"YOU AREN'T MY TYPICAL" TYPE REACTION + OPINION FT. THE SKIN DEEP
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@@aquata3367 hey boo 🥰
This was my last marriage until I learned to love myself and trust God
@@RealTalkWithYanie I admire you so much Yani; you are one of the few women I can say that inspires me so much and guides young women in the right direction! Keep up the good work🙏🏽💖🦋
All of the things he “loves” about her is what she does for him. Lordt, that’s not romantic at all lol. A lot of relationships nowadays is based off what the woman does for a man,never about who she is as a person. SMH.
Thats usually the reverse.
@@zerotoanime3953 maybe for you. Many married friends and associates of mine always list the things their wives do for them when asked why they fell in love.
She’s a masculine woman, always taking care of a man doing the most for him
@@daintyann1795 I knew it when she said “you’re mine”. She really believes he’s the best she can do
And that’s a sign that that’s not who he wants-she’s the placeholder or starter wife. But, if a woman is willing to play that role, many men will let her. Until they get to where they can be leveled up to the type of woman they actually want.
When a woman builds her self esteem, that dusty ‘ride or die’ rhetoric legit sounds like crazy talk
Righttt!! I'm looking at this like I really used to sound that crazy 🥴🥴
SAY DAT 🙌🏽
yup, never been a ride or die and don't intend on it.
Facts!!!
1000%
When someone tells you your an exception what their really saying is, if they had the chance to be with who they really wanted, they would do so and leave you in the dust. Women should never fall into that trap. It’s just a complete waste of your time.
My baby father told me that I’m the only dark skinned woman he’d date when we were together years ago and I now am understanding how offensive that was ..
Go where you're loved and appreciated, not tolerated out of convenience. There's a difference, and I'm glad that more and more black women are waking up to it.
2nd place basically.
What I hear when someone says you’re the exception is...you not my type but you a do girl. Meaning she do whatever for him and that’s why they made the exception for them
It makes women feel like they're so special that the man chose them over their norm but the reality is what you stated
It is a RED FLAG when you ask someone why they love and their main reasons for loving you entails what you do FOR THEM, instead of who you are as a person.
FACTS
lol, if you follow SheraSeven1 that is always her reply to people who ask her, wether it not she actually loves her husband "wouldn’t you love someone who does xyz for you?” 😏
Yeah.. For a woman..
Unpopular fav: Men are SUPPOSED to be loved and respected for what they do and what that provide for others. That is never a WOMAN'S job. And this is why men never respect a woman that does the most for him. And additionally, if you even have to do a lot, they generally don't like you. The harder you're working, usually ,it's out of trying to prove your worth or gain his approval / loyalty
@@kaydubya6347 than why do men love a woman?
amen
Sad thing is most Black relationships are bonded by trauma.
No lies detected.
Meditation,therapy, and prayer is needed in the black community.
Facts!!! And we are usually oblivious to it.
Say it again 🤦🏾♀️
@@lexielovingu206I agree! The only thing that gets me is that Black people stay praying and going to church but still allow relationships like this as the norm 🤔
His "why I love you" speech made me feel like I was watching "The Help". "You is kiiiind, you is smarrrrt, an you is important."
Omg 😩😩😩
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Lmfaooo 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hahahahahah
Telling someone their an “exception” is one of the most backhanded compliments you could give.
Yes! It is very passive aggressive as well
Exactly
"I settled for you" vibes
That's no different from non-black people saying, "You're pretty for a black girl." Aka, "I hate most of you, but you're not like the others."
@@SuperSouthchick happened to me years ago too it still doesn’t sit right with me
He’s dead behind the eyes. I can tell within the first 10 seconds that he’s looking for a Mom instead of a GF. He also seems like he’s under the influence. Girl, you are too young and vibrant....say NO to struggle love !😫
Right ! He dusty 101
I was wondering if anyone else noticed and was willing to mention this 😂
@@kaebaegotsnax1907 Someone on that site mentioned he must be taking muscle relaxers..lol.
I was going to say this exact same thing! Dead behind the eyes.
You definitely have a point
she is absolutely gorgeous, the outfit the hair the skin, everything is stunning and he.....well, let’s just say he’s not the exception😅
Yes she is everything. I wish she saw what we see.
He’s average at best...
The compliments under the comments of the original are rampant!!
@@RUNWAYBEAUTY I hope she’s going to watch this video 🙏🏿💗
@@tataliciousdelicious9840 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽you better speak.
Attempting to “fix” a broken man will BREAK YOU! I learned that lesson the hard way...never again.
@lacedwithculture....Me too, I learned the hard way trying to fix a broken man...and yes it broke me and I am healing.
She's a placeholder. A clean up woman. Men will tolerate anyone that does for them.
You know when you’re hungry so you have a little snack to hold you over until your next meal.
I once read a comment that said men are only as loyal as their options. This video proves that to a T.
Hello
@@katlennat1680 that just hurt my feelings but it's the truth 😂
Didn’t she say...he’s not her type tho? And than she listed the reasons
A lot of people are saying she has “jealousy” over his kids. I don’t think of it as jealousy. I believe in your 20s you have that desire to feel a lil selfish with everything you want in life & simply, she isn’t ready to play that step motherly role. As a woman who is also in her 20’s, I am not ready for kids. I want my man and I to be able to have that quality time without distractions. Yes kids are a blessing, but everyone’s blessing comes at their own time. She’s simply not ready for it.
"Kids are a blessing, but everyone's blessing comes at their own time."
More people need to hear this!! 👏👏👏👏
Nah he prob uses the kids as a tool to keep a little wedge or distance in the relationship. He places them over her so she is not number one or main priority. It keeps her in a holding pattern. She be a do girl to prove and work for the number 1 spot. Basically kids are an excuse.
Say it again! That’s why we don’t need to be dating no men with kids smh. Women in our 20s, we want attention, we should be wined and dined. Not chancing motherhood in any way shape or form.
I agree. I'm very selfish but have the right to be. I'm young and don't have kids and so I want a man who also doesn't have kids so we can build our family together
@@WacoBeautyQueen This!! Your 20's is supposed to be the period of finding your place in the world, but how are you going to find yourself when you've got other people to take care of?
You can literally tell in his face, he wasn’t feeling her like that. She was just willing to be with him when the women he wanted wasn’t at the time. Typical come up women, place holder vibes.
Exactly, he doesn't appear to be genuinely interested in her to me either. I don't see any enthusiasm in the way he interacts or looks at her.
Please don't let this child offer to babysit.
I saw this vid the other day and I was like “No ma’am!” She up there fixing that man and he had the nerve to say she wasn’t his typical type. He saw a sucker and she got licked dealing with him. She doesn’t seem to see her worth and he knows it. This happens to sooo many women.
Exactly. He saw that she had low self-esteem and preyed on it. It's unbelievably disheartening to see what some black women are willing to put up with in the name of "black love."
@@Seoulsister5 this!
(Your not my typical type).... she didnt say he said dat to her, she said most people say dat about her..
she said he wasn't HER typical type lol what video did y'all watch?
@@teighlorb.7503 Exactly. I was starting to question my memory. Lol
He doesn't want to "jinx" his own engagement by being honest about his intentions??? Translation: Don't get your hopes up even though I've already wasted 9 months of your life, I'm gonna dangle marriage and pretend I'm scared of your rejection so you try harder to prove your loyalty until I find my next victim.
This!!!
SPOT ON!!
THIS!! I've experienced this and it is so true.
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WHEW
She's fixing him up so another woman can reap the benefits. You can see it an mile away, I hope she's watching this video and moves accordingly.
Black men in a nutshell. And 9 times out of 10, the women are usually light, bright, or white.
@@Seoulsister5 us lightskins get trapped into fixing up broken dusties. They’re everywhere. They go after everyone
@@lol.3460 Well, I'm talking about dark-skinned women right now. He said that she wasn't the type of woman he typically dates, which means he typically dates women like you. Why 👏🏽is👏🏽it👏🏽so👏🏽hard👏🏽for👏🏽you👏🏽to👏🏽understand👏🏽that👏🏽?!
@Lydia Anderson Exactly. I’m not tryna take away from anything I’m literally saying they’re not alone going through this bs !! We need to band together and start beating these niggas lmao I’m always gone root for the next as long as they root for me
It’s really gonna hurt by the time she wakes up, if she ever does. I’ve seen women give over 20 years and more and end up getting tossed out like yesterday’s trash
Another red flag was when he said “engagement” vs “marriage”. I feel like that was code for a “I’m gonna make you wait at least five years and then your gonna have to give me an ultimatum...” And when she ask why do you love me it was all about what she had done for him vs how he feels.
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He's using the hell outta her, and she doesn't even realize it.
Her eyes lit up when he said it. She doesn’t realize she’s being finessed. He’s future faking with her and she took the bait
This
How about...."she is going to allow him to waste her life for 5 years then give him a choice"....people like that do not have any self worth and they need to work on themselves first before seeking male attention
When will black women realize that's it's not up to them to "fix" anyone? Trauma bonding and struggle love is an agenda that's virtually exclusive to the black community, and is pushed heavily on black women to stay loyal to a group of men who don't collectively reciprocate. It's as clear as day she's being milked and preyed upon because of her low self-esteem, and I'm afraid she's going to learn it the hard way when he drops her for a woman he really wants to enjoy the fruits of her labor. 😢
I love the word you used RECIPROCATE, it a two way thing, if I bring in my 💯 I expect the same 👍🏾
If you struggle with low self esteem, please just stay single until you build up your confidence and self worth.
"Trauma", multiple kids, 10ish years age gap... Yet HE FELT COMFORTABLE TO say "she's not his type". GIRL, BE GLAD YOU'RE NOT THIS DUSTY'S TYPE 💁
She’s the one who said he is not her typical type
@@lettersfromhanna exactly
@@lettersfromhanna They are not going to like this man regards!!! They see all the sign that they dont like and you can clearly see that she loves him and that he loves her.
Toi Leonard It's the opposite. Through their body language, you can see she's all in and he is not. She is the placeholder and it is more than obvious.
This reminds me of my last relationship I just got out of, Im about to be 25 and I spent over 2 years fixing a man who then when it came down for me to need him he wasn’t there and had the audacity to act like I’m asking for too much. Never going dusty again and Yanie be keeping me on game.
We're literally the same age, living the same life😥💔
@@kwetsephetla3597 We will get through it girl and make better decisions. We are in control of who we let into our lives and learn from our previous mistakes
Every mistake is a lesson in disguise. Now you know your worth and you can demand what you deserve 🌻
Im glad the black man actually admitted that she deserved better and not dragged her around. She needs to love herself , she is just like paige
And my friends look at my crazy when I say I’m not in the right frame of mind to date. My self esteem has definitely increased over the years but I’m still not in a place where I know I can walk away at the first sign that things are going left once I get my feelings involved. I’m still learning to love my self and I’m okay with that. I feel like women really shouldn’t date until they truly view themselves as the prize.
Hey, hope you are healthy and happy! Would love an update,sister. You seem to have an insight so many other women need. Love is not for the squeamish . We should always take the time we need to heal.❤️✊🏾
Crazy thing is if she had kids and he didn’t he probably wouldn’t even look in her direction. The whole relationship looks like a car crash waiting to happen. He needs therapy from what ever he’s been through cause he just looks so dead in the eyes and emotionally detached. She needs to learn to love and appreciate herself and learn that she’s worthy of receiving the love she is so desperately searching for and not settle for less due to her self esteem issues. 2 broken people looking for another person to make them whole.
The original gag is everyone thought he would've said "you're not my typical type" and she actually did. We may need to reevaluate our assumptions...
I thought I heard that too. She was listing the ways in which people judge her and said "you're not my typical type, so they say. You having kids, and me not..." It sounds like HE'S not HER type, right?
Yeah I had to rewind it because I never heard him say that
When you’re insecure and don’t know your worth you typically settle for someone who you typically wouldn’t go for.
@@TheUsername777777 Right!
People on this post and others on the original video are drawing to their assumptions and is already not liking this man. I dont get how a man with children is not accepted but a woman with children get the pass. I watched this video several times and yes there is a trauma bond between the two but there is a divine reason on why they met and have been in a relationship with each other for 9 months. He know what is expected of him in regards to marriage and other things. Also, she knows what she needs to do when he does not give her that "ring" in the end. I hope their love for each other heals the both of them and their relationship grows because wooahhh the amount of comments that is talking down on them is bad!
Does she want to struggle??? I’m so confused she’s need to see her self worth and not settle for him.
That's exactly what I'm thinking. Girl don't walk, RUN fast and far
And he has children while she is childless with her youth, glowing melanin and all...the dust of it all. Smh 🤦🏽♀️ Please someone make her do some self esteem shadow work ASAP
The epitome of “a man will only do what you allow.” He knows she can do so much better and have her whole life ahead of her, but he’s going to take advantage of her being there.
She is struggling with her self-worth and feeling like she deserves better. That’s why she is with someone who she has to give so much to. Like she has to work for love to feel like she deserves it.
She’s this sprung while they only dated for 9 months AND played step mama. 🤦🏽♀️🤷🏾♀️ She’s sees a whole happy meal and prize when looking at that struggle love
This honestly reminds me of my last relationship. I left in November but we were together for ten years. I felt like I had to choose me.
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👏🏽 so happy that you choose YOU, proud of you and I don’t even know you 😊
These mush mouth men ain’t no good. Don’t know how Yanie understands him😂. Reminds me of Chris’ ol bad built pancake body rolls face azz on MAFS S12.
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Lol 😂
OMG 🤣🤣🤣
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She could be desperate for male attention like most of us let's be honest. And he could be desperate for some one who is vulnerable, which is what what most men like
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im not desperate. Dont say most
Lol not “ us” 😂
If u feel this comment doesn't apply to you then don't comment that why I used the word "most" instead of" all."
@I DON'T LIKE YOU At ALL maybe she’s said most because a lot of women would rather be in dysfunctional relationships than remain single. Let’s be honest.
This was a parasitic symbiotic relationship. He benefited while she did not because now she is dealing with emotional baggage that he can casually disengage from because he prayed on her vulnerabilities. I pray that she doesn’t make a habit of engaging romantic partners like him. She is worthy of a romantic partner that will give her the love she deserves. They both need therapy and have some internal work to do. I’m getting therapy now and it’s been so helpful in helping me change my thought patterns.
Omg this was me untill I turned 20 and found youtube to teach me about these stuff. I'm 22 now and I'll never trauma bond with men
I just don't understand the "struggle love". Why would you do that to yourself. Don't date or start relationships with broken people or while you are healing from trauma. Unnecessary hassles that some put their selves up with. 😩
@@SuperSouthchick I'm turning 27 in two weeks. Ofcourse, you experience a lot through dating etc... but you also learn from what you see around you... at least I did.
“Oh God, this is struggle already” 😂😂 I can’t
At this point idk anymore. I'm tired if black men disrespecting black women. But I want black kids.😭
Adopt, I’m considering especially since I date interracial
@@librarianrose4472 I want to find where my african ancestors were taken from and adopt from that place and maybe move there.
@@frogsmith9578 go to Africa first before adopting. African men depending on the country tend to be very family and marriage oriented
@## I want to know where my ancestors were taken from.
Your children will be BLACK no matter who you have them with😎 BLACK WOMAN CARRY TH EVE GENE and WE PRODUCE BLACK CHILDREN!!!
The minute I saw the name Desmond I started running lol. Every Desmond I know has been a waste of time
LOL me too I was thinking the same thing. The Desmond I dated was trashhhhh
My mom dated a man with that name for 4 years only to break up and months he got to another women and married they were together for less than a year.
@@savannahhalm every single one of them I dated 😂
@@taylorstep1413 there’s just something trash about men with that name.
The Desmond I dated was from Sierra Leone very misogynistic and manipulative he texts me every year to see if he can finish the emotional turmoil he put me through 🤣🤣🤣
I'm really glad you talked about shutting down. I do that with my fiance and have been trying to unlearn it. This explanation makes sense for my childhood too.
Only watching his face I knew the struggle on the relationship!!! Also how he communicates 🤦🏾♀️ I hope she runs away from him!!!
Thought i was the only one did u see his eyes something seems wrong with him .
I feel like he only tells her stuff that she want to hear.......😭😂 the fact that he had to think about some of the questions
This is why it's very important that you *believe you are worth more* not just look like it. All I see is beautiful queen who deserves the best but, for him to sit there with *no soul in his eyes* and say that tells me all I need to know. Repeat after me *you are not therapist or rehab center for broken souls*
90% of reality tv and a lot of what I seen in real life, when there is “ black love” and the girl is this complexion or almost just as dark; The dynamic is almost always the woman “ holding him down” , building him up, saving him from himself, inconveniencing her life, lending him money, compromising her happiness to be with him. I rarely ever see women that dark hypergamous black love relationships. Or at the very least, a black love relationship that doesn’t require for the women to help him get his life together. It’s almost like that is literally the only time the actually are in serious relationships with dark skinned black women.... And these women are so oblivious. They can’t even put 2 and 2 together.
Psych2go is the place to go to understand a lot about ones self and the human mind. I love your incorporation of that channel! Thank you for this!!
His eyes 🗣️ VOLUME! Run sis, Run!!!
Trauma bonding. I thought people stay together because of either money or love 🧐
Not anymore😭
Only in the black community.
When I saw this comment I knew it at to be 🇳🇬 😂😂 😂 if am not receiving both, am out the door.
What we aren't going to do is stay with with men that consider you an exception to their preference and being their therapist. But I was happy that in the comment other Black women were saying that she should leave her bf because he was using her to heal himself 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
I love psych2go vids 💜 I’m 24, I have no intention of dating a man with kids, not just bc I don’t have any/want any, but I know I’m allowed to be selfish at this time in my life and a man with kids never intrigued me. If anything I run😂 Girls please do better for yourselves.
Wow... her smile is magnetic but I definitely get a sadness from her with him.
I am also someone who shuts down, but it turns to anger later. I have an easy time disconnecting from people who don't listen to me and it's scary. I'm working on being more vocal and moving forward after I address a concern. This video was a lot.
Keven Samuels would tell her that she was dating a quality black man and to step her game up.
Team Arsenio we must be thinking about two different guys
Everyone needs to stay in therapy and pray for discernment to be able to avoid a pending heartbreak due to this , cause thats all its going to lead to 😩😩😩
These days people don’t really know what love is, we say we love this and that but love goes deeper than just affection we might have for someone or something . Love is respect, honesty, trusting, caring and some much more. These days people say ‘ I love you’ but those 3 words are meaningless if you don’t respect, honour or trust the person you are with. And on top of that, how can you love someone when you don’t even love yourself, you can’t show love if you don’t know how to love. Struggling love really isn’t love, it’s an relationship ( between lovers or family and friends) in which one holds on to someone in order not to feel lonely and as a way to cope with internal trauma.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.”
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 NIV
I learn so much on this channel then I even learn in school (I’m not a failing student) I’m only 13 and I just love watching commentary it opens my eyes
(Don’t say I’m too young bc Ik more stuff then my friends would even notice...)
Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style is shutting down. Everyone should read the book attachment styles if you have childhood trauma.
Drop that link or sum fam ! Cause I definitely know someone that could read it .
The whole thing was depressing and sad. Nobody seemed happy, there's no light in their eyes and they don't act like their in love. All he could talk about, was what she had done for him and how she keeps making him better. On the side note, I like how everyone keeps talking about how pretty she is🥰
Yanie how can we help this young lady to see her worth and run away now from this man that is clearly taking advantage of her??!!! He knows full well that he is keeping her along to use her as it serves him. She is literally GORGEOUS and it makes me sad to see young, beautiful, dark skinned black women feel so unloved in this world and get used by these men that have nothing to offer but baggage! 😭😭
I just ended a three months relationship with a broken man, like 4 hours ago and i knew it from the get go so i'm questionning myself and my caracter a lot. I feel like i will be going to therapy soon.
The way I'm going through the same thing right now... Ended an almost 4 months relationship with a *heavily* broken man and started therapy as well. 2 months afterwards and it's still a healing process.... Oof.
She's the "clean-up woman". She is too young, too gorgeous, too stylish to be dealing with this mess.
I want her to break up with him, go to therapy, be by herself for awhile and then think about getting into a relationship. She has so much she can give and he not it.
Sometimes it's just not sexual toxic relationships that you have to cut off, it can also be platonic toxic relationships as well.
She kept laughing after saying things there are important to her. And he laughed right behind her... I definitely shut down a lot. Trying to work on communication I am. But I’d rather wait to cook off before saying things I don’t mean just off the top of my mouth. 😞♥️
who else watches Yanie while eating ??🥺
Me
Doing it now lol
On my lunch break watching right now 😃
I'm taking a second break to watch this lol
Just had some zaxbys lol
He said, “You tryna make me cry?”
He know damn well he was not about to cry.
I’m highly triggered. This reminds me of when I was in a relationship with a narcissistic dusty. The trauma 😟
“Oh god this is struggle already” 😂😂
When he brought up proposing, he didn’t even bring up just proposing because I love you and wanna spend the rest of my life with you. If you can read between the lines, you would hear when he basically just said he’ll propose just because she’ll leave otherwise and because he doesn’t have any other options 🤦🏾♀️.
This is a sad video. I saw myself in her. 💔 And I realized I need to let go of someone. 💔🚮😪
Sadly!!!! This is how my daughter got here. I bonded with a deeply wounded man and we had similiar childhood traumas and held on to the good times and thought we could heal each other. I wish someone would have shook the shit out of me but i got one blessing out of the mess. I know better now and im a proud mommy
This is off topic but I have to come in and say Happy Early Birthday to a very brilliant Doctor named Dr. Frances Cress Welsing! Tomorrow is Dr. Frances Cress Welsing's Birthday 3-18-1935!
When I’m too lazy or shy to ask my dates the serious questions once we get to the chill together phase I just suggest watching Yanie to see what he says😭
I heard a young black man say if he’s going to date a woman she has to be able to do stuff for him aka give him material things 🤦🏾♀️
So I'm at work and when the trauma video came on, I started to cry cause I saw myself 100%. I have been physically and emotionally abused by this man. He has cheated and betrayed me constantly and I'm still here and I feel like shit. So I'm sitting here looking like an idiot crying at work, but I needed this wake up call.
What I heard in the beginning when she said " before we got together I was working on myself. I was bettering myself " i feel like she ran into him and she basically accepted him because like she said "he's understanding of her trauma " but this is the thing that keeps dusties around because they are feeding off of that trauma bond. And also when he spoke about a deadline for an engagement lets me know that she does definitely have standards. Not only with herself but with the men that she dates
And lets not forget that 🗣🗣SHE CARES ABOUT HER APPEARANCE she is so pretty😍😍😍😍😍
NEVER be with an insecure man. She's signing up for a life of struggle and pain.
Crazy because I have had a few situations like this before and it was obviously because I didn’t learn the first few times, but this is the worst.
This is interesting. 20 what? And 30 what? What is she doing? Honestly to me it looks like she has a lil jealousy towards them kids. Like she wishes he treated her that way...🙄🤔🤷🏾
He treats her like the help. Her eagerness to serve keeps him around. That imaginary engagement ring is what he’s using as the dangling carrot.
Yup . I wanted to comment that on the original post as well like she wants love too but she is on the outside.
YESSSS the “WHY????” was identical to what I was thinking!! I feel the same way!
She’s mesmerising.. I can’t stop looking at her 😊
Look ladies yanie tells no lies and she doesn’t need a man to prove her point. I’m literally dealing with this same exact situation and trauma bonding is no joke. That’s the first step into a soul tie. It also doesn’t help when you’re surrounded by nothing but narcissist. God will give you the strength and eyes to keep moving forward. Trust your instincts, they’re there to keep you alive in this world. God bless you all ❤️
Yeah I broke down all the way watching this video. I really needed to hear this. Thank you for posting
I giggled when it started and she said trauma “oh God this is struggle already”
I watched this last week and said the SAME thing
She's so pretty ❤. I really hope she learns and chooses herself and leaves him alone. They both need to heal and learn self love separately. Been there.
Sn: Yanie your face expressions be sending me 😂
Yanie is 100% correct. I have been and am starting to try and leave a trauma bond but it's harder when you have a child in the situation. You are tied to them through your kid/s and they take advantage of the issue again and again. I realised I was in a trauma bond too late - I ignored my intuition and red flags thought he still was a good man...he was using me.
Maybe the young lady wants a form of security and thinks he is it. She is absolutely beautiful, young and such a kind soul - I hope she puts herself first and leaves him - he knows he has a good woman in her, but he has no permission to keep her. She needs to leave...and find and heal herself.
This woman is setting herself up. It's not a skin issue at this point. Dude needs to go. He has too much baggage. This dynamic is toxic.
He D’ing her down, that’s all I can gather, she look young & fresh, he look wore out but trying his best to keep himself nice looking
I am actually actually going through a process of healing from a relationship like this. This video definitely helped me see a lot of similarities of what there going through that I went through.
She is a pretty woman. I am a dark-skinned woman. In fact, she and I likely wear the same foundation shades. I know what she has likely has gone through to drag her self esteem down. She is like looking at myself 20 years ago. It took me a while to get self-love. After being ridiculed for for my skin-tone as a child and teenager, in my 20s, I ended up in a relationship with any man who said I was cute. Trauma bonded relationships were my theme songs.
When you shut down or want to be in isolation alone in the home it is because you learned that your voice was not important, your parent/s/ family did not listen to you or consider your thoughts as important as other siblings because they may have been “different” from the entire family, you were gaslighted by the family or you were the actual scapegoat of the family so you felt adopted like an “extra” in the family made to take on the family issues because of your empathy, intuition and inner greatness.
I wish this lovely lady could see her value and do some self esteem shadow work instead of dealing with some man with children while she is childless and young. She needs to RUN
Early gang 💪🏾
You look gorgeous like always but this hair was everything. But omg your commentary was killing me 😂
Thank you boo 😂
All three of the relationships I’ve been in were trauma bonds, I am so grateful to be delivered from this , so grateful beyond words. I am still actively healing which wasn’t always a pretty picture but I am at a wonderful place in life. I know my worth and have so much self-love for myself.
I got that video as a recommendation. A few minutes in and it was already painful to watch😬. I didn’t finish✌🏾
(But I’ll watch this since you’re reacting to it Yanie😁💕)
That’s definitely a trauma bonded relationship. All of the signs are there. 🤷🏽♀️ Great video!! 💖💖
I've definitely been in a few trauma bonding relationships. I broke the main one that I kept going back to about 2 and half years ago. I feel like I wasted so many years with him. It's a real problem for sure.
This seem like some dusty struggle love to me. She is a pickmeisha and he has nothing to offer her, but his dust. RUN GIRL......RUN !!!
I was so shocked that the CZcams channel thought this was a good video/story to push!?? Like this shouldn't be promoted. I KNEW it was some BS when the guy was mumbling like WTF why is he so scared to talk. He seems so disengaged with her it is so sad. Compare it to other videos on the channel w/couples both people are engaged and excited.
And yeah your commentary is on point...a lot of struggle...he low-key told her he could do better...trauma bonding..."another guy would have left" SMH. This is a mess indeed. She might also have insecurity issues bc of her weight + trauma...I think she is gorgeous seems compassionate and could do a lot better
This is why I can’t date a parent. I just can’t. Respectfully
It’s illegal to be that gorgeous. She’s so beautiful.
You look amazing! As always ❤️