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- čas přidán 31. 10. 2022
- Hi everyone! Today I just wanted to chat about some life stuff that has been going on. A good friend has been backstabbing me and I just needed a vent. Have you been in a situation like this before? How did you handle this?
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I've been there, and you're not being dramatic about it. If the friendship was so intimate and felt so real, it does feel like a breakup. Virtual hugs to you 💜
I am sure I will get over at some point but right now it's very real but I stil have some really good friends here
@@ExtraRoly we’ve got your back. You’re honestly one of the few people if I knew you in person I would actually hang out with you make me crack up laughing you and Lux are wonderful genuine humans and I can understand how painful it is and scary. I’ve been betrayed and it is violating. The best advice I can give is time heals. You really just need to both be kind to yourself and know that you have done nothing and this person has only made a fool of himself. Time really is the best medicine take it one at a time. Also look at the positive. This person has shown their true colours and I would just spit out the Poison. You don’t need to be in that kind of toxic environment. They will get their karma hun I truely believe my stalker will too
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Oh my God... I'm only a couple minutes in and I'm already so shocked and confused that ANYONE in your life would EVER get in contact with your stalker!?
I’m so sorry this happened Roly 💜 I can’t believe this person ignored you when you wanted an explanation for this interaction after bitching about them. That is incredibly shitty.
Yeah it's so werid how nothing was said. Clearly didn't give a shit
Really struggling myself atm so I'm really, in a bizarre way, excited to snuggle down and feel like we're on facetime sharing our woes
Ugh bless all three of you. Maybe an episode of your podcast with Luxaria could be dedicated to this. It might be cathartic to just talk it out? Maybe have callum on as a guest
Friendship breakups hurt - especially ones like this. I can sympathise as I feel I've been going through similar recently. That person clearly isn't worth it, and I'm glad you've still got real friends in Callum and Luxeria
Oh thank god this isn't about Luxeria! Now I can go back to watching her video on ANTM ...
I had a best friend through school and college and uni for 13 years. I was there for her constantly. She started avoiding seeing me in person to hang out and then all of a sudden she said “I don’t want to pretend to be friends with you anymore.”
That was it.
I felt like she died.
This is a bit long, so the short version is; someone read this and understands.
I know this is an old comment, but I wanted to say that I know *exactly* how you feel. (Coincidentally down to the length of friendship). I'm replying because in all the time since, whenever I tell people what happened they don't seem to get it.
The closest is (and I don't know why anyone would think this helps or is even acceptable) an oddly dismissive response - like someone "educating" a child - "Well I guess that wasn't a very good friend after all, huh?"
(Any neurotypical people who reacts in this fashion to things like this, in my professional opinion as a Psychologist, are trash.)
Closure is *so* crucial. I've lost people important to me in a myriad of ways; some literally died, but it was actually easier to cope with.
The major difference being they didn't have a say and it wasn't personal.
When someone randomly cuts you out of their life with no explanation, despite the history you have together; that wound runs *incredibly* deep. I'm so very sorry you experienced it.
If you want to talk/vent/ect; I have plenty of time to read and respond.
Once again, I'm sorry you went through that - you deserved better.
@@searchingfororionthank you, I needed to hear that right now.
I’ve been having an incredibly hard time and I’m getting a lot of therapy for a variety of things, I’m at an all time low. I’ve had the darkest thoughts and I’m scared.
That being said, I’ve recently been betrayed by people I thought were a couple of my closest friends and have been made to feel like I’m the worst person when I’ve done nothing wrong. I’m the first to criticise myself so for me to think it’s unjustified is a lot. Yet I feel crazy.
I really needed someone to be kind to me today, thank you so much. Really. It means the world to me.
I hope you’re doing well out there.
@@curlytangledmane I get along. Thanks for your reply. I've been in very dark places too, so I relate.
Feel free to contact me as often as you want. I have lots of time all the time and I *sincerely mean it* when I say it's not a bother.
I'm glad that little comment helped, and I truly hope things improve.
I've been through a friend breakup by a similar situation and I STILL feel so gross and disturbed and even slightly depressed when I think about it for too long - and this happened over 5 years ago. It's so hard to get over because it affected the way I viewed the rest of my friends whether I liked it or not. It took so long to gain my trust in other people back.
Sending love
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Losing friends is painful. I've been through something similar, just with a sibling. And I totally get the feeling of anyone close to them being basically "guilty by association". There is rarely any way to come back from such a violation of trust. You'll feel better with time but you're wise not to trust them.
It’s such a shame when stuff like this happens. Real people are so rare these days! I’ve gotten rid of so many “friends” recently because they think they use me when they want - it’s disgusting how some people are! I’m so sorry this happened to you, I wish there was something I could do 😔💙
It sucks when friendships end but you're sooo much better off to no longer have a person like this in your life. It's probably for the best. Wishing you healing from this situation x
I feel you Roly. Don't forget how amazing you are. How you lighten up others and make this world a better place xx
I am so sorry this happened to you. What you feel is valid and you matter.. people are scary creatures.. Sending you much love 💕
I agree completely 🥰💖
I'm sorry this has happened to you, friendship breakups can be just as painful as romantic breakups. In fact, I'd rather have to face an ex partner than an ex friend. Don't feel bad about needing time to process and grieve the loss. Just because a relationship was platonic, doesn't mean it hasn't had a significant impact.
🥺🥺🥺 When people who are close to us do something bad we immediately look for a reason why they did it but we can't find it. They were fully aware of what they did but you can't control someone's choices and actions. It is a very unpleasant experience but it has to happen to verify what people are really like. I think it's good that you saw this photo and you know. It'd be so much worse off to still trust them and have them in your life when they did something like that. It hurts a lot because you gave them the best of you but it will fade away over the time. I think there's no good advice on how to deal with a loss of a good friend. Just look at a bigger picture - you lost someone but you still have so many beautiful people around yourself who actually take into a consideration how you feel and they care a lot. Keep yourself busy and distracted as much as you can. I hope you feel better soon, Roly 🥰🥰
Oh roly I’m so sorry this has happened. I understand how much this hurts. I’m sending you so many positive vibes.
Thanks Lovely
1:40 oh wooowww I'm so sorry to hear that and everything else you've talked about to this point of the video. That sucks to hear! You have every right to your feelings about finding all of this stuff out!
Big hugs Roly. You are a better person than all of em. Look after yourself. X
Had a similar situation on Valentines Day, no less. Someone I considered a very good friend. She attacked everything about me and told me my personality is awful, my work is awful, no one likes me…. And many more. I know none of it is true and it all definitely hurt at the time coming from her. It took me a solid two months of being hurt and confused. Looking back, there were so many red flags, not to mention she ended other friendships, only had a couple friends, and she talked bad about a lot of people. I can’t believe I didn’t see the toxic behaviors! But I think her outburst came from jealousy among other things. I have loads of friends and have never had this happen to me. It definitely had me questioning myself, my personality and everything else she said. But after chats with other friends, I feel better now. Haven’t heard from her since that day. She’s since stopped talking to our mutual “friends” (coworkers). Dug a deeper hole, she told my actual friend that she’s miserable and moving away. Lol. BYE! She screwed herself over and finally the others figured it out on their own. But I’m okay now, part of me hopes she fails miserably in life, and another part of me hopes she sorts herself out and becomes a better person. But I will NEVER be friends with her in the future. Anyway, sorry this happened to you. It hurts so bad but time will heal that.
Been in this kind of situation a few times and now I have a hard time trusting anyone because I am afraid to get close to someone. Sorry that u r going through this. Big hugs.
So sorry to hear this. I have been through lots of best friend breakups and they hurt like hell. It's been years and I'm still recovering from it. Sending you all my love x
I’ve been in a somewhat similar situation, so sorry you are going through this 🖤🖤. As hard as it is it’s best to cut him off in this situation, I wish I didn’t waste time trying to make our friendship work after being hurt. Sending lots of love💕
I lost my childhood best friend eight years ago from a falling out. I think about her all the time and it’s difficult because I still pass by her house all the time and have so many memories.
My situation is much different, however I can still relate somewhat with an ex who I could’ve easily talked about online but never did. I found out a few months ago he’s been spreading lies about me on Reddit (granted he never uses any personal info) but it was so hurtful.
My advice is to keep your true friends close and try to ignore that person as best you can ❤️
I am so sorry you are going through this struggle. A friendship can be very close and intimate especially if you do not have a close knit family. This makes the pain so much more intense. Virtual hugs to you. ❤
Roly you are such a beautiful human I know who you are talking about but you are worth more and are loved you deserve the world and more I can understand when ya get hurt the time it takes to heal but you know lux and callum will always be there for you 💚💚💚💚💞💞💞🥰🥰
So sorry this has happened. You seem such a genuinely lovely person. They have shown their true colours. You are better without him. The older people get, the less friends you have, but they are the best of friends.
Yeah I do try and keep my friend group small.
You have too, that allows you to become family. You have two great friends in Callum and Lux, they will always have your back x
What a complete and utterly horrible piece of work. Your better of without him Roly. I know it seems difficult but you will get over this. You have a pure, good soul and don't change. You will be 👌 OK sending love
It's really hard when someone you care about and trusted breaks that trust in a big way. I'm so sorry you have to go through this.
I'm so sorry Roly, friend Breakups honestly suck as much as like a romantic one because it makes you truly feel like NOBODY KNOWS WHAT FRIENDSHIP ACTUALLY IS ANYMORE and it hurts when you've been such a good friend to them, I know how you feel
Of course it feels that way. It's someone you've cared about, you've put time and effort into a relationship with, shared very intimate details with. You're entitled to feel betrayed, sad, hurt, and upset. Those are normal feelings and you should let yourself feel them, cry, get angry, and get over it. I don't mean that in a negative way, but to move past it, put him behind you. He's no longer with your energy. Feel the feelings and then you're free to move on and be happy again.
My goodness sorry to hear your going through this, hang in there Roly.
That really breaks my heart. Losing friends so close is so so hard and your not being dramatic at all. It’s so tough to see someone you let in your walls end up being someone u never thought. I hope u havegood friends to support you through this❤
I am so sorry that you are going through this, Tons of love and hugs!
I’m so sorry this has happened to you. I’ve had friendship break ups and they are comparable to relationship breakups. So it’s normal to have the same kind of emotional roller coaster. It’s sad that some people, like your old housemate and stalker, feel the need to try and ruin other people’s lives for absolutely no reason. Crazy
It is so painful, especially when you have no idea what’s going on or you wonder if you’ve done something.
I totally understand how youre feeling, I lost a really close life long friend in a pretty bad betrayal and it hurt like a break up. Its an awful feeling, im sorry you're going through this ❤
I’m so sorry to hear this, it’s not a nice thing to go through. I understand being betrayed by friends, I hope you are able to feel better soon! ❤️
I'm so sorry Roly I don't blame you I would be incredibly disappointed and hurt sending lots of love for you ❤️ and a virtual hug
Aww Roly. I am so sorry to hear that you are going threw this. I have been there in a similar situation. Its hard and heart breaking at the same time. Sending love 💜💜💜 xx
I’m so sorry that you’re going through this, I agree when you say it’s like a breakup but worse because there’s no closure for you on the issue if ‘Chris’ wont talk to you about it but it will get better and you’ll find better people I’m sending you my love 💕
Sending you love.
Sweetie he's just jealous that you're fantastic, sometimes you have to just make the hard decision to drop toxic people from your life and concentrate on the people who truly love and value you. Sending positiveness and a virtual hug 🦋
Mate. I've been in situations that are like this, trust in friendship is extremely important, and the way you feel is valid.
Unfortunately, it might be a while before you can really grasp and get your head around what has transpired. Finding out the truth, should you wish to do it, might be something you look into later on, when you've distanced yourself more. While you're all feeling this raw, it is better to talk and hang with those people you know are your true friends. Those people will come out of the woodwork and let you know they have your back, even if you have that kind of adult relationship where you don't see one another much.
Luckily, you have Callum and Luxeria right near you, and you can spend time appreciating what you have. Focus on this now. If people come to you with info, take it but maybe process it later. Grieving a friendship takes time just like all grief. It is exactly as you and Lux say, I don't even come close to knowing you guys, but you all seem like good people. 🖤
Also yes, Callum especially was put under threat by proxy, this Chris character is wild and shady as fuck.
I went through something very similar a few months back, it sucks! And I relate to most of what you're saying. It takes time to get your head round it and feel better, so focus on the friends you have and soon you'll find your new normal.
I’m sorry your feeling sad Roly. You are such a ray of sunshine bringing me some much needed laughter when I’ve been struggling. I hope you can get past this but you can’t help how you feel it’s easier said than done when a close friend treats you this way. Sending you love ❤️❤️❤️xxx
It's completely valid to feel like you've experienced a break up, we don't put as much stock in friendships the way we do relationships, but for many, they're more like family and that's gotta sting! I'd also be fuming if I was in your situation.
I'm sorry to hear you feel sad, all I can say is at least you have Calum and Luxeria that you can still trust. 💕
I’m sorry to hear your going through this. I went through something similar with year when a friend of 10 years just turned so nasty. We haven’t spoke since, and it’s been difficult to accept but now I have realised it’s a blessing this person is no longer in my life. Appreciate the times you had together but you have to accept this person has changed and your better off with out them
I've been in a similar situation and you're not being dramatic or anything, it is such a weird and confusing and hurtful situation to be in and I'm so sorry that you have to go though this, sending all the love and positive vibes to you
i had a situation like this happen to be a few years ago....all i can say is that it will be super hard at first but it will open you up to many newer, healthier friendships that will care and love you just as much as you do for them....the absence of a horrible being will bring many positive ones..we wish you the best Roly
Friendship breakups are the worst and hurt so much, but this situation is horrible! I’m so sorry, sending you so much love Roly ❤
I know I'm a bit late to this but I've been through a similar thing, and I am so sorry this happened to you 💜 I lost a whole friend group due to one toxic person's words and actions, including friends who promised me and assured me that they'd be on my side of this situation. This person lied about me and caused me to lose basically my entire social circle, and there are a few things I personally have found about this situation.
1. It is a breakup, so treat it like one. Get rid of the photos, the memories, anything that reminds you of them that you're willing to give up - do it! It'll feel really cathartic and relieving, and you'll have fewer things around you that may trigger the feelings around the situation.
2. I still look back and think "what if I'd done this differently". I harbour a lot of guilt over the situation and I feel like that's something that anyone who's gone through any type of breakup will feel, especially when you don't have the opportunity for closure. I pine for my lost friendships, but ultimately it was the best thing that ever happened to me, my life improved so much after the fact.
This person has betrayed not just your trust, but the trust of others. Grieve it like you would any breakup, but they are clearly not worth any speck of your time. I truly hope you find a way to heal from this, and I am sending you all the best vibes for you to feel better soon 💜💜💜
I went through a similar thing last year, couple of old friends did some horrible things to me, including publicly bullying and lying about me and attempting actual criminal activities against me. It was unbearably difficult and I spent a large part of the year crying in my bed. It took HUGE amounts of therapy and conversations with other friends to get over it, and even still sometimes I get flashback of that pain. I feel you so so much Roly, and sending you big big hugs!! You are incredible and will get through this!! 🤗💖💕🌟
I've been through this a few times. Allow yourself to grieve. It is a loss and hurts. I'm sorry you are going this but you will get through. It's better to have this person out of your life. Lots of love
I'm so sorry his happened to you, you put so much good out into the world you don't deserve to be mistreated like this. you're feelings are completely valid, sending you all the love in the world
I'm happy that you have such amazing friends like Luxeria and Calumn to process this with together. I remember I had a bad friendship breakup (he kept threathening suicide and such if I wouldn't do certain stuff) but I was too scared to let go since he was the only good friend I had. Once I made other good friends I let the toxic friendship go. looking back I feel so much better that this is over, but it also still hurts sometimes.
Losing people is always a grieving process, whether they passed away or are out of your life for another reason. Take your time to process this! much love
losing such a good friend is really really hurtful especially when its due to betrayal. ive been there too. sending hugs roly 💖
So sorry to hear about the breakup of the friendship. Many hugs to you from Canada
I’m sorry this happened Roly. I guess some friendships just break and it’s a horrible feeling to be going through. Sending you lots of hugs 🫂
I went threw this as well. it sucks! only time will heal it. but always will be a thorn in your soul. sending good vibes 💖
I'm so sorry this happened to you 😥. Being betrayed can really hurt your trust overall and not just with that person. I haven't really had something exactly like this but I've been taken advantage of many times. Which I feel like this person did take advantage of you aswell. I became very closed off and paranoid because of my experiences. Being vigilant is good but don't let this make you into a distrusting person like I did. I know it really hurts right now but at least you're not alone. You have wonderful real friends on your side in this. Let yourself feel whatever comes to you.❤
Love you, Roly!! 💜💜 So sorry all this happened!!😥😥 Friendship grief is whole other thing!! Sometimes it's worse than losing a significant other. 🫂
Thanks Love
This feels very appropriately timed as I have also fallen out with one of my closest friends. I know how much it hurts because (for me anyway) I tend to share more of myself with a friend than with a partner. Sending you lots of love ❤️ you are strong and you can get through this
I've been watching your videos a while and I don't comment much but I'm sorry you're going through this situation. It sucks when a friend betrays you. I've had to let people go and it's painful! It is almost like a breakup, you mourn the relationship...
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I have lost a friend, not in the way you did but I get the feeling of a
"break-up", it hurts.
With your situation, I cannot imagine not only being hurt but being betrayed as well. It really must hurt and make you mad all the same.
Unfortunately, you have to just let them go and move on. Thankfully, you have 2 very good friends that understand what you're going through and you can all lean on each other. I hope you all can heal quickly.
Thank you for shering such hard experiences, You are a model of survivor. Take care girl❤️🩹
I dealt with something similar a few months ago. My best friend of 7 years decided he wanted nothing to do with me when I was going through one of the toughest points in my life. He not only knew what hell I was going through, he was there for all of it. I was so confused and hurt and you have every right to feel the way you do. It sucks but you don’t always know who you think you know. Be careful who you trust
I've been in the position of a friendship group making a side chat to specifically bitch about me and call me a liar etc who only excluded my other half and his best friend. it was incredibly difficult to move past, it definitely made me more reserved and wary of who i get close to and open up to. Sending love
You’re not alone and it’s natural to feel betrayed and sad about it. A very similar thing happened to me with someone I thought I could trust. It’s been 7+ years and I haven’t spoken a word to that human being since nor do I think I ever could again. It’s tough. I’m so sorry that happened to you and your friends. You all deserve better.
Oh sweetheart, I'm so sorry it's really rough when this type of stuff happens. What you're experiencing is a type of grief on top of the hurt. Feel your feelings whatever they are but as you get older (I'm 48) your circle gets smaller and those that are left are your people. Sending a virtual hug x
I’ve also recently been through something similar and it’s just so mind boggling how someone can play a part to manipulate you for so long!!! It almost makes you feel like you’ve been blind but it also makes no sense!! I’m so sorry this happened to you Roly it’s truly upsetting and you’re not over reacting! It’s so hard to know who are true friends and sometimes it’s scary. As for advice I honestly just reach out to loved ones (not necessarily just family) and just take it day by day. It’s almost like you have to grieve to move on.
I've had something eerily similar happen; whatever you do do NOT let them back into your life, the only thing they'll learn from being forgiven is that they can just do it again.
I had to learn that the hard way.
Your feelings are completely valid and this is devastating and an absolute gut punch from experience. Props to you for just cutting this person out and not chasing answers. Making peace with not knowing whats been said and their reasons and not caring is the only way to move on and I can tell you're just ready to have this nonsense out of your life 🙏🏻❤️
I’ve had a similar situation with someone I have known almost my entire life. It’s a weird place to be in. Part of you is almost grieving a loss but at the same time another part is feeling betrayed and angry. I think it’s important to allow yourself to feel all of those things. Your feelings are valid and you don’t deserve any bit of this.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. Back stabbing friend's always makes you feel weird. That's why my gaurd is always up doesn't mean how good of a friend they are. They can always turn on you. I have been in the same boat as you and I write them off permanently. Stay strong my dear friend. This to shall pass. Lots of love❤️
Sorry to hear this Roly, sucks when you get close to someone and loose them. All love and the best
I've had this exact situation happen to me a year ago and its only now I have realised how much I let those people affect me. I was so focused on how shitily they treated me and how much I hated them all , that I wasn't actually allowing myself to heal. It was only when began reaching out to old friends and actually allowing myself to forget about everything ,that I was actually begining to heal. I would reccomend that you treat yourself and be around those most dear to you because the only way your going to stop hatting everything thats happening to you is by giving yourself some love
I'm late to this but I am so sorry you're going through this roly. A friendship breakup can hurt just as much or even more than relationship breakups. The betrayal is horrible. Hope you're going to be okay 💛
I went through a similar situation with a friend group too, I was taken advantage of and things I told in confidence to one individual used against me later on. They all took his side and didn't believe me so it hurt really bad. Slowly trying to heal from it all. We'll get there Roly
I’m so sorry this happened 🖤 friendships breakups are tough. Allow yourself to grieve and sometimes people are just vile without reason.
Awh Roly, I'm so sorry to hear about this, sending hugs your way😔🤍
Aw, Roly, I’m so sorry ☹️ Sending hugs to you, Callum and Luxeria. It is like a breakup when things like this happen, the grieving is the same xx
It's okay to grieve a loss like that, Roly. I've been there too.. at least in a similar situation. I hope your upset is over now ❤
I appreciate you opening up to us while you are processing through this at your own pace. Everyone has a right to cut toxic from their lives, I've had to do it too, but I'm still sorry that it took this long for his true colors to shine through the rose colored glasses. I wish you didn't have to go through that kind of intrusive pain.
Oh Roly, sending hugs and much love your way. I'm sooo sorry, I've been hurt by people who I thought would have my back, family in fact. Completely stabbed in the back then tells me they are sorry and made a mistake, all too late to do anything about it. I feel for you, I really do. It heartbreaking 😞 XxX
just subscribed xD but ive been in a situation like this, only the person who 'backstabbed' or ''betrayed' was slowly turning into me, and like mimics me if it makes sense? but id say take a break, try and relax, vent it all out, were all here for you
I remember you speaking about your old house-mate on a GOTM episode, some people are so horrible and will do anything to pull themselves up & it’s pathetic. Around 7 years ago, my only friends were people who also bullied me & it was awful so I can fully empathise. Whatever happens, you’ll always have us to come to ✨❤️
I'm so sorry that happened Roly, you don't deserve that. i know how that feels. Anyone that is your friend is lucky to even know you. I love you Roly 💞💞 i hope you feel better
I love you Roly. You are the picture of strength. You got this❤
I’m so sorry Roly,
You seem like such a lovely, genuine person and I cannot fathom that simply showing your personality and creating joy on your channel has caused people to become so malevolent towards you
Sending you lots of love and support
I hope you are able to find peace and protection from these evil people
I'm so sorry that you have to go through this chaos Roly dear 💜🖤💜
I don't blame you for being confused. It sucks when people turn on you. I'm sorry this happened to you. It makes you question whether this person was ever a friend; that they were possibly spying to get inside info. Hope the full truth about the situation comes out and it helps you gain some insight to this person's motives.
This situation sounds awful Roly, I’m really sorry this has happened to you. Everything you’ve talked about feeling is totally understandable and valid, to have someone that you felt comfortable and safe with suddenly turn out to be not who you thought they were is a specifically painful hurt. It absolutely makes sense you’re still feeling discombobulated a few days later, there are a lot of complex emotions going on and that takes time to settle. Please be gentle and compassionate with yourself as you move through your feelings around this, I find when I don’t start with acceptance in making sense of these kinds of experiences the distress is so much worse. Please take care of yourself and reach out for support from the good people in your life ❤
It sounds like such a difficult situation Roly. I think what is a great thing is that you’re able to communicate and understand your emotions. I want to remind you that everything you’re feeling now, and will feel in the future, is absolutely valid and there’s no judgement from me,and others I’m sure.
I wish you, and all involved love strength and healing as you figure things out.
I recently loss my best friend of 11 years. I get it. Sometimes it’s weird how shit you learn about them just lifts a veil and completely throws you off, but makes sense at the same time.
I’m so sorry that yours in a similar boat, it really hurts. Just let yourself mourn your loss and be angry for a little while, it’s really an awful thing for them to do. But it sounds like you’re better without him 💖
why have i literally been through this almost exact same situation a week ago? my "friend" started spreading rumors about stuff i had said and in doing so turned a lot of people against me. it was a lot of clean up just to be seen the same in my friends eyes, which i know isn't the same as social media and stuff but it's a similar concept. anyway, it's a really awful situation to be in and im so sorry it's something you're dealing with as well. the only advice i have is to take this lesson and learn from it; make sure your support system is really there to support you. be strong love ❤
Hi Roly! Thanks for sharing. As an OG follower I know who “Chris” is and I too was shook when I saw their insta story with the ex housemate. Nothing can prepare you for this type of situation & it’s very sad; just know everything you are feeling right now is completely valid & only time will “make it make sense”. I too have been in a similar situation & it sucks! I would also say (despite it being hard) look at it from “Chris’” perspective; meaning, has “Chris” done this to actually hurt you or have they done it out of feeling alone and desperate and forgetting where loyalties lay and the consequences of friendship? Ultimately it’s not ok. Just allow yourself permission to feel what you are feeling & surround yourself with people that love you! X
Hey! So sorry to hear that someone has hurt you so badly! It’s very painful when someone so close can be so betraying! I have been through something similar and I think sometimes it’s more painful than a death because they are still around to continue that hurt. Unfortunately for me, I have become so withdrawn from everything outside of my home now that I can’t offer anything constructive, I just wanted to let you know that you are a incredibly strong person and karma is a bitch! Stay strong, stay safe and let karma do its work!!
I'm so sorry that you've been betrayed like this Roly. It's really awful when that happens because when such a trust has been basically crapped on it makes your world that bit smaller and yourself that more wary about others that you know and that's sad. I wish there was something I could do to make you feel better. I haven't had that exactly happen to me but I did have a friend that told me they thought we couldn't be friends any more over a text message and that felt a bit like a bereavement. It was horrible because we'd been quite close as friends (or so I thought), then I got that text...
I do hope you'll be OK. You have some really great people around you in Callum and Luxeria. I know that doesn't make what has happened any better, but you three gel so well together. Sending you lots of love and big hug from up in Yorkshire. ❤
losing a friend is sooo similar to a romantic break up, and you're not being dramatic whats happend is a betrayal and I can imagine its horrible :(
Oh honey, I’m so sorry this has happened to you. It’s such an awful feeling to have someone close turn out to be someone completely different; having that trust and care be betrayed. Take time to give care to yourself, and spend time with those you love. Best to you and Callum, keep being exactly as you are. ❤❤❤
I had a friend since childhood. As adults, we bought property together. Planned our futures. Her mom was my 2nd mom. Then she wanted out of the property. She moved out, stopped talking to me. We had to go to arbitration & she wouldn't say anything about why or what had happened. I ended up in bankruptcy (& therapy). Over 10 years later & I still have that weird sensation. I'd have given her a kidney or been a surrogate - that's where I was in the relationship. Clearly she wasn't. So was I an idiot to be so invested?? Am I THAT BAD at judging character??? Is someone else about to ditch me & I won't know why?? It's still an achy place my brain pokes at sometimes. Virtual hugs & a reassuring "YOU are not the problem here."