Speak Your Mind - Living with Asperger’s
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- čas přidán 24. 08. 2024
- Since the psychiatric diagnostic manual now clumps “Asperger’s” under the umbrella of “Autism Spectrum Disorder;” what does it even mean to have Asperger’s? Do people with Asperger’s have a problem that needs to be treated or are they just different? Find out next time on SYM.
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Driving is not a "spacial" problem...it is a "sensory" problem!!! We are hyper aware of everything around us and the possibilities of what can go wrong while driving.
You hit the nail on the head!
My hypersensitive driving for 40 years has prevented me from... ever having a wreck, or even a ticket.
Exactly! It is so called normal people that should not be driving
*spatial. (yeah I'm one too. Aspies see all the errors.)
I drive fast with aspergers. I feel like a skilled driver. I shouldn't but its a desire!
That’s gonna be me once I start testing for my license.
It can be even more nuanced than described here. Try this one on for size. Aspie with a strong “specialized interest” in language, philology and etymology. So I picked up (by deliberate action) most of the subtleties of metaphor, sarcasm, irony, deceit. I’m also high in the personality dimension of openness, so I had a natural desire to interact.
Not surprising that I went undiagnosed until 49. And now, my nervous system is practically burned out from spending 50 straight years using effort intention to do the same things that NTs do without thought. I never understood why life was so exhausting for me, whereas other people have night lives.
Asperger's burnout. I,m currently suffering with this identical thing at 46 and it has completely shut me down. I hope we can recover from this, Its been 9 months so far for me. good luck M8
Yes, I was 54 when I realized. I burned out emotionally, mentally and physically. I ended up having a nervous breakdown. A psychotic break. Very scary.
I am 34, what can I do to plan against this?!
@@lonny3344 was has been a good remedy for you?
@@catwhisperer3628...what has been a good remedy for you?
I'm 68 years old I have suffered with disability my whole life had some absolutely fantastic jobs working for the film industry training horses.. But I could not handle the social part of it or the abusive some animals in the industry so I had to quit... my early diagnosis was post-traumatic stress disorder and that's what is on my social security disability papers... I was on social security from 1990 through today actually.. though I'm switched over to social security as opposed to disability because I'm over 66... Talking too much already... Learning that I have Asperger's has changed my life.. seems weight but I still have time to benefit I'm not a disorder I am neurodiverse diverse... My brain works very well better than most actually but when in the presence of other people I totally shut down because of the self-esteem issue that has come to come along.. with my Asperger's... My brain works great I just cannot handle the sensory overload of or the energy that I get from people... I do read people very well.... I can tell if someone is lying to me...I believe some of that is my intense focus on body language facial expression which I learned from training horses it's all about body language.... I'm a super honest person....I believe God hears everything I do and say... There is no hiding from God.... So when people are dishonest with me or fake it's almost intolerable..thanks for the video...
Same here!
You really explained exact my status
Yes!!
We are Warriors sent from Heaven. God Bless you and thank you for helping me realize I am indeed on the spectrum. My life has been very hard and I am only 28. You helped me!
@@Blackafternoon ❤️
I dream about a show which 2 aspies sit and talk about "normal" people. And I want to watch "normals" while they are watching that show. I am pretty sure that this would not be a pleasant experience for them.
I found out on my own and uncovered 7 days ago that I have Aspergers. I was told all my life I was fine but I knew I wasn't so I had to act dumber than other people all my life to make others feel better about themselves while they made sure to let me know that I was second to them even though in reality I could son them in any sport, event and intellect, having a big heart has caused me so much pain. Now I still doubt myself even when I achieve great things because it was imbedded in me that I am not good enough.
I don’t know any Aspies that are not good at driving, most I know including myself are exceptionally good drivers.
I would be hopeless, couldn't pick the right direction to go round a roundabout back when getting lessons 😊
We just need neurotypicals to be nicer and more patient and stop judging.
Neurotypicals might have disorders that have never been seen because how would NTs see it in themselves? In my life, I keep seeing people who don't accept themselves as they are because they constantly compare themselves with a hypothetical model of a person, then they fall short because they're maybe fatter, have shorter legs, bigger noses, etc. So they feel bad. Maybe the opposite of autistic is 'otheristic' or something like that.
Society could have been completely different if more people thought as aspies do. It's human nature, there is no right or wrong way but not every flower in the field is the same and people are the same. There is nothing wrong with that, we all have our purpose for being here. I enjoy being different. I take it as a blessing minus the struggles which I feel are a test for me and my patience in this world.
We are just different. I keep my diagnosis to myself and mask around Neurotypicals...because, most of them can't grasp the difference between Aspergers and Autism. I hate saying I have Aspergers and people think I'm "Rainman"...what I am is a highly intelligent and creative person because of my Asperger's...not in spite of it.
I think there's a bit of job creation here, more than awareness. You're right, you need to know your strengths and weaknesses and build upon them accordingly.
Masking the whole time must be very tiring.
I have Asperger’s and I did learn some social rules by observing, by being bullied as well… they never came naturally to me but I did learn observing and being criticized
Autism in itself is not a disability at all, it’s a difference! Of course there are many autistics that have learning difficulties on top of their autism.
There is so much the neurotypical world don’t understand about us. There are many of us that are powerful empaths for a start!! Who knew right? Autistics that absolutely know how the other person is feeling, but may communicate that differently. The autistic community can communicate with each other very, very well - but that simply looks different to NT commutation! Most autistics have a radar for other autistics...it’s great!
NTs simply outnumber us that’s all. If neurodivergents outnumbered everyone else instead there would be a very different society and the NTs would be the odd ones out with all their staring at people’s eyeballs and talking about irrelevant things and not meaning what they say! Ha ha what a great film that would make! 😂😂
made me lol ! awesome
They are acting like Asperger’s is a bad mental illness. Hello. I am a person with Asperger’s syndrome pursuing to be a manga artist in Japan. If you get to know us, we are nice and successful people.
HA!
female 60, just picked up....what a life...now I have answers and can make sense of it all.
Me tooo 61
Me too, 50
What is Autism like? Imagine learning how to knit. Each time you make something threads unravel can't be repaired, over and over nothing works, you can't figure out why! Would you continue to knit? No!! Do I continue to beat myself over my difficulty making/keeping friends, nope I just quite trying learning to live most my life in solitude.
I am so sorry to hear you say this. It must be so lonely for you. Of course, when you have that state of mind, it is hard to see that loneliness. I have been through it but for other reasons. I would love to be your friend SBS man. I am not good at knitting, but I can learn.
Consider yourself my friend Katie. Yes, it can be lonely but also a great way to pursue interests to completion.
@@katiemaxwell114 It’s not lonely if you’re not looking at it that way. Having friends isn’t very useful to everyone. If you’re a child, maybe it would make you feel a certain way. But if you’re an adult then friendship isn’t very important thing to get into. Solitude and living own life is actually good for ASD individuals because they don’t have to pretend to be someone else.
@@KS-wk6uk So true flaming, Further I remove myself from society, especially politics, more relaxed and centered I feel, although suffer at times with just plain old self-boredom, thinking some company would be nice a snuggle buddy, something! But really is it worth the price?
@@KS-wk6uk Well, failed friendships aside, what about partnership and geberally the feeling of being appreciated and valued by someone in life? Do you think one can live without those?
You know what? Strong interests lead to success with what you love. They are saying as if it’s a bad thing or some kind of weird fetish. Oh. Loving art is a fetish. Collecting things is a fetish. I don’t think so.
I fell through the cracks as well. Am 73 and only now diagnised. Every day of my whole life has been a war zone!!!
How did you go about getting diagnosed? I just got my diagnosis....and I’m 61 years young✌🏼🤪😎
Hello! I 73 and have an app't with Dr. Greyling next week! She is a dermatologist, but you caught my eye with your name.
I haven't been in a war zone, exactly, but I do think I am alien to so many others.
How are you doing?
I fell through the cracks. Male 36 diagnosed with severe dyslexia. Just recently at 38 diagnosed Aspergers Syndrome.
Knowing is the biggest step toward understanding. My brother didn't get diagnosed with Asperger's in 8th grade, and my family was relieved to know that we could better understand him finally. Before that , he was diagnosed with ADHD, schizophrenia, learning disabled, but none of them fit. As a young student, he was great, even better than typical academically, but he lacked social skills, communication struggles with reading body language and situations, he would melt down with seemingly no trigger, and changes were very hard for him. We didn't know why he was different or how to help him, so it was very difficult on us as a family but more so for him. Now that we know, we are more understanding, but he is a strong person who is able to be very independent. He has good friends and is happy. It has helped him and us knowing the way his mind works differently but that he isn't alone in having this 'disability'.I hope you have or will find this peace of mind as well. Good luck to you and your loved ones.
Blessing to fall through the cracks
I was not diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome until I was 50
A blessing. I mask around neurotypicals...its disgusting they've labeled us with a mental illness to make themselves feel less inadequate around us.
Me too
She was a lovely guest to have on great thoughts .
Comment on how would the parents not know; Dr's don't know. See how many of us that have suffered over 50 years and finally getting a proper diagnosis (read "The Boy Who Felt too much") .. So many of us put on wrong medications that destroy our mental and physical health. Our kids suffer because general practitioners and psychiatrists seem to be clueless when it comes to high functioning autism to even diagnose it early.. let's take a look at the medical establishment, the 17 year old had to have been to a Dr. Or dr's over their lifetime. All my kids saw doctors who wanted to put them on Ritalin for ADHD. Ah such a frustrating topic.
I learned how to communicate through a CZcams video on the steps we should take to communicate with others. It really worked for me but I was not able to keep up with it in the long term. I need more professional help. I can also relate to what you say about not being able to learn the so-called normal behavior that neurotypicals learn naturally. I have to learn simple things such as why people say hello and good morning and why we should walk on our right-hand side when somebody is walking towards us in the street. As a 47-year-old man, I still live with my parents and struggle to hold onto jobs. I completely agree with you about people like myself. we are underrepresented. Children with Asperger's are given more focus and more funding is placed on their research. I graduated with a BA in 'Arts Management' in 2008 but it took me five years to complete it instead of three and without honors which is a completely useless degree. I have been taking driving lessons for 26 years but I struggle to be ready enough to take the test which I failed the first time back in 1996. Thank you for bringing up the struggles of more mature adults like myself with Asperger-related traits that are underrepresented. Also, the so-called superstars with abilities such as very good attention to detail are not true for everyone. Only a very small number of aspies have that ability which then overshadows the aspies that do not have this ability or it manifests differently within them such as by having the ability to collect a lot of information through which we become very lost, so we have to learn to categorize information. The whole thing about all aspies having this ability is a stereotype started by computer companies in the 1990s that promoted geeky-looking computer geeks in the media.
It’s still a new science. We are still mostly in the dark, until neurobiology takes the next leap....
What the lady in red said about having to be taught the communication style is inncorrect. Maybe some do but it is not all inclusive. I taught myself to know how to have a conversation by watching other people. These people here on this video guess at how we feel and how we deal with others. Instead of looking at us as a specimen , look at us as people wired differently.
What I see going on here is some professional empire building. What do those diagnosed with Aspergers have in common? They have all fit the criteria laid down by professionals who do not have Aspergers and don't know what it actually involves (they have to ask!). To this extent, diagnosed 'Aspergers' people are created by the set of criteria used by NT professionals. But how can they really know? For example, missing from these conversations so far is sense oversensitivity, or difficulty screening out superfluous sense data. This explains so much of what may or may not fall under the created category of Aspergers. For example, in a social group there is so much going on, so much active eye contact, so much distraction, it is no wonder someone unable to screen it out cannot focus on social connection. These new professionals seem to want to offer personality change rather than first understand the full range of Aspergers' inner world which defines our particular experience of life.
Another stereotype created by neurotypicals about aspies is that they all have excellent attention to detail which is not true for everyone. Only a very small number of aspies have that ability which then overshadows the aspies that do not have it or it manifests differently in us such as by having the ability to collect a lot of information through which we become very lost, so we have to learn to categorize information. The whole thing about all aspies having excellent attention to detail is a stereotype started by computer companies in the 1990s that promoted geeky-looking computer geeks in the media. Not all of us look like that.
I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome at 3 year's old
I'm 63 and was diagnosed 5 years ago.
I took the test and I scored a 40 on it. I'm a bit scared of what people close to me will think if it is true that I have it. Most people just think I am blunt and a bit of an A-Hole, maybe this is why I am that way.
i am an anomaly by genetic inheritance, being both diagnosed AS and HSP.
HSP hid my AS because high HSPs helplessly receive the other person's feelings and attitude. So what others mean saying to myself is easily interpreted by signals of the emotionally concurrent with their words. Also, facial and body cues were similarly learned empirically. All that did not make me NT at all. Social skills and behaviour, black-and-white thinking, need for routine and sameness, and of course funny social errors are only getting heavier with age. Inability to communicate, converse and have friends are also worsening with age 62.
If only the 'big brothers' did not want to ignore our Syndrome out of existence for its social support costs, research and statistical inconvenience!
Yes!! This is what’s happened to me too
@@SydSquid856 Wow, I was afraid I was weird for it, an only one.
Thank you for telling me !!!
She sounds like one of the only professionals on YT who really get it.
Nah there's several you just have to keep looking. MedCircle, Tim Fletcher, Katie Morton, oh, and Lindsay Gibson's book "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" was fantastic.
If you think she's one of the "only" professionals who "gets it" amongst all of the youtube content, then you're probably trapped in a very negative mindset. Just keep looking and you'll find stuff. Don't give up.
I have pdd nos which is under the autism spectrum umbrella
How do you get a 21 yr old Asberger bright young man to "take a shower " and come out of their room or house to get therapy? Much less got anywhere? concerned grandmother
Tricky question. I recently ordered a book we are still waiting for for my mother ('7 easy ways to motivate someone with Asperger's') as she personally struggles with me
Some problematic behaviours, some that she finds problematic.
What I’ve noticed which helps for my son is to die invite extremely attractive girlfriend over. The need to freshen up and to impress was instant.
I suggest that one reason women with Aspergers fly under the radar is that men are more accepting of 'awkward' behaviours from women than women are from men. Men naturally want to take care of their partner, and such oddities of behaviour are thus not the problem for many women as they are for men - provided of course that they are in a satisfactory relationship!
Yup, she seems to understand it.
How can I help my 44 yr old daughter who seems to be struggling with Asperger’s but rejects the possibility of this diagnosis? She is very moody, employed, ....she frequently shuts me out of her life....no communication for weeks. I get really scared when she does this.
that's really unfortunate to hear and I know it must hurt very badly. I wish I could help you but I am not a doctor. does she have a stable and safe life in general, at least?
Ithaca Comments : She lives with rejection daily & veiled hostility frequently. Her colleagues exhaust her. She copes with your disappointment when she can.
I cannot handle the level of communication that my mother wants from me. I really try but she is the most exhausting person in my life. Her constant worry is a burden that I can't help her with. She doesn't understand me. This is not her fault. It just is. What I crave most from her is acceptance and peace.
Maybe my experience is a little like your daughter's. If she really has Asperger's, then what she needs from others is the same, regardless of whether or not she acknowledges the diagnosis.
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@@roadrunnercrazy good answer and I relate.
What happened around 11:30-12 minutes? It seems like the lady lost her train of thought.
1:02 before I watch this dose anyone know how I can be treated with it
HFA is generally comparable to Asperger Syndrome, and people with Level 1 Autism would be more resemblant to Aspergers, nowadays, even if that term is outdated. Most w/ Lvl 1 ASD don’t necessarily fit the criteria for classic Autism. To add to the confusion, ‘High-Functioning’ shows that there are little to no social weaknesses in a person, which is controversial in itself. Historically, Aspergers presented an accurate representation of the conflicts 4 boys had when the condition was first recognized by Hans Asperger in 1944. Now, since there’s a replacement condition as per the DSM-V, there are/were little differences, including ‘No clinically significant cognitive delay’ for AS & ‘Minimal speech delay’ for HFA. But that’s another question. Contrary to popular belief, AS can have a tad of language delay, but it’s NEVER as significant as those diagnosed at Lvl 2 or 3. HFA & AS are now technically ‘exactly the same’ because of the level of support.
Very interesting. I only did not understand the difference between Asperger's, high functioning autism and autism spectrum. Are they the same, just a different name? Or what is the deal?
Asperger is now autism spectrum.
Same
NOT SYMPTOMS OF ASPERGER'S -- RATHER, CHARACTERISTICS. THIS VIDEO IS SO FULL OF DISCRIMINATORY LANGUAGE.
my child got autisme is clearly apple tree storyline. I know amarican people are just appearing fake but she's clearly overcompensating just one step more than you usually are as expected to be doing
Super Power .
Ok....here comes blunt....there are sooooo many pluses and giftings and attributes for those of us with this neurological condition. Sooooo sad that you kept it negative ...."comparing" the ND's behaviour to the NT's ...once again❗...sigh😥😫.