12 Steps To Become A MASTER LISTENER
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- čas přidán 6. 09. 2024
- HERE are my 12 MASTER STEPS to MAXOUT your LISTENING SKLLS! MY SECRETS TO BECOMING A BETTER LISTENER!
More important than what you say is your ability to LISTEN!
People don’t respond to what you say or do, people respond to how you make then FEEL. And one of the best ways to make someone FEEL CONNECTED with you is to make them feel understood and listened to!
This is my MOST TACTICAL episode to date! I’m revealing the MASTER 12 Steps to becoming a better listener and MAXING OUT your connection and charisma!
This was a subject that I have personally struggled with throughout my life and am STILL working to improve. But I have found that the skill of listening is SO IMPORTANT and often overlooked in our quest to influence and connect with others.
I’m guilty of it myself and and am constantly striving to improve. There a tremendous benefits to learning the secrets of listening!
It’s the most powerful form of communication. Mastering the skill of listening is a necessity to build in every area of your life. Whether you are building a softball team, building a church, building a business, building a family, your ability to make people FEEL good is based on your ability to to make other people feel LISTENED to!
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"I believe everybody is a gift and the way to open them up is by asking them questions" - Ed Mylett
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Listening is why Shawn Ryan show is the #10 podcast out of millions. He asks questions and lets the guest go without interruptions. I wish I was better at this.
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I love this! Thank you for helping me evaluate MYSELF even as I published a short about being more interested just a few weeks ago!
I too, get so intense when I'm listening that my facial expression is sometimes not welcoming. I also get so excited for the person I'm speaking with that I jump in too soon to acknowledge them instead of waiting to for them to finish. I'm so blessed I start every day with you Ed. You are a change agent!
Just discovered you today and subscribed. Binging 3+ videos at the gym now. Gold right here, thanks homie
I love You ED i swear to Allah i do love you a lot and if by any chance we get together at the same plane i would ask you tons of questions! Haha :) thanks a lot for your generosity, you are litteraly oozing positive vibes and charisma
Thank you!! I wake up excited to listen every day . This was Amazing! 🎉
Thank you so much for listening!🙏🏽
Amen 🙏
Amen!🙏🏽
I always thought I am a good listener but wow, have I learnt so much more from you! Thank you & keep these videos coming 😍.
I have learned from you today that I need to become a better listener! Thank you!! ❤
Thanks for the advice. Lots to think about!
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your content, is beyond belief amazing. I can’t believe that you put this out without charging people. I am incredibly grateful for the difference you’re making in my life and I truly think you’re incredible.
Fantastic! Dynamic advice
Thank you so much. Incredible work and video. I will try to share it in my platform. I saw you live in Vegas, truthfully, I didn’t know who you were. However, I was excited that my daughter (25) was super happy to see you speak. Since then. You are the person I listen to. I am sad I didn’t qualify for one on one with you through Jaime’s team.
Your content is perfect for my CZcams channel and the Latin community.
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Hey Ed, you dont know me but i just want to acknowledge you as a faraway mentor, and life coach. Thank you for always sharing such valuable life changing information! You make the world a better place by bettering the people. Much love and thank you!
Always appreciate hearing your incredibly impactful life trainings, Mr. Ed Mylett. I play these in the car when commuting with my preteens now. They really should teach these things in school. Thank you!
Flying on Ed's jet is on my vision board! OMG, the opportunity to ask Ed questions would be a life changing event.
It's important to listen to people we really dislike or people we like that we had an argument with and offended us. If we dislike them so much and we're so angry with them. What are they reflecting of us? What is it within us that we need to work on and heal? There's always something to learn. I talk too much. I'm learning the art of listening and being present❤ I love listening to your wisdom. Thank you, Ed!
Thanks Ed for being My new Communication Coach starting today.A Big Christmas Hug from Venezuela!
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Ed is like from another planet. He is arguably the best speaker and communicator I have seen and listened to.
Can’t believe that entrepreneur who was with him in the plane didn’t take advantage of this once in a lifetime to get so much wisdom from Ed!
Thank you Ed, you helped me 10x my life in 2023, and it will only get better in 2024!
Wow thanks Ed! I picked up so much from this short video. Lots of helpful information! Always look forward to your videos. 😊
Thank you very much for this amazing information! I have listened to this many times and will refer to it again and again.
Be a good listener
- always be asking people for understanding is: when they are finish speaking ask them : I think you are saying it, what I am hearing is, clarify this for me - show how deeply I am listening , as I listening to you is
- Make eye contact
- Check your body language: checking in
- Facial expression match the
- Do not interrupt them
- Avoid saying right, a ha, yup, wow
- People response based on how you make them feel
- Use acknowledgment statments: I agree, that’s wonderful, acknowledge what they said that make them feel open as an invitation for them to say more
- Ask questions and follow up questions
- Where appropriate you can touch somebody
- Do less talking in conversation
- Feeding questions back to them
- What are your ratios in conversation?
- Ask questions to understand : can you help me understanding
- Don’t project forward what they are going to say
- Be present
- Pay attention
- Be interested in what they are saying ( people can feel it intuitively)
- Connect with people feeling
- Listen for the emotion
- Use the words they love to influence them
- Listen to the pace and tone, volume level
- Hand language
- Repeat what back to them what they just said : is the true
- Use acknowledgement statements: …
- Connect the conversation
- I just want thank you, …
- Follow up with a message. I enjoy our time so much. -> deepen the connection , I enjoy the talk so much. I think I …
Wow! Incredible reminder for me. I tend to over share out of empathy when others share their story, I’ve learned through those experiences that I leave the conversation feeling like I took more than I gave-even though I was the one speaking. When I don’t compare my story, I feel like I have given more. Odd right?
Using their words back is a great connector. Now I will be conscience of this. It's a skill worth developing.
Thanks Ed that was helpful to me and I appreciate your passing on your skills on how to Listen Better!
Thank you for this. When someone significant to me is looking at their phone while I'm expressing myself, it truly hurts my feelings.
Your whole message here is on point, particularly in today's social networking environment.
Ed, you are the master! I recently sent out a LinkedIn newsletter on communication, and I made the statement that I almost felt stupid sending it out. After all everyone should know how important communication is. Unfortunately though not everybody does. You can bet. I’ll be sending this video out. As a follow-up to that newsletter!
I also love the point you made, Ed, regarding interrupting one another during a conversation not being a true, meaningful exchange.
Yes I am a good listener! This is a skill I had to learn. I also learned to listen to what people don't tell me...❤ I am such a better person because of this.
Thank you for this!! I am always wanting to improve my communication so this helps!
I love every word u teach make so much sense . Love u Ed .blessed to have u as my leader .
Once again, I listen to you and what you share with us, can't help but to smile and simply say WOW!!! There are things I am doing, good and not so good, when it comes to listening. This is a good starting point for anyone who is willing to learn and make yourself better as a listener. One of the things made me smile, is the point about that all of us have few words we use more than others. Weird but true:) I also use a phrase "does that make sense"...didn't know how important that was. Outstanding once again and life changing!!!
THANK YOU Ed! I woke up early this morning with some inspiration to get moving again... and this was a good kick in the a**!
Great post Ed! I love listening to you while I ride my excercise bike!
Appreciate the massive love and support!🙏🏽
Protect this man at all cost ❤
🙏👏 Because Of Listening To You & Reading Your Book “Power Of One More” A Friend Of Mine Just Got Of Jail Because Of His Addiction Issues !! So When His Mother Went To Pick Him Up I Gave My Copy Of Your Book To Him Because I Know & Am A Witness For Your Life Changing Words & Influences On Myself 👏🙏 Thank You “ED MYLETT” GOD BLESS 👏👏🙏🙏
I like the frame Ed used of being excited, rather than self centered.
I've seen it time after time, where adhd is misinterpreted as narcissism. It's not that they don't care about the other person, they struggle to slow down.
I love the facial expression part. When I am really concentrating I look angry so I have had to remember that!! And I am bad about interrupting my husband. No one else, but him!! Bad me!
GREAT CHAP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.............. i learn even after 1.20 mins
Amazing powerful I’m actually writing a book about communication. Thank you for sharing
One of my favorite talks.
Soooo Valuable!! Thank you so much for this post.❤❤❤
This was an extremely helpful episode. These skills will come in handy during the holiday, that's for sure. Of course they are useful for the day-to-day with family, friends, and colleagues. Thank you! Have a blessed holiday!
I just love how Ed is so real about himself😂❤
Thank you so very much for this topic . Oh man this is priceless advice and I was so gobsmacked to know that you struggle with active listening as well. How connected do I feel to you Ed. It's incredible honestly , to realize that I'm not so unique in what I do and think around communication. I struggle with really listening to my mother at times and I do knowingly use negative body language so she will hurry up or I cut her off ,finish her sentence. I could go on. How about we have a call and discuss this further ? Thank you Ed . I love listening to you and your style of communication and how you interpret things and explain things fits my communication and understanding perfectly .
Thank you and God bless you
Thank you Ed, this is so good, because of you I have become a better listener , I truly enjoy listening to your interviews and I pay close attention the way you give them your undivided attention .
Glad you are getting better at it with each passing day and gaining lessons from these episodes.
Ed great video! i needed to hear this. Thank you!
just INCREDIBLE
Exactly right too I am working on that too
Timeless Audio, thank you Mr. Mylett. This to put to use immediately. For life and business, simply the best
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Thanks so much for this. I've tried hard to work on this, and you covered things here that will really help a lot. I always appreciate you. God bless!
I love this!! It spoke to my spirit!! Let's get it done!!!
Thanks Ed! This was so good
Man this is great. Thank you Ed.
Ed this is was awesome and thank you it will help me with my business and career.
Great stuff. Im a good listener already, but i do some of the things you said.
Thanks Again Ed ❤
This was a real blessing, thank you for the content, its making both myself and those I influence better. Blessings to you!
Appreciate your support brother!🙏🏽💯
Thank you Ed ❤😊
I love all your content Ed thank you! This was really insightful and perfectly timed...I see some points I need to work on myself to be a better listener especially with my partner...and I'm going to send this to my her as well.
Great content and valuable information sir. The idea of not speaking at all is true. However, I find myself “ your right” sometimes when people are talking as I feel this builds the speaker’s confidence and lets them know you value what they are saying. Thoughts?
Wooow, this is very enlightening, I've learnt a great lesson.
I have a challenge when it comes to eye contact, so I always find myself looking elsewhere when someone is talking to me.
This is a gradual process, and it’s okay to take it one step at a time! You’ve got this!💪🏽
Thank you.
LFGGGGG!!!! Great morning!
Once again thank you
Using our own tone to deescalate someone is a different process than the conversational/same energy thing Ed's referring to.
a master class !!!
Loved this so much. What an important subject 🙏🏾💓
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Thanks brother💪
Michael Oliver would be a great guest! He covers these 12 in his course.
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You look super handsome Ed! Great message. Thank you ❤
This is a game changer
thanks Ed!
Daamnnnnn you know what ED? I'm exactly LIKE you ve said, i tend to finish the sentence of my interlocutors, i want to show him that i understood his point and to sound smart! Hahahaha ive to stop that crap too then
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Love the video
I do have a question? A lot of times when I'm having a conversation I can sustain it for probably 2 not even 5 minutes because I get exhausted and physically impatient. I want to learn how to get over that. Is this a common struggle that people have?
I love ALL OF ED MYLETT TEACHINGS! I do have to admit though, I am getting tired of seeing all these background images of these actors and supposed regular people going through the various emotions! It just comes off as being so phony!! EVERYONE IS DOING IT ON THEIR VIDEOS! Ed, you are SO INCREDIBLY INTERESTING AND SUCH A GREAT COMMUNICATOR AND ARE FAR MORE SINCERE AND INTERESTING THAN THOSE RIDICULOUS BACKGROUND ACTORS. Come on, please give your audience more credit for being able to understand these concepts and message WITHOUT these annoying background characters. Off course they are beautiful, and handsome. Lol. YOU ARE THE BEST!
Thank you 🙏 ❤Ed
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I think all these steps are excellent, but when you do them repeatedly it tends to look robotic and avoids any kind of connection. I honestly think when you’re genuinely interested in what someone is saying, it is a feeling you can literally see in the air!
You’re awesome. Please cut the intro to 15 seconds rather than 2.5 minutes
I have that same problem, when I’m interested I look mad 😂😂
Awesome! Do u understand? 😊
Hey Ed but what about people who are autistic and on the spectrum who often have to mask who have to pretend that they understand social cues how are they supposed to align with the mood of the room if they just can't? This advice is great and it's generalized for a reason so you can reach a lot of people but can you share your specific perspective for people like myself who are on the spectrum who have kids who are on the spectrum?? @Ed Mylett
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I want you to solve my problem. If you could do that without me even saying a word, I'd love it.
I would ask you million questions
Early on, in back to back comments you specifically mentioned that you were on your private jet. Maybe this guy felt that he needed to compete.
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I will forever kick myself for not taking advantage of the 3 minutes I spent in an elevator with you at a 10X conference. I was so nervous that I shut down and when you stepped on the stage I literally sank in my chair! What??? I just wasted 3 minutes with the one of the most impactful people of my life!!
I'm bad listener also.
People who talk for hours, such as the person described in this podcast, are either on a certain medication … or they have a certain ‘disease…’ perhaps even bipolar issues…
It’s not always that a person isn’t trained well to be a good listener.
But, what if the other person is thinking the same thing? (I just need to listen, let them talk) ..crickets...nobody will be talking. lol