Hello my lovelies, I knew making this video there would be a chance of people not particularly liking this style and that’s a risk I was willing to take to find out what works! I want to stress I don’t know Lori, we don’t know Lori, my case study was solely about her as a young woman with the limited info we know about her and I confidently stated that this wasn’t for the basis of comparison but I understand how some women may feel. I will continue to stick to my usual style of videos that don’t include celebrities or public figures. I don’t usually jump on popular topics but like I said this was requested. Please check out the two other videos I have made on femininity in the past 😊 be blessed! czcams.com/video/Q6z5JI90dZU/video.html how to be: feminine czcams.com/video/UkCXWqtD860/video.html why men are intimidated by you. ♥️
Always great trying out new things, I personally don’t have anything against this video, but you asked for our opinion so I will say I Looove your other content, I think this just wasn’t for me, I found it hard to relate but the bottom line the points you made were great and I’m sure it’s for someone! 😘😘
I don’t think you need to apologize.You said nothing but the truth.Those who aren’t very feminine are most likely the ones saying that you’re being “judgemental”.I saw your other videos about femininity and loved them!Self love and femininity truly go hand in hand.Thanks for this video!Your content is always amazing🤍
Cara Wade at the same time not every woman has to be feminine... we are all different and shouldn’t be placed on a standard of a certain person aka Lori Harvey
The difference between Lori and many of us is that she has family. She has a whole support system. Children like her will always exude this kind of energy. Girls that have supportive fathers, brothers etc. They usually exhibit strong yet subtle femininity. Love the vid.
Soooooo true. I didnt have a support system & I often wondered where my Femininity went. I didn’t have a father figure or a feminine woman to shadow. I was sooo masculine as a child and young lady
The biggest thing Lori does is make the most of herself. Yeah she's lightskin with light eyes blah blah but she dresses very well, no heavy make up with terrible wig, she eats well, stays in shape, she's well spoken, she dates to a certain standard (let's be honest we knew it wouldn't last with Future), she's quite peaceful and leaves people to think what they think. I see SO MANY black girls do the exact opposite of everything I just listed. So don't be Lori, just do what Lori has done: be you, but the best you.
One of the assets Lori has is beauty. Natural beauty, that definitely aids in her feminine appeal. Her make up is soft and inviting. Not too much contour or harsh colored weaves. She knows her strengths.
@@Diamond_InTheRuff exactly do it for you bc one way or another someone else will love and care for you just as you are. They do it for themselves not a man or to please anyone
Loved this! I think Rihanna is an excellent example of this also, especially as she's grown older. She exudes this divine feminine energy, is "sexy" yet at the same time is able to command respect in a room. I definitely think this kind of energy starts from within first.
There should be one done on Aaliyah. She was gorgeous, sweet, articulate...she exuded a powerful goddess feminine energy yet still a mysterious, edgy, masculine side.
@@emileigh6524 to be fair she was quite young and didn’t know right from wrong. She still needed a lot of growth and maturity to happen. But I get what you mean.
I have been called a “girly girl” all my life. But I have an issue with the femininity channels. Now I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting to be more feminine, whatever that means to you. But a lot of times it seems that these channels simply like to tell girls to act less like themselves so that men can appreciate them. That is just too damn tiring.
I agree, I think they have good intention however I feel they should clarify these are their PERSONAL preferences and to remember to always be yourself and to take these suggestions lightly as it is their own personal preferences and everyone is different and has different tastes. That being said everyone’s their own kind of sexy! 🤍
@@nasriinmohamed7865 yeah me too. I find a way to apply what they say to my own life. I don't want to be a feminine copy-paste. I wanna use my feminine energy but still remain being me.
I’m really thankful that you said this. I watched this yesterday and it’s been on my mind all day lol. Not gonna lie, after watching I began to feel a little insecure. I know the video wasn’t meant to send this message, but I felt like the idea of feminine energy was for a woman to minimize herself or “play it small” to be adorned. This comment thread really helped me to feel better and remind myself to make adjustments where I think is necessary. Not everything will apply for everyone, but I have to create my own idea of female energy and own it.
Yes, most of these femininity channels are very one dimensional. Check out Chrissie’s second channel. She breaks down all different types of femininity. I learned that I don’t fit in these boxes that the youtubers try to put “feminine” women in so, I take their advice with a grain of salt and tailor certain things to my own life.
Lori is so pretty but Breeny is bomb and beautiful ❤️ every women reading this message, remember that you are valuable and you deserve the best in life 💕you are beautiful and you are strong! ♥️
When I see her, I immediately thought of her mother. Her mother exudes extreme feminity and I truly believe some of that is genetics. Her mom certainly passed that down to her. I think true feminity is not necessarily softness, but rather a demure regalness and black women naturally have that. Circumstance have called us to step up in forms where we have had to abandon our feminity. Breeny, I love that you stepped out of your comfort zone and shared this new content. This case study is very interesting.
Lori absolutely does flaunt her wealth lol. She just does it in a subtle way by taking photos in a jet strategically placing her Hermes bag for example.
I think Lori’s greatest asset is being mysterious. It’s like we always have to guess who she’s with and what she’s doing. She keep her moves silent and keeps you guessing as well. I thinking announcing, showing, etc., tends to push away rather than pull in. 👌🏽🌺
This is not criticism or trying to find faults in this at all. But I do think this new ideal of striving to be the ultimate feminine woman is to attract men. And there is nothing wrong with that too. I just don’t like when people try act as if these divested/feminine goals are one size fits all and are attainable for every woman. Lora Harvey is notorious known for freely dating wealthy men and she is able to do so because of her beauty and connections. It has very little to do with her other attributes since none of us personally know her, we can’t even assume otherwise. So to tell young women that they should act a certain way in hopes they can live a life like Lori is unrealistic. Her beauty is her ultimate price, if she wasn’t nobody would be calling her the ultimate feminine woman . This is just my observation and would love other views?
I kind of disagree with this. When I was growing up, I was suppose to act less feminine. But, I always admired and was attracted towards feminine energy. As an adult, I have realized that it’s because that’s something I want for myself. Not for attracting men.
I agree with you on this, I've noticed a huge trend in feminine energy videos recently and some of them focus on being like a certain woman and I personally find it bizarre that so many people focus on being like someone they have never met or know personally. I think it's more than just a look or what we see on screen, we have no idea who Lori Harvey really is other than a beautiful woman, I have no idea what she is like personally! So why on earth am I going to aspire to be a woman I have no realistic view on? In a world where a woman is always being pushed from one trend to the next, been told how to speak, how to act, what to wear, what to say, how to be more of a woman, how to make a man like you, I'm quite frankly tired. I just think we need to do what makes us happy for ourselves. I think it's ok to be inspired and admire but to change yourself to be like someone else is strange.
Nicole Parkes exactly, how can you try mould your life to images you see online?? It baffles me. Especially when I see women with low confidence who don’t fit the beauty standard norm be persuaded that if they buy enough pretty dresses men will be swooning at them.
1. beauty [inner/outer beauty] 2. mystery [move in silence] 3. natural [less is more/moderation] 4. humble 5. soft spoken [stay respectful, ..] 6. family values [show love/affection to fam :D] 7. personal style [be u, express urself :*] inspire urself, but dont copy; dress for the size u are and for the style u want 8. sexy, but dont provocative [dress respectfully] 9. unbothered [mind ur own business; stay unproblematic] 10. lovely, sweet and kind [when ur gone, how are people gonna talk about u?] and my 11. Be who u wanna be and make the best version out of urself. I know many people say this, but really dont force urself to be someone for somebody♡ love urself and work on your inner growth. I think thats the most beautiful and attrative thing sb can have/do.. [and sry for my english :D]
antonio when did I say that? I said her mom is the queen of feminine ENERGY. Energy comes from within, it comes from confidence, mannerism, the way you talk, dress, self-esteem... it’s simply, the way you carry yourself. Someone who lives off of significantly less can carry themselves the same way and give off feminine energy.
antonio well you don’t know me, and assumed I’m talking about wealth. You don’t know what companies I’ve worked for, stylist I’ve shadowed, nor the people I’m related to who have known the Harvey family for years. My mom has spoken to Marjorie on numerous occasions at fashion shows and it’s been consistent that she’s very feminine, fun and genuinely a sweet person. Maybe you have a different perception of her and that’s completely fine.
Hannah White So sorry that my comment and having connections made you feel a way. On the other hand, I actually agree with the being performative femininity statement so don’t worry, depth was discovered in these recent weeks. Have a great day🤗
She has nothing to worry about and doesn't seem like she has to work hard for much so yeah in those circumstances it's easy to be the quiet, meek and feminine type. Some of us have to be the man and the woman in our lives and meekness doesn't get things taken care of lol
I believe that this being both the man & woman narrative is largely a choice. Embodying True femininity will naturally repel those kind of disharmonious energies from you, meaning you will not attract men that will sleep with you & leave you holding the baby. Feminine energy is to attract, pull in. The egg doesn’t chase the sperm. A woman doesn’t penetrate a man. If your situation is such that you need to be both man & woman, embodying your feminine energy will change all of that by attracting the right people that will support you into your life. There are 4 billion men on the planet. If you cannot attract one into your life to help with your load your feminine energy is way off.
There are A LOT of working women who are feminine. Watch Karine Alourde, she's a working woman and she's feminine. Rihanna is also a business mogul and feminine. So was Michelle Obama and so on and so forth. Femininity isn't about being a housewife. If you're at work and need to be bold and tough, do that, but you don't need to be like that all the time.
@@Annie33385 The question is WHO find her attractive? You will be attractive to someone no matter how bad you look. The question is WHO do you want to attract
That's the point, she creates an aoura of mystery about herself by not over-sharing about her personal life...she cautious about what she puts out about herself so... that's something this generation lacks.
This is a dope breakdown. My only issue is that you're presenting this as THE way to be feminine, when "femininity" isn't just being demure and alluring. Sometimes it's IS loud and outrageous and overboard. That's the beauty of femininity. We can express it how best feels for US. I totally agree with finding your personal style. Lori Harvey's best asset is seemingly her confidence. CONFIDENCE is the most attractive thing about us 💜
@@theempresss Such a dumb comment. Do you realize how sexist it is to assume that they are manipulating her ? How do you come to that conclusion ? Judging by how UNBOTHERED she is, I would bet my hand that it’s HER dismissing each guy because she‘s not satisfied with him. And without having sex too. You could peep some serious game from a woman like Lori.
I would love for you to do a case study on Rihanna’s confidence. It’s so natural and original. I really love how she is unmatched personality and the way she carries herself.
Agreed! Regardless of how she looks physically (thin, skinny, or thick), Rihanna is STILL carrying herself with confidence. She gained weight after the baby and she doesn’t seem bothered by it. She still Carries her new weight with pride.
There is such a heavy wave of “femininity” content that is being released atm. It will be interesting to see the future results of all of this advice. Women (young girls especially) are essentially being told to alter themselves and play a role, in order to get a certain type of man to pursue them. What happens when you no longer want to perform anymore? When you just want to be yourself?
Yes I’m interested to see how it pans out too! I really get disheartened when I see that the fundamentals of pushing this school of thought forward is to secure a man. 😔 Femininity is SO much bigger than that. And these girls contorting themselves into these feminine archetypes to secure a man that doesn’t even embody masculinity in its highest form, will potentially have mental breakdowns when they realise it is a full time job. You can’t be this way to get a man then revert to your true self after you secure the bag. Issa full time job, & I don’t think these women are ready for the kind of work they’ll have to put in.
That has also been my concern, I share some "feminine" content on my channel but from the angle that we can all be authentically ourselves and just giving general awareness to the whole subject matter. Femininity is broad and I hope it helps someone who wants to start their journey back to wholeness ❤️
Preach! I've been watching femininity videos for over a year now and I've come to the conclusion that whilst a lot of it is highly valuable for black women in particular- eg. Put your best foot forward, physical upkeep confidence and self care- the overarching message and goal is to attain a 'high value man.' Some channels are going as far as to encourage black women to stay away from black men which I don't agree with. Black men fall into different subcultural groups like any other and believe it or not, good professional, non-colorist ones do still exist. You can't look at colourist uneducated men on social media and use that to judge ALL black men IRL. Interracial dating is fine also but there seems to be a lot of indoctrination going on and shaming of 50/50 relationships. Do I believe a man should pay on all our dates? Yes. But do I think a man with a 9 to 5 should bankroll my WHOLE life? Nope. I am nobody's child and I don't want to be anybody's housewife in 2020. My mother was one (still is) and it's not all it's cracked up to be. Women need our own resources, domestic abuse is real. You can't dip when he holds the purse strings. Also CERTAIN femininity channels are advocating finding a sugar daddy- ideas that many vulnerable girls and women with minimal resources wouldn't have even conceived of before coming across those channels. Did you know sugar daddy websites are actually considered sex work? Some of these messages are going to have more vulnerable women unknowingly prostituting themselves without even realising it until it is too late. You need to know how to navigate men with real money and power, many are narcissists and used to having their way. On top of that chances will be missed with nice enough regular professional men, because they aren't 'high value' enough. We can't all be like Lori Harvey. She has connections and a powerful stepfather. Some of this is literally selling girls and women a dream. Not everyone is going to find a 'high value' husband (by the femininity community's standards) and that is okay.
Yes, I questioned these one dimensional ideas of “femininity” a long time ago. I take their advice with a grain of salt and do what works for me. The goal isn’t to be a completely different person than who I am, the goal is to enhance who I am using feminine allure.
Also “if you want to be respected, dress respectfully” is not a good take and is rather dangerous. It’s the rhetoric men have used time and time again. We’ve passed this stage of trying to tell women to dress a certain way to be respected. Everyone should be respected regardless of their look.
I’ll have to disagree, dressing provocatively definitely does send a certain message out to the public. Men are sexually driven by what they see, and while it is not right for them to react in an inappropriate manner, it does become easy for them to objectify women based on how they are dressed. There’s a reason men “lust” over Kim K. They don’t want to wife her? Dressing any old way not only calls for attention in general but just THE WRONG attention. How you carry yourself/how your present yourself speaks volumes and I wish more women understood that.
Kenedi Facey please bye. I also disagree with you. We really need to stop saying that men are sexually driven. They are human beings who should be able to control their sexual urges like the rest of us. That’s not even scientific. No, not more women need to understand. We need to stop saying that stupid shit about men not being able to control themselves and respect women without what they’re wearing being the focus. Miss me with this BS.
sandycarestoo I do understand your viewpoint, and I am not saying that it’s okay for men to possess a lack self control. I am just stating that the way a woman presents herself speaks volumes even to men and even other women as well. I mean, I as a woman even pay attention to how OTHER women present themselves. It’s not only to shield ourselves from men. We can agree to disagree that’s fine, I respect your opinion.
Unfortunately we can’t read minds so humans are naturally driven to be visual beings, and men (to a scientifically proven degree) more sexually driven. As much as we would love for what we wear not to matter we can’t pretend that it doesn’t matter. It’s hard wired into society internationally and probably forever will be. You just learn to play the game.
Queen Le it’s not hard wired. Things can change but people like you are staunch that it endures and therefore hinder change. Also no it’s not scientific that men are more sexual.
EXCELLENT case study! My favorite point was "move in silence and mind your business". This is a key component of femininity. Let the way you carry yourself and your class speak for you. 💎 Keep up the great work babe !
Considering this started with ‘this is not to attain men’, every point ended with or had something to the tune of ‘if a guy is watching’...’you’ll look like a good wife’...’men will like that’...
I was falling apart after break up, I was in deep depress. It was my first relationship at 22 and break up year after.And I started watch your videos start to work after your videos 3-4 month later feel much more healthier , confident thank you beauty ❤❤❤
You look so Beautiful. I think Lori Harvey was blessed to be schooled by her mother. Her mother didn't push her to be too girly growing up which help her not to take her beauty too seriously. Her mother made sure she knew how to cook, keep her mouth shut and move in silence.
Exactly. There are men that like extrovert women too. Lori seems to be an introvert soft spoken,silence,humble is that of a quiet person not necessarily feminine. It's best to be yourself and to be confident in yourself.
I love your content. I am 24,married and I want to become more and more feminine. Women in Africa here in Cameroon 🇨🇲 tend let themselves lose wen we marry and have kids. But I really want to stay sweet for my husband. He is so sweet and works very hard to keep me and our 2kids happy. I am subscribing 😊
We’re supposed to be constantly improving! If what you have been doing is working for you then keep it up. I’m trying to grow and reach a higher level and one way to do that is by studying someone who has already done it.
For many that have higher masculine energy it’s because most women had to do everything themselves growing up. Doing all the “man” work because no brother or father around, so that results in extended masculine energy. Personally, I never had a “man” around growing up so I had to do everything myself, and still do. No matter how much we work on ourselves, if you have to do masculine work, you will carry this energy.
I disagree; I believe it’s a matter of balance: extending your feminine energy while living with masculine energy heightened previously in your life makes a definitely makes a difference!! I completely understand where you come from though because I didn’t have a father figure or brother figure in my life so I do feel similar to how you feel.
@@stephaniepierre11 It's not easy to extend the feminine energy if one is in constant work in masculinity. But, if there is a balance, and one delves deep to maintain this balance it's doable. But from seeing many women try this, it's not easy, and it doesn't last long because the masculine work takes over...
I get what you’re trying to do but every woman is different & unique in their own way. We shouldn’t all be trying to be like one person. Everyone should just embrace who they are, whether it be considered to be “feminine“ or not.
It’s not about trying to be someone else its about balancing our feminine energy that we women as creatures are gifted with. It’s a divine energy that from time to time can be imbalanced and we have to work on it as everything else that we have in life
antonio As a result of being a feminine woman, you’ll attract the quality of men you like instead of the average joe’s. It’s easier to get what you want in life by being feminine and you get treated better. There are many benefits but if it doesn’t suit you, go about your day and don’t worry about it.
So true! When I was in my early 20s I believed the amount of men I attracted equated to how beautiful I am. Especially someone who barely got any male attention until later in high school/college. Wearing barely there clothing, skin tight clothes, showing assets and eveything is not the way to be cute or feminine IMO. It is also not the type of behaviour of a emulated by a high value woman. Thanks for sharing this!
Nah this ain’t it. Weird enough, in this Nasty Gal catalogue that I got in the mail it said this on one of the pages: “A girl is whoever she wants to be”. Be your best self, don’t idolize this Lori girl. The fact a rapper says she’s on his wish list like she’s a possession is NOT something to feel proud of. Follow simple rules - love yourself, respect yourself, have compassion for others, values like this. The people meant to be in your life will accept you for you. Putting a stranger on a pedestal and making assumptions about what she chooses to show us isn’t a good idea for a role model. Instead be a decent person & stay true to you❤️❤️
Emphasis on "don't idolize this Lori girl" ! This comment is ahead of it's time. I JUST made a video on my channel about the Lori Harvey obsession and I think it's getting out of control esp. on youtube tbh... SO many videos! I have multiple issues with Black Femininity youtube that I discuss in my video-- I'd love to hear your thoughts on it, currently live on my page!
Breeny, things are changing. You want women to be in the box we made from the 50s. All kinds of people get married, not just homely, feminine types. The ones that were just themselves found an authentic partner.
Beautiful Breeny🥺❤️. it’s about how you carry yourself and your inward personality. How kind you are and how humble you are but also keeping in mind that taking care of your femininity (the beauty God gave us to embrace gracefully) is also as important❤️ Ladies Less is more indeed👌🏾
Facts or facts?...even though Breeny has already done a video on this subject it's still equally important she done so again. Feminine energy is such a powerful energy. You can even feel the feminine energy coming from Breeny herself.
These are so true! One thing I have a question about it , how do you remain sweet and kind all the time but also not let people walk all over you and take you for granted? How do you own your energy and limit peoples access to it, while not coming across as unkind/harsh/over confident etc?
I’d say it all starts with confidence, confidence will help you create boundaries with people. Don’t dwell on the past, remind yourself that you’re not the same anymore. You should always be sweet and kind to people but don’t expect anything in return, also, you should not be afraid to say no to people, sat your true feelings e.g when you’re busy and can’t do stuff for people(put yourself first priority) in a calm way, don’t be afraid to cut off people that use you and don’t give them any explanation for your decisions, don’t address the hate or gossip about others, smile more, check on your real friends and family from time to time. You have to know finding that balance is a process doesn’t happen overnight. Hope this helps x
The soft spoken one is really going to be the death of me. I’m not loud and obnoxious but I’m very opinionated and like to make jokes to make people laugh because it’s just who I am 😩
How about a case study on a socialite, celebrity in her 30s. That transition from 20s to 30s is/ can be a thin line when it comes to style and leveling up.
Just be yourself Set your boundaries And be assertive So you can get the respect you want and deserve. It doesn’t have to come off in an aggressive way. This can be done in a calm and positive manner. Lady’s love who you are and who god made you to be, and embrace it with a smile. Have a blessed day my beauties. 💕💕💕
This is addressing the people saying femininity is mainly about getting a man... When I'm at work I bring my masculine energy. When I'm alone in the wilderness with nothing but my pack and a knife to protect me, I am in my masculine energy. I can easily jump into "try me, mother fucker" energy, but that's not appropriate within my home and within my marriage. There is a time and place for everything. Gender roles are complex and unique to each situation, but we have evolved over hundreds of thousands of years to be feminine. Most men don't want to date a woman who is masculine within the context of a relationship, just like most of us don't like dating a man who isn't masculine. You don't have to change who you are, but it's good to understand which side of your very complex self you should let shine within different situations and this video is here to help women understand how to express their feminine side. Be a badass at the gym, but also be aware of how loud you are in social settings lol
This video really exceeded my expectations. I thought it would discuss aesthetics or fashion only, however you've delved into some really interesting concepts. I especially liked being remembered for kindness and character.
This can be very problematic lol but true femininity is not about your looks and how soft spoken you are. True femininity is about your aura. How you carry yourself, how submissive you are, leading without being the leader. Believe it or not a lot of the things we Oppose today is considered feminine, like cooking cleaning and taking care of the household or “being seen and not heard” this is where true femininity came from. Obviously taking care of yourself plays a strong factor but you can still be soft spoken and still take care of yourself and be considered masculine 🤷🏽♀️
I get the point of this video, but this can't really be a case study when it's based on your perception of her social media profiles rather than actual facts or observations from her daily life. I also noted that you started off the video by saying this is not about finding or keeping a man, but used your previous relationships or interactions with men to support the points made on this list (for example when you spoke on mystery and moving in silence/ being soft-spoken) Finally, feminity isn't something I would say I actively pursue, but your explanation feels rather confining and dependent on how you present yourself to others. I'm interested in understanding how we can be in touch with our feminity without worrying about others' perception of us being the defining factor (at least that's what it felt like from the video).
You’re the first one doing a feminine youtube video that appreciates personal style, the way you added the tomboyish look it just made me feel better cause every video I see they bash women for dressing more tomboyish and in my opinion being feminine doesn’t always have to do with the way you dress, of course it does in a lot of occasions but some of these channels expect women to wear heels and dresses every day
I don’t quite understand how someone’s femininity can be judged and or classified by their Instagram posts and how she "appears". Our perception is absolutely subjective and I‘m honestly really disappointed 🤔 maybe I also interpreted things the wrong way but especially telling young women that they have to be "secretive" or "mysterious" is a no for me. The most interesting part about me surely ain’t the fact that men chase me. I’m trying to uplift other women, that’s femininity to me. Being able to show solidarity and love for one another because you dare to acknowledge other women’s struggle. In my opinion we need more female allyship and less checklists.
Be disappointed. Do not follow anything these youtubers say is word or the examples they give. They are all insecure narcissist feeding off youe energy good or bad
this viewpoint is definitely underrated @samanthaDeutesfeld, we cant assume she has good manners, is kind and respects others just by looking at her social media profile. We all show what we want to be seen and those are the dangers of learning femininity by simpling scrolling through someone's page. femininity to me is about the character of my heart and then i think things like being mysterious etc are the cherry on the cake and not the cake.
My mother is the most feminine woman I know. Always put together She didn't have to teach me I just had to look at her. And She knows exactly how to manipulate men to get what she wants and I'm the same but more quietly ☺️ That's a skill to be honest
so so intersting !! I loved how you mentioned one of the tips on how to be beautiful is working on HAPPINESS and being happy with yourself I honestly didn't expect that but that's so true
Idk if y'all have heard of Brent Faiyaz but he's an American rapper/rnb singer and he has kind of toxic music like when you sit down and listen you'll be like, "this n*gga aint sh*t" but the way he carries himself is sooo unmatched. We really only know what he wants us to know which is RARE for an artist nowadays and the girls are going CRAZYY for him (including me). I'm not sure if its feminine energy or what, but he has his style of music, the way he dresses he never misses, his hair is always well kept, and he always looks clean and simple. He's never flashy too, no obnoxious jewelry or designer labels. I feel as if thats the reason why women are so attracted to him compared to these other rappers and singers. Also, You're absolutely right, a lot of American women specifically do not carry themselves in a feminine way anymore and idk why this loud, flashy, ratchet lifestyle is so popularized out here. Women from the UK and other countries seem to have a better grasp on femininity thats why i prefer hauls and vlogs of people from the UK or Canada.
I agree with most things but you lost me on the ‘if you wanna be treated respectfully, dress respectfully’ . Just sounds like respectability politics which is why so many women end up being raped/sexually assaulted. You may want to rethink that take.
b honestly, i think about this often and think she has a point. obviously no body deserves to be raped or harassed or anything like that based on what they are wearing. just like if you leave your house door unlocked, it doesn’t mean you deserve to be robbed. but you should do things in your power to keep these things from happening. whether that’s dressing more modestly or locking your door. and on top of that, what you wear does send a message. that’s just the truth. just like your manners or lack of sends a message. or whatever the case may be, it all sends a message. so yeah, if you want to be respected, you must dress respectfully.
Citizen of the World no one accused her of promoting rape culture. But in telling women to "dress respectfully" she’s shifting accountability away from men, who then happen to be sentenced milder because a woman was wearing something "disrespectful“? Victimshaming all the way. If women are responsible for how they are being treated by men based on what they wear, how do you explain that women have been raped even in centuries where you could only ever see their face when they were in public and everything else was covered? 🤔 make it make sense! Women wearing whatever they want ain’t the problem, not teaching men to be respectful, decent and selfcontrolled is!
Y’all reading too much into this! Look dress how you want to dress and dress how you feel. Dress for you and feel confident in how you dress. Every woman is different! Some women show more and others don’t. There’s different sides when it comes to be feminine. Some days a woman wants to dress sexy and other days she doesn’t depending on the mood. I dress for me so dress for you and no one else. Every occasion has a dress code so don’t be extra but have fun and dress for you.
@Citizen of the World Speak the truth. I swear people always use extreme cases to justify their opinion. It's literally psychology, how you dress and present yourself is how people esteem you. That's it. Its has nothing to do with rape.
💖🎀 Lori is definitely goals ...specially in modern day society she is so refreshing ... but most importantly is that a lot of her character/ personality is definitely a result of what her parents instilled to her ... No jokes about it ... she's smart and grounded.
She definitely wear designer a lot but only people who love fashion like me and study these things I can spot what brands she’s wearing. But she’s definitely a great example
Nice video Breeny!! The only problem that I have with these femininity videos is that they always seem to be geared towards Black women. Has anybody else ever noticed that, or is it just me? I just feel like it further pushes the general stereotype that Black women aren't feminine/ are loud and have more masculine tendencies. I rarely see these femininity videos geared towards white women on this platform. IDK maybe I'm reaching.
adachioma it’s obviously just my personal opinion but no, you’re not reaching at all. If a video about "feminine energy" is all about how you should dress and how you should speak, we‘re in serious trouble. I’m sure Breeny did not mean to hurt people with the content of this video because I know that she wants to help people but using a harmful narrative will eradicate the importance of a once positive intention. I personally think that especially darker skinned WoC have Heard- enough. They’ve been told to be certain things and to not be other things. The used narrative in this video is just another manifestation of how deeply racism and sexism is rooted in our minds.
The truth is that by virtue of just being a white woman, obmverall society will view them as feminine and soft. Too often black wonwn are viewed by society, even our black men, as being harder and louder and that overused term "strong"😒
I think what a lot of you are missing is...No one is telling you that this is how you personally should act. These are suggestive tips, for women who WANT to be perceived as feminine. If you aren’t trying to be feminine, fine you don’t have to. However these are tips for women who feel they exude more masculine energy, or simply just want to embrace their feminine energy.
I’ve been watching you for around four years now and your content has always stayed relevant and encouraging so thank you! 💕 Completely agree with everything you’ve said in this video especially moving in silence, people don’t need to know everything 😂
people should just be themselves, some women like to dress both feminine and tomboyish and I think there’s nothing wrong with that, cause these channels have started bashing women for “dressing like men” and how “femininity is lost” I mean I agree on some aspects but wearing comfortable clothes that are “tomboyish” doesn’t mean you can’t be feminine. And so many youtubers take Rihanna as an example, but if you look at her style she dresses both feminine and “masculine”
I agree with previous commenters. Of course I'll support Breeny's creative content, but her voice and insights shine without the celebrity references. She's my fave "femininity" vlogger and honestly one of the most beautiful woman on the internet lol. I find many others very unoriginal (no shade, but it is what it is) and just regurgitate one another. I miss the fashion, design and health videos. But it's a pleasure to be alive and I am glad that she is sharing with us. Much love
Breeny you look beautiful.. I thought this was going to be the ‘how to find purpose’ video u mentioned in the last one I was really looking forward to that! 💕
The fact that you clarified we do not do femininity for men! You had my attention bc that is the most important point for me. Great video love 💕🌸 and yes I love the case study type videos!
You literally kept it 100 percent and not once did I say you were a hater (we know how some people are when you keep it real). It is what it is. I appreciate natural beauty. I love this video!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hello my lovelies, I knew making this video there would be a chance of people not particularly liking this style and that’s a risk I was willing to take to find out what works! I want to stress I don’t know Lori, we don’t know Lori, my case study was solely about her as a young woman with the limited info we know about her and I confidently stated that this wasn’t for the basis of comparison but I understand how some women may feel. I will continue to stick to my usual style of videos that don’t include celebrities or public figures. I don’t usually jump on popular topics but like I said this was requested. Please check out the two other videos I have made on femininity in the past 😊 be blessed!
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Always great trying out new things, I personally don’t have anything against this video, but you asked for our opinion so I will say I Looove your other content, I think this just wasn’t for me, I found it hard to relate but the bottom line the points you made were great and I’m sure it’s for someone! 😘😘
I don’t think you need to apologize.You said nothing but the truth.Those who aren’t very feminine are most likely the ones saying that you’re being “judgemental”.I saw your other videos about femininity and loved them!Self love and femininity truly go hand in hand.Thanks for this video!Your content is always amazing🤍
Wanjeri Macharia ikrrr exactly ... even the points she made about Lori weren’t 💯
Cara Wade at the same time not every woman has to be feminine... we are all different and shouldn’t be placed on a standard of a certain person aka Lori Harvey
People blatantly missed the point but you are a class act for acknowledging them.
The difference between Lori and many of us is that she has family. She has a whole support system. Children like her will always exude this kind of energy. Girls that have supportive fathers, brothers etc. They usually exhibit strong yet subtle femininity. Love the vid.
Right. She got a chance to cultivate her femininity because she wasn’t put in a masculine position as a younger woman/kid.
This is so accurate
Soooooo true. I didnt have a support system & I often wondered where my Femininity went. I didn’t have a father figure or a feminine woman to shadow. I was sooo masculine as a child and young lady
@@Bv3276 bay-bee. THIS IS THE ONE!!!!
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"We're not doing this to attain a man" I love this already. You look fab Breeny!
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Yet alot of women are doing this justt because of that
She does look fab!
From the video it comes across like a lot of the advice is actually to find a man. Check 8:41
She's a huggable person ❤❤❤ , (that word probably doesn't exist)
The biggest thing Lori does is make the most of herself. Yeah she's lightskin with light eyes blah blah but she dresses very well, no heavy make up with terrible wig, she eats well, stays in shape, she's well spoken, she dates to a certain standard (let's be honest we knew it wouldn't last with Future), she's quite peaceful and leaves people to think what they think. I see SO MANY black girls do the exact opposite of everything I just listed. So don't be Lori, just do what Lori has done: be you, but the best you.
Amen!
The way u threw in “terrible wig” bruh😭
Well said. 💯
She is not lightskin lol
I wouldn't say she's lightskin
To the 1% reading this, may all your dreams come true, my dream is to be a successful youtuber.
Thank you and I wish that your dream come true very soon
Lidia Dabo Thank you so much. May God bless you so much ❤️
May your dream come true
Amen sis !!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Amen🙏🏾❤️ and thank you I hope your dream comes true for you
One of the assets Lori has is beauty. Natural beauty, that definitely aids in her feminine appeal. Her make up is soft and inviting. Not too much contour or harsh colored weaves. She knows her strengths.
Yes i hate when woman wear so much hair and long nails and to much makeup and long long lashes. Men dont like it
yes, she definitely learned that from her mother. She was pampered and it shows how she carries herself and I think men want to pamper her.
@@carolynwilliams4926 who cares what men like? Whatever a person do should be for themselves...
@@carolynwilliams4926 they don't do it for men they do it for themselves
@@Diamond_InTheRuff exactly do it for you bc one way or another someone else will love and care for you just as you are. They do it for themselves not a man or to please anyone
Loved this! I think Rihanna is an excellent example of this also, especially as she's grown older. She exudes this divine feminine energy, is "sexy" yet at the same time is able to command respect in a room. I definitely think this kind of energy starts from within first.
I agree about Rihanna. That balance that she has is amazing.
Rihanna should defo be the rightful standard
ieshia Rihanna has definitely been provocative
“Starts from within” so true
She is more of a sex symbol. Can we be real
There should be one done on Aaliyah. She was gorgeous, sweet, articulate...she exuded a powerful goddess feminine energy yet still a mysterious, edgy, masculine side.
And yet all the men she dated were trash and colorist lol.
@@emileigh6524 spill the tea sis
Notice how all the black women that y’all are using have mixed backgrounds and have european features...
@@emileigh6524 to be fair she was quite young and didn’t know right from wrong. She still needed a lot of growth and maturity to happen. But I get what you mean.
@@serenitybeats1677 right I’m reading through the comments and they all seem slightly stereotypical with hints of colorism
I have been called a “girly girl” all my life. But I have an issue with the femininity channels. Now I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting to be more feminine, whatever that means to you. But a lot of times it seems that these channels simply like to tell girls to act less like themselves so that men can appreciate them. That is just too damn tiring.
I see what you mean. I just take the things that resonate with me out of those videos and leave the rest
I agree, I think they have good intention however I feel they should clarify these are their PERSONAL preferences and to remember to always be yourself and to take these suggestions lightly as it is their own personal preferences and everyone is different and has different tastes. That being said everyone’s their own kind of sexy! 🤍
@@nasriinmohamed7865 yeah me too. I find a way to apply what they say to my own life. I don't want to be a feminine copy-paste. I wanna use my feminine energy but still remain being me.
I’m really thankful that you said this. I watched this yesterday and it’s been on my mind all day lol. Not gonna lie, after watching I began to feel a little insecure. I know the video wasn’t meant to send this message, but I felt like the idea of feminine energy was for a woman to minimize herself or “play it small” to be adorned. This comment thread really helped me to feel better and remind myself to make adjustments where I think is necessary. Not everything will apply for everyone, but I have to create my own idea of female energy and own it.
Yes, most of these femininity channels are very one dimensional. Check out Chrissie’s second channel. She breaks down all different types of femininity. I learned that I don’t fit in these boxes that the youtubers try to put “feminine” women in so, I take their advice with a grain of salt and tailor certain things to my own life.
Lori is so pretty but Breeny is bomb and beautiful ❤️ every women reading this message, remember that you are valuable and you deserve the best in life 💕you are beautiful and you are strong! ♥️
Thank you brother, ❤️
Thanks
Breeny got it going on more than lori do. Lori too busy chasing no good men
@@AskCurt You right lol
Awww thank you❤and you too.
When I see her, I immediately thought of her mother. Her mother exudes extreme feminity and I truly believe some of that is genetics. Her mom certainly passed that down to her. I think true feminity is not necessarily softness, but rather a demure regalness and black women naturally have that. Circumstance have called us to step up in forms where we have had to abandon our feminity. Breeny, I love that you stepped out of your comfort zone and shared this new content. This case study is very interesting.
!!!! I’ve met them both in-person & she definitely got it from her mother .
Lori absolutely does flaunt her wealth lol. She just does it in a subtle way by taking photos in a jet strategically placing her Hermes bag for example.
Yes my good sis flaunts her mansion, bags and jewelry she just does it in a subtle way!😂💗
I think Lori’s greatest asset is being mysterious. It’s like we always have to guess who she’s with and what she’s doing. She keep her moves silent and keeps you guessing as well. I thinking announcing, showing, etc., tends to push away rather than pull in. 👌🏽🌺
Ah please do a case study on Jhene. Her energy is infectious. She is so authentic and a star completely on her own level. 🌟
This is not criticism or trying to find faults in this at all. But I do think this new ideal of striving to be the ultimate feminine woman is to attract men. And there is nothing wrong with that too. I just don’t like when people try act as if these divested/feminine goals are one size fits all and are attainable for every woman. Lora Harvey is notorious known for freely dating wealthy men and she is able to do so because of her beauty and connections. It has very little to do with her other attributes since none of us personally know her, we can’t even assume otherwise. So to tell young women that they should act a certain way in hopes they can live a life like Lori is unrealistic. Her beauty is her ultimate price, if she wasn’t nobody would be calling her the ultimate feminine woman . This is just my observation and would love other views?
Plus from what I know it seems all of those dudes are just wealthy players. I’m not trying to attract no players whether he is broke or wealthy 🤷🏽♀️
I kind of disagree with this. When I was growing up, I was suppose to act less feminine. But, I always admired and was attracted towards feminine energy. As an adult, I have realized that it’s because that’s something I want for myself. Not for attracting men.
I agree and that's why i have an issue with using her as a case study.
I agree with you on this, I've noticed a huge trend in feminine energy videos recently and some of them focus on being like a certain woman and I personally find it bizarre that so many people focus on being like someone they have never met or know personally. I think it's more than just a look or what we see on screen, we have no idea who Lori Harvey really is other than a beautiful woman, I have no idea what she is like personally! So why on earth am I going to aspire to be a woman I have no realistic view on? In a world where a woman is always being pushed from one trend to the next, been told how to speak, how to act, what to wear, what to say, how to be more of a woman, how to make a man like you, I'm quite frankly tired. I just think we need to do what makes us happy for ourselves. I think it's ok to be inspired and admire but to change yourself to be like someone else is strange.
Nicole Parkes exactly, how can you try mould your life to images you see online?? It baffles me. Especially when I see women with low confidence who don’t fit the beauty standard norm be persuaded that if they buy enough pretty dresses men will be swooning at them.
1. beauty [inner/outer beauty]
2. mystery [move in silence]
3. natural [less is more/moderation]
4. humble
5. soft spoken [stay respectful, ..]
6. family values [show love/affection to fam :D]
7. personal style [be u, express urself :*] inspire urself, but dont copy; dress for the size u are and for the style u want
8. sexy, but dont provocative [dress respectfully]
9. unbothered [mind ur own business; stay unproblematic]
10. lovely, sweet and kind [when ur gone, how are people gonna talk about u?]
and my 11. Be who u wanna be and make the best version out of urself. I know many people say this, but really dont force urself to be someone for somebody♡ love urself and work on your inner growth. I think thats the most beautiful and attrative thing sb can have/do..
[and sry for my english :D]
Her mom is honestly the queen of feminine energy so the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.
antonio when did I say that? I said her mom is the queen of feminine ENERGY. Energy comes from within, it comes from confidence, mannerism, the way you talk, dress, self-esteem... it’s simply, the way you carry yourself. Someone who lives off of significantly less can carry themselves the same way and give off feminine energy.
antonio well you don’t know me, and assumed I’m talking about wealth. You don’t know what companies I’ve worked for, stylist I’ve shadowed, nor the people I’m related to who have known the Harvey family for years. My mom has spoken to Marjorie on numerous occasions at fashion shows and it’s been consistent that she’s very feminine, fun and genuinely a sweet person. Maybe you have a different perception of her and that’s completely fine.
antonio hush, you can’t even spell.
@@malaysiacooper1063 omg you're fking denseeeeeee AND trying to conveniently give yourself a 4th party connection. Lawd
Hannah White So sorry that my comment and having connections made you feel a way. On the other hand, I actually agree with the being performative femininity statement so don’t worry, depth was discovered in these recent weeks. Have a great day🤗
She has nothing to worry about and doesn't seem like she has to work hard for much so yeah in those circumstances it's easy to be the quiet, meek and feminine type. Some of us have to be the man and the woman in our lives and meekness doesn't get things taken care of lol
Yees
I believe that this being both the man & woman narrative is largely a choice. Embodying True femininity will naturally repel those kind of disharmonious energies from you, meaning you will not attract men that will sleep with you & leave you holding the baby.
Feminine energy is to attract, pull in. The egg doesn’t chase the sperm. A woman doesn’t penetrate a man. If your situation is such that you need to be both man & woman, embodying your feminine energy will change all of that by attracting the right people that will support you into your life. There are 4 billion men on the planet. If you cannot attract one into your life to help with your load your feminine energy is way off.
@@Annie33385 I couldn't even comprehend reading all that I was like whattt??? Lol 🤦🏾♀️
antonio lmfaoooo :((((
There are A LOT of working women who are feminine. Watch Karine Alourde, she's a working woman and she's feminine. Rihanna is also a business mogul and feminine. So was Michelle Obama and so on and so forth. Femininity isn't about being a housewife. If you're at work and need to be bold and tough, do that, but you don't need to be like that all the time.
Celebrities just show us what they want us to see. She isn't an inspiration for me but she's beautiful.
Diarra right it’s all show biz
@@Annie33385 The question is WHO find her attractive? You will be attractive to someone no matter how bad you look. The question is WHO do you want to attract
Thank you. We don’t know who she is.
That's the point, she creates an aoura of mystery about herself by not over-sharing about her personal life...she cautious about what she puts out about herself so... that's something this generation lacks.
Facts
This is a dope breakdown. My only issue is that you're presenting this as THE way to be feminine, when "femininity" isn't just being demure and alluring. Sometimes it's IS loud and outrageous and overboard. That's the beauty of femininity. We can express it how best feels for US. I totally agree with finding your personal style. Lori Harvey's best asset is seemingly her confidence. CONFIDENCE is the most attractive thing about us 💜
What confidence? If she had any men wouldn't be able to manipulate and obtain her so easily
"Outrageous and overboard"
Try extroverted, those words dont do your comment justice.
@@theempresss Such a dumb comment. Do you realize how sexist it is to assume that they are manipulating her ? How do you come to that conclusion ? Judging by how UNBOTHERED she is, I would bet my hand that it’s HER dismissing each guy because she‘s not satisfied with him. And without having sex too. You could peep some serious game from a woman like Lori.
I would love for you to do a case study on Rihanna’s confidence. It’s so natural and original. I really love how she is unmatched personality and the way she carries herself.
Agreed! Regardless of how she looks physically (thin, skinny, or thick), Rihanna is STILL carrying herself with confidence. She gained weight after the baby and she doesn’t seem bothered by it. She still Carries her new weight with pride.
There is such a heavy wave of “femininity” content that is being released atm. It will be interesting to see the future results of all of this advice. Women (young girls especially) are essentially being told to alter themselves and play a role, in order to get a certain type of man to pursue them. What happens when you no longer want to perform anymore? When you just want to be yourself?
Yes I’m interested to see how it pans out too! I really get disheartened when I see that the fundamentals of pushing this school of thought forward is to secure a man. 😔
Femininity is SO much bigger than that.
And these girls contorting themselves into these feminine archetypes to secure a man that doesn’t even embody masculinity in its highest form, will potentially have mental breakdowns when they realise it is a full time job. You can’t be this way to get a man then revert to your true self after you secure the bag. Issa full time job, & I don’t think these women are ready for the kind of work they’ll have to put in.
I. YA_NIKE exactly this!
That has also been my concern, I share some "feminine" content on my channel but from the angle that we can all be authentically ourselves and just giving general awareness to the whole subject matter. Femininity is broad and I hope it helps someone who wants to start their journey back to wholeness ❤️
Preach! I've been watching femininity videos for over a year now and I've come to the conclusion that whilst a lot of it is highly valuable for black women in particular- eg. Put your best foot forward, physical upkeep confidence and self care- the overarching message and goal is to attain a 'high value man.' Some channels are going as far as to encourage black women to stay away from black men which I don't agree with. Black men fall into different subcultural groups like any other and believe it or not, good professional, non-colorist ones do still exist. You can't look at colourist uneducated men on social media and use that to judge ALL black men IRL. Interracial dating is fine also but there seems to be a lot of indoctrination going on and shaming of 50/50 relationships. Do I believe a man should pay on all our dates? Yes. But do I think a man with a 9 to 5 should bankroll my WHOLE life? Nope. I am nobody's child and I don't want to be anybody's housewife in 2020. My mother was one (still is) and it's not all it's cracked up to be. Women need our own resources, domestic abuse is real. You can't dip when he holds the purse strings.
Also CERTAIN femininity channels are advocating finding a sugar daddy- ideas that many vulnerable girls and women with minimal resources wouldn't have even conceived of before coming across those channels. Did you know sugar daddy websites are actually considered sex work? Some of these messages are going to have more vulnerable women unknowingly prostituting themselves without even realising it until it is too late. You need to know how to navigate men with real money and power, many are narcissists and used to having their way.
On top of that chances will be missed with nice enough regular professional men, because they aren't 'high value' enough. We can't all be like Lori Harvey. She has connections and a powerful stepfather. Some of this is literally selling girls and women a dream. Not everyone is going to find a 'high value' husband (by the femininity community's standards) and that is okay.
Yes, I questioned these one dimensional ideas of “femininity” a long time ago. I take their advice with a grain of salt and do what works for me. The goal isn’t to be a completely different person than who I am, the goal is to enhance who I am using feminine allure.
Breeny is just one of the ladies when she talks I listen... I got tons of love for you mama 😍😍
Also “if you want to be respected, dress respectfully” is not a good take and is rather dangerous. It’s the rhetoric men have used time and time again. We’ve passed this stage of trying to tell women to dress a certain way to be respected. Everyone should be respected regardless of their look.
I’ll have to disagree, dressing provocatively definitely does send a certain message out to the public. Men are sexually driven by what they see, and while it is not right for them to react in an inappropriate manner, it does become easy for them to objectify women based on how they are dressed. There’s a reason men “lust” over Kim K. They don’t want to wife her? Dressing any old way not only calls for attention in general but just THE WRONG attention. How you carry yourself/how your present yourself speaks volumes and I wish more women understood that.
Kenedi Facey please bye. I also disagree with you. We really need to stop saying that men are sexually driven. They are human beings who should be able to control their sexual urges like the rest of us. That’s not even scientific. No, not more women need to understand. We need to stop saying that stupid shit about men not being able to control themselves and respect women without what they’re wearing being the focus. Miss me with this BS.
sandycarestoo I do understand your viewpoint, and I am not saying that it’s okay for men to possess a lack self control. I am just stating that the way a woman presents herself speaks volumes even to men and even other women as well. I mean, I as a woman even pay attention to how OTHER women present themselves. It’s not only to shield ourselves from men. We can agree to disagree that’s fine, I respect your opinion.
Unfortunately we can’t read minds so humans are naturally driven to be visual beings, and men (to a scientifically proven degree) more sexually driven.
As much as we would love for what we wear not to matter we can’t pretend that it doesn’t matter. It’s hard wired into society internationally and probably forever will be.
You just learn to play the game.
Queen Le it’s not hard wired. Things can change but people like you are staunch that it endures and therefore hinder change. Also no it’s not scientific that men are more sexual.
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HER is another example of quiet, feminine, humble, beautiful energy
All women have their own sense of femininity, which is beautiful. All you have to do is allow yourself to feel and relax!
EXCELLENT case study! My favorite point was "move in silence and mind your business". This is a key component of femininity. Let the way you carry yourself and your class speak for you. 💎 Keep up the great work babe !
Miss feminine hi
Who's here after finding out Lori and Michael are official😂
Michael who?
@@dreamchaser5758 Michael B Jordan
@@pinkayoscar847 thank you....hope you have a blessed & prosperous 2021
Ah yes, the official team fortress 2 comics website. I love that shit
Officially it's his turn. But whatever.
Considering this started with ‘this is not to attain men’, every point ended with or had something to the tune of ‘if a guy is watching’...’you’ll look like a good wife’...’men will like that’...
Yeah sis is trippin lol.
I was falling apart after break up, I was in deep depress. It was my first relationship at 22 and break up year after.And I started watch your videos start to work after your videos 3-4 month later feel much more healthier , confident thank you beauty ❤❤❤
You look so Beautiful. I think Lori Harvey was blessed to be schooled by her mother. Her mother didn't push her to be too girly growing up which help her not to take her beauty too seriously. Her mother made sure she knew how to cook, keep her mouth shut and move in silence.
Just be yourself 🤷🏾♀️
I like your comment the best. 😛
My names Cassandra too hey girl!!!!
Unapologetically Me hey girl hey 👋🏾
Exactly. There are men that like extrovert women too. Lori seems to be an introvert soft spoken,silence,humble is that of a quiet person not necessarily feminine. It's best to be yourself and to be confident in yourself.
@@Fancyfee have a great day!!!!!
I love your content. I am 24,married and I want to become more and more feminine. Women in Africa here in Cameroon 🇨🇲 tend let themselves lose wen we marry and have kids. But I really want to stay sweet for my husband. He is so sweet and works very hard to keep me and our 2kids happy. I am subscribing 😊
*I will continue to be who I truly am whether that’s “feminine “or not*
We’re supposed to be constantly improving! If what you have been doing is working for you then keep it up. I’m trying to grow and reach a higher level and one way to do that is by studying someone who has already done it.
@LoveofVelvet it popped up on our shit.
@@Annie33385 thank you. These women are LOST. Also the person running this channel CANNOT be female.
@@theempresss Then dont click it. What's wrong with you???
@@aboveaveragejane3126 she's free to do whatever she wants. Freedom of speech and click, simple like that
Your future children are so blessed to have such a divine feminine raise them.
Love and appreciate you Breeny ✨💛
I was literally in italy two months ago n nobody knows N U GAVE IT AS AN EXAMPLE!! 😂🤣🤣I see I'm doing at least something right💅🏻
Another great example/case study is Jhene Aiko. Always admired her healing, nurturing nature that is so embedded in feminine energy.
"Move in silence and mind your own business" - Breeny Lee♡♡♡♡♡♡ so true...thanks fir keeping it real Breeny.
When you're happy on the inside it radiates on the outside #Confidence #Work on your happiness👌👌
For many that have higher masculine energy it’s because most women had to do everything themselves growing up. Doing all the “man” work because no brother or father around, so that results in extended masculine energy. Personally, I never had a “man” around growing up so I had to do everything myself, and still do. No matter how much we work on ourselves, if you have to do masculine work, you will carry this energy.
I disagree; I believe it’s a matter of balance: extending your feminine energy while living with masculine energy heightened previously in your life makes a definitely makes a difference!! I completely understand where you come from though because I didn’t have a father figure or brother figure in my life so I do feel similar to how you feel.
@@stephaniepierre11 It's not easy to extend the feminine energy if one is in constant work in masculinity. But, if there is a balance, and one delves deep to maintain this balance it's doable. But from seeing many women try this, it's not easy, and it doesn't last long because the masculine work takes over...
I get what you’re trying to do but every woman is different & unique in their own way. We shouldn’t all be trying to be like one person. Everyone should just embrace who they are, whether it be considered to be “feminine“ or not.
It’s not about trying to be someone else its about balancing our feminine energy that we women as creatures are gifted with. It’s a divine energy that from time to time can be imbalanced and we have to work on it as everything else that we have in life
Not every woman has to be feminine
Jess Bakre Does that mean women shouldn’t be feminine?
antonio As a result of being a feminine woman, you’ll attract the quality of men you like instead of the average joe’s. It’s easier to get what you want in life by being feminine and you get treated better. There are many benefits but if it doesn’t suit you, go about your day and don’t worry about it.
antonio Not necessarily true, but to each his own
So true! When I was in my early 20s I believed the amount of men I attracted equated to how beautiful I am. Especially someone who barely got any male attention until later in high school/college. Wearing barely there clothing, skin tight clothes, showing assets and eveything is not the way to be cute or feminine IMO. It is also not the type of behaviour of a emulated by a high value woman. Thanks for sharing this!
Nah this ain’t it. Weird enough, in this Nasty Gal catalogue that I got in the mail it said this on one of the pages: “A girl is whoever she wants to be”. Be your best self, don’t idolize this Lori girl. The fact a rapper says she’s on his wish list like she’s a possession is NOT something to feel proud of. Follow simple rules - love yourself, respect yourself, have compassion for others, values like this. The people meant to be in your life will accept you for you. Putting a stranger on a pedestal and making assumptions about what she chooses to show us isn’t a good idea for a role model. Instead be a decent person & stay true to you❤️❤️
a big THANK YOU!
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Emphasis on "don't idolize this Lori girl" ! This comment is ahead of it's time. I JUST made a video on my channel about the Lori Harvey obsession and I think it's getting out of control esp. on youtube tbh... SO many videos! I have multiple issues with Black Femininity youtube that I discuss in my video-- I'd love to hear your thoughts on it, currently live on my page!
She is the next girl ....the next hook up lol...not a prize
Yesss
For real change, we need feminine energy in the management of the world.
-Isabel Allende
You said we’re not doing this to attain a man but a lot of your points were tied to finding a man and being seen as “ wifey “ 🤣
Imagine ppl @ your funeral saying “I’ll remember her for how many men she finessed” 💀you’d hear me screaminggg from the coffin. 🤣🤣
Breeny, things are changing. You want women to be in the box we made from the 50s. All kinds of people get married, not just homely, feminine types. The ones that were just themselves found an authentic partner.
Beautiful Breeny🥺❤️. it’s about how you carry yourself and your inward personality. How kind you are and how humble you are but also keeping in mind that taking care of your femininity (the beauty God gave us to embrace gracefully) is also as important❤️ Ladies Less is more indeed👌🏾
All that you stated above is literally what makes your “ energy “ ...
Facts or facts?...even though Breeny has already done a video on this subject it's still equally important she done so again. Feminine energy is such a powerful energy. You can even feel the feminine energy coming from Breeny herself.
These are so true! One thing I have a question about it , how do you remain sweet and kind all the time but also not let people walk all over you and take you for granted? How do you own your energy and limit peoples access to it, while not coming across as unkind/harsh/over confident etc?
I’d say it all starts with confidence, confidence will help you create boundaries with people. Don’t dwell on the past, remind yourself that you’re not the same anymore. You should always be sweet and kind to people but don’t expect anything in return, also, you should not be afraid to say no to people, sat your true feelings e.g when you’re busy and can’t do stuff for people(put yourself first priority) in a calm way, don’t be afraid to cut off people that use you and don’t give them any explanation for your decisions, don’t address the hate or gossip about others, smile more, check on your real friends and family from time to time. You have to know finding that balance is a process doesn’t happen overnight. Hope this helps x
"Don't be traceable" I like that
You look absolutely gorgeous. The hair, the makeup, it’s just so gorgeous 😍
The soft spoken one is really going to be the death of me. I’m not loud and obnoxious but I’m very opinionated and like to make jokes to make people laugh because it’s just who I am 😩
How about a case study on a socialite, celebrity in her 30s. That transition from 20s to 30s is/ can be a thin line when it comes to style and leveling up.
This is the most beautiful woman I ever seen 😻👸🏾
Yes!! Femininity for OURSELVES!! Birthday twin, I totally understand the extra af, loud & opinionated lol ❤️✨❤️✨
Oh my god. Oh my god. The video just started and I paused it to write this that you look so so beautiful 😭😭😭😭
She looks great! Blue looks so good on her too ☺️
Just be yourself
Set your boundaries
And be assertive
So you can get the respect you want and deserve. It doesn’t have to come off in an aggressive way. This can be done in a calm and positive manner. Lady’s love who you are and who god made you to be, and embrace it with a smile. Have a blessed day my beauties. 💕💕💕
This is addressing the people saying femininity is mainly about getting a man... When I'm at work I bring my masculine energy. When I'm alone in the wilderness with nothing but my pack and a knife to protect me, I am in my masculine energy. I can easily jump into "try me, mother fucker" energy, but that's not appropriate within my home and within my marriage. There is a time and place for everything. Gender roles are complex and unique to each situation, but we have evolved over hundreds of thousands of years to be feminine. Most men don't want to date a woman who is masculine within the context of a relationship, just like most of us don't like dating a man who isn't masculine. You don't have to change who you are, but it's good to understand which side of your very complex self you should let shine within different situations and this video is here to help women understand how to express their feminine side. Be a badass at the gym, but also be aware of how loud you are in social settings lol
This video really exceeded my expectations. I thought it would discuss aesthetics or fashion only, however you've delved into some really interesting concepts. I especially liked being remembered for kindness and character.
JUST BE COMFORTABLE BEING WHO YOU ARE, AND STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF. THAT'S ENOUGH.
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It’s her being natural & mysterious for me
This can be very problematic lol but true femininity is not about your looks and how soft spoken you are. True femininity is about your aura. How you carry yourself, how submissive you are, leading without being the leader. Believe it or not a lot of the things we Oppose today is considered feminine, like cooking cleaning and taking care of the household or “being seen and not heard” this is where true femininity came from. Obviously taking care of yourself plays a strong factor but you can still be soft spoken and still take care of yourself and be considered masculine 🤷🏽♀️
Being submissive?! Cooking and cleaning?! Example of brainwash at its finest👎🏻
@@mgdkns6678 if you call being "submissive" brainwashing Just forget about being with a good man or hvm
She is strickingly beautiful
I get the point of this video, but this can't really be a case study when it's based on your perception of her social media profiles rather than actual facts or observations from her daily life. I also noted that you started off the video by saying this is not about finding or keeping a man, but used your previous relationships or interactions with men to support the points made on this list (for example when you spoke on mystery and moving in silence/ being soft-spoken) Finally, feminity isn't something I would say I actively pursue, but your explanation feels rather confining and dependent on how you present yourself to others. I'm interested in understanding how we can be in touch with our feminity without worrying about others' perception of us being the defining factor (at least that's what it felt like from the video).
YES KRYSTAL! Very well put
You’re the first one doing a feminine youtube video that appreciates personal style, the way you added the tomboyish look it just made me feel better cause every video I see they bash women for dressing more tomboyish and in my opinion being feminine doesn’t always have to do with the way you dress, of course it does in a lot of occasions but some of these channels expect women to wear heels and dresses every day
I don’t quite understand how someone’s femininity can be judged and or classified by their Instagram posts and how she "appears". Our perception is absolutely subjective and I‘m honestly really disappointed 🤔 maybe I also interpreted things the wrong way but especially telling young women that they have to be "secretive" or "mysterious" is a no for me. The most interesting part about me surely ain’t the fact that men chase me. I’m trying to uplift other women, that’s femininity to me. Being able to show solidarity and love for one another because you dare to acknowledge other women’s struggle. In my opinion we need more female allyship and less checklists.
I was just thinking the same thing because reading your comment. We’re literally just going based on how she presents herself on IG lol
Be disappointed. Do not follow anything these youtubers say is word or the examples they give. They are all insecure narcissist feeding off youe energy good or bad
Maybe you should just avoid the video then
this viewpoint is definitely underrated @samanthaDeutesfeld, we cant assume she has good manners, is kind and respects others just by looking at her social media profile. We all show what we want to be seen and those are the dangers of learning femininity by simpling scrolling through someone's page. femininity to me is about the character of my heart and then i think things like being mysterious etc are the cherry on the cake and not the cake.
It’s not her fault that that’s what the media reports on about her
The light blonde or caramel wow gives you a beautiful soft look! Love it
Can you do one on Rihanna! I think she be a good case study since she has changed so much over the past few years
Smoking isn’t feminine. As to why she cat keep a man. Her attitude seems rude as well.
My mother is the most feminine woman I know. Always put together She didn't have to teach me I just had to look at her. And She knows exactly how to manipulate men to get what she wants and I'm the same but more quietly ☺️ That's a skill to be honest
perf example b/c Lori got it from her mom .
When is your mothers bday ?
I prefer the talks without involving celebrities.
Sunethra LOL... I guess you can’t relate.
I second this notion
Me too.
Chew the meat, spit out the bones.
It’s not realistic at all
You are 100% accurate. And she knows who she is. That makes her very beautiful.
Great video👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
so so intersting !! I loved how you mentioned one of the tips on how to be beautiful is working on HAPPINESS and being happy with yourself I honestly didn't expect that but that's so true
" Even though I had... Even though I have a good body."
I love the way she switched that up. ❤️
Idk if y'all have heard of Brent Faiyaz but he's an American rapper/rnb singer and he has kind of toxic music like when you sit down and listen you'll be like, "this n*gga aint sh*t" but the way he carries himself is sooo unmatched. We really only know what he wants us to know which is RARE for an artist nowadays and the girls are going CRAZYY for him (including me). I'm not sure if its feminine energy or what, but he has his style of music, the way he dresses he never misses, his hair is always well kept, and he always looks clean and simple. He's never flashy too, no obnoxious jewelry or designer labels. I feel as if thats the reason why women are so attracted to him compared to these other rappers and singers. Also, You're absolutely right, a lot of American women specifically do not carry themselves in a feminine way anymore and idk why this loud, flashy, ratchet lifestyle is so popularized out here. Women from the UK and other countries seem to have a better grasp on femininity thats why i prefer hauls and vlogs of people from the UK or Canada.
The Lesson: @15:00.
Sis, you are always on point. 🙌🏾 Be kind, be genuine, be true. Good one.
I agree with most things but you lost me on the ‘if you wanna be treated respectfully, dress respectfully’ . Just sounds like respectability politics which is why so many women end up being raped/sexually assaulted. You may want to rethink that take.
b honestly, i think about this often and think she has a point. obviously no body deserves to be raped or harassed or anything like that based on what they are wearing. just like if you leave your house door unlocked, it doesn’t mean you deserve to be robbed. but you should do things in your power to keep these things from happening. whether that’s dressing more modestly or locking your door. and on top of that, what you wear does send a message. that’s just the truth. just like your manners or lack of sends a message. or whatever the case may be, it all sends a message. so yeah, if you want to be respected, you must dress respectfully.
Exactly what I just thought
Citizen of the World no one accused her of promoting rape culture. But in telling women to "dress respectfully" she’s shifting accountability away from men, who then happen to be sentenced milder because a woman was wearing something "disrespectful“? Victimshaming all the way.
If women are responsible for how they are being treated by men based on what they wear, how do you explain that women have been raped even in centuries where you could only ever see their face when they were in public and everything else was covered? 🤔 make it make sense! Women wearing whatever they want ain’t the problem, not teaching men to be respectful, decent and selfcontrolled is!
Y’all reading too much into this! Look dress how you want to dress and dress how you feel. Dress for you and feel confident in how you dress. Every woman is different! Some women show more and others don’t. There’s different sides when it comes to be feminine. Some days a woman wants to dress sexy and other days she doesn’t depending on the mood. I dress for me so dress for you and no one else. Every occasion has a dress code so don’t be extra but have fun and dress for you.
@Citizen of the World Speak the truth. I swear people always use extreme cases to justify their opinion.
It's literally psychology, how you dress and present yourself is how people esteem you. That's it.
Its has nothing to do with rape.
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Lori is definitely goals ...specially in modern day society she is so refreshing ... but most importantly is that a lot of her character/ personality is definitely a result of what her parents instilled to her ...
No jokes about it ... she's smart and grounded.
Is that an ENGAGEMENT RING 💍 Breeny?!?
Wow good eye
Kiwi Nycc thanks Sis💕✨
ashye hylton 🤣🤣🤣 Girl!
DAMNNNN woman you have some sharp laser focus 😂😂😂
Ibi H I’m crying 🤣🤣🤣
She definitely wear designer a lot but only people who love fashion like me and study these things I can spot what brands she’s wearing. But she’s definitely a great example
Nice video Breeny!! The only problem that I have with these femininity videos is that they always seem to be geared towards Black women. Has anybody else ever noticed that, or is it just me? I just feel like it further pushes the general stereotype that Black women aren't feminine/ are loud and have more masculine tendencies. I rarely see these femininity videos geared towards white women on this platform. IDK maybe I'm reaching.
Nope, thought the same thing. You’re not alone :).
@@samd8891 Okay that's good to hear because I thought I was reaching
adachioma it’s obviously just my personal opinion but no, you’re not reaching at all. If a video about "feminine energy" is all about how you should dress and how you should speak, we‘re in serious trouble. I’m sure Breeny did not mean to hurt people with the content of this video because I know that she wants to help people but using a harmful narrative will eradicate the importance of a once positive intention. I personally think that especially darker skinned WoC have Heard- enough. They’ve been told to be certain things and to not be other things. The used narrative in this video is just another manifestation of how deeply racism and sexism is rooted in our minds.
@@samd8891 My sentiments exactly. Beautifully said!!!
The truth is that by virtue of just being a white woman, obmverall society will view them as feminine and soft. Too often black wonwn are viewed by society, even our black men, as being harder and louder and that overused term "strong"😒
I think what a lot of you are missing is...No one is telling you that this is how you personally should act. These are suggestive tips, for women who WANT to be perceived as feminine. If you aren’t trying to be feminine, fine you don’t have to. However these are tips for women who feel they exude more masculine energy, or simply just want to embrace their feminine energy.
I think alexa demi is a great exemple of the confidante feminine woman
this hair and makeup is giving me life i cant even focus on the video
Loving, sweet and kind is how you appear to me and every time I see you on my feed, it gives me a nice feeling, that says everything 💕✨
No. 10 is Gold Be sweet and kind.
How you make others feel will make it easier for people to forgive you even when you do them wrong.
I’ve been watching you for around four years now and your content has always stayed relevant and encouraging so thank you! 💕 Completely agree with everything you’ve said in this video especially moving in silence, people don’t need to know everything 😂
Omg you’re STUNNING
Love it! ❤️❤️ Rihanna next video!
Yes Rihanna thanks
people should just be themselves, some women like to dress both feminine and tomboyish and I think there’s nothing wrong with that, cause these channels have started bashing women for “dressing like men” and how “femininity is lost” I mean I agree on some aspects but wearing comfortable clothes that are “tomboyish” doesn’t mean you can’t be feminine. And so many youtubers take Rihanna as an example, but if you look at her style she dresses both feminine and “masculine”
You should also do a case study on Saweetie. Her feminine energy, especially on her couple's quiz with Quavo was admirable!
she’s very masculine .. well , gaudy & overbearing ... nottttt féminine , in the characteristics listed here & other places
@@TeKeyaKrystal I disagree. Saweetie has a balance of both. She has most characteristics on here, her blogs show her feminine energy
@@TeKeyaKrystal i agree.. she is not the standard of femininity lmao.. she’s what i would NOT want to be. gaudy and loud
I agree with previous commenters. Of course I'll support Breeny's creative content, but her voice and insights shine without the celebrity references. She's my fave "femininity" vlogger and honestly one of the most beautiful woman on the internet lol. I find many others very unoriginal (no shade, but it is what it is) and just regurgitate one another. I miss the fashion, design and health videos. But it's a pleasure to be alive and I am glad that she is sharing with us. Much love
Breeny you look beautiful.. I thought this was going to be the ‘how to find purpose’ video u mentioned in the last one I was really looking forward to that! 💕
The fact that you clarified we do not do femininity for men! You had my attention bc that is the most important point for me. Great video love 💕🌸 and yes I love the case study type videos!
Very well said I believe In moving in silence and being mysterious!!
She’s really a role model ❤️, beside her complicated dating life
Please do Zendaya next. I love her 😭💞
Maybe i will on my CZcams channel
Ash_brii yesss I love her lol
👍🏽👍🏽 Now thats a cute girl with something special.
Zendaya is stunning❤
You literally kept it 100 percent and not once did I say you were a hater (we know how some people are when you keep it real). It is what it is. I appreciate natural beauty. I love this video!!!!!!!!!!!!!!