Not THAT Excited About Being Pregnant? (what you need to know) | Kate Borsato
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- čas přidán 27. 08. 2024
- Not that excited about being pregnant? First of all... it's totally okay to feel that way! Many women expect that when they become pregnant, they'll feel over the moon and so incredibly excited. But you know what, this is just NOT always the case! Many women I support are concerned about why they aren't more excited about this new change, but I'm here to help you put those worries aside.
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Hi am 25 old and currently am 19 week pregnant, I really wanted to have baby but I think am not exited as I thought I shud be , am crying frequently nowadays due to family issues I really don't know how this could affect my baby and I really don't think much when it s come to food outside and oily food I shud avoid but am not avoiding literally am having without thinking about my baby health I know it's not good sign but don't know how to overcome from this and stop doing things which could harm my baby , I have 2 miscarriage history but still doing nonsense things 😣
I have no mixed emotions, but my mother wants me to be over the moon excited... And I'm just not. I'm ok with this, but it bothers her and she takes it out on me... How do we deal with this?
I'm also 8 weeks pregnant I star my bachelor's next yr in March... I hope I can do both
I am not at all happy hearing that i am 5 weeks pregnant
I’m 8 weeks pregnant and not excited at all. This baby wasn’t planned and I want to be a mom but I’m so scared of all the changes it’ll bring between my husband and I. I’m worried that I’m not going to be me anymore- I’m just going to be someone’s mom. Everyone around me is so happy but I just can’t help feeling so sad and even guilty for having all these selfish feelings.
I am 6 weeks and I totally feel what you're trying to say. I am also worried I wont have a life anymore
your feelings aren't selfish at all, they totally make sense. I think just listen to your feelings, they are telling you what matters to you. There's a lot that you can do to care for yourself and your relationship once you're a mom. Come follow me on Instagram, you might find what I share over there helpful.
I'm 5 weeks n im going through the same thing. I cry cause idk what to do 😔.
Me too
I just turned 40 and found out I'm pregnant.
I needed this video today. I found out on Sunday I was pregnant, I imagined being so happy and over the moon..... not even a little bit. The anxiety and fear hit me like a ton of bricks. I'm terrified of the process of pregnancy, terrified of giving birth, terrified of tending to a newborn, terrified about how my partner is going to feel about me through all this, and terrified of not being a good mom.
I already suffer from severe anxiety, depression and ocd and I just feel doomed. I can't help but think "why the hell did I do this to myself". 😔 This is not how I wanted things to go.
I just found out im pregnant too - and im struggling with alot of anxiety and alot of the feelings you're having. i pray you feel better soon
Me too I’m suffering with OCD while being pregnant also working on it with a therapist hugs best of luck
Same and same I don’t know why I did this to myself
How do you feel now after delivery ?
You are not alone. And this has exactly been me all throughout my pregnancy (I found out when 3 weeks pregnant! and the dread and anxiety was instantaneous and crippling most days). You will still be a fantastic mom. Take it easy on yourself and dont be afraid to reach out for mental and emotional support when you need it.
I'm glad I found this video. 9 weeks pregnant and not excited at all. I am losing weight, I hate food (even images of food makes me sick), I hate my kitchen, my fridge and I often cry because I am hungry (sometimes for no particular reason at all) but cannot stomach any food. I feel empty and I don't want to wake up at times. I should be grateful but i cannot help feeling this way.
I feel the exact way. I just found out last week. I can see my body loosing weight I feel so hungry but just can’t seem to hold my food or even eat it. Im crying as I write this. It’s my first but im so depressed about it.
Depression is quite common in pregnancies
Especially the first trimester
Thank you so much for this video. I'm just now 7 weeks pregnant after being happily married for 12 years and my husband and I were not wanting children (I'm 32, he's 37). I lead a very active lifestyle and travel quite a bit, so coming to terms with how our lives are going to change, especially at first with a newborn, has been extremely overwhelming. We have told family and they are over the moon for us, and even my husband is looking forward to it, but I feel nothing but dread and terror. I have always felt nothing but indifference towards babies/children, and am so scared of losing my identity and all the stuff that comes along with pregnancy/childbirth (thankfully have had minimal symptoms so far). Anyways, saying all this to make other moms feel less alone who may be going through these feelings as well.
I relate to this so much. You're not alone. Checking in- how're you?
@@TAG010 Thanks so much for checking in!! I really appreciate it! :) Our daughter is 7 months old now and it's been a huge adjustment, but we are slowly getting there. The lack of sleep is beyond awful and I've had a lot of dark days, but I feel like the first year is basically survival mode. lol I am feeling a bit more like myself each day though, and we have the sweetest lil girl. I've already taken her camping and she's going to Yellowstone/Grand Teton National Park later this year, so that's something I'm looking forward to. Thanks again for checking in!
@@jessmckale2794 I'm so happy for you. I am now 8-9 weeks, and still scared AF but it makes me smile seeing mama's who were also afraid, continuing to push on and finding joy, especially after so much time of just you and your spouse. You got this (motivation for the dark days) :)Also, so cool to hear that the travel and high activity has remained. woohoo! From my pov, it feels unimaginable but you've given me a glimpse of what's possible. thank you!!!
im 39 wks. Unplanned pregnancy. To a man who I love dearly but haven't been with very long at all. We are struggling financially and living in a place that's quite isolating. All of my friends live far away and don't have kids. Ive been partying and living free and independent and was enjoying that. I chose to see this baby because I had a lot of people tell me how amazing its going to be. And because I didn't want to get an abortion. I feel disconnected from my baby and I am freaking out about birth and being a mum. I feel regretful for getting myself into this situation. I feel so ashamed feeling this way.
I understand you completely. Thank you so much for sharing. How are you doing know? Hope you are ok xxx
Hey Kate,
I’m 36 and in my second marriage. I had a baby not too long ago and found out I was pregnant when my baby was 5 months old. I did not want another baby at all. I wanted my husband to have a vasectomy and the week we were getting the referral for this is when I find out I was pregnant. I was angry and upset because the last thing I wanted was to be pregnant. I was just starting to feel normal again and my body was feeling stronger like it used to. I promised my husband when we got married that I would have one baby only. Now here I am having my fourth child and I can’t seem to muster excitement. I just feel resentment in this situation. I’m not doing anything like I used to: like keeping track of weeks and days and so excited when the week would change. Also I don’t want to find out the sex either. No one in my family is being supportive of this and they all want to push me to find out and they want me to tell them also. They also wanted to know even if I don’t know. It just feels like a lack of respect for the mother’s wishes. The baby is not in their belly it’s in mine. I’m so exhausted and feeling sick all the time that it just makes me wish I could turn back the time and not be pregnant. I’m dreading having to care for two little ones so close together. I’m sorry I’m just spitting all of this out. Your video spoke to me and i could relate for sure. Hoping you get back to me. 👍
Hi Talita! I'm so sorry I missed your message to me here. But I am really glad the video resonated and that you felt supported with what I shared. I hope that you have received some support and are feeling better about how things have gone.
I was pregnant and felt gross like this was not my body. I hated how everyone didn’t use my name anymore and I lost everything about me. I was actually happy when I had a miscarriage. I don’t know anyone who feels that way though.
I am so sorry you've had to go through these feelings wondering if you're alone. I don't think you are alone with this experience. I'd recommend reaching out to a therapist to talk it though if you need more support. Big hugs to you
How did you have a miscarriage?
@@dyamondnelson6272 what a rude question. No one knows why they happen
@@rachelam18 fuck you your rude
it ia ok . It is not necessary that being pregnant means you have to be happy about it. I am 5 months pregnant but i am neither happy nor excited. Because there are so many things in our life about which we have no clue,
20 weeks pregnant it’s been tough not been feeling excited lot different anxiety this is my second I never planned on having more but I know it’s a blessing and it will be good
My wife is 7 weeks. We didn’t use protection but were both surprised at how quickly we conceived. I was ecstatic, still am. Today she told me she wouldn’t be too upset if she miscarried, which crushed me because it makes me feel like I’ll be mourning alone if it does happen. And it makes me feel a bit guilty for being so happy, the happiest I’ve ever been. And now I feel like I have to hide or tone down my joy. 😞 I know she’ll be happy with the baby once it’s born. I just hope she can begin to be happy about it sooner, while pregnant.
12 weeks pregnant today. It’s so helpful hearing everyone’s story! My partner and I had been together for 7 or 8 months when we found out and decided to have a family. I struggle with acceptance and anxiety does run the majority of my thoughts around it. Thankful for support and having hope that this will all work out well 🤞
Hello! My name is Melissa, this is my second 🤰🏼. I had my first when I was still in high school, single, and living at my parents. I enjoyed my pregnancy and raising my beautiful daughter. NOW, I’m married and can’t seem to be excited or let it fully sink in. Mind you, I’ll be FIVE MONTHS in two weeks. I can’t help but look at it as a load of hard work that’s coming and feeling like I’m going to be facing it on my own, with little to no help from husband. It already exhausts me.
I literally felt the same way about my first born but this pregnancy im not excited and I see it the same way a bunch of hard work and no help to do it all. Its so strange to me I'm like I'm older now why do I feel less capable/excited about it at this time im my life.
I think I have antenatal depression. Not excited at all. To the point, I don’t want my baby ☹️ but I wish I felt excited. 9 weeks to go.
Did things change once the baby was born? Was it easier to accept?
@@emilyk.5664 Emily everything changed when my son was born. I wish I could tell myself now how deeply I would love that little boy, instantly. My son passed away at 5 months old, due to congenital heart disease, and it kind of makes me feel sick I said that above because of how terribly I would give my life to see him again, but I know I was mentally unwell, I had terrible morning sickness the whole way through and my feelings were valid nonetheless. I now have a 6 month old daughter who is my absolute world, I would never change a thing. If you’re expecting & unsure, it’s going to be okay I promise.
I feel the same way 😢
I feel super guilty that I am not interested in my pregnancy. I am 24 weeks pregnant and I am scared sh*tless about having two babies at one time. I feel ugly and lazy and I suffer from depression so I am trying my best to not get depressed but I just am not happy and I feel like a really bad person.
Same, 26 weeks... I’m not having twins but I feel similarly to what you described... I don’t feel bad about my feelings, just misunderstood. I appreciate you’re comment bc I know I’m not alone
How is eveything with you now???? I hope you dont feel depressed anymore xxx
12weeks pregnant and feel the same :(
Hello kate
Im 23 years old, I’m feeling like this. I’m 6 weeks and 4 days pregnant today and I’m so confused. I cry every single night. My partner and family are excited and I’m not excited at all. Every time my mum or someone comes in my room and says “aww your going to be a mum” I sit there and honestly cringe :( I never thought I would feel like this, is it normal? Is there anything I can do to change my mind and be happy? I am not handling the hormones very well or the sickness and discomfort. Feeling empty and lost. Never experienced something like this before
Hi Em, I'm so glad you reached out. Yes, this is normal. There is nothing wrong with you that you're not excited. It's okay! So many moms feel this way. Sometimes it can take quite a bit of time to wrap your head around the fact that you're having a baby and it takes time for your emotions to catch up. You don't have to change your mind about it, but rather, allow yourself to feel what you feel. Trust that excitement and connection to your baby come with time. And, I think it would be helpful to reach out for support with someone who knows about this stuff! You could look up the Postpartum Support International and they have tons of really great info. You can also DM me on Instagram if you want to learn about other ways I support moms @kateborsato. Be gentle with yourself. Thanks again for reaching out.
That’s exactly how I feel!!! I’m miserable. I’m 34 on Monday... and I’m so depressed. I don’t want to do this 😂😭 ugh.
@@KateBorsato I’m 23 weeks and due January 15th with my first child. . I’m not excited to be pregnant over the Holidays. I feel like it is going to take forever for me to have this baby. This has not been the most joyful pregnancy even though I have waited so long and my husband and I have tried for years and now I’m pregnant! I just feel so guilty. The first trimester was really bad and I had to quit my job that I worked so hard for just after 7 months. I’m now working another job not nearly as stressful but it does require me to get up early in the morning and work an 8 hour shift. Knowing that this pregnancy is only supposed to get more harder with each week gives me anxiety. On top of that I still have another 3-4 months left! I have been super constipated and my hormones are all over the place. I cry a lot and I am not motivated to do anything, not even take a shower or wash my hair. I just want to lay in bed or sit on the couch until this is all over.
@@robbinsmith9988 I’m going through a lot of this as well. The constipation is REAL. It’s so painful. Constantly cramping, bloated, and when I finally can go it’s nearly unbearably painful. I just took some miralax today. Maybe that could help you too? I also drank some apple juice and it worked but was painful. I blame my prenatals. I’m going to try to get some with less iron.
@@kikiriki466 thank you! Coincidentally I have been eating a ton of salad lately and it’s helped with my bms. I had no idea why I was suddenly improving. Makes sense.
For some months now, my husband and I have been wanting to give our son a sibling. He is turning 6 years old soon and we didn’t want to wait so late. We love babies we work well together as a team and every other week we say how exciting a new baby would be. Now finding out I am pregnant. I am scared and not excited. I want my baby but I am afraid of everything rn. Thank you for this video helped me realize I am not alone
I know this was made a long time ago! Hopefully you still see this-
My husband had cancer while we were engaged and went through treatment.He was told he had 0% motility before his chemo even started so they thought this was a preexisting issue.
Finding this out was hard but I really started to cope with the fact that we would not have kids and I was okay with that.
Well I just found out that I am pregnant and we were not trying but not preventing due to the fact we were told this would not happen for us. I am completely unprepared emotionally.
It’s been really hard to process this because I was happy and content. I feel guilty because I should feel blessed that we didn’t have fertility issues and so many people struggle with that. But my first reaction was I don’t want kids and I don’t want to be a mom.
It’s been a week and I feel a little better but still not excited or happy.
I feel lost, I am 28 turning 29 there is a pressure my entourage somehow putting on me, all my friends are either mother or are pregnant and there's me in the other hand ....I don't want to be a mom
I have always been told I will change my mind which never happend, my husband is talking about wanting to have kids but this scares me a lot I feel my life will drastically change and there's no going back....I don't know what to do
I know this was made a long time ago but I never planned on being a mom. I’m 25 and the thought of kids of my own genuinely made my skin crawl. Tested last night at home and today at the doctor and got a few confirmations. I am terrified. I have done nothing but cry. I never saw myself as a mom but said if it happens it will happen. But now I’m just upset I feel like I’m grieving a 25year plan that just caught on fire. My sister is so excited making lists etc it’s too much on my very first day. I’m seriously overwhelmed and upset. I haven’t told my mom yet and I just feel awful and horrible that I’m not happy or excited. I struggle with depression on top of it and I am just so broken right now
Im scared. All the time. Im
24 weeks - I feel her kicking me, shes always with me. Im highly independant and I am so worried that having a child totally dependant on me is going to make me feel trapped
That’s exactly how I feel too 🥺😭
Yes! Thats my worst problem. And at the same time i didn’t go to the abortion, I feel so sorry for this baby and I feel just depressed and different. I miss my silence and my Indepence and freedom…
@@mrsmayart awww man😔😔how old is your baby ?
@@imanishantel3769 I‘m 20 weeks pregnant. I would be happier if I would have been a long time in a relationship, with a safe home, everything financially stable. I just feel i have the worst circumstances that someone can have. And I think that stresses me. And I can easily imagine being alone all my life. I‘m not so focused on marriages, kids etc.
First ever pregnancy & I am terrified, anxious, & I had so many plans.. idk what to do
Me too
I’ve been sobbing everyday. I found out early I’m very in tune with my body and I knew something was up. I can’t believe it and I’m in a very bad position with the child’s father (I just moved out of his house) etc I don’t know if I can do this
Me and my boyfriend planned for months for a pregnancy, I did tests, visits, diets for months to prepare.
I was sure to be completely set for this. Starting from today I could be pregnant and I'm dreading it.
I'm dreading the potential changes in my life and I have no idea what to do.
I feel so guilty, horrible to feel this way. I feel like I should be happy, wanting all of this, but I'm mourning my life and dreading the changes, an I feel so horrible to even think this!
I hate myself for feeling this way, I try to hold it in but when I'm alone I cry.
I want the baby, I really do!
For the longest time I'm feeling something missing in my life and I feel like the time has arrived to have a child!
I wasn't ready before but I felt ready now.
At the same time I feel this atrocious feelings that I have no idea how to make go away.
I don't know how to seek help, but I know that I need it.
At the same time my boyfriend cannot help me this way. I tried to open up with him but the result was a very heavy evening.
I don't know what to do.
Hi Kate, I'm 35 and I've just found out I'm pregnant for the first time and it wasnt planned. I'm with my long term partner of three years and we live in a house we own. We have great circumstances but I wasn't happy when I found out. I've never really been maternal and I've never thought about having children. I wish I wanted it like my partner does. I just don't know what to do. I'm worried about how this will effect my career and my freedom. I feel like something is wrong with me, I'm sure anyone else in my position would keep it because time is not on my side but I have something missing in me that feels joy about it. I hope you can help.
hey! I'm so glad you reached out - so sorry for the delayed reply! It can be hard to be fully on board with a pregnancy, I hear you! And to be honest, it sounds like you're quite aware of how life can change when you have a baby... it can be a lot to manage! It's natural to question things, but hopefully you're able to talk this through with your partner and come to a decision that feels good for you.
Same circumstances now but i have 2 older daughters. I'm 36, just got remarried and feel beyond scared about every detail of raising another human being all over again, the pregnancy, birth, the doctor appointments, hosting birthday parties, taking them to school, to sports, assemblies, the teenage years, the lectures, etc. I find myself dreading it all, I'm so confused and feel ashamed for feeling this way
I’m struggling with not knowing and being so angry at people wanting to cry for no reason not working and being in the house feeling depressed sometimes feel like I’m stuck and I always wanted to be pregnant pray for my baby to be healthy but I do wish I was saying sweet words like other moms and screaming down the street being angry is the worst emotion cause controlling it takes a lot
I'm not even positive how far along I am. But I know I have done four at home tests all positive. This is the first pregnancy after our miscarriage. I wish I had the feeling of this being a miracle. I'm hoping in time those feelings come 😞 my honey is amazing we have been together 14 years. We own a house we make decent money. Just the idea of a baby terrifies me they're so fragile.
I’ll be 13 weeks Wednesday and a part of me is just not excited as I was before. I just feel depressed and I feel like I’m bringing a child into this world that nobody really wants. How do I know anybody really wants this baby around? I just feel guilty for not being excited, idk anymore
I feel this way too !! 🥺😞
@@breebre3887 it truly gets better. I think I was just having baby blues and my hormones being everywhere. I feel a lot better , I am currently 25 weeks. Feeling my baby girl kick makes me anxious and so excited to be her mother. Congratulations! The dark clouds soon become sunshine ☀️
With all 4 of my previous pregnancies, I was over the moon and enjoyed every second. 3 months after my husband of 15 years left, I found out I was pregnant again (not his child) and all I have felt is dread and anxiety though I have a history of mental health issues which I have recently found a psychologist for as I am prone to postnatal depression. Maybe its a mixture of the circumstance, chronic feeling of mailaise and generally unwell and uphill battle to eat on any given day, coupled with dizziness and battling to move at 26 weeks pregnant.. but I will be thrilled to NOT be pregnant. Definitely looking forward to the baby more than the pregnancy. I dont know how I am going to cope for another 3 months..
I'm 29weeks with my 3rd baby and I mostly feel like I don't have time to focus on being excited right now.
I have a 13yr old who is starting to be a real teen, an 8yr old who is home-schooling because he is one of so many kids who has suffered emotionally and academically from the pandemic, and with all the extra little issues I don't have time to prioritise being excited.
My life runs on a schedule and 11 weeks is a long time to waste over something I've done twice before when that time is needed elsewhere I the mean time. I just had to cancel my baby shower because even that was too much of a waste at this point in time and none of the details could line up.
I was kinda looking forward to it, I thought it might give me the time to stop long enough to feel the excitement I know I should have but I just can't muster it.
My husband is worried I might get depressed if I stay on this path but I feel calm, focused and organised. I'm ready to have my baby now, just no time to waste while I have so much momentum and so many responsibilities
Not happy about it at all I feel my life is over everything I’ve worked hard to achieve and get to demolished I’m 31 so b4 ppl come from not saying I won’t love my child but it’s trying to replan my life and I’m just depressed and physically sick sooo over this trying to get to love being pregnant but I hate it and feel bad I do
I've had two children, I love them to death, but I hate being pregnant. I think I will always hate being pregnant. It get's better after you have the baby. People used to tell me that how uncomfortable I was in 3rd trimester was just to prepare me for sleepless nights of a new born. They lied. Having a new born is way better than third trimester because you can actually sleep without a million aches and pains. You can actually get comfortable. Hang in there
I’ve had a miscarriage 2 years ago by the age of 27, I was happy at the beginning when I found out I was pregnant but then I felt completely sick, couldn’t drink water and couldn’t eat at all. I felt very scared and alone, so I took the decision to do an abortion, it was very bizarre and very hard to do that, I’ve never imagined I would take that decision myself or seeing myself on that place, I felt very weak but I worked a lot on that, afterwards I was traumatised, my sister got pregnant almost a year ago and she went through all that, she fought the sickness back and now I have the prettiest nice, I felt full of regret because I was not brave as a I wanted to be, but I do accept my feeling at that moment because I did not have anyone to guide me at all, now I am 6 weeks pregnant and at the beginning I was so scared, I didn’t know how to handle it because I did not wanted to pass through the same, but also I know I cannot go through another miscarriage because that would break me and maybe I wouldn’t have the chance to be a mom again in the future. I do still scared but I am working hard on those emotions because I am tired of feeling fears in my life, I don’t deserve it. Many times you hear mothers saying the kids are a blessing, and here many women are not considering the change of hormones and how hard your body is working right now, I think mostly women who are very scared as I was once, it’s because you don’t feel/you don’t know how to connect with your own body at all, and for me, the decision of carrying on with this pregnancy it’s way more better than going through another miscarriage that I am going to regret for the rest of my life. It’s not true that you have to stop doing things that you like once you are a mom, that’s absolutely fake. You will have a life with more responsibility but children also grow up, they won’t be babies forever, so basically what it helped me to make a decision it was imagining myself having my baby once my baby is here, and then visualising myself how would I feel if I go through another miscarriage, and definitely chose the first option because my fear it’s not being a mother but the process of pregnancy, if it will be painful, if we are gonna be fine, and a long etc.. but women wouldn’t give births at all if it’s that bad, so stop the fear and go deeply into your feelings to connect with yourself and your body, be thankful because everything happens in the right moment and for a reason, and have a deep breath to take a decision. If your decision it’s not going ahead with the pregnancy then also keep in mind that you have to look after yourself when having sex, because having miscarriages over and over again can also affect your health and your fertility for the future.
Hello, I am 13 weeks. I am not excited about my pregnancy. I don't feel like to do anything. Feel very restless.... Especially in the evenings. I try to be busy with some other things bt not able to focus or do the things with interest.
I just feel like a monster. I do not feel anything for that kid. My mind is extremelly confused and seems I am having my worse nightmare. My husband is so happy, I cry on daily basis because I can not feel the same joy.
Me! This was not planned i never wanted to be a mom my partner is already a dad and a great father but im still so upset to be here its so much i would have rather been to be ready for a baby.
After 5 years of trying - all i wanted is to become pregnant even though i am a high risk. Im finally pregnant and getting the best support from family, friend and doctors and yet i feel the opposite of what i thought i would feel. Is this normal? 8 weeks now and hoping to feel better soon 🙁
totally normal! Your body doesn't know you've been trying for so long right? Sometimes pregnancy just feels awful, even if it's something you wanted so badly! Be kind to yourself.
I totally feel you! All I wanted was to get pregnant again after I miscarried and once I did I was shocked with how.... sad I felt. Pregnancy hormones are brutal. Pregnancy kinda sucks... and it’s hard and most of the time u feel sick and not like yourself. I think the way pregnancy and motherhood is portrayed online is over glorified and once we’re pregnant ourselves we notice is not magazine perfect like people made it out to be
@@Lolee56 heeeey yeees 😰. I am 19 weeks now and as baby grows and i see him on scans and start to feel him move i do get more use to it and there are happy moments. But as for the hormones, anxiety and general sadness its there as well. No point in denying it. Pregnancy is a blessing however we should not ignore the negatives as well. But open up about it and support each other. I hope the best for you and baby. Please feel free to talk whenever you need to xx
@@lucydebeer5226 25 weeks today 😩 we will get through this together! I’m just worried I’ll never feel good again after baby’s born which I’m sure isn’t true but yeah. I just miss life before I was pregnant
Same. After I had a miscarriage I'm scared to get excited for this new pregnancy. What if I lose it too. The guilt is unbearable
Can you please do videos to help women discover whether or not motherhood is right for them?
Please this
Hello! I just found out that I’m pregnant. I’m 18 years old and am wanting the baby but feel disconnected. I feel like my anxiety stems from wanting to provide the most for my baby but I wish I was more hyped. I wish I could let go of my anxiety. Is there any ways I could get more grounded and more excited? What are some ways to deal with my anxiety?
I found that if you can afford a little at home heart monitor to listen to your babies heart beat, it helps a little with the anxiety
Needed to see this today. Thank you 💛
Ive just found out im pregnant im about 6 weeks-
i honsetly didnt think it would happen this quickly, my husband and i only tried 3 times and then bam pregnant lol 😅 i honsetly thought id have more time.
Im trying to be excited but i think because its happend so quickly its more of a shock. All i can think of is how is this going to work ? Financially, emotionally and physically 😅.
I know i should be very grateful that i am as so many women out there are desperate to have a child but im just here scared shitless and then when you tell people -you just get told oh youll make it work -like wth ? How does it work? 😅😅.
It helps knowing people on here are all experiencing difficulties it makes you feel less alone 🙂 xx
Hi! Saaaaame situation. How are you feeling rn?
@@laurabd2130 hi feeling better now thank you, cant believe how quickly it's going! About 17 weeks now (just over 4 months) still scared and nervous but it's being slowly taking over by excitement Haha-I think it helps also that I'm finally in my second trimester so feeling loads better.
How are you getting on ? It does slowly get easier - I would recommend talking to someone and practicing meditation it really does help with how overwhelming this whole journey is 😊 xx
@@s.g2344 oh, thank you so much for responding ❤️ I am currently 5 weeks pregnant and in your first comment you described my feelings and situation exactly! We decided one month to let it “flow” and Boom! 😅 I honestly thought that it would take waaay longer, just like you said. And now as it was so sudden I am even scared of telling my family because I am a month apart from a very important exam… I’m really stressed and I know I could have planned better before this happened but well, it is what it is! I’m trying to put anxiety aside and focus on building the joy while studying and keeping the secret😅 I guess hormones don’t help either! Anyway, you telling me that it gets easier and my feelings are normal helps a lot!! Sorry if this was tmi lol but as I haven’t told anyone except my husband I’ve been a week in my head. Really appreciate your answer❤️ thank you so much and hope you have a wonderful second and third trimester xxx
@@s.g2344 oh! And I will definitely try to talk to someone and practice meditation, this is the reason I needed to start 🙂🙂
@@laurabd2130 aww no problem -honsetly it really does help listening and talking to other people - as you said it sometimes it just happens.
But as a work collegue said whatever's meant to be will be and I'm a big believer in this as well 😊.
Journalling also helps and I dont know if you know it but theres an app called Peanut which can get you in touch with other mums (already with children, first time mums and expecting) that live near or in your area which is helping me as well.
Feel free to message me as well on here and lots of luck through your pregnancy the first trimester I'm not going to lie is horrible 😅 but 2nd it's like you have a break and feel like yourself again just hang on in there.
Oh last tip ginger snaps were my saviour to help morning sickness Haha 😅😅
Sorry for long post ! 😅 xxx
Hello ma'am
I am 2 months pregnant and not excited at all coz it's unplanned. Except me everyone is happy. I don't want to be mom now plz suggest what to do😔
❤❤ Thank you for this beautiful video! ❤
I m 13 weeks pregnant after 8 years of marriage..i was always crying for this baby ..and finally now i m pregnant...but i m not sooo excited☹️..i want this miracle baby...i always pray for his health but why i m not feel sooo happy😔☹️
I'm 5 weeks and I'm feeling the same. I'm married 5 yrs .my first baby but I'm in denial. All I do is cry.
7 years married first baby and I feel so sad and in denial 😔 I’ve been crying for days.
I never wanted to have kids but i have a 2 year baby boy, my first delivery and the experiencr was horrible as me n my husband are in a different states than our families and baby came under strickt lockdown condition in april 2020,i didnt get even a cup of tea after delivering baby and from last years too i am not given any help from both of families.Now things were almost good and i was thinking to go back to work again after two and half years but i got pregnant and my hisband want second baby,i m crying day n night as i have no energy left to take care of two kids,morover i am a phd holder,i worked day and night to achieve my doctorate and the thought of sitting at home killing me inside,we है no support from family.i m 8 week prgnant.
This helped a little 😔.
Am 12 weeks pregnant and me and my husband did plan for having the baby , but once I found out am pregnant wasn’t excited at all . gestational diabetes made it worse i guess
I am 41 and just found out a few weeks ago that I'm pregnant. I was told I'd never have children and the man I'm with was tested and told he would never be able to have kids either. Surprise I'm knocked up lol. I was like well we were lied to. We had already planned that we'd just grow old alone together and die in the woods or something. I guess once we got too comfortable with the idea of not having kids God said hold up just a darn minute I think I'll throw in some fun for you two older folks to deal with. God thinks he's funny sometimes like that but I'll take it. I just don't understand why I'm not excited. When I was in my 20's I wanted to have a baby so bad I was excited just thinking about it. Now I'm just like yea whatever🙄 I don't get into all that gender reveal, buying all kinds of baby gear or even want to go to my own baby shower. I mean I'm going to love this baby more than anything in this world but I'm kind of wondering what this poor child will go through with everything going on in the world today. Covid, school,politics,anger everywhere and etc. I'm a very calm mellow person. How can I protect this new life from all the madness. Ok phew I'm also a hot hormonal mess right now too. Type 2 diabetic ,PCOS,and sleep apnea. I'm high risk and I feel like a bit overwhelmed at times. Wish me luck lol 7 more months to go!
37 here, pregnant and feel you hard. the world is a mess and I was getting used to the idea of it being just me and hubby
How did it go?
Hi my name is Alyssa.... This is my second pregnancy.... I am not excited about being pregnant, is this normal????
totally normal! if you're concerned though, reach out to a therapist to talk it through!
Im not happy cuz it was unplanned and im in no position to bringing a life into this world. Everything is happening too fast
I'm 5 mos pregnant with my teeth child and I am not happy at all please help
Oh Kate 🤣😭😂 I NEED YOU! 😭😭😭
Hi Nicky! Hope you'll reach out to a therapist if you need support! Big hugs to you!
@@KateBorsato thank you!
Not picking no man in front my kids
I’m not excited at ALL. This was a total surprise. I don’t want to see any baby clothes, baby stuff I hate the ultrasounds I just hate it all. This is baby #3 boy and I’m just not happy at all
Hey Danielle, so sorry for this delay in replying! How are you doing now? Its totally okay to not be excited, it's okay!
How are you now💙
How are you Danielle??
@@natalia1045 we are wonderful hes here and hes healthy and hes the best thing in the WORLD
@@dakotahreviews aww I’m so glad!! I just miscarried so I guess it wasn’t meant to be for us. I’m still glad though. Have a lovely day!