I Don't Own My Past | by Ajahn Brahm | 03 May 2013

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  • Ajahn Brahm talks about how to not own the past, and thereby make peace with it.

Komentáře • 127

  • @becky7008
    @becky7008 Před 11 lety +33

    this really is the only place i came come to get any sort of comfort..

  • @lordbyron3603
    @lordbyron3603 Před 9 lety +53

    If anyone is enlightened, it is this man -- Ajahn Brahm. Whenever I listen to one of his talks, he always pierces and breaks through the thick wall of my delusion. Sadhu 3x!

  • @darwenmasterson8995
    @darwenmasterson8995 Před 10 lety +26

    "Pretend you're visiting someone else's mind" resonated with me the most.

    • @derder6717
      @derder6717 Před 7 lety +2

      Darwen Masterson

    • @sachinthaherath4902
      @sachinthaherath4902 Před rokem

      @Darwen Masterson Agreed🙌
      This is powerful when you understand how to do it😌.

  • @lordbyron3603
    @lordbyron3603 Před 2 lety +3

    “…. a visitor to your past , rather than owning it ….! “

  • @meloneypalihakkara10
    @meloneypalihakkara10 Před 2 lety +3

    Thank you very much Ajahn

  • @bedtimewithxander3561
    @bedtimewithxander3561 Před 4 lety +6

    Anyone else enjoying these in quarantine? Keep healthy and have peace 🙏❤️

  • @farhanahaque5006
    @farhanahaque5006 Před 4 lety +9

    He gives me hope for life.. his advice is so forgiving and inspirational

  • @ruthharley795
    @ruthharley795 Před 3 lety +3

    Thank you Ajahn Brahm! :)

  • @sachinthaherath4902
    @sachinthaherath4902 Před rokem +3

    "Your past prevents you from being happy in the present moment".
    So simple yet so profound😌🙏
    Thank you for this talk Ajahn Brahm🧡

  • @patrickslater187
    @patrickslater187 Před rokem +3

    A month of Ajahn Brahm talks has made me feel better than years of therapy

    • @user-gj4hn1hl2q
      @user-gj4hn1hl2q Před 4 měsíci +1

      That's because your gay

    • @user-gj4hn1hl2q
      @user-gj4hn1hl2q Před 4 měsíci +1

      Always remind yourself " hey at least I'm not black". You'll be o.k.

  • @lordbyron3603
    @lordbyron3603 Před 2 lety +6

    Here I am 7 years later watching this video! But things have changed. I’m being treated for cancer …. Diffused Large B Cell Non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma aggressive! I didn’t expect to live! The doctors didn’t expect me to live either. I went from 170 lbs down to 110 in 4 weeks. Nothing but skin and bones. But here I am. I was spared or …. The cancer was undone!

    • @user-gj4hn1hl2q
      @user-gj4hn1hl2q Před 4 měsíci +1

      That's good to hear. Whenever life gets me down I remind myself "at least I'm not black". And all the good karma I have. Things could've been worse.

  • @lindanordoy3718
    @lindanordoy3718 Před 9 lety +50

    I ,listen to his talk mostly everyday and this make me think positively

    • @chuahhowkeat6551
      @chuahhowkeat6551 Před 6 lety +2

      I same with you. Happiness, truly happiness, from heart.

    • @matthewdemauro6996
      @matthewdemauro6996 Před 6 lety

      The best person to debate is a Buddhist

    • @luvhonest463
      @luvhonest463 Před 5 lety +1

      Agree, he is a wonderful venerable.

    • @lordbyron3603
      @lordbyron3603 Před 5 lety +1

      linda nordoy I do the same thing. I listen to about a dozen of his videos over and over again. Some over 100 times now

    • @Earth-360
      @Earth-360 Před 4 lety +3

      He changed my whole life in very positive way. Listen every day. Priceless.

  • @jackgoldman1
    @jackgoldman1 Před 7 lety +9

    One of Ajahn's best talks. What a wise man. Thank you for this excellent advice. Peace.

  • @ramdhiwakarseetharaman5989

    Beautiful talk and wisdom

  • @ThePCgamewalkthoughs
    @ThePCgamewalkthoughs Před 8 lety +6

    I met someone and hanged out with them sometimes. We were classmates, and when they decided that they didn't want me as a friend, I didn't grieve. Why? During our friendship, I didn't let myself become too attached to them. I'll remember them as a kind person, and I know that I'll see them again one day. Meditation and mindfulness is a powerful thing.

  • @brendacaldwell2711
    @brendacaldwell2711 Před 8 lety +16

    I have listened to almost all of Ajahn Brahm talks over and over I find them very inspirational and informative but most of all he's reassuring. I have recommended them to friends keep doing them please

    • @Miss_Annlaug
      @Miss_Annlaug Před 6 lety +2

      Brenda Caldwell I agree. It is such a source for me. I don't have a good buddhist community connection where I live: these talks and teachings are a life line of me😊

    • @sachinthaherath4902
      @sachinthaherath4902 Před rokem

      @@Miss_Annlaug 👌😌🙏

  • @namthomson1124
    @namthomson1124 Před 2 lety +2

    Thanks again!.

  • @bgoodfella7413
    @bgoodfella7413 Před 11 lety +3

    As a history buff, I found this humbling. Remain aware of the present moment and let go of all past hindrances. Thanks Ajahn Brahm, : ) Be mindful but not clinging.

  • @apriliawatimax4975
    @apriliawatimax4975 Před 8 lety +13

    Ajahn brahm is a genius...

  • @nikolav6634
    @nikolav6634 Před 10 lety +12

    I am really happy this acrossed my life a couple of weeks ago. Ajahn Brahm's talk are so powerful but still everyone needs to go through the path to get their aim. I am on my way and his talking really helping me in every way. I wish I could attend his talking in London.

  • @JPxKillz
    @JPxKillz Před 3 lety +2

    1. Know it's something you should do.
    2. Know it can be done.
    3. Actively release, let it go.
    4. Notice how much better it feels to have it gone.

  • @andreaantrecht5298
    @andreaantrecht5298 Před 6 lety

    Very often I take part of Ajahn Brahm's talks. Listening to him , makes life " easy going ". Thank You very much, Ajahn Brahm!

  • @LunaLu-00
    @LunaLu-00 Před 8 lety +34

    "Have your own emotions, not the ones expected by society. Only then, you can be FREE'"

  • @ramdhiwakarseetharaman5989

    Revisited this talk.... Things I learnt again😍:
    1. If there is shit (pain) in your farm (past), leave it there for it to become a fertilizer. Dont take it along.
    2. Letting go of the pain from past is a conscious decision, not a natural one. I can choose what to let go.
    3. We deserve to leave the painful prison of the past. Its hard, but we should leave the bad stuff.
    4. If you remember the bad thing, your next thing will also be bad.
    5. Never celebrate the pain from past, dont even associate with it.
    6. No past or life is 100% perfect or beautiful
    7. Sometimes bad things happening to us could be just payback from life

  • @dharkling890
    @dharkling890 Před 9 lety +4

    Ajahn Brahm you are the most amazing man I've ever listened to in this life. Thank you for being you.

  • @lordbyron3603
    @lordbyron3603 Před 9 lety +2

    This association of being "damaged goods" is very profound and a powerful teaching.

  • @givingwaytopresence
    @givingwaytopresence Před 11 lety +1

    Thank you Ajahn Brahm, these talk have helped me gain so much more freedom in my life. You are a gifted speaker, wonderful teacher, and dear friend to all of us.
    Metta

  • @lkmgabriel
    @lkmgabriel Před 11 lety

    Sometimes, things heard could be forgotten. I'm grateful that I could listen to Ajahn's talk live last Friday (May 3rd) in the midst of my difficult times and it has relieved my distress. :)

  • @MissTiffanyGalore
    @MissTiffanyGalore Před 6 lety +2

    I was looking for a video that would inspire me to "own my past" and this video was first on the list. I started to hit the scroll bar because 1) the title appeared to be contrary to my search and 2) the video length. I am so glad that I did not scroll and did allow myself to be enriched with information.
    Thank you for sharing this video!!

  • @lamaalhezayen244
    @lamaalhezayen244 Před 5 lety

    When I listen to Ajan Brahm, I can’t help but fall asleep. His voice is soo soothing ! Love you Ajan Brahm

  • @lollipop9139
    @lollipop9139 Před 11 lety

    How Brilliant and Beautiful!! We are just Visitors. Not Owners. Thank you Ajahn Brahm!!

  • @AngeiLeeJones
    @AngeiLeeJones Před 11 lety

    I find solitude with Ajahn's dhamma talks. He puts me back to perspective how life is going on in my own experiences. Thanks Ajahn!

  • @maratemptress2142
    @maratemptress2142 Před 8 lety +12

    2 minutes in and im already mind blown haha

  • @delfinagioielli1311
    @delfinagioielli1311 Před 7 lety +2

    Dear Ajahn Brahm, thank you so much for your help, it makes a huge positive difference . I hope I will be able to meet you. Alessandra

  • @Deesperado83
    @Deesperado83 Před 11 lety +3

    VERY GOOD TALK!! Thanks!

  • @larougettezebre
    @larougettezebre Před 6 lety +1

    I'm really gratefull for this talk, thank you.

  • @patriciamolliere2230
    @patriciamolliere2230 Před 4 lety +1

    No one is damaged goods. 💗 all people are inherently beautiful and deserve respect.

  • @SandraLovesSun
    @SandraLovesSun Před 7 lety

    I went to the forest tonight. I threw the rock in the pond, the stick in the pond, too. Two of them. And I found my favorite tree. Boy was it bent. Beautiful. Sadhu, sadhu, sadhu. Thank you.

  • @DIAMONDGIRL57
    @DIAMONDGIRL57 Před 6 lety

    I love listening and meditating on the message. So relieving!

  • @heidilee1131
    @heidilee1131 Před 11 lety +2

    Ajahn you da bombb

  • @activitiesforfunbyyanachan2492

    Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu...

  • @GroundPounder62
    @GroundPounder62 Před 11 lety +1

    What a good talk. Perhaps I am off base here but I think that a lot of the messages in these talks we all inherently know but just fail, or perhaps a better term would be are blind, to them. For whatever reason we tend to move away from the simple truths that Ajahn Brahm speaks of when all we really have to do is open our eyes and our minds and our hearts and embrace what we already know. :) Of course, that is why his talks are so special ... he provides a key for us to do just by speaking.

    • @tims.2717
      @tims.2717 Před 5 lety

      Like he says, "mindfulness as well as kindness". :)

  • @dwv1000
    @dwv1000 Před 11 lety

    "We don't control the whirled, only how we react to it".
    Awesome!

  • @kiasulang8894
    @kiasulang8894 Před 10 lety +1

    Thank you for this insight. At home, I "get off work" at 7 pm. On weekend, I "get off work" at 3 pm. I love my house & it is my sanctuary….

  • @sokteng2006
    @sokteng2006 Před 6 lety

    Ajahn Brahm, you are really wise!

  • @ianoian1
    @ianoian1 Před 11 lety

    I've listened to all of Ajahn's talks and have thoroughly enjoyed every single one of them, and I just love his jokes - he needs to come to Scotland and do a tour here - I'd sponsor him!!! That's not a joke!!

  • @alpinfernanda
    @alpinfernanda Před 11 lety +1

    Thank you, Ajahn Brahm.

  • @Acquisition1913
    @Acquisition1913 Před 11 lety +1

    thankful for this!

  • @IncandescentBuddha
    @IncandescentBuddha Před 11 lety +1

    Q&A at the end was very insightful. Thanks.

  • @samanthaharrington9949
    @samanthaharrington9949 Před 11 lety

    This was a wonderful talk! One I so had to hear, because I have issues with my past...And I need to work on letting go of my past...

  • @Kimoto504
    @Kimoto504 Před 11 lety +1

    Remembering the past is not bad. Relating to it in a destructive way is bad. It's true that forgetting mistakes makes you bound to repeat. It's not bad to remember, only to focus on them and project them onto others and self. Remembering successes and failures is a wise thing. Relating to them in the wrong way isn't.

  • @JeffreySykes
    @JeffreySykes Před 11 lety

    Such beautiful answers toward the end of the video. Thanks for these insights.

  • @MsShellshocked
    @MsShellshocked Před 11 lety +1

    I enjoyed this talk thank you :)

  • @Athelstan_lothbrok
    @Athelstan_lothbrok Před 7 lety +1

    thats a great advice, im handeling and handled myself like im a murderer or something :( i am a family guy naturally, but i cut off from that. Failed to reach my goal.. got lazy, sick and stressed all the time. It could be simple, with this analogie you shown with the wood. I just try it from now

  • @rfbu
    @rfbu Před 11 lety

    I think to start with, it's important to acknowledge the pain we are enduring. Next is to decide to let it go so that we can move on.

  • @adrianabdo1
    @adrianabdo1 Před 6 lety +1

    thank you, thank you, thank you...

  • @lollipop9139
    @lollipop9139 Před 11 lety

    If one listens to every talks Ajahn Brahm or any monk has given here, they always answer a question or two from overseas (people from internet). And, I agree with hsbinh1412, they even encourage people to ask questions they don't understand.

  • @123chandimal
    @123chandimal Před 11 lety

    thanks ajan brahm

  • @Acquisition1913
    @Acquisition1913 Před 11 lety +1

    great talk thanks.

  • @jsohi0082
    @jsohi0082 Před rokem +1

    Next time I would recommend to not cut out the part where he pays respect to buddha dhamma and sangha, I like that chant

  • @ekhnatonro
    @ekhnatonro Před 11 lety +1

    Thank you

  • @hcjf1062
    @hcjf1062 Před rokem

    Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu

  • @fingerprint5511
    @fingerprint5511 Před rokem

    🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @kaddijaceesay2523
    @kaddijaceesay2523 Před 11 lety

    only you can choose to adopt the pain in your life, really it is all a matter of perspective if you only see the positive in everything then there is no pain.

  • @PeaceCerryLove
    @PeaceCerryLove Před 11 lety

    Tank you ^^ the benefit of doubt ^^ and a visitor

  • @justabuddy382
    @justabuddy382 Před 8 lety +3

    MY brain was injured with a severe Frontal TBI , as well as the back of my brain.
    I spent 7 years in therapy.
    How do I get my spirit to let go, it seems to have a memory on its own.
    its been 10 years.
    I've celebrated and forgotten the past.
    I've embraced the present.
    Yet, obviously I'm hanging on to something ...
    help..., thank you

    • @calvinriley4177
      @calvinriley4177 Před 8 lety

      +Noreen Barone it may have to do with your expectations. Who you expect yourself to be verses the person you may have been if you hadn't experienced all that you have.

    • @justabuddy382
      @justabuddy382 Před 8 lety +1

      Still growing, wide eyed at what has unfolded.

    • @g0oey
      @g0oey Před 5 lety

      In my understanding, it is possible to let go regardless of what is happening with the body. When I have lifted the veil for a brief time, it happened by working on deeply humbling myself with constant heartfelt confessions to exhaustion, and then feeling light and pretending I was a nothingness spirit experiencing being human in a slow motion meditation watching what I did naturally. I had experienced brain trauma as well. I wish you well.

  • @nitinandkharat871
    @nitinandkharat871 Před 11 lety

    great,great,great!

  • @lollipop9139
    @lollipop9139 Před 11 lety

    Just an FYI, if you have that noble intention to invite and sponsor him to Scotland, you should be quick because his schedule is already full until next year. I heard this from one of the founders who usually invites him every year.

  • @gigicats6
    @gigicats6 Před 11 lety +1

    Thanks for letting me know that. I've been trying to watch the live stream, finally find out how, and when I go for the talks, there never is one, the screen says offline. I contacted BSWA a few times to find out if I'm doing something wrong, no answer. Wrote to them before, no answer. Seems like a chaotic system there, no one in charge to really reply. I don't think it's actually going live anymore, so when he took questions at the end, I also thought this was an old video.

  • @hollycline2427
    @hollycline2427 Před 5 lety +3

    Are you a shit collector or an egg collector?
    Love it HAHA so true.

  • @pencilcase46
    @pencilcase46 Před 11 lety +1

    Inspiring ++

  • @PeaceCerryLove
    @PeaceCerryLove Před 11 lety

    beautiful ^^V i need this...

  • @sunmoon7186
    @sunmoon7186 Před 11 lety

    Please let me know when he comes to Scotland!

  • @paranoid492
    @paranoid492 Před 11 lety

    breath in. let it all go.

  • @WisdomTravelerWorld
    @WisdomTravelerWorld Před 11 lety

    Excellent

  • @matthewdemauro6996
    @matthewdemauro6996 Před 6 lety

    How you interpret your past belongs only to you, so your past is yours in the present

  • @lkmgabriel
    @lkmgabriel Před 11 lety

    As far as I know, this Dharma Talk was given on May 3, 2013 instead of May 5. :)

  • @charlesbarnes4286
    @charlesbarnes4286 Před 11 lety

    Dear ladylillyflower,
    If you click on the BuddhistSocietyWA just under the video it will take you to a new screen. There is a button marked discussion and if you click on that you can ask as many questions as you like.
    I hope this helps,
    Namaste

  • @PatrykSobanski
    @PatrykSobanski Před 5 lety

    Dear Ajahn Brahm. what if I given someone suffering and I not appreciated, I was not good. How to live with this? Plz

  • @gmeister3022
    @gmeister3022 Před 4 lety

    But if you accept that something that happened to you happened for a reason and that you deserve to suffer for your past actions, why would you let go of the past and not torment yourself? This is what I don't understand.

  • @thisjust10
    @thisjust10 Před 11 lety

    wonderful talk
    thank you I really need to hear all of that. Definitely a shit collector a lot of times but i think I know that eggs are where the money is. I'm just learning how to gather them correctly lol

  • @SandraLovesSun
    @SandraLovesSun Před 7 lety +1

    "The dumpster behind the Woolworths" LOL "One who is manicured or one who's nature" LOLOL

  • @fullfist
    @fullfist Před 11 lety

    this is what Jesus meant when he said "rich man" cannot attain enlightenment, the passageway to the "kingdom" is too narrow for his wide-loaded camel to pass, he would sooner give up than to drop the weight
    he's not necessarily very wealthy but he's clinging, he cant let go.

  • @Crossa
    @Crossa Před 11 lety

    This Dharma Talk had to be recorded last year, cause alot of things he sayin, I have heard it before. This has to be a re-upload. But ay, I aint complaining lol.

  • @amkushala
    @amkushala Před 10 lety

    thanks

  • @natushkhan
    @natushkhan Před 10 měsíci

    0:47, 2:04, 3:51, 6:30, 7:37, 12:26 28:58

  • @adamcylee
    @adamcylee Před 9 lety

    我的偶像!

  • @WalterTonetto
    @WalterTonetto Před 11 lety

    Lilly, try to understand that Ajahn Brahm does not want to be disturbed by countless questions ... if you are serious about his teachings (and you meditate, too), you will have an opportunity to ask him questions....

  • @hsbinh1412
    @hsbinh1412 Před 11 lety

    Well, honestly, to be more precise, I doubt that he would mind being asked question if they was to be relevant to seeking peace in life (he do encourages questioning teaching, and love to help people afterall). I think it would be better to phrase it the other way around, which is that: we should not want to disturb Ajahm's peace if our questions aren't necessary.
    Also, I don't think criticizing Oliver like that was really necessary. He meant no malice, so a softer approach would surely be nicer

  • @deemays12
    @deemays12 Před 7 lety

    where does karma come into place i.e. all the mistakes and things you've done in the past deemed wrong by society?

  • @jabeydeera
    @jabeydeera Před 11 lety

    Still there're no comments

  • @lissliss3925
    @lissliss3925 Před 3 lety +1

    Whilst I understand the basis behind what you're saying, if you've never experienced the loss of a child as a MOTHER or the trauma of rape as a WOMAN you cannot truly relate to it. I'd suggest you find another way to relay your message. It's ignorant and arrogant.

  • @Godfather48hrs
    @Godfather48hrs Před 3 lety +2

    It's irrelevant. Look, people's moods change and their recollection of the past changes. It's a scientifically proven fact. I don't waste my time on people's stories. It's irrelevant.

    • @bryce8793
      @bryce8793 Před 2 lety

      that's an awesome statement, true as well

  • @SandraLovesSun
    @SandraLovesSun Před 7 lety

    Wow. He just got back from Malaysia and he hopes the talk was okay. Uh, yeah?! LOL No doubt!!!!

  • @WalterTonetto
    @WalterTonetto Před 11 lety

    it's good to see that you appreciate Ajahn Brahm ... but of the teachings themselves you understand obviously very little ... if you did, you would not cast such an evaluative mind on his inspiring stream of knowing ...

  • @usenlim
    @usenlim Před 11 lety

    It's just me or Ajahn Brahm suddenly looks very old. He often hunch and his sparse hair looks gray.

  • @Zara_Luna
    @Zara_Luna Před 6 lety

    9:20, 37:00

  • @thisjust10
    @thisjust10 Před 11 lety

    seems like it's needed over there ;P

  • @brendacaldwell2711
    @brendacaldwell2711 Před 8 lety +5

    I have listened to almost all of Ajahn Brahm talks over and over I find them very inspirational and informative but most of all he's reassuring. I have recommended them to friends keep doing them please

    • @boohiok
      @boohiok Před 8 lety +3

      +Brenda Caldwell
      Ya I keep listening over and over again..Its very comforting too