Our daughter Bow. Stillborn but Still born
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- čas přidán 7. 11. 2018
- This is our story of miscarriage and Stillbirth. I want to raise awareness and break the taboo surrounding baby loss. We would like to help any family who heartbreakingly joins this journey and to get our baby daughters story out there.
Watching this year late and absolutely sobbed. I'm so sorry, but thank you for sharing little Bow with us.
You have no idea how much your story helped me. I am the grandmother of the mirror image you have been thru. My daughter has a miscarriage very early on it was heatbreaking. Later on she carried for about 14 weeks and same thing happened. And again a third time and it was very far along I’m so it’s a bit of a blur as to the time frame but she as well went thru the entire labor. I can’t imagine how are and Steve feel. I can relate to your mum. She is suffering as well. My daughter never really talked a lot about her losses and it took me a long to to get over it. Thank you as a grandmama for helping me cope and understand just a little more of what you and your poor body has been thru. My daughter it was a cromazone problem. She did have two rainbow babies but she has never gotten past all the trauma. I hope you continue to grieve and talk about it so you can continue to help others with you story. There is nothing I can say to make it right. I dm do sorry for your loss. You daughter Bow is a beautiful angel in heaven with my grand babies and I will continue to pray for you and Steve and my daughter. She would not talk about it and I think that really helps. It did help me. God bless and keep you safe and well. I know this was the hardest story you ever had to tell. Thank you for your strength. Here is a hug hug thru the phone to you and Steve. Please take care of yourself and each other. Prayers xoxo
Thank you for your selfless act in sharing your story about your beautiful daughter Bow. The details you spoke of gave so much depth to her life snd your experience. I’m a labor and delivery nurse and I have helped families go through the birth process, however my time with them is brief. At the point of where they are, the shock and start of grief, we don’t know their complete story or the full impact of what they are going through. Your stairs had helped me see more to what lies on the surface. I have had miscarriages that I never talk about. It was painful, but I didn’t share only because I never told anyone I was expecting. I guess I didn’t want to burden them with my sorrow. As a nurse I’ve learned to put my feeling aside so I can best serve others. That is not always a good thing. It’s alright to grieve and let others feel the pain or sorrow with you. Good people want to share that with others to help ease the pain. Anyway, I’ve moved forward and adopted a baby who is now a teenager. Life is good. Thank you again for your beautiful, yet sad story. You, Steve and Bow have been able yo touch a world of people.
That was soo beautifully written. I’m very sorry for your loss as well. God Bless you and thank you for your selfless work. ❤
I am so very very sorry Lauren! I’m in total awe of your strength and eloquence sharing baby Bows story x
Shaz Andrews Thank you so much, I truly appreciate it XXx
I am so very sorry for your loss. I love your daughters name, Bow. Please never apologize for the tears you shed for your baby, I cannot even imagine your anguish, but I felt it through your video. God Bless you and your husband.
Lauren I cried with you at your brave & beautiful story of your precious daughter Bow who made you her Mama,her life was filled only with love
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Thank you for sharing about your baby daughter Bow. I cried as I listened, but loved hearing how much you treasured the time you had with your daughter. I love Bow’s name and could relate to how you wanted her name heard! I know this is something you don’t get over, but hope you are continuing to be supported by your family and friends xxxx
Oh lovey. I am so sorry for the loss of your precious little one. I am so sorry that you've had to endure so much. It's not fair. Life stinks sometimes. Thank you for sharing your story. I smile when you said you wanted to be in maternity clothes so bad & when you later looked at pictutes you thought you were not that big. I did the same. Sending you lots of love
What a beautiful story of true love for your child. I’m so very sorry. You will be and are an excellent Mom. Much love ❤️
You are doing something incredible by sharing Bow's story, helping others who are going through the same. I can't imagine the pain you two are going through, but your strength is amazing. I'm so happy you have a good support network ❤. And as time goes on, you will start finding meaning in life again. Just know that there is always someone out there to talk to when things feel too much 🌈 xx
Tarot Noble Tarot there aren’t enough words to thank you for looking after our Bow. Your job is terribly hard but you were the best babysitter I could of dreamed of and made some of our favourite memories possible xxx
You are such a brave lady for sharing you story about Bow ❤️🌈
I have had early miscarriages including a missed miscarriage but not a stillborn baby it was so difficult to get through and I don’t think I can truly imagine going through what you have.
I too felt like life was over but somehow through time I have managed to regain strength and I hope that you are able to see light in the future very soon.
It’s an amazingly taboo subject to talk about our babies we have lost. This needs to change. I admire you for being an advocate for this stigma to become history.
I truly wish baby Bow’s Parent’s all the best for the future and send you healing thoughts.
She will be remembered 😘
Family murkin I’m so sorry you’ve been through so much too. I know how painful and sad I was after every loss and how it completely changes your life. I have found the light too even though at times it seems harder to see XX
Ohhh sweetheart im so so utterly sorry..your a wonderful mumma and beautiful Bow is an angel in heaven 💖 but she will always be a part of your life's journey ❤️ ❤️ sending love and light bron from Australia 🇦🇺 ❤️
You my dear are an inspiration to many grieving families . I lost my son Jonathan?(sweetpea) to SIDS 26 years ago.It doesn't seem it's been that long.He was my 3rd son. I miss him very much and still cry.
As the years pass the pain does get easier to cope with . It doesn't go away hun but you will carry on with life. You have too. You have a purpose and I truly believe that you will be blessed with siblings for Baby Bow. You will be able to tell them all about their big sister who watches over you every day and share your memories with them . You will always have those memories forever and they can't be taken from you. Just stay strong and stay connected. You have survived such heartache and grief and I do know the feeling of losing a child. It's the worst pain in the world. But its people like you that get others through. God Bless you and your husband hun. 🙏❤🇬🇧🇺🇸 please keep us updated.. hugs n luvz from California
Oh Lisa I’m so sorry to hear of your loss of sweet Jonathan. They will never be forgotten. I agree so much that the pain doesn’t go away but you do learn to carry it. We have found our own little coping mechanisms together. We were so lucky to be blessed with another little girl in October. 2 days after Bows first birthday and we have been enjoying every second of her and know how lucky we are to have her xx
The meaning behind her name 🙏🏽🌈 my son, who is now 15 years old, was a high risk pregnancy due to low amniotic fluid. The entire pregnancy I was told he could pass at any moment, and I had fetal heart monitoring two times a week from twenty weeks on. At 38 weeks he stopped moving completely, which sent me straight to the ER. His heartbeat was good, but no movement. They induced me that night. I am so sorry for your losses, and I am thrilled about Nelly! ⭐️😌❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss! No parent should have to go through this. I hope you are feeling more at peace now. Thank you for making this video, it helps so many.
Hi Lauren, I just wanted to say I'm so sorry for your loss of your beautiful bow. You did your beautiful angel proud. I am 10 weeks in and this pain is so raw and the world that we live in I wouldn't wish it upon anyone. I was 40wk and 4days when I found out my baby boys heart stopped, I felt I was in a nightmare and I was going to wake up any minute. I guess I still feel like that now. Thank you so much for sharing your story. ❤️ Your little bow will be so proud of her mummy x
I'm so incredibly sorry for the loss of Bow. You are very brave for sharing your story, thank you.
Sending much love and strength 💔❤
Thank you so much. It’s been so hard but we have found happiness again even though I thought it was impossible XX
I’m so sorry for your loss Lauren 😢 thankyou for sharing your story about bow❤️. I lost my baby boy jordy at 38 weeks 2 years ago. In my experience, the raw grief lasted for about 18 months and then gradually from then on I started to get a sense of normality back. There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think about jordy 💙 I turned to the internet as a way of finding others who have also had to go through stillbirth. It for me too was something that I could never have imagined happening. Such a tough journey. Thankyou again for sharing ❤️💙🧡
Penny Alison I’m so sorry you lost your little Jordy. I love his name! Thank you so much for your message. I was the same, desperate to find anybody who could possibly understand this pain but there was surprisingly so many. I hope you have found some happiness and ways of keeping Jordys memories alive xxx
Beautiful baby Bow. Thank you for sharing Bow’s story. God bless you
I am completely lost for words but feel like i should find some. i am so incredibly sorry for your appalling loss. I have never been pregnant (can't have children sadly) but I imagine the loss is as much about all the plans, dreams and future that's coming and that changes in an instant as well as usual grief and loss. I am also sorry for the other losses - they lay a horrible, sad ground as it is. You are incredibly brave and I think all your children would be proud of you and love you extra for it. x
TheMissymoo100 I am so sorry to read you can’t have children, I can’t imagine how hard that must be. Thank you so much for your lovely comment. I truly do know how lucky I am to of been given these chances even if the ending wasn’t as it should be. Sending you lots of love xxx
BOW...🎀YOUR FOREVER LOVED 🎀
So moving Lauren. Truly heartbreaking. Like you say, no one understands the pain. I lost my son Spencer at 22 weeks this past November & you’re totally right when you say life feels like it has no purpose. This past week I have just gone through a miscarriage at 8 weeks & the pain of Spencer and this baby feels like week one all over again. Seeing your rainbow baby story gives me hope 🌈❤️ Sending you lots of love xxx
Alys Carr I’m So sorry to hear you lost your little Spencer. His name is adorable. Then to lose your little rainbow baby too. It’s just heartbreaking. I honestly am not quite sure how I have survived the heartbreak of the last 3 years. It seemed impossible at times but there really is light. It’s just hard to see it sometimes. I can honestly say I’m truly happy and am loving every minute of Nelly. I cherish every second and although im probably a very different mum to what I would of been had I not experienced so much loss, I actually really like the mummy I am. I have so much patience and time with her. I wish you all the baby dust. Don’t give up, the journey is long and hard but it’s worth every minute when you get to finally bring home that baby xxx
My heart broke watching this, I am so sorry for your loss, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Bow is a beautiful name 💕 .. as you say it's short and cute .. and very unique.
Most names we might like, we always already know, or at least have met, some one called that, and it puts us off. Your daughter is the first girl I've heard of called Bow 💕
I hope it helped that you and Steve got the chance to go back to the hospital and see Bow as most couples don't get that option .
I am so sorry for your awful loss 💔 xxx
Thank you for sharing your story I just went threw this on may 5th I was informed same 34 weeks she had no heart beat n she cane out may 7th it helps hearing other story’s knowing I’m not alone. I’m still hurting in pain I had a c section I couldn’t bare going threw more pain so you are very strong again thank you for telling your story
I’m so sorry for your loss 😞
If you don’t mind me asking what was the reason?
You’re so brave and such a beautiful loving mother 💜
Julie Cole Thank you so much. It’s been a long and tough road xxxx
@@laurenthornton3208 hello my sweetheart my name is Wendy I've listened to your sad sad story I am so sorry re you must treasure the time and the memories you had with your little angel you're always be in your heart I do understand and what you are going through roo-fit I lost a baby but you seem a most beautiful is Mum I've ever seen you should feel proud of yourself you've done well and you've done your baby well too there's no other words I can say say the pain I feel for you and your husband but believe me there are good people out there that do care and I'm one of them god bless you my darling
Thank you for sharing your heart breaking stories I can’t imagine what your going through. I’m so sorry Bow was still born you’ve been through such a lot. I’m sure this video will help a lot of people going through similar sad events like yours in there life to. Again thank you for being brave I’m sure Bow will always be with you.
I am so very sorry for your loss of your beautiful baby girl. Praying you peace and healing.
I’m so so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your story of beautiful Baby Bow xx You sound like a wonderful mother and your daughter was very lucky to have you caring for her in the weeks before you had to say goodbye. I hope you can find peace and hope for the future. Her memory will live on with you forever xx
Thank you so much for such a lovely message. It means more than you know xxxx
I’m soo sorry for your great loss, this broke my heart for you🙏you are soo brave for sharing your story, thank you for helping so many people❣️sending prayers, love and support to you and I will b praying for you daily❤️
Lauren, your story is very touching. Im sorry for your’s and Steven’s precious loss.
Im happy to know you have another daughter, Nellie. God bless you all.
(After listening to this very emotional story, I would have liked to see Bow’s picture.)
Oh hun I understand your pain I went through it with my daughters first baby he was perfect the whole pregnancy and his hear beat stopped shortly after the 38th week and going thru that and she didn’t get a cuddle cot so he began to turn really dark colored really fast but he was perfect although we could tell he had lost weight come to find out the placenta stopped feeding him at one point so he essentially starved to death and if the doctor would have listened just 10 days earlier when the hospital found her uric acid was extremely high and would have delivered him then he may be here with us today and I begged her so I carry a lot of guilt for not making her go to another doctor that day. But I never imagined we could lose him that late in pregnancy and the dr reassured me that as well it’s the worst pain I’ve ever experienced in my life watching my baby girl hurt so bad and I could DO nothing but hurt with her , I couldn’t fix it this time total and utter devastation we will forever have that scar to bare and it never goes away you just learn a new way of life living with the pain. I’m so sorry you have to hurt and be a part of this club that no one ever should be a part of. All my love and 🙏 Hun xoxo stay strong god has a plan and you will be reunited I can promise you that! God bless!!!
How precious that you call your precious lil baby girl Bow!! 💖
Oh my sweetheart you have suffered such a devastating loss. Sending love and strength your way. Your little Bow has send the most perfect little rainbow baby your way for you and her daddy to love and enjoy. Always remember when little Bow grew her wings it was not goodbye but until we meet again. She will be the first one you’ll see at heavens door in time to come......your beautiful little angel Bow❤️❤️
I’m so very sorry for your loss. You have been through so much and do not deserve this pain. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much. It’s been a very tough road but we are finding happiness through the pain xxx
My heart just breaks for you and Steve. I lost a baby too in 2003 and i know the pain was horrible i can't imagine your pain. Bow is such a beautiful name. Hope you're doing ok now i know the grief is overwhelming and some days it's not as heavy but always there. You'll always wonder at least i have always wondered what my baby would look like now and all those things but its gotten easier I've the years. Praying for you your family and baby bow. 💕
I’m so sorry. You are a beautiful, loving, wonderful mother. Sending all my love to you ❤️ Thank you for sharing ❤️
Thank you so much for your comment. I am overjoyed to let you know that Lauren & Steve have a beautiful baby girl... Nelly.... Lauren has posted another video that tells her story. Please take a look.
I’m so, so sorry. There can be no greater loss.
I agree Kate 😔 thank you so much xxx
yes kate i also agree
I’m very sorry for your loss. I’ve been through that as well, at 25 weeks. I didn’t know it happened either. I don’t think anyone really thinks about it until it happens. Unfortunately, people don’t talk about it enough because it’s sad. At 34 weeks I can’t even imagine how painful that must have been for you. At least you had a nice hospital experience, as nice as it can be, I suppose. My loss was due to heart failure, which my horrible OB ignored. So I had to give birth in the cardiac ICU at a regular hospital. I had a terrible nurse who kicked all of my family members out at 7pm. So I was totally alone and I chose not to see or hold her (I was excited to have a girl, too). I didn’t think I could handle it, especially since I was alone. But anyway, I hope that you can recover quickly from your loss and have your family. Even with my heart condition, I was able to have 2 healthy children afterward. *I’m writing this comment at about 30 minutes, so I haven’t seen the end yet.*
Alison Monson I am so so sorry for all you went through. That sounds absolutely horrific and very wrong! I’m so happy to read you went on to have two lovely little ones. It gives everybody hope. I have had another little girl and she’s given me a life and a purpose. I am so grateful every day for her xxx
You are a beautiful soul. You did your best. I wish they had delivered her the first time she was in distress. My heart aches for you. I pray God will give you peace and comfort. God bless and strengthen you both.🙏💗
Im soooo sorry for lose of ur lil baby girl. Sending u strength through ur hardships an pray to make each day a brighter day for ur baby girls that couldn't b here with u all.
Thank you so much Tonya, the days are much brighter thanks to our little Nelly who we got to bring home xx
I am so sorry for your loss ❤️
I'm so sorry to hear your last Our prayers are with you all the time An well-done for doing a story Remains and and so browed All the best from the hedges family
Thank you so much Nicola XXxx
So sorry for your loss❤
My heart is with you! ❤️😢
Thank you so much xx
Lauren Thornton I just saw your new video!! I’m so happy for you! I think I was first to leave a message!! 🤗god bless you! Little Nelly is beautiful!!😃❤️🤗🙏😘👌
So sorry. You are so much stronger than you know. She is in heaven and will be with you for eternity. Love does not die. Did you ever find out what happened to her?
This video was made in 2018 , I see, so it’s not been very long since your sweet daughter passed. My daughter lost her first child, a son , one week after birth to a bad infection in late 2018. After experiencing an ectopic pregnancy, she became pregnant again in October 2019. She’s due to have a daughter in June of this year. It is my hope that you too will go on to try again and to, at last, have a sibling for Bow. Your road has been hard and you have been strong - Prayers that the future will bless you with another child to share your life and love with.
Noreen Farrell I’m so sorry you lost your beautiful grandson. There really is no heartbreak like it. I’m so pleased to hear she’s pregnant again and I hope so much she brings her bubby home where they belong and you all get to have some happiness with her first little Boys sibling xxxx
I am so sorry, my prayers are with you.
Thank you so much for your comment. I am overjoyed to let you know that Lauren & Steve have a beautiful baby girl... Nelly.... Lauren has posted another video that tells her story. Please take a look.
Hi Lauren, I’ve just watched your video about the very sad loss of your little baby Bow.
I was very moved indeed. My Daughter went into labour a few weeks ago on her baby’s due
date, he was full term, but unfortunately when they went to check his heart beat sadly she was told
he had passed away.
Its absolutely crushing so I understand your pain. I just want to know how you’re doing now?
I’ve never sent any messages before, so am I correct in thinking this happened last year?
I really would like to know that you are ok or feeling a little better, I really do hope so x
Dawn Sainsbury I am so sorry Dawn. It’s a pain that cannot truly be described. How is your daughter? What is your grandsons name?
We lost Bow in 2018 and have gone on to have her little sister in October 2019, 2 days after her first birthday. We feel so beyond lucky and have been enjoying every minute! Xx
You are amazing 😍
christy cruz Bless you. Thank you so much. I’m really not but it does feel right to have my little madams story out there xx
Omg im so sorry for yr lost🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Praying u have a baby. I'm so sorry for u both
Thank you so much for your comment. I am overjoyed to let you know that Lauren & Steve have a beautiful baby girl... Nelly.... Lauren has posted another video that tells her story. Please take a look.
Baby-Bow Angel is watching over you both. Please let us know how you are now. You are amazing, beautiful parents.
Georgia Scott Thank you so much. She truly is. We are feeling so lucky right now as we have been lucky enough to have another little girly! Update video is up. I hope you are happy and well your end too xx
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Thank you XX
You don’t need to say sorry when you cry. Of course your crying. So sorry.
Thank you April ❤️ XX
I am genuinely heartbroken for you. How are u doing now a year on? Your little angel will always be looking out for u. X
Thank you so much Laura. A year on things are very different. We’ve celebrated Bows 1st birthday and 2 days later we welcomed our little Nelly Wren in to the world! We’ve just been soaking her in since! XX
Literally the best thing I’ve heard all day! Enjoy it mama xx
@@laurenthornton3208 i really wish i could have your same luck that i can get pregnant again..and delivering a live baby this time..
Im so sorry about your loss dear..i just lost my miracle son at 29 weeks pregnant 3 weeks ago..i grieving badly ..its undescribable the pain you feel in your heart..
It makes me so mad how many times you went in to the hospital and all those times you could of had your baby girl and gave her a fighting chsnce. But honestly the best place for your baby is in you but the doctors should of known your past history with miscarriage and done the right thing even if it meant she stay in the nicu for a bit.
To what this young lady is explaining .I think the doctors midwife did all they could
And maybe they should of delivered the baby
buggsy, I agree. I do get angry too. We didn’t know the seriousness of the situation at any stage. I struggle with this a lot 😢 xxx
Miscarriage does not increase your risk of stillbirth. If every mom who suffered a miscarriage before was induced at every trip to the hospital there would be ALOT of unnecessarily premature babies.
@@trenicejohnson15 but in this case if they had delivered her when the distress was first found, that little girl could have been perfectly fine
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Thank you Engeljte ❤️❤️
How r u doing today? Please let us know! ❤️😃👌🙏
Thank you so much for your comment. I am overjoyed to let you know that Lauren & Steve have a beautiful baby girl... Nelly.... Lauren has posted another video that tells her story. Please take a look.
malcyd1000 ohhhhh🤗how beautiful!! Can’t wait to hop over and see the video!! 😃
Ai nie nice
I'm not sure if I understood wrong, please correct me if I did. You said you visited your baby for 2 weeks until the funeral? How does the hospital even allow that, I think that's way too long. Not only because of the babies body but also it prolongs the grieve to another type of level. I know that grieving is inevitable, but visiting your dead baby(sorry I know that sounds so bad) and caring for her for 2 weeks just seems like too much. And I'm really surprised the hospital allows it. In the U.S. that would never happen.
Angelique Yaz I completely understand and before I was in this situation I would have thought the same thing. But after living this those 2 weeks are the only memories I have and I can look back and smile thinking of the stories we read to her and the love we showed her. Babies stay exactly like they’re just asleep so it’s not like when an adult passes away. It’s like they’re meant to be cuddled my midwife said. The visits were only 30 mins or so but I absolutely lived for them as felt so lost so it gave me something to focus on. I still can’t believe this happened to me and my Bow but I wouldn’t have anything without those memories that I can now look back on and smile.