7 Marriage Differences (Germany & USA)
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- Marriage can vary in traditions and customs based on country, culture or religion. There are a lot of similarities between marriage in Germany and the USA, but there are a lot of marriage differences in the details. We talk about the differences we noticed when getting married and planning our wedding!
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Timestamps:
00:00 - Intro
00:21 - Differences are NOT Negative
00:31 - 1. Engagement Rings
02:01 - German Ring Traditions
02:55 - 2. Wedding Rings
04:06 - Wedding Rings Germany
05:26 - Do you see a lot of diamonds in Germany?
07:03 - Engravings
08:00 - Types of Gold Measurements
08:50 - 3. Marriage Age
10:29 - Like the Video!
10:38 - Patreon
10:57 - 4. Wedding Ceremony
13:13 - 5. Post Wedding Food
14:25 - 6. Unique Traditions
17:40 - 7. Bachelor & Bachelorette Parties
20:33 - What are the marriage traditions in your culture?
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This is our last video about marriage for a while! We noticed while we were getting engaged and the planning process that there are a lot of differences in the details. It was interesting to discuss! Let us know some of your traditions or customs regarding marriage! 😍
I don't knows, any right about now _ but, I knows it seems like fun though...///
Screw tradition. I'm just glad you two are happy!! Stay that way for another 50 years or so. Then become cranky old people in the nursing home together 😁
UnkleJustin 😂🤣👍🏻👍🏾
the right hand tradition is a originally a sort of religous thing. The left hand tradition is wayway older and goes back to the old egyptians and the thing behind is the believe of the "heart vene" which goes through the ring finger on the left hand and was taken over by the ancient greeks and from them it was taken over by the ancient romans and so on...while wearing the ring on the right was originally a pure catholic thing habit derived from a bible verse saying that all good comes from the right side while Protestants later changed it back on the left hand but just to be different to the catholics..
My grandparents for instance had different denominations so therefore my grandmother who was protestant wore it on the left hand while my granddad who was catholic wore it at the right hand
Regarding to wedding tradition we have in Austria the socalled "Brautentführung" - "Bride Hijacking"..where after the wedding dinner the "Trauzeugen" - "official witnessess of the marriage" - are hijacking the bride to an other place like Bar or Restaurant in the closer area..in a moment where the husband got distracted by the wedding guests..and the husband then has to leave the party to find her which can take just a while following hints which the "Trauzeugen" left behind it´s basically a kind of "Schnitzeljagd" for the husband..while the wedding party is still going on without the married couple..
Also the drinking game "Ich packe meinen Hochzeitskoffer" is very common as well ..Where Bride and Husband have to repeat that sentence but after it was added to that sentence one thing after another becoming longer and longer ...and by every mistake while repeating they have to drink...
20 cars driving through town honking is a wedding. 100+ cars driving through town honking is football fans celebrating their national team winning a match in the World Cup.
In argentina everyone pass by the wedding car blow their horn
I told my husband that if he even considered spending more than $500 on any ring, especially wedding and engagement ring, I would say no. He was smart and spent less than $200
I had a small diamond engagement ring, that accidentally got thrown out! I was heart sick. I replaced it with a CZ that looks beautiful and cost a whopping $35!
You are very smart I wish I had told that to my husband unfortunately he felt pressured from his sister to buy me a diamond ring which I would never have expected or wanted
Although i do wear A ring on my wedding finger I never wear the diamond it’s in a drawer tucked away I never felt comfortable wearing diamonds it’s not my thing
@@ajl8198 I just personally believe that the money some people spend on those two rings could be better spent on things like a house or if you already had that and wanted a really nice, once in a lifetime honeymoon. That's what we ended up doing. We were living in Germany and had a late honeymoon in the Black Forest. It was amazing and I'd love to go back if I can someday. The initial money was spent visiting our new in-laws since our families live on opposite coasts. I like my wedding ring but I'm seriously scared to wear it out to a lot of places since it's not replaceable and rather valuable to his family. Specifically his great grandmother. Luckily his sister didn't care about ring prices. She was ten at the wedding and $100 was expensive to her
My husband and I spe t maybe $800 on all three rings together. I really could not have cared less to get a ring at all, but he was just so excited about every part of the wedding and having that symbol that said we were engaged really mattered to him so I went with it, but I wound not let him spend that much and it usually sits in my drawer in the bathroom now.
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The left ring finger because it has a vein that is connected to your heart.
This traditional belief is factually inaccurate as all the fingers in the hand (both left and right) have a similar vein structure.
The wedding ring is wearing on the left hand because the heart in on the left side ❤
Nadia Gorbacheva It’s something I heard and connected to the heart on the left side but it’s just one of those things that although possibly not totally correct, why would you want to crap on everybody’s rainbows? It’s a sweet sediment and many people clearly wear their ring on that finger - why not let people have that connection? I like the idea- Instead you took the time to correct everyone- you’re one of “those” . I’m sure you’re REALLY fun to have at a party. 🤓
@@silvergirl7810 you shared information, I shared information. No need to get personal.
@@silvergirl7810 calm down
USA American.
Left hand, ring finger=Married
Right hand, ring finger=Widowed
Not sure if widely practiced, but was explained this by my Great-Great Grandmother when I was a child.
Serenity Da Barbarian Wow, I did not know this!
USA Widowers and Widows don't do that anymore. Instead they simply keep wearing the ring on their same finger if they don't want to get married again. It's an effortless indicator that people look for which indicates if adults want to make a romantic connection or not.
@@lindasunderlin6936 "Not sure if widely practiced..." indicates that I know it's still practiced. I know several people do it because I was one of them. I'm remarried now, and wear all my rings. I've been a part of several support groups, some wear it left, some right, some on a necklace, and others not at all. Every individual has there own way of grieving and struggling through life and to deny that grief by a blanketed and un-factual statement of "No one does that anymore." Shows your lack of tact.
@@serenitydabarbarian404 Well, cheers to healing then.
When my wife died, I wore mine for a while, until it depressed me having it on. Because of our finger sizes, hers fit inside mine, so I used a hammer to drive the two together. I’m remarried now, but still have those in my box of assorted jewelry.
We had our wedding bands with our names and the date engraved.We both were 21. 53 Years later we are still happily married.
German here. My parents have the “usual” engraving in theirs. It’s their spouses name and their wedding date. So my mum wears my dads first name and my dad wears my mums first name. The wedding date is very common but the name vary, it can be both or the partners or no name at all.
Vally Bae That is so beautiful 💕
Same in Argentina
The same in Spain
We have the same tradition for engravings in Italy
Same in Greece. Might be common in Europe as a whole.?
I'm Canadian and my husband is German. I had always wanted a diamond ring but didn't want him to spend an arm and a leg on it. He found the perfect one while we were still in Canada at a Canadian Jewelry company. Our wedding rings are simple ones we got in Germany. In my ring it says ''Immer Dein'' and the wedding date and in my husbands it says ''''Always yours'' and the wedding date. We now live in Germany and I wear my rings on my left hand and he wears his ring on his right hand.
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Hi, I am Canadian as well. If you don't mind, can you explain what needs to be done if you get married to a German citizen in Germany and reside there as well? For example, what needs to be done in terms of the marriage process (legal documents) and residence permit process? I would like to know about your experience as a Canadian married to a German citizen. Thanks!
The "tradition" of diamond engagament rings was created by the diamond industry ind the 50s (?) and was made to "tradition" through aggresseive marketing. Same with the big weddings in white. before the 1900s no one could afford a wedding dress or a diamond ring and honestly even today i think the majority of people that actually spend thousands of dollars for this stuff still cant afford it and just do it because they think its required. Basicly a big ripoff because weddings and engagement rings are heavily overcharged because of that.
Very true. well said!
For some people q diamond ring is tradition. For my family it is tradition. The first diamond ring bought was in Poland in 1900. I still have this ring. It isn't big or flashy by any means. It's small and relatively plain.
Hans Meise my ring has sapphires and little clusters of diamonds. He knew I hated the typical diamond ring.
I have my husband's great grandmother's platinum wedding ring from the 1920s. I love it. He has his grandfather's gold wedding band from the same era. I never really liked the while diamond industry as a whole though and if I am going to wear jewelry with stones, I honestly don't like diamonds.
I have my husband’s great great grandmother’s engagement ring from 1914, and it’s a beautiful diamond ring... so, not sure about the 1950s thing... All of my grandparents and great grands had beautiful engagement rings...
My inscribtion say:
"One ring to rule the other"
And her ring say:
"The one ring"
Hilarious 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
Why are rings important? My mom lost my dad after being married to him for almost 60 years- she now has dementia and has basically lost every single thing important to her- her home, her furniture, most of her clothes, her identity, most of her memories, her husband, about everything a person can lose in life- but I noticed that when I’m with her, the one thing in the world that she STILL has left is her RING that she spins on her hand and talks about my dad when she does. And I can’t help but think of the importance that ring holds to her now- how glad I am that my dad bought it for her with every ounce of love he had for her. So, is it just materialistic?- absolutely not! I’m also going to add that of all the purchases you can make throughout your life, that wedding ring is most important- it symbolizes and stands for something between two people and something that is a sign to others as well- it is something that will go with your bride everywhere- every single day of her life and she will look at down at it every single day. It will remind her of why you’re married and bring back memories like it does for my mom- even if it’s just a quick glimmer- even if it’s subconscious. A wedding dress lasts one day- that’s it. A ring - you wear really until you die if you stay married to that person- how amazing - what other item gets that much wear? And, it holds some value where many things don’t (if you buy wisely- meaning, a full carat will always fetch something back to you). Never pass up that opportunity to buy your wife a ring be it plain gold and engrave something sweet on the inside or a gorgeous diamond- make it special for her.
mine is tattooed... so it's definitely there forever. And human flesh is much more precious than even the most precious of metals :)
I was 19 and my wife was 23 when we married. That was 45 years ago, still happily married. Btw, we met in Charleston, SC., her name is Deanna and she's a Libra.
My husband proposed to me in Charleston 😁
Yes, I have worn mine every day for over 40 years --- Ja, ich habe meine jeden Tag seit über 40 Jahren getragen
I first met my husband-to-be when I was in 8th grade. I married him a week after I turned 19, on Valentines Day, 1997. He was 22. Still happily married to my love. It has now been 23 very blessed years. ❤️
How lovely, May God continue to bless your marriage.
Happy 24th Anniversary
The diamond tradition had this theory looped into it that diamonds are tougher, more unbreakable than other stones. Supposed to reflect the strength of the love and commitment.
I think it would be better spent on the house deposit. Lol "With this house deposit I thee wed..." lol
totally agree!
In America the rings go on the left ring finger because the blood vessles in the left ring finger is supposed to be closest to the heart.
I Think This Came From The French.
Actually it dates back to ancient Rome.
This traditional belief is factually inaccurate as all the fingers in the hand (both left and right) have a similar vein structure.
It's because the heart is on the left side
The Heart is not in the left chest... Is in the middle of the breast😬
I believe the left hand is used because it is closest to the heart. The band goes behind the engagement ring to signify the love sealed.
My mom has the engagement ring with the rock and the wedding band, but my dad wears not only his wedding band but also a ring I got him when I was a kid that has 'DAD' in block letters with a black background. I think it's really special that he feels it's important to not only let people know he's a husband but also he's a father and both are so important to him that he wanted a physical representation of both on display.
They where also married in a court house when I was three. They are both on their 3rd marriage so I think they got a little tired of all the ceremony and just wanted something simple. Though the winter sunlight streaming through the colored glass window onto them is something I'll never forget, it was so beautiful.
No
That is why it actually makes sense to wear the ring on the left hand (if you are right handed)
Hi, I´m German. The custom with throwing rice is copied from US movies as many other customs. 30 years ago hardly anybody in Germany would do it. The sawing (I've seen it once) is about overcoming obstacles as a team. My friends who had to saw also had to empty a clothes line full of baby clothes. An old custom in parts of Germany is the kidnapping of the bride. Some friends take her away from the celebration and go from pub to pub and the groom has to follow as fast as he can, because he has to pay the bills in the pubs....
That's not American. They throw rice in other countries in Europe too. It's actually a very old tradition that goes back to the Middle Ages.
@@cs296 : indeed and it used to be hemp seed to symbolise fertility, the rice thing is totally modern. 😀
@@BigAndTall666 some cultures used barley, or any other kind of seeds, the meaning always being the same. Thanks to those that clean the place after the wedding🤗
When we got Married, my wife was 20 and I was 25. That was 53 years ago. We have 4 kids, 11 grand kids and 3 great grand kids. That would be pretty hard if you waited until you were 40 years old to get married. Northwest Indiana
wow, that is amazing! Nothing more important than family! :)
Thats what I was thinking. I was 19 When I married for the first time. I had 4 kids by the time I was 29. If a woman gets married at 30, does she feel in a rush to beat the biological time clock?
Speaking of time clocks. My daughter had her first baby at 18. She is Now 35 and had her second baby 2 weeks ago. Yep. 16 years between babies. And with the same dad.
Karen Shepherd there are almost 8 billion people on the planet. With the medicine we have, People live longer and less children die. There is no need for 4 babies anymore.
@@pinkythechihuahua3156 a friend of mine has a 20 year difference with her baby brother (the same parents)
Maybe germans don't get this much children...
In Greece the wife engraves the husband's name on the ring and the husband the wife's name. When one of them dies and they are still married they exchange the rings.
Does that mean that people who die while they're married afterwards have their wedding ring, which lists their own name, removed by their spouse and put into a safety deposit box or elsewhere ... then replaced with the spouses ring before buried? What happens if the ring is too small to put on the deceased finger?
I´m married and i wears my ring every day since my wife put it on my finger at the Standesamt. Wait, it took it off for the ceremony at the church, till my wife put it on my finger again, but since then.... i won´t take it off till i´m dead. They say it will bring u bad luck, if u take off your ring. The tradition to cut a piece of wood schould show the hardness of teamwork when u r married, and the good feeling if u go through it. And finally i have to say sorry for my bad english.
I only know married German couples, Austrians too... that have wedding rings WITH engravings. Some have only the wedding date, some have the name of their spouse, some have a inscription/dedication or a mix of the mentioned things. Or christians have their favourite Bible verse engraved, normally the verse that the couple chose for their wedding sermon too.
yeah, interesting! I think most people we know in Germany have engravings, as well. :)
Interesting. I didn't realize engravings were such a thing here in Germany. When I met my future husband, I bought us both promise rings with a Bible verse engraved on the outside, in Hebrew. When we got married he basically upgraded both to a higher-quality ring metal (stainless?) with the same engraving. Our license plates on our cars have always had our wedding date for the number, and a simple W for our last name and the two cities we've lived in in Germany. I'm from Washington state so it feels right.
I enjoyed hearing the differences!! One other ring custom I know about: in Finland, both the man and woman wear simple bands when they get engaged, and when they get married, the woman adds a second band on the same finger, sometimes with tiny stones. I've always thought that was cool, because the engagement should be the commitment for both people. (I'm American, but had a bunch of Finnish friends in the 80's. It may have changed by now.) Mazel Tov!
love you guys's energy! The wedding rings was so interesting!
I just stumbled across your videos today and I really like them! I am constantly looking for videos about the cultural differences to use in my English lessons (teaching English in Austria) and yours are so light hearted and radii to understand for learners. Keep up the good work! You're a lovely couple as well...
Actually my husband and I got our wedding rings from the jeweller who made the official ring in Lord of the Rings with the engraving on the outside 😍❤️
Do the engravings only appear when the rings are thrown into fire?
awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww wonderful!!
Now that's freaking cool
Very interesting! I wish you all the best and i am looking forward to your next videos!
I was born in Berlin, but raised in Canada. Married a Canadian. At our wedding reception my mother approached me and said the German guests want to dance on my veil. I was, like, WHAT! Apparently one of the traditions is for the guests to dance on the brides veil before they change to leave the reception! I was determined to save my veil, because i wanted to give it to the daughter i was sure we were going to have. Joke was on me! We had 2 boys! Lol
My wedding band is clear acrylic with waves of blue,green,and gold swirled inside.It represents the ocean and no other ring is exactly like it. We love the beach and it's a beautiful and affordable way to remind me of that.
my dad wears his wedding ring on a necklace. because of his work :)
Yup I saw most of my medical residents fellow did this also
My dad also. And after my mom died hers is there also
When my American grandma saw my engagement ring she said: it’s so tiny!!! 🙈😂 I love that it’s not as huge!
Congratulations! Thanks for this video :)
Deana is the best! Love her enthusiasm. This was a great and interesting video.
I live in Texas and when we got married almost 27 years ago, we were not allowed to use rice. We had to use bird seed or bubbles. The rice swells up in the bird's stomach and kills them. I think pretty much across America it is against the rules to use rice. Another American tradition is saving the top layer of the wedding cake and putting out in the freezer to eat together on your 1st anniversary. Don't do it, it was so gross.
The bird thing is a myth: www.snopes.com/fact-check/against-the-grain/
The cake thing was invented for the firstborns birth not only to show the wealth of having a ice house but also the fertility of being parents within a year.
I liked that, we did that and loved the cake, it was delicious. And to that we learned only the two of you are allowed to share it for good luck.
The other reason for not throwing rice is because it can cause problems for the people involved
I'm from Germany. rice is not allowed here either. But it may well be that the laws have relaxed again in recent years and only my city has not removed the signs. the signs didn't stop people from throwing rice anyway.
Thank you, a very interesting comparisson about wedding ceremonies
It’s so fun to watch your videos. We are a cross-cultural family too (American and Russian from Kazakhstan). We will be moving to Germany for the next three years, so it’s fun to learn about German traditions through you. Thanks for sharing with us! :)
You are correct!! De Beers (as in De Beers diamond mines) started the "tradition" of the diamond engagement ring and they are also the ones who give the "guidelines" of 2 months salary for this ring.
Congratulations on your marriage guys! Your video of the Vietnam Sleeper bus really helped us
In the south of Bavaria(region in Germany) there are some more wedding tradditions:
A couple of weeks before the wedding, friends of the couple come and set up a "Hochzeitsbaum" (wedding tree), which is basically a large trunk, so everbody who comes by the house knows they are just married. The couple is spending a Brotzeit(there is no good translation for it) and of course beer and everyone is sitting together to celebrate. After a year of marriage the tree gets cut of and another Brotzeit with beer is spent, when the couple is already expecting a baby it's spent by the friends, otherwise by the couple.
In a Bavarian wedding it's very common to have a "Weinstube". At around 8 o'clock all the guests go to another room, the Weinstube. Everybody is drinking wine and it is mor like a common party and very funny.
Another traddition is the "Brautstehlen" (bride kidnapping). Attendants of the wedding will "kidnapp" the bride and bring her to the Weinstube. They wait for the groom to negotiate about the number of bottles of wine they get in exchange for the bride.
Ha ha the American The office had the kidnapping in a episode.
The amount spent on the engagement rings and the wedding is a waste, your better off spending that money on your first home and furniture, the fairy tale is a b.s. Victorian hold over the reality of life is you need the house and the furniture more than a diamond ring or spending thousands on a single day ! Married years
very good point!
That's 100% what we did!
I think it depends! The ring is something your wife is going to wear for the rest of her life and if you are able to save for it and buy an expensive one (whatever that means to you), I think it's a really nice gesture. But it absolutely depends on the couple and their situation of course. I just don't think it's necessarily a waste. My great-grandfather was saving for the ring for a long time, so that he could afford a platinum one with a diamond, which in a rural area in Czechoslovakia back in the day was extremely uncommon. My great-grandma didn't even know what platinum is and thought it's silver at first and that he couldn't afford a golden one, but said yes anyway haha. It's a lovely story and I think it was such a beautiful gesture of him:) A few years later, the communist took his store and many things they had, but not the ring:).
we married in Las Vegas and spent a grand total of $179... and it wasn't even the cheapest package, that was $79, but I decided to splurge :D (p.s. we both wore things we did not buy for the occasion, and we already had the rings we used, so there was nothing more to throw away money on)
I am a guy who has an engagement ring but I have a disability that effects my skin (among other things) and wearing a ring all the time was causing me problems so I got a tattoo on the finger I would have worn the ring on instead.
All this is really interesting, thank you for making this video. I love learning about cultural differences.
Your videos are really good and entertaining! 😁
We have our song “Dream a Little dream of Me” engraved inside our rings
What great videos! Interesting and funny thank you guys.
You two are such an awesome and entertaining couple. All the best wishes for you!
In the USA it’s more common to blow bubbles or also sparklers when the bride and groom are leaving the reception since rice it’s bad for birds
Rosa Mancuso - yeah or birdseed
The sawing of wood is an actual thing in Germany, my cousin and his wife did it after their ceremony! ;)
Where in Germany? I never heard that here in the Rhineland.
@@cs296 Haha I'm also from the Rhineland :D This part of my family is from Münster and thats also where they did it ;) I don't know if its a specific thing from the Münsterland though, because I haven't been to many weddings :'D
@@fini8874 they also have the Holzschuh Dance there.. been like 100 years ago on a wedding in Münster.
In Germany we actually also have the “something used/old, something new and something borrowed”-tradition, but one tradition that we also have, that I find kind of important, that wasn’t mentioned is that it is tradition, that the bride safes and buys her wedding-shoes with penny’s.
From the US and love that one!
Didnt know that. I only know that the groom suit and brides dress are paid by.. oh well I can't remember that part...😂
in some countries (ntherlands too) the ring is on the left hand if you're a Christian and right hand if you're Protestant or another religion, we have relationship rings
Protestants are Christians.
My boyfriend wears a lot of Rings in his daily life normally, so I guess he will wear his wedding ring alot too.
My father is also always wearing his wedding ring.
My parents got new ones some yea ago.
The old ring was to tight for my father and so he couldn't wear his ring anymore.
He was real sad about this and so my parents decided to buy new ones.
But the old ring is always with him.
He put it in his wallet.
That's soooo sweet
I married my wife three times:
1) in Indonesia (where my wife is from)
2) in Vegas (just for fun)
3) in Texas (more of a renewal of vows for my family)
We just celebrated 19 years together and we have 16 year old twin daughters.
Very informative
It’s actually very common to engrave a wedding band and ring but usually is kept secret as a little love message. The message is usually a simple sentence or sometimes a date to signify an emotion and/or memory.
I’m American and I think it’s actually extremely common to have engraving in wedding rings here. The wedding date is most common I think, but there are other things as well. We have the date and the first letters of a little saying in each ring. My husband does wear his ring every day. I think it’s probably easier when it’s on the left hand, as most people are right handed. It probably gets in the way less.
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Just found your channel last night and I absolutely love it!! Keep up the great work, you guys are so cute!! Your honey is funny, too! Lol :)
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You guys are amazing
My wife is German, I'm American watch all your content. Your chemistry is great.
Well I'm from Germany and I married pretty young.
I was 23 years old....my husband 24.
We are celebrating our 19 th
anniversary soon🥰
not bad! Keep it going! :)
Idk why it’s looked at as “too young” to get married in your early twenties. Some people wait till they’re 30 but then have fertility issues. I don’t think getting married in your prime “baby making days” should be demonized.
@@rbfoster A few days ago I read a little report about the marriage age between the years 1750 and around 1850. While the majority of marriages in Germany were made between the ages of 26 and 29/30, couples in eastern regions married earlier.
@@rbfoster so true!!! I could not agree more! Its even funny sometimes when you see a bride and a groom and they look like they could have teenagers already.. They spend their 20s traveling and having fun, avoiding babies. Then they hit 30- ok, now its time to get married and have kids.. whoops no kids after 10 years of contraception.. Now lets spend a fortune on IVF :(
@@lubomirabartikova1567 we spent our 20s traveling and having fun, avoiding babies. And our 30s, and 40s, and we are now in our 50s. We are still having a lot of fun together, and soon the problem of avoiding babies will be over because I'm about to reach menopause, at last! :)
Still so stoked for ya'll!
We have a great tradition here, "Brautklau". During the wedding ceremony, the bride is kidnapped by friends of the groom. They go to a bar somewhere in the city for drinking beer, Schnapps or Schampus. Until the groom finds them and he has to pay all the drinks before he can have his bride again. I remember my wedding, it took me a long time to find them and made me a poor man...
This tradition is only great in one aspect, which is that you see what kind of friends you have. Really good friends don't steal the bride, good friends may steal her but don't go crazy on the drinks and give hints to the groom if it takes too long, shitty friends get wasted on expensive drinks.
Honestly, that only really works in closed communities where everyone is in on it. In the large cities, it's an idiotic idea, because not all bar owners are enthralled by the concept, plus, it can end with part of the wedding guests being left behind and out of the loop, while the search happens.
Still happy together l pray!!!
I love your videos! We were married 35 years before I got my 3 Karot diamond ring. I still wear my gold band daily unless I go out. Wishing you years of happiness!💕
Thank you for the nice words! 35 years is a great accomplishment! :)
A german wedding traditon I know from home involves the delivering of wedding invitations. Two people drive around on bikes and deliver the invitations to the wedding guests homes. They get invited inside the hous for a beer by the guests and then go on to the next house.
In Puerto Rico, we engrave the bands/ring. And both my husband and I got engagement rings.
Our engagement rings (the once that my wife and I bought nearly 40 years ago) was although simple bands style like our wedding rings is. And yes in the first weeks or months the ring is a bit disturbing but you will get used to it. The engraving inside our rings carries the partner's name and the data of our wedding. The sawing tradition is more common in the southwest of Germany, in some seaport city's they have to loosen a knot.
I think why men often do not wear their rigs is because when working around machinery the ring could get caught and cause injury.
My engagement ring was my Great Aunt's wedding set from the 1920's. It is not a huge rock, but very beautifully ornate. My husband had to have it sized to my hand. I cherish it. You guys are so cute!!
At my son's wedding in Berlin (he is American, she is German) in 2015, they indeed did saw a log. Fascinating to watch. Thanks for this video -- fun.
Phil is the only German I know who doesn't sound horrible when he speaks English.
(Myself very much included :D)
Cause you only recognize others as German, if they speak horrible English. That's biased perception.
@@holger_p Well sometimes maybe, but most often you do know the Nationality of the Person you're talking/listening to. Especially when you're in class or something like that
Haha! I wonder if the reason I think Phil is the funniest German youtuber to me (as an American) is because his English is so good or is it all his sparkling personality! :D
Wirklich? Ich finde, er hat im Vergleich einen ziemlich hörbaren Akzent. Aber ich finde das nicht schlimm.
Haaxey I know. I just moved to Germany, and the place where I am now Nobody speaks English, except some like my boyfriend and his father.
I have my parents weddings bands and the got married in the 60's in The Canal Zone (Panama) and both bands have dedicated engravings in the inside
My parents also have engraved rings so inside there's the date of their wedding and the initials - and they also had to saw wood (driving from the wedding to the festivities on a small road that was blocked by this wood)
Used to be in the US you bought a matching wedding set of three rings. Mine was that way in the mid 80s.
When my girlfriend who lives in Kronburg had her wedding that I was invited to, she and her hubby did the sawing of the log just after they exited the church. This was their first act of working together.
You two are so pleasant!
I have two things to say: The "Polterabend" is I think more a rural tradition, and is also great to invite people you like but maybe don't want or can't invite to the actual wedding. It's usually a more casual party.
About the sawing, I know this from my childhood days, when someone got married they would drive to the party and through the village were the couple lives and friends and neighbors etc. Would stop the cars and the wedding couple had to do some tasks, like sawing the wood with a dull saw, hanging up baby clothes on a clothes line, cutting a heart into a bedsheet with nail scissors, etc....
I have not really seen those things recently. Maybe there is like one of those things right outside the church, but not this stopping the cars on the way to the party location
My guys ring is on a heavy chain (necklace) and stays mostly in a cloth bag. My ring primarily stays in its case. We wear them when we go out together sometimes 🤷♀️
I don't guess this is necessarily related to marriage, but have you talked about baby naming? I just read an article about German naming law. Parents are forbidden from giving a child any name that doesn't indicate the child's gender. They also can't use a family surname or any object as a child's name, etc. Its way more restrictive than the US.
My husband wears his ring every day, I rarely wear my ring because of my job as a nurse. 😂😂 With us it is the other way around. And we are also life in Germany 😂😂
that's funny! =) Nice to see a role reversal there. :D
I did an internship in a German hospital and they made me remove my wedding ring. I was furious because I'd never taken it off before that moment. Then I did that black-light test and saw how hand sanitizers fail to get the crap out from under rings. So, I accepted it. (And today after visiting a nursing home I scrubbed the heck out of my ring finger cuz of COVID19.) After working at the hospital all medical TV shows are ruined for me - people in OR without masks, nurses with their long hair just hanging there, jewelry, people wearing scrubs in public....
@@LythaWausW that's so true, nothing in the TV is like working in a hospital. Those are two different worlds 🙈
usa here. my parents married mid 1960s had matching wedding set.
my late husband didn't wear his at work or outside doing things. he worked construction so it could've cost him his finger.
my husband wears his all the time. has a built up callouses from it. it wont come off now.
kansas - our church officials/others (i officiated my son and dils) i had to sign the license and so did they. then it was given to the county courthouse to file with the state.
We had to saw a log. It almost gave me a heart attack because it was the hottest day of the year.
The sacrifices we make :D
My wife is a nurse, so her colleagues made a criss-crossed line from medical gauze and gave us some not sharpened scissors to cut our way to the limousine. At the end my colleagues, at that time I worked at a mine, waited with a big log of wood and a heavily unsharpened saw.
In my opinion that tradition should show the newly wedded couple to master the harder, bumpier times in future together, because all traditions of cutting your way free, that I have seen, will be mastered easier together not allone.
As a technician, I was not allowed to wear my wedding ring at work. At some point I left the ring in the box. The ring is just an external sign. We have been married for 35 years.
Heart is on left side of chest. Just a symbolic gesture of love. In Hawaii the female identifies herself as taken by wearing a flower on the left side of the head. He had “Syl, I love us. Tim” engraved into my band. 37 years and counting.
Liebe Grüße aus Ostfriesland (Germany). Ich liebe eure Videos. (Eure Videos sollten in der Schule im Englisch Unterricht gezeigt werden). Alles Gute
I absolutely love Deana's idea on engraved inside of the ring like Lord of the Rings!!❤
My family is originally from chile and my parents also had engravings in their rings
Yes, it's true. in german, both parties war the engagement ring, made of silver, on their left hand. But nobody does it anymore.
I seem to remember a tradition of wearing the wedding band on the right hand if you're widowed.
About the "official wedding" at the "standesamt" in town hall.
In former times weddings could maked at church or in any other organization.
But in 19th century prime minister Bismarck tried to get control about the population for tax reasons. So for getting born you needed a certification - filed by the administration. Getting married changes your tax status - so you need a certification. If you die, your relatives need a certification for the heritage.
If you want to have additional ceremonies like church babtism, church wedding or funeral - it is up to you - but first you need to have an official paper so the administration is in control. It is mostly for tax reasons.
My husband is from Wyoming - which is also where we met and got married after the military. We went with a Black Hills gold ring for me with both our birthstones (a ruby for me and for him a gorgeous bright blue Yogo Gulch sapphire) and he wears a Tungsten Carbide ring that’s engraved with our song. Yeah it’s mushy but at less than $400 it was a great deal.
My mom was “Goldschmiedin” and she told me that 333 gold means the ring is made 33,3% out of gold, a 585 gold ring is made out of 58,5%. Therefore my mom always said everything under 585 (less than 50 %) is not real gold. It kinda makes sense!
Goldschmied = gold smith
And as an Indian, I was shocked that this is the best one can get despite having to pay more. In India, the quality of gold matters and anything below 916 is not considered gold. In case of chains, it is often 23 karat gold as well. Not to mention, custom made rings are common in India, whereas in Austria, we were told to chose one from what they had.
Here in Portugal, the engravings inside wedding rings usually have your spouse's name and your wedding date on
It depends on where you are and what religion you are affiliated with in the US as to if you buy an expensive or separate engagement ribg
I don't get that whole expensive ring thing anyway. My engagement ring is simple silver with a little blue stone. Simple and still beautiful 😍
Hello Deana and Phil
I like your Video's so much, can you explain the difference between working in the USA and Germany. I'm really interested about that. Keep going 👍👍😜
thanks a lot! We will! :)
In the USA you can be fired from one moment to the other, some companies might give you a one or two salary extra as a bonus in a year in the past. You are more protected by laws in Germany if you work for a decent company and you get much more benefits. In Germany you got a 1/2 month salary extra for vacation, Christmas bonus as a 13. or 13 1/2 or 14.salary, in a year , you get real vacations for three to six weeks. In the USA. 5 days to maybe 4 weeks, depending for whom you work. In the US. You get a few sick days maybe 3 , that you may take for a different reason, but then when you get really sick you are in big trouble, you do not get time of or they fire you. I Germany you need a Dr.s Testament if you are sick to proof it to your employer. In the States too. Working in the States is no sugar licking! Birthday cards or nice gestures are not so common as far I learned. It's not like they show in the movies at all!!!! But maybe it depends for whom you work and if you have good colleagues. But benefits and health insurance everything is much better in Germany, more fair. But the German system is grown over a very long time, while in the USA, they rather prevent to give their employed more then they have to as far as I experienced and learned it. If you work in the office for a big company you might have a few more benefits in US, as if you work there for a smaller company. In Sales Jobs the conditions are pretty harsh and they start working from 5.00 am on (if they have to shelve the goods before the customers arrive and do the cleanings). And very little vacation. The term vacation can be one day or a few days. In Germany vacation is several weeks , and a long weekend is a few days, or a weekend trip a few days, but that was not called a vacation, but only a short break for a few days.
Here in the Outer Hebrides (Scotland), the day before the wedding the couple gets tied on the back of a truck onto chairs and flour and gunky stuff gets thrown over them and then they're driven around town, with friends in cars behind them, honking like crazy...
Well, if you got Islands all for yourself, you can make as much noise as you like.
In our country most of us don't wear any kind of "married" symbol. In older days married women used to wear nose pin. But now we don't.
We have atleast 4 days ceremony.
In my family we tend to do 7 days. These 7 days guests visit the brides/ grooms parents home to have lunch and dinner.
I'm German and I've seen the sawing wood one, they did it at my sister's wedding. And yes it's one of those working together things and there are more. Another one I know is that when they step out the door of the church (or Standesamt) people hold a bedsheet in front of them with a heart drawn on it and they have to cut out the heart shape with nail scissors and then step through the heart. Also there's lots of games that are played at the feast in the evening. Mostly it's working together or "how well do you know each other" stuff, but people do like to see them suffer a little all in good fun :D
My husband and I both have engravings inside our wedding bands.
Ich habe meine Frau nach 24 Jahren , gemeinsamen Lebens , geheiratet. Aber eigentlich hat meine Frau mir den Antrag gemacht 😅. Wir haben natürlich schon mittlerweile erwachsene Kinder . Ich bin ein Westdeutscher und meine Frau eine Ostdeutsche . Es war aber schon nach der Wiedervereinigung, als wir uns kennenlernten. Aber es gab so viele Unterschiede damals.. Die beiden Deutschen Seiten waren so unterschiedlich gewesen. Fremd eben . ...
Interessantes Video 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Ich finde die Leute sind generell so verschieden, egal ob aus dem Westen, Osten, Süden oder Norden 😄
Jede Region war halt unterschiedlich beeinflusst über die ganzen Jahrtausende bis dann mal Deutschland überhaupt geschaffen wurde ...
@@MariaCarlottaNotes ja, dass ist wohl wahr 😃. Manchmal ist das schon von Dorf zu Dorf ganz anders 😂. Aber das macht es ja auch interessant.