MY TOXIC 6 YEAR RELATIONSHIP...Storytime ...NOT CLICKBAIT !!

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  • čas přidán 29. 08. 2024
  • Hello loves! it has been a long time since I have done a storytime and this is one I have been wanting to share and today I thought I would finally share my toxic relationship story and how I was able to finally leave it. I hope this can help anyone going through the same thing and to know you are never alone.
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Komentáře • 124

  • @Nicolettaxo
    @Nicolettaxo  Před 3 lety +52

    Hello loves! finally bringing to you another storytime it has been quite a while. I have always wanted to share this one but always was a little nervous, but my hope is it can help anyone out there who can relate.
    If you want to check out my other story times check out my playlist here: czcams.com/play/PLdyZ5CwGaxYmLtsLzGOc0QMr6wAPkuvjD.html

    • @myaccount2323
      @myaccount2323 Před 3 lety +1

      ❤️❤️

    • @meganlawn6228
      @meganlawn6228 Před 3 lety +1

      Hey I just want you to know you said the guys real name at 18:27-18:28

    • @Nicolettaxo
      @Nicolettaxo  Před 3 lety

      @@meganlawn6228 thats not his name that is the name i used for the purpose of the video i said i would use tom at the beginning of the video ☺️

    • @meganlawn6228
      @meganlawn6228 Před 3 lety +1

      @@Nicolettaxo omg I thought you said a different name. I didn’t hear Tom. I’m sorry!

    • @sdtdreamworld3687
      @sdtdreamworld3687 Před 3 lety

      Can u please do a house tour with nick

  • @QUiNTiNBANKS
    @QUiNTiNBANKS Před 3 lety +101

    Takes a lot to open up like this, wish you nothing but the best

  • @vickykostadinova7836
    @vickykostadinova7836 Před 3 lety +17

    I feel like a lot of people had that first longer and very toxic relationship where we thought we had to put up with things just because “relationships are hard work” and although it can be character building and it can help you realise your worth once you actually leave them, it can be very damaging mentally and it can ruin people’s perception on relationships for the rest of their life - thank you for sharing because I feel like a lot of younger people need to hear this!

  • @llnut4775
    @llnut4775 Před 3 lety +12

    I had the exact same experience from the age of 19 to 24 & we were engaged for the last year. He never called me names but totally made me feel crazy. The best thing I ever did was break it off!

  • @Ashley-nr9od
    @Ashley-nr9od Před 3 lety +24

    I met my best friend my first year of college because we bonded over our hs relationship bc we were both coming to college in toxic relationships and we helped each other through it and we left them knowing we deserved better

  • @moriahheindel9982
    @moriahheindel9982 Před 3 lety +33

    6 years is a long time...so it means alot that you can open up about this!

    • @Nicolettaxo
      @Nicolettaxo  Před 3 lety +2

      awww thank you so much for that I appreciate it

  • @laurentaylor1200
    @laurentaylor1200 Před 3 lety +31

    Love is truly blind. We accept the love we think we deserve. I can relate in the sense of manipulation at 12:20. My ex was a reactive abuser. He would push my buttons, scream at me, call me names, do things I didn’t like and do everything he could to get a rise out of me, then once he got what he wanted, he would stay calm, cool and collected so it would look like I’m the crazy one, and I’m the irrational one. Everyone saw it but me.

  • @sophiaharper723
    @sophiaharper723 Před 3 lety +8

    I just found your video & honestly I’m in tears watching this because this was my life for 13 years with my husband and the father to my two sons. As I’m writing this we’ve been separated for over a month and tomorrow I move out with my boys. The name calling, the yelling, the aggression and manipulation, I heard it, felt it and stupidly believed it. The road to recovery is going to take me awhile but I’m fortunate to be leaving and setting a better example to my sons. Thank you for sharing your story, it really made me realise that my decision was the best one I could make 🤍

  • @abbiebuffham8006
    @abbiebuffham8006 Před 3 lety +16

    I can definitely relate to this - i was with a person who we were high school sweethearts - but it was so toxic i was so blinded I couldn’t see what the relationship was doing to me until i built up the courage after nearly 6 years on and off and was engaged to leave - it was the best decision i ever made and now in a new relationship and I couldn’t be happier! It just shows that love is truly blind and you can’t see what’s wrong until you are no longer in that situation - really brave of you to open up

  • @daisyeduv
    @daisyeduv Před 3 lety +9

    This is so crazy how I can relate to this my first serious relationship was from I was 13 till I broke it off when I was 18, such a toxic relationship, looking back I am so glad I left, always made me feel like it was my fault for the decisions they made. Thank you for sharing.

  • @Zahra.Siddiqui
    @Zahra.Siddiqui Před 3 lety +7

    You’re so beautiful girl don’t ever let anyone put you down, so glad you’re happy now and with someone that actually knows your worth 💕

  • @dreamerbookslover9470
    @dreamerbookslover9470 Před 3 lety +27

    I'm so sorry you had to deal with all that pain.😢
    Tight hugs from Italy

  • @wesalali6825
    @wesalali6825 Před 3 lety +14

    That's sad and you didn't deserve to go through just know that you are loved

  • @Ashley-nr9od
    @Ashley-nr9od Před 3 lety +68

    I was in a toxic relationship and didn't realize it till I would explain my relationship to other people when I go to college and I was like no I can't go out bc my bf controls me and I would cry everyday bc of him and it was terrible

    • @vickykostadinova7836
      @vickykostadinova7836 Před 3 lety +7

      Girl SAME! I didn’t realise how toxic it was until I started sharing with my mum and eventually got in a healthy relationship with someone else and was blown away by how nice people can treat you.

    • @AG-nz4pj
      @AG-nz4pj Před 3 lety +2

      Same for 10 years Hahah thats so bad of me broke up at 27

  • @Tammy87966
    @Tammy87966 Před 3 lety +4

    Thank you for sharing this..I've been in simsilar situation where i kept taking back someone who wasn't the right one for me. It's nice to know that some people can relate and i'm not alone

  • @TejasweeBalla
    @TejasweeBalla Před 3 lety +3

    It's crazy how toxicity is universal.

  • @audreybrunet3583
    @audreybrunet3583 Před 3 lety +5

    So sorry you had to go trough this... The best is yet to come!🤍🥺

  • @monikazavala2448
    @monikazavala2448 Před 3 lety +6

    I had a toxic relationship also for 8years and 9 months
    I meet him also in high school and had a relationship like you we broke up then get back together
    Now it’s almost 2 years since I’m not with him and I feel so good about that my life has changed a lot

  • @syreetacunningham899
    @syreetacunningham899 Před 3 lety +5

    I can relate to your story. I know how it feels to be in a very unhappy relationship for a very long time. I was in a physically abusive and controlling relationship on and off for 2 years.

  • @amberjgreaves
    @amberjgreaves Před 3 lety +4

    unrelated but the quality/new background is just gorgeous! so proud of you and how far you have come in both your personal life and your career. I'm forever inspired by you. love you!

  • @CalmingStressReliefSounds

    I feel so bad for you! You have been through so much in your life! Im so glad you have found the right person for you!!! and I love you so much!!!

  • @leannedawnxo
    @leannedawnxo Před 3 lety +5

    Yes! I remember my high school days. I dated someone that was controlling and I would try to end it and he literally was saying he was gonna kill himself and he was all sad. I hate when guys do that because they don’t actually do it. It’s just to get you to feel bad and stay with them. And I also barely saw him because he never asked to hang out. I always find that the people I date, I’m always the one to ask to go and do something or else we wouldn’t even see each other.
    Great video though, a lot of people go through this! No one deserves to stay in a toxic relationship. I’d rather be single then be with someone that isn’t for me. I learned this the hard way. I met someone in 2018, we talked for a whole year and we weren’t ever official and he also never asked to hang out unless I said something or invited him out with my best friend for a double date. Anyways he ended up ending things close to my birthday and he would go through periods of not talking to me and he would say something is going on in his life and cuts people out. But now from that relationship, I know what I want from my future partner.

  • @katelynb5971
    @katelynb5971 Před 3 lety +23

    Wow this is awful ! Is this person a drug / alcohol addict ? His issues sounds similar to people who struggle with addiction
    .. no shade to the ones who are struggling .

  • @pradiptagoswami8721
    @pradiptagoswami8721 Před 3 lety +4

    Great Video...I also had similar experience of toxic relationship..I believe every person comes as a blessing or lesson in life...we should value and love ourselves and these kind of experience makes us much stronger as a person

  • @vanessamcduffie8648
    @vanessamcduffie8648 Před 3 lety +2

    He was a NARCISSIST never go back. Block and delete they love empaths..

  • @VeggiesbyEos
    @VeggiesbyEos Před 3 lety +2

    My first boyfriend was emotionally abusive and i had no idea because i thought it was all normal for the longest time

  • @willfrankrich1573
    @willfrankrich1573 Před 3 lety +3

    Well nicolleta one thing I am able to understand is that in my knowledge I can easily say that being in a relationship not only creates stress and anxiety but also affects career and goal as well as the hard earned money will be lost to be very frank😘😘😘🥰🥰🥰🤗🤗🤗😘😘😘😘🐴🐴🐴🐴🐴

  • @studywithviolet9677
    @studywithviolet9677 Před 3 lety +5

    So proud of you❤️❤️

  • @daniellebabe1
    @daniellebabe1 Před 3 lety +4

    If you know he is looking at your Instagram you can block him. Im glad you got out of the relationship

  • @andreafeeley5021
    @andreafeeley5021 Před 3 lety +2

    My ex cheated on me the day me Grandma first went into the hospital and the next day when she died. Physco. He also forced me to do drugs and beat the crap outta me. It's better to forgive and move on.

  • @emnaselma2607
    @emnaselma2607 Před 3 lety +1

    Nicolletta please make a video on how and what you did to be able to move on and how did you rebuild yourself and your confidence and self esteem ..i feel soo stuck to the point i cant be with another boy but him.. and i even cant imagine it..

  • @gracebleekman2557
    @gracebleekman2557 Před 3 lety +9

    I hope you’re ok I have had something similar happen to me. I love you so much queen and again I understand. My bf at the time abused me and cheated on me and I didn’t know at the time. And I was in high school.

    • @Nicolettaxo
      @Nicolettaxo  Před 3 lety +4

      Awww I am so sorry beautiful! you are strong and always deserve the best! love you more! xo

  • @myaccount2323
    @myaccount2323 Před 3 lety +4

    What a story... So proud of you ❤️

  • @jesikennedy9037
    @jesikennedy9037 Před 3 lety +2

    I literally love you and all of your vids! Thanks for sharing 🤍

  • @bakedpotato7172
    @bakedpotato7172 Před 3 lety +12

    fr i broke up with my toxic ex 2 weeks ago about it was the best thing ive ever done

    • @Nicolettaxo
      @Nicolettaxo  Před 3 lety +1

      so proud of you always wishing you the absolute best xo

  • @ninalind2966
    @ninalind2966 Před 3 lety +1

    Gaslighting is the worst!

  • @nowshinkazi5240
    @nowshinkazi5240 Před 3 lety +2

    your beautiful babes, don’t let anyone take advantage of u again ❤️

  • @jenlobbins4952
    @jenlobbins4952 Před 3 lety

    awh nicoletta thank youu for opening up and being transparent with us bc this story time / experience can help someone from going thru it too or what to look out for. youu look fabulous as always. love ya girl ❤️

  • @justmeashley7923
    @justmeashley7923 Před 2 lety +3

    Video starts at 4:40. You’re welcome.

  • @bethventuresx8283
    @bethventuresx8283 Před 2 lety

    Life hack: first sign of disrespect, leave. If you feel like it’s hard to leave after being disrespected I’d say you have an unhealthy attachment to them and and unhealthy relationship with yourself as you’re willing to put this person before you. It’s not romantic, it’s a tragedy. Someone who disrespects you will subject you to so much danger that if you make it out alive, as a lot of people don’t, you’ll wonder why you ever put up with it. The answer?? Lack of self care, love, respect and worth. Find the care for yourself and do yourself a favour and cut the journey short- choose you. That’s the hack. If you hate yourself, explore that wound and where it came from and then take back your power. You’re not a victim. And you’re not a victim of the shame you are forced to carry either. Choose you.

  • @2000annette
    @2000annette Před 3 lety +4

    omg this was the 1st video to pop up when i typed in story time on youtube !!

  • @LanaBee
    @LanaBee Před 3 lety +5

    take a shot every time she says "definitely"

  • @rhiannapearce4555
    @rhiannapearce4555 Před 3 lety +1

    I just broke things off with my toxic ex a week ago after being with her for a year and a half, it’s really hard but I’ve got my friends support

    • @rhiannapearce4555
      @rhiannapearce4555 Před 3 lety

      And this video is really helping me deal with it because i can relate so much to everything you say

  • @mariam-in1mo
    @mariam-in1mo Před 3 lety +5

    Love you gorgeous 💗

  • @coolappyfizz
    @coolappyfizz Před 3 lety

    I am in a toxic relationship right now but I cannot get out because our lives are so tangled into each other right now. It’s not the best decision for my kids and people around me. I don’t know what to do. I just want to be strong enough to emotionally detach myself but physically just be with him for the sake of proper life etc. he is a good father and I have two kids so I just cannot separate. Also I live in a society where changing multiple partners is considered as bad. And my parents have done so much for me I don’t want them to loose their respect because of me. I am so so confused and depressed .

  • @ohemaaserwaaboatengyentumi2983

    Sorry about that

  • @taylorrodriguez8289
    @taylorrodriguez8289 Před 2 lety +1

    I feel so lost in my relationship we’ve been together for six years now and have gone through so many ups and downs. Similar to this story after the first year it all went downhill. I changed a lot for him and he cheated on me two years into the relationship and lied to me about it for another year and a half until he finally admitted it to me and I decided to forgive him but the emotional abuse still continued. Eventually things became physical and unfortunately when we have our Big arguments every couple of months he doesn’t know how to not grab me and pin me down or slap me upside the head. I know he feels bad and regrets it but i know that doesnt make it right. He is my best friend and the only person i have. I feel so trapped now that we live together and we have a cat together and really the only thing that is keeping me here is my animal and my things. I have lost my entire friend group and support system because I put this man first and I don’t know who to turn to for support without letting them know that everything I’ve told them is a lie. I feel so ashamed and embarrassed. Everyone thinks our relationship is perfect and claim they wish they had a bond like ours but if they really knew they would be mortified. I wish i would have ended things when he betrayed my trust the first time but my self worth was so low I couldn’t. I wish i never moved in with him and go an animal with him because if i didnt have my cat i would feel okay pushing myself to leave. And I can’t take my cat because im afraid he will turn psychotic and try and hurt me because he loves our cat more than anything as well. When I met him I feel like we should’ve just stayed friends he would’ve been a perfect best friend I don’t know why things turned romantic maybe because I was just desperate to get into a relationship by always feeling rejected, but now im in so much pain and stress its the most frustrating thing in the world

  • @Rjnsg77
    @Rjnsg77 Před rokem

    I just get out of a toxic relationship after two years he broke up with me
    He cheated on me manyyy times, lied to me many times,
    The problem is I can’t move on ! I can’t forgive him and myself ! I hate myself for staying in that horrible situation, because some of that side effects are gonna be with me for years and I don’t know what to do with my anger

  • @luna-gy6kw
    @luna-gy6kw Před 3 lety +1

    you were dating a crazy narcissist. what you're telling is 100% true when we date a psychopath. and I totally can relate. in high school, I was bullied by the mean girls too and because of that, I thought I deserved the guy I dated who was really toxic, and now I know how I was so stupid by letting them belittle me,, thinking that I deserved it, and thinking that it was normal for a person who lives in high school (I cried daily, talked to him 24/7, and so on until one day I caught him cheating on me with proof, and I was so thankful with the girl he cheated with, because of her, I could let him go (ofc this is because my mom forced me to let him go because my closest friend was toxic too, I always competed with her, she always dragged me down and make me feel not talented enough, not tall enough, etc). and worse, the guy I dated after him leaked my nudes, while I was still healing from the impact which was caused by that toxic ex. what's worse: I live in an Asian country and everybody in my society was religious and conservative). I was bullied soooo baddly until they made me move to another country, change my identity, and end my career. You're the best! I believe no one will ever put criticisms on you! next time, tell us about the psychological impact and how you healed from it. until now, I'm still hiding and being really paranoid if someone recognizes me and bullies me again. but I'm starting to open up because now I'm among supportive and open-minded friends. I'm in the best state of my life and I'm really really really grateful. oh and I've finally found a really nice guy im currently dating. I love him so much

  • @aditibhattacharya7709
    @aditibhattacharya7709 Před 3 lety +2

    Totally relatable 🙂

  • @evasasmr5545
    @evasasmr5545 Před 3 lety

    i haven’t got to the story part, but you deserve so much better than that..

  • @evemachache
    @evemachache Před 3 lety +3

    Hope your ok

  • @guadalupepreciado4332

    Thank you for sharing ❤

  • @nicoleselfe2126
    @nicoleselfe2126 Před 2 lety +1

    I feel like this story is all over the place

  • @studywithviolet9677
    @studywithviolet9677 Před 3 lety +4

    Also video request, can you make glow up videos please?

  • @ohemaaserwaaboatengyentumi2983

    Thank you

  • @MarielaQue
    @MarielaQue Před 3 lety +3

    You should do a podcast

  • @gabib.8995
    @gabib.8995 Před 3 lety +5

    The one thumb down is from him 🤭

  • @dalia7982
    @dalia7982 Před 3 lety +1

    This helped a lot of people, I hope you know that. Sending nothing but love ❤️

  • @Gaurav_Sharma3112
    @Gaurav_Sharma3112 Před 3 lety +2

    Nicoletta forget the past live in the present for a better future

    • @Nicolettaxo
      @Nicolettaxo  Před 3 lety +5

      Totally forgot about it, I have moved on from that part of my life years ago, I just like to share these stories to help others that may be currently in the same situation :)

    • @Gaurav_Sharma3112
      @Gaurav_Sharma3112 Před 3 lety

      @@Nicolettaxo nice to raise a voice against such

  • @nybsbfan18
    @nybsbfan18 Před 3 lety +3

    I'm glad I survived and broke up with him, Nicoletta!!! 🙂👍

  • @ohemaaserwaaboatengyentumi2983

    Love you you are the best l know you can deal with it

  • @Beyondthemi
    @Beyondthemi Před rokem

    I was in a toxic relationship for over 2 months that felt like 6 years.very draining surprisingly for some reason you always feel hooked bcoz they have a sweet side.for my case the sex was good🤣🤣until God delivered me.he was manipulative n demanding.made me feel like it was my responsibility to take care of him.he would lash out on me n I would take it all in.but looking back now I'm so greatful I never ended up with that person

  • @MadiMae_
    @MadiMae_ Před 3 lety +4

    i love your story times!

  • @lynette599
    @lynette599 Před rokem

    _Don't make somebody your whole story when you are just a chapter in their book._

  • @Emi-oj4kc
    @Emi-oj4kc Před 3 lety +4

    Hope you are doing better uou didn't deserve this 💖

    • @Nicolettaxo
      @Nicolettaxo  Před 3 lety +3

      aww thank you beauty yes def a lot happier in my life :)

    • @Emi-oj4kc
      @Emi-oj4kc Před 3 lety +1

      @@Nicolettaxo Thats nice to hear love you girl💖

  • @unapologeticella4540
    @unapologeticella4540 Před 2 lety

    Idk how to leave him he's got me believe I'm a piece of shit and too disgusting to leave him my self esteem will get better after I leave him I know it 100% because I left him 2 yrs ago for 7 months but he hoovered me.

    • @bethventuresx8283
      @bethventuresx8283 Před 2 lety

      This might sound dramatic but it always gets worse. It might be emotionally abusive now but it’ll eventually progress to terrible places. If he harms you emotionally, he doesn’t respect you. He will never keep you safe from other dangerous people or situations, he will make you a shell of yourself, and you’ll be dependent on him forever and because he doesn’t respect you it means you’ll never have respect for yourself either if you’re dependent on his opinion. I just finished watching a video about a domestic violence relationship and the woman lost her ability to walk and is in a wheelchair now..it 100% gets scary and worse. I ended up getting seriously harmed too. You must get out, even if you have nothing else going for you, because when you have nothing..and I mean truly nothing, you will find your own will to live. Get out and never look back. You’ll find your worth alone.

  • @chrissyjade7023
    @chrissyjade7023 Před 3 lety +1

    just wach who your dateing i got abused

  • @Iloveallamerican
    @Iloveallamerican Před 3 lety +2

    Love you

  • @ToniAldaris
    @ToniAldaris Před 3 lety

    Awe so sorry to hear this! I am so proud of you! You are so gorgeous inside and out and I am sure this will help others in a similar situation to not feel alone. You are very brave :)

  • @clairewest4648
    @clairewest4648 Před 3 lety

    Mine was 6 years too!

  • @misteripupa7963
    @misteripupa7963 Před 2 lety +1

    Not clickbai is a clickbai

  • @jackielortz4781
    @jackielortz4781 Před 3 lety

    Wait is this the guy you were engaged to like recently? Or no.

  • @pandawho2830
    @pandawho2830 Před 3 lety +1

    I bet he was a scorpio

  • @yassinemoufid6672
    @yassinemoufid6672 Před 3 lety

    Big up from morocco♥️♥️

  • @robloxsunshine1017
    @robloxsunshine1017 Před 3 lety

    WHEN I WATCH THOS IM LILE SAME I JUSR GOT KY BED

  • @riktikadasgupta4749
    @riktikadasgupta4749 Před 3 lety +2

    If every one here is first then I'm second

  • @lailahbella5828
    @lailahbella5828 Před 3 lety +1

    Hello Gorgeous✨

  • @sera_rocky
    @sera_rocky Před 3 lety +1

    Hloo

  • @classicleslie6914
    @classicleslie6914 Před 3 lety

    Omg my mom is abusing me

  • @simhd6844
    @simhd6844 Před 3 lety

    Hello how are you?

  • @Iloveallamerican
    @Iloveallamerican Před 3 lety +1

    FIRST

  • @sharonruvithawilliams7904

    First

  • @kashdior1257
    @kashdior1257 Před 3 lety

    I hope me and my boyfriend never break up.