She's upset because of her husband, who favors their younger son[Hello Counselor ENG,THA/2018.09.17]
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Hello Counselor EP.380
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The whole family dynamic is ruined man
Father favors the second child
Mother sees that and starts to favor the older child
Second child resents first child because he has all the mother’s love
First child resents the second child because he has all the father’s love
Father and mother will lose respect for one another
Siblings will have no respect for one another
This is a terrible terrible situation unbelievable
Q Q actually the first child doesn’t hate the second child he just feels isolated from his fathers love
@Emily John I agree, and it's very depressing, poor baby..
Emily John they will start to hate each other only because of their father
If the father continues to do this I think the younger one will grow up arrogant and selfish and the oldest son will grow up with many heart wounds
This is a very unheathly family just because of this psychopath
I think the father is a psychopath
As a parent you cant not love your own kids
Disgusting
Giulia Ruiu I agree 100% I’m just saying what’s really sad is that the oldest will probably suffer and he never did anything wrong. I hope no one EVER has to get treated like this.
( I agree this dad is a psychopath )
Emily John regardless of how the child feels right now, if the father continues to act this way then the oldest will most probably feel resentment towards the second child. my comment was made on the basis of how the father NEEDS to stop his horrible behavior before the whole family goes into ruins.
"Do you want seo-an to be yelled at too?"
_Instantly answers_
"No, I don't"
*One day, this handsome af kid will be a much better dad than his own father will ever be*
He'll be match better!
Facts!
This comment made my eyes tear up
Trueee
@@gen.dh7 the whole video did..
She is a great mother, she can feel her first son's feeling. She is crying when she tells them the story of Jian. Jian didn't ask help from anyone, and just crying silently alone, but her mom speaks up for him. Jian takes the same pure heart as his mom.
I felt Jian's pain through his mother :( So sad to witness one of your precious sons being mistreated by his own father.
Yeah, and I think he probably cried his eyes put to his mom every night about this
Jian was also trying to hold his tears i was so sad! :(((
The fact that his husband moved the chair further from his son when both child came sit down with him is so heartbreaking
I really scrolled through the comments to see if anyone else caught that. After the older son helped his brother sit he then sat down on the other side of his dad sitting on the edge closet, almost touching his dad and then his dad scooted his chair away to be closer to the younger son. That broke my heart.
I wanted to insult him so many times
Oh yes! I noticed and was wondering anyone noticed too! Such a shitty dad.. I can't watch this... I feel so sorry for the mum and eldest son... 😭😭😭
yeah i noticed too
I think that the dad did that to be in the middle in between his kids since he was further from the younger one 🤷♀️
Sunmi *actually* looked like she was gonna beat the shit out of the dad
I know every time the camera panned over we both had the same expression LOL
i'll do the same, everyone want to do the same. no doubts
I mean who wouldn’t want to 🙃
I actually slapped my phone screen when the dad was on it
lmfao xd
"I'll be a good boy too"
OMG YOU ALREADY ARE ONE YOU DID NOTHING WRONG😭
Panda God lkr I felt so bad
I know right I cried when he said that 😭😭😭😭
agree
Jian so desperated to get love from his dad i think
That was upsetting
I want to punch his dad
i was crying when i watched that part
The part where Sunmi literally said that she wanted to raise him herself I have never related more like Jian is such a sweet boy how can his father ever neglect him like what???
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@@friendusesthisaccountnocom9928 20:26
He’s so amazing and respectful. He never blamed his dad nor brother for him getting this awful treatment. He even told his dad “ I’ll be a good boy too “ like wtf. Baby you did nothing wrong. I want Sunni to raise him bc wtf.
@@rosie5816 Ik it's really sad
This broke my heart. After that whole thing, all Jian said was "I'll be a good boy too". Like he doesn't realise how much of an angel he is already.
I was crying at that moment but after seeing a girl crying hilariously I started laughing 😁
when jian came out and had the brightest smile on his face even after all the shit he's been through, even took care of his little brother despite everything, i started sobbing... he's such a pure, shining soul and soon it'll be tarnished by his own father. i grew up with parents that favored my brother and that kind of trauma stays with you forever... i really, really hope jian will be okay.
Same here.. my mum loves my younger brother so dearly and i often feel left out since she always sided with him and also since i am older i was always blamed even thou it was him who started it. i do get angry at times and feel like this was unfair but seeing jian smiling so cheerfully when he enters i knew hes an angel. I hope the best for him and hopefully his dad will love them both equally.
Same happens to me. Me and my brother have a 6 years age gap, I'm turning 15 this year and he is 21 years old. I grew up being the culprit of everything, I don't have my parents attention at all and my brother is studying abroad so my parents pay more attention to him than to me, but I love them after all and I can't deny the fact that I am going to be traumatized. 😕💜
nebular I totally agree....my parents do pay attention to me...but they pay more attention to my sister’s life....they always ask her how her day goes and things like that....I’m the older one and when I do something wrong they pay attention....when I come downstairs no one notices so I myself quietly go back upstairs....but when my sister does something it gets noticed and when I do something great it’s just a simple nod and smile and that’s it.....because of this consistent behavior I have become super independent and know no one will take my side anyways...it really does stick with you everywhere you go....
I'd also like to commend the mother because if not for her taking care of Jian, I don't think he would grow up to be as sweet, considering how his father is treating him. He didn't even have any ill-will against Se-on (even taking care of him), probably because his mother makes sure to explain and fill in the misunderstandings as much as she could.
And when he said that he said that he didn’t want his brother to be yelled at just shows that Jian loves his brother and doesn’t want him to feel the same way he does 😭so heartbreaking
The fact that Jian was still apologizing to his father when he did nothing wrong, and that he's taking it out on a kid at school because he's likely treated the same at home just makes me so much angrier at the father on top of everything else. I mean he's been doing it before Seo an was even born with him being sick as a kid and his father not thinking it to be worth it. What is going through his mind?
Chase Barber I
Not only that, but the father ended up making Seo-an spoiled! Even though Jian’s father loved Seo-an more, he still love his brother, which is a good thing. Jian is such a good kid...
@@cloudyolk_ Exactly like the kids are at both extremes of bad parenting.
Sweet Jesus, I hope the mother divorced him and marries an actual man not this excuse of a human being
Just like the husband said, hes from a certain district that is culturally different from how other people may traditionally
raise their children, so he isn't 100% to blame.
Some people don't deserve to be parents. The older kid broke my heart, he's too sweet, despite the abuse.
I think he's treating his son exactly the same way he was treated by his own father. This stuff propagates through generations until the circle is broken.
That’s what I’m thinking. I was hoping they would ask
Exactly, this cycle never ends unless they divorce and go their separate ways :/
What really got me was when Jian was crying into his arm and his dad wouldn't even look at him. Seo-an was smiling, not knowing what was going on, and the dad was completely ignoring his crying older son to dote on his younger, laughing one. It was like watching two different tv channels at once. I'm not surprised Jian was acting out at school. I hope they got them both a psychiatrist to work through this.
Right
@@ellysaidatrisanty1033 Seo an's manipulative and spoilt as a result of how his father treats Jian. But it's not the children's fault. It's because of the father that Jian is suffering and Seo An is acting like that.
I started crying when Jian cry!
@@nctforlife2360 what are you talking about! seoan is a baby even if you are mad u shouldnt talk like that about a baby! blame the dad not the kid!!
I accidentally disliked oopsie hah
Lmao imagine 10 years later Park Jian becomes a huge kpop star, and when people ask him about how he achieved his dreams and who supported him, he'll say, "only my mother".. Im just imagining lol.(wtf never thought people would agree with me lmao)
Seolhyun Jeon
Bruh same
Seolhyun Jeon same that would be cool
HAHAHAHA
@Dulguun Ganbat reminds me of v from bts, two different eyes 💞 those eyes are adorable
Agreed 👏
"he always has to be alert in order to survive" damn that breaks my heart.
I tried so hard not to cry but I couldn’t help it when Jian said he’d be a good boy too.
I had a similar relationship with my father, and that feeling of loneliness and worthlessness is something you never ever forget.
I hope you know you have a Heavenly Father who loves you so much 🙏🏼❤️
i think i feel you well i have never though that it would be that much that my father hates me but i still like he doesn't like me that much .I'm 13. I'm the only daughter in 3 boys i have two older brothers and a twin brother. my dad is a bit old fashioned so he always thinks that girls have no use but do house chores and give birth i don't think we ever talk and if we did it would like i was talking to a wall he would hum and the ignore me. it makes me feel so sad,i was crying the whole video and crying in the writing of this comment if only my dad could change the way he treats ne just a bit
When Jian said "I'll be a good boy, too" I lost it I started UGLY crying and it takes a lot for me to ugly cry. And if I'm being honest Jian deserves so much better if I was the wife I would honestly just get a divorce because if you can't love BOTH of my children then don't love any of them.
(yes, ik that sounds harsh but it's just my opinion)
Brooklyn Perry omg I ugly cried to Ik how you feel 💔god so many emotions
Agree, because living with someone like him is toxic, a kid growing up with a father like him will only bring him down and several their siblings relationship in the future.
Brooklyn Perry same
@@TinaLee-lc6kd 😔✊
I get your point but getting a divorce is not that easy in some of Asian countries compared to Western countries because they really value the family traditions. Getting a divorce here is not that common because it is showing that you failed with your marriage, that's why even tho some partners keep on fighting, they never take it to divorcing if there is still a solution for the problem. It's kind of like "Work things out first before deciding"~
What kind of Dad just sits there while his sons crying and doesn't do anything!
He's a sick sick man.
ikr.. he should've hugged his son 😡
Haven Blackfeather he was holding the youngest one hand and he wasn’t even crying!
@@earthphoenix7068 what an evil. I won't be surprised when you become a parent someday and ended up just like their dad.
My dad calls me psycho and he says I have a mental illness
The fact that Jian started crying when his grandma was talking about how even she believes her son is too hard on him. Also how he started crying when his dad actually said something nice to him:( poor kid, he must have so much weighing on him because of his dad. I really do hope Jian’s dad becomes more affectionate and loving with him. I do understand that the younger son is a little kid and may need more attention, but Jian is also a child too, he needs love as well.
I’m just watching this now and I’m dying to know if Jian has a better relationship with his dad. This episode is making me bawl my eyes out. This is so heartbreaking and hard to watch.
ep 400 around 6:38 has a heart warming update
@@tchoi97 are you sure it’s that episode?? i watched the whole thing and nothing was said about them
@@ella-ch7du maybe it’s 406? I searched the one the first person said, but haven’t looked at it, I’m just looking at thumbnail, cause I’m watching this video
@@ella-ch7du it;s episode 400, i just watched it.
"Kids are so manipulative these days." I really want to slap the husband for this one line. I know kids can be manipulative but saying that about your son who you tries to gain your affection is really... I'm hoping we will see them again to see if he changed.
Seeing babyJian crying i just want to slappp the father into another universe.
he does realize that the younger son is also a kid- right? even if he isn’t right now and is a baby he will eventually be one and that he himself was once a time one too LMAO
"Manipulative"....FOR WHAT? YOUR LOVE? WTF. If anything his father is the one being manipulative for constantly projecting his jealousy onto the child and pulling away from him. Jian's intentions are pure. His father's intentions are absolute selfish and crap.
Yea I also want to punch him in the face
Well everyone are manipulative to get what they want tho it's just hella natural, it's sad with the fact that the father was thinking like that
MY DAD WAITED FOR ME FOR HOURS IN A RESTAURANT JUST FOR ME TO FINISH MY FOOD WHEN I WAS 9 AND THIS STUPID MAN CANT EVEN WAIT FOR 15 MINS FOR JIAN
WTH U HAVE A GOOD DAD
N YEA THIS DICKDAD CAN GO TO HELL
@@clairewilkinson47 he nagged at me at that time also HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA but yeah he is a very good dad 😊
You will grow up as a great man because of your great father, sir
@@nurlydia898 i am 18 and i am a girl. HAHAHAHAHSH but yes, i'll try my best to be as a good and obedient child to my parents :)
@@ren3288 hehe. I am so so sorry sister. 😁
I've cried when ji an said "I'll be a good boy too"😭😭😭 We're all know that he depressed and been crying silently alone😢😢😢 the mom did the right decision to came here
You can't blame the youngest child , because he is still a baby he doesn't understand many things , maybe he acts like he's cute , it's because of his father's teachings .
Keep strong Jian , we love you !
@@anathimpotulwana245 you cant really call a little kid manipulative, remember that kids REALLY like attention and thats probably it, but its hella unfair that the father gives so much attention to the youngest rather than sharing them equally
sorry for my comment, I was just angry at how the little kid made the older one take blame for his mistakes taking advantage of how his father dotes on him and it's not his fault
It's usually natural for children to want attention, I don't even understand why people here are hating on a kid for this. It's natural, and he's used to all the attention so that's why he feels awkward when it's diverted to his older brother. It's honestly the father's fault for everything
@@shahidaafzal1247 AGREED
Yes that’s why I think the mother not even bother smiling at the youngest son singing or saying he is manipulative Is one of the reasons he is also trying so hard. I think the mother maybe feels bad giving the youngest a lot of affection as she is protective of jian so the youngest one wants to impress her. The father ofc carried most fault. I just can imagine the mother getting mad at the youngest for being as she said "manipulative" and consoles jian so he feels a bit „jealous“ which isn’t healthy for the family. There shouldn’t be any dividing
It really broke my heart to see Jian crying. You could tell he was holding a lot of emotional distress. Kids regardless of what age can tell when you favor one sibling over the other especially when you treat the differently. I really hope Jian will get closer with his dad because It’ll be really sad if Jian grows up resenting both his dad and little brother. The dad really needs to try and make an effort to getting close with him.
This is how it was for me . my mom would come into the room. Not acknowledge us . wheres so and so..I mao i would wind her up by saying drop dead . and mention all my sisters names . she would say well i know your here. And i would reply . well you could acknowledge us first . then ask for her. Im 56 and still seeking approval from people. . this is..why i will always fight for kids to be happy .
Yeah I agree.
Jian is so handsome and Seo- an is cute
even worse one of my cousin looks like him and seeing this makes me wanna go and hug jian and talk to him about shit .also jian is the same age as my cousin that i'm talking about so i'm like wtf.
It makes me sadder seeing how quietly he cries because that means he's always tried to hold it in. It hurts both emotionally AND physically in your chest to hold in negative feelings and the memories of both types of pain can stick for a very long time if a child starts doing that from a young age. I hope his dad really changes his attitude towards him and make him feel happier to be in this family.
Plot twist
His favored son will treat him bad when his old and his ignored sons will help him in those days.
This happens to my mom up until now. She was abuse and not loved by my Grandma almost as if my mom is not her own child. Now my mom takes care of her now that she's old and bed ridden and her favored other children doesn't even bother to take care of her.
@@angelicahilario5250 Same situation with my teachers mother.
my mom is like that too, she treat my grandma until now and others child (my mom siblings) just pretend didnt see and hear all my grandma distress at all. in the past my mom was raise by the other family and yeah i could say that grandma abandoned her. but i loved the way my mom takes her responsibility to grandma by came to our family. maybe god know the best🙏
Hemmmm Classic.
Bruh that always be in drama
He so clearly doesn't love his son and he made it extremely obvious. Even his body language was turned away from his oldest son.
For the people who are worried they are doing great now. They both have made an amazing bond with each other. In episode 400 they showed selfies of them and Jian looked so happy. They also said he became a child actor and his dad is so proud of him and loves him alot.
I AM GLAD TO HEAR THAT, I HAVE FELT BAD FOR JIAN SO MUCH
Where is the link please tell me
All acting
That father is acting
This is how children get depressed at such a young age. All he wants is to get accepted by his father. Get loved by his father. Get acknowledged by his father.This really broke my heart, I couldn’t stop crying.🙁
Yes☹️😭
Leila Ahmad me too 😭😭😭
I also can't stop crying it's so heart breaking
The so called father is just a monster how could he do that to his own son
Same😭😢
omg so trueee 100%
At this point
If the boy said "I don't have father, he is dead"
I'll understand him as well :')
Yea
yeah i remember i have a classmate that really hate her mom for not taking care of her so she tell our teacher that her mom is dead
I'll understand him too 🥺 no child deserves a bad treatment from parents. And for parents to practice favouritism is just awful.
One day if nothing change he will say it
@@user-md9mq6do3b yeah
I know this is from 3 years ago but the fact that Jian still love and care for his little brother despite the unfair treatment speaks volume. He’s literally an angel. If his dad didn’t, then his mom raised him well
Dude this episode had me bawling like a big baby. My heart broke for Jian and seeing him hurting and crying made it worst. I hope his father changes and treats him with love and gives him some positive attention
I'm scared that the 2nd child will grow into manipulative and selfish person just because he knows that his father always defend him whatever is happening. A character that formed since childhood will be very hard to change, I hope that the father changes the way he raises his kids soon, it'll be nice for both children and maybe himself
yeah and the first one might end up bulling others to let out the anger because it already happened once where he hit another child. So sad how he's ruining both perfectly fine children.
He is young and even without such blatant favouritism kids still sometimes do this. However I do see if this continues how the 2nd child could become manipulative. But I'm also disappointed that no one pointed out the alternative, that even if this family stays together (doesn't get separated by divorce) he could lose all of them including his 2nd son. If the second son grows up well in spite of his dad he might resent him as well. For basically being emotionally violent with his brother and hurting him and in turn there mother and their grandmother. The younger brother might feel guilty for being born, or for taking their fathers love away from his older brother. And even if he doesn't he might not think its fair or right for his father to be this way. If this happens not only has he left both the kids with huge emotional scars to work through, he will truly have no one left.
So true!!
Like how hinata and hanabi early in the narutoverse
The worse part is his mom was practically begging for his dad to love him back even if its just half of how much he loves his little brother. That's depressing af and is a nightmare for a child. Imagine having to beg for your husband to love one of your children...my dad is like that since i'm adopted and it's been 10 yrs since he last talked to me. When he cried and his dad was obviously just faking it that he was trying to hug him...you can tell it was an emotionless hug because a parent who sees their child crying would do two things only cry their heart out and hug their child or just try to hide tears so they'll seem strong but still try to comfort them. He doesn't care and the only thing that'll make him care is if his first born suddenly wakes up and does not love him anymore or worse something bad happens which i hope not but they say regrets are only felt when it's too late or almost too late. He'll learn his lesson when he realizes he is gonna lose his first born.
The fact that when they asked if he could love Jian HALF as much as his other son, and he sat there and had to THINK about it pisses me off
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Bitxh looked as if it was the hardest he ever thought in his entire life...like wtf?
true. I was cursing like he's his dad....and he needed to think?
Ikr they even say HALF but he still acting like it's the hardest thing to do
i love how the mom explains everything without trying to be rude
the dad is just..
25:14 how are they all so composed with their tears bruh I’m balling my eyes out 😭😭 Jian is so cute and handsome and deserves so much more love from his dad and Seo-an is manipulative af haha
98.3% of the people watching this cried(at least)
Edit: AHHH this makes me so sad that 346(or more) people cried while watching this T^T
I cried badly
It’s true ..
Those same 98.3% probably wants to slap the dad
true man
me too
The fact that the dad was mostly FORCED to love his older son is so stupid and irritating. You don't love a person just because someone says so. Jian is such a kind and well-educated son, his little brother has been negatively influenced by that trash he calls father. I just don't see a reason as to why he has to treat one son like trash and the other one treasure. Yes, Soeun may have only one kidney and its understandable to pay morr attention to him but to stoop as low as to degrade your own child. It disgusts me.
True I can't stand him he's so cute what's wrong with him my heart can't take this 😭😭😭💔
PREACHHHH
Yeah even if one kid was born with just one kidney, parents should treat all of their kids fairly so that no one of them will get jealous. Thus making a mark on them so deeply ruins their family in the long run.
True
Areum it wasn’t FORCING, what they said is true just because his first born was born with one kidney doesn’t mean you have to love that person more cuz that shit just stupid af. I just wished the father wouldn’t regret later..
"I'll be a good son too" just shows us how matured this kid is. Btw I've watched this ep many times. But still, it made me cry every time I watched.
When Jian said that he will try to be a good boy, I just burst out crying. I watched this video 2 years ago and I still cry watching this. I hope his father has changed
The father didn't even looked at jian and comforted him when he was crying. I feel so bad for jian, he is a very sweet boy and if the father continues being like this I don't think jian will talk to him when he will grow up
I think so. If the father still act like that i think jian will grow up and acy awkwardly towards his father and he only care abt his mom the most😥
@@Abcdefghij_1101 yes I know the feeling. My father don't live here with me and he lives in other place. So now I don't really miss him and its awkward to talk personal things with him
@@Abcdefghij_1101 well, if he doesn't change, I can guarantee it'll end up that way. I only prioritise my mum now. *happened to me irl. only diff is I'm a daughter. Also eldest*
This is exactly what happened to my brothers. My dad use to take good care of them but after my youngest sibling was born...he ignored them so now they don't want to talk to him. They get scared that he might yell or something. I have that problem too.
Yes.. I agree.. but if one day the older son become richest people and successful person I dont think he will favour his father.. this happen to ones to taiwan artist.. until now he never want to know about his father.. he only take care his mom only
At this age, Jian would still try to gain his father's love and attention, but very soon, probably 1 or 2 more years he will stop doing so, and thats when its too late. And that father can regret for his whole life. But I really hope he changes, because this kid deserves all the love
Exactly! I was the same with my narcissict mom, then i hit puberty And fight all the freaking time , as an adult i tried to Talk to her seriously on why she favor my useless brother instead of me, she told me i imaging everything... Can you believe that woman!!!! She call me crazy after all the years she Yell ay me for every little thing while my bother id just as her, a narcissict Who thinks the Word go around him .
Soooo AGREE with You. The father should prepare for the worst!!!!!
This what You said is really happened! Maybe now Jian will still chase for His father's love, then puberty hit. Goodbye father! Maybe, Jian will not even think that He should be kind and chase His father's love anymore.
I see this kind of things happened in the real life, the kid dont think that He/She need The father loves anymore. Well, the kid still a good kid tho. The kid has a very good life too... Since the kid is very independent and smart. It just the kid doesnt bother anymore about The father. and The father regret it when the father get old.
@@AyAReI00 lol I feel ya. The diff is it's my father, and I can clearly attest that my brother is indeed USELESS (my other bro is better, so there is a point of comparison)
Your so unfair. This is so sick!
@@emilyconnor3911 oh no, he is useless, he doesnt do any chore at home, NOTHING cuz according to him "he doesnt know to" he is older than me , he just Play dumb to avoid helping at home, he doesnt Cook anything since i have memory And then i ask him for at least do the dishes ... Do you know what was his answer??? "Why dont you do It? Are you not able to?" ... I got so mad but off course he does that cuz my mother always had his back .. he is literally a manchild
This whole interview made me cry. How can a dad do this to his elder son. I mean I have an elder brother too but we get loved equally. And now I am in standard 6 and he is in 8
When jian cried, my heart broke. No child deserves this ;((
I’m happy that the mom stands up for her child......
Yeah, at least the mum loves him. Poor Jian.
Yes, I'm happy the mom sees the problem and tries to actually takes action to change it! She could've put on a blind eye and pretend like there's nothing wrong, but she didn't and I can't be more grateful for that
Monster Fastclaw But The thing is, she isn’t trying hard enough. It’s probably all of the stress her husband put onto her that she can’t even sort out the situation.
I feel the mom favours the older son more than the younger son tho
Jian also doesn't act resentful against his father or brother, probably because of his mother's guidance. Although he has started to show rebellion at school which is a great cause for worry :(
“He was born with one kidney” Everyone: OH THEN IT ALL MAKES SENSE. THE ABUSE MAKES SENSE.
There is no excuse for such bad parenting. Jian didn't ask to be born to such a man. Remember the younger son might not last long on this earth, but the one son he mistreated may be the one that takes care of him in his old age.
@GIT GUD it's common everywhere youngest is always the favourite
Cassandra Kemara tbh not true my parents favour the eldest the most im the youngest and the eldest always always get favoured no matter what. it comes in ranking like my eldest brother followed by my sister since she is the only girl and thn me and my twin brother
when they said it made sense, they probably meant that “ah, so theres a big reason why he dotes on the younger one on an extra level”.
you’re merely assuming their thoughts, when they absolutely did not speak up on whatever you just mentioned.
Ikr, I'm like: fine the father can care about the younger son more, but how does abusing the child (even when he knows the younger son is at fault) make sense???
who in their right mind would always criticize their own son who is literally a child for everything, i mean EVERYTHING that he does. that inconsiderate father always have answers/reasons to give. It's baffling.
i'm glad the mother can see the younger son manipulating, it was also very obvious when he started acting cute to pull the attention away from his older brother.
My heart hurts for Jian, especially cause it hits close to home for me. If things don't change, he will come to resent his father and brother deeply.
I've never seen that many shocked exclamations from the audience from watching this show for many years, the audience were like "😨omg" every time that sorry excuse of a father opened his mouth
† i been a fan of this show for a long time too and i don’t think i ever saw the audience showing so many reactions either, there was a girl bawling even
Really? I watched a lot of Hello Counselors and there are plenty
thats me rn
At 6:46? Or 7:59?
Lol yeah I noticed that too. Even the applaud for the father's introduction was downright pathetic and the jerk deserved it. I'm sure the guests and mc's made up most of the applause
When Jian said that "he'll be a good boy" my heart broke to pieces. What kind of parents make their child believe that they ain't good enough.
Haruka 90 honestly!! I couldn’t hold my tears anymore, it hurt me to see him feel the need to tell his dad that he’ll be better when he wasn’t the one that needed to improve
Most parents do this in matter fact I admit that the father is really bad but if it was the mother no one would care
Haruka 90 I was trying to hold it in then I cried when Jian cried I felt so bad...
I teared at that part.....it was so upsetting to see such a young child deprived of love
same sentiments
I love how everyone is just done with the husband
Seeing a good boy telling his heart out, bawling his sadness. "i'll be a good boy too." breaks my heart
I need to see Jian's glow up after 10 years.
Yesssss
Hope he will. I don't want him to get depressed at this age because of his rotten father.
Same
Same
AND LOOK AT THOSE DIMPLES❤️
sis the divorce papers are lookin’ pretty sexy if I say so myself
😂
Had tears streaming down my face after watching the video, but then I saw this and I'm cracking up so hard, it's now a pool of mixed emotions 😂
Yassss😂😂
Awkward is my middle name same wtfkdndk
@superioryena yess lol 😂
i cried while watching this omg. i'm glad jian gets treated better now, but i still despise the dad for making him feel alone during his childhood.
I loved Jian how well mannered and understanding he is ❤️ I hope his father show more love to him and equally treats both sons 👍🏻
With all this, Jian is starting to fear his own father and with that fear, the resentment will come sooner or later. The only thing this kid wants, is the love of his father but if he continues like this, one of them will eventually cut off the relationship. Jian deserves to have a father who cares for him and i'm sorry to say this, but his father is an Asshole. He said he doesn't think it's wrong to favour the younger brother over him. He called his own son annoying, manipulative and dissapointing when it actually should we Jian, who should feel dissapointed and manipulated by his father. As a Dad, he completly failed his duty and it's gonna take a lot for him to change his mind and make up for what he did to his son...
Michelle Hawk yeah while watching this I actually kinda hoped the mother would be like I’m not gonna do this to my kid and you know cut him outa their lives even for the youngest that would be best in my opinion . The man is just horrible.what he does is neglect and only mentally retarded ppl don’t see their own fault to this extend. He was just happily telling everyone how much he hates his son that is just disgusting and wrong.
Ps im sorry it kinda makes me mad😅
I bet his father was treated the way he treats that son so he's passing down something bad instead of correcting it.
jian deserves so much love! he must be understood cause he’s just experiencing life but that dad is immature and only care about his life!
Michelle Hawk i know how jian feels... when i was a child my dad was always getting mad either coz of works or tired. I'm scared of him and the impact of this is now i become distance from him because of the awkwardness and we didn't really talk to each others ☹️
Michelle Hawk I study psychology and what u said can really do happen if nothing changes...I agree with your comment to 95%🙌🏼
This dad is a bad person but I think he didn't have two great parents either so I don't wanna judge him too fast.. Altho I feel like a liiiiittlle punch in his face, by accident ofcourse, wouldn't make me feel pity for him 😇
The part where the second kid started acting all cute and asking for his dad’s attention while his brother cried fucking sucked to watch
Same here
ikr like i dont want to be mad at the second child because he acts like that because of his dad...but it hurts to watch so much
@@shw77 honestly I relate to that so much, i would be fuming with anger and sadness. It would only cause me to cry harder. I hope the younger brother can realize something soon :(
This is my f story
Exactly what the their mother meant when she said that the second child is the manipulative one
This episode had me crying the whole time, Jian is such a sweet kid and I hope he's doing better now
Jian is soo handsome
He can become idol when he grows up
He didn't even bother to look at Ji-an when he was crying all over and instead the happy younger son. He is disgusting, toxic messed up brain. I hope Jian grows well in the future and get all the love he once missed.
Ikrrrr my heart literally broke down while seeing that...!!!
@@snehaagarwal2455 yes i cried!! ㅠㅠ
he actually changed, he's trying his best to be a good father now, you should watch episode 400 to see them again ! Ji-an and his father have a much more healthy son and father relationship now! :D
@@mariamunthe1213 Do you know what timestamp? :>
@@mariamunthe1213 omg really?? gosh what a relief, I'm happy for them! ㅠㅠ
This is the only episode to ever make me cry. Watching Jian break down and cling to his dad after getting that little piece of (unconvincing) affection was so difficult, I didn't even realize tears were streaming down my face until the episode ended. I really hope the dad DID change.
Can we just take a moment and give major props to that mom, though? She actually stands up for her son and holds her husband responsible for his actions. That's rare in Korea, especially on this show. Usually, they make excuses or even takes the father's side. Not only does she not make excuses for him, she came ON THIS SHOW specifically to try to change the behavior and expose him. A+ Mommy right there.
Unconvincing lol *clocked* haha
It made me cry so much in the end
I doubted, he didn’t even do anything when jian cry, he only hug him because they told him to
This made me cry so much too after watching it a few times
Bawling here :(
When Jian said he will be a good son and they hugged each other my heart broke inside my chest and I almost shed a tear. Which is a feat for me because I never cry-
the mom really cares for her children seeing her cry wants me to cry
I HAD NEVER CRIED SO MUCH WITH ONE OF THESE. Poor baby boy 💔 I hope the dad really changes his behaviour towards Jian. He doesn't deserve to grow up like this
Huhuhu me too. 😭😭😭
Me too
I cried way to much that my dog come to support me lol
AyAReI00 awwww, that's a good doggo
Ugh!! My heart just shattered watching this💔💔I want to give Jian a hug. He’s so sweet and all he wants is for his father to care. I got emotional seeing him fall apart😢😢He doesn’t deserve to feel so alone. I hope that their family bond strengthens after this. His little brother is absolutely adorable by the way😍
I just burst into tears at the end when Jian cried. No child should ever have to feel that way.
Me too
Same i fell the sadness
I feel that till this day. This happened to me too. It got me in tears cuz i know how jian feels💔
I started crying when the mother started crying. Sadly I can relate to this situation. I just hope the little boy is ok and gets the love he deserves
Yeah it's so sadd🥺🥺
I hope Seo-an doesnt turn out to be a bad person, by the way things are going he might become too spoiled... This brought me to tears because i can relate so much. To anyone going through something similar, I hope you know ur not alone, and eventually we will find our happiness. We deserve it.
2nd bby is cute because he has mom's look,,the first one has his dad's look..i can't understand why would he hates his own version..LMAO
"he was born with one kidney"
YOU DONT REALLY NEED 2 KIDNEYS EVEN IF HE WAS BORN WITH ONLY 1 HE WOULD STILL BE SAFE AND HEALTHY
True
Yea and that doesn't mean that he will only love the younger son and hate the older one. He can give equal love to both of them
And that doesn't even matter!! He should love both of his kids equally.
I have four kidneys he could have one lmao
@@kippenlichter5477 how's that even possible?
Eventho it's not the baby's fault, i could see that the younger one will be a manipulative kid soon. He's tryin to act cute everytime he did not get attention.
@XD_SABEEKA Same thing.
It's his father's fault for raising him like that
ㄹㅇ 귀여운척하는거 좀..꼴받네..??
Im sorry, but how could u say such a thing about a kid? Dont predict someone's future self please. Its gonna hurt them rlly bad bcuz this was what i'd been through, so i can understand. Growing up with ppl thinking that ur bad and manipulative, making u feel insecure af:)))
@@PhuongNguyen-on5qb well, they speak based on experience, and its true AF...
Watching the dad say "I'm proud of you" literally made me cry knowing my parents could never say that :,)
It's been 5 years, and i still cryin watch this
If this continues, the younger son is going to be so narcissistic in the future
Sowon Kim agreed
Right
Right, he's the golden child and the eldest is the scapegoat, golden children usually become very immature and narcissistic when they grow up while scapegoats become empaths (they can become narcs too)
Ong
he already is :/
When Jian rubbed his eye, I think he did it to stop his tears from falling :(
Yh :-(
i think so too :'(
1. The little kid started being manipulative because he knows his dad is on his side (not kid's fault, but dad's);
2. I can see Jian is truly scared of his father by the way he would not even look at him while confronting him;
3. It's amazing to see how sweet Jian is, and how much good he is with his little brother (taking care of him, clapping and smiling for him), even tho his father is literally trying his best to ruin their relationship by treating them differently. I think his hate towards his first son is connected to his immature jealousy. The mom said that he felt abandoned and jealous because when Jian was born, she dedicated all her attention to him and not to the husband. He should go to see a psychologist and talk to them about it, because it can get worse. This poor boy did nothing wrong, he just wants to be loved by his dad. Shame on this "man", he KNOWS he's wrong, he just doesn't care. And the kid knows his father doesn't love him, that's why he is sad. Never in a million years a child should go through this.
Also, can we point out the fact that the kid is suffering of eating disorder because of his dad's disgusting comments? This man is truly EVIL.
The mother said Jian gets an upset stomach when he eats too fast but Jian tried eating faster just so he could gain a compliment from his father and the fact that he thought it was his fault that he didn't gain his father's affection really broke my heart
how can his father just sit there while his son cries next to him...heartless..thank god for the mother to raise Jian
when Jian started to cry, I started to cry aswell
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Me too hahaha
TaesTeasWife same here 😂 idk why but it's break my heart so much everytime i saw jian's crying
same ;-;😢 and hi army💜
me too
STOP- I CRIED MORE THAN THREE TIMES WATCHING THIS I WONDER HOW THEIR DOING NOW THOOO WE NEED A PT 2!!! PLZZZ
YESSSS 😭
EXACTLY
poor Jian couldn't even look up as he was crying. I just feel such an immense feeling of running away and escaping coming from him and that hurts, especially when talking about whether your parent the one who should love you unconditionally, even tolerates you.
I dont know why..but when the younger start act cute to gain people attention..i feel annoyed by that..I think his older brother more handsome and cute even when he dont act cute..
True! Sadly this shows that he’s used to get all the attention to himself, and when he noticed that everyone was talking to and looking at his older brother he started acting cute.
Same, I tried to calm myself since he is adorable, but that smug look made me disgusted at how he tried to bring down the attention from his brother :/
The little kid is just used to getting attention. And the older one looks so cute!! Btw, the older one resembles my older brother when he was little! XD
@@Hey-ey9jn really ? Wow ! I wish i have brother too 😂
Ikr
This is the first time I cried so hard while watching hello counselor. The moment jian cried is heartbreaking 😭💔
😭 me too i felt so bad for jian, he doesn't deserve that
Me too. Poor jian 😭😭
Sameee😢😢😢
This episode is so heartbreaking...💔
ivy con me too! It’s so heart breaking
I cried seeing the little boy crying. It’s really heartbreaking. All parents should be considerable to their child.
Literally I can't express my feeling I don't know why I am crying really I am happy that his mom understand him. He is such a cute boy . Parents should not differentiate between their children they should love their children equally.
the mother doesn't favor the oldest, in actual fact, I feel the mother was looking into the future and feeling the pain that the son was feeling. It is not correct to dislike a child just because you couldn't have your ”honeymoon”, you give the seed to create that child and after finding out you still made the decision to keep the child. It disgusts me to see how the father has no solid reason to dislike the child ( which in my opinion he needs to love his children equally ), the mother sent her issue to the show because I feel she has no power to convince the husband. She wants her son to not be afraid of his father or feel like his worthless to father.
This is my opinion on the matter and how I felt since I am the oldest child and a girl so I have and still experience this every day 😂
Alexandria Gwaidza i feel the same before. As the eldest and the only girl in the family,my mother actually favor my lil brother.What ever he does, she love it and always give full attention to him.i once dint spoke to my,other for 4 month and even think about killing my self.However i was lucky that i have a wonderful father.
When i grown up, the distance between me and my mom growths greater. But after my father pass away and my bro got married first, we started to talk back.
Now she was my best friend.We still fight, but i love her more now.
Hazz Haqita I am glad you have a better relationship with your mother 💜
I'm the middle child but that happens to me every day 😔😞 now I really don't care about my parents love or attention 😕
@@BtsArmy-vl3im army you have us and I love you💜 Never feel alone cause someone from here loves you and cares for you 💜💜
I am the youngest. But it is rare to get any affection from my family. I always feel like I am the burden...
I love jian just like sunmi said.. I want raise him too..
Mul Yadi, me too😍😎😘
Mul Yadi me tooo😊
Sameeee, I‘m willing to give him everything he wants
Yea , he's more obedient actually
I cried when Jian cried and it rlly broke my heart. That kid is so precious and I hope his life becomes better 🤍
I started crying when jian started to cry..no kid should feel neglected by their own family. If you’re not going to love your kids equally don’t have kids.
The father got jealous bcuz Jian got the attention after they got married?! DUDE U R THE ONE WHO MADE HER PREGNANT N SHE'S BEING A RESPONSIBLE MOTHER TAKING CARE IF THE CHILD UNLIKE U!!! The father really don't deserve to be a dad...
Camy Lee *thats exactly what I said* fr there’s something about his ego that I seem to notice that’s driving the family apart...
i think the father is not totally matured enough to be called father!
exactly but korean men just dont understand that.
You can already see how the youngest son tries to get attention whenever the attention goes to Jian...He's indeed such a cute baby but the way he's growing up is not promising
the younger kid is so annoying IMO
Gwyn. nicole agree
this so much. he is the manipulative one
When the dad say jian is manipulative i think other way.. the youngest is the manipulative one.. i hate the dad when see jian cry but hia focus only on his second child..
Couldn't agree more
This is the first time I cried watching this show. Seeing him cry made me cry so much😭🥺. And he is so adorable with the dimples and all. I just wanna hug🤗 him✨🧡
I've seen this video repeatedly so many times but when I see jian cry I can't hold my tears back😭🥺every single time seeing that little boy cry like that just for his own fathers love is just so sad. It's making my heart heavy it's been 2 years since it has been released I hope jian is growing up happily with love❤️
Edit: I'm here again two years later. And it's been 4 years since the video came up and i cried again. Jian must be 13 years old now i hope he grew up with love and care and i hope he is happy and healthy
25:15 "I will love and hug him more" Meanwhile kid is crying next to him and the dad doesn't look at him once, even when the guests point it out to him... unbelievable, what a rotten man
The dad should not have been a parent at all. This is extremely saddening.
lmaooo
Was it the kid that had the unbalanced love or the favorite kid??
@@galaxylight6453 unbalanced
This man doesn't deserve such a lovely innocent cutie child. What goes around comes around. He better be prepared cus sooner or later he's going to get hurt too.
Agree with u
Yes, don’t blame Jian when he become adult and he don’t care about their own father. Even when the father is sick.
Jian is really a handsome boy , his dimples are so cute. I hope that he has a happy future ahead
Litterally whoever doesn't cry from this video doesn't understand the situation. This made me BAWL over and over again. I hope the father acts like an actual father to Jian and loves both brothers equally
When the younger sings her mom doesn't react...but she's all smile when her boy starts singing...she cried from beginning to end she felt really upset and bad for him...😭😭😭...when only 9 yr old starts crying in front of everyone the reason bcoz he felt that he's not loved enough by his dad...how his mother would've felt...it totally breaks my heart 😭 💔
So true.. 😭😭 for me, when he started to cry, i know that he is matured enough to realize that his father did not favor him
And the dad called him manipulative like wtf? He’s a kid
I'm so sure just to look at Jian, he is so cute and he's not pretend to be cute, he acts normally but the younger one tries to be cute. His dad makes me feel likes the younger one was so fake. Eventhough both of them are cute in their own way, I have no emotion for the younger but smile when I see the older one. He just so so nice. My heart breaks when I heard he would try to be a good boy, he doesn't have to, he's already is
If this guy is my husband, I’d divorce him.
@Gray Kin both options cause harm
@Gray Kin im sorry you have to go through that kind of situation. But every situation is different. My parents try to stay together till the end and guess what? I thought its better for them if they got divorced years ago. It didnt do me good either. We really cant compare our situation with others because we have different life and parents. Just because our life went like this doesnt mean people with same situation will had it like us
Me too...
@Gray Kin No offence but every situation is different so you cant really use ur situation on this because I bet u ur father didnt treat you this way. And an anime is not a very good comparison. I know alot of single parent and not just because ur raised by one will it mean that ull be abused. Yes there are situations when that happens in real life but there are also some where there are two parent instead of one for example the daddy of five situation.
Park Chanyeol see that’s the diff between Korea and US, in the USA the souloution to a problem is DIVORCE the divorce rate is so high but in SK u can’t do that cause this culture is diff u can’t make a living after a divorce is like a taint or stain in your life, it’s not accepted once u divorce u won’t get married ever again and being unmarried esp as a woman ain’t a pretty picture
I am adopted and my father does not make me feel like i am adopted because the way he cares for me is out of the world, and then there is this dad who favours his younger kid more than the elder. If this dad didn't had any kids he would know that kids are precious than anything💜
When the Oldest Child leaves home and never comes back to you no matter what you go through, don't be surprised that you're the source of the issue.
The only problem is, like any toxic or narcissistic (or both) person, these types of parents will NEVER see themselves in the wrong, not even when called out, it takes a lot for them to realize it.
And when the oldest doesn't care about the Father like he will his mother, yeah, don't be surprised.
And then the issue goes into gaslighting.
It's AWESOME that his Mom is standing up for him, though. That will come back to bless her. It always helps when you have at least one parent who has faith in you and understands you to the best of their ability.