The Road to Depth: Thinking about what Character Is

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  • čas přidán 10. 07. 2014
  • David Brooks: Some people seem to lead inner lives that are richer and more substantive than the rest of us. How do they do it? This talk is a survey of some of history's most substantive characters. How love, suffering, struggle, surrender and obedience lead them to their depth.

Komentáře • 98

  • @alohaleslie9407
    @alohaleslie9407 Před 6 měsíci +7

    My 20 year old grandson died by suicide 12 years ago. People thought they were being helpful by saying, "He's in Heaven now," or ask, "Was he on drugs?" (he wasn't), or worse, people who commit suicide won't go to to heaven, or they won't say anything because as you said, they don't want to bring him up for fear that it will be painful for us to remember. You're right...he's in our thoughts 24-7 to a lesser or greater degree. It helps to talk about him, the beauty of who he was, how sensitive and loving he was, etc. Love comes in many packages, but the best kind of Agape (love), IMO, is to just be present to another's pain, to silently listen, witness the tears or give a hug. Thanks so much.

    • @EricMHowardII-yh1rn
      @EricMHowardII-yh1rn Před 6 měsíci +1

      Opening up his heart, Mr Brooks talks about being a deep hearted soul . In connection to displaying genuine wisdom , Compassion matters. Wholehearted love matters. Tender affection matters.

    • @alohaleslie9407
      @alohaleslie9407 Před 6 měsíci

      Tender affection...beautiful. Lies right next to GRACE. 😇@@EricMHowardII-yh1rn

  • @3meandyou
    @3meandyou Před 6 měsíci +10

    I’m so proud to find you. You’re an inspiration to change in a positive way. Thank you for making a world a difference 🙏🏽

  • @elizabethfreer1948
    @elizabethfreer1948 Před 4 lety +7

    God MR Brooks by sending you sent us a strong critical message and a profound series of life lessons.. Blessings and travel safe!

  • @lomamataika7152
    @lomamataika7152 Před 6 měsíci +12

    His talk content is full of valuable observations and wisdom. So good.

  • @elizabethfreer1948
    @elizabethfreer1948 Před 4 lety +12

    God sends amazing people into our lives..MR Brooks is one of them! read this book! it’s soul reaching..

  • @sandracaezza7234
    @sandracaezza7234 Před 6 měsíci +3

    Very uplifting. It came to mind how many I know that could benefit from this video.
    For me wanting to know a new perspective gives great peace.
    I recently have been working toward forgiveness & it does release me from a painful marriage end.
    I work at healing everyday @ gratitude keeps me focused.

  • @gooddaysahead1
    @gooddaysahead1 Před 6 měsíci +12

    I've been listening and reading Mr. Brooks for maybe two decades. I have been able to see the changes in the direction of his insight. I've also been trying to distill what he has been trying to say. I could be wrong, but I think he is trying to teach us to understand and practice the Beatitudes.

  • @evelynramos445
    @evelynramos445 Před 6 měsíci +4

    Thank you for this great teachings

  • @DrPatriciaWorby
    @DrPatriciaWorby Před 6 měsíci +3

    Just discovered David. I think his insights and reflections easily match those of Jordan Peterson. Why is he not as well known? I'll have to listen to this again to truly distil this man's wisdom. As a therapist who deals with many of the effects of people's trauma and consequent striving to be better but without a moral compass his words offer great comfort that we can return to a state of deeper knowing.we

  • @Gorguruga
    @Gorguruga Před 8 lety +20

    What a brilliant talk. It's full of great advice, and some inspirational, poignant quotes.

  • @Adagiowellness
    @Adagiowellness Před 4 lety +3

    David Sums it up. His approach is not intrusive. Just being there is being mindful . It is a big challenge for many.

  • @EricMHowardII-yh1rn
    @EricMHowardII-yh1rn Před 6 měsíci +1

    Mr Brooks talks about being a deep hearted soul with the intention of giving out understanding like slices of bread. That fed people well because of opening up his heart wide .
    Compassion, love, wisdom and connection matters.

  • @ellenlockhart4494
    @ellenlockhart4494 Před 7 měsíci +3

    At times during this talk, I had chills and the hairs on my arms stood up.

    • @joe1071
      @joe1071 Před 6 měsíci

      It’s because you know you’re living small and could be doing more with the purpose of your life

  • @monikarathbone3478
    @monikarathbone3478 Před 3 lety +4

    what a gift - given at the right time - thank you

  • @80sOGRE
    @80sOGRE Před 4 lety +7

    Happiness most often happens in hindsight. We are often just too busy and distracted, trying to do things we think will facilitate happiness down the road,
    only to look back at the years and realize we were happy then and just didn't know it. The darker years always have a way of contrasting our outlook and making us see the gold we held. And Happiness experienced only in hindsight isn't really a tragedy, for when your old and hours away from breathing your last, that kind of happiness may all you have left to hold onto before you say goodbye.

    • @jamieputnam1964
      @jamieputnam1964 Před 8 měsíci +1

      Gratitude allows you see what you have while it can be enjoyed, appreciated and thanked!

  • @dp5674
    @dp5674 Před 6 měsíci +4

    And the greatest is Love .

  • @chinibubu411
    @chinibubu411 Před 6 měsíci +3

    Good Character and morality is exhibited during tough personal trials and tribulations.

  • @evelynramos445
    @evelynramos445 Před 6 měsíci +2

    Liked this discourse few touch upon! Major !

  • @PoetMountain
    @PoetMountain Před 9 lety +11

    One of the most moving and I dare say poetic books to come about in a long time. Thank you David Brooks (& The Aspen Institute who does many good works) for this wonderful creation.

  • @Elise3016
    @Elise3016 Před 9 lety +10

    No surprise he loves George Eliot, the greatest novelist of moral character and certainly not in a stifling, fundamentally religious sense. As someone who is not particularly religious, I found Mr. Brooks very refreshing.

  • @SorrySonny
    @SorrySonny Před 3 měsíci

    Great speech! I will go buy his books now!

  • @paulacrowne179
    @paulacrowne179 Před 3 lety +3

    Thank you for putting into words what I've been feeling...thank you..Paula

  • @KongLuvs
    @KongLuvs Před 8 lety +21

    Character training should be part of the core curriculum in our public schools here in the US. In my own education, the only time a teacher in kindergarten through college ever even mentioned character was my 11th grade english teacher, in reference to Benjamin Franklin (we were covering American authors at the time) and his list of character traits that he worked to try and cultivate throughout his life. That was a college prep class, too, so the majority of students at our school would not have been exposed to even that small token.

    • @nancybartley4610
      @nancybartley4610 Před 6 měsíci +2

      @KingLuvs I agree with you that schools do little to build character. Hard work is not encouraged. Timeliness, kindness, perspective, empathy, orderliness, impulse control - the list goes on. We do not help children to understand that life is challenging, but they have resources to mediate and cope with these difficulties. (In fact, the schools are teaching kids they are victims. ) This all can be addressed through literature. Children's lit is soooo rich. The original version of The Tale of Despereaux Is absolutely one of the best for this. It should be read to first and second graders and revisited in the upper grades.

    • @lucysweeney8347
      @lucysweeney8347 Před 5 měsíci +1

      Remember this...The Parents ..not the Teachers ..are the FIRST EDUCATORS of the child. Count the number of parents in the world .Count the number of teachers in the world . The PARENTS ,not the Teachers. Take that in. For good.

    • @nancybartley4610
      @nancybartley4610 Před 5 měsíci +1

      @@lucysweeney8347 You are right, of course, but that makes it all the more imperative that the schools address this issue because so many of the parents you mention aren't. The only chance some kids have is with good quality literature and people who know its value and how to share it.

  • @pamfontenot1
    @pamfontenot1 Před 4 lety +10

    It has been so inspiring watching David Brooks grow in character & wisdom. ☺️

  • @maggie453
    @maggie453 Před 3 lety +2

    Fascinating talk. Especially the concept of "Moral Ecology".

  • @SusanRCushing
    @SusanRCushing Před 9 lety +8

    Excellent Video. Brought a smile to my face AGAIN. Susan

  • @ItsElliotGough
    @ItsElliotGough Před 8 lety +6

    This is truly amazing.

  • @AlejandroMadrid-tn1gp
    @AlejandroMadrid-tn1gp Před 3 měsíci

    What an amazing and spiritual talk.

  • @dp5674
    @dp5674 Před 6 měsíci +2

    The Grace and Mercy of God is never unemployed.

  • @davidsolomon8203
    @davidsolomon8203 Před 5 lety +7

    It appears to me that Mr. Brooks’s strength for the morality speech grows out of his own deep, and abiding, search for the residence of his own morality!

  • @deidremalloy9704
    @deidremalloy9704 Před 2 lety +5

    So incredibly inspiring what a great man

  • @TheGoldenBone
    @TheGoldenBone Před 6 měsíci +1

    Amazing. This is …. I’m speechless.
    Wonderful.
    Thank you

  • @bonitaderosa3134
    @bonitaderosa3134 Před 4 lety +3

    Don't worry about what you should do. You did it. You stood and listened and in so doing, they connected to you, someone who pondered these things such as character and caring, friendship and love. And that is what those people who shared with you did when their trauma happened to them. Traumas take you outside of yourself. It is almost as if you are actually not connected to the earth. Sharing is the string that keeps you from floating away. Keeps you grounded. It also dissipates the pain - some goes to you for you to ponder and the act of expressing it verbally gets it out of the system of the person who has experienced the trauma. I listen to you because you ponder, as I do, and it's good to know I'm not alone in this thinking. Plus, you're able to articulate far better than I ever could, so for me, it's nice to hear the language of what is only disconnected thoughts, symbols and images in my mind. Thank you for what you do.

  • @virginiaholzer7358
    @virginiaholzer7358 Před měsícem

    ❤so profound thanks so much❤Godbless

  • @evelynramos445
    @evelynramos445 Před 6 měsíci +1

    "Love in right order" high standard

  • @diegonayalazo
    @diegonayalazo Před 2 lety +2

    Thanks for sharing

  • @howardkoor2796
    @howardkoor2796 Před 6 lety +8

    What a mind..and heart!

  • @fondarist4077
    @fondarist4077 Před 6 měsíci

    Great lecture...❤

  • @LivinginCentralNewJersey-ep4bq

    Adam 1 and Adam 2; a fine line I walk each day...

  • @scottbrandenburg5871
    @scottbrandenburg5871 Před 2 měsíci

    I feel pity for this lost soul, I'm sure he'll find peace one day though. Seek and ye shall find brother.

  • @evelynramos445
    @evelynramos445 Před 6 měsíci +1

    "Keep company" and about you. Just sit with

  • @mariocasarez3896
    @mariocasarez3896 Před 6 měsíci +3

    David Brooks is a conservative that Republicans need to listen to when he speaks about the danger of DJT.
    David Brooks for US Senate!

  • @mariocasarez3896
    @mariocasarez3896 Před 6 měsíci +9

    David Brooks is a conservative with a heart. Brooks for US Congress!!

  • @evelynramos445
    @evelynramos445 Před 6 měsíci +2

    Poverty at times allow no tears

  • @r.horton7626
    @r.horton7626 Před 7 lety +4

    hopeful, fascinating

  • @evelynramos445
    @evelynramos445 Před 6 měsíci

    Always a good attention to! thus un- emphazied of inward cultivation

  • @evelynramos445
    @evelynramos445 Před 6 měsíci +1

    "Love of moral order"

  • @evelynramos445
    @evelynramos445 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Fail and fall right through

  • @evelynramos445
    @evelynramos445 Před 6 měsíci

    "Degrade" and dishonoring yourself of your original self

  • @pedro97w
    @pedro97w Před 7 měsíci

    Why did the Aspen Institute gameplan how to spike the Laptop story?

  • @evelynramos445
    @evelynramos445 Před 6 měsíci

    "Moral demand," self expecting

  • @evelynramos445
    @evelynramos445 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Half confidence

  • @user-jb6th1qx9p
    @user-jb6th1qx9p Před 8 lety +3

    33:41
    Biblically speaking, grace is undeserved/unmerited/unearned divine favor.
    It _is_ a result of unconditional love, but not the love itself, since
    God loves everyone (all sinners), but only repentant sinners receive eternal life (2 Peter 3:9).
    Thought I'd clear that up :P

  • @JWPeace_4MyBoys
    @JWPeace_4MyBoys Před rokem +1

    Or prevent it. It is not okay that men with problems can't control theirselves ! And right now ill pray for everyone except me and Evan because they might need it

  • @evelynramos445
    @evelynramos445 Před 6 měsíci

    Two-foldness

  • @evelynramos445
    @evelynramos445 Před 6 měsíci

    Based on conditional

  • @evelynramos445
    @evelynramos445 Před 6 měsíci

    Virtues not emphasize d of humanism within

  • @evelynramos445
    @evelynramos445 Před 6 měsíci

    Not dismiss someone loss such a unborn

  • @roniquebreauxjordan1302

    Character training. ..

  • @edbudzynski729
    @edbudzynski729 Před 24 dny +1

    I wish Evangelicals would read Galatians 5-22,23. Then find just one of the fruits of the Spirit that Trump has. No not one. Yet they embrace him.

  • @joanwatterson7386
    @joanwatterson7386 Před 3 lety

    Kookiness

  • @evelynramos445
    @evelynramos445 Před 6 měsíci

    Not to cross

  • @johnprendergast1338
    @johnprendergast1338 Před 5 lety +1

    Character includes judging people mostly on appearance only ….Obama is a clue ….)))

  • @evelynramos445
    @evelynramos445 Před 6 měsíci

    Abandonment

  • @CecilDSouza
    @CecilDSouza Před 6 lety

    David is a good author and speaker but this talk was more reading. First 15 minutes.

  • @evelynramos445
    @evelynramos445 Před 6 měsíci

    False confidence

  • @Callitout-kl1uq
    @Callitout-kl1uq Před 2 měsíci

    I wanted to like David Brooks, but I’ve come to find out that he abandoned his heritage, married a woman young enough to be his daughter, and writes about “eulogy virtues” while remaining a conservative who doesn’t like but won’t speak out against Trump. Seems he lacks moral courage in every facet of life.

  • @thegooseman6888
    @thegooseman6888 Před 7 lety +1

    He sounds like a snob