem +8

    You have the most beautiful, soulful eyes. It's not hard to see you're a generous and kind person. Thank you for creating content for those of us who want to recover. Sad such a normal eating disorder is so overlooked. All the "help" is all about dieting and not about our emotions or trauma. This is motivating instead of shameful ❤ I have been to therapy and have lost weight and dealt with a lot of issues, but it's so easy to relapse when you're surrounded by your "drug" of choice.

  • @Chskss-mx4zl
    @Chskss-mx4zl Před 4 měsíci +4

    everything you say applies to me. That pain principle for example when someone says that I eat so much I feel so bad I reduce my eating for one day but the pain reduces after that person says sorry to me and then I go back to my binge eating habits. I serached day and night for a solution but no person ever talked about this except you

  • @Just...Peachy
    @Just...Peachy Před rokem +4

    It hadn't occurred to me that I could live my life without being on the newest diet to finally lose weight. It's a terrifying thought! I feel like I'll go off the rails and gain a bunch of weight. I'm going to give it a try though because this way of living isn't working out.

  • @iantrigue6159
    @iantrigue6159 Před 3 lety +9

    I am still reading Sarah's book but I have never had my behaviour and thought processes so well described by a stranger. Really insightful, I hope I can use this information to update my paradigm on eating and weight loss, which has troubled me for so much of my life.

  • @digitalfroot
    @digitalfroot Před rokem +4

    I am so unbelievably grateful for you

  • @Cara-Milich
    @Cara-Milich Před 6 měsíci +2

    What a great idea to make binge foods only allowed at the table. I also went through the purging and its been my non negotiable for ages now but i keep clinging to other things. I call it moving ocd

  • @nsalv3155
    @nsalv3155 Před 3 lety +6

    This was so helpful. I'm going to implement the rule you mentioned of only eating binge foods at the table. I think that will be mighty helpful. In fact, I started using it last night (forgot to comment on here) and feel so peaceful this morning that I didn't just veg out and eat things that will upset my stomach the next day! Thanks Sarah, Natalia 😊

  • @lanagrace133
    @lanagrace133 Před 2 lety +4

    For me gentle weight loss but focusing on just nourishing my body is helping. I can’t just not focus on weight loss. It feels motivating to pair it with health and other motivations.

    • @TheBingeEatingTherapist
      @TheBingeEatingTherapist  Před 2 lety +3

      As long as it’s working for you. If focusing on weight loss doesn’t derail your eating (as it did for me). Then focus on whatever you need to in order to find freedom from bingeing ❤️❤️

    • @ettena93
      @ettena93 Před rokem +2

      It didn't click for me until I started working out. That made me connect the importance of eating right with my physical performance. And then I noticed it in sleep quality, mental clarity and all round wellness. Weight lifting in particular is amazing, because it made me crave real food instead of junk. Not to mention it made me feel good, so I felt less need to binge whenever I felt sad or anxious. Now I go for a run instead when I feel upset, so I can think it through while doing something good for my body. Trying my best to be neutral about my weight was also a huge help, especially when I started losing fat. It's important to be clear headed about weightloss when you have struggled with food. It would be a shame to dip into anorexia or orthorexia territory, but sadly a lot of people cycle between EDs. So far so good 🙏 I wish I had a support system when I was younger, it's messy to deal with this after years of suffering from BED. My poor body...

    • @lynncrf
      @lynncrf Před 7 měsíci

      ​@@ettena93Have you lost weight just from weights and running?

  • @fuzulihanim8073
    @fuzulihanim8073 Před 3 měsíci

    I’ve binging.. I mean my new binge is watching your videos

  • @lydiatps
    @lydiatps Před 2 lety

    this is very helpful, thanks for making this!

  • @TZB2011
    @TZB2011 Před 2 lety +2

    Ms.Sarah Dosanjh, your video is simply awesome precisely with its empathetical notes. Let me say it in a more personal manner, you have a beautiful face with a soothing voice and kind-hearted eyes. The four phenomenal points you have shared are excellent and easy to connect such as the real pain should lead, the thoughts for gain (the rewards) must be motivated, have less negotiated approaches against binge eating and fix yourself in the values by constant reflection. Continue your mission, Sarah, all the best too, from India!

  • @kaiya1969
    @kaiya1969 Před 2 lety +5

    I struggle with binge eating but I truly need to lose fat. I am almost 300lbs and want to have a child. I cannot carry a child healthily at this weight.

    • @Mrslovett007
      @Mrslovett007 Před 2 lety +3

      I understand you! I am 320 lbs and only 5 foot 2 inches :(

  • @nicolaerskine8665
    @nicolaerskine8665 Před 3 lety +1

    Great video. I'm going to definitely try eating binge foods at the table only. Just finished reading your book and it really resonated with me. Thank you!

    • @squirrelmummy
      @squirrelmummy Před rokem

      Did it help? I find I have no trouble eating all my binge foods up the table in the same quantity with no distraction. Made no difference 😢

  • @sonyacampion579
    @sonyacampion579 Před 2 lety

    You are my ‘light bulb moment’ thank you so very much for your videos . X

  • @ellenmargrethelarsen80

    Yes it was helpful and comforting 😀

  • @jemmawhitehouse1043
    @jemmawhitehouse1043 Před 3 lety +2

    Great video x

  • @allisonabante5038
    @allisonabante5038 Před 2 lety

    i just want to let u know how amazing u are and i am so grateful for what u are doing for other people who are struggling with eating disorders. i also want to ask how u managed to stop the purging after binging because i feel like i would rather die than to not purge after a binge. u mentioned that in order to stop the binging, purging needs to stop first but i really do not know how i could resist purging after a binge.

  • @pattyvaporis4574
    @pattyvaporis4574 Před 9 měsíci

    perfectly expressed

  • @suzannekazmiruk3675
    @suzannekazmiruk3675 Před 2 lety +3

    I've managed to let go of seeking any more weight loss since I ditched all powders (sweeteners and flours), my weight normalized. I know everyone wants to do moderation but for a die-hard sugar addict, abstaining is easier. It hasn't cured my binge eating but has definitely reduced the number of times I feed my feelings. I find your calm, kind advice extremely helpful. Thank-you for all you do.

  • @louisaleslie9225
    @louisaleslie9225 Před 8 měsíci

    Amazing content. Thanks for everything you do. You are truly amazing and you make so much sense of what is a really complex problem. It’s annoying that there is an advert for an over forties diet immediately before all of your videos. I guess CZcams are in control of that 🤔 I just thought it was ironic! Diet culture is everywhere!

    • @TheBingeEatingTherapist
      @TheBingeEatingTherapist  Před 8 měsíci +2

      Urgh! I know! Unfortunately, you’re right YT control the ads and they are different ads for different people so the ad you see may not be the same as someone else

  • @ItsJustMyWeigh
    @ItsJustMyWeigh Před 5 měsíci

    I would never even thing if eating the foids that I eat in front of the TV at night. I could care less about these foids. Not even a fleeting thought of them. I really enjoy what I eat during the day straight through dinner. Then the chaos begins. It's as if I am completely disassociate from the food. Many times it's the act of eating it that is conforting somehow (at times I actually don't even taste or like the taste of what I am eating very much).It is crunchy or creamy. Salty or sweet (sometimes both at once). I don't generally keep trigger foods in the house. Sometimes, I get into my husband's stash though (when whatever is going on with me is really bad). I just don't understand.