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What Forgiveness Is and Is Not
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- čas přidán 25. 05. 2021
- Preaching from Romans 12:14,16-19, Pastor Mark gives a very practical talk for Real Men on what forgiveness is and is not.
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I’m no real man, I’m a real woman, but even so have found the series for men so helpful. Feeling very blessed to have come across real faith online.
I'm a woman, but this message hits home. My husband recently left me (a proclaimed Christian), and I'm facing the choice of bitterness or forgiveness daily. It's a hard path, but with God's grace I'll maneuver. Thank you for this message, and I ask that the believers will pray for me and my family. Be blessed.
Now you see how being a Christian doesn't mean anything,cuz even Christians are one bad day away from breaking you and give a bs excuse like "God's will" and leave you in the dust, deconstruct and free yourself and use logic. You can be spiritual and logical
Remember that you cannot change him or control him. You can only control yourself so you need to drop your pride and look internally at your own actions that might’ve caused this. That’s how I grew through my divorce and she cheated on me too, but I need to look at the things that led up to that the same way that you need to.
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Praying for you. I'm in the same boat [proclaimed christian husband left me and our kids].
@@rebekah1836 did he cheat or never proclaim his life to Jesus? If so, UN-biblical divorce.
Just sayin…
I’m a woman and have listened to this twice now, this is one of the most powerful messages on forgiveness I’ve ever heard. It will set you free!
Thank you for this sermon. I spent years trying to forgive but because I confused reconciliation with forgiveness I allowed bitterness to reside. Once able to forgive I reconciled even though they never repented. For the sake of the family I allowed these people back into my life only to have them abuse me again. I have forgiven so that bitterness no longer rules me but I have learned that it’s ok to not have a relationship with these family members. I finally have peace and joy. Thank you Jesus.
Emillieanne3152 you will never know how much your comment opened my eyes, and answered a prayer. There must be too many of us going through this.
I can love them from a distance.
@@megbertch138 I am so sorry you too have experienced this.
@@emillieanne3152 I have prayed for forgiveness over not sharing my life with them for 5 years. I read your comment, then listened to the sermon. Such a weight was lifted. The inner torment was awful. I thought I couldn’t go to Heaven over it, and that was why God wouldn’t answer me. Reading your comment was His answer.
I also had been in that place. What a confusing and horrible place to be. Over and over trying to be apart of their lives, but always same results of hurt and pain. I forgave them and did not go back for more. What a relief. There they sit in that dusty box in my back corner shelf of my brain. When I see them on the street or grocery store I don't feel like throwing darts anymore. TY Father for release.Thank you Mark for this wonderful sermon and the reminder of the power of forgivness♡
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I have been a very bitter petty man for a long time now. Driven away most of my friends and family. Pastor Mark has brought me back to my Bible after years alone. I'm going to listen to this again but I'm so thankful to have found it.
whoa...i just got delivered from bitterness. Praise God.
Wish I could be
@@thewanderingpatriot Lord Bless this Man Free his Heart and mine to Love in Jesus name
Thank You Lord Jesus! To God be all the Glory Honor and Praise!
@@thewanderingpatriotyou could be. But you must want it.
Love this. My 1st husband was abusive to the point of putting me in hospital for my entire pregnancy. He cheat, beat, and used alcohol and drugs which left us cold, Starving and alone without utilities. We annulled the marriage. 48 years later, I kept praying for peace and forgiveness on my and his life. I asked God to bless him with love. At our grandchildren graduation last summer. I was a bit nervous around him. God blessed us that day. I was hugging everyone. He came to me and hugged me and said, "Please forgive me." I said, "I did, years ago. Thanks for this gift for both of us". Even though he did those things, he was a man I loved and the father of my sons. My sons had grown close to him. When God said to forgive one another, he was telling us to free ourselves from the enemy. Forgiveness us a gift to self and robs the devil of a victory. Also, my grandchildren mom was there. She hugged me and told me she loved me. It was an answer to prayer that day. Trust in Him, not yourselves. Gift it, peace and blessings, debi /thank you.
Thank you. You just verbalized what it looks like to forgive. God doesn't expect us to be door mats.
"Don't let the worst day of your life be in the rest of the days of your life". That is a huge revelation for me! Life changing words❤
Pastor Driscoll, thank you for being obedient to the Lord.
We are called to forgive we are not called to trust.
We Are called to Trust God.
@@LenaCenter-hm9by Trust God yes. Not trust man.
Omg yes
My dad who has been a pastor for 26 years does say that we don't just forgive. God requires us to repent. Jesus says in the gospels that if someone asks you to forgive them, to do so, every time they ask. There are protocols to forgiveness. My dad taught me that if they don't own it or repent, you allow God's grace to fill in those hurt spaces. You don't carry bitterness or anger or hate, but you don't necessarily just forgive for forgiveness sake. My ex abused our daughter. He hasn't asked for forgiveness. I am allowing God to fill those spaces but I'm not just forgiving him when he has barely acknowledged that what he did was wrong. I pray for him, I ask God to change his heart, but I haven't just forgiven him for the sake of forgiving him. But I don't carry around the pain. God is healing that. Through His Word and His grace and mercy. Through living Obedient to Him. I do trust that God is the God Justice and will ultimately be his judge. I agree with much of what Pastor Driscoll is saying, so thank you for this message.
It's not forgiving just for the sake of forgiving. You're forgiving him for you and your child's sake.
I read a post on a church billboard once that has stuck with me ‘learn to accept 100% of the apologies you don’t receive’
Forgiveness is giving the burden to Jesus Christ to deal with your ex husband and his behavior. And it allows you to forgive yourself. MOST importantly it allows your daughter to process what happened and not be stuck in YOUR emotions and be able
To work through her own and have you as a resource. If she thinks it will trigger you, she will not turn to you for support. If you can’t do it for yourself do it for her and her healing ❤️🩹 God bless you both in this lifetime journey
If we are to forgive WITHOUT repentence than WHY did God have Luke 17 written?
@@marvelousministry9434 we are not to forgive without repentance. That was my whole point. That we don't just forgive for the sake of forgiving. We repent. We ask for forgiveness, and if a brother or sister in Christ askes you for forgiveness, than 70x 7 times you forgive. I guess I am confused by your comment, sorry.
Boy, did I need to hear this. I don’t think I’ll ever graduate from forgiveness school 🏫 (something always happens). You just gave me the desire to lay it all down before the Lord. The battle is His. I feel lighter now!
Amen!! Me, too!!
I'm not a man... however I really loved watching this study...it definitely helped me see what I can do to find true peace... FORGIVE ❤️ Thank you ❤️
You Go Girl!
I'm sure reviews were lost with the comment of the mother in law. 😮 Forgive your spouse this we must do.
I resonated with so much of this even though I'm a woman, this definitely applies to both genders.
I’m not a man however I really needed this message today… Thank you!
This is a tremendous lesson on forgiveness. There is nothing more liberating than mercy. I think this lesson is good for everyone.
Real woman here, so needed to hear this! ❤❤❤
Same
I am woman this was amazing. You are the first pastor or mature Christian that has helped me make better sense if where I am at in forgiveness with people closest to me. Funny you talk about a letter. Thank you for this amazing teaching! ❤🙏
My name is Steven. Thank you for ALL OF THIS. My house needs forgiveness. I am the hurt they have.
You cannot teach what you dont know. I didn't know how to forgive, so I could not teach it to my children. It wasn't until I had an NDE and YAH touched me, changed me. That I even had the power to forgive. Im so grateful to Him the suffering I went through led me to HIM.
Thank you my family needed this message. It spoke directly into our lives and I just had this conversation a few nights ago with my wife and hurts we suffered.
We just moved to join the ministy and it's been so hard. There has been so many people slandering me, hurting my family. Thank you Jesus for this message. It's time to heal
I honestly think I'm a wonderful hearted and forgiving person by nature...but, I think it's ok to just face the reality that cruel people are either deceived or possessed and it's ok to stay away...and of course, there is no trust...and it's a reality that some people just will not receive your kindness no matter what. So, stay away and attempt to live at peace as much as lies within ourselves.
So glad he jumps right into the message instead of the long intro
Thank you for that!!!
I am a women and not a man, but this teaching is great and needed for all. God bless you for it. Amen
Amen…. Forgiveness began from Genesis… we must persevere. God bless all those who are choosing to forgive. Merry Christmas everyone!🙏🎄💕
Well worth listening to several times.
This message answered my longtime question. Healed me emotionally, psychologically and spiritually. Forgiveness is free, trust is earned. Thank you my Lord Jesus Christ.
I’m a woman & ur sermons help me!! Thanks. ❤️
Ive been following you for some time, and i truly believe that God led me to you. Each sermon ive listened to has been in direct correlation with what is going on in my life. Thank you for doing Gods work❤ i really needed this , especially today
Don’t you find that? Yesterday he shows up in my CZcams feed and I’ve listened to a few on toxic family and feel he is counselling me on my situation personally. It’s time to leave the bad behind and go to the good. God luck in your situation.
This is the BEST sermon on forgiveness I've ever heard! Well done!
Hallelujah!!🎉🤸🏾♀️🎊🤸🏾♀️🎊
I am a woman married to a man who was not well and good, and this message spoke to me more than anything because everything you said is who I was, but I’m choosing this day to not be that person anymore. Thank you Pastor Mark
✝️✨️🌟🙏Pastor Driskoll. Outstandingteaching. Thank you. I am a woman, and I feel this message applies to everyone. I pray GOD bless you, your family, and your ministry always. ✝️✨️🌟🙏
Wow! I’m not a man but this was good. It really spoke to me. Some parts convicted to me where I wept at my desk. This was so good and easy to understand. Pray for me that God will help me to forgive and let go. I want to because I want to be free and I know it’s what I need to do but I’m scared.
Forgiveness is healing ❤️💕 Thank you Jesus that you came to set the captives Free! In which I was one of them! And whom the Son sets Free is Free indeed! Holy Spirit teach us to Forgive that we may walk in Freedom in Jesus Mighty Name❤️💕
Powerful message. Thank you Pastor Mark. Freedom!🎉
I have been betrayed by my own children, my dried and my husband now. I really needed this. I know God has put it in front of me. Thank you! You are very enthusiastic and gifted preacher!❤🙏
I always pray for blessing on those who abuse me now. I always try to do that. If I know they’ve been bullying me I try to bless them.
I am my husband’s email, all girl. This forgiveness message has so blessed me. I am so grateful. Thank you ❤
I want to move to where this church is so I can be there .
My family supports Pastor mark and his wife 100+++%!!!
I’m a warrior woman of GOD yet while Pastor Mark is teaching men, I truly want to listen and glean from his wise words because I know that he has put in tremendous time and effort into researching whatever topic on which he presents! I am always blessed and always grateful and I’m a ‘dogma’ girl so I never tire of listening! Thank you Pastor Mark! ⚔️🛡️⚔️
You Go Girl!
Please join me in prayer for my children. They are broken and are on drugs. They are young and their dad hates God and mocks me and tells our children I'm religious 😢 I forgive him and them and I'm continually making sure I don't hold bitterness.. but I do have righteous anger.. please father break the curses off my seeds.. I pray for all to that are lost and reject you would be convicted and convinced and repent while there is still time ❤❤
Mark!! God is doing work through you man! I’m very grateful I stumbled upon you in this tough time I’m going through. I really needed this to be a Godly man.
All the mega church pastors NEED TO LISTEN TO THIS MAN.
Thank you for your message! This is one that I will re-listen to there are so many nuggets of wisdom! This is a whosoever message and I am blessed that God allowed me to find it. I have shared it with the men in my life that I love and care for and I pray They would be touched as well and changed.
Wow Pastor Mark. Forgiveness is grace, but trust is earned. AMEN!
Thank you pastor I know this is an older video and you may not see this but thank you so much for what you do and teach on REAL bible scripture it’s so helpful and spiritually needed today with so many fake Christian leaders. I know preaching is not for the weak and I’m so grateful God made you strong to do it and have the platform you have so that even though I can’t attend your church because I live far away I get to still feel the Holy Spirit through your preaching online 🙏🏼🥲
I'm a woman, and this teaching is what l have been looking for for over a year of avoiding the scene of the damage, by travelling around in my RV. The letter was written a week ago and sent to my husband, but l unsent it almost immediately. Now l know why l wrote it, and what to do with it. Then l will turn my bus around and start heading back... To a new future. Thank you so much!
Thank you!! Best teachings on Forgiveness I have heard and so true!!
Reminds me exactly of going thru the 12 Steps, after steps 4 & 5 forgiving myself and God, the letters I wrote and put away for several days then reread and then ripped to shred.
Got to Step 8 & 9 making Amens when I could. Hardest part was focusing solely on my behavior, never bringing up what they did to me. Forgiveness & letting it go. Yes it does come back: 15 years later had to have surgery to repair damages.
God Bless, it has been well worth it. 🙏
Great explanation regarding Trust. No do not allow our children to be left alone with Abusers!
Thank you for this sermon, it has helped me to find more areas of my life to invite the Holy Spirit into.
Pastor Mark, I really needed to hear this message. I'm very thankful the way God spoke to me through your message and examples. I'm in South Australia , just so you know your reaching out to us down hear. Cheers mate- Rik
I know this is geared towards men but I'm taking this for myself.
Needed this good word today and it came at the right time
I wish so much that there was a pastor here in SC like pastor mark and his wife- I’m struggling- I miss a strong based church like what I grew up in.
My husband and I pull up CZcams sermons from their church all the time.
Almost every day I listen to their church.
It’s sad the state of the church these days. I REFUSE to go to a shtty church. With a luke warm pastor !! I REFUSE IT.
Thinking about eternity makes it easy to forgive as I shift my focus to their souls and salvation. My hurt now comes from the fact that they don't own it or apologize as that indicates the condition of their hearts. My siblings were confirmed into Anglican church. It's a works based doctrine. I pray that God opens their eyes and hearts so they can seek salvation. I was raised separately in a Christian verse by verse church.
This sermon is wonderfully comprehensive. Thank you Pastor!!
Just what I needed to hear, at the right time...
I just watched 2 years later.. ALL messages from you have helped me. Love u 2 Pastor Driscoll
A true brother in Christ here. Wow! Love all the sermons!! Please keep sharing!
Well done good and faithful servant.
So so so gooood 🔥🔥🔥🔥. Thanks Pastor and team for not removing the teachings. We are really blessed with the teachings .
Thank you.Pastor Mark. This is a great surmon Washington state lost a great pastor. Am glad I can still watch you here. 😊
I'm a woman and just listened to this sermon. I'm a Christian but unfortunately can be a world class grudge holder. There's so much about forgiveness that I just didn't 'get'. I now realize there were a couple of key pieces that I was missing. I now understand; I believe I now have the heart to be able to start to really forgive - and to do so willingly. Things are different - this sermon flipped the script for me. Thank you Pastor! Praise God!
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I need to watch this daily. My life has been hard. I’m 51 years old. I grew up with both parents daily drinkers. My father was more a care giver( my sister had different views, I believe her, her life was pretty hard, I miss her. I was hard on her wanting her to change I didn’t get the chance to say sorry before she died) my mom was more abusive/ role reverse. All my relationships have been very abusive, taking breaks in between working on self saying never again. Friends 48:49 advantage and family. I tried hard to forgive and forget think it help to forget as a way to cope. Abuse is all I know. Something happened a piece of my heart is gone 2 years ago. I go to bed crying wake up crying lately I’m very angry and say how can I ever forgive that. I’m stuck I keep thinking about 2 years ago, like I’m in pause 4I need to let it go. My life is full of pain but that was the worst. I thought I was here just to suffer. I don’t want to go to hell. I can show love, give love I need to help others not a want. I don’t know how to love me and realize the other day I don’t totally trust God. My faith is strong God is the reason I’m still here. Advice needed can’t take anymore evil
where in the bible does it command/teach us to forgive wicked, evildoers, sons of Satan?
which is what abusers are
This guy is a legend, love you bro
I really needed to hear this today as last night I learnt that a family member did something over 35 years ago to me that I didn't know about but now, not seeing them since then makes perfect sense. I have wondered about a situation for that long and finally, the truth came out. I think understanding is essential to be able to forgive.
Him and Jimmy evans.. based preachers.. wish My family could be a part of their church.
Thank you pastor Driscoll for this sermon. How much I needed to hear this message!
This is where all the Real God fearing Men have gone ,im a women and love this finally.
Love this pastor ! God bless him and his family! Thank you for sharing truth and the good news!
This is something I so needed to hear and understand at this point in my life.
Any pastor who tells a woman to call her family and say she forgives them "and you'll be blessed," without listening to the years of abuse that family, especially the MOTHER did is pimping cheap grace and offering a hope so false and destructive that it can end the ability to forgive the abusers or herself. It is NOT always safe to call someone, not even a mother and pronounce forgiveness when that mother can use it against her daughter in a way that can all but destroy her. YES, Forgive but listen to what Pastor Driscall is saying. There IS a way to forgive without opening a door that only gets used to further destroy you.
It's complicated when they are hurting your kids and legally nothing you can do about it.
Ummm...everyone is forgiven. Those in Hell have rejected the free gift.
Oh My Gosh! This was for med buy Oh My Gosh! This woman needed to hear this. I’ve been carrying I forgiveness for over 20 years. Thank you for your sermon. ❤❤❤❤❤
Father God, thank you for your Deliverance. Thank you, Pastor Mark for being a vessel to teach and spread God's sho nuff Word to us about forgiveness, to the NATIONS!! 🌍 Hallelujah I AM FREEEEEEE!!! What a REVELATION!! 🙏🏾🎉🤸🏾♀️🎊🤸🏾♀️🎊🤸🏾♀️🎊🤸🏾♀️🎊🤸🏾♀️🎊🤸🏾♀️🎊🙏🏾
Thank you for this sermon. I needed to hear this, needed it explained. I have a very toxic sister that causes great pain to the whole family. I thought I forgave her, but realize now I really did not. I cut her out of my life but now working on forgiveness. I want to continue to help her children & have relationships with them.
Amen Brother! Thank you for this words!❤
I am seeing this 2 years later but is s message I needed . I am bitter, angry and hurt. I want others to feel the pain I feel. I have to forgive and move forward. I am the worst to bring up the past because I do not know how to just let it go. I am non trusting and think someone is always out to get me . Thank you for this message
This man is gifted by God
Not a man but definitely benefitted greatly from this sermon 🙏
I really needed this. Thank you.
Thankyou for the edification and encouragement.
Thank you Pastor I needed to hear this
Thank you! This is fire! 🎉🎉🎉
Thank you Pastor Mark, that has been the most helpful and practical help in my ability to forgive from the heart. I’m a senior, have loved Jesus for decades but have not been able to be used fully by Him because of bitterness and unforgiveness. I used to be very strong but my body is chronically sick, now. It jumped out at me when you said about our willingness to pay the thousand dollar debt -willingly- I said “I can do that!” It just seemed to all click! (Jesus paid my Million dollar debt)!Your annointed words and obedience have literally saved many lives in so many ways! Thank you! ❤
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Great teaching. Thank you, Holy Spirit, for allowing it to cross my path. Thank you, Lord. AMEN. ❤❤❤
Thank you brother 🙏may the Lord Bless You sir 🙏 ❤
Thank you pastor Mark! God bless you and your family 🙏😇.
Pastor Mark knows that.
I think about this dog sitter I had that stole family heirlooms and denied it and lied to everyone about it. Everyone believed her because she was this “nice older lady who never stole from them.” It ate me up with rage and anger. I am never getting those things back that meant so much. I realized it’s because she never owned her mistake. She never once apologized and never once tried to make things right. I could forgive her if she did repent. We hear that word so often, it almost feels like a sin just to say the word. It has a certain connotation to it. But, it dawned on me that this is the reason that we as Gods children much repent to him and go to confession and repent the things we have done to God. The Bible has laws that I have broken before but if I never attempt to make it right with God, then I am just as bad as that lady who stole from me. God wants you to feel love and God doesn’t want you to have a heavy heart. I think forgiveness can come by acknowledging your mistake and acknowledging your role in the hurt you have done to others or that others have done to you and then understand that is how God feels about us. He wants to hear and acknowledge the things we have done wrong. We hurt him too. I think the word forgiveness is a blanket statement, but you can forgive meaning let the hurt go because Anger is like drinking poison, and expecting the other person to die.
I have been falsely accused of taking something from a family that I worked for, a dryer ball! It doesn’t matter that it cost nothing to replace it, it was that I was falsely accused, that ANYONE even thought that I could do something so petty…and then Lie about it. It’s been very hard for me to forgive this betrayal of trust 😢
You are body, soul, and SPIRIT.
I hope my sons could hear you. They are great men but they could greatly benefit from your real Honesty about life ,difficulties and handling issues like you advise. Sometimes people especially men feel all alone in their pain.2🎉
I can't stop sharing these videos and the short instagram ones to my youngest brother, because some of us in my father's family can't take it in on the language, we were born into speaking.
My mom held on to the bitterness and refused to forgive her brother, my uncle for trying to take her house away till the day she passed away. I tried my best to just get her to forgive him. You don't have to talk to him, just forgiving. You can do it here at the house. He doesn't have to know you don't have to contact them and her response was I can never forgive him of what he did and she stayed bitter the entire time about that. There were other things that happened by them in her childhood as she got older. The more bitter she became about it and she refused to forgive even about things when they were children and it wasn't just them. It was other people my dad. She wouldn't forgive him of things that he did before he passed away and I tried to tell her that you know he's gone. You're never going to get the apology you're wanting. Forgive him that you would do it. I really think that a lot of people hang on to that bitterness and that unforgiving because it gives them a connection to what happened and they're not ready to let it go. You have to be ready to let it go to forgive and sometimes that's harder than the forgiveness. I know that I have found times that I have to really work on the letting it go and when I find that I am still holding on to the bitterness, I make a conscious effort to let it go. I'm not going to hold on to this. I'm not going to dwell on this. This is over. It is passed. It is not controlling what I do today. Something that I had to tell my mom a lot of times because she would get into this bitterness pattern. I would tell her is that keeping you from eating ice cream tonight and answered always be no. Is that keeping you from watching you TV show tonight? Answer is always be now. Is that keeping you from having a wonderful time? The wonderful night tonight and if it is maybe you should let it go. It's not keeping you from doing what you want to do but it is taking away from your happiness and your your having a pleasant night and she would stop talking about it. Stop dwelling on it when she pick up her tablet and she'd start watching TV and watching her shows. And for anybody's going to wonder your she had a tablet that she could take anywhere she wanted to go and she could watch her TV shows and whatever she wanted to do her facebook. All of that stuff player games a little bit of entertainment she could take with her and she had a headset so she could listen to it and not disturb everybody around her wonderful setup because if she wanted to be outside she could be outside and still kind of have what she wanted to do I'm a tablet. Became her favorite thing to have
I am not bitter. I have allowed God to fill me with His grace and mercy. I know what bitterness does, I am just saying, that Jesus said that if one repents, than forgive. God requires us to repent in order to gain salvation in Christ. He does not just freely give salvation to everyone who rejects Him. We stand condemned already if we do not believe and repent. John 3:17. I was just saying the I think sometimes we view forgiveness incorrectly.
You are showing love to your mom by supporting her to forgive her brother, dad, and everyone, even if they do not repent. Her forgiving spirit will set her free and she will feel better though she may not realize it yet because she still has feelings about it; also, we do what God wants us to do, in obedience, no matter how our flesh feels; Jesus will take care of the rest, halleluyah❤
Well unfortunately she passed away several years ago and the only one she forgave was the one brother. No one else you forgave and we'd had talks about forgiveness for years and we both understood that that was for us but she just would not let go of that and she passed away. Still holding on to bitterness and hatred for those that she never would forgive. And then I tried my best to get her to forgive them. There were no longer in her life. They would never be a part of her life. You just would not forgive them
He's a "best life now"
Wow Pastor Mark. Thank you. I love you too. ❤
I've been listening to you for a few weeks and I'm a female
This is such good wisdom. Thank you for this lesson.
You are a amazing teacher.
Best sermon on forgiveness I think I have ever heard, don’t know this Pastor just wondering why he is only preaching to only men in any video of him I have seen???
Thank you.
Thank you so much! I needed to hear this.
I grew up with this. It's family you have to put up with family. Does oh they stole from you or doesn't matter that it was. You know your car or or your means to make a living. It's okay they needed it. Why can't they stay with you? They got no other place to stay with you. It's okay if they take everything and sell it and go to the casino with it. I don't trust family and it's because of what family has done to me. My mom, my brother that makes me not trust them and unfortunately I don't trust extended family for the same reason. What extended family has done to me and said oh but we're family. I'm literally had them say but we're family and giggle and do it again The people that can hurt you the most is family. The people that can abuse you the most is family. The people who can tear you down the hardest is family and the people who will abandon you. The fastest is family and the people who will come back to you and criticize you and curse at you for not letting them continue or do it again is family I live more than an hour away from my family. My wife lives several hours away from her family and for the same reasons we don't trust family
Two things for you:
1. This same pastor did a wonderful presentation called: When to Sever Ties with Toxic Family Members. I just watched it. Then I saw this one on forgiveness.
2. There's a book out about how family abuse effected a woman born with congenital rubella due to her mother's exposure to German Measels during her pregnancy with her and the abuse she lived with for over three decades: INVISIBLE: WHEN FEAR AND SHAME CAUSE YOU TO HIDE. It's received very good reviews.
There is a deeper pain when a family member violates your trust. I used to be a person who would have done anything for my family. Once I lost trust in family it made trusting anyone difficult. I couldn’t allow anyone to get close to me. But Trust is earned and I finally have great friends who have become my true family. I have my sister trust when she didn’t earn it. That was my mistake. Blind trust in family is a recipe for disaster. We see people as we are, not who they actually are.
@@emillieanne3152 yeah I have a trust problem. Definitely I don't have much to do with any of the family, my brothers and another state. He's the closest I have much to do with and I have one cousin that I have recently started talking to. I don't have many friends. I have a problem letting people get close enough. Never even thought about it being a problem that started with family. Never had a lot of friends. Kept my friend circle really small and as soon as trust became an issue I kicked them away. Had nothing to do with them. That could have been a mistake. Probably was everybody makes mistakes like I said, I never thought about family being the reason I don't trust people. I watched my mom's brothers. My uncles try to take her house away. Take her to court to take her house away. And they finally found a judge that was sympathetic to them but he made them sell it back to her definitely problems there