I never really felt poor till I began medical school and realised that most of my coursemates already came from a family of doctors, two parents, private school etc...
Are you poor, or are you marking the beginning of a new era with hard work, tenacity and courage as an asset to inspire people around you? Wealth isn't always about currency,: it's also a set of character traits that yield and accrue value over time.
I didn't realise how incredibly smart Ibz Mo was until this video. Coming from a less privileged background with unsupportive family and yet you're able to attend Cambridge and Oxford that's incredible
@@ravenclawsunshine7491 how does a "backup" work anyway? I thought you just apply to the schools normally, and they will just accept you if they like you.
0726 yeah you’re right but people have backups in case they don’t get accepted into their top/first choice. So it’s nothing to do with the schools but you as a person. E.g i apply to Harvard and that was my main choice and I really wanted to get accepted, but because I don’t have 100% assurance that they’ll pick me I need to have back ups. The back ups are normally schools that are a bit easier to get into or if you’re like him and are too smart the back ups will just be other top unis. Did that make sense? I feel like I made it too long...
Oh my! You hit the nail on the head every single time. This video NEEDS to be seen by so many people. State school cannot mean ‘disadvantaged’, 93% of the UK population attends a state school. Some state schools are phenomenal and out do their local private school, yes there are plenty of bad state schools too but we need to get away from this state = bad as that’s not always true. Particularly recently I’ve seen many people claim that they are ‘disadvantaged’ when in fact they are so incredibly privileged. It’s like people are embarrassed to acknowledge their privilege and the huge inequalities in this country. Coming from a disadvantaged background is being romanticised. Have these people been to a council estate? Have they seen the children at school begging their classmates for money to buy lunch because their parents earn a few pounds over the threshold for FSM? Or the girl who is working so hard to break the cycle of poverty for her family but gets yelled at every maths lesson for not having a calculator when in reality she just can’t afford it. Or the siblings that everyone at school gossips about because they smell sometimes when at home they are forced to share the same bath water? But little Johnny who goes to a brilliant grammar school, who’s parents are well educated and supportive, who has his own room and doesn’t have to think about how much the weekly food shop will cost claims he’s ‘disadvantaged’ because he goes to a state school??? People need to educate themselves, they need to listen to and talk to people from all different backgrounds and hear first hand what it’s like. There’s more to privilege than what type of school you went to or what county you live in. I meet too many people who think they know enough and therefore refuse to educate themselves any more when in reality they haven’t got a clue.
This couldn't be more true, not everyone who goes to a state school is at a complete disadvantage, there are a lot of families that send their children to state schools that pay for extra tuition, extracurricular activities and fund opportunities such as summer schools. Mostly, it is children from these families that end up in Oxbridge or Russell group universities. Though I wouldn't say that they are in any way as privileged as upper class families, state schools are made up of a mix of both working class and middle class students. So to assume the claim that all state school students are from the same socio-economic backgrounds just because they attend the same educational institution does injustice towards the students who cannot afford those extra tuition classes, trips, summer schools or even something as little but significant as a bus fare on the way to school! I speak as a Black Muslim woman who went to a state school from a very working class background.
Durham alumni here 👋🏻 I totally agree with you about being more analytical about the class divide thing. Not all private school kids are enemies and not all state school kids are humble allies. Private vs state school is a very crude way of understanding class to be honest, and we’ve all been guilty for seeing it in such simple terms, at least I have.
@@ajsmoth3509 I was just trying to offer my thoughts on another wealthy university and my experience there. I’m sorry if this offended you or annoyed you in some way.
One thing I noticed as a disadvantaged student in uni (single parent, poor, dysfunctional mother dealing with alcoholism and mental health issues) is the lack of confidence i had in tutorials compared to my peers. I had never grown up in an environment where my family was interested in what I had to say and my state school wasn't academic. It took me until my third year to realise that I was just as capable as the advantaged/"normal" kids in my classes and learned to speak up. It's hard to speak about academic or political issues when you've never had anyone encouraging this type of thought before and in your family life you often had to stay quiet to stay safe. This confidence takes so long to build.
I got 8 A*s and 2A's at GCSE and really wanted to go to Oxford Uni for medicine but was discouraged due to my low self esteem and by college teachers. Wish I had seen this then.
@Melis M hahha that is the plan. I guess the lesson is: never let your socioeconomic status or the opinion of teachers (who hardly know you) to get in the way of your dreams
Ibz man idk why I’m saying this but I got an A in my eng lit- I thought I wouldn’t live to see the day I would get an A in English Lit for Alevels. This is so random but you’ve genuinely helped me through so much
Totally agree with you on the lack of family support. Come from a difficult family background. I'm a medical student so have a lot of people around me who are very privileged in that sense (money/no money), have had parents micromanaging their lives, cook and clean for them and it's really difficult to not feel like you've missed out or upset because they have something that you only wish you had.
You nearly made me cry when you mentioned the kids who have parents that invest in their kids lives. It feels so alien to me when i see it around me and when my friends talk about it. Been watching you for years Ibz and it’s nice to have a POC role model, I feel like kids of colour really need more role models like you.
the supportive family point especially resonated with me, thank you for that as I unfortunately am not able to receive financial or emotional support from my parents in any way. I'm applying to Cambridge this October and the point about becoming your own supportive family is something I will take in stride.
There are pros and cons to being from a dispriviledged background. I come from Bradford and went to a state school and I feel like it’s made me become a stronger person than a private school student because I’ve had to learn to not take shit from people and seen what happens when you don’t try in life, which has pushed me to work harder. You’ll be more humbled and you’ll be able to see life from everyone’s perspective which can really help you in your future.
I didn't have a supportive family ...until I got into University. Suddenly I was no longer a "bum" so they cared. -.- Still feels weird going back to my old ex-mining council estate full of drugs.
thank you, so much saying private school kids not all the same or what you think they are. My parent( teacher and nurse) work very hard for go to private school because give me more support.
What do you mean by "more support", I live in South England, the school I go to, deemed by ofsted, is inadequet Yet, the teachers are very supportive, hosting agter school interventions, its just the students.
I found my original student finance application recently that showed my single parent household income being declared as £4500 A YEAR. Not £45k but £4.5k. Now within a few years of graduating I’m making about £6k a month. One international student was shocked when they learned I was there “on a loan”, but apart from that I never had any problems.
I feel like a disadvantaged student in my state school and watching this video I feel like I need to say there's always going to be someones worse off than you so practicing gratefulness no matter what your situation really helps.
The unsupportive family part was heartbreaking, but this is the truth and I appreciate you Ibz for sharing your story so honestly... This is what keeps us going!!!
I totally agree that one of the biggest disadvantages is money/family. I am also from a council estate, first generation to go to uni. I worked two part time jobs up to 30 hours per week throughout my full time BSc and it was so tough. I went to KCL, and living in London is NOT cheap. Plus, my family did not finish school (let alone uni), so I really felt alone knowing how to navigate the academic struggle sometimes!
@@user-si3jr3nn7o Working two jobs alongside uni! A weekend one and a weekday one. Searching out cheaper accommodation relative to the average in London.
@@user-si3jr3nn7o Oh I graduated a few years ago! I did a BSc and lived in halls first year, but then you have to rent elsewhere for the remainder of your degree. Was at Guys and Waterloo campus at the time.
Thank you for this! That was really useful :) I'm moving in to Cambridge in a few days, and after that A-level fiasco I was initially rejected. I was honestly in awe with how many alumni reached out to me to fight my case. I'm also a BAME student from a disadvantaged background. My downgraded grades were changed and as you may have guessed, I got my place back! Starting Physical Natural Sciences this year :)
Thankyou for recognising that the state school/private school thing isn’t black and and white. Disadvantage is so much more than that and sadly people look at it as a black and white issue. I definitely find it being disabled thinking someone visibly disabled is “more disabled” without considering the whole of the person. You can’t compare.
I feel this experience & a slight imposter syndrome working in a professional field (accounting) with being from a poor background. Sometimes I just can't relate to my colleagues buying houses at below 25. But even though I may not have even progressed in the financial sense (even if earning well) I have definitely culturally progressed in the social mobility sense! OMGGG, counselling has been my life saviour especially post uni & undoing childhood traumas / understanding why I am the way I am! thank you for this video :)
I agree but it’s not private school students fault that they have privileged parents. As a parent of two private school educated girls, I can categorically state that my children were very aware of the hard work we were putting in and our own humble beginnings which were always made known to them. Arrogance was never an option especially so due to our Muslim faith. I don’t think they ever realised that they were even going to a private school until much later as we never talked about money unless it was in the capacity of budgeting or financial education, where they were always told you have to assume your starting point is zero. My children’s were very aware we had a budget and that expenses had to managed and money was not free-flowing. They packed their own lunches as there was no money for lunch, maybe only once a week as a treat. So yes arrogance should never be an option 👌👍
Thank you so much for this video! I grew up in a very abusive household and thankfully my teacher helped me going to a foster home because it was getting too bad when I was 15. I am studying Biochemistry now and I plan on applying to Oxford for my grad studies and I was always wondering how it could be and you really opened my eyes and prepared me for that but moreover I feel seen right now because it feels like no one talks about the REALLY disadvantaged students. Thank you!
I go to a different uni in a different country, but I can relate to every single thing said in this video!! Thank you Ibz for putting words on all of this. Sometimes I feel ashamed to talk about this stuff like I’d be trying to show myself as a victim or something. But no, it’s just our lives and like you said we have to accept it and actively work harder. When I’m feeling defeated in uni, I’m definitely coming back to this video for encouragement 🧡
I really relate to mo I also have been living in hackney after my parents got divorced I'm going college atm and my mum is also a single mum. ngl this vid helped me a lot to know that even people like me can aim high and get to places like you have.
Hello. I watched a video of yours about a year ago and really didn't like it. I thought you were entitled and arrogant and a typical negative stereotype of the Cambridge student, coming from my judgment from a state school and poor family. However, I could not have been more wrong. I've started watching you as of about 2 weeks ago and the challenges you have overcome are incredible and you faced everything with a smile and joke. This video is so refreshing and will really help me. Thank you so much. Keep thriving. Sorry for the misjudgment. Youve proved me wrong a hundred times over.
as a private (secondary) school student i can vouch that we’re not all arrogant. my parents saved and saved for my education, we never went on holiday and my clothes were usually secondhand, unlike most of the kids at my state primary school. even so i know i’ve gotta be aware of the privileges my education gave me, and how increasing accessibility for disadvantaged students should be more of a priority for elite unis like oxbridge
Ibz... this is the realest video. You dissected every aspect of uni life that working class people/marginalised people/racialised people from lower socio-economic backgrounds face that NEVER GETS PUT OUT THERE! You make us all feel so seen and inshsalla Allah blesses you with all your dreams come true..you truly truly deserve it. so much love xoxo
Ibz, you have matured so much! Good Luck for the future! i can relate to lack of support at uni. I used to think my friends had weird families as they were so close and supportive. Then i realised it was more to do with me, and my reality.
I so get the private school student incidents. I just started at a sixth form which is connected to a grammar school and alot of students went private school or come from wealthy backgrounds. I was quite shocked at some things I've heard them say about people of my background but that was only 1 or 2 people
Totally agree with point 6: "stop using state school to mean disadvantage". I attended a state school from year 7-13 and although it was underfunded and quite literally falling down, the teaching was decent and the school had higher than average GCSE grades. I don't believe I was ever disadvantaged from attending that school. Also, I qualify for some "disadvantaged student" programs simply because I was a first generation university student -- the one I have in mind was an Oxford summer research program. I really don't see how my parents not having been to university would make it more difficult for me to go to university than any other student from my school, simply based on that one thing. Your parents won't be able to help you with your work (unless they did a similar subject I guess) and it doesn't make admission or being there any easier. Plus I've already graduated and this program wants students and/or graduates, making this "disadvantage" already more redundant. Really sorry if I've missed something out here and if I look really ignorant. I do think I'm very well off/privileged. I just think it's unfair that sometimes I fall into a disadvantaged category, not for myself, but for other people who genuinely need the support.
I really hope I can be as strong as you when I start uni in September. I've had a job since I was 15, and I haven't asked for a penny from my parents since I was 16. I've been working 30 hours a week alongside my a-levels so I can have money for when I start and I will still be working alongside my degree. I am not going to a top uni as they didn't offer my course but I'm sure it will still be tricky!
I'm sorry to hear your family don't support you. But I think that only goes to emphasise your strength, you were able to achieve so much even when the entire world was telling you "no". It's your tenacity that makes you such an inspiration to me. I'm applying to Cambridge this year, so this video in particular was so helpful and needed. Thank you for being so honest and always looking out for all of us working class students from disadvantaged backgrounds, it really means so much to see someone like you achieving so much. I've been following your journey for like the past two years and it's crazy how far you've come. You deserve to be so so proud of your achievements and honestly I'm so proud too. It's disheartening to think about how we have to work harder to get the same things as privileged people, but it means that our achievements feel so much more real because we really had to fight for it. But yeah you really inspire me, thank you for this video!
Just had to say, hearing you mention Malaysia was so shocking because it's so rare to hear youtubers mention my country! Anyway I'm glad you're doing so great in life, keep it up
I am SO glad I just came across this video. I completely identify with everything discussed here. I am from a very very council estate, I have two disabled students and all the other things mentioned. I also have never mentioned this to anyone at uni, I'm in my 4th year. I have always just hid the fact that I am actually very poor and I have 0 support (emotionally, financially, academically) . This video makes me feel like I shouldn't hid it anymore. I want to address the issue! I suffer from low self-esteem because my peers have a lot of money and resources. They have much more time than me due to help from their families. I basically run everything myself and have been doing so from I was 16. This video is so encouraging. Thank you so much!
This video made me realise a state school education does not automatically make you a disadvantaged student. The privilege I have coming from a supportive middle-class family puts me at such a great advantage regardless of where I attended school. Though I do not feel I appropriate working-class culture or have ever pretended to come from a rough area, I think it's all too easy for state school students (especially advantaged ones) to fall into the victim mindset - pinning any academic struggles on their state school education. Thank you for opening my eyes on what it really means to be a disadvantaged student and why this distinction is so importan!!
"From the North" 😂😂😂 Thanks for the shout out. ♡ I just visited Oxford today/yesterday. Realised on the train back, I didn't hear a single Northern voice whilst I was there. Do you know of any Northerners there?
Im learning so much from this video. the point about having family support is so important yet this is the first time I’m hearing about it. great video, ibz! 💕
talking about being family deprived I experienced this during my undergrad which affected t my GPA and I'm so tired now explaining it to oxford...akhh .so I really understand your point of the importance of having a support system.
Bless you so much for this video im thinking of applying to Cambridge in the 2021 academic year. i am also a first generation student and from a low income family and dyslexic. This video helped me so much. I still feel very inspired to apply!
It’s refreshing to see your opinion on private school students at your time at University. Personally, from 11-16 I went to an all girls, private school- but that was because my parents COULD after a death in the immediate family. Both my parents knew I would thrive better in a smaller class, and the likelihood of me being bullied (shy kid problems with hyperactive joints - two things which would have probably made me a target). Throughout my time (am going to uni) I’ve always been taught to treat people with kindness and respect, and it breaks me to be treated differently (yes, it happens) by state school children who see me as “privileged”. I wouldn’t have been in that situation if it wasn’t for another situation, and yes there are private school kids that are arseholes (mummy and daddy buy me 3 horses for my birthday and a Ferrari- we know the type, right?) but private school kids, and my friends I’ve made are not the enemy, and to be fair there are so many people I’ve met with learning difficulties/ autism or other conditions that if they went to a local state school, they wouldn’t have had the support , and probably would’ve been left behind because of it. This is not me saying “private schools are elite” by any means. I’m grateful for what my parents did for me, and I’ve never once looked down on someone because they didn’t have the same upbringing. I think there needs to be more done to bring private school and state school kids together because there’s so many stereotypes on both sides and it isn’t fair for anyone!
I achieved the grades to apply to do my degree at Oxford/Cambridge. My dad encouraged me to apply and I remember thinking I wouldn't fit in there because I am poor and black. It's a shame but hopefully times change so more kids feel it isn't an obstacle for them. This video is great for that!
10/10 i would vote for you as Prime Minister. We need more people like you. I relate to a lot of these things. I didn't skip ads. Only person on youtube I do this for, now subscribed
Some state school kids especially from Surrey and bucks are incredibly privileged vs say from clacton or Redcar. Reminds me of jack monroe claiming to be disadvantaged when she was brought up in a rich family. And she claims to be a person of colour because her grandfather was from cyprus.
I got a shock when I went to University as I had never met anybody that wealthy before. I did notice at the time the family aspect was difficult for me and as such I struggled with my mental health. Many of my friends were heavily supported and comfortable thanks to their family. They didn't understand why I was struggling to cope so badly. I had to work and you know I have had to work harder but perhaps never gave myself that credit.
You're right it's not a guarantee of success but we shouldn't act like our societal system doesn't put a pedestal on students who do attend oxbridge, or Schools such as Harvard, Stanford, Princeton, MIT etc. and that suddenly makes it easier to navigate into different sectors.
It's a short term success not a long term success, but it's a great achievement and something to be proud of. There's plenty of different ways of reaching a long term success, including and not including uni as a pathway 😊
I acc started my a levles last september in a British private school in Spain (i moved from Eastern europe) and it was such a change. And not necesserlly for good. For sure the education Is very diff then in my country. I feel like a impostor bc i went all my life to public school that were just avarage. So a lot of things you said resonate, bc the most people although they are super nice and my family now, sometimes we are so different and sometimes it speaks volumes
I never really felt poor till I began medical school and realised that most of my coursemates already came from a family of doctors, two parents, private school etc...
Are you poor, or are you marking the beginning of a new era with hard work, tenacity and courage as an asset to inspire people around you? Wealth isn't always about currency,: it's also a set of character traits that yield and accrue value over time.
@@Blueocean881 wealth also just means having money
I didn't realise how incredibly smart Ibz Mo was until this video. Coming from a less privileged background with unsupportive family and yet you're able to attend Cambridge and Oxford that's incredible
Yup! Lol, Oxford and Cambridge were his backup for his master's. His first choice was Harvard.
Ravenclaw Sunshine imagine oxford and cambridge being a backup 😭
@@ravenclawsunshine7491 how does a "backup" work anyway? I thought you just apply to the schools normally, and they will just accept you if they like you.
0726 yeah you’re right but people have backups in case they don’t get accepted into their top/first choice. So it’s nothing to do with the schools but you as a person. E.g i apply to Harvard and that was my main choice and I really wanted to get accepted, but because I don’t have 100% assurance that they’ll pick me I need to have back ups. The back ups are normally schools that are a bit easier to get into or if you’re like him and are too smart the back ups will just be other top unis.
Did that make sense? I feel like I made it too long...
He is such an inspiration!
Ibz is the only person that I don't skip ads for. You are the best
The definition of ask nicely and I’ll do it !
Exactlyyy
sees the title: *does not skip an ad*
Oh my! You hit the nail on the head every single time. This video NEEDS to be seen by so many people. State school cannot mean ‘disadvantaged’, 93% of the UK population attends a state school. Some state schools are phenomenal and out do their local private school, yes there are plenty of bad state schools too but we need to get away from this state = bad as that’s not always true. Particularly recently I’ve seen many people claim that they are ‘disadvantaged’ when in fact they are so incredibly privileged. It’s like people are embarrassed to acknowledge their privilege and the huge inequalities in this country.
Coming from a disadvantaged background is being romanticised. Have these people been to a council estate? Have they seen the children at school begging their classmates for money to buy lunch because their parents earn a few pounds over the threshold for FSM? Or the girl who is working so hard to break the cycle of poverty for her family but gets yelled at every maths lesson for not having a calculator when in reality she just can’t afford it. Or the siblings that everyone at school gossips about because they smell sometimes when at home they are forced to share the same bath water?
But little Johnny who goes to a brilliant grammar school, who’s parents are well educated and supportive, who has his own room and doesn’t have to think about how much the weekly food shop will cost claims he’s ‘disadvantaged’ because he goes to a state school??? People need to educate themselves, they need to listen to and talk to people from all different backgrounds and hear first hand what it’s like. There’s more to privilege than what type of school you went to or what county you live in. I meet too many people who think they know enough and therefore refuse to educate themselves any more when in reality they haven’t got a clue.
This couldn't be more true, not everyone who goes to a state school is at a complete disadvantage, there are a lot of families that send their children to state schools that pay for extra tuition, extracurricular activities and fund opportunities such as summer schools. Mostly, it is children from these families that end up in Oxbridge or Russell group universities. Though I wouldn't say that they are in any way as privileged as upper class families, state schools are made up of a mix of both working class and middle class students. So to assume the claim that all state school students are from the same socio-economic backgrounds just because they attend the same educational institution does injustice towards the students who cannot afford those extra tuition classes, trips, summer schools or even something as little but significant as a bus fare on the way to school! I speak as a Black Muslim woman who went to a state school from a very working class background.
Yes! - even selective grammar schools can be classed as a state school which is very different to a low performing comprehensive school.
Durham alumni here 👋🏻 I totally agree with you about being more analytical about the class divide thing. Not all private school kids are enemies and not all state school kids are humble allies. Private vs state school is a very crude way of understanding class to be honest, and we’ve all been guilty for seeing it in such simple terms, at least I have.
Agreed! I definitely saw it that way, now I'm understanding how nuanced it really is.
@@ajsmoth3509 I was just trying to offer my thoughts on another wealthy university and my experience there. I’m sorry if this offended you or annoyed you in some way.
Elizabeth Jane oh shit I’m sorry I shouldn’t of said that i saw some meme and tried to implement it. Sorry if I did hurt your feelings
Yeah there are bursary kids in private schls who earn less than their state school counterparts
okayyyy so Ibz really meant it when he said he'd stick to a schedule
One thing I noticed as a disadvantaged student in uni (single parent, poor, dysfunctional mother dealing with alcoholism and mental health issues) is the lack of confidence i had in tutorials compared to my peers. I had never grown up in an environment where my family was interested in what I had to say and my state school wasn't academic. It took me until my third year to realise that I was just as capable as the advantaged/"normal" kids in my classes and learned to speak up. It's hard to speak about academic or political issues when you've never had anyone encouraging this type of thought before and in your family life you often had to stay quiet to stay safe. This confidence takes so long to build.
I got 8 A*s and 2A's at GCSE and really wanted to go to Oxford Uni for medicine but was discouraged due to my low self esteem and by college teachers. Wish I had seen this then.
Sorry to hear this, teachers discouraged me also! Seems to be a big problem
You should apply or do gap year and apply!!
@Melis M lol this is years ago. Currently in my final year of Med at Warwick Uni lol. Still regret not applying to oxford tho lol
@Melis M hahha that is the plan. I guess the lesson is: never let your socioeconomic status or the opinion of teachers (who hardly know you) to get in the way of your dreams
tell them to piss off and tell them you are applying anyway and you WILL SHOW THEM!!
Ibz man idk why I’m saying this but I got an A in my eng lit- I thought I wouldn’t live to see the day I would get an A in English Lit for Alevels. This is so random but you’ve genuinely helped me through so much
hufflepuff harry potter lover awh thank you :))
congrats!!🎊
Congrats!
Kiwisa Lim thank you!!
Maddie Cordingley awh thank you :))
Who else is waiting to see Ibz throw some shade in his Oxford move-in vlog? 😂❤️
Totally agree with you on the lack of family support. Come from a difficult family background. I'm a medical student so have a lot of people around me who are very privileged in that sense (money/no money), have had parents micromanaging their lives, cook and clean for them and it's really difficult to not feel like you've missed out or upset because they have something that you only wish you had.
You nearly made me cry when you mentioned the kids who have parents that invest in their kids lives. It feels so alien to me when i see it around me and when my friends talk about it. Been watching you for years Ibz and it’s nice to have a POC role model, I feel like kids of colour really need more role models like you.
You are literally so intelligent. You've hit every single point right down to minor details. Everything you said s right
the supportive family point especially resonated with me, thank you for that as I unfortunately am not able to receive financial or emotional support from my parents in any way. I'm applying to Cambridge this October and the point about becoming your own supportive family is something I will take in stride.
Naveen Naguleswaran same ✊
Same, just jeep going!
There are pros and cons to being from a dispriviledged background. I come from Bradford and went to a state school and I feel like it’s made me become a stronger person than a private school student because I’ve had to learn to not take shit from people and seen what happens when you don’t try in life, which has pushed me to work harder. You’ll be more humbled and you’ll be able to see life from everyone’s perspective which can really help you in your future.
I didn't have a supportive family ...until I got into University. Suddenly I was no longer a "bum" so they cared. -.-
Still feels weird going back to my old ex-mining council estate full of drugs.
thank you, so much saying private school kids not all the same or what you think they are. My parent( teacher and nurse) work very hard for go to private school because give me more support.
Ninthuya Sivarajah maybe the person is not based in the UK hence their English is not excellent.
@@ninthusiva7546 you're a horrible person.
What do you mean by "more support", I live in South England, the school I go to, deemed by ofsted, is inadequet
Yet, the teachers are very supportive, hosting agter school interventions, its just the students.
I found my original student finance application recently that showed my single parent household income being declared as £4500 A YEAR. Not £45k but £4.5k. Now within a few years of graduating I’m making about £6k a month.
One international student was shocked when they learned I was there “on a loan”, but apart from that I never had any problems.
I'm so happy for you! your hard work paid off!!!
I am genuinely so happy for you. You've come so far keep it up.
What's your job?
@@CrimeVaultUK software engineer
@@dw4525 respect. What uni, if you don't mind me asking?
I feel like a disadvantaged student in my state school and watching this video I feel like I need to say there's always going to be someones worse off than you so practicing gratefulness no matter what your situation really helps.
YES!
Even just the Minimum Dining Requirement and Establishment Charge seem financially CRIPPLING. these costs are insane.
Literally
The unsupportive family part was heartbreaking, but this is the truth and I appreciate you Ibz for sharing your story so honestly... This is what keeps us going!!!
Well done Ibz....you smashed it!
🧠 Brains of achieving to make you...you..& now sharing with & motivational for all of us all 1👏🏾👍🏾💻📚🎊🎉
I totally agree that one of the biggest disadvantages is money/family. I am also from a council estate, first generation to go to uni. I worked two part time jobs up to 30 hours per week throughout my full time BSc and it was so tough. I went to KCL, and living in London is NOT cheap. Plus, my family did not finish school (let alone uni), so I really felt alone knowing how to navigate the academic struggle sometimes!
how did you afford to live in London? I really wanna go to KCL but I can't afford to live there
@@user-si3jr3nn7o Working two jobs alongside uni! A weekend one and a weekday one. Searching out cheaper accommodation relative to the average in London.
@@healthymelody wow I really admire you! So you don't live on campus? What course are you studying if you don't mind telling me
@@user-si3jr3nn7o Oh I graduated a few years ago! I did a BSc and lived in halls first year, but then you have to rent elsewhere for the remainder of your degree. Was at Guys and Waterloo campus at the time.
Thank you for this! That was really useful :) I'm moving in to Cambridge in a few days, and after that A-level fiasco I was initially rejected. I was honestly in awe with how many alumni reached out to me to fight my case. I'm also a BAME student from a disadvantaged background. My downgraded grades were changed and as you may have guessed, I got my place back! Starting Physical Natural Sciences this year :)
I'm a middle class white female who isn't applying for oxbridge- but it's imbz which means I NEED TO WATCH EVERY VIDEO AND NOT SKIP ADS
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I have mad respect for you brother. You've inspired me.
Thankyou for recognising that the state school/private school thing isn’t black and and white. Disadvantage is so much more than that and sadly people look at it as a black and white issue. I definitely find it being disabled thinking someone visibly disabled is “more disabled” without considering the whole of the person. You can’t compare.
Living for this consistent content!
Can we talk about how ibz's skin is GLOWING
I felt it when he said 'I haven't asked my parents for money since I was 17'.
I feel this experience & a slight imposter syndrome working in a professional field (accounting) with being from a poor background. Sometimes I just can't relate to my colleagues buying houses at below 25. But even though I may not have even progressed in the financial sense (even if earning well) I have definitely culturally progressed in the social mobility sense!
OMGGG, counselling has been my life saviour especially post uni & undoing childhood traumas / understanding why I am the way I am!
thank you for this video :)
No lies were told here. The way I can relate to every single point Ibz has made. Thank you for this video Ibz, you are incredible xx
hearing Ibz talk about his family life makes me so sad like I wish I could be his mum so I could treat him better :(
I’m in medical school now and its so hard not being able to go out with my friends regularly because I just can’t afford it sometimes :(
Omg the production quality on this
This video was so good! I’m a Sociology teacher and I’m defo going to get my students to watch this when we study the topic of Education!
I agree but it’s not private school students fault that they have privileged parents. As a parent of two private school educated girls, I can categorically state that my children were very aware of the hard work we were putting in and our own humble beginnings which were always made known to them. Arrogance was never an option especially so due to our Muslim faith. I don’t think they ever realised that they were even going to a private school until much later as we never talked about money unless it was in the capacity of budgeting or financial education, where they were always told you have to assume your starting point is zero. My children’s were very aware we had a budget and that expenses had to managed and money was not free-flowing. They packed their own lunches as there was no money for lunch, maybe only once a week as a treat. So yes arrogance should never be an option 👌👍
respect ✊🏽
may Allah bless you and your family!
@@user-ub8oi7oh3r nobody asked you to reply.
I felt that when he said he had people calling him dumb imagine being in Cambridge and called dumb asian families love taht word
Thank you so much for this video! I grew up in a very abusive household and thankfully my teacher helped me going to a foster home because it was getting too bad when I was 15. I am studying Biochemistry now and I plan on applying to Oxford for my grad studies and I was always wondering how it could be and you really opened my eyes and prepared me for that but moreover I feel seen right now because it feels like no one talks about the REALLY disadvantaged students. Thank you!
I go to a different uni in a different country, but I can relate to every single thing said in this video!! Thank you Ibz for putting words on all of this. Sometimes I feel ashamed to talk about this stuff like I’d be trying to show myself as a victim or something. But no, it’s just our lives and like you said we have to accept it and actively work harder. When I’m feeling defeated in uni, I’m definitely coming back to this video for encouragement 🧡
Ibz your inspirational. I can relate with the struggles and I manage to get to UCl. It was ibz mo who inspired me. I am so grateful for him. 💖
ive become accustomed to not skipping ads for ibz 😌
Wild how mature you've become over the years
I really relate to mo I also have been living in hackney after my parents got divorced I'm going college atm and my mum is also a single mum. ngl this vid helped me a lot to know that even people like me can aim high and get to places like you have.
Do you go bsix?
@@aria6709 nahhh mate
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Hello. I watched a video of yours about a year ago and really didn't like it. I thought you were entitled and arrogant and a typical negative stereotype of the Cambridge student, coming from my judgment from a state school and poor family. However, I could not have been more wrong. I've started watching you as of about 2 weeks ago and the challenges you have overcome are incredible and you faced everything with a smile and joke. This video is so refreshing and will really help me. Thank you so much. Keep thriving. Sorry for the misjudgment. Youve proved me wrong a hundred times over.
"sorry CIndy, I can't spend this much time talking to you about your bf... HES GAY!" - I cackleddddd
I was looking for this comment 😂
OMG THE ADD WAS FOR EXETER UNI I AM SCREAMING
You're the only youtuber I don't skip ads for
ad time = comment reading time! the only person i actually watch ads for, you ask nicely and have a reason you need us to, so i will happily do so!
as a private (secondary) school student i can vouch that we’re not all arrogant. my parents saved and saved for my education, we never went on holiday and my clothes were usually secondhand, unlike most of the kids at my state primary school. even so i know i’ve gotta be aware of the privileges my education gave me, and how increasing accessibility for disadvantaged students should be more of a priority for elite unis like oxbridge
Thanks Ibz, I go to Oxford next year and this meant a lot to me.
This is the exact video I needed before moving to Cambridge, thank you Ibz for your wisdom!
Ibz... this is the realest video. You dissected every aspect of uni life that working class people/marginalised people/racialised people from lower socio-economic backgrounds face that NEVER GETS PUT OUT THERE! You make us all feel so seen and inshsalla Allah blesses you with all your dreams come true..you truly truly deserve it. so much love xoxo
Ibz, you have matured so much! Good Luck for the future! i can relate to lack of support at uni. I used to think my friends had weird families as they were so close and supportive. Then i realised it was more to do with me, and my reality.
Thank you. This video should be shown in every 6th form college x
You are a supportive fam for many of us, you don't have to kids to become supportive fam member, wish you best of luck
I’m loving these regular uploads SO MUCH !!! 😭😭❤️ yesssssss
I so get the private school student incidents. I just started at a sixth form which is connected to a grammar school and alot of students went private school or come from wealthy backgrounds. I was quite shocked at some things I've heard them say about people of my background but that was only 1 or 2 people
Totally agree with point 6: "stop using state school to mean disadvantage". I attended a state school from year 7-13 and although it was underfunded and quite literally falling down, the teaching was decent and the school had higher than average GCSE grades. I don't believe I was ever disadvantaged from attending that school.
Also, I qualify for some "disadvantaged student" programs simply because I was a first generation university student -- the one I have in mind was an Oxford summer research program. I really don't see how my parents not having been to university would make it more difficult for me to go to university than any other student from my school, simply based on that one thing. Your parents won't be able to help you with your work (unless they did a similar subject I guess) and it doesn't make admission or being there any easier. Plus I've already graduated and this program wants students and/or graduates, making this "disadvantage" already more redundant.
Really sorry if I've missed something out here and if I look really ignorant. I do think I'm very well off/privileged. I just think it's unfair that sometimes I fall into a disadvantaged category, not for myself, but for other people who genuinely need the support.
Yessss!!!! This topic needs to be addressed
I really hope I can be as strong as you when I start uni in September. I've had a job since I was 15, and I haven't asked for a penny from my parents since I was 16. I've been working 30 hours a week alongside my a-levels so I can have money for when I start and I will still be working alongside my degree. I am not going to a top uni as they didn't offer my course but I'm sure it will still be tricky!
You preached the gospel and I thank you ❤️ 🇿🇦
I'm sorry to hear your family don't support you. But I think that only goes to emphasise your strength, you were able to achieve so much even when the entire world was telling you "no". It's your tenacity that makes you such an inspiration to me. I'm applying to Cambridge this year, so this video in particular was so helpful and needed. Thank you for being so honest and always looking out for all of us working class students from disadvantaged backgrounds, it really means so much to see someone like you achieving so much. I've been following your journey for like the past two years and it's crazy how far you've come. You deserve to be so so proud of your achievements and honestly I'm so proud too. It's disheartening to think about how we have to work harder to get the same things as privileged people, but it means that our achievements feel so much more real because we really had to fight for it.
But yeah you really inspire me, thank you for this video!
I NEVER skip an ad on ibz's channel.
This is the realist video yet... You really won't hear anyone else speaking on a very real duality that can leave you feeling neither here nor there
Just had to say, hearing you mention Malaysia was so shocking because it's so rare to hear youtubers mention my country! Anyway I'm glad you're doing so great in life, keep it up
You deserve way more followers!! You are literally so fun and amazing
I am SO glad I just came across this video. I completely identify with everything discussed here. I am from a very very council estate, I have two disabled students and all the other things mentioned. I also have never mentioned this to anyone at uni, I'm in my 4th year. I have always just hid the fact that I am actually very poor and I have 0 support (emotionally, financially, academically) . This video makes me feel like I shouldn't hid it anymore. I want to address the issue! I suffer from low self-esteem because my peers have a lot of money and resources. They have much more time than me due to help from their families. I basically run everything myself and have been doing so from I was 16. This video is so encouraging.
Thank you so much!
I am sure you will be successful. Rooting for you.
This video made me realise a state school education does not automatically make you a disadvantaged student. The privilege I have coming from a supportive middle-class family puts me at such a great advantage regardless of where I attended school. Though I do not feel I appropriate working-class culture or have ever pretended to come from a rough area, I think it's all too easy for state school students (especially advantaged ones) to fall into the victim mindset - pinning any academic struggles on their state school education. Thank you for opening my eyes on what it really means to be a disadvantaged student and why this distinction is so importan!!
I’m so proud of youuuuu, thanking for sharing your journey 💕
Just bopping to the paypal music while scrolling through comments :)) Thank you Ibz !
"From the North" 😂😂😂 Thanks for the shout out. ♡
I just visited Oxford today/yesterday. Realised on the train back, I didn't hear a single Northern voice whilst I was there. Do you know of any Northerners there?
Im learning so much from this video. the point about having family support is so important yet this is the first time I’m hearing about it. great video, ibz! 💕
Hey, I might be such an old lady but you’re an inspiration.
talking about being family deprived I experienced this during my undergrad which affected t my GPA and I'm so tired now explaining it to oxford...akhh .so I really understand your point of the importance of having a support system.
Bless you so much for this video im thinking of applying to Cambridge in the 2021 academic year. i am also a first generation student and from a low income family and dyslexic. This video helped me so much. I still feel very inspired to apply!
It’s refreshing to see your opinion on private school students at your time at University. Personally, from 11-16 I went to an all girls, private school- but that was because my parents COULD after a death in the immediate family. Both my parents knew I would thrive better in a smaller class, and the likelihood of me being bullied (shy kid problems with hyperactive joints - two things which would have probably made me a target).
Throughout my time (am going to uni) I’ve always been taught to treat people with kindness and respect, and it breaks me to be treated differently (yes, it happens) by state school children who see me as “privileged”. I wouldn’t have been in that situation if it wasn’t for another situation, and yes there are private school kids that are arseholes (mummy and daddy buy me 3 horses for my birthday and a Ferrari- we know the type, right?) but private school kids, and my friends I’ve made are not the enemy, and to be fair there are so many people I’ve met with learning difficulties/ autism or other conditions that if they went to a local state school, they wouldn’t have had the support , and probably would’ve been left behind because of it.
This is not me saying “private schools are elite” by any means. I’m grateful for what my parents did for me, and I’ve never once looked down on someone because they didn’t have the same upbringing. I think there needs to be more done to bring private school and state school kids together because there’s so many stereotypes on both sides and it isn’t fair for anyone!
I understood and relate to ibz on another level . Thank you 🥺
omg YES I’ve always said ‘I don’t care if someone’s from a private school, I care if they think they’re better than me because they went’
I achieved the grades to apply to do my degree at Oxford/Cambridge. My dad encouraged me to apply and I remember thinking I wouldn't fit in there because I am poor and black. It's a shame but hopefully times change so more kids feel it isn't an obstacle for them. This video is great for that!
May I ask what grades you got?
Further words of loving wisdom. Thanks Ibz X
Imma just say thanks before this video starts. I’m taking a gap year so I can make money and fit in cos I’m quite disadvantaged
private school students are not the enemy ....arrogance is ..love it
you are such an inspiration Ibz 🥺
Also I’m not skipping any ads ♥️
I just watched a 20 min ad video for you ibz I hope your happy cause I wouldn’t do that for any other CZcamsr ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I don’t deserve you 🥺❤️
the fact that i got a university of exeter ad during this is so ironic bye
Bro 12 minutes ago, my CZcams game is fireee
Keep making these amazing videos - This is much needed content - love this channel x
10/10 i would vote for you as Prime Minister. We need more people like you. I relate to a lot of these things. I didn't skip ads. Only person on youtube I do this for, now subscribed
Some state school kids especially from Surrey and bucks are incredibly privileged vs say from clacton or Redcar. Reminds me of jack monroe claiming to be disadvantaged when she was brought up in a rich family. And she claims to be a person of colour because her grandfather was from cyprus.
I got a shock when I went to University as I had never met anybody that wealthy before. I did notice at the time the family aspect was difficult for me and as such I struggled with my mental health. Many of my friends were heavily supported and comfortable thanks to their family. They didn't understand why I was struggling to cope so badly. I had to work and you know I have had to work harder but perhaps never gave myself that credit.
Thanks for that video dude lots of folks would be very happy to watch it.
got my first college bill today sis accessibility is a myth these charges are completely out of whack
How much?
U don’t need to go to uni or oxbridge to do well in life. Going to oxbridge is also no guarantee of “success.”
You're right it's not a guarantee of success but we shouldn't act like our societal system doesn't put a pedestal on students who do attend oxbridge, or Schools such as Harvard, Stanford, Princeton, MIT etc. and that suddenly makes it easier to navigate into different sectors.
It's a short term success not a long term success, but it's a great achievement and something to be proud of. There's plenty of different ways of reaching a long term success, including and not including uni as a pathway 😊
Enigma after your first job no one cares if u went oxbridge or not.
Honestly no one gives a shit. It's all about your experience nowadays
I acc started my a levles last september in a British private school in Spain (i moved from Eastern europe) and it was such a change. And not necesserlly for good. For sure the education Is very diff then in my country. I feel like a impostor bc i went all my life to public school that were just avarage. So a lot of things you said resonate, bc the most people although they are super nice and my family now, sometimes we are so different and sometimes it speaks volumes
I'm loving the consistency Ibz! I am so proud of you, you're an inspiration to us all🥰🥰🥰
The new ibrahim is so much more better