I think that a child should be able to express themselves in their clothing WITHIN REASON. If the clothes arenât age appropriate or sexual, i probably wouldnât let them wear it.
I agree, as parents we must teach kids that some clothes arenât appropriate for certain areas. A bikini and short shorts and flip flops is a good outfit at the beach, not at school. But also we should teach them to keeps eyes to themselves and that shoulders arenât a problem
I agree with everything- but when they are doing any of this I want to make sure my kids respect themselves first and theyâre not doing anything for someone else. Since I have grown up with a family that doesnât let me wear what I want to wear (itâs either too small or shows my figure) I want my child to have the freedom to do what they want to. Even when I eat my parents may say your going to get fat, eat in moderation. I donât want my child to feel body conscious, I want them to feel free!!
Just be careful that you're not giving them too much freedom in those areas. Sometimes if you let your kid do everything they want no questions ask they won't respect you or your actions. I have a friend like that. She's a good kid but she's absolutely crazy and doesn't listen to most of what her parents say because they didn't care when she was little. Everything in moderation!
so you're going to let your kids become obese. you're going to let your kids play sports where their gender is obviously going to be a disadvantage (for example, a girl playing american football) you're going to let your kids have mental dissorders yes, being gay (for example) is a mental dissorder, our DNA is supposed to prevent such things from happening you're going to let your 7 year old girl wear a bikini and not tell them to be cautious of what they wear when going outside because they could "attract" creepy people this is the reason that our world is failing, because of people like you
@@beansoup8153 no, no they arenât. My parents are far from abusive but equally as far from good. I live them to death dont kid yourself but sometimes the things they say are really really hurtful and even if they know, they keep saying it every time
also something to add with the whole uni thing: school is not for everyone and its also completely ok to take some gap years if you aren't ready yet it's a lot of work and actually knowing what's best for yourself is an accomplishment in itself and you should be proud of it
That part where you say that you wonât control what they wear, my parents did that & now Iâm self-conscious & insecure about my body & when it comes to being in front of a camera.
I agree with all of that 100%. Although about the clothing part I would still put some boundaries. Like the clothes they wear have to be washed, in a decent condition and appropriate for the weather and occasion. I think that's kinda obvious though. So like no wearing the same shirt for the 3rd day without washing it, no wearing clothes that are torn (unless that's intentional design), too warm, not warm enough,and no pajamas to a wedding kinda stuff.
Still don't forget that you're also teaching them, so make sure all these things are still within boundaries (respect of others and respect of yourself) đđđ
Spencer, that's the kind of mom I want to be too†My cousin is bisexual and her mom is christian but not her dad. Neither of her parents accept her except her siblings. Her dad is a jerky and always tells her means think like " I wish you weren't born" or " your a shame to our family"đą
Your cousins family is exactly why a stable family unit is one of the most important things to a stable society. The father is a waste of space, the child is so confused and hurt that she has to find any place to find shelter and the mom is doing nothing about it.
It makes me happy that she mentioned that she doesnât care ab her kids sexuality! It can be serious and can make or break the parent and kids relationship with each other
If I were a mother I would care about their sexuality if they were gay or chose to identify as someone who God didnât make them as I would not support them in that but I would still love them and try to help them feel comfortable in the body they were born in and love the person who God created them to be
Aww she is going to be such a good mum I love how positive she is I feel like sheâd be the type of mum to be on theyâre kids side no matter what and I love that
@@MeowMeow-sy2mi I love her. I m not dismissing her at all. N I m not saying specific about some rules but most of them change as they grow up. Specially the sexuality part.
@@hiraltrivedi1591 especially on the sexuality part, that wouldnât change. I donât care who my kid is attracted to. Their actions are what I care about and whether theyâre doing the right things and doing SAFE things. That will never change. Itâs about focusing on the things that matter
â@@hiraltrivedi1591 Why specially that part? So after you'd have a kid, raise them their whole life, love them, you'd of a sudden start to care if they fell in love with the same sex? Because it somehow bothers you? Doesn't make any sense to me. I'd be quicker to change that dress code rule if they really put on something inappropriate, or if they ate seriously too little or way too much, and that for their own good.
@@Paula-um3js see u also ready to change dress code rules n eating habits which is even normal this days . U also don't agree to some part than why you pointing a figure on me. Every parent has different way of raising a child.
100% agree!! if i ever have kids iâd probably abide by the same rules except for like âwear a coat when itâs coldâ and make sure they arenât underrating or overeating bc that could mean an ed. :) iâm sure youâd do all the parent safety stuff iâm just a practical and cautious person so thatâs what i think of đđ
I just wanted to say that I love your channel and am so happy I found it! I love how you're such an inspiration for others while also showing how you're working on yourself too! â€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïž Wishing you the best new year in 2023
I really love how much I can see you care about your future children †But I will say that often people who make the decision not to wear revealing clothes is actually a sign of the respect they have for their body as they donât think everyone should be seeing everything (although Iâm not saying that is never the case for people who do wear crop tops, bikinis, etc)
you SHOULD care about what they wear when they are children or teens. like i don't mean your daughter has to be prude but we need to protect our children when they go out ! and for uni make sure they have a good reason but don't force them. sometimes it's good to care about how much your children eat because it reveals some mental problems (anorexia nervosa, emotional eating...). you can't not care about these things but the most important is to not force them.
The fact that you have to say we have to protect our children is horrible, if men would start teaching the boys some respect and the fact women and girls aren't sex objects, we wouldn't have to do that, there is no little girl or boy in this word that had asked for it by what they are wearing, and teaching you kid to cover up Doesn't do shit, men still look at us and now we have no self confidence and we think we are the problem,, and yeah uni is okay for some, but other kids may not want to go and I don't think they should be forced just to make mommy and daddy happy,,, and as for food, yes pay attention to how much they eat to make sure they are getting enough, but don't point it out all the time, pointing out how much they eat will make them want to eat less ( I'm not saying any of this against you, I'm just stating my opinion)
@@Possibly_Olivia No that's not what I said,, I said it's horrible you HAVE to say we have to protect our daughters, and just fyi, saying your daughter doesn't have to be a 'prude' makes you sound like a horny 16 year old boy
Its actually a bad thing and im not trying to be homophobic but some ppl go to hell for it, god made 2 genders male and female, we pray to thank god that he gave us a gender we pray as a thank you to god, If your a girl you shoukd be a proud female you be proud that you're a female and should be confident same goes to male. It is considered a bad thing but Americans are trying to normalise this and its not a good thing. Im not trying to be homophobic but this is also my realigon, you dont have to agree with me but im just saying.
Just by the first i Can already tell youâll be a great mom as a queer kid myself, my parents accept me but when i make queer jokes or get excited over something queer they (mostly my mom) get kinda weird about it and try to change subjects
I think the eating one is problematic if it comes to the point where itâs become unhealthy or their health is at risk, cause u donât want them to die either
You might want to take off your cross necklace or at least continue to study the gospel. As you would notice what God would want you to do. Those who mock the Lord will be persecuted.
This is a later comment, but.. Spencer I can't not say how greatful I am. I'm a trans girl, and your channel is beyond helpful. I can't be thankful enough. My mother recently told me "As a mother, I have to keep you safe. No skirts, no makeup" Things like that. I see what she was going for, she is trying to keep me safe. When you say you don't care what your child wears, I thought about that. I love my mom dearly, but your my internet mom lmao
The only reason my mom asks âare you *really* gonna eat all thatâ is because she doesnât want me wasting food or want me coming back for more after I said âthis is all Iâm gonna eatâ before my dad comes home from work and eat
I agree but the first one like I love that she supports her kids but what if the person her child is dating is like toxic or dangerous but I hope that doesnât happen Ps love your vids â€đ
The "how much they eat" one is a really good one. Me personally, I kinda feel embarrassed to ask my parents for more food because I feel like they are gonna think I'm gaining weight even though I'm underweight lol
Something I won't care abt is if they have bad grades I will support and help but I will not yell bc it made my grades go from As to Fs in days and I hated that
You are gonna be the best mom ever! I feel like many parents donât want their kids to wear certain things and also they are gonna have the best life with you as their mom â€
The fact that growing up my parents always told me to cover up because it was inappropriate for skin to show, I was never over weight but the fact that they were paranoid about other things. And I can tell you for a fact, my confidence, and body positivity went down the roof
âDaddy played hockey so you have to play hockeyâ âGo be a ballerinaâ LOL đ IM DEADđ€Łđ€Ł
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I think that a child should be able to express themselves in their clothing WITHIN REASON. If the clothes arenât age appropriate or sexual, i probably wouldnât let them wear it.
Exactly
I agree, as parents we must teach kids that some clothes arenât appropriate for certain areas. A bikini and short shorts and flip flops is a good outfit at the beach, not at school. But also we should teach them to keeps eyes to themselves and that shoulders arenât a problem
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"Go Be A BaLlErInA" That had me DYINGGGGG
"Well daddy played hockey so you have to play hockey...go be a ballerina"
I agree with everything- but when they are doing any of this I want to make sure my kids respect themselves first and theyâre not doing anything for someone else. Since I have grown up with a family that doesnât let me wear what I want to wear (itâs either too small or shows my figure) I want my child to have the freedom to do what they want to. Even when I eat my parents may say your going to get fat, eat in moderation. I donât want my child to feel body conscious, I want them to feel free!!
Just be careful that you're not giving them too much freedom in those areas. Sometimes if you let your kid do everything they want no questions ask they won't respect you or your actions. I have a friend like that. She's a good kid but she's absolutely crazy and doesn't listen to most of what her parents say because they didn't care when she was little. Everything in moderation!
Tell me your a bad mom without telling me your a bad mom
@@aestheticgirlies3000 Iâm not a bad mum, stop being rude. You stick to your own ideas I will mine
@@jiyaverma9735 itâs just a joke lol
so you're going to let your kids become obese.
you're going to let your kids play sports where their gender is obviously going to be a disadvantage (for example, a girl playing american football)
you're going to let your kids have mental dissorders
yes, being gay (for example) is a mental dissorder, our DNA is supposed to prevent such things from happening
you're going to let your 7 year old girl wear a bikini and not tell them to be cautious of what they wear when going outside because they could "attract" creepy people
this is the reason that our world is failing, because of people like you
youâd be SUCH a great mom đ«¶đœđ«¶đœ
I agree
@@Livs_tblwme to
Fr!! Love ur channel btw
no cause the baby gonna be traumatised after seeing the size of that forehead
@@willowrobinson8593 omg shut up
âGo be a ballerinaâ
Well that caught me off guard
ur so kind ur kids will be blessed
*I just love her! She's super positive and supporting!*
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She is only partially supporting her children
The Matrix is all around us. #freetopg
@@theuncover237 đŻ
ONE MORE LIKE FOR 1K WE GOT THIS
But neglectful
âyouâre gonna eat ALlLLlLLlLlLlLl that?!?â
Literally my mom even tho Iâm half her size lol
LMAO UNDERRATED COMMENT
@@kpoplilyy_ thank you lol
@@sadfry5585
Respect your parents. They are only looking out for you.
@@beansoup8153 no, no they arenât. My parents are far from abusive but equally as far from good. I live them to death dont kid yourself but sometimes the things they say are really really hurtful and even if they know, they keep saying it every time
A very common misconception is that people get to CHOOSE who they love but really they canât help their feelings! đ
you are going to be such a great mom! i wish everyone could have such love and support
also something to add with the whole uni thing:
school is not for everyone and its also completely ok to take some gap years if you aren't ready yet
it's a lot of work and actually knowing what's best for yourself is an accomplishment in itself and you should be proud of it
Yeah, my brother took a gap year to get on his feet working and adult life before starting college
And trade school is also a good option aside from university.
College is a scam now-a-days anyway.
that's what stupid people say, that's why they need to go, so to not say that africa is a country
@@angeltodorov5918 I never went to college. Donât care that you didnât ask.
She gives off so much confident energy.
Youâre definitely going to be a great mom based off all the videos I saw of you talking about it.
Agreedâ€
THAT'S SO GOOD, BARBOSA
That part where you say that you wonât control what they wear, my parents did that & now Iâm self-conscious & insecure about my body & when it comes to being in front of a camera.
U got self conscious and insecure because ur parents told u to wear whatever u want? What-
I agree with all of that 100%. Although about the clothing part I would still put some boundaries. Like the clothes they wear have to be washed, in a decent condition and appropriate for the weather and occasion.
I think that's kinda obvious though.
So like no wearing the same shirt for the 3rd day without washing it, no wearing clothes that are torn (unless that's intentional design), too warm, not warm enough,and no pajamas to a wedding kinda stuff.
Still don't forget that you're also teaching them, so make sure all these things are still within boundaries (respect of others and respect of yourself) đđđ
i 𫶠videos when spencer talks
ur gonna be an amazing mom girl!! đ«¶â€
Spencer, that's the kind of mom I want to be tooâ€
My cousin is bisexual and her mom is christian but not her dad. Neither of her parents accept her except her siblings. Her dad is a jerky and always tells her means think like " I wish you weren't born" or " your a shame to our family"đą
@maverickff9640 not the flex you think it is
Your cousins family is exactly why a stable family unit is one of the most important things to a stable society. The father is a waste of space, the child is so confused and hurt that she has to find any place to find shelter and the mom is doing nothing about it.
Its right lyssen too andrew tate đ€đ€đ€
âgo be a ballerinaâ got me dying over here đđđđđđđ
It makes me happy that she mentioned that she doesnât care ab her kids sexuality! It can be serious and can make or break the parent and kids relationship with each other
If I were a mother I would care about their sexuality if they were gay or chose to identify as someone who God didnât make them as I would not support them in that but I would still love them and try to help them feel comfortable in the body they were born in and love the person who God created them to be
YES THESE RULES ARE BEAUTIFUL and so are you â€
Omg first!! Love u spencer!!!! U have made me feel so much more confident in my own skin †thank you âșïž
Sheâs literally going to be the best mom ever
L mom
Facts
Aww she is going to be such a good mum I love how positive she is I feel like sheâd be the type of mum to be on theyâre kids side no matter what and I love that
Spencer thank you. I have been watch you fit a whole year and thanks to you I finally feel comfortable in my own body.
Love you Spencer â€
You look beautiful Spencer Barbosa
I think you should obviously monitor your child's eating just so they don't become overweight.
She would be a terrible mother almost all these points are trash
@@sahirdamani1264 I couldn't agree more
You would be so great as a mom!â€
Youâll be a outstanding mom!!
Wrong
@@shayaropinthechat5513 your opinion. Now stop â
She would literally be the nicest mom ever
The ending got me dying laughing âgo be a ballerinaâ
Your ganna be an amazing mom!
I thought that i missed something and you are already a mom đđâ€â€love you gurlllâ€â€â€
Everybody has a "I don't care my kids" before having kids and after having kids they have completely opposite perspective đ€Łđ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
I'm a mom with older kids and I agree with all of them. These are not hard values to continue when you actually have kids. No need to dismiss her.
@@MeowMeow-sy2mi I love her. I m not dismissing her at all. N I m not saying specific about some rules but most of them change as they grow up. Specially the sexuality part.
@@hiraltrivedi1591 especially on the sexuality part, that wouldnât change. I donât care who my kid is attracted to. Their actions are what I care about and whether theyâre doing the right things and doing SAFE things. That will never change. Itâs about focusing on the things that matter
â@@hiraltrivedi1591 Why specially that part? So after you'd have a kid, raise them their whole life, love them, you'd of a sudden start to care if they fell in love with the same sex? Because it somehow bothers you? Doesn't make any sense to me. I'd be quicker to change that dress code rule if they really put on something inappropriate, or if they ate seriously too little or way too much, and that for their own good.
@@Paula-um3js see u also ready to change dress code rules n eating habits which is even normal this days . U also don't agree to some part than why you pointing a figure on me. Every parent has different way of raising a child.
Her face at the end says everything she really said âđâ
100% agree!! if i ever have kids iâd probably abide by the same rules except for like âwear a coat when itâs coldâ and make sure they arenât underrating or overeating bc that could mean an ed. :) iâm sure youâd do all the parent safety stuff iâm just a practical and cautious person so thatâs what i think of đđ
she's gonna be the best mama
I just wanted to say that I love your channel and am so happy I found it!
I love how you're such an inspiration for others while also showing how you're working on yourself too! â€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïž
Wishing you the best new year in 2023
"go be a ballerina" Spencer is amazing>>>
iâd love to have miss gurl as my momđ
I really love how much I can see you care about your future children â€
But I will say that often people who make the decision not to wear revealing clothes is actually a sign of the respect they have for their body as they donât think everyone should be seeing everything (although Iâm not saying that is never the case for people who do wear crop tops, bikinis, etc)
But thatâs just it. The person is making the choice to wear that themselves. Not being forced into it.
I agree
100% agree love you thank youâ€â€
I love how she said âgo be a ballerinaâ đđ
you SHOULD care about what they wear when they are children or teens. like i don't mean your daughter has to be prude but we need to protect our children when they go out ! and for uni make sure they have a good reason but don't force them. sometimes it's good to care about how much your children eat because it reveals some mental problems (anorexia nervosa, emotional eating...). you can't not care about these things but the most important is to not force them.
The fact that you have to say we have to protect our children is horrible, if men would start teaching the boys some respect and the fact women and girls aren't sex objects, we wouldn't have to do that, there is no little girl or boy in this word that had asked for it by what they are wearing, and teaching you kid to cover up Doesn't do shit, men still look at us and now we have no self confidence and we think we are the problem,, and yeah uni is okay for some, but other kids may not want to go and I don't think they should be forced just to make mommy and daddy happy,,, and as for food, yes pay attention to how much they eat to make sure they are getting enough, but don't point it out all the time, pointing out how much they eat will make them want to eat less ( I'm not saying any of this against you, I'm just stating my opinion)
@@jaceepevey9080How is it horrible to say we should protect our daughters?
@@Possibly_Olivia No that's not what I said,, I said it's horrible you HAVE to say we have to protect our daughters, and just fyi, saying your daughter doesn't have to be a 'prude' makes you sound like a horny 16 year old boy
Itâs so easy to say these things without any kids or knowledge of how they change your life and perspective on responsibility
The first one made me cry bc my parents don't support me, I love u Spencer đ«¶đ«¶đ«¶
âgo be a ballerinaâ like that was smooth and random lol
1000% agree. Good job you will be a great mom! â€â€â€â€
Its actually a bad thing and im not trying to be homophobic but some ppl go to hell for it, god made 2 genders male and female, we pray to thank god that he gave us a gender we pray as a thank you to god,
If your a girl you shoukd be a proud female you be proud that you're a female and should be confident same goes to male. It is considered a bad thing but Americans are trying to normalise this and its not a good thing.
Im not trying to be homophobic but this is also my realigon, you dont have to agree with me but im just saying.
@@itzYuki.are you Muslim?
I literally love you đđđđ
Like the only thing with the outfit is for me is it has to be appropriate for their age/ where they are going ( like school)
i love the way you just
go be a ballerinađ€Łđ€Ł
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Just by the first i Can already tell youâll be a great mom as a queer kid myself, my parents accept me but when i make queer jokes or get excited over something queer they (mostly my mom) get kinda weird about it and try to change subjects
You don't know what you're going to do until you have kids!!! Coming from a father of 4!!!â€đđđđ
Spencer, I love that ur letting ur kids have freedom!
I literally love u! I honestly want u as my mom!
When you tolerate everything, you stand for nothing.
okay i've got the adoption papers, sign here please
That answers all the questions I didn't ask
I think the eating one is problematic if it comes to the point where itâs become unhealthy or their health is at risk, cause u donât want them to die either
You might want to take off your cross necklace or at least continue to study the gospel. As you would notice what God would want you to do. Those who mock the Lord will be persecuted.
Omg chill you don't know what her beliefs are
This is a later comment, but..
Spencer I can't not say how greatful I am. I'm a trans girl, and your channel is beyond helpful. I can't be thankful enough.
My mother recently told me "As a mother, I have to keep you safe. No skirts, no makeup" Things like that.
I see what she was going for, she is trying to keep me safe.
When you say you don't care what your child wears, I thought about that. I love my mom dearly, but your my internet mom lmao
At least ur parents accept u as a girl đ
You're a man
Such a good parent
U would be such a great mom!!đđâšâšđđ
You can still love them and not support their sexuality đ
First comment!
6th like!
The only reason my mom asks âare you *really* gonna eat all thatâ is because she doesnât want me wasting food or want me coming back for more after I said âthis is all Iâm gonna eatâ before my dad comes home from work and eat
I think most people of our generation would be great parents as thereâs so much awareness and thats so good
Real easy to say when you have no kids...trust me
âB- go be a ballerina and slayâđ đ
This is a type of Mom i need
Dude your kid is so lucky! You sound like youâd be an amazing mjm
I feel like she would be an AMAZING mother and her kids would be so lucky and grateful to have her as a mom â€
I agree but the first one like I love that she supports her kids but what if the person her child is dating is like toxic or dangerous but I hope that doesnât happen
Ps love your vids â€đ
Thank you for not caring about who they love I feel like thatâs a really good quality in a parent
Glad to hear Heinz, Laundry and Fajita Barbosa will be in good hands.
Iâm literally crying đâ€
Where were you when I needed a mother?
The "how much they eat" one is a really good one. Me personally, I kinda feel embarrassed to ask my parents for more food because I feel like they are gonna think I'm gaining weight even though I'm underweight lol
Your going to be an amazing mom spencer I already knowâšâšâ€ïžâ€ïž
Youâd be such a great mom! Your kids will love you so much! And your funny too! They will love that about you! â€đ
Sheâs gonna be such a good mom one day â€
WE NEED MORE MOMS LIKE THISSSS!!!!
I love this! And this is exactly what my mom is like, I honestly feel so lucky to a mom like this đ«¶đŒ
I love how she treat all her followers and subs like their her children and o love her smile and hair âșïžâșïž
Itâs either âyour going to eat all thatâ or the âeat everything thatâs on your plateâ
Go be a ballerina đđđâ€ïžâ€ïž
I agree with all acept for the sports one, NO football to many brain injuries! It hurts man!
Youâll be a great mum â€â€â€ love you spencer
I agree with everything, but with the clothes just make sure youâre staying safe â€
Something I won't care abt is if they have bad grades I will support and help but I will not yell bc it made my grades go from As to Fs in days and I hated that
three words. âBE. MY. MOM.â
i love my mom but you seem like youâll be an awesome one
âI wonât be like daddy played hockey so you have to play hockey, GO BE A BALLERINA đ©°âšâ đ
You are gonna be the best mom ever! I feel like many parents donât want their kids to wear certain things and also they are gonna have the best life with you as their mom â€
Your gonna be such a good mom when youâre older â€
Why is this kid so lucky my parents wonât let me even show a little bit of my stomachâs and it sucks smmmm đ
My parents are so strict thanks for being my online mother / bestie
The fact that growing up my parents always told me to cover up because it was inappropriate for skin to show, I was never over weight but the fact that they were paranoid about other things. And I can tell you for a fact, my confidence, and body positivity went down the roof